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@EgoEvolution

9 ай бұрын

Does this still work or apply if they quickly rebounded to a new relationship?

@user-vk7zw4vw2o

5 ай бұрын

Well only time we talk wen the baby need something but he did text me wish me a happy birthday

@devinobrian8954

Ай бұрын

Hey! How does this apply when you have a child with them?

@annerivas1155

Ай бұрын

Congratulations! Wonderful video! How would the content of this video applies when the ex reaches out after a year, two years? My ex reached out after 2 years, he asked to see me 5 months after that....the chemistry was stronger than before, we kissed, he apologized, he asked for forgiveness.....then what? It is important to me to learn how to apply the content of this video when a year or two had passed.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@josiefrench7672

7 ай бұрын

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get her back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

@StevenCem

7 ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@josiefrench7672

7 ай бұрын

Her name is Cha mani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@StevenCem

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@allweathervideos7450

7 ай бұрын

Chairman, you're not alone am dying here 😭😭😭😭 I need her back

The way you talk calms me down, stay focus brothers, it's been 10 weeks, I don't think much of her anymore, of course I won't like to see her with another man, we had 8 years together and a 7 years old fantastic boy, but now i train like an animal and lost 50 pounds of weight, i eat clean and i sleep better. The time will show best, don't force anyone to be with you!

@AlexMartinez-qx7vo

11 ай бұрын

Glad to hear you are doing well, physically and mentally. Keep up the great work. I’m on week 4 of no contact. We’ll get there 💪

@nino_94

11 ай бұрын

Great spirit man, 10 weeks is solid! Thank you for posting the message and sharing this difficult situation. Keep it great like you are, let us stay strong!

@nino_94

11 ай бұрын

@@AlexMartinez-qx7vo We'll get it Alex, yes, let us be strong, you have my support, let us work and perfect ourselves during no contact and understand that being who we are is great, we are a catch and can enjoy being who we are, and all the more that we progress on our flaws and unsecurities, etc Shout out to you, let us never back down and enjoy perfecting ourselves and manifesting what is great within us ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾

@Frec_kledbeauty

11 ай бұрын

Good for you. Continue to heal. ❤️‍🩹 Discard day for me was March 26, we were together 18 married 17 of those yrs. I just learned about Narcissism the past year. I figured him completely out the month before in Feb (2023) I went minimal NC bc we have kids together. Straight emails. I feel much better and as I continue to heal I am finally at peace. These toxic relationship do a number on your health. My blood pressure has went down and is steady and my body isn’t inflamed as it once was.

@shuntaepickett

11 ай бұрын

​@@Frec_kledbeautyThat is so wonderful.. Proud of you

No contact is a marathon and not a race.

i gave her 9 days no contact, texted her that i got somthing i got to tell her, then asked if i we could talk on the phone. she agreed to talk... I called her and kept it g, said sorry from the heart. Got her back... only do this if she still loves you and you mean the apology and are really going to fix your issues..

@AshifaAqeel

3 ай бұрын

Usne to mujhe hr jgh se block kr dia

Some exes are just people you once shared special time with. Nothing more. Sometimes they’re gone for good, no matter how much you improve yourself or how in love they were or still are. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it is what it is

For anyone that broke up with someone to heal childhood trauma and be their best version of yourself and didn't get him back , you will find the right person now that you are healthy 💗

@tracytru8119

6 ай бұрын

ummm. wow. very spot on. thank u ❤️

Thanks for your channel. No contact worked in 30 days and my ex came back saying she was sorry. She came to my home in tears and I was so surprised when I opened the door and it was her. She slept with me Christmas Eve. We’re back together. She wants us to work.

@alexanderalzate8560

4 ай бұрын

i hope the same will happen to me 😢

@runout1013

3 ай бұрын

That’s good did she watch your IG stories mine does but hasn’t reached out to me

@DominicMinor-pu5hh

3 ай бұрын

@@runout1013bro same

@runout1013

3 ай бұрын

@@DominicMinor-pu5hh I’m coming up to week 2 this week ima give it 30 days 2 - 3 months max

@pchellamuthu4177

2 ай бұрын

​@@runout1013update bro ? Iam on day 1

1 week since the breakup and man it sucks. I’m doing my best everyday to work on myself and stay busy but not an hour goes by where I’m not thinking of her/us

@TheDonnylad88

8 ай бұрын

I’m in the same boat. I didn’t give her space. Now I will leave her alone. I believe she’s in another relationship tho, so I think I’m screwed ha

@TheDonnylad88

8 ай бұрын

And she blocked me on everything

@stevenquella5512

6 ай бұрын

How are you now?

@mayra.1intllectual4u72

2 ай бұрын

Awww same😢😢he broke it off friday and watchin these videoa helps soo much❤best of luck

@chasepadgett4221

10 күн бұрын

This. Hope you got her back.

They still have the positive memories in their memory bank - I found that really helpful.

Silent is the best 👌 👍 and no contact is super power 💪 after 6 month my ex come back to me and now he's begging to accept him I'm very happy with him now thank you so much coach blace❤

@Whateverbaylie

8 ай бұрын

How did he contact you if he were doing no contact doesn’t that mean he was blocked on everything I’m asking because I seriously need help

@ehiemobigoziem767

4 ай бұрын

Am so happy for you 😊

@mallorygieringer5112

2 ай бұрын

@@Whateverbaylieno contact doesn’t mean blocking your ex. It means not texting/reaching out first. If you block them then how can they reach out. Only block if you never want to get back together

I have definitely made so many mistakes when it has come to my ex. I’m at the stage where I am realising, but starting to accept more and more than I deserve better than someone who refuses to resolve issues and have difficult conversations. It’s about trying not to give in during the weak moments. Looks like I am about to embrace indefinite no contact.

@tracytru8119

6 ай бұрын

same!

@jaymitaylor9937

6 ай бұрын

This one 🎯🎯

This made more sense than anything now I really understand why u have to go no contact.. step zero like you've never met them

⁠BEST content on the internet! We have to DETACH By going no-contact. It creates emotional disconnect and helps you to see “the ex” clearly, instead of through rose colored glasses. If they discarded you, THAT IS how you are to remember them…as someone who was cruel and threw you away. It requires rewiring the brain though. The brain wants to fix a problem. So it keeps you strategizing “the how” to fix it but THE ONLY way to truly disconnect and detach is by going no contact.

@c.williams3819

2 ай бұрын

Agreed

Great video! Extremely insightful regarding patience. Hope you are having a great summer, Coach!

Yes! Thank you! You’re awesome Coach Black! THE BEST! 🙌🏽

Hey don't you think it's sad that people even have to behave this way? I mean peoples lives aren't a big game, a person who has to go through a process to re- love someone is false in my opinion. They either choose to love you and do it correctly or they don't. It's a choice to wake up every day and love someone. That's why we can't trust our feelings, feelings are floating they change from moment to moment. If a person's feelings are changing from moment to moment then they are not grounded in a belief system that holds them secure. That go from feeling to feeling, wishy,washy, unstable. I appreciate your attempt to help people understand themselves. God bless you for that but the fact is that love is a choice, staying is a choice. Love is not a feeling the good and bad feeling is a product of choosing to love someone to open yourself to them to put them before yourself. God bless you brother.

Appreciate the effort put into making a long video like this

I've come across your page today and want to say thank you. You are so insightful and detailed about what you are talking about it's been helping deal with my situation

Good lord I am hooked on your videos 👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you, you are one the first person that I watch that actually shares useful information! You're incredible!!

My man comin through on tha hard dayz with some cleverness, god bless ya brah

You killed it bro. this is the video of all breakup videos.

This is one of your videos that make a lot of sense.

Exactly what I needed to hear man’s gotta be a mind reader

Thank you, Coach, for a much needed, informative video. God Bless✨❤️✨

Solid one coach. Appreciate the insight.

That put good, neat, labelled pictures in my mind of the zones to traverse in this whole process. And your delivery is so smoothly articulate that it didn't feel long at all. Thanks!

This was your best video yet! Love the step by step and this really helped me understand what I need to do next. I would definitely want this as a course and incorporate how to do no contact the right way and the importance of waiting. I have been anxious in the 2 months of no contact so far, but this definitely helps my resolve. So, something to tie this all together would be an amazing course to take.

You definitely helped me and saved me from making a fool of myself

My ex of 13 years won't be contacting me as I told him not to, he started losing weight and looking after himself in Feb of this year, then said he was looking for somewhere else to live. He blamed everything except the real reason he wanted out. I found out a week after I forced him to move out he was seeing someone who he was with 30 years ago, who he left because she was needy. Told me to keep my engagement ring and keep my number, which I changed. I stayed in NC, looking and feeling better and I'm now exercising and reconnecting with old friends. Lost over a stone too. My happy personality has returned. Thank you Coach, these videos are very encouraging.

@leratoseretsi5603

11 ай бұрын

Wonderful

Oh I definitely want him to try to come back so I can discard him so hard it won’t even be funny he deserves it that was the crulest discord I’ve ever been through

This is such an amazing advice, very good and well articulated 👏🏾👏🏾💯

Spitting wisdom bruh.

I heard my Ex asked our mutual friend how I am doing.....that gives me closure, now I know he is not cold-hearted .

@leratoseretsi5603

11 ай бұрын

Today after 36 days of no contact, i was at my workplace then he came and asked to see me in his office. and we had a chat about work and how life has been.he updated me about his career progress and he said i still believed in him i said yes ......so we were flowing and smiling but someone walked in,he tried to dismiss that person in order to continue our conversation, but i said I was leaving......and I still have to give him some documents next week, but I was very calm,I will send the documents with someone else,I love him still but I don't feel anxious anymore.........no contact works,whether he shows you or not

Thanks so much for this, it really helped me with my current situation

This is fantastic! You are so calming, and you have helped my anxiety over my break up. I would like to book a session with you.

@c.williams3819

2 ай бұрын

I completely feel the same way. He's definitely helping me to keep my sanity 😢

I love your videos. This video is, as you stated, “practical” and “tangible.” I’m very thankful to you. I just went through a breakup last night. I may not know my outcome yet; but, you’ve mapped out the terrain in an area filled with fear, sadness, loneliness, and uncertainty. I fully intend to follow your guidance. God bless you!

@Yeshayahsk

10 ай бұрын

I'm so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me and our kids for another woman. I was so happy to me how mr Nsikak he help many people to bring there ex lover

Excellent content! Your words and calm help to think through the issues at hand and look long term

This has a lot of good information in it and I love it. I saved it.

I will follow by the book everything you’ve mentioned in this video and refer back to you once things move forward

@Yeshayahsk

10 ай бұрын

I'm so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me and our kids for another woman. I was so happy to me how mr Nsikak he help many people to bring there ex lover

Hey Blac, enough respect, is like you knew what happened to me , and speaking to me directly. This is best video I’ve ever seen touching my bone … where are you broadcasting life from . And from Brooklyn. Salute I’m interested in some sessions

Wow, 🙆🏽🙌🏽🤗, never heard this before, what good advice. Will take it

I'm in the middle of dealing with my x coming back, I want to say the time apart has helped me work on becoming a more confident, self respecting man with the attitude of abundance. FUK being taken for granted

Great video. I'm in stage zero. Your content is very helpful. God bless u.

I just watched tur video and have to say this the best advice. I'm subscribed!! This is an older video but very informative and tge vest timing for me

HI Coach. It's Katie from NY. We just did 1 on 1 this past week. This is really a great video! Thanks for all you do❤

@rohit-gr5tl

11 ай бұрын

Hello

Very useful and love the calm voice 😊

Thank you for this video! I really needed to hear this! I realized I do need to do no contact the right way so I’m definitely going to take these steps.

Thank you so much Coach Black, I watch your videos religiously and I am thankful for how you help us navigate our relationships. Ive been going through a tough time. Our relationship lasted 2-3 months :( It's been 73 days of NC. He first reached out to me after 10 days to tell me he broke up with me cause of health reasons and needing to sort out his baby mama drama (excuses, we). I asked if we could meet up to talk, he didn't respond. I reached out to remind him to reschedule delivery of his stuff I sent, he responded that he would but he never did (he told me he was out of the country for work). The post office ended up returning his stuff to me. I haven't heard from him since then and it's driving me crazy. Oh yeah I found out he removed me from his friend list, but still follows me (I was hurt that he did that), he used to watch my stories religiously until I muted him. I can't believe we went from discussing our future to this. What can I do? I really don't want to feed his ego by breaking NC!

Great video sir

Damn bruh! This video would’ve been great for me a month ago… I know now what to do though so better late than never. Thanks for this

Man... ❤Your best video ever. You re so right. It's happened to me last week end. A suffering year with my avoidant gf... She made distance and no contact. During this time i developped myself. Sport spirituality books video on KZread to improve. Last Sunday she came and said.. I like the guy you become.

@davemaurer7341

7 ай бұрын

Til she gets bored again...don't fall for it

@davemaurer7341

7 ай бұрын

Whay has she "become" hiw has she changed?? If she hasn't you're not gonna win in the end...

Thank you for the wonderful insights. I would have loved to have seen a graphic that listed all the stages and if they had a title of sorts.

I needed to hear this

Who knew psychology needed formulars too... Good to have you in this space

i think i love you! Thanks for this video, really needed it!!!!!

Well, he brought up the things he thought were bad in the relationship. I just helped him realize he was the issue. He had no accountability at all

@leratoseretsi5603

11 ай бұрын

Run

Thank you. You're a good man.

really like your way of talking and detailed explanations! it helps me and i plan to do it in the future when we meet again!

@Frank08143

7 ай бұрын

Hello

Man thank you so much for this !

The best guidance. Thanks.

Ooo coach you should talk about personal accountability

Finally a coach who doesn’t talk in a pace like you were on Speed or try to laugh thing off. Very calming and hands on🤗

@user-rj6lw3ik1x

7 ай бұрын

Yes, the only person I have the nerves to listen to. It's something about the calm, compassionate voice.

@Frank08143

7 ай бұрын

Hello

extremely good and insightful video, this is going to help me alot

Thanks for this! My ex recently ended our 7 year relationship 2 days ago because I was too nonchalant in our relationship. Watching the video has helped map out what I should do to win her back. Hoping it all works out for all of us here!

@krzysztofwojcik3035

3 ай бұрын

How It went?

@aurum9413

3 ай бұрын

@@krzysztofwojcik3035 sorry if I got ur hopes up but 4 months in and I doubt there are any chances of us getting back together. Just head held up high, looking forward to what tomorrow brings

You did an amazing job with this video

@blacademic

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching! 🙏

Loved this video, ty!

Man, I'm from Brazil and my ex is beginning to come back slowly! She's showing up sometimes and than pulling back again! I know the strategy is working, but it's still very challenging! So your videos are helping me a lot because they keep me calm and focused! Thank you very much!

@serginho37

10 ай бұрын

🇧🇷

Excellent Video, Thank you

Its okay. This is grieving and we understand the feelings of not being able to stop the thoughts

You are AMAZZING!!!❤❤

Omg I have already did that without watching this vedio and it works at her, now I see my future to become a relationships coach

Man this is wild. I wish I would have seen the video a month ago. Currently in the talking stage (slowly). And I have been definitely bouncing around. But now I get it. Hopefully we can take it to the next stage. 🙏

I'm learning so much from this channel, thanks coach

❤❤❤ Thank you for taking the time and sharing this video with deep insight. It make sense and this step by step guide is very helpful. I'm healing and have forgiven. I don't know if I want my Ex back?

Very helpful, 💯 Thanks

Hey coach i appreciate your videos I just broke up with my bf of 4 years can you make a video on how to avoid and identify abuse… I’m lost and since finding this channel it has sincerely kicked off my healing please continue to educate I hope you find my message and respond

Love your videos. 6 months NC apart from one unavoidable contact at 3 months and I offered an opportunity to talk and it was declined. We have no connections anywhere other than WhatsApp so no idea what is happening in his world. I am building my life and starting to date....If he never reaches out this information is great for future relationships!

You’re very wise.

Healing. Thank you.

The curiosity is through the roof for me right now getting close to two weeks

Good Video and Info👍

@blacademic

11 ай бұрын

Thanks 👍

I love this videos

Good lookin out.

if only i watched this a week ago... was on a roll till the fears & commitment utterance came out of my mouth too early...

This really gave me a new perspective in approaching a possible reconciliation. In NC, after I walked away after the same thing I nicely explained was an issue with me. I no longer felt safe. I didn't argue and just disappeared. He hasn't reached out and not sure if he even cared. All I am doing now is getting myself better😊

Great video

Good Advice

You rock!!!

1st date but you know each other - how do you stay away from getting too detailed and keep it fun!

Coach Blac, I love your videos and advise. Like someone commented on one of your other videos…this whole breakup coaching seems to be a way to make the dumpee feel better about being dumped and going through the grieving process. I honestly don’t see no contact working when it comes to men of color.

@blacademic

11 ай бұрын

Why wouldn’t it work on men of color in your opinion?

@teresairene66

11 ай бұрын

@@blacademic my ex, male friends and family members that are “guys from the streets” as men of color can be extremely prideful for one and have a mentality that once they break up therer’s no going backwards. They're not sitting around worry over a women...the best way to get over one women is to get under another woman.

@nenyeobetta9371

8 ай бұрын

​@@blacademicplease my guy told me is over he blocked me everywhere and swear nothing will make us to date again that he rather die single than doing things with me but I keep on thinking about him and he's a stubborn type what he said stands will nc work on his type.

@teresairene66

8 ай бұрын

@blacademic I stand corrected! My ex (man of color) reached out to me today after 4 months of absolutely no contact. He texted me under the guides that there was a deadly car accident near my home. He knew before sending the text that it was a husband and wife injured in the accident, yet he texted anyway. He even addressed me by the pet name he had given me when we were together.

@user-rj6lw3ik1x

7 ай бұрын

Did you respond? I want to hear more :D @@teresairene66

I have to come here daily to keep my sanity 😢 I hate it here! I value your opinion and like how you educate us on this process.... I miss my ex, but I'm ready to move past this emotional chaos 😢

why are you so nice to us

Coach id luv to see some videos 9n how to navigate when first getting bs k together

Thanks!

This is giving me hope to get my ex back I feel less worried because I’ve become more positive with myself than worrying about anything else I did beg don’t get me wrong but after actually thinking about it I need to focus on me, myself, and I but I do hope she does come back because I’ll see her as a new person you know fresh obviously have the memories but be more fresh hopefully she sees the same

This video help me understand alot about this topic my relationship off three years ending two mouths ago i dont feel me and me and my ex will be getting back together that woman hates me this video really helps alot off understanding things im not gojng to give up just yet grest video.

Hey brother, I really appreciate you. I was dating a girl for a little over a month and we had a really solid connection. But I had some personal issues and lost my My temper very bad . Not with her there but I called and told her about it. I think it really scared her because of some things she's been through in the past. So she let me go. I understand cuz we hadn't been dating that long. But she does say she's down to hang out in the future. She really had a massive impact on me and I'd like to prove to her that I'm becoming better I'm working on myself.

@KobyMathews

11 ай бұрын

It's been a few days I haven't contacted her. She hasn't contacted me. But she does view my stories and likes my posts

@deedee446

11 ай бұрын

What kind of imoact has she had? What about her do u find so special?

@KobyMathews

11 ай бұрын

@@deedee446 I could go on about her tbh with you. To keep it short she's super adventurous and athletic and she's pushed me into that side of adventure to make me wanna explore the world. She's a rare breed of woman you don't find a lot these days. She makes me want to be a better man.

Hello really appreciate all your videos, your effort, your love putting all that good content that is really helping me going through all that suffering i was in, not understanding what was going on. This content is so valuable, i would get broke if superthanked you each time, but this one i am really compelled to do so because of the 3 stages simple clear practical ready and easy to use model you've described. I want to honor your commitment for all of us who go through these moments of life full of pain and distress. I want to encourage you to stay the course and know that you are truly helping people everywhere and helping me in particular. I am from France, Paris, and i would like to make this content available in french for french speaking countries. => Tell me if you interested at this point to talk about that possibility in order to increase the visibility of your content worldwide helping even more people than you currently do

@nino_94

11 ай бұрын

Hello all 👋🏽, my fiancée, with which i was in stand by since january and with the mariage set for this may 2023, she has told me today that she no longer wants to continue our relationship. I have worked on me, and also, understanding all the process of breaking up with all the content about it on this channel, i received it good. I am going no contact right away, focusing on how to improve my attraction, that is improving my value and diminishing my neediness, as attraction = value - neediness I intent to work out, work on my project on the topic of education, settle my financial situation and work also on my attachment style to get from anxious preoccupied to secure. I am following a program on that. I want to live my life fully and be happy. I will still watch videos on breakups and how to get your ex back to be ready in case she contacts me again, so i'll know what to do according to what i will be wanting at that point. I am ready to never hear about her again and to not search infos on her, nor talk about her specifically like i did since january. I let my door open to her, and hipe she will heal her wounds and feel good in her life. I submit this to God and will keep her in my prayers. I know God can change anyone who accepts it, who wants to be free of all that hurt and suffering, anger and sadness, etc God wants to give us a new heart, a heart that can love the correct way, that is like God loves us. According to my reflexions and with all the videos i have looked on the subject of attachment theory, i can say that she has the fearfull avoidant attachment style, and me the anxious preoccupied. I will also learn about the fearfull avoidant style to be ready in case she comes back, and dismissive avoidant style because my elder brother is like that. My little brother could be fearful avoidant also so it will help me for him also. And more generally, it will help me with anybody because a lot of people are not secure. Let's do it guys, let us beat all that hurt by healing our wounds and stop that utter suffering that i know toot much. Let's learn to be happy and healthy and manifest and bring our value to this world.

@marcusaurelius9487

9 ай бұрын

@@nino_94 Hey man. Hope your doing good! Do you have an update for us and maybe advice for someone who has been broken up with about 2 weeks ago?

@wilfridjoseph6172

9 ай бұрын

❤ very nice