Your ex still finds you attractive, at least physically. There is emotional trauma that is blocking their attraction and feelings of love that they had for you. "Friendzone" is not a thing with exes, it certainly is a thing with new people and prospective relationships but not with someone you've already gotten past the friendzone with and have had a sexual/intimate relationship with. It is extremely important that you separate and give them the space and time that they need to process their emotions and to let go of pain. Take a couple of weeks or a month and just focus on yourself during a time of No Contact. Although complete no contact is decent advice, limited contact or active no contact is a better choice, especially if you have kids together. Treat them as you would a regular friend and don't bring up the past in your communications with them unless they bring it up and even then don't get emotional or defensive. Your focus should be on letting go so you're not bitter and resentful towards them and focus on improving yourself and living your best life. Remember they are human and have feelings; don't be so quick to dismiss their actions as some personality defect. Bring compassion and awareness to what they are communicating with you. Emotional context is more important than the words they say. Make sure they leave the interaction with you feeling seen, heard, and validated. Strive for positive interactions. During your time a part and as you are working on living your best life take a deep introspective dive into the relationship and think of things that they did that frustrated you or things you would like them to change; do they need to communicate better, do they spend too much time on social media or playing video games, do they have trust/commitment issues, etc. Really ask yourself if it is worth getting them back if they don't change. As you heal the emotional blockage and start getting closer with your ex, there will be times to address complaints you had about them. When you do start communicating again, remember these: "How did that make you feel?" "That's interesting, tell me more?" Then recap/paraphrase/summarize what they said and what feelings you believe they felt. Relate an experience you had where you felt those feelings as well but do not twist it to make it all about you. *Example, if they complained you didn't do enough around the house. Your response should be that you understand their feelings that they feel like they are doing all the work. Do not get defensive and start listing off the times you did help with dishes or laundry or whatever or how much you worked and were tired. *Example, if they complained you were a homebody and didn't get out and about. Your response should be that you understand their feelings of being cooped up and trapped at home. Do not get defensive and start listing off the times you went out with them to events or gatherings when you didn't want to. *Example, if during a period of no contact they reach out to inform you that your kid needs something, don't ignore it just because it's no contact. Respond to what your child needs and that's it. Don't use their reaching out as a way to initiate contact and talk about things. *Example, they are complaining about a coworker or a friend that did something - express that you understand they feel frustrated/betrayed/attacked/dismissed/angry by the actions by the other person and tell them of a time you felt frustrated or betrayed or attacked or whatever emotions they possibly felt in that moment.

@tysonpadilla8406

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. It meant a lot to me personally. I’m sure it took a lot to write that as well. I’m sure there are many who appreciate it. It’s the little things in life from people that mean the most like your comment here.

@MrElliebeli

3 ай бұрын

100% true. You were never really friends it needs to be raw!

when you got nothing, you got nothing to lose.

@fuliviacannady7703

Жыл бұрын

So true

@Jarr25395

Жыл бұрын

Nice

@eldiariovivircondiana

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely true 👍

Spot on advice. Agree with everything said here.

Coach Adrian is spot on

Yes...my ex came back after 2yrs when I moved on. We got back but listening to you now, I had not healed properly. After about a year, I noticed he started to distance himself, and I panicked and asked him probing questions instead of distancing myself. It deteriorated, and we broke up again. He started to call me his sister and i cut off. It's been 4months and I don't know of he will come back😂...so yes, you are right, heal properly before reconnecting. will sure keep you all posted on my journey

I was doing all new activities and all she did was watch my stories never made effort in the end I just removed her off all my socials and deleted her number I don’t want to be taken for granted anymore but as more time goes by I get feeling she doesn’t care and won’t reach out to me which I have to accept but hard when you can’t get someone out of your head

@thisisshauna6986

2 ай бұрын

It’s been a year, how are you know ?

She break up with me. I really want her back, I don't wanna sound too desperate, I am trying to give it some time but at the same time I'm scared of loosing her to another guy

I am here to read some positive and negative comments. I'm an introvert with social and status anxiety

Thank you for your advice, I don't want my ex-back in my life. He's shown his true character in walking away from our 6 yrs relationship. My ex and I got on so well, in the past, we hardly argued, or had many disagreement in our relationship, he decided to walk away from our relationship 19th June 2023 without a goodbye. He never called or texted. I decided I wouldn't chase him, but to Let Go abd Let God. I am still wondering where I went wrong. I have decided never to speak to him again. I watch your videos, not to want my ex- back in my life, but to get advice, on what to do next, now that he's out of my life. I like your advice on self development and self improvement. I personally don't care how my ex moves on. I hope he is happy in his silent breakup.

Coach Adrian even though I am doing all these activities do think he will still want me back because he's stuck in the past about my family's behavior towards towards him. And because i'm connected to my family, he doesn't want anything to do with me as well. He claims that this was our reason for his decision to breakup. I have been connecting with family friends and new people. I am going to Hawaii with my friends who want to pay my travel. I have been doing the work and advice you have given in all the videos.

Powerful

NC is working for ME.. but I don’t expect him to reach out to me.. his ego and embarrassment for him stepping won’t allow him to reach out..

She broke up 3 months ago i took her for granted i didnt beg nothing went nc and sent 2 hello text first 2 months...ok mistake there... shes angry doesnt wanna talk i had 1:1 coaching but dont feel i have the tailored game plan that i need...working now on accountability letter...Adrian help

Hi good night🎉❤

I feel sick to my stomach going no contact with my ex. I know he broke up with me but he has been so good and kind to me in every way since we parted. He is a good person and I don't want to hurt him, but I so badly want him back. This no contact is killing me and it has only been 4 days since we last spoke briefly. I left nearly a month ago and did not contact him. Every few days he reached out to me and I replied briefly. Now I am trying to go completely no contact and it is killing me. My heart is broken 💔

@FriskyTendervittles

Жыл бұрын

Dive into a hobby

What do you do if you ex broke up with her rebound or other person after we split, they were togeter a year. She started coming back around, telling me she still loves me, was flirting, kissing me, asking me to go have drinks on a few occasions. Now she's gone cold and seems to be getting back with her ex. I honestly feel like she used me cause she was going through a breakup. We were together 15yrs years, have a 13 yr old daughter, so I have to have some contact with her. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I've come to far growing and healing and now I'm having all these messed up feelings again.

Yeah? Would this work if she dumped you due to you “cheating on her”? And her yelling at you you two are never ever ever getting back together?

My currently partner left me with no contact in all communication since last month until now when I apologize to him before and never reply my calls or texts whereby he did not respond my apologies.I still love and pray for him alot but I don't what to do if I want him back, am scared he will show off his go and do the same like before which will be worst. We dated almost one year with him. I investigated that he was together with my roommate whom she was the ex. His ex she acted strangely to me like as if she full of guiltness.He funny thing, He will come back to work with us and I hope will be strong enough because we will be seeing each others. Otherwise, they don't know that I knew so I told myself to show them am still moving strong forward although it hits me badly in a harsh painful hurt I gave him space and am doing my best to heal myself to love more on myself and keep myself happy. Am always following up your videos and put your advices into practice. I really need your advice coach Adrian and Alex

I broke up with my ex in a way I did not expect. One day we were chatting en he slept. So I was annoyed becoz he left me hanging. After that we hard a small quarrel en he tried to put things ryt buh I was very annoyed. He said less to me. So from that day I was harsh on him. So he asked me if we could have a break that we could go back en set things ryt. He did not ask for a break up but it was just a break. Am wondering if he is my ex or if he will come back. Coz we still communicate.

If i Change, will they Not think why didnt He Change in the relationship why now? So she hates me more?

Unconsciously I was doing all of this what you have just mentioned and I am happy with the progress I made. I even graduated during this time and met a lot of new people. 9 months has gone. We were in touch from time to time. Last meeting didn't go well. I only mentioned shortly that I would also like to go for a trip where he was planning to go alone and where we were together before. He went quiet and said that I live in the past that he partly didn't like. I am very sad now cos it is such a thin ice knowing what you can say in order to not making things worse. I did it worse with one short statement and the painful part is that he just made an assumption of me living in the past even if I was working on myself during that time.

@Jack_The_Lad_13

Жыл бұрын

This is almost identical to what I’ve been through.

My ex broke up with me. I really miss him so much

Hey I kind of tried to convince her to come back after two weeks NC. We kind of argued about it but nothing major. Another two weeks passed and I bumped into her but didn't talk to her... I then broke and text her again about a lie she told me that I found out about. I then asked her for a drink to clear the air two weeks later but she declined. I then text a week later and said I missed her and just wanted a coffee to clear the air.... She said that she doesn't want to prolong my healing, but agreed to meet for coffee sometime... I don't know if she's just meeting me because I keep bugging her or if she actually wants to clear the air. could this be an opportunity to reattract or shall I just leave her alone until she organises to meet me. we haven't agreed a date or time yet I'm leaving that up to her to sort out....

@DiscLaddie

Жыл бұрын

I suggest distancing yourself from that person and creating some space between you. Continuously pursuing them could potentially harm you in the long run. It seems like she's only meeting with you because she feels obligated, so it's best to back off until she initiates something more significant, like a meeting. Instead of sending her messages, try writing down your thoughts in a notes app and reflecting on them a few days later before deleting them. When she reaches out, it's okay to respond, but try to keep your contact with her to a minimum. Focus on yourself and refrain from constantly checking your phone. Stay strong and prioritize your well-being.

What if your bf keeps breaking up with you? We broke up in May last year for a week, then almost in Oct and then we broke up for 3 weeks this January. It's a long distance but he broke up with me before each big incident: first meeting, me attending his graduation and meeting his family, him meeting mine. He left my country 2 weeks ago and has been acting weird last week. Now he wants it again saying he isn't feeling good, not just with the relationship (because of my insecurities which I'm working on, starting with a therapist this week) but also with his life. It's like a cycle of depression that he has every few times and he gets very overwhelmed and doesn't know what he wants. Work is too much, he lives by himself now, he doesn't get enough sleep. I don't know how to help him.. and he doesn't open up

@boitumelomthembu1706

Жыл бұрын

Hey ,please try and find out about your attachment styles . I broke up with my ex 3 times in a space of 6 years . I only found out after we broke up after 6 years . We were engaged. I found out that there was a number of core -wounds and those wounds would ensure that I would pull away whenever there was a trigger . So perhaps check out the personal development school channel to learn more .

@FriskyTendervittles

Жыл бұрын

RUN

yesterday my ex contact me . and i am said i have a bf . is he again contact me . because i told him lie that i have a bf

Namaste coach Adrian..I've been following your advice since 3months by no contact..its a 10yrs relationship n we have 2kids..he jus left us for his ego..he expects me to be his slave..where I got vexed..his ego gets satisfied only if iam a failure..usually he comes to me only if I portray myself as a failure..now since 3months iam living my life with kids..he's still angry on me..bt we are connected in social media. .will no contact n the tips u advise work for me..?

@FriskyTendervittles

Жыл бұрын

Why do you want him? He only wants you if you’re failing at something. He doesn’t support or encourage or love you

Everything bw me n my ex was great, but he broke up saying everything bw us was great but my parents are not agreeing so i will break up cz parents are above, but it was he only who pursued to be in a relationship with me. I am confused dunno what to do, it has been more than a month but he unblocked me from social medias but didn’t contact. 😢

@vaishuvj2712

Жыл бұрын

Similar situation....

I'm too angry at my ex how he treated me. He wanted to stay friends and have his cake and eat it too. I deleted him right away and removed him. I want to detach myself but it's hard to think someone who knew me so well could do this. What's a good amount of time before reaching out and how does that work?

Coach Adrian, I'm coming up on week 7 of no contact... I made a lot of mistakes when she pulled back: begging, pleading, reaching out to her friend, and left a hand-written letter at her home... Her last text to me was, "Idk what else to say or do, but I need you to leave me alone. I've asked for space over and over and this is too much." I immediately sent her a text saying, "I'm so sorry. I panicked and completely disrespected your boundaries. I've got nothing to say except I was terribly wrong, and I hope you can forgive me." That was 7 weeks ago... There was no cheating, yelling, or arguments; she simply was overwhelmed and wanted space. We discussed having a home and building a family together... Should I reach out soon or continue to stay in no contact?

@yellowtheresunshine

Жыл бұрын

She reads to me to quote possibly have an avoidant attachment style. Maybe Dismissive avoidant...they need space and are often triggered into deactivating strategies by commitment, moving in together, buying a home together, having kids, getting engaged etc. She's saying she needs space. You're doing the right thing keeping distance. Look into more advice regarding avoidants. The Personal Development School on KZread is a good place to start.

@ThekidGQ1

Жыл бұрын

NO CONTACT! Let your absence speak. Desperation is never a good look

@MrIrelevant12

Жыл бұрын

I think your best bet is stay in no contact. If you keep perusing she will just get more irritated. I’m in a similar situation and I don’t want to come off as too needy.

@andrewest7314

Жыл бұрын

Yow leav her d fck alone....millions of better women out there...get your mind out that limited mindset....don't be weak

@kewissma

11 ай бұрын

Please her alone. She’s literally asking you to leave her alone why would you consider doing anything else other than leaving her alone?!?!

I dnt even know how to make friends, had 1 friend and she misunderstood me in the end and decided to leave me, with a boyfriend and a best friend gone, I have nothing to do, dont know how to move on, it breaks me but I wish there was someone atleast by my side

@paultaylor5187

Жыл бұрын

My advice to you is learn to love yourself and be happy in you own company. I personally know lots of people but don't class any as friends so to speak. I don't let people in or to close. But I do enjoy a good meal out on my own and have had numerous holidays on my own. I meet lots of interesting people on my journey of being a lonewolf

Ex doesn't deserve to have even a glimpse into my new life. She can imagine. But she won't know.

Nope. I'm good and thriving.

Others do the work after years...😂😂

2023/05/18 it s all start here

Hi

Hey, I can't even say hello to my ex-boyfriend because i am so hurt. How can I start talking again or how should I be acting? I'm ignoring him and I feel embarassed about that - because it means that I am not over him. It is half a year since we broke up.

first?

I was dumped and tomorrow i will be a month in no contact and i am convinced my ex wont be back

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 ай бұрын

If you think like that, you are not going to do the right actions...

@user-ku2gg3bm8u

5 ай бұрын

@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity i am starting to get myself back that's way i think she wont come back

Hello there my name is Joseph Garcia and I’m going through a hard time right now I’m trying to get back my ex girlfriend she’s my first love and I’m hers too we did everything with each other but also we both messed up a lot and it’s been a lot but we both love each other and there’s someone involved that use to be my friend and it’s hard for me to get her back but she also did things with me while they were talking I really would like to be with her I want to do right by her and the people I love I need your help

❤😻

My ex left the country and she is happy with her new BF in Europe 😅 She will never come back 💔

No way will I accept my ex’s decision. I didn’t want it then and I don’t want it now

My husband has married another woman can he come back again..

No one want thier ex back as lovers. Period

Yea right fkn move on honestly

THIS IS A VERY MISLEADING VIDEO TITLE!!

My ex and I were talking daily consistently on friendly terms but we did have to work once together and it turned flirty. Bur I have put space and it and allowed it to develop into contact but I never clarified it was to respect the breakup or anything. Just have mentioned that I’ve been busy and haven’t given any reason to make it seem like it was out of resent but should I reach out to communicate that I respect the break up or leave it as it is? @loveadvicetv