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@Lmwpitt

14 күн бұрын

Why post a segment of something you've already posted? It just makes me want to unsub so I don't get junk filling my sub feed.

@dorjedriftwood2731

13 күн бұрын

I don’t think being risk averse in dating is going to pay off in the long run. Women are already highly geared genetically to be selective and skeptical of Men. Her saying be risk averse is a bit backwards, when actually being aware of what you want out of a person and what a mentally healthy man looks like. The same women are self assured that only the most rich are worth attention will tell people to basically ignore all a women’s instincts towards romance. As if Romance isn’t one of the most primal needs of a woman, basically the female version of action and adventure. And I am just looking solely at narrative consumption. Women are by far the largest consumers of romantic material, just like men they can either find it on the couch or find it in life and their is no doubt that on either it is seen as sad when people opt out of life for a simulation. It is on its face less healthy to stay inside and hide. I am legitimately shocked that not a single conversation I have seen on the topic talks about the mutual fulfillment of living a good love story. The psychological value, the basic vivacity of two people falling in love seems to be wholly absent when it has to be the heart of the personal narrative. Otherwise your speaking solely from a mechanical perspective of what needs can we fill for eachother. Romance and the pleasure of loving someone is the central pillar of why even do it and if you remove it, then everything gets reduced down sex and money. That’s honestly why both sides have both become so toxic. Because cynicism and a lack of introspection has people completely seperated from the good faith of assuming mutual love is even possible or worth pursuing. That’s why both side sound like they are buying a car because romance and mutual love which are the non mature aspects of a relationship have been redacted from the conversation by both parties willingly but definitely not wisely.

@bzb8554

12 күн бұрын

Right 😂. They're "terrified" of dating men because Only Fans is less "work"

@SaMiDauSiEuCuParerea-cf4zm

12 күн бұрын

Ty for the hint. You are one of the few most interesting YTers for me and I feared that you may have moved the interviews behind a paywall and left only summaries on YT. I stopped watching your channel bc of that, but now I'm back. So glad the full interviews are still here. You do great down to earth content!

@SaMiDauSiEuCuParerea-cf4zm

12 күн бұрын

@@Lmwpitt 🤦‍♂

The problem as a man is that you have to compete against a woman's social media. I finally am in a healthy relationship. She has no social media.

@Namelbmert

14 күн бұрын

Hope she doesn't find out about your you tube addiction! Ha!

@kennedysan1045

13 күн бұрын

Women get stuck on the highest setting. Sleep with a 9, that's what I deserve. Date someone with 9 humour. Everyone must now be just as funny

@crosses101

12 күн бұрын

Dude, your comment is so underrated.👏🏾😎

@user-mi2qw3ns4u

12 күн бұрын

Good for you! 👍

@wtfdoihavetodohere

12 күн бұрын

Yup, and you also have to compete with her career. If she gets a promotion then you better get one too.

Tik tok and tinder ruined modern day dating

@quazimodo1973

14 күн бұрын

Also, people's lack of self-discipline and discernment ❤

@spilledcoffee383

14 күн бұрын

Social media in general

@lostallmymoney2082

14 күн бұрын

Feminism ruined dating. Social media supercharged it.

@MeatVessel

14 күн бұрын

I disagree. Sexual liberation and feminism ruined dating. TikTok and Tinder amplified what was already there.

@LeahBreHappy

14 күн бұрын

Definitely not, it helps people learn more about what's toxic.

lmao great chemistry is a red flag. Holy shit.

@kd12345

14 күн бұрын

It is though! Check up love bombing Dark Triad.

@vladrileynavilys

14 күн бұрын

It's so dumb it's actually funny

@AUniqueHandleName444

14 күн бұрын

@@kd12345 lmao 💀💀💀

@buggus0034

14 күн бұрын

Great chemistry can’t be fabricated. Fucking insane.

@Tyler_W

14 күн бұрын

​@kd12345 that certainly exists, but it takes good discernment and sharp observation to tell the difference. People can't completely hide their bad intentions if you know when red flags to look for. At the same time, don't automatically assume ill intent without without evidence for it. Don't be so quick to self sabotage a good thing.

Meanwhile, the fear many men have concerning marriage is VERY real. 1) She stays: You pay 2) She goes: You pay 3) She cheats: You pay 4) You go: You pay

@nuperspektive

14 күн бұрын

Sounds like a great deal. Where do I sign up?

@christianc8453

14 күн бұрын

Jokes on you, I’m broke. She’s not getting anything 😅

@ShieldEntertainment

14 күн бұрын

And that's why courage is a virtue.

@mr.nobody2244

14 күн бұрын

Yup. Men are basically wallets with 3 legs.

@wierdpocket

14 күн бұрын

This is the same kind of thinking but in reverse. It's risk-aversion. Both sexes have things to fear. The point here is that love is always risky. But it turns out that the only things that are meaningful in life involve risk.

Who would have thought that the generation raised on “safety first!” Would be so scared of taking even a minor risk?

@JugglernautNr9

14 күн бұрын

That is so true. For boomers and gen x safety was something nice to have, but kids were mostly pretty much free to play how and wherever they wanted, even if they got hurt. When millennials grew up safety became more important. And now with gen z we have the "safety and comfort first" generation. To them even getting children is a comfort and safety issue. The west is already witnessing a huge birthrate drop and it will only get even worse.

@lenadahling

14 күн бұрын

Childbirth was literally fatal for women. It scars bodies for life. Men can just walk away. Want a baby? You carry it.

@colRobinOlds

14 күн бұрын

@@lenadahling Men can't just walk away tho. You put your thing in a wrong woman and you have a life ruined by false allegations/alimonies etc. The risk is always there, you can't avoid it.

@yota8325

14 күн бұрын

​@JugglernautNr9 Gen x raised alot of young melenials and older Gen z

@AngelWest58

14 күн бұрын

it's not a minor risk unless you're not serious about finding a good one

This whole thing is summed up as… social media ruins everything. And it truly has. There’s almost no positive benefit left for us having and using it.

@Katsura-San124

14 күн бұрын

*Consumerism ruins everything

@consciouscrypto3090

14 күн бұрын

Except we're watching this video and having this interaction on social media.

@billusher2265

14 күн бұрын

Social media is an easy scape goat but this was already a growing problem before it came.

@alaskayoung3413

14 күн бұрын

@@consciouscrypto3090 uh maybe… I don’t consider this social media really. This is like an entertainment video site. Almost like watching tv. Social media to me is sites where you talk and meet people or make groups of people etc. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. places that have seemingly no value outside of gossip, showing off, meeting people… I have learned how to build a car engine on here, I graduated top of my class in college bc the education channels here, I watch spiritual sermons here, and I don’t talk to people that I even know Their face or name, never met anyone from here, so it’s a big difference to me.

@lumberfoot2004

14 күн бұрын

@@consciouscrypto3090 We would likely not have needed this video or this interaction if it wasn't for social media.

I think it should be pretty important to mention that risk aversion is becoming more common for men too. So we just...don't date.

@elise9537

13 күн бұрын

average income in the US is 46 k a year, average child support $400 and only 44% of the child support is paid on regular basis.

@dontcallthemliberals3316

13 күн бұрын

Risk aversion directly correlates with testosterone deficiency. Hormonal birth control has done ALOT of damage but also men living easier lives is a contributor.

@gostavoadolfos2023

13 күн бұрын

the female version of the red pill has this concept that in a relationship or a public space the man is the car driver and the woman is the pedestrian. to explain that the outcomes are far more greater on the woman's life than men's.

@corvuscorax8459

13 күн бұрын

@@dontcallthemliberals3316how do men live easier lives?

@dontcallthemliberals3316

13 күн бұрын

@@corvuscorax8459 Less Darwinian pressures than in the past. I didn't mean compared to women (although there's an argument to be made that is also true). I meant compared to men in the past. Testosterone levels are down across the board period. Are you contesting that data?

Many men are afraid of being called creeps. For example, a few days ago, I found myself extremely drawn to a nurse who was giving my puppy his final round of shots. We had decent enough chit chat, something that is quite rare for me, but I just couldn’t bring myself to ask for her number, my biggest fear being she would say she already had a boyfriend. It’s a line I hear a lot. I feel like I can’t ask someone out unless we already know each other relatively well, or else risk being called a creep.

@AlienAbortionAnnals

14 күн бұрын

Batman can't afford to settle. You're a billionaire in your mind. You're the table, king ❤.

@kd12345

14 күн бұрын

Actually, you had the right idea there: most women don't like being asked at their workplace or just on the street. It makes me scared when that has happened to me.

@vladrileynavilys

14 күн бұрын

What is so bad about being called a creep ? If you know you're not one, it's more of a useful indication about the other person who, on top of that, actually doesn't know you yet... It's scary to make the step but it's really what they call an asymmetrical bet in finance. Lots to win, little to lose... Tell your mind to zip it and do what you want to do.

@batman5224

14 күн бұрын

@@kd12345 I think it’s unfortunate because I don’t use dating sites or have a place where I regularly interact with single people. I only meet new people through random interactions. The problem is one has to get 50 refusals in order to get one yes.

@willdabeast6503

14 күн бұрын

@@batman5224Those refusals actually aren’t a bad idea if you treat them like exposure therapy. JP actually talked about it, it’s a good exercise. Ask for 50 phone numbers a day, it helps you get rid of fear of rejection.

There are literally infinite excuses to not do something. This is why we can’t have nice things. 😂

@kd12345

14 күн бұрын

If you have ever been a victim of abuse: it isn't an excuse. It will take me years to get over the harm my narcissistic ex who tried to financially abuse me and did sexually abuse me did.

@mariotrujillo4927

14 күн бұрын

She could've just said, women are afraid of getting hurt, and that would've saved us 8 1/2 minutes of our lives.

@skyhappy

14 күн бұрын

@@kd12345 why did u put up with it

@brandoneverhardt3625

14 күн бұрын

But thats the thing no one ever has any tangible positive reasons to have kids. like right now it sounds like youre saying "Sacrifice yourself to the cause of having children because____" and no one ever finishes that sentence

@lilwoody7489

10 күн бұрын

@@skyhappyIn all fairness, its difficult for some people to leave an abusive relationship for a variety of reasons, it may be financial or the person is still so deluded that their significant other still loves them despite abusing them or puts it off as tough love.

This is what happens when everyone reads a few articles then thinks they are an internet therapist just spewing out the word "narcissist" and "trauma" left and right.

@iamjagold

14 күн бұрын

True. 99% overreaction

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

Sounds like something a narcissist would say

@gwenstefanirockx

8 күн бұрын

😂😂​@@AUniqueHandleName444

@brianhopson2072

2 күн бұрын

​@@AUniqueHandleName444 The hallmark response. "if you disagree about narcissism, your a narcissist!" That's contemporary pop psychology in a nutshell.

This is so accurate. I’ve been asked for my number by a few girls and will text them and ask them out, and then they ghost me. That’s after she asked for the number from me!

@SD-mi2vc

13 күн бұрын

Yep

@notsojharedtroll23

8 күн бұрын

Good louck for you then. If the girl risked, you are in a safe bet

@JasonBrown-zp8tx

7 күн бұрын

this has happened to me a lot too. I don't even give my number to women anymore. Unfortunately they turn something that starts fun into a total waste of time. I would never have a serious relationship, personal and business, with someone who just doesn't reply

@evilzinabyssranger5695

12 сағат бұрын

soooooooooo COMMOM. My psychologist (woman) said that the only complaint from woman is that MEN dont "come to them anymore". Its BECAUSE OF THIS. siletn threatment all the time for guys from all ages, differente beauties and differente economic status. Girls got narcisistic. Social medi ENDED the Humanity in them, some can LIE it for some good time (TO pretend they care because they want the benefits of being with you) and fewer are outside this "realm"

For the sake of your health (spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically), get off social media. Got rid of all mine over a year ago. Best decision ever.

@ElUnicoPapiNegrito

9 күн бұрын

YT is probably the biggest social media platform outside of tiktok

@yurigansmith

9 күн бұрын

I've never been on any other social media platform than YT. What makes YT so different that so many people seem to not consider it as part of the "normal" social media?

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

@@ElUnicoPapiNegrito YT is social media, but not in the same way that TikTok, Facebook, Instgram, etc are.

@BrianMolstad

8 күн бұрын

Never went on in the first place.

@M0viLover

7 күн бұрын

@@BrianMolstad Same here. Outside of YT, that is! And, YT really only since the pandemic hit.

Everything and I mean everything has gone to extremes. There is no moderation anymore even though moderation is key.

@vladrileynavilys

14 күн бұрын

Your comment has gone to extremes. Not everything has. The number of dog owners hasn't gone to extremes for instance. Relax.

@iamjagold

14 күн бұрын

Moderation is for reasonable outcomes. If you want to be in the center and play it safe, then do so. But don't expect exceptional outcomes from painting in the boundaries. If you want an amazing woman, be an amazing man and attract her.

@williamrunner6718

14 күн бұрын

@@iamjagold I agree with your statement but that's not what I was getting at. I'm talking about people being sucked into extreme positions, whether they be politics, religion, social, physical etc. It's runs across the board on many issues though. Many reasons for it, including misinformation and propaganda from the information highway etc. One example having to do with this topic are MGTOW movements, the incels, red pill bs and so on. There are grains of truth found in all of these movements though which is why it can be so appealing to men and women. I think it's dangerous for people to get sucked into these things just like it is for someone to get sucked into wacky conspiracy theories and cult like behavior.

@dontcallthemliberals3316

13 күн бұрын

@@williamrunner6718 Its all extreme because there's a hormonal imbalance. Imagine if boomers injected their teenage sons with testosterone every day for years, imagine the effect that would have on their emotional development. That's what they did to young women except with oestrogen through hormonal birth control. And the more risk averse the oestrogen makes them the harder it is to have the uncomfortable conversation about their risk aversion, it's a negative feedback loop that continues until they are in their 30's and can't form a healthy relationship because they are too risk averse to take accountability for anything. it also makes for really shitty parenting strategies in single mothers because they can't take accountability for being a shitty mom. History will not look kindly on the modern generations.

Simple answer, women fall in love with love not the man himself. This makes it so, they do not accept a man for who he is, and trick themselves into thinking he tricked them, when he was exactly who he was from the beginning. They really fear themselves not men

@Kymerican

14 күн бұрын

💯

@dmcentYT

14 күн бұрын

Worst judges of character, I’ll always stand by that.

@zero1188

14 күн бұрын

@@dmcentYT exactly. The fact is they dont trust themselves. If you fear dating it means you fear not trusting yourself to deal with emotional side of dating. Which is rejection and other stuff

@TheMotArt

14 күн бұрын

What a sad argument... blaming women because they believe in the mask men put on the first months, and then expecting them to love the person that was behind the mask without that person making any effort to be better.

@torachan23

14 күн бұрын

​@TheMotArt what a sad assumption of men... thinking they somehow have the time, acting skills, and deceptive character to put on a "mask" for months just to con a woman

This happens when society has it too easy for too long. You no longer know what REALLY bad is...and almost everything that isn't great/good now becomes the worst thing you can imagine. All forms of social media keep negatively reinforcing this and society as a whole becomes increasingly schizophrenic and mentally unstable.

@emmacox3219

14 күн бұрын

Completely agree

@VaronPlateando

12 күн бұрын

see 'behavioral sink' (aka calhoun experiments). last exit to greens were missed (or deliberytely bombed) decades ago. no solutions. not even only moderately shitty tradeoffs.

@Neyymar11

10 күн бұрын

You couldn’t be more right!

@billred3820

2 күн бұрын

Crashing economy, skyrocketing suicide rates, declining life expectancy,> lol its not exactly easy

Depopulation

@ricardo7oo

14 күн бұрын

agenda

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

​@@ricardo7oo21

@rafiazmi

14 күн бұрын

It's all planned

@annab3184

12 күн бұрын

No need, the microplastics are already doing a great job

@shanepatrick641

12 күн бұрын

@ricardo7oo my comment got deleted and all I said was two numbers to finish off what you said

sounds like the concept of safe spaces has hit the dating scene.

Women are dating. They are choosing hookups instead of relationships.

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

Absolutely correct!!

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

Yet it's 60% of young men saying they're single vs young women's 30%

@jasmineewing3789

7 күн бұрын

Not true at all. A lot of us are tired just as much as some men.

@thesugardaddy7037

5 күн бұрын

​@@jasmineewing3789It IS in fact true. Just because you don't do it doesn't mean everyone else doesn't.

@bodhisattva2348

10 сағат бұрын

Can u blame them?

She could've just said, women are afraid of getting hurt, and that would've saved us 8 1/2 minutes of our lives.

@anthonyramirez1503

12 күн бұрын

Didn’t even listen already knew it would hurt my ears

Well, the media is constantly portraying men in a bad light so there's that. Also, you have to consider that women are more inclined to not want to date than men. With women in the workplace, women are increasingly "lukewarm" to dating; if the right guy comes along then she'll get excited, but if he doesn't she's quite happy to play the field until she hits her 30s. At that point, she'll either have her ideal guy (extremely low chance), she'll be single and stay that way as she couldn't bear dating a lower-tier guy, or she will settle due to the dread of being alone or due to societal/familial pressure. It's brutal for average guys out there

@KFrost-fx7dt

14 күн бұрын

The more I have to deal with men at home, at work and in public, the less I'm interested in dating them LOL.

@Snake369

14 күн бұрын

@@KFrost-fx7dt jesus.. get help

@fujohnson8667

14 күн бұрын

Not with the bother IMO.

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

​@@Snake369bloody true mate, she needs help.

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

​@@KFrost-fx7dtjeez , get some help.

I think social media has also taught women to have expectations that are so unrealistic that no guy is ever going to meet them. Then a guy looks at the bar he's expected to hurdle and goes..... umm.. nope... it ain't worth the effort.

She keeps saying its influence from online. Stop giving your kids access to the internet at young ages. You are failing your kids when you let them have youtube at 5.

@adriansanchez4875

14 күн бұрын

You gotta have strong parents. kids: (" but everybody at school uses it") parents have given their power to schools and other adults and children.

@rodan2852

14 күн бұрын

My parents got my neice on a smart phone at 2. She developed a "cross eye" which requires her to wear contacts......yah they told me I was wrong when I warned them against it. Its a shame

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

@@adriansanchez4875 Yup. My answer to that would be something like, 'Then I guess they have worse parents than you do.'

@hughguys1183

4 күн бұрын

i believe th e person describing the problem in the video is also not married and has no kids as well

@cynicist8114

2 күн бұрын

Yeah I'm a millenial who didn't have Internet access until maybe 12, and even that was too early.

One thing I notice is they are told men are bad, every relation ship fail is men's fault etc.

If you want to bring down a society, this is an effective under-the-radar way of doing it. On occasion, it's good to be older and to have come of age in far more normal times when dating required face to face conversation, trial and error, sometimes being hurt, and sometimes getting it right because we could assess risk and make critical decisions based on lessons learned.

@stevenclouds

12 күн бұрын

Just a friendly reminder to anyone that is listening that the Chinese Communist Party owns TicTok

Lesson = get off the internet.

@taylordunlop1530

10 күн бұрын

I think more so would be to understand the difference between nihilistic feminism and proper enlightenment

@broidkanymore-zc4lt

2 күн бұрын

u literally need it, keep coping tho

Because Gen Z women think they are perfect princesses who should get the perfect guy who is rich, handsome, romantic, tall, etc Seeing that the vast majority of men are just normal people who are nowhere near their fantasy man, theyd rather stay single

@sirrys

14 күн бұрын

Literally none of them thinks that.

@JimmyHeight

14 күн бұрын

So true!

@JimmyHeight

14 күн бұрын

@@sirrystranny

@KFrost-fx7dt

14 күн бұрын

We're not perfect princesses. We've just worked hard to get where we want to be in life and men will just ruin it.

@wanderingdruid978

14 күн бұрын

@@KFrost-fx7dtironic

Because they weren't brought up around several brothers. Thus, they cannot read male behaviour.

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

True

@-haclong2366

6 күн бұрын

The lack of siblings also contributes to people not understanding other people, the lack of fathers makes this even worse. A lot of women lack empathy for men and boys because they grew up both without brothers and a father, so she doesn't understand how men interact with each other or with women and will immediately view it as hostile alien behaviour. The same also goes in reverse.

@faithfitness6434

Күн бұрын

Such an insightful comment!

It’s unfortunate everyone just blames social media. Yes that is a part of it, but I think it just worsened the issue. I would actually argue this is the natural result of a free dating market. Studies have found that men higher in dark triad traits (narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy) can be more attractive to women. This makes sense because those disorders can sometimes have side effects that are actually initially attractive. Narcissists can have attractive self confidence and charisma. Machiavellianism can make them better at manipulating and persuading. And I heard a pick up artist say that “sociopathic or psychopathic” guys always did the best at their trainings, because whereas the regular students were shy and afraid of being a nuisance, they would approach quickly and confidently and be so unempathetic they didn’t care what happened. At the same time probably due to social atomization and dating hostility, a lot of regular guys are actually discouraged. If you look on social media sites like Twitter there are regularly viral posts of women mocking, criticizing, and bashing men who they don’t like approaching them. It’s also in the mainstream like the infamous Gillette ad. This may cause the type of guy who is sensitive to a woman’s feelings to try less or not at all. I heard a woman on Twitter say she was on Facebook groups in the UK where women discuss men who emotionally or physically abused them and find out a lot of them were dating the same guy. There was also a infamous Facebook group in the US in that vein called are we dating the same guy or something. A while back a pew research poll found among men age 18-29 60% said they weren’t in a committed relationship but 30% of women in that bracket said the same. Most people assumed women were dating older men, but in the same survey in 2012 it was roughly 50% for both genders in that age bracket. What I think is a major factor is many hyper attractive men who end up behaving badly are dating multiple women and hurting / burning them, and the women become hesitant to date and worry the next guy is like that or even assume all men are like that based on her limited experience, because those are the ones she keeps running into because they are some of the most attractive and most likely to pursue her.

@Samuel-vw2wy

14 күн бұрын

You are massively overthinking it. Most people simply aren’t dating period.

@AMD_SERIOUS

14 күн бұрын

I don't think you are over thinking it. It seems most people simply want to blame the new thing for aberrant behavior. It happened/happens with videogames now. It will take a while for people to realize if there is as strong as a causal link as they think.

@KFrost-fx7dt

14 күн бұрын

The nice guys missed their chance to make their presence known. Now I am permanently scarred and traumatized by the "dark triad" ones as you called them. Where were the "nice guys" when I was younger? Oh that's right, ignoring me and blowing me off when I tried to talk to them. All men are bad for women, just in different ways.

@MarkPlace-wb5xg

14 күн бұрын

I think you'd have to throw 30ish years of self esteem programming into the mix as well. The problem for women with hypergamy/hypogamy is the guy dating down has to get something out of that. What that something happens to be is easy access to sex with women that will be quickly discarded. In a more rational state women would understand this but when you've spent your formative years being programmed that you're a 10, all women are 10's, you don't see the downside to the hypergamy dynamic and think you're dating at your level. And it just seems to be easier for women to declare the men they're sharing narcists (a condition that is actually quite rare) than deal with the reality they're trying to punch up and that's just the cost to have time with those men.

@TuscanBrick

14 күн бұрын

​@@KFrost-fx7dt Take at least SOME accountability, my god ...

Soon as the word tiktok comes out of someone's mouth I'm out.

@Kynect2Hymn

14 күн бұрын

Yes, but its still a relevant social media platform since so many people use it. I don't use it personally, but many do and its still a demographic that is being influenced by a ton of nonsense.

@Nero-xv

14 күн бұрын

You mean talking about an extremely relevant and marketable social media platform with hundreds of millions of impressionable users and an addicting algorithm that negatively influences peoples biases and attention-spans to convert them into sheep is an issue?

@alaeacusmcfly4353

14 күн бұрын

@@Kynect2Hymn It's only relevant for brainlets who seek constant validation from strangers.

@macdonald2k

14 күн бұрын

Fake comment. This one is a copy of one from an hour earlier.

@BWater-yq3jx

14 күн бұрын

Thotbot.

I'm 21 and I cannot see myself married at all, I used to back in middle school wanting a family and everything but its too much of a risk, choose the wrong woman and your life is quite literally over.

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

At 21, if you can see yourself married, you are definitely the exception.

@garrettoconnell8671

7 күн бұрын

Don't give up my guy. I'm 27, have not had a girlfriend yet, and I'm just waiting/looking for the right woman. It's very difficult to find women of good character, but you do have to remember that'll you'll never find a perfect woman. You yourself, like the rest of us, are not perfect either! But you do have to be patient and vigilant. Don't settle for any "loose" women or women who don't know what they really want in life. It's a tough road, but just find a woman that doesn't live for you, but lives for God. If you're both chasing Him, everything else will become much easier to bear and much easier to love each other. Also, this sounds counter intuitive, but try to find a woman that you can fight with. No, I don't mean abusive or anything of that sort. What I mean is find a woman who you can communicate with, and even though you have your differences, can still come to reasonable decisions and conclusions in discussions and arguments, when they occur. Also, don't ever go to bed on your anger. If she said something that hurt you, communicate that with her. If you said something that hurt her, have her communicate that with you. You NEED to be able to effectively communicate, and her likewise with you. Deep-seeded disdain comes from many, many occurrences of anger and offense that are never properly addressed between two people. It also drives a wedge between a good man and a good woman, and it happens far too often. All that to say, keep doing what you're doing, chase the highest good you can, and don't be afraid to take risks. The way I've gotten so many dates just in the past six months is employing a simple statement "I'm open to opportunities". I actually said that to a nurse when I had appendicitis back in 2021, the genesis of that statement for me, when she asked if I was single prepping me for surgery, and she then asked the entire nurse staff if they were single WHILE I was in surgery! That's a true story! So don't let cynicism and self-doubt cloud your mind. You're going to be in for it for the long haul like myself. Just don't forget what you're searching for, and look for a woman who is perfect for you, despite both your flaws and her flaws. I hope that helps.

@sikeibutler7027

6 күн бұрын

​@@garrettoconnell8671you're optimism is so inspiring

@FazeParticles

5 күн бұрын

You just need to talk to women more.

I switched to my burner account to post this because I don't want to be flamed, but there are some legitimately good reasons not to have kids. And while it might be "the most meaningful thing in the world" to you, that doesn't mean it is to everyone. I would never push my views on anyone else though. If it's meaningful to you, great! I have a 6 year old child who is on the spectrum, and I also have serious depression. Having a child has been a waking nightmare every single second of every single day. Parenthood is not for everyone. If you know you'd hate it, or have good reasons not to, don't let anyone convince you otherwise. That being said, as you pointed out "Not being able to wear heels" isn't a good reason for not wanting kids.

Dont settle guys Drizzle drizzle

@naughtybuddha3812

7 күн бұрын

What does this drizzle mean?

@sikeibutler7027

6 күн бұрын

Drizzle drizzle is a new term used in womens social media which means find a guy who can take care of you ie give you money. Ive seen videos where the woman says if he doesn't pay your rent after three months you should drop him. ​@naughtybuddha3812

@mistah3687

5 күн бұрын

@@naughtybuddha3812it was originally a parody of “sprinkle sprinkle” but for men. And sprinkle sprinkle is basically just a mic drop at this point

It is kinda funny, when good looking people like in this video talk about dating, and they have no issues with dating, because they are good looking and famous. Like Henry Cavill would say "just talk to women - works for me everytime"

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

I mean, once you 'get it', that is basically how it works. You're just talking to them. But getting to the point where you 'get it' requires what amounts to basically sorcery nowadays, with the way there's no real social interaction.

Anyone who thinks like this will end their bloodline, so at least they won't pass this madness onto their descendants.

@Frederick0220

12 күн бұрын

Not if your brother or sister reproduces but I do agree everyone should get married and have kids

@williammickler3757

3 күн бұрын

@@Frederick0220 Not everyone.

@abduwalimuse7482

2 күн бұрын

@@Frederick0220 not everyone.

@Frederick0220

2 күн бұрын

@@abduwalimuse7482 OK, most

What it also is, is a practice of hypochondriac syndrome in dating. They are constantly looking for personality disorders, wanting to avoid any personality and character flaws that a man may have that create an obstacle in her ambitions and life. Alcoholism, verbal and physical abuse, sexual abuse, a hardness of heart that doesn't allow easy forgiveness, real narcissism... these are "red flags" to be concerned about. There are more, but trying to see a person's total issues become problematic for her and for the man being petri dished.

@rib.7809

14 күн бұрын

Ok. This comment nails it ❗️❗️❗️

@Tigo625

12 күн бұрын

"a hardness of heart that doesn't allow easy forgiveness" - Care to explain this part further? Not hating or disagreeing, genuinely curious.

I feel like what this video is failing to remember is that the reason women are so risk averse when it comes to dating is because never before have men been such a risk. With the rise of Gen Z misogynists, red pillers, Andrew Tate wannabes, and the use of social media to amplify those voices, yeah the threat is there. Men ghost and gaslight women all the time. Most women who don’t date have had negative experiences that are always invalidated. So they don’t feel safe around men. And in my opinion, they shouldn’t

@OedonTheGreat

10 күн бұрын

You're failing to mention the reason why the Red Pill exists in the first place. The whole point of that movement was to counter feminism/misandry. Andrew Tate wouldn't gain any popularity in 80s/90s/early 2000s because the hatred of men wasn't mainstream like today.

@Yomel123

5 күн бұрын

@@OedonTheGreatdoesn’t make her point false. Men are getting worse cause of that Tate guy and red pill. It made guys hate women and be even more dangerous. It’s too risky now

@OedonTheGreat

5 күн бұрын

@@Yomel123 Tate's been popular for 2/3 years, and you're complaining. We've (Gen Z men) been raised by the feminist/misandrist system since middle school. Men are getting worse because of the mainstream feminist/misandrist narrative that's present on every level in our society. Tate has nothing to do with it. He just confirmed what we've been experiencing our whole lives. There is nothing that can save Western society anyway. It won't be long until it completely collapses. As for me, I'm looking forward to it.

@eagle162

4 күн бұрын

Enough,all that is nonsense. "Misogynist" just becomes another password with no real meaning and thrown around everywhere when somebody gets remotely upset. "Reddit pill" not healthy but not even as talked about like years ago. "Andrew Tate"as one psychologist put it most men who followed him want to live through him not actually be him or actually follows his advice. Large amounts of men have left the dating market all together or are hesitant of asking a woman out, even women complain about this. Finally something like the red pill is not a radical movement that has been around for decades inviting education system or has instructed radical ideas, which feminism has always been about using lies and dodgy statistics. Don't believe me look up Bettina Arndt and Janice Fiamengo, Janice in particular has made a few videos debunking certain myths.

@Yomel123

3 күн бұрын

@@eagle162 hey look at you proving the point of the comment 😃

People can do whatever they want, thankfully. If they decide to let social media tell them what to do, that's on them. It is good that people know they do not HAVE to have kids, a lot simply do not want to and have other things they would rather do with their time. Her wording on it being the most important thing is quite condescending. It is the most important thing for her, she cannot speak for everyone.

@scartissuefilms

6 күн бұрын

Keeping the species alive is objectively more important than anything else.

@abduwalimuse7482

2 күн бұрын

@@scartissuefilms Everyone has a right to free will and shouldn't be forced or pressured to reproduce if it's not desired. Keeping the species alive is indeed very important, but don't let that become a way of harassing people who simply don't want to reproduce. There will be some other way those people can contribute to important things in society. And there's PLENTY of people having kids since it's what the majority does. I literally see people with kids everywhere I go. I'm not worried about it at all

Here's dating circular logic rooted in solipsism that I hear all the time and I am a Millennial. The concept of "you should not date until you are your best self and have solved all your issues, otherwise your next relationship will fail AND you will waste another person's time selfishly/damage them. If you choose to have a relationship before you are at your best self, you are a bad/toxic/immature person. If you choose to be with someone who is not their best self, it means YOU are toxic and get what you deserve and YOU need to work on yourself." The problem with this logic is that, if you follow it through to the end, you will always be working towards a best self, because you change through time, aging, and experience. We are not static beings. So we are being encouraged to wait forever before taking a leap into relationships. Also, relational experience and learning requires you to BE IN A RELATIONSHIP to practice and learn from successes and failures. It takes two people, not leveling up in solitude.

@VaronPlateando

12 күн бұрын

you might gain clarity of thought once uprooting any residue of 'blank slate' g.nd.r craep in what will become your operating mind then + henceforth, potentially.

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

Totally. You really do have to just...take a risk. For the most part, people are not their best selves by themselves.

@Sidera17

9 күн бұрын

@@AUniqueHandleName444 Yes! If a person is the only measure of themselves without the outside giving input, it's a breeding ground for narcissism (not the personality disorder, but the Dorian Grey kind of ego-distortion shit). The biggest tragedy of the younger generations I see as an older Millennial is that we were taught to be risk-averse to everything.

"People who want to avoid something focus on reasons. People who want to achieve something focus on goals." - Richard David Precht

@alexandrodl1371

14 күн бұрын

Solid quote.

Risk aversion has been something I have noticed in life a lot too. That is the main things I noticed with Gen Z men and women. It seems like whenever they bring up an idea of a relationship it is a fantasy of the perfect partner. That person has the perfect body, the perfect face, the perfect job and they will never make you uncomfortable and is going to accept all of their flaws and not complain. That person does not exist. I noticed this heavily with young women talking about 4B. I have seen so many women say the reason why they will not date is they believe men inheriently want to use them and leave them in a bad spot after. There are too many buzzwords about the patriarchy, manspaining, man spreading, toxic masculinity...I do not want to hear about this all day.

@chronicallyconfused3766

14 күн бұрын

Upon first learning about the gender war and 4B movement happening in Korea: there's no way things could be THAT bad, none of this is possibly justified Upon learning some more of the context: holy fucking shit, it is THAT bad My mistake was hearing the word "feminism" and automatically assuming it was the same brand of western 4th wave, but the situation in Korea is LEGITIMATELY so much worse for both sexes, neither is having so much as an ok time.

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

Side question: What's 4B? As to the main point... Something my grandmother told me when I got married is, "Everybody marries the wrong person. Because the right person would be perfect, and perfect doesn't exist." It really served me well. My wife and I have worked through a lot of each other's bullshit together and changed for the better year after year. But yeah, it takes accepting a lot of imperfection and loving them anyway.

@Gordy6179

9 күн бұрын

@@AUniqueHandleName444 That is good that you and your wife have worked many things out. My parents are still married decades later. 4B is a tiny movement in South Korea where the womne went on strike and will not engage in relationships with men. Of course the American women on Tik tok, because they are so bored, interpreted it as they should just join the South Korean women. I will even say I have told the women thank you for admitting you don't want to date men so I will not bother you. They still are triggered that men will not try and date them in a movement that is anti dating men...ahhh my head hurts. 4B to American women is just another excuse to pretend that men have only flaws and women have 0.

I am 32 now and I stopped dating one year ago and it was the best decision of my live after getting selfemployed 💪😁

@Warbr33d

14 күн бұрын

Cope

@Rollacoastertycoon

14 күн бұрын

@@Warbr33dit can be if you never been laid or in a real

@smithusa321

14 күн бұрын

I looooooove being single. I am not current single. But I love it. So simple. No compromise, no obligatory family shit, no hurt feelings, no schedule demands. It’s lovely. Enjoy your decision ❤️

@nutzer5714

14 күн бұрын

MGTOW's spamming the comment section of every video that is even remotely related dating about how happy they are not dating, feels like they're trying to convince themselves by projecting outwards. Or it's some foreign campaign to attack the reproduction of the west.

@nutzer5714

14 күн бұрын

MGTOW's spamming the comment section of every video that is even remotely related dating about how happy they are not dating, feels like they're trying to convince themselves by projecting outwards. Ot it's some foreign campaign to attack the Reproduction of the west.

I didn't have kids until I was 30. I did the 'selfish-living' thing up to that point: partying and dating. Honestly, that vapid self-centered existence gets old. There is a deeper meaning to life than simply serving your own whims. There's a great scene in 'Knocked Up' between the son (Seth Rogan) and father (Harold Ramis). *SON* : "Honestly though, when you look at me, do you not think at all ...like... you know if he never existed, I would have avoided a massive heap of trouble...." *FATHER* : " Absolutely not. I love you totally and completely. You're the best thing that's ever happened to me." My son is 20 now. This exchange is 100% true for me.

@Namelbmert

14 күн бұрын

Good flick, that.

@wtfdtreats

13 күн бұрын

Too bad the risk isn't worth it and the juice isn't worth the squeeze. 💊

@DrProgNerd

4 күн бұрын

@@wtfdtreats Having kids is the best thing that ever happened to me. Marriage....not so much.

It is not risk aversion. It is waking up to how dangerous too many men are. The risks are nothing to be minimized. And harmless men are often just ineffective inactive and lack positive aspects of masculinity. Im just glad young girls are not gambling with their health as self disrespectingly anymore. We should all be happy for the girls and do more to make men less of a liability and danger. Men deep down know they are dangerous amd dont care about a woman's feelings or safety as much (since they ll almost always prtect their own ego before the woman) clearly demomstrated by the survey that has men admit they would rather let their daughter alone in a forest with a bear than a man and with a woman than a bear.

@autoclearanceuk7191

8 күн бұрын

You are just choosing the wrong men. Most men are fine. One in twenty can be nasty.

@Yomel123

5 күн бұрын

@@autoclearanceuk7191it’s not about choosing. It’s about men at the grocery store, men at school, men at your job. Women have to always be cautious and afraid

@autoclearanceuk7191

4 күн бұрын

@@Yomel123 - A small minority. Do not condemn the decent (nice) men because of the ones they also dislike.

@Yomel123

3 күн бұрын

@@autoclearanceuk7191 it’s not possible that it’s only a small amount when every woman has had multiple bad experiences with men

@tricatame7427

3 күн бұрын

@@autoclearanceuk7191 that is simply false. Only 1 out of 10. You dont find out how nasty even the nicest ones are until you get closer, bwcause only then all those supressed insecurities and emotional issues surface. I lived on 3 different continents and more men are nasty when its between someone else and their ego. Men as a species are due for major update and hopefuly movemrnts like 4b will help with the process.

Who would have thought that raising a generation to believe that every negative, adversarial, or even just difficult aspect and event in life is not just part of life, but a medical or psychological condition that needs to be medicated or therapied away would have negative societal consequences?

@tobe-you-tube6612

14 күн бұрын

This is pretty simple. Men are afraid of any life experience a woman could have endured as they label everything outside of a classical path as madness or abnormality. They want the perfect women with the most classical path and random beauty. They want it all random with not a single flaw not a single problem. While they face a problem, none of them have learnt to solve it. Endurance notion have been lost. They will found one hundred reasons to run from each others. Here why relathionships don't last anymore. A classical fight or flight. But Gen Z just as Gen Y do dates. They just don't put any effort to maintain a relationship. Honestly I understand.

@PassifloraCerulea

10 күн бұрын

I'd like to think that my visceral reaction against the modern preoccupation with safety is because I knew at a gut level what it would do to us. And it's everywhere. It even bugs me when people see each other off with, "be safe out there!" or "have a safe trip!"

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

@@tobe-you-tube6612 The first half of your post borders on schizo, highly recommend touching grass tonight.

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

@@PassifloraCerulea While I agree with this whole safety thing being overdone, I'd worry a bit if 'have a safe trip' bothers you. 🤣

@sikeibutler7027

6 күн бұрын

​@@tobe-you-tube6612I can find beauty in almost every women. I think you're just on the internet too much girlie

What I don’t get - If I don’t want children, I won’t make some. I wouldn’t tell others not to have them. So why is telling others what’s right for them more important than just living your choices??

@jrd33

10 күн бұрын

Status. Approval. Affirmation. People get a kick from telling others what they should do. You man not need these things but plenty of other people do.

@tadwiltman4875

9 күн бұрын

Two words: Virtue Signalling

@huey13player

6 күн бұрын

I think it has a lot to do with the pressure from the outside you get to have kids. It's fucking annoying and exhausting. I wouldn't tell someone to not have kids so stop trying to push me into it. From my experience from the outside looking in, people who have kids either make it their entire personality or try to convince you how great it is and they seem like someone who is held hostage. At the end of the day I don't judge them for their choice

Meanwhile, more hospitals are poised to shutter their maternity departments while school districts grapple with the startling decline in student enrollment. Concurrently, there's a documented decline in men's testosterone levels, sperm quality, and counts, averaging about 1% per year across all racial groups. These shifts, among others, are fundamentally altering the landscape of humanity itself. Yet, what's truly unsettling is the conspicuous SILENCE from our media, politicians, and educational institutions on these very critical issues. That silence, above all else, is what should instill fear in ALL of us. A Record Share of Young Adults Will Never Marry - "...it is striking that just 20% of 25-year-old women and 23% of 25-year-old men have ever married today. These are close to the lowest levels ever observed for marriage rates. Many commentators will blame these declines on the increased delay in marriage. While there’s some truth to this, the situation is extreme at higher ages, too. As the figure below shows, ever-married shares today are at historic lows for 35-year-old and 45-year-old men and women. For instance, only about 60% of 35-year-old men are ever-married today, down from 90% in 1980. This trend also suggests that a growing share of Americans will not get married before their healthiest years are long past them." - 2/2024

As a 77 year old now, I think this revulsion and fear of sex and children is the logical result of the “free love” mentality of the 60’s. And that being directly linked to the “feminist” ideology that seemed to invade our minds. Self-serving. Self-promoting. “Can have it all” mentality. My children came 2nd to my agenda and I resented them for “imposing” on me. Because of a change of mind due to seeing this from a Christian perspective, I could accept that those earlier beliefs were like a cancer to our family, and would be deadly to others.

Giving up on dating was the single greatest decision of my life. No worries, more money, no stress, more freedom, best mental health I’ve had in years. Recommend more men do it.

Developing relationships takes time. People wear masks, and until those masks come off, from going through various situations together and seeing who people really are, we are only getting to understand the mask. Time, give it time, take it slow, value honesty - also learn and forgive.

There is also patterns of economic inequality increasing, as well as the level of insecure attatchments in society

Im a Christian in the middle of nowhere in the country. In my church, there’s these gen z girls in their early to mid 20s, I’m early 30s. You better bet, they are dating rich guys from NY, LA and so on. Cant compete with that.

When i was younger i expected to be married with a family and career. I have given up on both. I am aiming at now is a stable job so i can provide for myself and my kitty

How can you say women are being risk averse when hookup culture is bigger than it's ever been?

@jrd33

10 күн бұрын

Because "women" are not a group that all think and act the same? Some women are getting all the sex they can handle and others are terrified of being asked out on a date.

@cuppa_joe

10 күн бұрын

@@jrd33 We wouldn't call today's dating a hookup culture if it wasn't prevalent and if large swaths of people were not participating in said culture. Tired of hearing the same old argument that it's not everyone. No one disputes that. But what if it's a staggering number? A staggering majority?

@Blopusanian

8 күн бұрын

They don’t want to admit women are sometimes just gross. There always has to be some sad reason. Guys are far more risk averse than women.

@duncan18663

3 күн бұрын

It isn't bigger - the amount of sex in society is falling and they are even calling it a sex recession

Because the voice and reach that social media gives the older toxic single females. Makes the radical narrative seem normal and acceptable.

@markcarrell8053

14 күн бұрын

Very good Point. 🤔

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

💯% correct!!

@wtfdtreats

13 күн бұрын

"radical" nah, it's all the same, same as it ever was. 💊

@elinope4745

13 күн бұрын

Society refuses to openly admit that the majority of abuse hurled at women is hurled by older women who are trying to oppress them.

Anything that is mildly uncomfortable will now result in 'trauma'

“It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually. ” ― M. Scott Peck

Way too much critical theory and way too little critical thinking.

@kirkdarling4120

14 күн бұрын

And the two are not the same at all. In fact, Critical Theory requires abandoning critical thinking as its first step.

@Namelbmert

14 күн бұрын

@@kirkdarling4120 That explains the current resident of the white house.

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

​@@Namelbmerthaha true 😂

I did not predict the Internet and social media would have this outcome

@Tyler_W

14 күн бұрын

The problem is that it didn't have to be this way. I don't think this is inherent to the concept of social media. These companies designed them the way they are because that's how they've chosen to drive engagement.

As a man who never wanted wanted. I was convinced by my ex wife to have them and its the best thing I've ever done. Yes it's hard as a single dad, yes I miss out on luxurys and a lot of me time but I would do it again and again and again. I have 3 wonderful kids who bring me so much joy and given the choice of a simple life with my family or a life of social media, drama and fake friends I'll take me and my kids all day, every day. I have zero issues with people not wanting kids. At one point I didn't either but I find it sad that there is people out there trying to influence young people into making the same life choices and stealing the joy of a family away from them.

Social media and its consequences have been a disaster for humanity.

I'm a younger millennial, and I'm always astounded by the number of women who start with "I need to make sure you're not a psychopath/serial killer". How little faith in the male sex do you have that you have a genuine fear of those things?

@TheMohawkNinja

10 күн бұрын

@@user-jl2mx6zr5z Yes. When I used to use Tinder, a large minority of women had that in their profile.

@endoplasmatischesretikulum4999

3 күн бұрын

It's the consumption of true crime stories, leading to those fears

I am an older man living in a major city . When i am in the park, you listen to young women. In particular, you can't help but think God help us, particularly by the total self-assurance they have in their narrow, clechish, ignorant world view.

Your thoughts on Gen Z seeing risk as the devil is so spot on. Risk is life.

The "avoiding risks" talk started around 20 years with teens of the time. It doesn't surprise me, being in my early 30s now, that we're seeing more young ones avoiding relationships and the like. As Freya said, there's enough going on with risk aversion that it makes sense as to why they aren't being in relationships. If everything is through a lens of discomfort, or being afraid of hurting someone's feelings, then yeah... it's not going to end well.

Comportamentos que antes eram comuns num contexto de flerte,agora são considerados como “assédio”, “importunação”, “stalking”, etc. Os homens estão receosos e as mulheres estão paranóicas.

This is wild, my comment that a huge part of this is girls traumatized by corn keeps on getting removed. Guess I can’t be more specific but my guess is this is a huge part of it- stay away from that stuff

@baskey3723

10 күн бұрын

This is true, as a young woman ive explained many times how porn is damaging

I'm turning 38 in June. A part of me wishes I had worked on the game and found a date when I was eighteen in 2004. This was the last era before social media. I fucked up, but more importantly, after the year 2010, I started seeing the changes thanks to the evolution of Instagram.

Sadly, those women are RIGHT - those they feel that strong draw to tend to be exactly the exciting "bad boys" that will hurt them. The men they really should be dating are the ones they threw into the friend zone.

I often wonder if this is all a by product of small families. I have a large family with lots of siblings and cousins, the thought that women or men in general are evil seems odd to me because I see the opposite, but I guess if I only had a handful of family members I might believe all the nonsense that is being fed to me online.

Wait, did Chris actually look at Her/She? What a predator move! Cancelled! NOW!

Excessive fear/concern for risk fosters maladaptation and mental illness. Women can be cowards too. They need to focus on virtues of strength and bravery and consider whether the distortions online and the memetic culture of conditioning is in their self-interest. Obviously, it's not. It's a shame that the Aristotlean concept of 'eudaimonia' isn't in everyday parlance.

This woman is so cool. Really humble and down to earth.

Soon as the word tiktok comes out of someone's mouth I'm out

@LeahBreHappy

14 күн бұрын

Tiktok is no different from instagram, Facebook and twitter.

@Warbr33d

14 күн бұрын

I've never downloaded it. What's it like? Just short videos and lots of propaganda?

@scottysupermoto69

14 күн бұрын

@LeahBreHappy you're wrong. I can interact with my dear grandparents and rest of family on Facebook. Tiktok takes the wrinkles out of your brain

@jonashormann5700

14 күн бұрын

@@LeahBreHappy Instagram has become very tiktok like, twitter is another hell hole, but facebook isn't as bad. Not great either though

@MajesticFerret

14 күн бұрын

It's literally just shortform KZread

I heard from a friend who's taking a Psychology class: the professor asked "What is the thing you are most scared of?" and projected a wordcloud of the answers, the class being mostly composed of young women. "Men" was by a large margin the most common answer. Of course, it was partially satyre, but also not so much: we grew up scared of strangers, and scared of strange men most of all. We're divided and terrified. I think books like "HumanKind: a Hopeful History" by Bregman are needed now more than ever. We must re-establish trust with each other, communities, comraderie, and love. The virtual surrogate can only go so far, and like many modern foods it leaves us starving while we gorge on it.

@TheMotArt

14 күн бұрын

Rather than just trusting again, it's about being trustworthy... Sadly every woman I know have been abused by men in some form. It's not only social media, it's also lived experiences.

@kirkdarling4120

14 күн бұрын

@@TheMotArt Gen Z women and Gen Z men? That's as silly as me (a 70 year-old black man) being as fearful of a white Gen Z man as I was afraid of white men as a child in the 1950s.

@C12341

14 күн бұрын

I don’t think a lot of guys realize how many bad guys are out there and how weird things are dating because of violin t corn. We need to put ourselves in the shoes of others instead of being defensive. Just because a guy is cool with you doesn’t mean he’s not a dog to women.

@rathelmmc3194

14 күн бұрын

Would love to see the correlation of fear of men with lack of fathers in the household. I mean if you’re a woman and you have no positive male role model it’s no surprise you’re afraid.

@sunfish4095

14 күн бұрын

​@@TheMotArtEVERY man I know including myself has been abused by a women as well. Make a choice, move on or wallow in isolation and misery.

Where do you have an adult relationship when you live with your parents because of high housing costs ?

Posting on ticktock that babies are bad , I HV a feeling that girl can't have kids and she is recruiting naive kids with the ability to do so into her life to fill the void, she should just adopt and if she can't then she should keep quiet

@georgealexandermansfield5825

14 күн бұрын

Bucket of crabs mentality.

@KFrost-fx7dt

14 күн бұрын

Or maybe she's just realistic about what children are like. Parenthood is soul crushing labor.

@allanatamba

14 күн бұрын

@@KFrost-fx7dt if I were a girl , all that would matter would be having children and loving husband because the joy that I see on my mother's face every time she is with her 5 kids is unmatched

@rathelmmc3194

14 күн бұрын

Or you just keep your kids off that nonsense. You can teach your kids to be pronatal.

@KFrost-fx7dt

14 күн бұрын

@@allanatamba you are clueless.

Listen, it really is very hard to raise children. I am a stay at home mom and I love my kids more than life, they are my everything but I also understand that real love and compassion is gone in modern women. Our society hates children at this point and I don't think these women should even be around kids, let alone be expected to take care of them. It's better to just not get pregnant in the first place than to abort, which is what most modern women would do. I'm actually really glad so many peoole are choosing not to have kids.

@skyhappy

14 күн бұрын

most parents should not be parents based on my observations. they dont raise their kids with values or critical thinking

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

​@@skyhappyexactly, and that's such a shame. Because soyciety would be in a much better place had that happened.

“The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.” ― M. Scott Peck

In a healthy relationship. She isn't on social media. Big coincidence? I think not.

Maybe…just maybe, participation trophy’s don’t teach you how to deal with losing. Losing in life is experience. When you grow up living life in the gaming world or in TV Land, you’re not really living life. Or experiencing what the world & life teaches you. But, opinions are like a$$holes….everyone has one. 😂

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

Yep true..

What is the end goal of a "meaningful" relationship? It seems to me women use that as an excuse to make increasingly absurd demands, and if her demands start infringing on the man's autonomy via a controlling woman, he's an "abuser" if he doesn't cowtow to the type of relationship she wants like come on. It's literally all about what women want 100% of the time. Garbage water!

@AUniqueHandleName444

9 күн бұрын

I dunno. My wife and I have a pretty great and meaningful relationship. Despite being so incredibly different from me, she makes me feel strangely seen. She's appreciative, deeply appreciative, for everything I do for her, and tries every day to reciprocate my love, as I do for her. She does concern herself with pleasing me, as I concern myself with pleasing her. That's the end goal. To be seen, and supported by, another person as you see and support them. It really is such a powerful, life-changing experience.

"it much harder to date now"... for men

Having children is the most meaningful thing a person can do? Screw that. That attitude is what turns me off talking with parents. There are so many other things to me that are more meaningful than kids.

@jrd33

10 күн бұрын

For most people, having children is the only thing of lasting significance they will achieve. Most people find the idea of legacy more important as they age and their priorities change.

They certainly aren’t afraid of running up the notch count.

@alexandrodl1371

14 күн бұрын

The difference between creep and narcissist is physical. One is instantly spotted, the other after they get dumped. Both instances are men's fault.

@dahliaherrod4301

14 күн бұрын

You're thinking of the Millennial and Gen X population. Gen Z is having the least sex of any recent generations.

@Frederick0220

12 күн бұрын

@@dahliaherrod4301 100%. What he (Alex) says is simply untrue. Gen Z (both genders) have the highest rate of celibacy we've ever seen, especially men, but women as well.

@JSwagy

9 күн бұрын

@@Frederick0220 also to add, as a millennial I notice a very huge disconnect dating wise between myself a millennial and Gen Z's

@Frederick0220

9 күн бұрын

@@JSwagy Yessir!

I'm terrified not because of social media, it is because I had really bad experiences, too many just for me to know I don't want to expose myself to that kind of mistreatment again

@giacomobandini969

14 күн бұрын

oh well, we are not losing much

@sirrys

14 күн бұрын

@@giacomobandini969 You’re being rude to someone because they had bad experience with dating.. Stay classy

@AmiliaCaraMia

14 күн бұрын

Mhm it's tough to want to get back out there and interact with people when things have gone wrong before. One thing that helped me was looking at people's values and why they're doing what they're doing. Best of luck.

@user-og6hl6lv7p

14 күн бұрын

It's very, very common for people to look back at their previous relationship and only view the worst of that person's behaviours and that's predominantly due to the lost attractiveness and the associated shame. Secondly, if you're constantly having terrible experiences with people, it's very likely you're the problem.

@sirrys

14 күн бұрын

@@user-og6hl6lv7p That person probably left *because* they were being treated bad. You’re speaking like a textbook abuser with zero ability to empathize.

Avoiding pain is part of feminist/utopia philosophies - that there’s ‘magical steps’ to paradise on earth. But you’re left in your own hell instead, alone for life

@baskey3723

10 күн бұрын

Not just feminists, its almost the core of our entire society

@jasmineewing3789

7 күн бұрын

who said that was hell? If you can't enjoy your own company how in the world do you expect other people to?

Fear not my friends, everything is exactly as it should be. If it wasn't, things would be different. We're right on course!

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@aussiewanderer6304

14 күн бұрын

They do it because they get paid regardless of view count. It gets funny when you think that in 5 years most of the companies advertised, or the products, won't be around.

2 million subscribers! And 100k views! Congrats!

Society needs realizes that women are more prone to tearing each other down with the guise of being helpful. I'm not trying to sound rude but I'm watching what is happening in the world and we have been prioritizing emotions over facts.

I live in New York, close to a Senior's home. It's almost a hundred percent women (they live longer) and most are broken because they've been cheated on by chads. Good looking women in NYC are insanely unapproachable and I'm afraid most will land up in these homes.

@dahliaherrod4301

14 күн бұрын

Probably because their grandma lives in those old folks homes and told them about the incessant cheating. Who wants to deal with that crap?

@shanepatrick641

14 күн бұрын

​@@dahliaherrod4301😂😂 who hurt you? 😂😂

@quietprocess7403

13 күн бұрын

Good.

@TechWithRonnie

13 күн бұрын

@@dahliaherrod4301 You missed the point. These women shot way out of their league and paid the price - it's wise to be self- aware and not be delusional.

@GermanTaffer

12 күн бұрын

No it gets way way worse. We still have a working society, that cares for these women, but that is getting holed out by this solipsism. Take for example South Korea :Birth rate 0,6 , a huge ideological gap between the genders, a neighbor in the north, that is extremely poor and extremely good manipulatable. What do you expect in 20 years? Humans can live in small groups like the indios , but they can't live in huge towns without massive cultural restrictions, that cut down personal rights. Monogamy developed all over the world, even monogamy is not a biological imperative at all.

to be fair, trauma induced intense chemistry is a psychological fact BUT like any other complicated phenomenon it should be concluded by a qualified person not an online video/tweet or Tiktak

@LongerThanAverageUsername

14 күн бұрын

That sort of nuance is lost or outright rejected on most of the internet.

@kd12345

14 күн бұрын

It's not just trauma-induced. Lovebombing isn't trauma-induced.

Solution Say and do what you feel, as long as it’s respectful and consensual . Risk is fun and exhilarating. To risk nothing is to risk not being alive. Nothing to fear but fear itself ( have you heard that somewhere ?) Easy solution Fail….Fail 90% of time , then Succeed. Failure is part of Success. Now go out there and have a blast. Life is beautiful .

"A lot of the therapy-speak and feminist language is cloaking this deep fear of vulnerability." It's true. Unfortunately people are fine with jumping into bed with eachother, in fact they prefer it that way because the other person never actually gets to know them, which means that that person can never reject them.

I do not buy into what she is saying, I see girls running around in the streets or clubs half nacked like professionals, so there is no terror of getting hurt, they are more or less nacked in the streets.

@baskey3723

10 күн бұрын

You have a skewed veiw of the female population, the vast majority of women are average, working class.

@baskey3723

7 күн бұрын

​@@ruffledsasquatch2943 Jeans and a T shirt with sparkles is sexually revealing? er...

@baskey3723

7 күн бұрын

@@ruffledsasquatch2943 Oh! Yes, I did mis read. (Defensive, you!) I agree tho, as a girl that stuff makes me very uncomfortable, like especially boobs and butts- yuck! I don't think seeing to much skin, it can be weird. But i'm all for free choice anyway. But I guess I probably also live in a more conservative place, so I really have not seen stuff like that in my lifetime. XD Except at the beach, bad parts of town or like the rodeo. Maybe that's why I have a hard time understanding or empathizing with comments like this. I hear like, "women are such and such," and I'm like WOAH that is not average! Maybe its just where i'm from? There is a more strict value system for everyone here. (I am not complaining)

@duncan18663

3 күн бұрын

I agree with you. Women who were really scared would act nothing like our young women do. They also go to the beach with completely bare butts even wandering around the shops like that. In places where girls are genuinely scared the first thing they do is covered their butts around men!

My great grandma had 10 kids, it can’t be THAT dangerous unless humans have changed

@terraflow__bryanburdo4547

14 күн бұрын

They have. Junk food, junk media, junk education, junk culture.

@colRobinOlds

14 күн бұрын

Yea. WHile I'm not a woman and certainly can't speak from the place of experience, it's certainly not as dangerous as those tiktok pages make it out to be, birth is a natural process, it's not THAT bad.

@Ghostrider-ul7xn

14 күн бұрын

People have absolutely changed from your grandma's era. I can tell the difference as someone who was born in the 90s

@wyleecoyotee4252

14 күн бұрын

Your grandma likely had no choice in the matter

@danielbailey5072

14 күн бұрын

@@wyleecoyotee4252 they eloped specifically to have sex… idk, seems like a 2 way street

“We suffer more in imagination than reality.” - Seneca

They'll say a relationship with a guy is too risky, and then go sign up for a mountain climbing trip.