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  • @Jane-lx1nr
    @Jane-lx1nr Жыл бұрын

    I believe this character was my ex. What a journey. I'm still a hermit after 2 1/2 years no contact. There is an element of real evil in dealing with them that changes the essence of you. Your innocence. These entities walking amongst us is quite profound and some people don't have a clue as I was beforehand.

  • @annettedevries7559

    @annettedevries7559

    Жыл бұрын

    Exacly

  • @jesussaves3248

    @jesussaves3248

    Жыл бұрын

    My sperm donor is one of those, i didnt have a chance in life, on top of that they cut off the most sensitive part of my genitalia, how wicked can you be?!

  • @annettedevries7559

    @annettedevries7559

    Жыл бұрын

    @@jesussaves3248 WoW. So cruel.. So Sorry for you..

  • @richardcheese4722

    @richardcheese4722

    Жыл бұрын

    Get out and enjoy. You doing the hermit thing is a win for them. I get it. Forced myself to get out. Just establish healthy boundaries before doing so.

  • @Miester7

    @Miester7

    Жыл бұрын

    I've been a hermit for 2 months. I dont want to be still in 2 years. Their effect on us is so detrimental. I cant stop my mind thinking about her. So toxic

  • @diamondlight2509
    @diamondlight2509 Жыл бұрын

    They are very good actors. Treat the people around them well, and are loved by those who know them. But with their partners they treat them like slaves. And you can’t tell anyone about them because no one will believe you and think you’re crazy. They are real devils.

  • @vanessahiner1736

    @vanessahiner1736

    Жыл бұрын

    @Diamond Light yes...totally

  • @drewkwabs
    @drewkwabs Жыл бұрын

    My ex told me she was capable of anything. These are very dangerous people who exist. You'll definitely need help to heal and recover after the relationship. Stay safe

  • @RichD2024
    @RichD2024 Жыл бұрын

    I dated a covert narcissist for almost a year and a half. I didn't know it at the time. When she discarded me for the last time, I was bewildered. The day before she discarded me she told me she adored me. We didn't fight, or argue, nothing happened and the next day, with all the coldness of a serial killer, she told me she doesn't want to be with me anymore. Couldn't give me reasons, just said she didn't want to. So I started researching, first for different personality disorders, and there were a few that shared certain characteristics with her, but it wasn't until I found out about the covert narcissist that everything aligned perfectly. Now my question is, does this mental condition usually come with other mental conditions. I ask because my ex suffered from frequent anxiety and panic attacks. She also had all kinds of phobias, of elevators, frogs, and I mean bad. She once saw a frog and jumped on me like a little child and urinated on me from the fear. It was bad. All these attacks were very bad, and I was there for her, holding her hand, taking care of her, being patient and kind with her. Which is why the discard was so painful, the coldness of it. So anyhow, do you know if these other psychological conditions are common with covert narcissists?

  • @ericmcdonald7313
    @ericmcdonald7313 Жыл бұрын

    lost 10 years to this kind of woman. Damaging to no end...

  • @loriderewitz7213
    @loriderewitz7213 Жыл бұрын

    If he wanted me to stay, why did he treat me so horribly and make me believe I was worthless? I really can’t believe he wanted me to stay, I think he wanted me to leave. So I did 💪

  • @daveh9803

    @daveh9803

    Жыл бұрын

    He probably wanted you to stay, but not for the reasons you’d naturally believe. Staying wouldn’t have been about you, or your relationship with him. It was most likely just about what you could do FOR him. Like a shiny new toy, he played with you. Eventually you became a little broken, so you were devalued, to the bottom of the toy box. Congratulations for leaving before he discarded you! Just be aware that at some point, most likely he will try to hoover back. Don’t let it happen and stay in NO contact. You’ve got a much better life ahead!!

  • @paulasinger1842
    @paulasinger1842 Жыл бұрын

    You know the disgusting part of it is when they use the most high to get your trust in them, these people are in double trouble...

  • @richardcheese4722

    @richardcheese4722

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes. How do you think their karma will play out in the long term. It's disgusting and that will go badly for them.

  • @Dj.D25

    @Dj.D25

    Жыл бұрын

    I am a Christian and I know a few other Christians who I suspect are covert narcissists based on how they treat me and others. I could be wrong, but one thing I consider somewhat of a red flag is when a Christian posts on social media pretty much only positive Bible verses, how amazing and loving God is and post almost nothing else about their lives or any other interesting things. Sometimes you'll see them do pretty questionable things in their life if they expose themselves or you catch them saying or doing some things that a normal Christian wouldn't do. Such as getting involved in sexual sins, being close friends with or dating people that are clearly a bad influence, getting rid of good friends or boyfriends/girlfriends for ridiculous reasons, Some do say the Christians who make themselves look "holier than thou" or godly online or in person often usually are the biggest hypocrites.

  • @Gyle.3559

    @Gyle.3559

    Жыл бұрын

    That's all they do

  • @AsukaZetto

    @AsukaZetto

    Жыл бұрын

    @@richardcheese4722 what Karma? onnce they reach 60+ years? and nbdy wants them?

  • @davidhodgson5252
    @davidhodgson5252 Жыл бұрын

    I didn't believe these people exist !

  • @robertgaida923

    @robertgaida923

    Жыл бұрын

    their here

  • @vanessahiner1736

    @vanessahiner1736

    Жыл бұрын

    @David Hodgson they do! This describes my recent ex boyfriend exactly.

  • @debramendelson9344
    @debramendelson9344 Жыл бұрын

    It puts oneself in such a tailspin & downward Spiral coming out of a relationship with a Covert....slot of ruminating and trying to understand or make sense of.

  • @prant8998
    @prant899811 ай бұрын

    "Empathy deficit disorder," aka, narcissism. My honey bunny was an identical twin, and her mother favored her twin. Clearly, a childhood injury she is now compensating for by being over controlling, sadistic, and having adult tantrums. I gave up, finally. Being alone is depressing sometimes, but being abused by a covert narcissist is soul deadening.

  • @lindavangalder3466
    @lindavangalder3466 Жыл бұрын

    This is spot on. When I first met my husband who is now realize is a covert narcissist I met him on a blind date and he came up to my car and instantly acted like he already knew me and talked very familiarly to me and told me about all the things he wanted to do with me and places he wanted to take me. He put his hand on my arm and acted too sweet and told me all manner of things to present himself in the best light and he made me feel like a queen. He said you look so innocent and I was in the forties. I fell for it and my brother and sister met him and they fell for his charm. Now I am going through a bitter divorce and I have never realized how awful and sadistic he is and just plain ice cold

  • @reporter42657
    @reporter42657 Жыл бұрын

    The Narcissist appears to be looking all over to get their needs met, for example validation. However, this seems to be short lived as they continue moving from person to person. It seems that no one person can help them - it’s far too much for anyone. Thank you kindly for informative content. Would you consider more in-depth content on the Narcissist needs. I think many people are left wondering what the Narcissist really wants especially after they have given so much to the relationship. I really think it would help provide even more clarity for those who are still confused in the aftermath.

  • @foxiefair123

    @foxiefair123

    Жыл бұрын

    They have you at home and get their validation online.

  • @dclarke1896

    @dclarke1896

    Жыл бұрын

    Whatever you feel drained of is the narcissist supply.

  • @foxiefair123

    @foxiefair123

    Жыл бұрын

    If by going from person to person you mean having random person to person hook ups to satisfy their own needs but not being willing to give anything in return, then that’s pretty accurate.

  • @worddrivenwomenforjesus
    @worddrivenwomenforjesus Жыл бұрын

    My ex was so loving and caring in the beginning, to the point that it was almost to good to be true. Turned out it was. He nagged and nagged that I must move in with him and once I did, that was when things started to change. But in a strange way, I couldn't pin point at any specific problem or issue, things just wasn't the same anymore and not in a good way. I thought it might be me getting used to not living at my house anymore, that I maybe was still in the process of adjusting to the change. Then we went on vacation, and there I really started to notice it: he never said sorry for anything, even if he would bump into me by accident - people usually apologize for something like this, right? - but he would laugh and act as if it was nothing. He would in "a nice way" tell me I could look better than I do at the moment, but really all it did was made me feel like crap. Try to slowly change me, as if he had a version of me in his head that I just had to become. A few days before the vacation ended, he met a woman there, apparently fell madly in love with her, told me I was not the person he thought I was and that I actually bored him. Also that I must remember we "were never really a sure thing, it was only a test to see if we were compatible". Somehow he made it my fault that he met someone "better" than me and more "suitable" for him. He even slept with her in the beach house those last few nights, not caring that I was there. Oh well, I guess it actually is good riddance...

  • @redsquirrel1086
    @redsquirrel1086 Жыл бұрын

    I didn't even know what a narcissist was until I was well in to middle age. I realise now that I have encountered a number of narcissists in my life. My father was one. I had thought he was just a bully. Spotting one of these people is difficult, especially if you are an empathic, open book sort of person who gives the benefit of the doubt. That said, once you realise that you are dealing with one then distance yourself. They are dangerous, insidious creatures who care only about themselves.

  • @ChannelleHinds

    @ChannelleHinds

    Жыл бұрын

    Perfectly said! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @denisj6089
    @denisj6089 Жыл бұрын

    THIS was exactly my ex, ALWAYS provided the most, minimum amount of information. When she discarded me, I was so absolutely confused as to who I was really dealing with. There was so much going on that I had no idea about until after the relationship was over. When I held her accountable for what she had done, she made up a story that after she left me, she attempted suicide and went to a psych ward. It was all lies, all made up to make herself look like the victim and try to manipulate me. After, I talked to one of her friends, she told me she flew to see her new supply during that "psych ward" time.

  • @freeyourselfoftoxicity
    @freeyourselfoftoxicity Жыл бұрын

    Their not the only dangerous types of people in this world. Manipulate, break the wrong hearts and minds and they could be victims of their own demise.

  • @annettedevries7559
    @annettedevries7559 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutly. I had no idea, that there are People like them. I didn,t even no. What a narcissist was/is. I Really didn,t no. We all lie sometimes. Little lies. But People hoe can Cheat and lie so much en look you straight in the eyes. And tell you that you are the only one. And never wil Cheat one you. And never had cheated. That it never happened etcetera... they promise you the world. When they walk out the door. They are already forgotten about everything. I stil can,t understand how they can do. The things they do. And say. I know it. But stil don,t understand it..🤔

  • @angelahart1479
    @angelahart1479 Жыл бұрын

    Yes so true. On the outside she came across so happy and helpful. Especially with neighbours casual work people but screwed me over in private.

  • @tracyfox466
    @tracyfox466 Жыл бұрын

    In my experience after being married to a Covert Narcissist for 27 yrs I feel the reason I was drawn to him was because he took on my identity which made everything comfortable and familiar. After the truth came to light as to who I was really dealing with I was able to understand that it wasn’t just him but that I had family members with the same disorder. I think this is a huge reason as to why a person doesn’t see the initial red flags. When you are groomed and raised by someone who has a personality disorder than you are more likely to realize that you have attracted many of these people into your life without even knowing it because it does seem so familiar to you. People with NPD can be predatory as they study their victims like lab rats. They are particularly drawn to people that are younger, idealistic, naive, or people that have innocence of heart so that they are able to con them with ease. People with this disorder do not necessarily experience trauma as children as it can be learned behavior as well as genetics. After extensive research over many years trying to understand these disorders it was a huge epiphany. I have been able to see so many of my close relationships in a different light as well as understand how I have contributed to these destructive patterns through people pleasing, enabling, and codependency. I have been able to forgive and make peace with these people in my life because I feel it was my life’s purpose to learn these lessons and break generational curses not only within my own family but to try and help others see these toxic patterns so they are able to break them in their own families. For anyone who thinks they may be dealing with these types of relationships my best advice is prayer and to look to God for your answers. After living with so much confusion for many years I prayed for God to help me and give me clarity. One day my husband came in and said something to me that should have been a good thing but at that moment I heard God say “Wake Up, something is wrong! He’s deceiving you!” and that’s when I confronted him and all hell broke lose. He denied anything was going on, but I knew the truth after that and once he knew I knew the truth he was off to love bomb his next victim. If this had not happened than I would still be living an illusion and in utter confusion. These people pull you away from your spirituality but don’t let that happen because God loves you and is always with you. When in doubt ask God for his help and I promise you won’t be disappointed.😉👍🏻🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

  • @LLFAMILY23

    @LLFAMILY23

    Жыл бұрын

    That’s my story and God is helping me.

  • @andrejensen7837
    @andrejensen7837 Жыл бұрын

    She is telling the truth. Alot of females that claim narcissistic abuse are the covert narcissist. The difference is heer she is 100% spot on, and dont with hold anything.

  • @heathersmith8112
    @heathersmith8112 Жыл бұрын

    Couldn’t have said it better myself. I feel stupid but honestly just didn’t know that these people existed. It makes me wonder if the last year of my life was even real, it was for me but not for him I guess. How sad and empty a life, glad to be out all the wiser and stronger. Definitely will see red flags 🚩 in the future. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @meggo1325
    @meggo1325 Жыл бұрын

    He told me he loved me after a week of talking, we hadn't met in person, he was 53 and I was 29, he proposed after 5 weeks and was moving in by then, he went from claiming I was his soulmate and he loved me more than anything imaginable to cheating, extreme porn, paying for only fans, so controlling, threw all my things away, changed my whole house, lying to my face, gaslighting me, had me sobbing and begging for forgiveness for not trusting him and let me cry myself to sleep while telling me I was so delusional while he KNEW he was lying and I was right... absolutely destroyed me... I scream cry hysterically because I can't get over this pain and betrayal... I found his cheating the day before my 30th birthday... absolutely broke me 😢

  • @hoosfoosfull
    @hoosfoosfull Жыл бұрын

    Things would be a lot easier if they show who they truly are up front. But also, I like to believe that people are good. Demons exist. Hard lesson to learn.

  • @LLFAMILY23
    @LLFAMILY23 Жыл бұрын

    One time he said that I didn’t knows he was capable of and it’s why I would not allow guns in the house. Thank God above I am being free. My salvation was at play.

  • @HellasGD88
    @HellasGD88 Жыл бұрын

    The sorry ass I was married to for 25yrs was a covert as was his 'mother' they tortured me for all those yrs I knew there was something seriously wrong with the pair of them but couldn't put a name to it I just thought they were deranged, it was freaky they were like a married couple, his father ran off when he was a child so his 'mother' moulded him, he was always out and about being the 'nice guy' getting supply and pats on the back from anyone and everyone, didn't give a hoot about the home or our kids, never seen anything like it, very financially abusive always stirring the pot to get a reaction, he ran off 9 yrs ago and remarried, I was spared.

  • @cameogutierrez3466
    @cameogutierrez3466 Жыл бұрын

    This is exactly how it happened. Thank you.

  • @Wishpool
    @Wishpool Жыл бұрын

    "And they're really good at it." -- spot on, Anoushka!

  • @debbiegalica2992
    @debbiegalica2992 Жыл бұрын

    Good video. I'm working on walking and running away from the covert narricist.

  • @dcikaruga
    @dcikaruga2 ай бұрын

    This is also the reason why some of them move up in the workplace and take management positions, and yet are actually still unremarkable. Rarely seen one is a really skilled profession myself though, like a surgeon or programmer, they usually just move up in simple professions like a supermarket or basic office environment.

  • @romanchen3632
    @romanchen3632 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Anoush for aways pointing out all the FACTS about the narcissist especially in this video regarding the covert narcissist. I’ve been watching all your videos since last year of Dec 2022 when my ex wife left me and asked for a divorce. Your words of wisdom has helped me to get through depression and anxiety attacks. My ex wife and I were only married for 11 months of last year. You are so pinpoint accurate on your description of the covert narcissist. Everything that you mentioned in your video is so true in describing my ex wife. In the beginning she was saying and showing me everything that I wanted in a long serious relationship. It was definitely love bombing initially in our intimate life. Once we got married her personality and attitude changed. She wanted more space for her social life, demanded to sleep in separate rooms, no longer wanted to be intimate, no longer wanted to have children because it would disturb her social life, ghosting me through out day, putting more emphasis on her appearance since I was paying for all her makeup, staying late at night with her female friends, very self centered, always flirting with her revealing clothes knowing that it would get guys to look at her, gaslighting me as being jealous when I question her decision on the revealing clothes that she wears so she can get more attention. I was so naïve to think as time passed that things would get better. I was the empath that I thought I could help her to change her ways because I wanted to give her a better life. My marriage was a all a lie. She was never committed in our marriage nor was she attached in our relationship. She always very quiet in her communication because she doesn’t like confrontation so she would rather brush everything aside because she feels talking about the issue is too stressful and rather keep quiet. So she was already devaluing me and our marriage and was looking for next supply which I was not aware of. Next came the discard of my marriage. Last year of November she had already made up her mind and asked for a divorce. She did not want to make any effort to resolve our marriage and told me divorce is not a big deal since it happens all the time in her country of Colombia. Of course I was shocked when she was acting very cold in her request. She never cared how I felt about our divorce since she had felt she has already used up all my resources and she had her next supply waiting for her in Colombia so she decided to forfeit her residency here in Miami and move back to Colombia. Leaving me wondering what had happened. Thank you and god blessed you Anoush for pointing me in right direction . Without you I would still be stuck in my black hole of deep depression 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @andyshortland
    @andyshortland Жыл бұрын

    for me the best video Anoushka has done so far, now I’ve busted the deceitful little oik I don’t hear from him, even when I’ve reached out in the past in an effort to try & build bridges I now get shut down, he just hangs the phone up, doesn’t answer the door, why?, because he’s been busted, he’s ashamed, he’s embarrassed, he never thought for one minute he’d be found out, he was stupid & now won’t admit being accountable for the lies, the BS, the love bombing, the carrot dangling, the half truths.. rant over ✌🏻🕊

  • @James-bc2oh
    @James-bc2oh Жыл бұрын

    My covert narc ex was very dangerous she would do things that if you spoke to anyone about what she was doing they wouldn't believe you,she would do things like lovebomb her own daughters man,she would phone the social work on her daughter and her husband and make out they've been abusing their children, when it was her who was abusing her own daughter and she would say to the social work if it could be kept in confidence,it's the wicked nasty things that they do she even phoned the social work on her own sister and said she had been abusing her daughter same sinareo spoken in confidence,and was making out she was a concerned grandmother and a concerned sister,very sick woman if you could call her a woman ,she was one of those people where you would think butter wouldn't melt,all this stuff she would do and then see all the chaos she caused and they don't even no it was her own mother who caused it all,and sister who caused it all, anoushka your right their is no limits to the damage covert narcissists can do, anything that's very sick and vile they would do to hurt you,but you're a top lady anoushka 🌹 with a good heart

  • @vanessahiner1736
    @vanessahiner1736 Жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad I found you. This is really helping me.

  • @darren8272
    @darren827221 күн бұрын

    this is what my ex is but everyone thinks she is lovely only you know its all done behind doors and the worst part people think its all you and no one believe's you so you have to keep it to yourself

  • @monicabeadle359
    @monicabeadle359 Жыл бұрын

    You are so true Good information 👍

  • @gowerpreston3513
    @gowerpreston3513 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your wisdom on this subject. I find it really helpful. I've come to understand that there are many similarities between the behaviours of a narcissist and an alcoholic. I wonder if you have any experience or understanding of this? I'm unsure as to whether my ex is just a high functioning alcoholic or a narcissist or both. And is there any benefit in attempting to make a distinction?

  • @detjaggillar8081

    @detjaggillar8081

    Жыл бұрын

    @gowerpreston3513 - I was with a covert narc for 12 years. He was a covert narc, an alcoholic, sex- and relationship addicted and of course he was a compulsive liar too. He was also cheat on me multiple times all those years.

  • @silverarrow2558
    @silverarrow2558 Жыл бұрын

    So true... you have helped me understand

  • @WakeyWakey1111
    @WakeyWakey1111 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Anoushka. 🙏 My covert husband once told me that he would do anything, including hurt himself, to keep me from getting anything I wanted. I didn't know about narcissism back then, and I didn't understand why he would say that. Fast forward many years later, I DO UNDERSTAND. I am one week away from escaping from this evil, twisted person. He is now 71 yrs old, and his behaviour towards me has become so much more hurtful and abusive. Please send me Good Wishes and some Love, as I make this move that I know is going to save my life. Thank you All. Thank you, Anoushka. I am looking forward to living my best life. I am almost free. 🤗

  • @briand3420
    @briand3420 Жыл бұрын

    My mom is this way. She would move things I put in certain places and try to make me crazy. They are always the victim. Very evil and malicious.

  • @angiehayes7397

    @angiehayes7397

    Жыл бұрын

    My narc husband does this too!! He's stolen my stuff, not just put it somewhere else. He's done some really weird stuff to try to me look & feel "crazy" but HE'S the crazy one!! Fkn nuts really!!

  • @melisentiapheiffer3034
    @melisentiapheiffer3034 Жыл бұрын

    Wow. You nailed it 👏

  • @Tatjana.B
    @Tatjana.B Жыл бұрын

    My ex was just like that. He got a son with another and when I found out and asked he lied about that. He took all my money and credit cards. And promised to do reparations of my house in order to have bussines together there. And took money and then started to lie about relative claiming that he was killed. I checked that and it wasn't true. He also wrote that he got cancer metastases and gonna die. Lies, only lies but really disguisting.

  • @suzieshiaman7291
    @suzieshiaman7291 Жыл бұрын

    Are fearful avoidants also a type of narc?

  • @daveh9803

    @daveh9803

    Жыл бұрын

    To answer your question adequately, I think I need to build a little framework first. There are basically 3 types of attachment style. These are (1) securely attached, (2) anxious or fearful attached, and (3) avoidant attached. Some people do exhibit a slight overlap of styles, but I think that isn’t common. Attachment styles are developed in most people before just 6 months of age, and almost fully refined by 6 years. Heavily influenced by the emotional trauma that the child experiences, it reflects how safe the child feels that its needs will be met, by their primary caregivers, and by the mother, in particular. Will they be fed when they are hungry? Will parents in conflict still care about them, when the conflict is over? Are they safe from physical harm? What one child finds emotionally traumatic may not affect another child. While these traumatic events mold a person's attachment style, it is important to note that emotional traumas later in life can also affect attachment style. Securely attached persons generally don’t have narcissistic tendencies. They are empathetic to themselves and others, so their relationships tend to be more stable. They’re comfortable in who they are, alone, or with others, and thus don’t need to hide behind a mask. Most of the population falls into this category. Anxiously attached people have difficulty in relationships, but they can feel empathy for others. It is this empathy that often turns them into people pleasers. They don’t want other people to feel the internal insecurity that they feel, but lack the self-confidence of securely attached people. Typically their biggest concern is a fear of abandonment. This fear sometimes causes them to hold onto relationships so tightly, that it becomes smothering. Almost all narcissistic people have avoidant attachment styles. Of course, there are also people with avoidant attachment styles, who are not narcissistic. Avoidant attached people often have been abused or abandoned (or both), very early in their lives. They usually have had feelings that no one would care for their needs. As a result, they retreat emotionally inward, feeling that there is no such thing as safety. Avoidants often feel SO hurt from past traumas that they put up impenetrable walls for self-protection. They’ll rarely lower these walls, even slightly, because to them, showing vulnerability is weakness. They’ve been conditioned that showing weakness deserves some kind of punishment. How dare their need to have their diaper changed should interrupt a TV show, a phone call, or a nap? They don’t believe that anyone could really love them, or trust who they really are, because the people they instinctively know should care, do not seem to. Conditioned to feel internally so disposable and despised, many avoidant attached people don’t find the room, or the need, to really care about anyone else. For them, the world becomes a place centered around self-preservation and self-importance. People that don’t care about anyone else don’t have true empathy. Narcissistic avoidants, knowing that it is a trait they are supposed to have, can have it cognitively, meaning that they can fake it. This divergence to a lack of empathetic feelings is often a key factor (but not only) that distinguishes a narcissist from a non-narcissist. They create and hide behind a mask that is completely fabricated. This mask will present them to the world as the most empathetic, kind, generous and loving people, while deep inside, they have none of that. This is why there is often a disconnect between what they say and how they act. Concurrently, if they’re not aware of how why create this mask, the internal conflict frequently leads them to alcohol and drug abuse, in an attempt to escape the ugly reality. Remember though, that narcissism exists on a continuum - most people have exhibited some of these traits, at some point. The diagnosis of narcissism is made by looking at the number of narcissistic traits exhibited, along with the frequency of traits that are most prevalent. I hope this helps.

  • @mr.mojorisen2076
    @mr.mojorisen2076 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you !!!

  • @rupatiwari5923
    @rupatiwari5923 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely 💯 true

  • @iopakayalo3459
    @iopakayalo3459 Жыл бұрын

    This is TRUE. I never knew the guy. He was a complete stranger to me. Someone I never had history with. Someone totally new. He was happy to play me as a toy because I didn't have history with him to give him to question what didn't make sense. So I was warned about his affairs etc by another woman he was also lovebombing or lust-bombing but she was under educated, and his housemaid so ofcourse he told me all the lies to counteract her truths of who he really is...... I see it better now after 15 years but gosh, what a waste of precious time!? I got the lessons though! Thank you, Universe. ✨🙏

  • @danielskyles6184
    @danielskyles6184 Жыл бұрын

    I agree with you Anoushka 💯

  • @TheMsmith77
    @TheMsmith77 Жыл бұрын

    I had one reach out to me in my psychology class this semester. I mean he tried to come in slick and sly. Our phone relationship lasted barely three weeks before I told him not to call me anymore. See they mirror you. And that's the first clue. He tried to hijack my personality. But I'm no longer a spring chicken. I am a well-seasoned hen. He was start petty arguments very emotional and delusional. He tried to use words that he just learned in our psychology class and I would correct him. But to make a long story short we got into our last argument and I'm just like hey you know what don't call me anymore. I am not going to walk on eggshells when I speak the truth about things. And if you call yourself wanting to be in psychology you're going to realize a lot of things about yourself that doesn't make you feel good. Sometimes you will learn things about yourself that you can't believe. This even goes for the communities that we grew up and it's just real truth and it doesn't sound very good. He couldn't handle the things in the black community that I was bringing as far as mental health narcissism and things like that along with abuse. So they will try to come in and they'll mirror you and you'll like you because they're trying to be you, but if you're aware of these types of flags you're catching every time. The time that you spend on them will be less and less because you'll be more aware. You'll be able to catch them up before you get vested in them.

  • @flyingsaucer1268
    @flyingsaucer1268 Жыл бұрын

    word of the day -> LURE

  • @davecobb6348
    @davecobb6348 Жыл бұрын

    They Want to be on top👍👍👍👍👍

  • @rebekahjette6304
    @rebekahjette6304 Жыл бұрын

    💯 Truth ‼️

  • @jeremyhowe808
    @jeremyhowe808 Жыл бұрын

    I'm in the midst of a marriage with a covert narsisstic wife. It's so hard. She is just so cruel and hurtful for absolutely no reason. And any given is such BS I believed for so long, I'm screwed.

  • @melisentiapheiffer3034

    @melisentiapheiffer3034

    Жыл бұрын

    Divorce. It's the only answer. She will destroy your soul if you let it continue!

  • @cynthiarunge4858
    @cynthiarunge4858 Жыл бұрын

    Because you don't pick up on their evil

  • @darwinleacock3868
    @darwinleacock3868 Жыл бұрын

    Very helpful to know all these different traits of narcissism! Thanks again!!

  • @Invisibility397
    @Invisibility397 Жыл бұрын

    Frontal lobe collapse at 2yo wasn't my fault. Genetic Primary Psychopathic Hypersensitive INFJ-T Indigo Borderline. I choose Virtues over Vise and rarely ever Sin. All Glory to Father Lord thy God. I'm a big fish and the rest are little fish. NOM NOM NOM .

  • @GLeon-ov9yu
    @GLeon-ov9yu Жыл бұрын

    All true

  • @thrivingnow7395
    @thrivingnow7395 Жыл бұрын

    I think they have all types of narcissism. They have a strong type of narcissism but at times, they can switch to other types...chameleons.

  • @johnmoirano5221
    @johnmoirano5221 Жыл бұрын

    It's a God's miracle 🙏 that I'm still alive after all she has done to me

  • @vanessahiner1736

    @vanessahiner1736

    Жыл бұрын

    @John Moirano same for me after what my recent ex boyfriend put me through. He should be in jail right now for beating on me and strangling me, but he only spent 4 days in jail and they let him out. I am hysterical. Thankful to be alive still though.

  • @darylgreen3881
    @darylgreen3881 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Anoushka.. I got the T Shirt.. BUT IT IS a ROTTEN T Shirt..🤕🧐💯👌🤠.. Thank You!

  • @alecstuart5266
    @alecstuart52665 ай бұрын

    This only amounts to keep allowing the vampires keep sucking blood & life out of their victims one after the other.

  • @simonriss403
    @simonriss403 Жыл бұрын

    You’re great 💫 clearly words …

  • @LLFAMILY23
    @LLFAMILY23 Жыл бұрын

    I wanted to run a mile early in the marriage but they took advantage of my faith. I feel for his next person. She is going to ruin the prime of her life for this person.

  • @LucyFre
    @LucyFre11 ай бұрын

    You talking about my ex wife . I know that type : Marry Popins from outside Lucy Letby inside. If something is not her way she not recognise you on street after years marriage, or when you got ill and you'll be heavy for her she dont pass you glass of water but suffocate with pillow 😂.Thats the character

  • @roxannej.barker8017
    @roxannej.barker8017 Жыл бұрын

    So good, makes so much sense. Thank you.

  • @lindav9046
    @lindav9046 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this. Do you have a video on when the narcissist one if your family members?

  • @devarodgers4676
    @devarodgers4676 Жыл бұрын

    spot on

  • @davecobb6348
    @davecobb6348 Жыл бұрын

    I did not see it because i came in good tidings😁😁😁😁

  • @shanehester5317
    @shanehester5317 Жыл бұрын

    i highly dout if a person dating someone with bad behavoirs want ever show them till way later to that person while dating.normally it want be very long before they will start showing signs of bad qualities.i hate to be a downer here but someone needs to address the issue of most people know what they are getting into with another person at least if they take some time to get to know them before having a serious relationship.

  • @alecstuart5266
    @alecstuart52665 ай бұрын

    Few coward psychopaths sociopaths narcos become dangerous because the rest of folk are impotent spectators.

  • @stephanieglass7228
    @stephanieglass7228 Жыл бұрын

    Will a covert narcissist still chest on their partner when they have their relationship shown happily on social media even the profile pic being the couple being happy?

  • @stevescott3735

    @stevescott3735

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely

  • @Ron239
    @Ron239 Жыл бұрын

    Yes, evil is the word.

  • @brunopannemans5729
    @brunopannemans5729 Жыл бұрын

    Poco loco 🤡🎈✔️😂😂😂

  • @Johnnyhardcore4ever
    @Johnnyhardcore4ever Жыл бұрын

    Do they know they are covert or do they believe they are just miss understood

  • @kronicrasta
    @kronicrasta Жыл бұрын

    but i saw the whole thing and i told what she is doing . For example she using people for her benifits

  • @stevo5000
    @stevo50003 ай бұрын

    I seriously wish youtube would ban content producers who pull those fucking annoying KZread clickbait faces as their screenshot. Also people with zero qualifications to talk about mental health.

  • @flowersofthefield340
    @flowersofthefield340 Жыл бұрын

    Very ...... 🕸🕷

  • @flowersofthefield340

    @flowersofthefield340

    Жыл бұрын

    They cannot be helped ..... !!!

  • @janettegargac5086
    @janettegargac5086 Жыл бұрын

    Y

  • @giubilanc6469
    @giubilanc6469 Жыл бұрын

    🌹

  • @alecstuart5266
    @alecstuart52665 ай бұрын

    Only cowards are covert.

  • @johnmoirano5221
    @johnmoirano5221 Жыл бұрын

    It all makes complete and total sense 💡 ✨️ 👌

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