“That moment where the pain of where you are becomes greater than the fear of the unknown”

@nellyb.9340

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, and that’s when you realise that it’s time to drop Excess Baggage because you have realised that the only baggage you really need is self-love because only you know and can carry that baggage as it should be.

@dylanholmes5411

2 жыл бұрын

There’s a direct quote from the Narcotics Anonymous (12 step) Blue Book that goes as follows: “When the pain of remaining the same outweighs the fear of change, we will surely let go” *Disclaimer* I am not a member of any 12 step program

@themakingofLatoya

2 жыл бұрын

Whew

@missjohnsonftj

Жыл бұрын

✅✅✅

@rachelwong3474

4 ай бұрын

🥹

And God said “Love your enemy!”, and I obeyed him and loved myself. - Khalil Gibran

@trainingxtrish

5 жыл бұрын

Frank Christopher 🙏🏻♥️

@Haze-ku4kf

5 жыл бұрын

Brilliant.

@Drew_Hurst

5 жыл бұрын

I've never heard that before... but I like it 😛

@lukedavies2559

4 жыл бұрын

Profound! Thanks for sharing x

@dannisayseffyou

4 жыл бұрын

wow... quote of the day thank you...

It's so sad how many ppl self sabotage themselves. I firmly believe, if ppl were more educated towards the power of the human mind and their true potential, we would be living in a whole different world.

@fitnfab6522

7 жыл бұрын

Kyung Jones most people understand the power of the mind, but some people need a mental boost. it is not easy for some to just get up and go. those who are mentally strong say what you said, but little do you know that some people are deep in their habits, lowest, and isn't simple to get up and go. They need help. Those who lecture like this speaker, need to realize and deeply understand what those who feel stuck are truly mentally experiencing. I find it ignorant for someone to lecture without feeling what others experience deeply. Easier to lecture, but let's help others to a deeper core.

@Jo71603

7 жыл бұрын

Hi Kyung!

@Dmgolfer22

6 жыл бұрын

+Fit n Fab she speaks from experience.

@daynamcmullan5822

6 жыл бұрын

Fit n Fab. This lecturer’s life work is doing just that.

@moneybuilden

5 жыл бұрын

Kyung Jones ❤️❤️💯💯💯💯

*You self sabotage as a result of your self image.* Your self image is like the thermostat of your results. keeping your results the same on average, be that your body weight, hygiene, income, health etc. when you make a change at the identity level, it is much easier to take new, better actions consistently

@lucy111

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like the Psycho Cybernetics book.

@hanihatoum2614

4 ай бұрын

Thank you

Your words are my new mantra....."The risk is great, but the reward is greater!"Thank you for giving me that extra push I needed.

@ompabaletserametse8643

3 жыл бұрын

How are you doing today?

@kellieknight2552

Жыл бұрын

I like that Mantra !!

@fuckyoumakeart6672

Жыл бұрын

I hope you failed

I think the reason why life has become so complicated, is because of how fast paced everything has become. With everything is fast paced, people can't slow down and think. They can't slow down and evaluate.

@castleberries

5 жыл бұрын

Very true! 😔

@herkko1960

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I wish I was born in the 1900s and be a soldier in war instead of being on a device and being lazy, I know life is good now, but technology has ruined humanity's tradition.

@sumo8279

4 жыл бұрын

They've gotten themselves in debt.

@BLESSTREASURE

4 жыл бұрын

Soooooooo True

@jack8752

4 жыл бұрын

well thats why im happy its 2020 and the world is on hold

One of my favorite quotes “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anais Nin

I didn't know how much this applied to my life until I watched it. This is exactly what I needed.

@jayjayhayat5871

7 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I was beating myself up about at 4am and guess what...it appears on my recoms. So grateful

@BLESSTREASURE

4 жыл бұрын

Me too so True

@swanne.9

4 жыл бұрын

Same

I've been sabotaging myself, & not able to get a handle on it. Thank you! That's it! I understand why now. It's the pain of change, fear. It's the status quo, the comfort zone. It's the fear of pain. Thank you for giving me a clue! There's a reason, or pay off for everything we do or don't do.

"The risks are great but the rewards are even better" awesome quote from an amazing speaker

I’m 23 letting past demons and current insecurities do just this, I needed to hear this and just in time

I don’t comment ever. I just had to say that this was amazing. “When the pain of where you are becomes greater than the unknown”. It took me until today to realise that there is nothing wrong with me, I was just self-sabotaging. I’ve recently dropped out of uni and I’m scared to tell anyone. Instead I’ve started to create a blog diary. It’s early days still but so far 😊it’s the only thing in years that has sparked any interest and joy in me. So thank you

This TALK spoke to every situation in my life now. I need to kick sabotage to the curb! Thank you. I’m going to order your book today too. Losing my remote control was the jumpstart from just surviving to thriving.

"It's your message how can anyone hear if you're staying still" I felt that

I totally agree. Like when my ex friends would make fun of me for reading self help books...I knew I had to cut em off, before i self sabotage to thinking developing myself was lame. I am lonely 😂😂😂 totally worth it! Damn! Her arms are ripped AF

@DebiSilber

6 жыл бұрын

Hi T, I know it's hard to outgrow friends but I'm sure you're seeing that while it's challenging, you're allowing new, like-minded inspiring friends to flow in. Good for you!

@Y0shiart2

4 жыл бұрын

Do you want to do! :3

Change can be very hard and scary, but it's worth it!

Truly impactful. Other than just commenting something useless like "I think I know her from some hair metal band", I actually had something to express. She speaks with intensity, she persuades truthfully and her message is loud, direct and on-point. If she doesn't end up really changing my life or doing anything significant to me, at least she was able to give me a brief feeling of belief in myself that I can still do something about my life, which is actually not a trivial thing in my context. Just to have a little sign of life in me is good enough for me, for now.

@purityrefinedbyfire

6 жыл бұрын

Caverman Yes! To feel that aliveness is not so far away. Is exciting and I really felt your comment thank you!😉

@weepingwillow-ud6xl

4 жыл бұрын

I believe you should have said heavy metal as apposed to 'hair metal band' as you put. That's what the three dots on the right-hand side are for to edit after posting.

One of the best and most relevant talks I've heard in a long time. What she said and who she seems to be is an inspiration to make the most of ourselves despite obstacles - including sabotaging ourselves.

tears in my eyes. I need to hear this so much!!

Truly an idea worth spreading. Her level of clarity and understanding of the world is incredible.

Okay you recognized what self sabotaging is! Bravo! Where are the methods to stop these thoughts! I don’t understand why people post things with no answers! It’s like saying stop smoking because it cancerous, bad for your teeth, bad for your health! News flash they know it’s bad for them but they still smoke! That’s not an answer! An answer would be mediate or whatever! But in order to be up there at a ted talk, please use answers to the questions

@natalia-uu6hu

4 жыл бұрын

The thing is that everyone needs something different depending on their particular problem, I think she did a great job making people recognize their problems and probably inspired many people to change for the better. In psychology you can't just tell the patient what to do, they have to think of it themselves with your help and they have to be the ones that decide to do it.

@carmiezaya9849

3 жыл бұрын

I agree completely.

This is sooo much.. for years and years and years I have self sabatoged..... even walked to the edge, ready to jump, but i didnt... it took my bestfriend dying last year, for me to jump. i am filled with guilt, and regret, and fear.. but I jumped .. and im jumping.. pray for me please.. I have a l ot of weight to get off ... but im going to do it...

@sickid41

5 жыл бұрын

If you want to talk you can reply to my messages. How have you been been.

@angelassembeguya5061

5 жыл бұрын

tasha IsLosingWeight Don’t worry stay strong keep your head high, you can do this, you can change your thoughts and be great. God bless 😘

@ananascarpenter

5 жыл бұрын

You can do it Tasha!

@sunitgogoi

5 жыл бұрын

Sister do some yoga, gratitude and medication........

@lazerarrow3680

5 жыл бұрын

I wish you well do not stop

Absolutely perfect. Exactly what I needed at this moment. Truly an amazing Ted talk. Thank you!

@danl1519

6 жыл бұрын

Matthew Martin pus

@chandrikaiyer6514

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you. So inspiring.🙏

@alancohen1935

3 жыл бұрын

I strongly second that emotion!

This video is grossly unviewed and underrated! Thank you for making me feel powerful and confident!

One of the best Tedx Talks I have ever listened to, especially when I needed it.

Change is exactly what I'm facing, currently in my life. I sabotaged myself so much in the past that I just can't do it anymore. "Headed to the top so, that I can get a better view". -Saweetie

Truly inspiring, one of my favorite TEDx's of all time.

I wish I could Love this video on this platform. Change=Loss...... your new life is going to cost you your old one. Man, great talk

@tremmelrichardson9759

5 жыл бұрын

Eduardo perfectly said👌🏽

@munroeanthony4004

4 жыл бұрын

@@tremmelrichardson9759 peace

Bingo! Wish I had heard this 30-40 years ago. Great information.

I agree that by stopping doing things that are good for your mind and body you go back into the world of sabotage I used to go to the gym, eat healthy and since I stopped I can pinpoint the day that it made me lose focus in myself, my work and my reality I’m saying everyday I will go back to the gym and eat healthy again...

@mattpassos5689

Жыл бұрын

DO IT SABINE I BELIEVE IN YOU

Absolutely amazing! And truly an idea worth spreading. Thanks for inspiring all of us Debi :)

Like i have been sabotaging myself for so long and I didn't even know it now i feel like i need to change myself and leave the old self who i am comfortable with and change myself altogether

Take a leap of faith and move in direction of well being ..Great talk

Great talk! I watch it often to remind me of what really matters. Thank you!

its very difficult to let go of people you've outgrown but the best thing for yourself. It takes a lot to do this and not easy, I have no one in my life from the past and I'm very grateful.

Still brings pain to me know that if I ever start seeking self-fulfillment, I will start making a lot of people in my life feel really inadequate and insecure. To them it's ridiculous that you don't settle for just good enough. I feel really guilty and sad whenever I start feeling good about myself, so I do things that make me feel sometimes bad but mostly neutral about myself. But it used to be far worse, so there's improvement already.

@JessicaRuiz323

Жыл бұрын

You better not stop. Life is all about growing.

I can relate with Margo . LIfe has a way to show you that we are meant for more ---health, success, great relationship. Let go of the negative past and get your groove back and be high on life!

Thank you for this! I have been feeling pretty numb lately and I am ready to snap out of it, make stronger decisions and move on. I actually believe I may have outgrown my friends, because most of the stuff they like now really doesn't appeal to me. I need a stronger, exhilarating challenge for me to come out of my own self-doubt and max out my self-esteem and I am looking for it.

Something I'm learning...when you come to the path to change, take the path and don't talk about it. Simply do it. You can't be worried about the opinions of others if you don't confide in them. You can't self-sabotage if you're the only one who knows the path exists. Chase that inspiration and potential with abandon. I have literally come to the point where I only share my goals with a select few people and it's usually after I start changing. It's really starting to put me in a place where I feel like my potential is limitless because I'm not held back or sabotaging myself with the concerns for other people in my life. Their opinions don't matter. My transformation does.

@iraamelia9526

2 жыл бұрын

❤

Nothing could have Helped me more than this! Grateful!!

Wow, I absolutely love this!! Great work!

This is exactly the message that I needed, I really admired the way you released the positive energy in your talk. I also can see how hardly you work out to get your body muscles.

Thanks for the post! I feel the change i want for long time! Just need to brake thru!

Exactly what i needed to hear!!! this talk was worth every second. Thank You

This lady is speaking to me!! Literally everything I have been going through and growing through over the past few months. I am even more certain now that I'm heading in the right direction. Thank you so much mam

Brilliant, Compassionate and A Woman Who Walks Her Talk!

True at 5:50 and she successfully describes the key decision point! Well done Ms. Silber....Well done!

Waw, that is amazing ,this video has touched me a lot. Am in that phase in life were things are finally getting to happen,especially this week. I saw myself starting to sabotage and this time round I recognised it,and am fighting to stay focus and just jump. Its actually isn't that easy,but I decided I am jumping regardless. Thank you.

I just love her high pitched voice! It always brightens my day to listen to her voice in this clip every day! "(in high pitch) You feel like rock star!"

Easy to see how passionate she feels about this! Great talk!

Thank you so much! that was (right in my face)incredible

I didn't realize that I need this, but I think I might have needed this

Love her arms too. And the talk is so inspiring.

Beautiful talk! Thank you so much for being an inspiration and motivation!

Right Video!! At the Right Time!!! Absolutely Inspiring ❤

Powerful, straightforward, and passionate.

Wow! Just the perspective and clarity I needed about this.

Four TTalks in a row, and this was the only one that I really responded to. Wish it was more.

Lovely sharing! Thanks for the reminder: It might be a sign to move on when the pain of the present state became greater than my fear of the unknown

Moreover I share your speech to my husband : he really needs to see you and understand you and my point of view. May continue to inspire oursevelves.

This one is awesome... It's exactly what i needed to hear

I love what i am becoming :)

Loved this talk! Thank you!

Thank you for this! I needed it

Quick important and strong message! Straight to the point.Thanks!

This really spoke to me!!!! Great Ted Talk!

Wow this came at the perfect time for me. Thank you

What can I say? Amazing,amazing,amazing!!! Thank you so much!!!

this is one of my favorite ones ever!!!

Thank you! It is inspiring, I have tried to start my bussiness as a photographer and I keep avoiding it! I didn’t know why, but I start asking, why? Why? Why? I have everything you start. And yesterday I have an enlightenment, and now I am here. It’s not because I don't like it, or i am not good enough, it’s because I am scared of change, let go

This was an eye opening message and a powerful one. Thank you for these words 🙌

"Swing anyway". I love that because that's pretty much how it goes. That won't look the same for everybody but it is a solution to self-sabotage -- maybe that's why she wasn't specific. I think she's putting us in the mindset to recognize the opportunity to take a leap of faith so that moment is familiar and we will actually do it and not second guess it because it's uncomfortable.

I don't people realize what's a bad decision. Bad habits, same ole same ole. Listening to Ted talks help I think, makes people think about choices.

I started following the Forwago workout sessions day after day and it hasn't just changed my body, but positively impacted my mental health and made me a new me..

Thank you for this Ted talk!

What an incredible speaker! Top marks!

Wow, That was so spot on ! loved it

Just want I needed to hear! thank you ❤

The title doesn’t do the video justice. This is the way I feel. This what my summer has been about.

keep coming back to this Thank you

Awesome presentation of such important information!

Excellent. Very thought provoking!!

I just love you. Thank You for this. Bless you 💖🙏🏼

Thanks for this sister. I needed this.

Amazing, I needed this

Thank you for this. Awesome.

Way to go Debi! Love this :) xo

Thank you for this!! 🙏🏽

So much helpful insight! Couldn't have said it anyyyy better myself!

Wooow it's amazing words cannot describe how good this ted talk is. THANK YOU SO MUCH

this is the best thing I've heard in a while.

thanks needed this today!

Brilliant, inspiring, essential. Good Ted

one if my favorite TEDTALK....❤️

Love this! Eyeopening

Fantastic presentation!

I loved it . Thanks for this videos.

Such a great talk!

Amazing talk.

Wow, Going to watch this tomorrow , the day after ... & so on