Learn more about the people skills you need to succeed here! www.scienceofpeople.com/people-skills/

1 social assirtive (show your needs), can focus social energy, no people pleasing, set boundaries, can say no 2 memorable presence, make lasting connections, built network 3 master communicator, comfartable, effectively, know worthy of attention, presenting 4 sustain lasting confidence, overcome fear by strategies 5 excelent conversationalist, deep memorable talk, engage, keep it going 6 highly likeable, show your true self 7 exceptional and decoding emotions and thoughts, empathetic, also can translate your emotions to others. 8 pitch yourself well confidently, get people excited to work with you, adopt your ideas 9 charismatic, is warm and competence, knowledeable, faithful 10 influencial leader, apathy is lack of enthousiasm and interesr, can not be ambivalent, not aimless but purposefull, built excitement, know who is on there team and who they enjoy, harness motivation 11 productive

@FeelFree3

5 жыл бұрын

How to get memorable presence? Is it about the way you dress?

@jvaleriya

5 жыл бұрын

@@FeelFree3 It's about the way you behave

@prakashmishra8678

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you save my time

@thepeachsabino

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you I love you

I love working and socializing with charismatic people and these people never fail to amaze me. They are the people who I look up to the most. As a kid, I was very quiet and shy but as I've observed charismatic people I've been motivated to put my insecurities aside and challenge myself. The topic of social skills intrigues me and I study it a lot in my spare time because I know it's one of the skillsets I would appreciate the most in life. I know because I have lived so long without it. Vanessa your insights are great. Thanks for the video

@cherryl1c

5 жыл бұрын

We have same impression... i looked up on them and id like to study it in deeper sense. Im bubbly and shy but but through time Iearned confidence to my self. But i need to work it out more.

Vanessa thanks a lot for the essential people skills necessary for success. People skills such as social assertiveness, crafting a memorable presence, being a master communicator,... are vital for success. I admire the way you have exceptionally charismatic looks. That's the primary reason I watch your youtube videos. I endeavour to be charismatic like you.

I was labeled as anti social since I was a small kid. I would say that my interpersonal skills took the longest to cultivate. And for a time I can exercise those skills, I feel proud of myself. Naturally, I'll always be an introvert, but I learn to fake it for work. Sadly, I still lose steam within a few weeks, or months.

@turnkeybstraining6326

2 жыл бұрын

Do not prejudice yourself and do not take others opinions because opinions like onions bring a taste or tears into your eyes

@dorinaledsinger

Жыл бұрын

That's y I'm KZread to do ppl skills I need to brush on it

@mortazanazari6847

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Always like/praise what U are good at. Never Judge yourself based on other's Physical thing. Cause it kills self esteem....

You have natural raw talent for interacting. I find that when people like you learn the science behind their interpersonal intelligence, it's a game changer for their success. You can turn your social skills into a superpower with the right frameworks.

0:56 -Social Assertive: Low Social Assertiveness includes 1)Feeling out of control in social situations 2)Have more toxic people in their lives 3)Are addicted to people pleasing High Social Assertiveness includes 1)Set-up boundaries 2)Stand up for their needs 3)Are able to say no

Wow, a Bachelor's Degree in people skills in less than 15 minutes! You covered a lot of territory in very little time. This is GREAT wisdom, thanks so much Vanessa! I love your videos!

I would take every word from Vanessa's mouth VERY seriously. She's done the research and the hard work. I will be teaching this to my GED Prep class. 👍

Very detailed content! Thank you. I think I have the ability to channel all these skills.. sometimes I'm really good and charming but sometime my introvert side felt over stimulated. Mental state is so crucial here, gotta have the inner confidence and the energy. Pump yourself up before any interactions

All your ideas and key facts are so useful and great to be informed about no matter how much we know. We can all learn more, so thank you.

The perfect summary of what it means to have peoples skills.

I have social anxiety and don't have good interpersonal skills. I feel kind of hopeless about being able to be "normal". People often end up thinking I dislike them when I don't -- I'm just anxious, avoidant or whatever.

@pinkorangesoda

Жыл бұрын

me 2 =[ no friends for me

See the thing is, I've been watching this and I feel like some of the problem areas some people struggle with is the person I used to be. Someone once told my Mom oh I saw your daughter, she's very shy, but nice and my Mom looked at them like they didn't know her daughter because that was what I used to be and now I've oodles of confidence. Taking me for speech lessons was the wake up call I needed, because without a stammer I could confidently assert myself. I think with alot of these questions the bottom line, is confidence. My parents as a child, taught me my times tables and I went all one way after that. When someone has a bit of confidence, a leg boost you can get to be where you want to be

Thank you for the valuable knowledge Vanessa! : )

You are one if the best speakers. Thanks for your content and information. I appreciate it.

Hi Vanessa Your crafty self pitching on through educating about clever pitching & being a holistic social human in society is commendable - My Cheers to you 😊

This is too good . Will get your book. Can learn so much from you . I hope I can go from horrible to just bad .

Hi Vanessa! Very interesting. I have seen some socially confident newly hired bosses who easily have people notice them and remember their name and pitch their ideas with a big excited and confidant smile. Unfortunately these same people (upper management) quite quickly revealed themselves to be shallow and lacking real substance or competence although they were great at the impactful first impressions...the result was both of these managers were eventually let go. Personally I am an AMBIVERT. Depending on the situation I will channel all of the people skills you mention, versus other times when only some of my people skills will shine due to the synergy I am picking up on or due to an unknown situation. Thank you P.s. The survey did not work using my Blackberry Passport :(

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. Love your video very much.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

You are a master at everything.

Thank you, Vanessa!

Very informative... thanks for the video...

I am sooooo excited....

I don't have any of these

Really beneficial and stunning.....love it

EXCELLENT👍

Amazing lesson. I use this with my intervention students and they love it

@ScienceOfPeople

8 ай бұрын

Fantastic!!

I got your video in my assignment and I feel this video like 1000 minutes never finished.

I love this!!

Very interesting...Thanks Vanessa

it depends where you get your energy from. People who enjoy shopping, dressing up, partying,, friends, would be comfortable with humans around, and could be awkward with non-human. People who enjoy nature, animals/pet, reading, thinking, would be comfortable to be by themselves, or at ease with animals/ nature. Go with your heart, don't force yourself to be the person you are not to. It's fun to be in the city, with friends, but more stress and illness. It's boring in the country with nature/animals, but less stress/illness. It's your choice.

@tourmalinestone3988

3 жыл бұрын

If you love nature how is it boring. Some one that likes deep thinking and reading may find being in large groups of shallow people very boring.

amazing video, thanks for this millionaire vocabulary that I`m learning from your videos.

The content in the video are an amazing. Thank you for your effort for guiding us by giving such a valuable knowledge. Appreciate. ....

@ScienceOfPeople

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you for watching! I'm glad you found value in my content =)

Tremendous dear beautiful lady madam.... Love and respect from Pakistan for informative stuff 📚 keep smile and keep sharing valuable stuffs

Thank you so much for your energyI really appreciate everything you've done for meYou don't know how much it means to meSo kind of a personI would enjoy listening to youHave a very great dayBut I saw you looking good todayThank you for your time alwaysDanrueEdwar

This is really interesting insight

talented lady.

You madam are a social Goddess.

Oooh.. a free one too

Like you and noted the session is good

Thank u very much madam

Interesting!

I'm ISFP. We are not great at people skills but ill learn.

Great

Thank you for the video. Although I couldn't sign up for the course because the button "I want In" doesn't seem to respond.

@MrTruth111

4 жыл бұрын

You have to really want it: Then it works:)

Damn I need help in all of these skills lol

do you have strategies to develop these skills in your book captivate!????

I feel I'm empathetic and I can read peoples emotions. But I feel I should let them be and let them deal with it. Because when I have problems or stressed out I don't like people tell me what to do or tell me all this stuff to try to make me feel better. I feel I deal with my own things, and I appreciate people telling me they care and they want whats best for me. But I feel it doesn't really help because in the end of the day I need to fix my problems. So what can I do to not feel like I'm and asshole because I care in the end of the day?

What would you say to people who suffer with anxiety???

@mrbryanrocks159

6 жыл бұрын

Xanax boiii

Fight 3 A's - Aimlessness, Apathy and Ambivalent

Worthy.

Blowing a kiss to you,Vanessa.That's exactly what I need, thank you！

Once you say be likeable and then you say learn to say no and don't do people pleasing. What do you wanna convey?

@ScienceOfPeople

9 ай бұрын

Good question! Being likable and being a people pleaser are two different things. Being likable means you have qualities that naturally attract others, such as being kind, respectful, and considerate. You can be yourself, express your own opinions, and still be likable. On the other hand, being a people pleaser often involves sacrificing your own needs and desires to make others happy. It’s about constantly seeking approval from others, often at the expense of your own well-being or values. So, you can strive to be a likable person without falling into the trap of people-pleasing. It’s all about maintaining a balance and staying true to yourself.

Can you do a video on trying to hard?

where does one start i dont have any of these

@MrTruth111

4 жыл бұрын

First start with correct spelling, Using puctuation and capitals. :)

@tourmalinestone3988

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrTruth111 Not sure if that is fist but good if your writing for work. I would consider starting with over coming anxiety if you have it cause if your confident it's easier to focus and learn other skills.

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a miilion likes,........a extended version plsssssssss

I think she's the one for me

I dont understand why some people dislikes thise vedio

Still a lot of. .to improve

My charismatic ideal is handa kun

How can communicate with u madam thank u very much

I've tried to take down notes but the video was too fast for me. I hope she put a pause in between discussion, just enough for me to finish what im writing. I end up pausing the video every discussion... :( It lost the momentum and drained the enthusiasm. This a great video and shouldn't be missed watching. Really helpful but please give the viewer some time to takke note. There are people like me who learn more and remember faster when we wrote what we hear.

When you posess them all, and the video just feeds your ego :P

@hellobeautiful3301

6 жыл бұрын

AUk Good job! :)

HELP....I am constantly labeled as abrasive...I am unaware of what is that I do that makes me abrasive....very frustrating....

@shannondonahoo3135

3 жыл бұрын

I can be this way too...I try to soften how I say things and not say things so bluntly

I am very book smart

I am an INTJ so please do not take my comment as a personal attack. If someone has to be be taught people skills, at what point do they stop being who they are and cross a magical line? A line where they are doing more acting and entertaining than showing their unfiltered self? It seems like a popularity contest where many people act plastic and fake. It is just my limited perspective, and I don't have much to go on; what I do is judge people not by what they say... but their ACTIONS. Specifically the actions that reinforce what they have said. Many of those I know of that have highly developed people skills tend to act like used car salesmen. When the sh1t hits the fan, they aren't there for you, but I am. I believe in being civil, and tactful, but what you call people skills sounds like acting. Note: I have met some rare people that are genuine, have empathy, and commit their actions to their words.

@adeekoopeoluwa7406

4 жыл бұрын

You re amazing! You works are outstanding

@gabzz72

4 жыл бұрын

I definitely see your point, but I think it the key it to tailor it to your personality ya know? For instance, I like how charisma on demand breakdown different ways people charm, i.e Emily Clarke’s charm looks different from Sofie Turner’s charm. Also I think coming from a genuine place, like genuinely be interested interested in someone, you won’t come across as a phoney.

@chizoioioi

3 жыл бұрын

I think the best way to treat advice like this not pretend to have all this charisma and social energy, but to find flaws you may have an improve those, which is just helpful period. For example if you seek to be more outgoing and assertive, dont just force yourself and be fake but realize you may need to improve your confidence then reflect what you can do to improve that. What this video does not address is root causes for Why you have these problems and What to do about it.

Decoding is my strongest suit! I care about everyone in the room😁

I honestly don’t like people, I feel like most are annoying.

@conversationcorner1837

2 жыл бұрын

Aren't you "people' too ?

@sigmasiren777

2 жыл бұрын

@@conversationcorner1837 nope, alien 👽

Hi

WARNING: Those of you who are mesmerized with Vanessa's convincing manner may find the following offensive. But hear me out. I do not like the overall organization of Vanessa's Conversational Framework. And many times in conversation the one size fits all approach stated doesn't work. I think the accepted major categories for interpersonal communication would be IQ and then EQ (also EI known as emotional intelligence). This is well established from the mid 1990s. Social Energy, never heard this before? What she means to say is speaking using Assertive Communication techniques, the prerequisite is being self-aware. Oaky, how exactly do a have a strong presence? Here again Vanessa fails to mention that you need to be self-aware to project natural confidence. Master communicator? Public speaking is very very different than talking one-on-one or small groups. The two categories are so different that you can be very good at one, and horrible at the other. Sustain Lasting Confidence, what? You need to once again be self-aware. Natural confidence is who you are as a person. You do not need to turn your confidence on and off. Self-aware people can recognize, understand and effectively deal with their emotions while at the same time being able to reason. Let me add to her three levels, the most important being first impression. First impression is based on your complete presentation, meaning everything from what you wear to the way you walk and move, to other nonverbals and how you talk and organize your thoughts. The way you dress is not the same for all the categories mentioned; Professional, Romatically or Socially. For example, when dressing for Romantic and Social, I dress to impress women, for business, I dress to impress men. Very different in approach and look. One size does not fit all. She failed to elaborate on long pauses with big talk. You do not have to fill dead air like a radio DJ. If a long pause is needed for your audience or yourself, don't feel awkward. People at times need time to think. Do not rush your partner. It is better to be patient and match your partners style or exhibit yours if the conversation warrants. Being comfortable with long pauses really means you are comfortable with yourself. In my opinion, actual self and real self is one of the less effective ways to describe being self-aware. The chart with the two circles is too simplistic in describing one's journey of Recognition of self. I think Charisma is based on a person's true self. It is strongly tied to their ability to seduce (In the Robert Greene sense of the word). You are able to project your complete self upon your partner. It is this authenticity which is charisma. As Vanessa has proven it helps if you are attractive. But, people with critical thinking skills in conversation will always que on if someone is attractive, you will find yourself asking, does this person actually know the theory behind what they say, or all they just an attractive presenter? Just because someone is attractive does not make them smart, or knowledgeable about their subject. If you have a hard time grasping this, replay the video with Vanessa off screen, and listen closely. When you find yourself asking well how will I do that? or there is no usable facts in some of the specifics, the presentation falls into the inspirational category, which really means from a practical standpoint unusable. The conversational techniques have to be targeted to audience and setting. For example; the video would have you believe that the same techniques could be used for business and dating. Which is crap. The way a man leads a meeting at work is vastly different than talking to a woman on a date. There might be at most a 20% overlap in technique. Vanessa, please stop with the wild hand gestures. You are making me nauseous.

@chizoioioi

3 жыл бұрын

Its like a collection of outlines in a textbook, ideally we’d have all of this she mentions, but can she actually teach how?

I don't know what "robust" or "rapport" mean Would someone mind explaining those words to me?

@muskduh

Жыл бұрын

lol

El inmigrante venezolano (new youtube)

I have non

I paused the video she stopped moving

She seems to be setting unrealistic standards of what a socially successful person is in order to sell stuff. Classic marketing move. No one is as socially flawless as the "essential" skills listed here.

I l@@e

I mean, this did a lot of identifying.. but no solutions

@Luna-mo4bp

3 ай бұрын

that's the point, identify what needs to be done. They can't really provide solutions because everyone's situation is so unique. It's better if you get the information identified for you and create a plan with solutions to improve.

Videos like this make me mad. When it begins you might think that she's trying to help people develop their skills but after you get to about step 3 or 4 you realize that she's just trying to peddle the same concept of "being a people person". Then she mentions her book and makes it clear what the intention is behind the video. 2 steps later she mentions a course and gives a link to purchase the course. Stuff like this is literally just meant to pray on the introverted and those with low self confidence. The way she talks is the exact same way self-help books read; she repeats the same idea just hits different points of it and then calls it a different idea. It's woefully transparent and has turned me off to the entire channel.

@windward2818

3 жыл бұрын

I just added a general comment above (sort newest first) going into the same observations with a little more detail. Take a look.

please no more botocs you cannot move your naturally expressive face

I just find the exaggerated gestures and expressions disingenuous. Especially the smile comes across disjointed and fake.

Her left eyebrow is distracting me 😢

Hate this class😂🤣🤦‍♂️