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@ramnauthramjattan8744

3 жыл бұрын

Am

@akashsekar4007

3 жыл бұрын

Is that normal to be magnet... because I tend to feel bit overwhelmed of it ....

@akashsekar4007

3 жыл бұрын

I can say yes for 12 of this but can't say yes for Chameleon /Linchpin

@inam4902

3 жыл бұрын

i need your email id to connect with you on linkedin.

@boonesamuel1935

2 жыл бұрын

i dont mean to be so off topic but does any of you know a tool to get back into an Instagram account..? I was stupid lost my login password. I appreciate any assistance you can offer me

Sometimes the people you think don't want to talk to you are the ones waiting for you to talk to them

@brunobilandzija1823

3 жыл бұрын

i can tell you - focus and practice ;)

@roarrrist

3 жыл бұрын

no way

@sponge7464

2 жыл бұрын

Can confirm

@agentjordan605

2 жыл бұрын

Oh interesting

@sal2417

4 ай бұрын

Sometimes the people you think don't want to fu€k are the main people who actually want to fu€k you

1) Glue - keep people together 2) Conversationalist - articulate 3) Comedian 4) Speaker 5) Influencer 6) Listener 7) Magnet 8) Storyteller 9) Nurturer 10) Decoder 11) Leader 12) Connector 13) Dreambuilder 14) Chameleon Not sure the point of this video... just to inform? Can these skills be learned or are they just a part of our nature?

@thairinkhudr4259

3 жыл бұрын

I guess part of the reason for this video is to identify which skill/s you resonate with naturally and to find ways to amplify those skills.

@onatone

3 жыл бұрын

This is more so of an overview of the many "roles" of social interactions. What I assume the video is for is to identify the traits you resonate with the most naturally and identify the traits you are not that very good at. With that information you can work and amplify the traits you already have and the ones you dont atleast you can work on. Knowing what you are and cant do can help you understand yourself much more this is helpful when meeting new people and work situations.

@taras4352

3 жыл бұрын

It was interesting to me and if you want to learn more and develop one of these more, like listening, she has an online school/ program. :)

@worldofmine6175

3 жыл бұрын

She said she has a site so u can go and learn them

@darleenperry1012

3 жыл бұрын

@@worldofmine6175 of course. Follow the 💰

As someone with no friends or family and no college education I have a hard time socializing and being confident your videos have most definitely gotten me jobs

@CraftyBirdGirl

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, nice username xD

@honeybunnybunny1958

3 жыл бұрын

Honeybunni99 haha you too 🤣🐰🐰🐰

@juliec9531

2 жыл бұрын

You are special and amazing :) want to be friends?

@gracebediako1666

Жыл бұрын

Same no college no friends just been working good jobs

Is anyone else here feeling like you have none of these skills?

@Bliss_Corner

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, i feel so bankrupt social skill wise

@Ronaldinho1312

3 жыл бұрын

You can learn it. Vanessa is a great teacher. Charly Houpert and Olivia Fox Cabane are also good teachers. But Vanessa alone is enough to become a "social god" :D

@justoverbroke8063

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I only related to comedian

@beemo9

3 жыл бұрын

Make up a category - how would you describe yourself?

@jeka13443

3 жыл бұрын

@@justoverbroke8063 this is a solid one! I think I'm only a listener

Nurturer has no boundaries, they re kind of caring too much and sometimes get disappointed because they think everyone must be like them

@taraf4890

3 жыл бұрын

This is me. Work my ass off to keep friendships, remember bdays, text people and plan events... It is not often reciprocated :(

@globalvillage423

3 жыл бұрын

They are also gullible, indecisive and risk averse.

@adeelali8417

3 жыл бұрын

@@taraf4890 Set boundaries. Remember boundaries are loving not to only to keep people out but to let the right people in.

Here's a secret. People who feel they don't have good social skills can be something the world cannot get enough of, a great listener. Quite honestly, people are dying to be heard, and in this fast paced world, there are not enough good listeners. To talk to someone, have them really hear you, is gold. Fake talk is everywhere, good listening is not.

"Effortlessly"... That was SO CUTE.

@TheX16xel

3 жыл бұрын

Hehe... i am not a native English speaker and... in my native language i got.. some t.twisters... examples folow: "W Strzebrzeszynie chrząszcz brzmi w trzcinie.". "Szosą suchą". Translations: 1st: a bug buzzes in the bushes (in a village named Strzebrzeszyn). 2nd: "on a dry road"

@artiolbregu2456

2 жыл бұрын

Yeph for sure

There is another skill. Active Listening. In a small group when a person is presenting I listen carefully and if something is not clear I will interrupt and ask for more details. This let the speaker know you are paying attention and are interested.

@adibhutani9977

3 жыл бұрын

Listener was one of the type of the social skills she mentioned. So maybe you’re not that good a listener apparently :P

@obende

3 жыл бұрын

@@adibhutani9977 I believe active listening is different from just regular listening because it requires you to immediately respond rather than just being quiet -- hence OP mentioning interrupting, but not interrupting disrespectfully. But yeah I can agree active listening is a subset of listening. It's just different enough to be separate though.

@adibhutani9977

3 жыл бұрын

Jay G Sounds quite right. Agreed.

@akni3547

3 жыл бұрын

Decoder?

Effortlessly blew my mind... The world needs more awkward people.

@MANDS81

3 ай бұрын

Agree :)) She had me there too! Being authentic is what I'm embracing more of, guess this could be why one relates with. Where you're at, seeing ones strong suit and not

I can never picture you as anything close to socially awkward.

can u make a vid about how to improve every one of them

Like her fluently Like her enthusiasm Like her magnetising ability Like her strong personality She does look like actress galgadot. May be she can be the next wonder women..😅😅😊😊 Very informative..(science of people) ...ThanksVVE

Vanessa talks about showing vulnerability and not trying to be perfect is a great trait of personality and I love how she shows it in that video, Love the book and the video

@goldenlioness868

9 ай бұрын

I’ve tried to be more open but often when I show venerability it gets used against me. There I go back into my shell of not trusting people.

Just as i feared. I have no social skills whatsoever.... I don't fear public speaking, but don't seek it out. Some people think I'm funny, but i don't want to entertain. Spontaneous unscripted conversations are dreadful (better since studying Captivate) but i have a phobia of telephone conversations, especially making them. I'm great at writing. Fibres me a chance to organize my thoughts and vocabulary.

Overall I'm a Chameleon but my strongest skills are magnet, conversationalist, dream builder. The ones I'd like to improve are speaker, story teller, linchpin or leader.

@alyssaherren8957

3 жыл бұрын

It's also mind blowing that I'm a veryyyy natural conversationalist and social butterfly. I fit in with anyone and I'm good at fixing their problems and having good conversations, but I thought that's how everyone was so it's crazy to me reading the comments here like "I have no skills" I'm just baffled. That's so different for me to grasp.

I've always been around toxic people and I know I'm glue because I see good in everyone and I end up hating it.

Hahaha I had the worst time trying to say ‘subsequently’ during a presentation!! It was exactly the same as you here!

I just want to say I absolutely appreciate your existence. Thank you for sharing and helping awkwards world wide 😇

Yourself is truly a captivating awkward human being Vanessa, I admire and appreciate you!

I thought I didn’t have any of these social skills but I’m actually a conversationalist! Good to know!

this really made me feel better about myself as i am a nurterer and decoder:) my sister is amazing at socialising and i have always felt inferior but i now realise i have my own strengths, thank you vanessa!

You’re the only person on the internet I trust about charisma tips. Thank you for the content!

I like how you explained and thought of all these aspects. It's getting my mind going on how to improve. Things I could focus on more directy.

this insight of the different kind of social skills, i wasnt even aware was a thing. I knew them seperately but never occured to me that they are under a umbrella. This was great! thank you!

You're deffff a magnet😊 and thanks for the vid! I'm always interested in breakdowns, categories and lists so thanks! I feel like we'd get a long well. But I'm also not a great listener lol but I practice and can do it

Man, I’m terrible in all areas. But not a surprise! I appreciate the breakdown. It’s good to know there are different skillsets within the larger skillset.

Thanks ma'am.. based on the 14 social skills which you've elaborated, I've identified my top 3 social skills which I'm good at: 1) COMEDIAN 2) LISTENER 3) DREAM BUILDER

Advantageous video 👌👌😇 Informative

Bravo for your great work Vanessa. You are incredible and I love you more than you know!

Excellent. Thank you for making this video ❤️.

LOVE her!! 💘 Funny but very educational and super helpful tips. 👍 And she does it......effortlessly! Giggle!😆🤣😉

We need them more than ever in crowded areas, life savers indeed. .

It if funny. I don’t fall under any of these 14 social skills. I have one trait here or there but none of these 14 skills correctly describe me.

Amazing social skills, thanks Vanessa. Blessings from Puebla, Mexico.

Sad I officially have zero social skills!

@outps

3 жыл бұрын

@Uvoicer Text To Speech this is supposed to be a joke, sorry you didn't get it lol

Very good video Vanessa. Enlightening in regards these various components. Ill be looking into your class and the areas I need to improve on with you. :)

OMG this, is by far, has been my favorite video on your page. I've been struggling to talk about myself and write a cover letter. With this video I have gain a better way to describe myself. That will actually appeal to employers. 🔥💜 Side note, leaving the blooper of you stumbling over "effortlessly" in the main part of the video. Content/relatable gold. Really great way to connect with your audience

@ScienceOfPeople

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I love u because you help non sociable people....People are most concern with being judged and have a tough time overcoming it

im definitely the best at decoding and listening

Wow!! Look at her smile!

sooo cool!!! Vanessa, you so positive and sweet! :) I love you and your video. Thank you very much for such an amazing effort!

Thank you so much vanessa!!! ❤❤❤

Thank you for share your knowledge

My husband and I are both magnets. I did not know this is a social skill! Also I’m conversationalist but I tend to like story tellers because that’s not my best quality. We are also both great nurturers. We are a perfect match. I am also a decoder! Very cool. This is a great video!

@keylanoslokj1806

6 ай бұрын

So you r the hypernormies couple 😂

seriously i opened this video with very less expectation . but this is just the one basic video requires to improve myself which was missing .Thanks.

Thank you! This is incredibly informational. One more thing...can you please shar the make and model of your microphone. Your sound is excellent.

after you got stuck on "effortlessly" - I couldn't say it either 😂😂😂 !!!

Thank You So Much for this Great Video! It was so helpful.

Thank you for this video! im thinking of improving my social skills for better life

I like how you made that comeback at the end with that very excellent pronunciation. Thank you very much for the content and have a great day

That was really insightful, I hadn't thought that deeply before about what I meant by wanting to improve my social skills. This breaks it down really well and makes it clear what I need/want to improve upon. The fact that you have a plethora of resources for me to now look into is very impressive. Thank you Vanessa

@ScienceOfPeople

2 ай бұрын

Oh wow! That's so wonderful to know! You're most welcome! 💖🙏🏻

You do this so EFFORTLESSLY :)

I'm definitely a comedian, leader and conector

I recently found you and I admire you so much, I wish to have your confidence and social skills

@lolalo6174

3 жыл бұрын

You can work on it

I’m devouring all Vanessa content, super powerful and super useful information, it’s helping me out and also my students. I’m determined to learn every single pice of Vanessa’s work. ❤❤❤❤

@ScienceOfPeople

6 ай бұрын

I am SO thrilled to hear that. ❤ Thank you for being here!

There's no such thing as awkward silence. Silence is golden. On the other hand I've had numerous awkward conversations...

@alan2102X

3 жыл бұрын

"Awkward" = important if unpleasant truth being revealed, somehow.

I am none of the above. Great. . .

Dreambuilder, nurturer, leader, chameleon, comedian, decoder Aspiring: listener, influence, magnet.

@ScienceOfPeople

10 ай бұрын

Love it!

@ab-jc8nv

7 ай бұрын

Hi

Vanessa's content is always excellenttt - also how awesome is her energy ?

Wow, I rarely find videos where more than 50% of it is cool new stuff I've never heard of before. Thank you thank you Vanessa for sharing this! I decided this week that I'm going to stop making excuses for my crippling social anxiety and develop some skills to help me better put myself out there and live life more fully.

@ScienceOfPeople

11 ай бұрын

Oh I love to hear this!! You're so welcome. You got this ❤️

The way you compliment and explain makes me think you really care xo

@ScienceOfPeople

8 ай бұрын

♥️♥️

Really WELL DONE video! You are effortless! I got tripped up by the title & almost passed u by! I don't "should" on me!!! Have a blessed day! Thank Q~

@ScienceOfPeople

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much!! I'm glad you enjoyed it!

Great video!!! Love this❤ I learn so much about the people in my life or have crossed path with. And see these different personalities within them. So cool. Thanks

@ScienceOfPeople

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you loved it! ❤

😅 You had me at Effort...liley , great example of being real 😊 👋 love the content

@ScienceOfPeople

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching! =)

Thanks for sharing . That let me know That i am a leader

thank you so much

I honestly like you SO MUCH MORE after seeing you keep the funny B-reel out takes in this video, thank you

Very well done, thanks.

Chameleon 💯💪❤️ Such a great video, thanks 💯💯💯💯

This video was so interesting!! Thank you!

Lol I really got connected to your energy as soon as you started talking. I even subscribed.

A great video again.👍💯 Stay blessed and protected!🤲✌💯 Aamin Summa Aamin!

My top three are decoder, connector and dream builder. Perfectly suits my career.

Well Done Great Thanks for educating us

@ScienceOfPeople

Жыл бұрын

It's my pleasure! Thanks for watching.

I am becoming a decoder :O omg am I a wizard girl this video has done opened my eyes I thought I wa skillless talentless 😢 THANK YOU

Thanks 😊

I like the Positive high energy, combined with a smile that you always maintain in all your videos and presentations. As well as the great content that you always share with us (audience).

Vanessa: I just discovered your YT site ! You cover topics that I had been looking for ! at 2:18 it seemed that you were using the "pratfall effect" ! Although unintentional, it did make me like you even more !

lol I have none I’m the quiet one with stress and anxiety. Thanks to social anxiety

That laugh....love it

Very true

Thank you 🙏🏻 it is really useful

The high neurotic in me is starting to sweat... I made it to social skill #8 and still haven't found my top 3 skills😬

wow thanks great delivery style

Thank you for leaving the bloopers

Thank you 😊

Thanks for sharing my favorite tip was the comedian have a great day ❤

@ScienceOfPeople

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Thank you for watching. ❤

Lovely teaching thanks 😊

Eres increíble, además muy linda... Felicidades! Gracias por todo lo qué nos compartes 🌸

Thanks for the video.

@ScienceOfPeople

5 ай бұрын

My pleasure!

I thank you.

Vanessa, you are my giude in this world I really appreciate what you do 🤗

Hi Vanessa That's Chill - Kudos ✌️

I love following and learning just about everything you put out. I am a = (Magnet + influencer + decoder + chameleon) with my most dominant trait as decoder. I believe the type of work I do has forced me to become those mixed styles. I wish I was a comedian and less of a nurturing listener outside of business. Do you have any tips how to flip the switch and adjust one's personality traits from the business world into a more social/family/fun environment and less critical? I struggle with my work personality flowing into my family/ friends environment. Look forward to your next video.

Sooooo GOOD!

Excellent

This was a really interesting video! Does anyone have any insight/tips based on these rankings? Always looking for more ways to improve :) I got: 1. Magnet 2. Speaker 3. Leader 4. Dreambuilder 5. Influencer 6. Chameleon 7. Connector 8. Linchpin 9. Listener 10. Conversationalist 11. Decoder 12. Comedian 13. Storyteller 14. Nurturer

You’re the best!

Very helpful. Thank you.

@ScienceOfPeople

5 ай бұрын

You're welcome - so glad I could help!