1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be unattractive. 3. Be good looking. SNL advice

@bobkaiser8782

Ай бұрын

I remember that skit. 100% accurate

@Being_Jeff

Ай бұрын

SNL?

@mikemcconnell7800

Ай бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/gqypt82SmcS7k5s.html @@Being_Jeff

@kylethompson1379

Ай бұрын

@@Being_Jeff Saturday Night Live (tv show) [implied - before it was trash, approx. < 2015 CE].

@chriss4365

Ай бұрын

How do you be tall? Women always want this. What do you do if you are under 6 feet look for a woman that is 4 feet tall? They all want a man that towers over them i've seen many couples at the store the man is at least 1 foot taller 95% of the time.

It’s the fear of not only rejection, but public humiliation.

@Lifetimelearningisbrave

Ай бұрын

It’s abandonment trauma from being raised in a facility, it’s peer bonding instead of family bonding which guarantees dependency on what another thinks about you, it’s not learning healthy conflict resolution due to never seeing it modeled, avoidant attachment and the emeshed mother/son relationships are so high on the lists as to why men seek to avoid intimacy (no clue how to be kind and have good boundaries do they choose walls)

@JeansiByxan

Ай бұрын

Lol, from talking to a woman?

@uscbro69

Ай бұрын

@@JeansiByxan you must be older

@JeansiByxan

Ай бұрын

@@nathanielalderson9111 Ok, but talk about skipping ahead. You don't have to marry her to have a beer with her.

@j.alex629

Ай бұрын

@@JeansiByxan As a starting point to see what OP meant, look up on youtube "aba n preach cheesecake factory lady". That's one aspect present on social media covered mostly by women (from what I've seen): complaining about first dates. Coupled with labeling men whom they didn't find attractive as creeps or giving them "icks" (yet those same guys had the courage to try & have a small chat or ask for phone number - and I'm not talking here about genuine "creepy" stuff, but that's what it's labeled as anyway). Setting cameras in gyms while they wear revealing and extremely tight outfits to try & catch the "pervs". Or "better", see something that isn't there (aka trying to make guys look "disgusting" by using the narrative they build inside their minds, no matter what). High expectations about what men should & shouldn't do on first dates. Maybe it's a media type of thing (negative bias reinforcement), but men nowadays rarely feel encouraged to be comfortable in their own masculinity when constantly bombarded with statements like "men are trash", "we don't need men", "toxic masculinity", "to date me, you need a 6 figure salary and over 6 feet tall" etc. The rate of suicide for men is higher. The rate of unemployment for men is higher. More women graduate universities while the pressure of financial security is still put on men. The fear of being seen as weak because you dare share your feelings as a man (I'm seeing a push against that stigma though). Of course I don't believe there are a lot of women thinking like this about men, same as a woman could list a plethora of things that have been & are circulating online that would make her feel insecure of her own value. On both sides, things have been & keep bubbling up. It may be a skewed perception, things may not even be as ubiquitous as they're being portrayed, but that's what a lot of men see happening to them, or to other men. And media is quite vocal. Unless you're privileged either by genetics or social/financial status, some or most of these negative aspects will be present in men's lives. I'd also recommend Wendover's Productions video "The System that Fuels Media Negativity" for a general idea of what I mean. And to cover regular things uploaded by people themselves... well how often do people gossip about positive things lol. Feels pretty neat though to point at X and say "look, it's bad amirite?" and have people acknowledging that. Also RIP private life when one has a social media account. Rather than, you know, ask family and friends for advice, why not ask the general public (whose backgrounds, mindset and life experiences they'll never know from being crammed into one "quirky" sentence in the reply section) to say what they should do. One small argument? "Leave that crusty ass", "You're better off alone, girl", "Why are you with him again?". What is to gain from hearing ONLY A HALF side of the argument, rather than seeking validation? Want a more extreme version of this? It's a story I still hope from the bottom of my heart to be false, look up another video from Aba n Preach "Wife Of The Year. Betrayal Worse Than Cheating". It's not about an audience's reaction here, but admittedly about real life friends perception from the wife's side of the story. I hope you'll get what I'm trying to say with the parallels. The reason why I listed all the things above that at a first glance might not appear to be directly linked to your question (alas, some are also coming from different stages of a relationship) is to paint a picture for what a man sees when he looking around so many negative scenarios other men have been in and tells himself "why bother". Yes, in that mind it all starts at the beginning with that intention of asking a girl/woman out. So not only is it still socially EXPECTED for men to take the first steps, but if they're not liked back and/or fail there's a good chance their attempt will be made fun of in front of millions of people?! And when that man might also have a low self esteem, now this ain't helping. There are so many aspects that can be listed, it's not even funny. It's ok to have biases and preconceptions, but it's just sad rather than despite that & to still try and judge people on a case by case basis... there's a lot of effort put into this gender war instead. Unless people of all ages caught in this heavily mediatized propaganda of demonizing the other side realize they need each other and play off of their strengths to make a relationship work, there are going to be heavy consequences in the future. It's easy to hate, because it takes a lot more effort to try to understand and just... talk. A bit of an essay here, but hope it paints a better picture since I went a bit beyond the fear of public humiliation men have from talking to women. It doesn't happen overnight.

If you're attractive they'll like it, if you're not attractive they won't like it.

@hahamasala

Ай бұрын

Not just attractive, unreasonably attractive and tall.

@johnthedespicabledutchman7406

Ай бұрын

L.O.L...Nailed it 100%.

@rejectionisprotection4448

Ай бұрын

And that's a problem? You wouldn't approach them if they WEREN'T attractive would you?

@UzitheSaint

Ай бұрын

@@rejectionisprotection4448I think it’s different levels to this. Sure men care about how a woman looks but it really doesn’t take much for a man to be attracted to a woman, like she doesn’t have to check every box. Men just aren’t as picky as women, we can see this in nature, that’s just what it is but I think with social media it’s been kinda heightened in a sense where it’s kinda getting ridiculous. But please know that not all women are like this. I think a lot of men are just feeling like dating, courting just feels like a grueling job interview at times

@Daemonette_

Ай бұрын

​@@UzitheSaintAbsolutely not. Men will openly without a warning pin point all your flaws no matter how small. The lack of empathy makes is easier for them to critique non stop. While women are out there dating Jaba the hut looking fellows because " they have a good heart " or " potential". Even the most hideous creature believes that he deserves a VS model after a woman gives him a chance. Their ego is unmatched.

Mid 30’s millionaire woman in fitness can’t find a man. Don’t make me laugh she has 10’s of thousands of options. Her demands and standards must be ludicrous.

@sephiroth1234

Ай бұрын

He must be a 7ft11 trillionaire with 12 pack abs though, who's an entrepreneur, professional athlete, must be empathetic and kind, but also an ex-convict because she has a thing for bad boys.

@Being_Jeff

Ай бұрын

Or her emotional insecurities or social conditioning might be ludicrously distorted.

@eriamhsl3841

Ай бұрын

Likley equivalent to her percieved worth.

@cosmopolitanbay9508

Ай бұрын

Hypergamy at its best!

@contracthit9839

Ай бұрын

Chris is overly sympathetic to women..It's astounding Chris is not called out on his bias...

"That's the creep that approached me yesterday, on the street. What a loser." That's why.

@Aaa-dv3oi

Ай бұрын

Tbh you need practice and if she says that okay, you gained experience. Also I understand that but a) most girls don’t use loser in their vocabulary, and b) if they do say that, they are not girls that deserve anyone for that matter it’s insecurity showing. At most they would show pity

@nickbarber2080

Ай бұрын

@@Aaa-dv3oi Meanwhile in the real world....

@andrebaxter4023

Ай бұрын

@@Aaa-dv3oi, facts.

@Jeremy-ql1or

Ай бұрын

How tall was the guy? I ask because that might not have been just "creepy"; that could have been legitimate sexual assault if he was 5'10" or shorter.

@murphsviews

Ай бұрын

Diddums.

Just be charming, just be funny, just be confident, just be good looking, as if it's like putting on a different coat.....

@dany1441

18 күн бұрын

And even if you could, what would you have achieved?

Here's what I don't understand. It's 2024. Men and women are equal. If men aren't to approach women, women need to step up and approach the men they're interested in.

@NICHS1994

Ай бұрын

Yes, though “equality” is not real, and woman generally are not going to approach men.

@j.davila4523

Ай бұрын

Men and women aren’t equal and they will never be… that doesn’t mean they can’t be treated fairly…the both of them.

@Elle44289

Ай бұрын

Bring of equal value and being allowed to work does not mean women and men don't have innate differences. Two things that are different can be of equal value. Women still in innately want men to be masculine and want to able tobe in a feminine state.

@jackphantom

Ай бұрын

@@Elle44289 . It's 2024. Men and women are equal. If men aren't to approach women, women need to step up and approach the men they're interested in. You cannot say "don't approach women" and also argue men approach women.

@Elle44289

Ай бұрын

@@jackphantom men should approach women. Dont be pansies.

Modern relationships are not worth the risk. Men have realized this, and have checked out. You can’t expect a man to dedicate his life to someone who is only there because of what you provide in the moment.

@Alvaro_Litti

Ай бұрын

Exactly, I am never going to marry without a prenup 😂

@colewoleydathird

Ай бұрын

This is exactly what it is…my dad doesn’t understand that after 4-5 failed relationships at 24years old I’m so damn tired of trying to provide for someone that doesn’t want to grow with you. Yeah I’m not exactly where I want to be in life but I work hard everyday trying to figure this world out. These modern women will not stick around in your tough times and if they do… hold on to them…tightly

@amandafortin640

Ай бұрын

Im a woman, and I agree with this. I don't expect a man to take care of me in anyway. I do expect a partnership where we care for each other equally (maybe in different ways, as men and women are different) but an equally engaging loving relationship. Men deserve to know that they will get what they put in. And any woman who is looking for someone who will only "provide" for her deserves nothing when the relationship ends. I offered to sign a prenup with my boyfriend, we're not getting married but we are buying a home together, but the majority of the financial portion is coming from him. The only part that will be mine is what I eventually end up putting in to it. That's it.

@natnat_o3

Ай бұрын

lmao you offered because you're a sucker or you know you're not attractive enough to say no @@amandafortin640

@soulmood7777

Ай бұрын

It’s 2024…most women are out earning men, that’s why we’re rejecting men in droves…the only thing that kept us around were patriarchal norms that didn’t allow women to take care of themselves, now that we can we really don’t want to be bothered with men….and we’re out pacing men in education…men need a “software update” the version of men that exist large scale are outdated and incompatible with the modern woman

I’m 46 and all I’ve ever had from women is lies, demands, criticism, drama, and heartbreak. I’m 6’3, handsome, home owner, business owner, 6 figure income, NW almost £1.5m, they almost always bring very little to the table, but yeah, I need to do better 🤷🏻‍♂️

@orsolyabende8101

Ай бұрын

Probably it is something else whats wrong not the things you have listed above. Could be a personality trait or sg. And it might not even be you...

@KorisnickoIme84

Ай бұрын

Maybe you attract leechers or something..

@Being_Jeff

Ай бұрын

Maybe you're using all those traits to subconsciously and unknowingly manipulate them, if so they will return the favour and females are the masters of manipulation, don't know if you've read it but I can recommend feeling good together by Dr. D Burns.

@lobsterbisque7567

Ай бұрын

@bdoubleeb3039 I've had the same experience with them as well. I came to the same conclusion 16yrs ago and went MGTOW. It was the best decision I ever made. Protect Yourself from these harpies, You've done extremely well for Yourself, and they deserve absolutely no benefits from Your hard work whatsoever! Stay Safe out there!

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

@@orsolyabende8101 Have you seen the average woman these days?

I knew exactly what Chris was going to say at 9:57, and he's right. Hell, I don't even go to the gym anymore. I work out 5-6 days a week at home.

@Sheyshel

Ай бұрын

Porn has ruined it for all of us. Men and women.

@mormegil84

Ай бұрын

​@Sheyshel More so video games as far as my own personal experience is concerned, but yeah, I'm in complete agreement with you.

@BryJovi17

Ай бұрын

Everything in moderation. It only ruins it if the real life experience is not worth taking the risk for. Given EVERYTHING that women have been saying about men how they can instantly just create false accusations out of thin air against any man whenever they feel like doing so with the ultimate risk to man of destroying his entire life, i.e. Ruining his career and alienating him from his friends and family, men have chosen video games and porn because it's the logically superior option, at the moment, until women, the justice system and society's almost automatic guilty until proven innocent stance for men changes. I only video game from time to time, I limit my porn to when I actually need to relieve myself maybe once or twice a week now (which is not excessive or any more or less than the typical sexual activity of a couple in their 30s, I'm 35). I last went on my PS5 properly at around Christmas time and recently went on it twice in the last 3 weeks. What I have been doing is socialising a LOT and watching films to wind down. I have a fantastic career and I'm now in the top 10-15% of UK earners for ALL ages. Do you really think I want to jeopardise that by approaching a random woman I know NOTHING about at all, with regard to her character, the sort of social circle she has, what she's done in the past, what she could do to me in any negative way when the fact of the matter is is that she has less risks to face than me? It's highly likely she will be earning less money than me, her career won't be as advanced and given that I'll be in a public place with people always around the risk to her of anything negative is almost minimal. Even if I get rejected I just have to politely walk away and try again and we both carry on our lives. The only women I ever have approaching me are single Moms, and this is because fundamentally they are desperate, and/or want a guy helping financially support them and/or just simply want to have fun because they've already had their kids and don't want any more. It is a really really REALLY tragic state of affairs we live in right now and I'm sorry but most of the burden here is on women to stop being negative and so dishonest and actually being optimistic and genuine with guys again for the sake of all of humanity. We can't go on like this.

@Vilify3d

Ай бұрын

@@BryJovi17I’m spreading this comment around like wildfire. Preach. We will not be silenced.

@BryJovi17

Ай бұрын

@@Vilify3d It's a necessary evil in the current climate I'm afraid. Men did not create video games or porn out of curiosity, they did it through technological advances when humanity was actually thriving and men and women lived in pretty good harmony. The anecdote of how Bill Gates asked his future wife on a date shouldn't ever be considered creepy, in fact the opposite. As one of the founding members of Microsoft and CEO, he voluntarily sacrificed his time for his baby (effectively because he built it from the ground up) just so that there was time to go on a date with her. The man didn't have a free slot for THREE WEEKS yet she thought that was unreasonable, so he went above and beyond to make her happy. Women literally have no idea they're born today, the entire world has been built to protect them and carry on the human race. If it hadn't, we simply wouldn't be here right now having this conversation, would we? Because humans would have died off a long long time ago if men didn't care about protecting women.

"The next" mindset in society today is damaging relationships. As it often prevents individuals from addressing the underlying issues within their current relationships. Instead of confronting challenges, communicating effectively, and resolving conflicts, people may simply opt to move on to the next relationship in hopes of finding something better. Just to end up right back what they left.

They're too afraid of being rejected or just not interested in the women available

@Matt-iz8wf

Ай бұрын

I always looked at it as if I don't talk to them it's automatically ,NO. If I do, it could be YES.

@adamd4306

Ай бұрын

Not interested in the woman available, most are man bashing feminists or Botoxed up clones 🤡🤮

@alaalfa8839

Ай бұрын

Everything is about mindset.... So young men and women should not allow the world to influence their mindset in un-healthy ways. For example, television or even social media not always show healthy programs, they want to sell something. It´s interesting that spiritual people or some of my religious cousins have very positive, humble, joyful marriages, They have always smile on their faces, as they probably know what is important in life, family, good meal, good conversations with family members, enjoying guitar, or some hobby, music, sport or going on trip etc. Some of them have kids that are currently adults as well. tHeir kids are exacty copy of their parents, very decent and humble, creative smart. But hope that future kids will not be parented with phones in hand.

@alaalfa8839

Ай бұрын

As some say we have human self and spiritual self and human self has very different laws and values, than the spiritual self. The spiritual self is more about, love, gratitude, empathy, ethics, humor, values, joy, bliss, creativity etc

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

​@@Matt-iz8wfIf men didn't have wills and initiative, our species would've never evolved. If everything depended on her, nothing would exist.

I’ll just go play golf instead. 😂

A bigger problem is do men even want to pursue women anymore? The fact that she can make any interaction positive or negative and the consequences can be destructive is enough to at minimum use caution. Too many with mental issues to pick ones who are sane. It has become unbearable to involve them in your life

Why should men improve when marriage has been ruined? Fix the institution of marriage and men will rise to the task automatically.

@ErezElene

Ай бұрын

And how exactly should one "fix" the institution of marriage? Besides abolishing coveture laws, which was clearly a good thing, what even has changed about marriage as an institution? I think the problem is people marrying unprepared or not taking it seriously enough.

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

@@ErezElene Just prevent no-fault divorce, like how it was in the past, and add some punishment for infidelity. Done. Bettina Arndt and Karen Straughan did a lot of research on this. Do you know anything about history? People used to marry as teens and would have very happy life-long marriages.

@ErezElene

Ай бұрын

@AkiRa22084 That's not fixing marriage, that's fixing divorce laws. And yes, I've read history--I guarantee more than you have. Happy marriages, especially between teenagers, were the minority. You need to take off your rose colored glasses.

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

@@ErezElene Divorce is a failure of marriage. Fixing divorce laws fixes marriage. Are you okay? Why are simple concepts difficult for you to grasp? Why are you letting your evil ideology blind you? You have no clue about history. Most marriages were extremely happy, due to GSA and a lack of rumination.

Based on these comments and the comments on other similar podcasts it just seems like straight men and straight women really don't like one another. That must be very difficult.

@cosmopolitanbay9508

Ай бұрын

80/20%

@mormegil84

Ай бұрын

We're basically in an extreme version of battle of the sexes and it's amplified by social media and KZread. I don't know if it can be healed.

@Mgtowfreedom

Ай бұрын

got nothing to do with not liking them, got everything to do with understanding them

@Elle44289

Ай бұрын

Mgtow men hate women

@hyberkonawa272

Ай бұрын

I still love women but I still don't understand what they want.

You know that meme where a guy sees some self defense move online and then tries it out IRL and is instantly in heaven? Thats what guys see when approaching females today, but it's instant jail 😂

I met my husband on online dating back in 2010 when it was still a friendly, new, exciting way to meet someone (that's my experience, anyway)... fast forward 12 years later, a painful divorce, and then going back to online dating... it's gotten so incredibly toxic... I've been ghosted, scam profiles, treated like dirt, sexted so much... I'm not even attractive and I'm always branded as "too nice" despite men stating they want someone genuine... turns out to be just bullshit to get a woman to reach out... we're not stupid!! I'm *very* lucky to have found a lovely, genuine man who I am building a connection and relationship with now.

@user-rc8zv9em4s

Ай бұрын

It’s the men you pick. I support young people in the leaving care industry. All the young ladies are only interested in drug dealing bad boys. The so called “toxicly masculine men”

@C12341

Ай бұрын

When I started reading the comment I felt really bad for you so I’m glad to see the plot twist that you did eventually find someone. Wishing you both the best. Yeah dating apps are very dystopian and callous at this point

I think the question is flawed to some extent because of the focus of it. Men have been told to be better forever and they have improved and kept up on many levels. Today's men are more civilised than ever before for example and more educated than ever before on broad issues. But rather than focus on that at what point is it unrealistic to ask men to be better and better and better and perhaps acknowledge that something else is going wrong in our culture today.

@mormegil84

Ай бұрын

Yeah. After a while, men need to tell themselves that they are enough. Society, the economy, and dating are just really messed up right now.

@zyberworld

Ай бұрын

Could it be people waking up to the manipulation of the ruling "elite"? Even under Chris's sedation theory is it not possible to be aware of exactly whats going on and act accordingly? We have been in the information age for a while and truth does come to light but we talk about censorship like its the weather and repeat it like we're clever.

@Islander185

25 күн бұрын

I hear all the time that men have to be better, I just end up thinking that I will never be enough. If I'm never going to be enough why try finding anyone?

Can I just say that I LOVE how articulate, nuanced, and respectful you guys are when talking about the relationship between the sexes? It's SO refreshing to hear two normal people talking about real issues without blaming one side or the other

@shakespeare009

Ай бұрын

Nobody is blaming any side. We men don't want to approach anymore. I thought we were equals now to women. Women need to start to approach.

This was the video I needed to see… I’m going to ask out this girl I work with let’s gooo😬😂🙏

@Matt-iz8wf

Ай бұрын

Is it a job you don't care to lose? I have done that before and when we broke up a couple months later the work place was bad. I had to quit. Hope it works for you.

@Sheyshel

Ай бұрын

@@Matt-iz8wf Let this man be a man

@Matt-iz8wf

Ай бұрын

@@Sheyshel I am just saying that you might want to think about it. I use to ask out all kinds of women. It's good for men builds confidence. Just think about the consequences of where and when.

@AnthonyCivitate

Ай бұрын

@@Matt-iz8wf No I really don’t think my job would care plus we’re in different departments (areas of the place) anyway. Yea, It’s new in the way that only the past 2 weeks she’s been beautiful (she’s Hispanic doesn’t speak the best English) but about half the time in passing there’s some shy eyes 🙈 (flirty eyes?) it’s just always in passing cause my department is usually busy or the other way around plus there’s a bit of a communication gap and the times I’ve tried to talk if we are it’s job oriented and we’re both smily but the communication gap fs there😂. Any thoughts 💭

@pipita_simz

Ай бұрын

These days you might be even accused of serial assault for asking a lady out in the work place or anywhere for that matter.

I dream of being a house husband, it's very hard to find a partner who will work to support "us' like it was in the 70s & 80s, she can go off to work 40 hour weeks while I keep the home in check, dream come true... The main problem being one salary can't support one person these days, let alone two people... let alone two people and some kids. Where does it all end ?

@ErezElene

Ай бұрын

I wish there were more men like you my age. I haven't met any guy so far who would be comfortable with being a house husband while I go out to work 40 hrs, which I'd really like. Heck, I haven't even met any guys who'd be willing to be the stay at home parent even one day a week--they think parenting their own kids is emasculating or something smh.

So for anyone you doesn't have Chris' looks and money... try his suggestions and see how far you get.

@ayowser01

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

I can't really speak for everyone but I do think that generally women don't actively look for men/dates/sex in night clubs.

@jyyyb

Ай бұрын

Used too , but those times are long gone

@Redflowers9

Ай бұрын

Where do they look for sex then?

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

What are thy doing there then? What's the point of those horrible places?

@sczr1186

Ай бұрын

@AkiRa22084 Attention. They still need men to turn down to keep their self-esteem afloat.

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

@@sczr1186 Yeah, that does seem to be it.

The only way to win is to not play. Don't cold approach, let them get to know you first through normal interaction. Let her become comfortable with you first so her guard can come down. Don't listen to these Chads, they have no idea what us regular guys have to go through.

@botany500kojak

Ай бұрын

I thought the guy asking the questions sounded like a chump.

No thanks, even though I’m only 39, whenever I feel like getting back into dating, I just go polish my Porsche one more time, knowing the reason I got it is because I didn’t waste time and money with women and instead invested in my own business!

I have never dated, and I will never date or have any relationship there is no point fo it. Edit: Why is always the man's fault?

@contracthit9839

Ай бұрын

That is why these 2 gentlemen have no credibility they don't assess the female role in this equation !

I'm Danish and have spoken to several Danish women about this. Many have said that they as alpha women don't want any man to approach them at all. They are tired of having men chasing them and if they are interested in a man, they will approach him. I as a beta male do not approach women, but have women approach me. I don't care if certain old school minded people have an issue with my behavior, but I'm into "reverse polarity" and female led relationship with the woman being more alpha than me. In 2024 in Denmark I luckily have options because we've got so many alpha females who opt for beta males rather than the stereotype macho man.

In 1990 I met my future husband in a nightclub. We spotted each other, ended up kissing without even speaking, had sex in a park then went our separate ways after swapping land line numbers. We are still together and happily married today. We equally had an attraction and then built on getting to know each other over time. We have a brilliant sex life still in our 50’s. It’s sad to hear young people now struggle to make connections and maintain relationships. It’s such a basic human instinct and need like food and oxygen. Like most things now people make too much of a big deal about it. If you fancy someone just go for it and be more proactive. Try and meet in real life situations and forget the Apps ❤

@xx_mojat_xx

Ай бұрын

That is a nice anecdote, but I doubt that was even common back then let alone today.

@giveitatry951

Ай бұрын

Thats feels like it is/was a 1 in a million experience. Some cant even dream about something like that.

@KorisnickoIme84

Ай бұрын

So your advice for women is to have sex with a guy straight after ''meeting'' him?

@orangeblue3531

Ай бұрын

You should be a Hollywood Rom Com screenwriter

@user-ex6nd8dq8w

Ай бұрын

Back then as today, what you did, i..e meeting a man in a nightclub, kissing him without even having spoken, and going out to have sex in the park, ends up in 99,999% in just that : a random Saturday night out hook-up. Not in marriage. Your anecdotal case is thus so rare that it should not be even mentioned. You would not want your daughter to start trying to meet men like that, for sure. Forgetting the apps, is one thing for sure, but hooking-up randomly with total strangers is even worse than the apps.

LOL. Message to us men: Dont stand close to her, in a dark alleyway, and stare at her without saying anything… 😂😂😂 Very true, and hilarious as well. This is psychopathic behavior guys, just dont do it!!

I'm glad I have game. It's so easy😂

I always knew i was a "strange" woman. I have no problem making the first move 🤣

Super intresting conversation aswell as very good insight.

How often do we hear men nowadays saying i want a feminine woman, who will marry, have my children, look after the home....for life...and as soon as they have this, they re prowling the internet looking for the exact opposite because they re bored. Men dont know what they want? Women have also, however, lost their feminity, their love of feminine qualities. ( childbirth, agreeableness etc)

@spark300c

Ай бұрын

non rational men do not know what they want. If leave because they bored mean they non rational type and people focused personality. I am intp male. I never said I want feminine women but tomboyish women. reason being I feel more likely to get along with that kind of women. Women not lost their feminity because most of them still act like women. Instead the toxic feminine qualities have increased. An intp male never leaves a relationship if he is bored. Instead he leaves because there is too much drama.

Oh boy... this is going to get juicy. The comments on this video will be gold

Truth be told, I just never know what women are available. I mean sure, you could just spray and pray dates at every woman in your vicinity but that kinda builds a bad rep for you. Focus your efforts towards a couple and you find out like, at least 80% of them are taken. I still try of course, but it's just never been easy.

@sczr1186

Ай бұрын

Good luck out there champ...Just remember, you missed the golden era of dating pre social media and internet, and you are now blessed with the struggle that is courting/dating the modern woman. Enjoy.

To be honest, unless you are seen as attractive and/or loaded, it is seen as inappropriate. The majority of relationships have become extremely transactional, the traditional system is broken. Men do not have to face the risk of being hash tagged when they can transact to get the physical interaction. 80+% of women want the top 10-20% of men (rated on their socio-economic status).

It's interesting how these two keep missing the hypergamy point on various videos. Because they are afraid to call out women. The issue is if youre of higher socioeconomic status with refined social skills or old you can talk to women...if not youre a creep. Yet women dont place such restrictions on other women. Women can be low status, poor social skills, unattractive and they can talk to other women without being creepy. Untill women start to treat men with the equality they give other women this problem will continue. THAT'S the real issue here.

@user-rc8zv9em4s

Ай бұрын

They want to keep their channels unbanned whilst pretending to actually know or care of the plight of issues men face.

I know a few women who have kids, are with a husband...they still work a lot. Especially in this economy. Both parents for the most part HAVE TO WORK. Have to. So you're single...it's a problem. Single house holds...a problem. Even people with kids and relationships "marry" are likely to end in divorce. People struggling. 😅 So what's worse? Kids...divorce...single? Single....single...single?

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

You only "have to" work if you live in an expensive neighborhood.

@user-co7ph1rm9z

Ай бұрын

@@AkiRa22084 lol are you a kid? In the US, both parents have to work because it is expensive to maintain children and a home. It doesn't matter what neighborhood you're from.

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

@@user-co7ph1rm9z Move to Europe then. And there are rural places in murica that are cheap to live in. Women have the privilege to marry someone rich. Men do not have that option.

It’s always been difficult to approach women, I remember 40 years ago encouraging a friend to approach a woman in a bar, it went like this, him “Hi I …..”, her “F*ck off you little creep”, 😂here’s a tip for anyone really struggling, play the numbers game, ask 15 women across different bars or clubs for their phone number, almost all will decline, some of them rudely, but one or two of them will give you their number , don’t be drunk, just be kind and friendly, used to work all the time for me back in the day, but it only works if you make the effort to ask!, so in short 1.ask, 2.numbers. thankfully I have been happily married for years so haven’t had to bother but just saying, it’s always been difficult to meet someone, today’s struggles are nothing new.

@botany500kojak

Ай бұрын

I would have said to her after her insult, I am here asking if you have finished cleaning the toilets yet, not to try and pick you up.

I don’t think I have much experiential overlap with this guy considering he’s basically a male model 😂😅

Can’t be two grown men have less understanding of the issues than Pearl Davis. Come on guys, wtf

@botany500kojak

Ай бұрын

It sounded like a chump asking questions.

It’s good to understand that women have been on guard and defending their lives, their personal freedoms since they were born, they come into this world, having a weaker body then when they get older, they realize they do have a super power their sensuality. But most women want to use that to get a husband and love their husband and their husband is supposed to protect them. They don’t use that on every man that would make them evil. If you see a wedding ring on a woman’s finger don’t talk to her or flirt with her that makes you evil and she knows that right off the bat as soon as you talk to her she knows you’re from the devil and you’re no good you’re not even worth her time , a guy like that should know that there are men in this world much better than they are they have better character, integrity, honesty, wisdom, honor. a good man don’t mess with a woman that’s married or taken or engaged a good man don’t go out, trying to hurt other men by messing with their women that woman found her man don’t tempt her out of that relationship because women unfortunately can be easily tempted, and that’s a sad truth

@cascade00

Ай бұрын

Yes, decent comment. Also never mess with a married man or man with girlfriend + kids. Financial shortages can cause him to think of how much better life could be untethered and with a decent woman. Never messing with a married man will save you a whole bunch of drama and heartache.

@user-ex6nd8dq8w

Ай бұрын

@@cascade00 For ages above 30, plenty of women actually prefer married women, because they are pre-selected, tested.

@user-ex6nd8dq8w

Ай бұрын

You claim that women don't use their super-power of sexuality to every man and that they want to use that power to find a husband. That is most definitely not correct. While they don't want to use it on every man out there merely targeting specific men, in practice when they dress the way they dress in public and when they behave the way they behave (e.g. in nights out, in gyms etc.) they radiate their sexuality to every single man out there. And even in terms of numbers, most women in the western world have a very increased body count to the point that in the majority of marriages today the wife has a higher body count than the husband if we do not count professional women (e.g. prostitutes etc.). Women most definitely are not into marriage, they are not striving to find a husband but only at the very last moment before menopause hits, just to have their 1 and a half kid. This is not an opinion. This is a fact measured by governmental statistics.

The line between the two is that most men are not trying to force their agenda on all mankind.

Women should try to be more approachable too.

First things first: men grab onto their car keys too. We too, feel fear when walking back home at night, and some shady figure is going to cross our path. This is so obvious, it feels ridiculous to have to mention it. It's like women's advocates have never spent 1 second in their life thinking about men's experience and they've never asked any guy what his experience is like.

Nobody knows what the social rules are anymore.They also don't know how to behave like adults. Not all the women approached by Weinstien capitulated, there's always a costs for holding your ground in situations involving powerful men with influence.I fully agree with Chris on the young male hypothesis I would also add drugs like marijuana to the list of sedatives.Brave new world stuff.

There are no unattractive lines but unattractive males. The difference between flirting and being charged with sexual harassment depends on how hot the guy is.

@JadeElouise

Ай бұрын

Just treat us like humans instead of acting like we're something else 🤗

@rimiserk8277

Ай бұрын

@@JadeElouise lol

@dmarie2231

Ай бұрын

That's a bunch of BS.

@Pink_Torch

Ай бұрын

OP: Why don't you try being her friend first? Women want a man she feels safe with and can trust.

@AkiRa22084

Ай бұрын

@@Pink_Torch Why would you friend-zone yourself on purpose? Wives of criminals do not agree with you on what women want.

The risk is too great. A woman can blindly accuse a man of anything. Crimes and false parentage is how bad it is

It's a good analogy that porn has sedated men against women but an even better one I think is it's inoculated them against women

1:28 : You can put that on an experiment on your channel and see if does work.

I think streaming adult content is high across the board have you looked at the studies via generations the hook up culture is a prime indicator of that and how much it’s affecting people and mindsets generally. People only become serious about settling down in mid to late 20s if that. Social and communication skills aren’t great and people don’t go out to parks or community events, play sports. How many people watch a huge amount of Netflix, play Xbox games, chat online. Covid people had to isolated themselves well they kind of still are in a way.

These guys think men are stupid because of small group snobbs

Chris kind of gets what's like. Steve has got no idea though. So many young boys and men out there who are really suffering and nobody cares or wants to help turn it around. Post-MeToo dating and Young Male Sedation are only the tip of the iceberg Chris...

@perzonne6302

Ай бұрын

Right he's acting like the world's just gonna fix itself out of....good will? The female/feminist dreamworld is a bee colony, where 98% of men have zero romance/intimacy and stay invisible quietly working keeping our infrastructure afloat, while the majority of women get access to the 2% of men. And obviously this is a dream scenario for elites in power too, with no disruptive men challenging their position. I see no incentive that would push back against this outcome. No reason why women and those in power wouldnt continue to design this sweet ideal

55,000 views and only 1600 likes? Come on people. Support the channel.

Lads, sound off- when was the last time you met a woman who did NOT have one or more of the following? -phone addiction -alcohol addiction -vape addiction -credit/debt addiction -hasn't cracked a book since school -zero practical money-saving skills I'm pretty good at talking to women but I'm routinely disappointed. Last woman i met was 35, unemployed, believed in volcano magic and thought she could manifest a house in Hawaii. Is it really men who need to change?

@PerspicaciousMindset

Ай бұрын

Yes, because like attracts like. The women you attract is a refelection of you

@aaronlandis7929

Ай бұрын

@@PerspicaciousMindset This was at a large public event, nothing but a friendly conversation. I attract a wide range of people because I'm tall, strong, confident and well dressed. There are intelligent and worthwhile women, but they are few in number. Those are the ones I date but it takes months to years to find one. Got another swing in ya, little guy?

@PerspicaciousMindset

Ай бұрын

@@aaronlandis7929 Yeah ofcourse you're not gonna find anyone with that attitude bro

@aaronlandis7929

Ай бұрын

@@PerspicaciousMindset Such a substantive rebuttal! Truly my life is brighter after contact with your lucent mind. Simply incredible!

@PerspicaciousMindset

Ай бұрын

@@aaronlandis7929 You posted a comment on this channel 5 months ago about why you are so good, so strong etc. Maybe you just literally have shitty personality and that might be your reason (what no one will tell you online).

Yeah, if Chris looked like Ron Jeremy I bet he would have a very different outlook about society and dating. Thing are objectively skewed against men, doesn't take effort to notice.

Dopamine is the main driver here. With all you can eat buffet for gal videos in a pocket, addicts don’t even know they are addicted and their behavior has been hacked.

@SelenaSea

Ай бұрын

Succinctly said! It's like we've all been drugged by dopamine and also sedated by social media, as per Chris's point from @11:11.

Or, you can just avoid women all together, go fishing, and not end up in jail on some false harassment charge.

@Daemonette_

Ай бұрын

Incels avoiding women is a blessing. Be true to your word!

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

​@@Daemonette_ Says the women crying on camera all over the internet.

Hey Chris! I think you and Thai Talk with Dan should talk! He is so lovely! You will like him, I promise!

I asked my husband out and he' did not pick up on my direct signals before that lol

@Matt-iz8wf

Ай бұрын

Cause your signals were not direct. I get it girls don't want to be seen as slutty so your signals are weak and most men just think you are being nice. We call it being forward but I think it's just being honest. We all need to learn to get offended by actions not words.

@illustrious1

Ай бұрын

Hahaha direct signals hahahahaha

@bign1667

Ай бұрын

You're clearly sending signals on the wrong frequency if he didn't acknowledge or recieved it 😅

@bilders6701

Ай бұрын

@@illustrious1 Direct meaning that time she showed delight in a common interest. Why didn't that idiot pick up on it?!

@lilopygaming3218

Ай бұрын

Commendable action. So glad it worked out well for you in the end

Men ARE approaching women in person - in the gym, for instance. I was getting approached mostly at the END of my training when I THOUGHT I looked disgusting, drained and sweaty. I was in my forties, btw. So guys DO approach when they are attracted to or impressed by what they see! They take their "chances" when they believe they are have a shot. Point is, if they think a woman's out of their league, or below it, they usually DON'T approach. Guys who take care of themselves and have confidence go after what they want.

@sircefiro

Ай бұрын

Not sure where you are but that's not the case where I am, single guys I know are done with it and married guys I know say if they split they're done too. I suppose because I'm just there to do my own thing if a girl approaches me I'm pretty cold, not nasty or anything, just don't try and keep it going, I'd say most of the women interested in me think I'm an asshole now haha

@elisabeth4342

Ай бұрын

@@sircefiro It has NOTHING to do with WHERE I trained. Maybe I did impressive stuff or looked like a competitive female bodybuilder or professional fitness model!! Guys respect women who are physically strong and attractive at the same time!! It sounds like you already know what to do... If you're not interested in the women approaching you, act cold, don't smile and be COMPLETELY FIXATED on your training. You'll discourage anyone trying to approach you.

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

Stop lying.

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

@@sircefiro Finally, someone with functional eyes & ears.

@elisabeth4342

Ай бұрын

@@asparrow9876 Maybe they put me in the WRONG code/algorithm.

Why bother, damned if you do and damned if you don't. It's the same reason men aren't sticking up for women anymore either, why bother?

@bribri1657

Ай бұрын

Exactly why I'm 39 no kids and monk mode

Repeat after me guys. It’s all his fault.

Steve, I’m so glad that you corrected him on the Harvey situation because he is a monster! 😮 who would want to entertain a man like that?

Two interviewers with similar haircuts, facial hair, black t-shirts, developed biceps, watches on their left wrists excellent communication skills chatting. One is wearing a neck chain. Good interview ... I'm just saying.

The defeatist attitude a lot of young guys have around relationships does not bode well. There are too many excuses and generalisations that are becoming beliefs. You create your reality.

Your title is erroneous. I was approached by a man at the grocery store this week who paid me a compliment. Everything is energy

@orangeblue3531

Ай бұрын

What happened? Did you guys go out on a date?

If you needed men to be aggressive and you shutdown their porn and video games, that most certainly would piss them off. But they won't necessarily turn their rage on the invading enemy. Considering how Western society has treated men, they would be just as likely to turn that aggression on their country.

It's very simple math - there is little to no ROI. What's more, potential negatives abound.

Who might be this solopreneur woman? I would like to know her version on this topic and how she decided to be a solopreneur and her walked path

Men and women roles should've remained how it was before the 60's. Until that comes back I won't bother anymore.

@diamond852

Ай бұрын

Lmao. Good luck

@adamsultana8380

Ай бұрын

@diamond852 don't need luck, it's society who needs luck and help.

@Jonra1

Ай бұрын

Being stuck between a fist and the stove sounds like a fun experience for one of the sexes. There's a difference between simply acknowledging the inherent differences between the sexes and their strengths versus going all out patriarchy where women have no real say in anything.

@diamond852

Ай бұрын

@@adamsultana8380 actually, you do.

@ryanschwan2507

Ай бұрын

@@diamond852 No it's society that needs luck. Our entire society will be replaced and is being replaced by another people who haven't thrown away their culture and values.

Whatever difficulties you think you are facing in talking to women and relationships, the healthy men's reaction is not to pull back, throw themselves on the floor crying and saying how women are not worth it or the world is cruel etc. You can of course feel certain ways about any situation but you need to start all over and try again, do it better. Thats a fact. I mean does not matter what rejection or humiliation you suffered by evil, heartless ladies you have met before, ultimately it all comes down to the nice women out there waiting to meet kind men. And i am a happily married woman (43) by the way just in case my name does not say. Cheers from Hungary, Eastern Europe

@ryanschwan2507

Ай бұрын

Men aren't crying on the floor. I'm just going to do my own thing.

that worked for Bill Gates for 3 reasons: 1) she knew he was going to be rich, or already was rich at that point. 2) he was in a position of power to give her special treatment. 3) probably most important - she communicated what she wanted, and he was able to provide it.

You have to bring something to the table as men and women but many modern woman aren't offering much at the moment other than access to sex(which eventually stops or dwindles anyway) just a shopping list of expectations and demands.

men have remained relatively unchanged, even becoming less masculine. Women have done the majority of the changing.

I'm one of those who didn't intend to not be a parent, OR find myself divorced in my early 40's and no longer trusting of online dating, which seem to have an overwhelming amount of people who are NOT looking for an actual long-term committed relationship, or there are red flag disturbing characteristics. So, it seems that I've now programmed myself to believe that I'm unworthy due to self-identified barriers which may have shut out the few who might be interested beyond the shallow. Plus, I've now entered my 6th decade, albeit a fairly youthful 60, and the options are increasingly less viable. Fuk, she says. 🙃 Thank goodness for a sense of humour, good friends/neighbours, and the neighbour's dog which I take for walks. 💖 Lol

Men are afraid to approach women, and I love it. All I need to do is just talk to any guy I like. I will say anything that crosses my mind, anything! Then on our first official date, they usually say to me : "I don't normally approach women, but with you it was different". They don't even realize I made it easy for them.

@user-fc2tn1gf8x

Ай бұрын

Sorry, if a man is not able to BE A MAN and make the first approach on his own, he is no marriage/relationship material for me. What woman wants a whimp!? I want to have a leader

@mormegil84

Ай бұрын

Kudos to you. You're doing exactly what needs to happen. As a man, we're told not to chase and be clingy. And let's be honest, sometimes we just miss the hints so we don't pursue. If the woman immediately bypasses the most difficult barrier for a man, we can then lead and be in our masculine frame from then on in the relationship knowing without a shred of doubt that she's into us. If more women pursued first, that would fix many of the issues in today's dating landscape. Not all of them, obviously, but it would still help.

@stagebloq6002

Ай бұрын

Well.. women are selectors. Now you have full control (since men are emasculated, sedated and under patriarchal control) to choose who you like. The balls in your court. The rest of the dudes… tough luck on their genes passing to the next generation. You guys control the market because you’re technically the shoppers. Men competing over women and them selecting is natural, but in this emasculated state, by all means. The problem is most women won’t do what you will. Lol We’re all kinds of screwed.

@Dansyoung

Ай бұрын

As a man if you approach a woman and she doesn’t like what she sees, isn’t in the mood, or having a bad day…. He’s going straight to jail.

@BurnBabylon_Selecta

Ай бұрын

Its social engineering to keep us down as a bunch of pussies a ultimately so we don’t reproduce and create families. We are meant to approach and lead. But through the media, films and articles masculinity is frowned upon and they try to make us ashamed of being a man and do basic things like a respectfully approaching a woman

How about. How can women do better. A guy coming to talk has become a risk, even if your decent.

I'm lonely I wish I had a wife.

Sandbox approach anxiety: Kind of nasty prospects for people who are over 34 and Didn’t technically learn this

So, most of the time rejection puts us on our rightful path. Thus, random approaching can only work if both people's eyes connect or if there is love at first sight - a strange feeling of knowing. But for the most part, NOT EVERYONE IS FOR EVERYONE.

CHRIS IS A NICE GUY. BUT THANKS FOR SAYING THE OBVIOUS FOR THOSE WHO IT ISN'T OBVIOUS. YOU ONLY REALLY LEARN BY DOING. ALL MEDIA, THE INTERNET, TV CAN MAKE YOUR BRAIN BELIEVE YOUR DOING SOMETHING

Risk mitigation, Why bother,

@orangewarm1

Ай бұрын

Life is nothing without risk.

God, I really couldn't be arsed trying to "whoo" a woman.

He talked about Weinstein not even knowing the details of that monster's actions! And compared him to Bill Gates 😖

I refuse to give women the power of rejection and judgment over me.

@diamond852

Ай бұрын

Looks like you know yourself pretty well. Good luck

@MrBlue3rd

Ай бұрын

@diamond852 I don't care when women control dating & sex and the system is entirely rigged in their favor.

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

If anything, believe me when I say that women are WAY more pleasant and welcoming outside of....

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

....the West.

@asparrow9876

Ай бұрын

Just get a passport.

Absolutely cringe conversation by two Forrest Gumps.

Trying to meet people in usual circumstances not the night club, not on the dark alley speak to the other person on several occasions do other things socially before the pressure of asking the person out one one to go be basis. We need to get to know people before deciding who to date. It is difficult to find ways to do this these days especially if you don't have a religion.

The pendulum has swung too far left, woman need to give men a place, we can't do it all ladies, we need a good quality man.

I've heard some horror stories at work so far.

If you are tall and good looking they night find it charming. If not, you will be called a creep at best, reported for harassment if you are unlucky. And women will always be believed, especially since metoo. It's simply not worth it. And when you go on a dating app its even worse. Women made this problem.

Exactly what I have been saying lol

At first i liked this video, then i watched it.Approaching women is really not very fun anymore...

can't stand williamsons pseudo-intellictual broscience theories............

@julianpischler9378

Ай бұрын

I generally like his podcast guests but his incessant need to nickname basic ideas with his own made up terms is pretty infuriating. ‘I came up with this theory the other day called: “The Paradox of Starvation Prevention within Compelled Conditions”. It seys: “individuals who are hungry whilst working for an employer are unable eat whenever they like and must relieve this ancient drive within approved temporal windows, despite the superficial nature of workplace rules/culture when compared to the ancient and integral need for sustenance when starving’ ‘… Chris, did you just word salad Lunchbreaks…?’ ‘… uhhhh n- no no, it’s the “Paradox of-‘ ‘Oh for Christ’s sake shut up man!’

If I'm at a bar, concert, show or any social event with a lot of people at it, then I will approach a chick if she gives me eye contact and her body language says approach me....other than that I won't approach them

It’s not the details it’s the INTENTION, are you intentionally a creep or not. Women can suss this out usually well because we have to for survival. See what happens when we say no to a man it leads to brutal insults or at worst physical injury or loss of life. Most women are not able to say no. When we do say no it’s because we have made about 1000 calculations in our head that it’s safe to do so that we can walk away with our lives in tact. We don’t owe every man our time and body - why is this hard for men to accept?

@rejectionisprotection4448

Ай бұрын

Because it's takes away sexual access or "mating opportunities" as Scott Galloway says.

@dalmalifemore

Ай бұрын

@@rejectionisprotection4448 gross

@dalmalifemore

Ай бұрын

@@rejectionisprotection4448 this is not talking about humanity this phrasing to talk about animals - yes humans are mammals but we do have more complexity… leave it to dudes to simplify it in basic very basic science they really know nothing about besides laymen’s terms.

@rejectionisprotection4448

Ай бұрын

@@dalmalifemore I used it deliberately because ultimately it's sex (and its cousins ie status, dominance, control etc) which underpins all of men's actions towards women. Scott Galloway's continued use of that phrase really irked me and now I realise it was because he was doing it deliberately to dehumanise women.

@dalmalifemore

Ай бұрын

@@rejectionisprotection4448 exactly all these responses by men dehumanize women so it’s easier to treat us badly if we are not seen as human - via studies and stats that are probably created by men via “scientific” babble.

💯

How can men do better o how original I haven’t heard any opinions on this 😂😂😂

@Matt-iz8wf

Ай бұрын

I got one, grow taller.

@initialb123

Ай бұрын

​@@Matt-iz8wf earn enough so we don't both have to work...

@TheSwordOfSin

Ай бұрын

Its wrong translation womans words " just do some impressions on me and maybe ...".

This was really interesting, If a guy asks me out, in real life, I would probably say yes because he has had the guts to do so! If I ask a guy out, I fear and believe most will say yes and assume I'm automatically "up for it" because I've made the first move, when actually I want to date to getting to know them better and that doesn't necessarily mean I will end up wanting to go there.