Did you enjoy this episode? I know I did! If so, please drop a like and comment below what you are going to do to bring more energy and positivity into your life!

@myfuturepuglife

4 ай бұрын

I don't think you actually hate these negative people. I think you hate the negative behaviour and how it makes us feel. I can totally relate! Just last week at my retail job, my store manager, who has had a rough 2023, and I feel so deeply for this person and what they've been through last year, BUT long story short she straight up lied to the owner of the business and used me as a shield to cover her own ass! Yes, most people would say well that's life and that's just how it is but, is it? Why didn't she just own it and tell the truth? I did exactly what I was supposed to do in that situation and my managers dropped the ball, but I took the hit, and they knew I had done my job and did everything I could do but when the owner is there confronting the customer service situation, she did not tell the truth and say yes she did inform me of x y and z but I just didn't care enough at the time to take care of it like I should've. I was furious at her for a whole week, lost sleep, couldn't eat, on and on. Betrayal is a MF and it HURTS! I'm open to good advice! Thanks in advance. Now back to the video!

@CarolynWise-nn2ms

24 күн бұрын

I'm literally trying to handle my positive nature around those who are negative. I feel like negative people surrounding me are not going to change.

I, as a long time waitress can back you up 100% on treating difficult people with the most kindness that you can. What we do when we are kind no matter how hurtful they can be is fill a void in their lives. Most of the time, when people are hurtful it's because they don't feel important to anyone. Don't take a difficult person's attitude personally. It's not about you. It's about what's missing in them.

@redruby747

Жыл бұрын

Yes n no

@juliepowell3566

Жыл бұрын

Wow, that was powerful....it makes sense...t you for sharing.

@saskhiker3935

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I waited tables in my 20s and it is a great job for learning how to deal with difficult people. My goal was to change people when they walk in angry, tired, or just in a bad mood, to changing their mood.

@sues6847

Жыл бұрын

@@juliepowell3566 It's my pleasure. Thank you for receiving the information. I hope it helps you in your life in some small way.

@laimaravillon895

Жыл бұрын

But then how is it allowing them to be hurtful??

Small minds discuss people, Average minds discuss events, Great minds discuss ideas. - Eleanor Roosevelt One of my favorite quotes since high school!

@judiththymes814

8 ай бұрын

She was quoting SOCRATES.

@tanikajohnson1081

7 ай бұрын

I love this

@christinemilham2847

4 ай бұрын

❤ this ! I try to remember it, too.

This woman has the most amazing life. Imagine helping so many people without even meeting them. Thank you.

@staejaye1910

10 ай бұрын

Ikr!!!!

Be willing to offend others, to keep your boundaries and good energy 🙏

@staycool163

Жыл бұрын

Well said! I am just recently learning that. It has taken me too long and I've worked too hard at gaining peace and positivity, and I refuse to let ANYONE take that from me!

@karenczajka1201

10 ай бұрын

OMG just had to do that and it was tough!

@HeatherNoeL-jd6fc

9 ай бұрын

No. 😢 missing the point. Offending other's is not part of protecting energy. We have to maneuver around negativity,but not ADD to it.tshhhh

@peppermint9798

9 ай бұрын

Kill them with kindness it confuses them

@helenadavies5674

8 ай бұрын

Yes...I had that during the week. Had to block my sister from toxicity and twisting facts. So no more calls. She so needs to behave. Yikes.She is my sister.

Thank you, Mel. I am an extremely empathetic and reactive person and I’m aware I need to protect myself from other people’s trauma/drama/negativity because it decimates me if I don’t protect myself. I’m coming off of 2 1/2 weeks of yet again curling up in a ball to hide from life because I was depleted by other people.The snow globe image is genius and I will absolutely be utilizing it. I am aware of the power of the breath routine and I need to implement it consistently. My health was dramatically affected yet again in the past two weeks and I need to take care of myself. Thank you thank you and have a fantastic Monday!

@redruby747

Жыл бұрын

Omg I'm like u same❤

@redruby747

Жыл бұрын

I too been hiding the past almost 3 weeks 😢 now I feel depleted from life people too

@buttercup3ish

Жыл бұрын

magnificent mustang..you are living my life! wishing us both strength and self nurturing..with hugs to you

@annastella4348

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mal your magnificent and I appreciate all your solutions. I will implement them in my day to day social interactions as it so well needed. May God bless all that you do in improving the lives of so many. Thank you and beyond!

@brendadavis5391

Жыл бұрын

I absorb others energy. I'm trying to learn how to block it. I'll give you a try.

Protecting your energy is vital . I use meditations and boundary setting to ensure I lead a happy and fulfilled life. Spending time in nature helps too

@connieconroy4719

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate u & yr clear & helpful hints & advice! It's tried & true & believable!!! Thank you Jesus😂❤!!!

@Maxhindle

Жыл бұрын

@@connieconroy4719 😁😁❤️❤️ I’m glad you like them hahaha

@connieconroy4719

Жыл бұрын

@@Maxhindle Who r u? What comment that I never replied to??????

@connieconroy4719

Жыл бұрын

That's NOT my reply!!?? (To anything) It's a FAKE reply & also a LIE......

@connieconroy4719

Жыл бұрын

My name & (12 days ago) was not my reply...........,😇 HELL O

Love this…”Don’t talk (gossip) about people that aren’t present.”. Perfect. ❤️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

@christinemilham2847

4 ай бұрын

If they talk about others behind their back, they'll probably talk about you, too.

Truly, the old phrase, “Kill em’ with kindness”.

This episode could not have come at a better time for me. I am very similar to Claudia from the "difficult conversations" episode. Because of my childhood family culture, I have spent my life avoiding confrontations at all costs. But I realized that I was not protecting my peace, nor was I treating myself with any respect and love. But then I heard these two episodes, which helped me tremendously. Fast forward to this morning. I teach a fitness class for seniors. I love it, and I'm good at it. I can confidently say this, because I see the joy on my participants' faces and regularly hear how much they enjoy my class. But this morning I got an earful from one cranky old lady who complained about the dumbest things. Now granted, I welcome criticism. But this was petty. Three petty things. But more than that, she came at me in a very rude and disrespectful manner. The old me would have allowed this to suck the life out of me and question myself. But today I simply saw a spoiled child having a tantrum in a snow globe. Her toxicity stayed right in her little globe. I politely addressed her concerns, but then told her that we cannot accommodate everyone's preferences, so if she is not happy in my class, she is more than welcome to find another class that suits her needs. She huffed away, and I stood tall, with my peace and confidence in tact. I have never, ever stood up for myself like this in my entire life. It felt amazing. Thank you, Mel.

@KiwikimNZ

10 ай бұрын

You kept your power! Well done. If we give into these entitled people they just continue with this behaviour. ! ❤

@HeatherNoeL-jd6fc

9 ай бұрын

Sad. Teacher could and should have,shown dance ways to relax and destress... perfect opportunity to heal a client, instead...you feel only smiling happy people deserve to be in the class. Really sad. This is what I am moving far away from.youre PAID to HELP people, who are stressed, but you don't know how. Publicly making her leave, was what you chose? God, I wish I could comfort her. She's in pain, obviously. Physically. High blood pressure, cholesterol... diabetes,heart issues...she complains because she is in pain. I was a caregiver. She could have been shown how to hold her breath, cleanse toxicity, anything about dance?!?!

@rosereporter

9 ай бұрын

@@HeatherNoeL-jd6fc It is clear you are a very caring and compassionate person. Please don’t assume I am not. This woman’s complaints were voiced to me publicly and disrespectfully, and could have poisoned the class had I not addressed them properly, especially because they included attacks on other participants, whose crime is that “they’re annoying”because they’re so cheerful. Obviously that’s a clear symptom of depression, which as you say, is sad. I agree. Regardless, that behavior is unacceptable in my class. So it had to be addressed. And since it was not the first incident, it had to be addressed clearly and firmly. However, I ALSO care about this woman and have PRIVATELY talked with her and gotten to the core of what’s bothering her. And as you can probably guess, it has nothing to do with me or my class. I am sure to give her individualized attention every class, letting her know I care and asking her how her situation is going. Since this incident, she has not complained once and has told management how much she appreciates me. Heather, it’s important to understand that you can set clear boundaries, not allowing toxic behavior toward you or others, while still being a kind person and showing compassion toward those who may lash out because they are hurting. This was such a groundbreaking turning point for me because historically I have let people walk all over me, which is actually very unkind and cowardly. So please don’t judge my personal victory.

LOVE THIS! The snow globe and the policy of not talking about people unless they are in the room is going to change my life. THANK YOU, MEL!

@tareichadwick8270

11 ай бұрын

Love the snow globe story and more so the policy on not talking about people unless they are present. Boy oh boy this is going to be easy...NOT! Lol! maybe it is going to be easier to take up the challenge and change now, as no one wants to be labeled as ‘Gossipers’. Love you Mel. You the Bomb! ❤

I just started watching your videos and podcasts and all I can say is, I am so grateful for you and the positive energy along with great wit, you share with your followers. I am 80 years old and have spent the majority of my life working on myself through seminars, therapy, retreats and now,in the comfort of my home, I get to see a wonderful soul called “Mel.” Thank you for the love and light to bring to all. ❤️

Growing up with abusive parents has made me hyper aware of others moods, it’s hard not to try to appease the rude person to prevent further escalation. I get the snow globe thing, but it’s hard to ignore the tantrum.

@nurkasyaf4077

8 ай бұрын

Same

@denises9426

8 ай бұрын

Yep

The snow globe image is epic!!!😂

I wish I could have seen this podcast two to three months ago when I was dealing with this in my job. No matter how I was treated, I was determined not to engage or return their hurtful volleys. I just kept repeating my mantra: " I can't afford this. I'm trying to accomplish something!" So I avoided making it worse. I know this is not easy for most people. It wasn't easy for me, I really wanted to throw their crap back in their face, but I didn't. I just focused on my job. And I finally stepped aside on my own terms. No one needs to work any job under threats, belittling, minimizing and disrespect. Don't ever give your power away to anyone. Choose not to engage. These people don't want to hear you defending yourself. It doesn't help. Just do your job and get out of there. And find a team and a supervisor who respect you. This message for everyone out there, who does a good job and takes pride in it. You've got nothing to be ashamed of. Don't ever make yourself feel small because of someone else's insecurities. And thank you Mel. We need more strong women like you, who are not afraid to tell it like it is. 👍🤓

I’ve been a front desk agent in New York City and the nightmarish entitled things that people slammed workers like myself with were incredible. I know exactly who this woman is. I appreciate this video!

@buisymom81506

2 ай бұрын

I know we're not supposed to gossip but 👀 ..... 😂

As someone who has always served in one shape, form or another...my best tip for shakin' it off is to remind myself that I have to deal with this person for x amount of time. I go home to a happy home...they go home to each miserable other. I don't feel bad about me. I pity those kind of people.

@christinemilham2847

4 ай бұрын

"Put yourself in their shoes" when speaking or listening to others. Also heard: people usually react from within themselves, not necessarily strictly at you.

I am struggling at work with some grownup bullies to the extent that I spend my days off paralyzed with depression & just stay in bed pretty much ,, finding you on utube today couldn’t have come at a better time ,, you always seem to have the answers! Love you !Thankyou!

@kirstenvzumba9246

8 ай бұрын

I wish you the best. Depression and low self esteem from other's bullying and put downs is so hard to deal with!! 😢😢 I get it I've been there. A lot. Remember that you are worthy and you matter just as much as any other person on earth. 😊❤❤👍

@jackiedouglas4483

3 ай бұрын

Stand up and take a crack at the cowards. Do not ignore or enable their delinquency. Otherwise everyone loses.

@christinewright2829

2 ай бұрын

I am living the same, workplace bullies!! They must have never grown up, but it still manages to break me!

You sound like my dear mother ❤ She raised us to always share "joy and sunshine" into everyone's lives. So very true.

I am energy, I give it, I receive it. I'v just received some great energy from you Mel. Love You Mel, thank you.❤ Have a beautiful day.

I remember the moment I decided to stop gossiping and IMMEDIATELY I felt so much lighter. Just from that decision. And yes 100% if they do it with you they’ll do it to you

Wow the universe does work wonders cause it brought me to this video

Mel, that snow globe illustration was brilliant! I so needed that visual and I will be implementing your genius

Thank you Mel. I’m the person who is next in line behind the crazy. I try to smile and complement the poor person who was just yelled at! Bonus.. I am loud enough so if the person that yelled is within ear shot… I know it won’t change them but I get a kick out of it😊

So much to unpack. Isn’t this how we all want to be in the world? 😅 Thank you for reminding us to be this way with our families as well. We tend to take each other for granted. A side note: my father was the person who would scream and yell at service people and wait staff, until he got his way. Unfortunately, it always worked out for him. During his last days on this earth, he spent much of his time yelling and screaming at the nurses and hospice people that were trying to help him. However, my mother (my parents have been divorced for years) has always been kind to everyone, and wherever she goes in her town, everyone is excited to see her and will literally run up to her with huge smiles on their faces. Could there be any better real life illustration of how to treat people?

Thank you, Mel! I'm only 15 minutes in and already feel a bit better.

That was so powerful about the gossip. I work in a office full of women and I have found myself in the midst of gossip. I’m so sorry 😢

What an episode! A lightbulb moment for me, I can’t wait to use these strategies, negativity has just exhausted me for too long. I am 52 years old and feel like this is going to be a new beginning for me. Love you Mel! ❤

@Georgemoore620

3 ай бұрын

Hey Catherine ❤, how are you feeling today ?

Good strategies! I avoid chronically negative people. Even on-line, some comment feeds get toxic! Sometimes I throw out something positive but anymore I just leave. Thx!

That dog analogy really cracks me up

Love the thought of picturing them in a snow globe. I have half my coworkers in their snow globes right now. By visualizing this silence the fit, lol.

Oh and it feels good to be kind , thoughtful , complementary, and present with people! When I falll into a pattern of gossiping I feel awful…. And you hurt yourself and make yourself look bad. Not the person your gossiping about….

I’m a janitor and have been having a hard time at work with a specific person always making comments and treating me like I’m secondary to my more outgoing coworker. I’m working alone this week and it’s been especially hard and making me feel depressed but this podcast helped. Thank you!

I will forever remember an illustration about goseping that samewone,once sad. He sad goseping is so damaging to the image of the person you goseping about, like a drop of poison in a clean glass of water, and he continued.. Imagine a pillow that's crushed and all the flaf from inside the pillow starts to flow and disparse everywhere, that message like (gossiping) flys and rich to many and you can't never collect that back. I look forward to see the sacretness in every person I met and complimente instead.❤

And we appreciate you, Mel! I hope you know , you are a light in so many lives.

@kristalhumphreys4621

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 💯

I have a coworker who is very negative and difficult. Every day I have to deal with this person and it's sometimes soul crushing. This morning I tried your advice: smile a big, toothy smile at them to make the good vibes contagious. At first, they took offense and told me they didn't appreciate the sarcasm. I just nodded and walked away. So far, they've been in a better mood since 😅 . Seems to have worked. Thank you!

The snow globe is a good analogy and it’s funny to me because I actually use that kind of visual in reverse, meaning that before I go into a meeting or get together with someone whose energy is negative or chaotic I do closed eye deep breathing and visualize a glass bubble that entirely surrounds me, protecting me from others energy. I imagine that my force field/snow globe is impenetrable. It really helps! I’ve recently fallen into some negative and fearful thought patterns but I caught myself today and I’m back to focusing on the positive and bringing my vibration back up. I appreciate your input and advice, you’re brilliant!

I share my smile even though the person isn’t smiling. They smile back at me. I know, when someone is rude with me, I say to myself, I didn’t do anything to that person, it’s not me, it’s what going on in their life. It protects me.

@Esmeeeeeedbjd

8 ай бұрын

I do this too!:)

@maryannsipat3295

2 ай бұрын

Samee

I think it’s important to remember that we can all be “emotional vampires”. In the instance of the hotel clerk, that sounded like abuse. In the case of abuse, I believe we have moral duty to take a stand for some one who is being abused. You can take care of yourself, use breathing techniques, etc. and respond to an abusive tactic with that same calm energy. It takes a lot of practice and a lot of intention. I believe it’s important for us as a society to stand up for one another. I had an MRI yesterday and I used the 4-7-8 technique and it worked like a charm! Thank you, Mel.

I start every day listening to something from Mel. Thank you!!!!❤

12:30 - I'm with Chris. I LOVE the buzz of a busy terminal. People watching. Noshing on various foods from the food court, etc...

Thank you for this, Mel! I need to be reminded about these principles every now and again. You always seem to come with the right thing at the right time. Big hugs!

Thank you I fall short Mel 😊

I love the snow globe analogy!! I almost can’t wait to use it! 😂

Amen sister! You said it about gossiping

# love positive energy

This talk has really helped me realise how much ownership I take for others discomfort! As though it is my responsibility….when it’s theirs to manage. Beyond empathy. Taking it all on. This talk would be good coupled with getting better at boundaries.

Mel, this is wonderful that you can be a force for positivity! So glad to know you!

I absolutely NEED this!!!! Thank you Mel!!!!😌🙏☮️💛🙏☮️

Veronica!! Nailed that question! I paused the video just to be sure to tell you! Can't wait to hear Mel's response!❤

I love the snowglobe analogy! 🎉just adore 🥰 it

This topic was could not have been timed more perfectly, Mel!! Thank you for sharing this and for always spreading truth, love, and loads of inspiration!! The snow globe analogy is perfect!!

What a great topic!! I get so affected by other peoples’ energy and I have a close family member who is quite negative.

Veronica‘s question is SO on point ❤ thanks for asking it !

Mel …greet people like dogs do ! How awesome is it to come home and the dogs are so happy to see you !

Love the gossip section. We need more of this! I work in a toxic environment so gossip is constant.

Love you Mel:) Thank you for all that you do!!!

phenomenal! protecting our energy is more valuable than anything.........we all are in this situation I have been there lately Thank you for the 4 7 8 breathing break!

I love you Mel! Thank you for doing what you do ❤

I love and appreciate you too Mel! Your videos and podcasts help me a great deal especially this one as I’m dealing with toxicity at the workplace. This video is saved In it’s own folder with others called Mel Robbins ❤

I so needed this today. Set my mind straight and got me to look deeply at myself. Thank you so much.

Praying for you Mel!

Some lovely nuggets in here... th snow globe, the not talking about people who aren't in the room rule, the just being nice to everyone and knowing what an effect it can have Thank you

I love that Mel Robins always incorporates some humor. I almost always chuckle listening to her stories. Thank you Mel for your brilliant work!

This video couldn’t have landed in my feed and at more perfect time. This has been very insightful.

Mel, I needed to take some time off this week to remove myself from some negative people and situations, as well as try and figure out who I really am as a person. After listening to this podcast, one thing is for certain: I want/need to find the nice and positive part of myself and bring her back to the center. Thank you, Mel!

Mel, thank so much for all the hard work that you have done to create the tools to help us change our lives, and we all Appreciate and love you ❤

Thank you for your time Mel 😊

THIS WAS AMAZING!!!. Totally needed to hear all of this. You Rock Mel! Thanks so much! ❤

I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have you in my life everyday! You are my spirit animal ❤️ we all love you so much for you just being you!

I love you Mel. You are the good that people need in their lives. I appreciate you ❤. I will definitely try my best to inculcate this learning into my behaviour.

4 months! I've done the compliment thing to the krumedgins (spelling?) And the "bullying only got worse, I got drained. Sone this works on/with while others, especially in a group aka mobbing, it will not work. But thank you for the snow globe reference. I've always focused on bubbling up myself, not others. Love it!

You are such a Breath of fresh air!❤❤ thank u

I really love this podcast, it's amazing!

I really appreciated this podcast from you today Mel. It resonates with changes I'm making in my own life and needed to hear. It's great to know I'm not alone on this. Thank You.

I love the snow globe idea. I am definitely using this one.

This morning i got up feeling average left my house and took a drive to get a coffee Purchased a motoneuron disease beanie (its a donation to the research more so) and gave it to a very faired hair young man on the way out the shop I was in) it made me feel so good sharing kindness he was beside himself its crazy cold in Wangaratta Victoria Australia so thank you Mel for all that you have shared with your audience- speaking for myself I listen to you daily and let me tell you your fruitful casts are life transforming and rewarding to say the least- THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU ARE ONE OF MY FAVOURITE HUMAN IN THE ENTIRE WORLD! Much Love god bless you and your kind spirit ❤ ❤❤❤❤🎉

One of the best podcasts! Thanks Mel!

Thank you, Mel 🙋🌟

Mel Robbins, I LOVE YOU BACK!! This video is amazing and I’ll keep watching for more!!! Xoxo

I love spending time with you Mel. Thank you for tip with snow bowl with negatives. Now, I imagine myself in my beautiful bauble filled with pretty butterflies and I am feeling safe, protected and surrounded by positive energy. I can release butterflies if I choose to do so and spread positivity around or 'block' negative energy in snow bowl. Amazing 😍 Sending you virtual 🤗💞

Love your techniques! We learn something similar in our meditation classes. You are a testament that this really works. Thank you so much.

I may be late yes, managers with negative mindset has tremendous impact on our lives.

Express joy of life!!! We in Minnesota USA we had a SNOW STORM LAST NIGHT!!! SO BEAUTIFUL!!! 😅❤😂😊

Thank you indeed. Very grateful.

Than you for your time an energy 💫You are amazing! 💖

THANK YOU MEL!! Im beyond grateful for you!!❤!!

I feel that hate is a very strong word. I can see disliking the behavior but to hate is so very strong.

Another Amazing podcast! amazing as always!!! life changing! lots of love to you Mel!

I recently had to cut ties with a friend because of the habit of and apparent joy she felt when gossiping. Gossip is toxic! I love your rule of not discussing any one not in the same room. Thank you for all your guidance. The reciprocity you mentioned is powerful. One of my favorites is, “What a beautiful smile you have. “. This is not offensive and is appropriate for all ages and genders. Keep up your marvelous work. We need your kindness and positivity ❤️

You bring so much value and I love and appreciate you Mel!

I am so grateful to you It felt so good when you were kind to us- I learned how to be kind and authentic back to me!!! Have a good day!!

I love your snow globe analogy. I’m definitely going to use it. I hate glitter and negativity and don’t want either on me. Thank you, Mel

Love your podcasts! You are awesome Mel!❤ Thank you for keeping it real!

I love your podcast. Kindness is beautiful. Whether I'm in East Coast or Africa (my home 😀) I'm always watching your videos. Thank you for sharing all your wisdom with us all.

Blessins and deep appreciation Mel .🙏👍🤗💕

Thank you, I have a friend who is like this, he lives directly underneath me so there's no getting away from him, so I appreciate this 😊 👍

Thank you Mel ‼️Your knowledge and words of encouragement have helped me tremendously. I love you too 😊

I love the idea of putting the person throwing a tantrum in a snow globe. That's great! 😂

Love this Mel You are amazing thank you for all your wisdom ❤