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3 big red flags in a relationship 1. Not being responsible 2. Often break promises 3. Not sharing the same moral and emotional world

@Kris.G

Ай бұрын

so the red flags we've all heard about before...

@shikyokira3065

Ай бұрын

@@Kris.G Yeah. But I guess putting into practice is a different thing. Maybe our problem is not really lack of information but rather not being principled enough to stick to those principles. We give excuses to avoid conflict because that's uncomfortable

@Kris.G

Ай бұрын

@@shikyokira3065 then the title should've been "The 3 Most Important Red Flags You Keep Ignoring".

@SamuelSidor

Ай бұрын

u saved 7mins of my life. Thanks man

@jackdeniston6150

Ай бұрын

so......women

He just named all of the reasons I don't trust the government and have a bad relationship with it.

@GraceHarwood88

Ай бұрын

Could be also applied to healthcare.

@stoneneils

Ай бұрын

@@GraceHarwood88 Your country just sucks lol..blame your govenment not government in general. We see what goes on.

@GraceHarwood88

Ай бұрын

@@stoneneils it’s a thankless task where every choice made is going to upset half the country. Gotta be out of one’s mind to think it’d be easy.

@WilcoxNotreallythere

Ай бұрын

​@@stoneneilsactually yes. . . Government in general. All governments on the planet for that matter

@stoneneils

Ай бұрын

@@WilcoxNotreallythere No, you're projecting as usual. We can promise you...billions of us..the American system is vastly more corrupt and untrustworthy than most of the rest of the world. It shows in the homeleless, healthcare, insurrection, silly religious nonsense, wars, private prisons, etc. etc. You only have TWO parties for crying out loud. And if they don't like who you vote for, they ignore you lol.

An apology without a change in behaviour is simply manipulation.

@JC-bu8yi

28 күн бұрын

This. Yes.

@user-ic7gl9nz1m

27 күн бұрын

The words "I'm sorry" are meaningless without action.

@pedroclaro7822

26 күн бұрын

Yeap. Empty apologies really just mean ‘I dislike the current situation so here’s what you want to hear. Calm down so I can feel less bad about it. If I have to do it again I’ll just repeat the apology or promise to change without any further action’

apologies aren't necessarily taking responsibility. people say "sorry" all the time but continue the same behavior. ill take actionable change over a apologies any day.

@the_eerie_faerie_tales

Ай бұрын

Yes, should be "sincere" apology, meaning not having to say "sorry" over and over again for the same thing.

@rquaidpro

Ай бұрын

I interpreted what he said as if he meant like "can't *even* say 'sorry'." I might be projecting, but I've been in that situation so that's how I took it.

@thomasakase

Ай бұрын

Absolutely, apologies are largely BS. Show me change

@CryptoNauty

Ай бұрын

When is your expert interview? Looking forward to it.

@amc3964

Ай бұрын

Both .

Biggest red flag: someone who has a disproportionate reaction to being told “no”. Do not move forward with a person who doesn’t respect boundaries.

@0MoTheG

Ай бұрын

Also typical for narcissists. All he says is about narcissists.

@corysmith3447

27 күн бұрын

most people have narccistic traits ecause social media, woman and capitlaism rewards it only 15 % have sublcinical and only 1% have npd, and psychology is a psudo science based on self surveys, with self proffesed experts with degrees in other irrelenvant areas of psychology who want to make money on books on this narcism subject@@0MoTheG

5 Key red flags people often miss in relationships: Their actions do not match their words. They can't laugh at themselves. You cannot be all the different parts of yourself around them. It's difficult to share bad news with them. They attribute and assume malice on your part when something goes wrong.

@Sergio_Loureiro

Ай бұрын

"Their actions do not match their words." - So, you mean *ALL WOMEN* ?

@Gio-sx7kt

Ай бұрын

This is a better list.

@Gio-sx7kt

Ай бұрын

No means no, Sergio.

@Portia620

24 күн бұрын

Actions and words. Lies too…listen carefully.

@communist-hippie

23 күн бұрын

Good list

Socks and Crocs. The flag Chris refuses to talk about.

@JC-bu8yi

25 күн бұрын

😂

@Portia620

24 күн бұрын

Truths!!!

@Sportsbikeguy

24 күн бұрын

Those crocks are the biggest red flag. What an eyesore. I'm genuinely offended. Atrocious.

@ShyiaRobinson

21 күн бұрын

I actually find it kinda hot! 😊 he’s comfortable with himself and this is how he decided to show up knowing it won’t be everyone’s taste. ❤

@stevelegg9901

13 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂

me: what are your red flags? Her; light blue crocs on a grown man!

@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access

Ай бұрын

I mean I’m a dude, but I get THAT one

@NVKyleBrown

Ай бұрын

@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access Do they make them in size 13?

@noerknown

Ай бұрын

It's BOY color! For MEN!

@niallfitzpatrick6568

Ай бұрын

Hahaha!

@tmjvtxtmjvtx

Ай бұрын

😂

I couldn’t care less if someone doesn’t “say” sorry, because If they don’t “show” sorry - it means nothing. The promise/word-breaking is the truest of all of these.

@stevecooper7883

Ай бұрын

I'm guilty of not apologizing when I'm wrong often. That being said, I do try to make up for the shortfall, which is why most people don't ask me to apologize.

@exnihilonihilfit6316

28 күн бұрын

thanks for being the apparently rare person who _gets_ the logic of "I could NOT care less". 😉 A feat these days...

@dxfifa

13 күн бұрын

Not apologising is even more pathetic than fake apologies. That person is weak as hell.

I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this clip. I have been going through a really tough time with someone who refuses to apologize and tries to push things back on me. I needed to hear this last bit about them being in a different universe.

As a former general manager I can see a lot of parallels between hiring and dating. As with dating you need to be aware of the people that fudge through the interview and say all the right things - only to fall right off after hiring. Those are the ones you skip the pep talks and just get rid of asap. Just like dating ;)

04:51 "We equate proximity and closeness to a shared experience and a shared moral and emotional world. And their not the same things. You can share the same bit of carpet with someone for years and think that you're on the same page about things, and then when something goes wrong that person is like -- you realize you're with an alien." I'm dead. I've never heard this being put into words so succinctly, ever.

Crocs. Red flag. Love your content Chris.

@stevecooper7883

Ай бұрын

Crocs with socks no less 😅

The best apology is changed behavior

Does wearing Crocs during an interview count as a red flag? Just kidding, love the content, keep it up!

@maryjacobs5920

Ай бұрын

As long as you keep your word

@TurboFist0

Ай бұрын

Lol seriously. There are so many comfortable shoes guys can wear that look 100x better than crocs and yet guys still choose to wear them.

These three things are everything. For family, for relationships, for friendships and for work.

The opposite is also often true where people over-apologize and never show what their own true standards actually are, and what they seek in their relation with you. Dating someone who isn't being upfront with what they engage in a relationship for, both for good and bad, rarely has a positive outcome. If you apologize and mean it, then make sure you attempt to change whatever behavior caused the issue (if its not a random coincidental mistake that we all make from time to time). If you keep apologizing, it means you don't actually desire to improve any behavior, you just seek to be accepted for it and use apologies as a payment method.

@ouch000u

Ай бұрын

Thank you, needed dis

@Real_MisterSir

Ай бұрын

@@ouch000u you're most welcome

@claudiomarangone614

Ай бұрын

Dis? Why lower yourself to writing that way?

@Real_MisterSir

Ай бұрын

@@claudiomarangone614 No reason to pick on a stranger's motivation for writing one thing or another.

@Gio-sx7kt

Ай бұрын

It's a behavior that helps filter out the narcs. Have a good day.

Mr. Hussey. You just changed the game for me and unlocked a pattern I’ve experienced throughout my life you when you equated narcissism within incompetence. Everything makes sense now. There are no words for how grateful I am!

I'm 35, 13 years married as of yesterday, and have watched tons of friends/family/acquaintances get divorced. Here's my 3: 1) Focuses on/considers first themselves, then others, and THEN their partner. It's very easy to not notice this when you're in love with someone.. 2) Tries to be the sole-boundary/rule setter. This often comes with them trying to rationalize away your boundaries/rules (this is different than simply disagreeing with your opinion on how things should be). 3) Becomes overly defensive and/or angry, or completely shuts down after even minor criticism. No one likes to be "corrected" or criticized, but when everything is an attack, that person is simply not ready for a serious relationship.

@Catina28

Ай бұрын

These r very good and accurate. This has been my experience 23 years in.

@polysaturated

Ай бұрын

Not bad advice - considering you only had one serious relationship, that’s kinda like taking wealth building advice from a lottery winner ;) Converse to 1, someone who never considers themselves first might also be a risk as a partner because these people usually grow resentful for not having their (covert) needs met.

@hanswoast7

Ай бұрын

smells like narcissistic tendencies

@resir9807

Ай бұрын

​@@polysaturatedlol get outta here😂 so by that logic, the 7th time divorced guy is the expert? People with 1 or very few serious relationships are the most emotionally mature people I've met. That's because emotional maturity isn't like sports, you make progress more through self reflection than constant practice

@Portia620

24 күн бұрын

@@resir9807great point! Also the 7th time divorced guy is NOT super selective e!!!

Braking promising is not exactly about delivering things on time. It’s hard to estimate how long things take, unless someone always doubles or triples estimates. It’s the effort that matters and that is visible in any longer term relationship.

Biggest physical queue red flag: crazy eyes. And no, that isn't hyperbole. The sociopathic stare is a thing.

@jelkel25

Ай бұрын

You are correct but it's most of the Cluster Bs, not just the psychopaths. It's not just when you are looking at them either, it can be every movement you make for very extended periods of time. If you get that creepy feeling you are having your business nosed into even if you aren't talking to anyone in the room, there's probably a Cluster B in the room.

@janinemelanie8391

Ай бұрын

This

@SnailHatan

Ай бұрын

@@jelkel25That’s not how anything works.

@Yamaazaka

Ай бұрын

But that just means shes really into me Me a week later: she's going to bite it off...

@TheWinterfox10

Ай бұрын

For me, the big BPD thing is a hollowness to their eyes. Like, she might have a super engaging smile, and she'll be definitely staring at you, but there's just a certain spaciness to her stare. Something just seems to be missing.

I have listened to this podcast 3 times so far, and Wooow!!! Just Wow. Thank you So much guys. Matt, you're a hero. Thank you so much and for me, this is by far the very best Chris, I learned so much.

Lack of introspection, assuming they do not need to change, they are "just fine" with no need to get better or improve their character.

@KathySierraVideo

Ай бұрын

I disagree. I think the biggest red flag is when someone else wants/expects or even just *hopes* you will “change.” I’d run far from anyone who is judgemental and arrogant enough to assume they know best how someone else’s character ought to be. If a person wants a partner with Attributes [A,B,C] that’s on them to keep seeking until they find it… not choosing someone with [B,C] and then upset when the person they’re with doesn’t say, “thanks for telling me my character flaw that you need me change.” Who decides what is and isn’t an appropriate *character*? And what right does a potential partner have to decide? Yeah, someone being judgey is a huge red flag. My husband and I fortunately did not try to “change” each other… we accepted the other, perceived flaws and all. 23 years later that still works 😁. It’s fine to be *annoyed* that someone else’s attributes don’t match what we want. It’s our choice to accept who they are or move on.

This was illuminating. Thank you.

oh my god, thank you, especially for the 3rd one. My ex broke every little word he gave, like saying "I'll do the dishes by tomorrow", and it drove me nuts and broke my trust, but he never acknowledged it was bad. We even went to a couple's counsellor, and she asked me "well, did he ever break any big promises?", and I said no. And she said "well then everything is okay then" and told me to work on my trust issues in individual therapy🥴completely ignoring the fact of how much stress I am under all the time, not trusting if he'll do what he said he'd do, not knowing which of the promises are "big" and which are "small", they were all big to me because they showed the foundation of trust. But I was completely ignored in all of those concerns by both my ex and even a therapist. So, this video really helps me soothe this wound. I'm not freaking crazy. Thank you.

Optimistic people are forever failing to deliver on their promises, even to themselves. I know, because I'm optimist and I'm always doing it.

@EvoraGT430

Ай бұрын

So you're actually a pessimist. An optimist will just look forward to the next opportunity.

@lukelukey4155

Ай бұрын

@@EvoraGT430straight up i read his comment and thought “ah another pessim… wait what”

@imageword5576

Ай бұрын

ah yes, too much optimism...THATS the problem...

@PGHEngineer

Ай бұрын

@@imageword5576 Yeah, because if you promise you can get to the airport in 3.5 hours, but that's really based on an optimistic view of the traffic between your home and the airport, then you're over-promising. Then maybe you don't deliver on the promise. So optimistic people are cheerful, and upbeat, but the flip-side of that coin is they tend to over-promise and place higher expectations on themselves and others than they can achieve. It's very often the case that an apparently positive quality in an individual can at the same time be difficult to live with in other circumstances. That's why in all our relationships with other humans it is important to learn tolerance and understanding, since we all have failings and very often our failings are merely the flip-side of our positive qualities. Nobody is perfect, nobody can be perfect. Have a wonderful Easter.

@danthadon87

Ай бұрын

The two are not mutually exclusive though.

"To know love is to know trust; to know oneself is to know truth." cc. Accountability: bosses and narcissists are great at pressuring a person to deliver the bosses/narcissists "unrealistic expectations". It is an aspect to their manipulation. So--- no! It is not always a red flag in the way itcwas presented by Mtthew. "TRUTH is context-driven; deceit is agenda-driven; those not interested in accurate evidence are not interested in truth. " cc. 2020

Never apologize for something that you're not sorry for

@Axiomatic75

Ай бұрын

This one drives my gf crazy. If I think I did something wrong, I will of course apologize. But I won't ever apologize for something I don't think I should be sorry for.

@jazay591

Ай бұрын

​​​@@Axiomatic75 Sounds like one of u has unrealistic perceptions of whats "wrong" in a situation where u don't think you're actually at fault. One of u is closer to seeing an amicable perspective then the other, and you both have to work that out. From my experience with seemingly difficult women (both relationships and family, thought mostly relationships) the best course of action is to first check yourself, like honestly asses whether you did *anything relevant* that was wrong, and if ur too emotional to do that then you have to excuse yourself until you can. Apologize for anything you can see, and then communicate any problems you have with what they're saying or the way they're saying it in a *very calm* manner (try to give them no good reason to cut you off). If they dismiss your grievances or maliciously interrupt you, without even considering them, you must immediately leave them to themself and not communicate with them again until they reach out to you (you should only do this if you are confident you honestly truly assesed yourself in regards to ther trouble and expressed yourself with absolute respect). Because someone who watches you accept and consider something thats bothering them and then refuses to think about you with amy form of care after that fact, is not someone you should be with. From my experience.

Genuinely caring about the significant other vs pretending to care and not backing it up with anything of value is one I would add for myself

Yes sir you hit the nail right on its head!!!

3:44 In my last LTR, the initial 5 month dating phase went great. Then i gave her commitment. Only after this, a series of inconsistencies in her words and behavior occurred. I think it was the 4th red flag when something broke in me, and for the first time, like 7-8 months into knowing her, I suddenly don't trust what she was up to on a Friday night. That was a painful and awful experience. There was really no coming back from that.

@jeremywags

Ай бұрын

Runaway now. It’ll never get better than what it is.

@3756hans

18 күн бұрын

never let them feel comfortable in the relationship, once they do : your doomed out comes all of the bad behavior.

@jayjaydubful

16 күн бұрын

​@@3756hansnever let then get comfortable? You don't know what love is.

"people who don't do what they say they're going to do"; or prior to that, people who don't think about what they say and thus don't say what they mean, because they don't know what they mean, or care about the meaning of what they say.

OMG I SUGGESTED THIS COLLAB LIKE TWO YEARS AGO ❤❤❤❤

When the reality overrides the fantasy!...that's when you know who is truly by your side. My ex, who I was engaged to for 2 and a half years, left me to go and pursue her art career and another lover while I was in heart failure and awaiting open heart surgery. Her reason was, "She didn't want to be my nurse!" I am now fitter than I have ever been. 💪😊✋️

Saying sorry/apologizing over and over again for their misbehaviors but never actually changing their behaviors is more of a red flag. They use apologies as a means for avoiding actual accountability for their actions by feigning their sorrow/self reflection in verse, but not practice/action. Essentially, say what you mean, and mean what you say. In life, we can either understand(use) them, or love(be used by) them. I speak as a male who desires/engages with females, but this too applies to women. The Adored and Adorer dynamic, Master and Servant, or Captain and the Chief Mate, take your pick from hierarchies of human organizations. The formula is the same. One Leads, the other Follows, so long as we openly communicate with regards to each others roles/areas of responsibility, the navigation of Life as a couple is optimized and can become far more enjoyable. Good luck out there, everyone, and may God bless you and your loved ones.

As cliche as it sounds, actions over words. They can say sorry, but is that just a word they use to “avoid the drama” or are they actually implementing a change in their behavior. It’s really that simple.

Yeah, I married flag 1 and 3. She's now on husband number 4..

I'm the guy who misses deadlines and has to call to reschedule I understand its a major problem and I have been working steadily and diligently to fix it. To the point where I can accurately deliver times of completion down to a couple hours. I also made it very clear to my bosses, managers and friends to chew me out on this. People are very willing to work with you when you show them you are willing to grow

Kinda bummed he didn't pick Tuesday for that analogy! See. You. Next.... Wednesday! Damnit, so close 😂

Fall into "like" love is a dangerous drug. We vet our friends better than the people we sleep with.

damn, hit it straight out of the gate with #1.

the second red flag is debatable, I would say. I know people who speak only good about their exes, and stayed `friends` after the break-up - which I've always failed to understand how is that possible! - only to discover later that it was for them to seem nice and kind people, and to still be able to use each other in different circumstances. On the other hand, I don't have nice things to say about my exes and I am no longer friendly to any of them - and the common denominator is they all lied (major lies, the kind that destroy people, relationships, lives), which I obviously didn't know until later, when I was already invested, with one even had children... And my mistake was to believe that people learn from their mistakes, that people change, that they will work to keep something good, to have a family.

Never heard of!!?! These are basic attributes of a decent human😒

@JediNiyte

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately, narcissism has been so normalized by permissive parenting, social media, and digital devices that the kids need this explained to them, ad nauseum.

@janelle2471

Ай бұрын

@JediNiyte agreed, and I do believe Chris and Matt are trying to help people. It just baffles my mind

Chris is dressed like he's on his way to the gas station for scratchers and some menthols.

@user-cz5lj2vx1f

Ай бұрын

WHO CARES???? what a shallow comment

@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access

Ай бұрын

That’s why I like him. He’s like one of my buds

@TheXandemic

Ай бұрын

He's comfortable

@komegaj

Ай бұрын

The menthols is spot on! 😂

@claudiomarangone614

Ай бұрын

It’s like saying, why dont we he show up in his pajamas to work. 😂

Crocs and Socks 😂😂😂 takes a certain confidence to pull that off!❤

my experience has been that narcissists are highly competent.

@stoneneils

Ай бұрын

I date many narcs/histrionics..but oh my god the psychopath had me totally fooled..she chose the direct opposite of what she was as a persona so I could never have imagined the truth. And yet it cost me 5k in lawyer fees but was still 100% worth the experience. She was WILD..insane...i couldn't tell you guys or i'd get deleted/banned..i'm borderline so many girlfriends since age twelve...mostly crazy like me.

So glad you brought matthew back. He has been one of my favourite guests of yours..just tremendously insightful.

My controversial red flags, verified statistically 100% 1. People who describe themselves as "emotional". We all feel things. Such people are giving themselves license to be a problem, and it will be your responsibility. 2. Similarily, people who describe situations as "emotions". These people prioritise their emotions, act them out, and don't even reflect on it enough to build a vocabulary to express themselves. You'll be the only adult around. 3. People who know what they want *from you*. Anything that resembles a list of expectations, regardless of whether you pass the bar. These people don't see it as a trade and will not contribute much in return.

Socks and crocs in the centre shot, shocked my locks

@leviswranglers2813

28 күн бұрын

I bet they're great for walking on rocks.

I struggle with the people who can’t say sorry 😅

I was having doubts about ending things with my ex until I watched this video, these red flags are the exact reasons why I ended things with him 🤯

What about “not saying *sorry* in a situation where one knows that they are in the right”?

Perhaps in essence. In the presence of one or all of those red flags mentioned and explained. And still choose to continue on unchanged and unchallenged.....moved in to a co dependant relationship that is defined principally by limitations/lowest common denomination(ors)

@davepenny1199

Ай бұрын

A relationship that is built upon diminishing returns. Until it gos into bankruptcy

Crocs, bro....? 🤔🤨

@JChelsea91

11 күн бұрын

Crocs are comfy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The crocs dude I ' Love 'em great content aswell but just wanted to mention the crocs

I have sisters, if they don’t play by simple normal small rules, avoid. I have to say: digging to find fault within yourself, when others don’t act right & fail you, is the worst self-sabotage you can do. There ARE people who are good & get betrayed all the time. Your only fault/onus may be that you choose to repeatedly count on the uncountable.

@stoneneils

Ай бұрын

I actually consider no brothers a MAJOR warning. I've rarely met a woman with a brother who didn't understand me. The same cannot be said for women with sisters only. They get this confused look in their eyes I don't appreciate whatsoever.

@xeropunt5749

Ай бұрын

@@stoneneils i can picture that. good point. women tend to be sexist in an arrogant dismissive way, way more than men.

Really depends on the actual situation, I dated someone for a year and half and it was great, except for issues with the young adult kids who were both having issues. I was at the bottom of the most important scales. The other was that my partner got a new job out of state and she wanted me to sell my apartment and move with her. I wasn’t so keen as my business was just starting to grow and do well and I didn’t want to sell my apartment I was ok with renting it but it just didn’t feel right. Everything can look 100% on paper and still have quirky stuff happening.

@npkrn6764

18 күн бұрын

Ugh...troubled adult kids...that's a hard pass for me! Next!

Don't take it personally guys, society is distorted and trying to make sense out of a chaotic relationship world isn't worth the stress. Take it all with a grain of salt.

@omp365

Ай бұрын

Is it a stress for you to seek to understand something better?

@TheOutlierToday

Ай бұрын

The people that complain the most about dating are usually causing their own problems

Major red flag is a "life coach" moniker on a guy who began giving "life" advice in his teens.

I have heard of these before

nice look Chris 🤗

Chris's Crocs are the red flag.

I hate admitting I was always rhe problem but it's true...

Heart-stoppingly accurate

people say sorry all the time, but they don't mean it.

Everythings a red flag in this day and age. Stay strong men

Whenever I take an interest in someone, I always like to ask how they contributed to the failures of their relationships. Even if their ex was shitty, cheating, abusive, etc, one should still be able to say something like "I tolerated their bad behavior." That example is someone that learned to have stronger boundaries and will have healthier relationships moving forward.

People who love gossip/talking shit as opposed to praising and admiring others.

@benjamingeorge8241

23 күн бұрын

We all like talking shit lol. It’s a very in group out group thing.

@alexandresilva3427

23 күн бұрын

@@benjamingeorge8241 True, but it's all in the ratio. Most of your comments regarding other people should be positive. If you only talk shit 20% of the time, that's a pretty healthy ratio.

Don’t mind the croc haters Chris. Content was excellent. I have to say from cold , wet & windy Ireland , it’s nice to see that somewhere out there exists a man with tanned legs 😁☘️🇮🇪

those crocs! 😂

Man, I have to meet this guy, we have the same value

He just described my ex. For real. Just Wow.

Baby blue crocs, bare legs and socks RED FLAG

@BeegirlsHoneyHouse

Ай бұрын

Ugh with the shallow, judgement …who cares⁉️⁉️‼️🌎🤷‍♀️🇺🇸

@user-xh9mi3ei1j

24 күн бұрын

HE LOOKS SO GOOD SHHHH 😂

I need to see the full episode just to figure out the story about the shorts 😂❤

Chris has reached full flagrancy

@TheOutlierToday

Ай бұрын

Why do u say that?

@brawndothethirstmutilator9848

Ай бұрын

The blue Crocs.

@brittneythompson7218

Ай бұрын

lol the blue crocs and the high socks 😂

#1 Red Flag: Crocs and bare man legs on a polished set of a truly outstanding podcast. I see you Chris. Love ya man, but that's just shock value.

What if some people are just simply used to hear the "sorry" every so often and you happen to be a partner who isn't often i situations that have to apologise for?

Too many romantic partners is a huge red flag for me. Immediately I think “lots of other red flags” based on just this one alone.

Where did you get those socks Chris?

How have we got to a time in society in which people are able to wear crocs without being derided?

Did Chris lose a bet for wearing socks and croks? 😂

Nice shoes Chris.

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What if you can say sorry, mean it, and actually not be responsible for the world’s problems, how does that work out.

Does Crocs sponsor your podcast? That would be a reason to wear them in public, I guess.

Beware the difference between sorry I got caught (sorry you feel that way andnIll say the right stuff to make this go away)and sorry I know I did something harmful, I regret it, and here's what I am doing differently to stop that from happening...

There's one problem to this approach to finding "red flags" in a relationship. It has to do with effective communication. Does someone deliver on what they promised, or take accountability? It won't seem like they do if you aren't on the same page. In reality, if the two of you aren't communicating effectively, it's going to seem like the other person is unreasonable and irresponsible but you and them are simply not thinking about things the same way.

So so good 👍🏼

Crocs with socks is a major red flag

Nice sandals.

"If you don't accept my terrible behavior you don't deserve me."

Crocks and socks 😂!!! I can’t 😅

This was actually a little hard to watch for me. I was in a relationship with a woman I loved very much but didn't work out and she had multiple narcissistic tendencies. This brought back a few memories of unkept promises, lack of accountability and in the rare case that there was an apology it was fake

Dear fucking lord, 90% summary my past relationship i have my kids with.

Wow I've NEVER HEARD that one shouldn't date irresponsible people. NEVER HEARD OF that before.

@ricardodelacrvz1400

Ай бұрын

the biggest red flag is to listen to anything Matthew Hussey says.

@constantined9015

Ай бұрын

If the person is above 7/10 hot/beautiful, who notices responsibility???

@billgaits3717

Ай бұрын

@@constantined9015 People whose IQ is above 100.

@constantined9015

Ай бұрын

@@billgaits3717 yes but those are too clever to make a firm decision to spend their life - whole life - with a less pretty partner! Why to do that? Life is already difficult! I don't speak about me; I m not that clever and I m relatively ugly!!

@npkrn6764

18 күн бұрын

Look at the cluster f**k dating world. To me it's 100% clear many, many people have never heard that, much less live by it. 😢

Is this now Crocs-festival?

I can't get over the crocs

Which episode is this?

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