An abusive marriage is already a failed marriage.

@mirandangwenya7487

Ай бұрын

Exactly

@ananasvostel

Ай бұрын

Thank you!!!

@jennyanthonia7553

Ай бұрын

thank you

@ezeoruruth3887

Ай бұрын

Preach 👏

@joyjames6753

Ай бұрын

perfect@@mirandangwenya7487

If my spouse sexually abused my child I wouldn’t divorce either. I would be a widow. He wouldn’t survive.

@Babygirl4life

Ай бұрын

Thank you ! A real mother

@timchalamettt2770

Ай бұрын

This!

@cynthiaopaluwa4983

Ай бұрын

😂

@erlahbee

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂💯

@chidimmaagbapu5069

Ай бұрын

Louderrrrr!!

I can’t even lie😭 that anti divorce side has such a scary mindset ..

@Low_BP

Ай бұрын

Rubbish set of people🤦🏿 The should be jailed already

@Reuben2000

12 күн бұрын

I'm telling you sis😔, those guys are big f**ls

@ngozitheodoraugo4957

8 күн бұрын

​@@Low_BP4:50

Kids growing up in a toxic environment is way more traumatic than growing up in a broken home!

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414

Ай бұрын

Most toxic environment are broken homes though😂😂

@ogolden8315

Ай бұрын

@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414I don’t why people act like homes with married parents are also not broken and toxic. “By there fruits you shall know them” and in many African counties the homes are toxic and rotten, so the people are dysfunctional and toxic.

@Itiswhatitis638

Ай бұрын

@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414not true. My friend has parents that are still together and she and her younger sister are currently in therapy because of their parents toxic relationship. Her sister was literally cutting herself at 14 years old, she is in an abusive relationship that she refuses to leave.. I’m waiting for the day I receive a call from the police about her partner unaliving her and her older brother is gay/trans (he hasn’t had the surgery though and goes back and forth between genders). All of these issues stem from their parents toxic relationship. She has a little cousin whose parents separated when he was very young though and that boy is doing well as far as I know, he was accepted into the university to study psychology and started first year a few weeks ago.

@nolog5948

Ай бұрын

What do you mean by a "broken home"? What do you think makes a broken home?

@boipelolecha3157

Ай бұрын

@@nolog5948I think as a society we need to stop referring to divorced families as “broken homes”. I know people who got divorced and they are living amicably. Still in each others’ lives, their families are still cordial and friendly with each other. Sometimes people are better off divorced, doesn’t mean anything is broken, so I get you

“He beats me, yet he loves me.” Oh auntie💀

@ivyoguledo3519

Ай бұрын

Likeeeee....very disgusting

@-mitchelless

Ай бұрын

Scaryyyy

@KambyTales

Ай бұрын

Likeee ahnn I'm bleeding 💔

@MistyEE21

Ай бұрын

Heard of STOCKHOLM SYNDROME? That is what Auntie suffers from. Very sad.

@KHVLIQ

Ай бұрын

Dumbest thing I’ve heard in 2024

I can't believe that people would stay in a marriage with someone that sexual abuses their own children. Disgusting! 🤢

@favouroyetade7969

Ай бұрын

Likeee The woman on orange is very sick

@theliliannuel

Ай бұрын

Sick and utterly disgusting!

@neh6856

Ай бұрын

LITERALLY!! WHAT ON EARTH???

@user-zy3pr6bi1k

Ай бұрын

Get her point she said she would report the man and allow the man serve her punishment but get it from her point that she would stay back in that marriage for the sake of the same kids because you have divorced the man and if the man takes you out of the his life also like desist from letting you or your kids lay claim to his family,inheritance etc the kids would have an issue with their roots as much as you would say your roots means shit for example a man would still have to lay claim to a particular place and heritage also this might not be an issue for the female child as she would definitely be married off to her husband and can continue from there but it can seem to be a hard task for the male child to lay claims to. Also in as much as we want to diminish the role of a father in a home and a mother in home breaking this would impact on the children

@user-zy3pr6bi1k

Ай бұрын

People are getting divorce just because the man didn’t buy her human hair silly things like this

My heart goes out to the older lady that had to sit there and listen to a bunch of idiots belittle the abuse she suffered while also telling her she was wrong for finally leaving. That little boy is truly scary. Saying things like “divorce won’t help your situation, because if a man wants to kill you he’ll do it still. So you might aswell stay” is BATSHIT CLINICAL CRAZY.

@boniegadzama4935

Ай бұрын

I can’t believe he sat there and made those statements boldly.

@stevenikharo2723

11 күн бұрын

That boy was really undermining what she went saying “how do you know divorce would have helped “🤦. I feel like slapping him . Talking about data from Forbes. Wetin Forbes sabi for Nigeria

The Alvin guy saying he is gonna prioritize the child’s future meanwhile he isn’t even prioritizing the child’s present state and well being 😭

@Lovia_

Ай бұрын

If the child's future was in mind he should have divorced and separated. The fact that if the child would have spiraled into taking their own life (I just think) they won't have a future n he'd probably still be in the marriage mxm

@boniegadzama4935

Ай бұрын

Omg this !

@jeby4lyfe

Ай бұрын

Sometimes, it's best not to have children at all, especially people like him

@halimahnasirrufai

29 күн бұрын

Thissssss… trauma from sexual abuse literally leads people to suicide

The lawyer is SUCH A BREATH OF FRESH AIR!

@reserveeuphoric2283

Ай бұрын

And he’s hot too😂

@yahphirah182

Ай бұрын

​@reserveeuphoric2283 but he married...😂😂😂😂don't cause him to die-vorce

@fatoluanjola9182

Ай бұрын

@@yahphirah182lol

@BeautifullyMuna

Ай бұрын

Yes! I loved listening to him speak. He is so intelligent.

@jadechide6249

Ай бұрын

The lawyerrrrr>>>>>

The fact that a woman is older, doesn't mean she's wiser.. this video is a clear example..

@user-ip7fu8fc8u

Ай бұрын

shes talking like she came to life for a man

@The.Review-Queen

Ай бұрын

Absolutely

@MeSocial282

Ай бұрын

So true. She is such a disgrace.

@adeolamabadeje2880

Ай бұрын

Totally agree

@r____8

Ай бұрын

I would be embarrassed if that was my mother.

The woman in orange said she married at 30 which speaks volume why she wouldn't divorce her husband no matter what, because she was desperate and not ready to loose what she taught God answered her prayer for

@BrookEmisiko

Ай бұрын

I disliked the way the were coming at the other woman basing the failure of her marriage on being married at 19😢.

@stevenikharo2723

11 күн бұрын

⁠@@BrookEmisikothe woman in orange was so wrong for that . Regardless of your age a marriage can fail. Marrying young or old doesn’t affect your chances of getting abused. What that woman in green went through has nothing to do with the age she married. The anti-divorce section are wrong for undermining what she went through especially that boy with his annoying accent

So we tell little girls "if he hits you he likes you" but then ask later on in her life "If he hits you why did you marry him?"

@cocoalovelife8849

Ай бұрын

This

Dear Alvin's future wife, I pray you watch this video and run

@endswithme555

Ай бұрын

Screaming!!!!😂😂😂😂

@erhivwodefavour4483

Ай бұрын

Amen

@osakpoloraiguobasinmwin6857

Ай бұрын

Dead😭😭😂

@sephy7733

Ай бұрын

I hope she sees this video before she even decides to marry him 😰

@richardsmith1813

Ай бұрын

Real bro needs mental evaluation

The guy with the American-like accent trying to sound sensible but nonsense comes out of his mouth

@tamiausten873

Ай бұрын

After consuming American content my whole life, I know that Americans have said the most stupid things you'd ever be unfortunate to hear in life. Case study: Theo von, Joe Biden.

@fowokemiadeniji1710

Ай бұрын

I was looking for this comment… I really disagreed with his opinions. Especially when he began to comment on the case of when a child is sexually abused…. It’s easy to sit down in front of the camera and talk about “staying because you’re choosing the child’s future” The reality of abuse is more serious and nuanced than few sentences in a focus group discussion.

@missy.j4523

Ай бұрын

@@tamiausten873💯💯💯

@adahdorathy644

Ай бұрын

I wonder ooo😢

@Ebitibi_layefa

Ай бұрын

Very dumb young man!

The fact that lady in orange said "If you are saying you have passed through beating, maybe you have not passed through the one I’ve passed through" to the lady in green when she said she was abused by her husband. But later blamed her for marrying at 19 when she herself married at 30 and got the same treatment. May God protect any girl with a mother like this.

@blairdon3444

Ай бұрын

Aswear…. I was looking for this comment. She nor just get sense

@dupeesther5977

Ай бұрын

She is not mentally stable

@fehintoluwaojewuyi9595

Ай бұрын

As innnnnn ha ! Can you imagine ?!

@faithejezie1256

Ай бұрын

The woman's take was just scarryyy

@miriamspecialdesigningjourney

Ай бұрын

😮😮😮😮

"I don't think divorce is a problem. I think divorce is reather a solution to a problem" No need a discussion, this dude simplified everything.

I am so embarrassed at the woman in orange saying the lady in green was abused because she married young. May God save her from this backward mentality

@makungum

Ай бұрын

The lady in the green deserved so much empathy. I am so angry and sad for her

@ifoundhisjams4075

Ай бұрын

@@makungumand they kept speaking over her when she tried to speak up. Honestly very disgusting the way they were trying to tell her and blame her for all of it.

@faithy6241

Ай бұрын

She has a very boxed kind of mentality and it's a scary thing tbh

@dremewhite5209

Ай бұрын

I'm so worried for Orange Woman's children. I hope they see through her bullshit.

@PrinceSolomon82

Ай бұрын

If a 19 year old young person is old enough to fornicate, or consent to sex. why are they not old enough to get married?

People in the anti-divorce section scared me specifically the woman in orange.

@peterchibuike7093

Ай бұрын

Why did they scare you?

@DollarDuds

Ай бұрын

Right, she is so scary

@nostalgia1267

Ай бұрын

Bc they have a very backwards mindset that is harmfull @@peterchibuike7093

@tamiausten873

Ай бұрын

My dear, I couldn't watch it. I don't believe in divorce either but I also don't believe in abuse of any kind. Whatever way a victim can be separated from an abuser, it has to be done. If she's separated from him and he stalks her, then more actions must be taken like jail and divorce

@kualawilliams4649

Ай бұрын

@@peterchibuike7093because they rather their husband kill them than leave

This channel really opened my eyes on how some people have dangerous mindsets, we are so doomed🙆🏽‍♂️

@cookiegirl891

Ай бұрын

Facts 😭

@princessiluyemi5992

Ай бұрын

Like!!! Am wowed 😢😮

@nadinewhite957

Ай бұрын

Am telling you very dangerous mindset . God help us oh!!!🎉❤

@Yorubaddie

Ай бұрын

Right

@nwamama7101

Ай бұрын

Most people have very problematic belief systems.

When I tell people that I HATE the deep rooted christian patriarchal society in Nigeria, this is EXACTLY what I am talking about. It is MADDENING to see how many women are mistreated but are/feel forced to stay in those relationships because of status, wealth, entrapment, etc.

@immaculatepeter5529

Ай бұрын

It’s truly depressing.

@jessicamusing

Ай бұрын

Yeah, it's quite heartbreaking. The problem is the misuse of faith when the same faith is actually against most of the things people use to back themselves or their actions. Ignorance is no joke.

@ahhasonnajackson9083

Ай бұрын

Honestly…the religious abuse is so deeply rooted in them..my God i wish mental/sexual/abuse education was easily accessible for them. This shit is sick

@Nicolelove90

Ай бұрын

Do you think that the Nigerian Muslim societies are better?

@eKaYTeNshi

Ай бұрын

@@Nicolelove90 i honestly don't know since my fam is Christian, but probably not.

That woman in orange won’t report that man, she’ll in fact, blame the child he sexually assaulted.

@chikarobinson5032

Ай бұрын

No, she will definitely report him, because she will not be able to stand the trauma at all. Her child is the person been violated, so definitely and truthfully, she will report him.

@ogochukwunlewoha4953

Ай бұрын

@@chikarobinson5032I feel like she just said that to save face. Asking if it is true when your child just came to you with something like that is crazy!

@desireokoba3631

Ай бұрын

​@@chikarobinson5032she would not oh, if you hear the way she's talking

@TheDELE1960

Ай бұрын

Gbam!

@copperredd

Ай бұрын

She is the type to accuse that child of seducing her husband... Disgusting!

Dear young African girls! Just because a woman is older doesn’t mean they have the wisdom to advise you. Let this video be the example. No wonder she keeps saying Dievorce she really wants to die for her husband 😂🤣

@jun_kage

Ай бұрын

Preach

@Womanofchange99

Ай бұрын

Amen 😂

@ChukwubuDike

Ай бұрын

If anyone doesn't know this by now, then they are part of the problem Nigeria has.

@rebeccaudo7611

Ай бұрын

Fr sis

@yahphirah182

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂that word DIE-VORCE got me irritated EVERY TIME SHE SPOKE IT😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

“Yes he hits me but he still loves me” is a wild statement to utter out of your mouth 😂😂😂😂

@watchforlife

Ай бұрын

She summed up her lack of common sense, with that statement.

@Dupesvlog

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@okohpatricia3825

14 күн бұрын

Asin 😂

@stevenikharo2723

11 күн бұрын

Then let’s say her daughter later marries and complains that her husband hit her what will she na say😂

She - " ooh yes he hits me yet he loves me" . Sent me in another dimension. Don't let her fool you if he hits you or abuse you leave IMMEDIATELY ASAP REMEMBER LOVE IS GENTLE AND KIND NOT ABUSIVE IF IT IS ABUSIVE THAN IT AIN'T LOVE BABY GIRL.

@kakishisfriend1126

Ай бұрын

The sense was knocked from her head

@moonliqx2211

Ай бұрын

Now if he almost kills her I hope she wont be saying that. The green girl story was so scary.

The fact that they are talking near a woman who has been in a coma from abuse is COLD. They should all be ashamed of themselves. Especially the men…who’s abusing you for real! Shat ap

@idrk1507

Ай бұрын

Disgusting people for real. You are your actions and the thoughts you agree with; if they think like that, they’re disgusting

@OnlyCC1018

Ай бұрын

hai bruh go sleep

@lawosluka7234

26 күн бұрын

wdym especially the men? its even more embarrasing that a woman is ignoring all the counter points and just repeating that she cant leave her husband

@olugbengakayode2516

24 күн бұрын

This is a reason domestic issues never get resolved. It is this naivety that men don't get abused. Until society begins to probe the triggers, na so we go dey talk am even in 1 million years. I wonder why those inexperienced children are on stage discussing a very serious issue like this. It's gonna get worse now that single parenting is the norm with fathers completely shut out of their children's lives. Society deserves what it gets, ultimately.

To the woman in green, you have my heart, even after telling your story you were ridiculed and judged….i hope you get all the happiness and joy you deserve you made a beautiful decision and no one should put you down for it ❤

@justkofo

Ай бұрын

Yes

@zahrai1235

Ай бұрын

And she is the honest sincere pure hearted person among devilish judgmental people

@marimor8539

Ай бұрын

Hard agree❤

@ClarisNdoroRealEstate

Ай бұрын

And she is smart and broader than the other lady.

The lawyer is the voice of reason.... such a balanced perspective

26:40 i love how someone finally told Alvin to reference the "data" that he has been basing his argument on😭😭😭

Beautiful mother in green they’re saying her marrying at 19 is the reason she got abused , but the one who married at 30 sat up there and said he beats her but loves her. This is too much

@chikarobinson5032

Ай бұрын

Really, a man can hit you once, twice, then you think deep and ask, do you think you can still stay, if no, just leave for a period, have a retreat, live your life, meet different people who will tell you good or evil things, weigh them, then tell yourself whether you want to continue with the marriage or not. Have a dialogue with your partner, and find out from your partner if he or she is ready to make amends.

@ewomazinoomonigho3115

Ай бұрын

Her brain cells is not working again I feel like hugging the woman in green

@mellissapromise5481

Ай бұрын

I believe this is just for entertainment because 😭😭😭 howwwww are these people humans?

@lindiweulaya

Ай бұрын

Honestly...she's very wrong for using that against her, abuse is abuse whether your 19 or 30.

@hanana.banana

Ай бұрын

i love her. may Allah reward her with better

The lady in green is such an inspiration. We stan a woman with self-respect❤

@nihinlolawaalao8264

Ай бұрын

Yes

@omowummiadeleye8571

Ай бұрын

I respect her courage 🎉

@queenorah9562

Ай бұрын

God bless her fr❤

@kparoboejovi6274

Ай бұрын

Absolutely!!

@selfishgirlsgofirst

Ай бұрын

That should be the standard to be honest. It shouldn't be this shocking to think like a decent human being.

Mama in green. I apologise for this entire experience that you had to go through.

8:20 the most traumatic thing you can do to your child who was sexually abused by her father is have them both in the same household and force her to relive the trauma by seeing his face each day. He did it once he will most certainly do it again. He already crossed that boundary.

Then blaming her for getting married at 19 instead of blaming the man for abuse baffled me😢

@fatouscup3264

Ай бұрын

They always blame the victim

@omowummiadeleye8571

Ай бұрын

Like i was shocked

@essjai5D

Ай бұрын

Nigerian culture for you

@YOYO-dv8gv

Ай бұрын

Exactly. Like your takeaway from her telling you all that her husband continuously abused her, put her in a coma multiple times, almost killing over the span of 25 years, was that that she got married at 19? Borderline insinuating that it was her bad judgement of getting married young that put her in that situation? Also Alvin needs to stfu because why was he even there

@bibifrancis758

Ай бұрын

Absolutely disgusting behaviour!!!

Cruise TV, please tell the woman in green that we love her. She made the right decision and she should NEVER regret it. Her life is more precious than people’s opinions. Sending love, joy and God’s blessings her way!

@beyiokuibukun9602

Ай бұрын

shes going to be a role model for those in that situation that are scared to leave or have no family that agrees with separation

@soignerel

Ай бұрын

We love and admire her!

@mkpoutoinyang5359

Ай бұрын

I agreeee!

@farfalles2665

Ай бұрын

We are proud of her!

@tiki-kut7494

Ай бұрын

She spoke wisely. When did the Holy Bible say, you must lose your sanity, safety, peace, and life for the sake of marriage.

That poor women in green. Going thru divorce and the whole village against her. I'm happy she still went thru it

Lady in green. I am so sorry for how they invalidated what you experienced. You are truly a strong woman for leaving. I cannot fathom how the "anti-divorce" individuals developed such warped views. But God bless you for remaining strong!

@veronicahaney6005

Ай бұрын

I can - the toxic parts of culture

@deserieoware7055

20 күн бұрын

Amen 🙏🏽

The woman wearing green should be a marriage counsellor, she is intelligent and outspoken.

@Yorubaddie

Ай бұрын

💯💯

@AxiaomonryouY173

Ай бұрын

Exactly

@ahhasonnajackson9083

Ай бұрын

Very

That American guy needs to know that being the loudest in the room doesn’t make you the most intelligent

@elizabethasieba1548

Ай бұрын

Bro is 19 at best. The lack of exposure is screaming. Didn’t make up to 2 sentences that made sense. I wish they allowed the guy on green t-shirt to speak more.

@abiolaawodire7905

Ай бұрын

The guy spews nonsense. I am actually scared for him and his future wife....

@awodeee

Ай бұрын

Wrong and strong 💀💀💀

@wofaieloma3358

Ай бұрын

Ikr 😊😅😅😂😂

@omowummiadeleye8571

Ай бұрын

That boy is too young to there sef

The one with the cap you’ve been married for only 3 years and you’ve separated a lot🤦🏻‍♀️ that says a lot

@Sav.Age.

Ай бұрын

Exactly!!!!!

Many are mad...few are roaming. We need more more conversations like this to expose how deficient people can be in their thinking. Mummy Green, Guy in Green and the Lawyer...God bless and keep you all.

Alvin is so ignorant about life it's shocking. His accent makes things worse because people in Nigeria like to think people who have such accents are more exposed and likely more intelligent. I don't think this debate inspired me in any way, I left utterly disgusted by the thinking of the anti-divorce crew. May God help them.

@Afrogirrl

Ай бұрын

It was an eye opener. I think this video needed to exist I wasn’t aware ppl were so open about these beliefs. I thought it was behind closed doors.

@Pampy93

Ай бұрын

He's unsufferable. Like he speaks only to irritate people

@lilyrunyowa6540

Ай бұрын

The part were he says " the abuse has already happened " when they spoke about the sexual abuse of the child. Disgusting empty headed man .

@ibkdayo

Ай бұрын

they embarrassed the entre argument

@omotomiuk

Ай бұрын

May God help the American guy. He really has a way to go and has life experiences to go through. The lady in orange who believes in marriage till death no matter what must be lucky in hers (or enduring some horrors and is under immense denial). The uncle with a hat, I don’t even know where to start with him. He wants people to judge divorcees no matter what which is just scary! Let’s be human

I am so happy they included a Lawyer in this panel. Simply because he is calling out Alvin's bullshit 😂

@avateraangshoe5025

Ай бұрын

Fr!! And Alvin really tried to argue with him😭

@daniellaababa8533

28 күн бұрын

Thissss!!!! Lmao Alvin aggravates me fr

The man wearing the hat in the anti-divorce group is honestly very sick for saying people who get divorced should be stigmatized. Most people who get divorced honestly try to work things out before calling it off. You can never know what some people have been through in abusive marriages unless u live it yourself!!

I love the way the woman in green stood on business despite the silly opinions of people!!!! She really deserved to be free from her abusive relationship

These anti divorce people made me SICK!!! Putting your child's "financial future" (or so they say) over their SAFTEY! Worrying about getting help for the partner that abused your child??? I am disgusted! Another reason why I am SOOOO grateful to have the mother I have in my life because how could ya'll not protect your children??!

@idrk1507

Ай бұрын

I’m pretty sure they don’t even care about the “financial future” of the child, it was a lie to make them not look bad. Even if the child is 100% guaranteed to have a financial future, they will find another excuse, and another, and another. These people will never leave criminal spouses no matter what. Disgusting The fact that they had to lie, is enough proof that they’re wrong, but dumb people never accept they’re wrong

@BrookEmisiko

Ай бұрын

I mean the child might not even live to enjoy that financial security due to the emotional torture

@Shaizasultana

Ай бұрын

What future will the child have after suffering sm abuse money or no money I would never let my child stay with an abuser

@laylagrant6140

Ай бұрын

@@idrk1507 yea ik that’s why I put financial future into quotations because that was just an excuse used

@laylagrant6140

Ай бұрын

@@BrookEmisiko Ik! that’s why my comment points out how disgusting it is

Staying in a marriage after your child is sexually abused is the most disgusting and stupid thing to say🚮

@XPurpleMyth3

Ай бұрын

I thought the same way. I really thought everyone would have the same thinking to at least separate. But no they wanted to stay, and STILL let the child be around the abuser.

@Iam_andredan

Ай бұрын

Divorcing is not even a question. The question is what would happen after. He or she should rot in jail

@talk2minie

Ай бұрын

Ikr! It is non negotiable! Can you imagine that someone is even contemplating whether or not one would even leave?!! I don't understand people.

Alvin is the one that's raising a traumatized generation 😭😂 I really love this lawyer and the lady in green❤

They are lying to push their own narrative. Some children beg their parents to divorce because they’re tired of seeing the fights.

@immaculatepeter5529

Ай бұрын

Not only that, many abuse partners are abusive parents.

@yejide2

Ай бұрын

@@immaculatepeter5529 THANK YOU!!!! like protect your children

“ If I’m the child, I will arrest you and my father”😂😂😂

@faithy6241

Ай бұрын

I shouted YESS with him😂😂😂

@ibukunoluwaadeoye

Ай бұрын

Fact😂

@shine748

Ай бұрын

This one got me🤣🤣🤣🤣@@ibukunoluwaadeoye

@BrookEmisiko

Ай бұрын

👏👏👏he was sensible 😂

Mama in the orange… She is the type who would not believe her child would as abused all for the sake of remaining married. That is very scary. Just to claim being a married woman.. she would accept any and every form of bad treatment and abuse

@rollwithgovo

Ай бұрын

Totally!

@kasmirsdaughter6211

Ай бұрын

Then why are you giving her the honor of Mama? It’s these cultural norms that give people like her the audacity to think they deserve respect.

@nathaliedias243

Ай бұрын

That’s what I was thinking. If she has kids I really pray that she doesn’t pass that mentality to them. It’s sad

@babgurl1492

Ай бұрын

@@kasmirsdaughter6211 Is she not a mother? I’m not going to disrespect her because I don’t agree with her ideology. Mama.. aunty.. woman.. lady..whatever. You knew who I was referring to.. so that’s suffice.

@babgurl1492

Ай бұрын

@@nathaliedias243 oh I’m sure she will. I pray her children don’t accept it.

"Lack of communication is worse than abuse" okayy

@immaculatepeter5529

Ай бұрын

Ikr like how much work is your brain doing to make that make sense.

Trying to save face about a failed marriage by just separating just so you don’t get divorce is crazy.

My problem is if I came on this show I’ll insult somebody 😭

@giftiyere2818

Ай бұрын

Na that Alvin I go insult 😂

@favourobasiolu4512

Ай бұрын

No literally idk how they’re so calm 😂

@emiiit.n2985

Ай бұрын

I swearrrr😂, that Alvin guy is so irritating. The loudest in the room, but he is an empty head

@Nxleta

Ай бұрын

Me, in fact, I will fight 😂

@feranmijacobs7115

Ай бұрын

Fr i swear, cos nobody on the outside world would tell you how foolish you are

If a man hits you, you feel pain. If a man loves you, he will never want to see you hurt.

@bekkah7618

Ай бұрын

Exactly 👏

@Honeysmma

Ай бұрын

SIMPLE

@Idkchangethislater

Ай бұрын

“Remember the good times”. Crazy arse people.

@Esther-lz3ej

Ай бұрын

@@Idkchangethislater what!?🤣🤣🤣

@akosuatab9006

Ай бұрын

​@@Idkchangethislaterlike?? That was wild

the man and the woman in the green, and the lawyer ABSOLUTELY CARRIED THIS😭

If the world was a square shape, and the woman in orange told the woman in green that she got abused because she married at 19, we can also make the assumption that she refuses to divorce because she married at 30. But the world isn't square

A mother that got pregnant with her child, 9 months or more. Your child comes to you and tells you that her father, your husband has been assaulting her and the first thing you’ll ask her is ‘is it true?’ That woman wearing orange… wherever her children are, I hope they are healing.

@faraipascal

Ай бұрын

Best comment lol

@Oyinda4lfe

Ай бұрын

As in I can't even imagine what her children must have gone through living through trauma just because Auntie wants to keep her "Mrs" title... Pathetic.

Not that woman in orange saying “he hits me yet he loves me” LOL 💀

@thefeminineeye

Ай бұрын

Trauma bond

@coachvena1372

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂 Crazy right?

@laifakumo8183

Ай бұрын

delulu...

@aduralere1

Ай бұрын

😂​@@laifakumo8183

@uhhoh

Ай бұрын

Dead ass like wtf

Mama in green, you’re a star. I love you, your children are lucky to have you. You prioritised your children’s mental health and overall well-being. Mr Fisayo, your reasoning is amazing, you know what you’re talking about. Olatubosun, you’re a man and I commend your honesty and bravery in speaking the truth. Alvin must just be a real life chipmunk, because he’s spewing venom.

@oluwatomiloba9115

25 күн бұрын

E say na real chipmunk.. Rubbish personnn😢

Notice how they raised there hands up to say people change after marriage but they were also saying that marriage fails because you’re too young and you didn’t see the signs of a bad partner…..

@shqipe4801

Ай бұрын

No logic whatsoever

To witness with my own eyes that some human beings still have such backwards views on divorce is an embarrassment.

@thefeminineeye

Ай бұрын

It’s alarming

@regalchic

Ай бұрын

😂😂haaa! I just can't can! It is well.

@kind2423

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately parts of Nigerian culture is very backwards

@emahosa1383

Ай бұрын

Exactly, My prayer is they marry a narcissistic abuser

@user-cf6fo6bj1u

Ай бұрын

It’s a good thing we can have this conversation

Notice how Alvin is the youngest, least experienced, and never been a husband… yet he’s the loudest & most passionate…. Some men need to learn to listen😂

@belindatumwine358

Ай бұрын

Simply because he isn't doesn't mean he has nothing to give. We don't know what he has experienced that has made him that passionate. He is respectfully disagreeing... Abeg.. you that is married and older haven't you done worse in a situation you are passionate about...

@abigailogheneruonaaghaibie1438

Ай бұрын

It's opinion sha but he also said alot of nonsense@@belindatumwine358

@indigo500robber

Ай бұрын

@@belindatumwine358 I’m not married or older than him, that’s why I came to listen to experienced people. Too bad he talks over everyone with a real perspective.

@caiyeacaiyea2859

Ай бұрын

Just loud and foaming at the mouth 😂😂😂😂

@Tdawglove

Ай бұрын

He needs a lot more experience. Half of the things he said made little to no sense

"Think about the good times, there might be a loophole" is crazy😂

Well, you hear stories about parents who stay with spouses that abuse their children all the time. It's not like we didn't know such ppl exist, it's just wild to hear them say it out loud

@pxxnxh

Ай бұрын

True, disturbing af hearing it out loud tho

as a child that was sexually abused by a "parent", I have a large resentment for the parent who knew and stayed. i would've rather been homeless and had that person out of our lives then grow up feeling like my abuse wasn't "important" enough to do anything about edit: thank you for the love and concern. Yes i was abused as a child by "parent" and although this statement is angry, I do want it known that there is another side to that anger. I am in a position where I am not overcome by that anger and sadness of being betrayed by not only a parent who abused me but also a parent who found out and chose to stay and act like it never happened. That choice was made after enduring 5 years of abuse at the age of 9 and I continued to be abused until I was 16, and once more at 19 before I chose to put myself first and leave. As a child who endured this life, I cannot understand why a parent who said they loved me and wanted me to live a good life would do that. Please listen to your kids and remember that they are your responsibility. No one who has endured this abuse is responsible for it, the abuser is. They took advantage of a child and your willingness to overlook their crime. Please hold them responsible because the second you decide to give them another chance, you are now responsible for the abuse your child has endured and you have altered that child's life forever. to all those who have met a similar fate of abuse; I am so sorry you ever had to and my heart aches for you because I know and understand a lot of that pain and betrayal. i wish nothing but healing and love your way because that should've never happened.

@bomapeter6026

Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry if that was your experience 💔😞

@simplydivine77

Ай бұрын

I’m sorry. God bless you.

@Nxleta

Ай бұрын

That parent that stayed is weak and neither of them deserved you. I’m glad you are still here. ❤

@user-jm5te7mc7e

Ай бұрын

So sorry you went through all that…

@ThereisHappiness4

Ай бұрын

"When my father and mother abondon me, the lord will take me up." Psalm 27:10 I too have been sexually abused by a relative (uncle) but my mom made me apologize. She and my dad abandoned me in my greatest time of need. But know that God saw everything.

My god. None of the anti-divorce people should have children. How foul.

@nata7536

Ай бұрын

These are abusers hiding behind abusive parts of religious culture.

@ayomidemercy609

Ай бұрын

Honestly 😢😢

@ay1ism

Ай бұрын

People have different opinions and views, you might not agree with them but you have no right to judge them or castigate them.

@caramelgumdrop393

Ай бұрын

@@ay1ismi will proudly judge and castigate anyone who will standby and watch someone rape an innocent child in the name of “anti-divorce”. You people are mad.

@ay1ism

Ай бұрын

​@@caramelgumdrop393 Where does she say she would wait and watch innocent children being raped in the name of anti divorce? You see the reason why it is important to argue with the head instead of emotions. She even clearly said she would separate from the person and have him dealt with by the law. But then, one shouldn't expect any better from a dvmb insecure person with fragile emotions like you who cannot make any constructive argument but to throw insults.

Lord Jesus, if someone like Alvin or that mad man with the cap decides to look in my general direction physically remove me from their line of sight

@oluchukwuokeke1759

Ай бұрын

Amen!

The woman in green is strong

Those men in anti divorce should be closely monitored. The amount of times I was shocked at the nonsense coming out of their mouth

@victoriagbemisola9474

Ай бұрын

I pity the ladies that will get married to them 😢

What a disturbing episode. For people to make excuses for pedophiles is absurd.

@cmk2278

Ай бұрын

That’s Africa for you. They will sometime use sorcelery to excuse it sometime accuse the abused the child. Some women may even know what they husband is doing to their child and start hating the child. Because they husband finds the child attractive not them.instead of protecting the child and denouncing the predator.

@tamiausten873

Ай бұрын

And inc@st 🤮🤮

@obojioforchizaluekpere5622

Ай бұрын

I'm telling you 😢

@lemondropzs

Ай бұрын

very

@Kevynmorgan

Ай бұрын

It's vile

Some people don't deserve to have children, May God protect us all

I had a bunch of Nigerian women as roommates when I was in university. We used to have this same debate and I was in complete shock then, as I am now. However now, reading these comments I am validated in my rage and disgust. I will never choose to, nor want to understand this anti-divorce mindset. Btw, It’s not limited to Nigerians of course, just speaking on my experience.

I will always respect my mum for the day she told me that the day my father said he'll kill her, that was the day she left and never looked back.

@JamilJamby

Ай бұрын

My aunt was in an Abusive marriage until herhl husband beat her to coma Before she had common sense to live him

@sakurakitsune6947

Ай бұрын

Omg really? Your comment is heartwarming to me , Because I've already ended a severely abusive marriage and people keep telling me I should have stayed because of my child. I actually left because the abuse was affecting me AND my child . I hope my Son understands when he grows up

@olayinkathannah

Ай бұрын

@@sakurakitsune6947 don't mind them, your son would appreciate you for leaving.

@sakurakitsune6947

Ай бұрын

@@olayinkathannah Omg the relief I'm feeling right now is just priceless. Thank you. My Son is just 18 months old, I left his so called Dad when he was 6 months old . That man got himself addicted to recreational drugs when I was pregnant and having really hard time... my Son couldn't roll over at 6 months old, and I decided it's time to go that man was Sabotaging my Son's health and growth.

@immaculatepeter5529

Ай бұрын

@@sakurakitsune6947people should be saying you need to leave because of your child. Anyone telling someone to stay in an abusive marriage for their children is disgusting. Children often have trauma from witnessing abuse and also probably get abused by the abusive parent as well.

The woman who said she won't divorce her husband, especially after hearing that, the situation is sexual molestation of her children is EVIL.

@missfabulousj8601

29 күн бұрын

Yes! And she had the audacity to talk about Christ. 😂. So wrong.

These anti divorce people are scaring me !! I mean what’s wrong with them ??? Staying with a man( or a woman) that sexually abused your child?! Are you mad ???

As a British Nigerian - some of the mentalities that are still held today is quite sad. God help us ...Lady in Green Epele ma 🙏🏾🤍

The dark woman in glasses was obviously talking from a place of great pain and bad experiences but at the same time she wasn't talking as a victim to invoke pity from the rest, she was speaking as a survivor as a victor, her kids should be so proud of the mother they have, that's a strong woman right there.

@immaculatepeter5529

Ай бұрын

I love that she was also trying to advice. She explained show she tried it and though it would be fixed. Her saying she would have left after year 1 was so depressing since she stayed for 25 years. But it helps others understand that once you know it’s unsafe you need to get away.

@inarita222

27 күн бұрын

i swear standing ovation for her

The fact that people can hear stories of abuse and still say they should not divorce but stay is insanity to me. I hope Nigerians can be freed of this mentality one day.

@honestfriend767

Ай бұрын

They didn’t say stay. They said get separated but not divorced.

@pammy22

Ай бұрын

Auntie Jane is scary. Please young women don’t die in marriage. Empower yourselves. Work hard . Don’t stay with a monster because of financial support. If you’re with a mentally unstable person, it won’t get better. Bro America doesn’t have an idea of toxic relationships.

@jessicamarie6448

Ай бұрын

@@honestfriend767 why not get divorced?? I don’t understand

@jessicamarie6448

Ай бұрын

@@honestfriend767 please if the reason has to do with Christianity I beg you do not twist the bible because it is not a sin to divorce if your spouse is abusive, or has engaged in sexual immorality. God is not evil, He does not want His people to suffer, so why are our people enforcing this suffering in God’s name? That is sinful! The twisted teaching that in any case divorce is a sin is wrong. Read your bible please. 🙏🏾

@Ann_0103

Ай бұрын

@@jessicamarie6448Amen.

I hope Alvin gets to watch this when he gets home and come to the realization that he's not the intriguing scholar he thinks he sounds like coz Wtfff

I have never been so annoyed before….the anti-divorce crew are extremely shallow….love is not abuse….sometimes there are no signs…you dated an actor…marriage is not a death sentence

You put your hands on me or my children. You won't need a divorce. You're going to need funeral arrangements.

@user-tf2iy6yw5t

Ай бұрын

I’m sorry I don’t condone violence but enh sha cook jollof

@denatora7142

Ай бұрын

@@user-tf2iy6yw5t lmaooooooooooo

@mosesakinyemi2563

Ай бұрын

​​@@user-tf2iy6yw5t😂

@mosesakinyemi2563

Ай бұрын

😂Send us invite, free food will be well needed In This economy 😂😂😂😂

@rahmatullaahalqaasim5650

Ай бұрын

😂😂

Alvin isn't making any sense , "prioritising" your child's future by keeping them in the same traumatising environment where they should have felt the safest at the expense of their mental health and wellness? Please crack another joke. This isn't so funny. 🙄

@klautesplayroom153

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂he is just using accent with no brain 🧠

@Idkchangethislater

Ай бұрын

Oh well they’ve already been traumatised - Alvin’s logic

@enne2106

Ай бұрын

Happy the lawyer cleared him on that. Hopefully he learned.

@brittanyudo1958

Ай бұрын

@@Idkchangethislateryup, that’s basically what he’s saying

@tamiausten873

Ай бұрын

@@enne2106 thank God for that lawyer oh. The way they (orange lady, Alvin and hat guy) were saying help the man as if r@pe isn't an actual crime 🙆🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️. Thank God he was there, he was even anti- divorce and yet.

16:35 children are indeed the beginning of empires, and that is why we should protect them from an abusive parent and bad role models😤

Children from broken home are definitely not happy, but children that lives in an abusive environment are depressed!!!! Children that live to see how their mother is maltreated everyday are broken, they are the ones that are abused indirectly Divorce is not a solution You divorce to survive.

Young women please avoid that young boy in the blue sleeveless jumper. His views are scary! Also the man in the blue shirt invalidating the lady in Greens lived experiences! A woman that has been married for 25 years is explaining to you the reason she couldn’t continue with her marriage and you who has only been married for 3 but in your own words “separated multiple times” is saying you need to correct her becasue she’s wrong! Absolute madness

@Tee-Star

Ай бұрын

I can't 😂😂😂

@ijayaobure5943

Ай бұрын

I heard 3 years marriage and already separated and I wondered, those 25 years marriage he's correcting he might only hear it.

@cheezoba

Ай бұрын

You can obviously tell he is the problem in his own relationship and I hope his supposed wife sees this video and start filling for a divorce soon. LMAO

@barbaraodiah6535

Ай бұрын

Where did they bring these anti-divorce set of people from? Ahhhhhh😮 they shock me ooo. I think they are just making/speaking their points based on acting just as we did when we were in primary school. Because what the f***!!!

@Tee-Star

Ай бұрын

@barbaraodiah6535 The worst on the panel is that "American wanna be"

The guy with the accent just likes hearing himself talk

@uchegbudivine6885

Ай бұрын

His not even listening 😂 He just wanted to correct a lawyer 😂 Accent is not sense Divorce na another form of solution to bad marriage it's not by force

@Idkchangethislater

Ай бұрын

He doesn’t look like he could take a punch yet he wants women to be punching bags for life 😂

@official_radiant253

Ай бұрын

The guy na mumu

@lemondropzs

Ай бұрын

the guys a weirdo

@jedidiah698

Ай бұрын

I was just skipping his part because he was already talking rubbish, and with the accent, it was unbearable

The woman in orange is against herself, she’s already in a broken home but just managing it.

As a Christian it broke my heart when the anti divorce woman said she would not divorce her husband if he allegedly SA’ed a hypothetical child… according to the Bible there are certain circumstances that allow divorce… Adultery (in Deuteronomy 24:1, affirmed by Jesus in Matthew 19) Emotional and physical neglect (in Exodus 21:10-11, affirmed by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7)… I have a beautiful son and a great husband but if he ever harmed my child in a sexual manner… my then ex husband would not be on this earth after I heard the truth. There is a difference between fighting for your marriage if the passion dies or something that can be slowly worked on, but a evil act like domestic abuse and sexual violence against ANYONE is enough evidence in Gods eyes to protect his children who were failed by a man that converses with the devil in his actions…

@blackroyalness9780

28 күн бұрын

So let me ask you this what use does a spiritual being in the sky have for legal marriage that is a human construct?

Alvin is so loud and wrong it’s insane.

@beniebebela9169

Ай бұрын

😆facts

@nanaamapay9632

Ай бұрын

Empty barrels make the most noise

@Idkchangethislater

Ай бұрын

The problem with educated fools

@damilolaolateru1395

Ай бұрын

Alvin is forming dissident to be on camera. He never answered any of the questions posed. Never addressed divorce in abusive marriages. He was ONLY focused on marriages due to a lack of commitment, and that was NEVER the topic.

@glenlin1

Ай бұрын

Alvin 🤮 Mama in orange is just ancient and she REFUSES to change her way of thinking That guy with the hat lied that he has experienced abuse, he was definitely the abuser, probably still is! Mxm

So glad there was an actual legal practitioner to quell the rubbish.

@chukadityblog1335

Ай бұрын

Yeah

@evibenson

Ай бұрын

With so much wisdom

@ivyoguledo3519

Ай бұрын

True

I actually enjoyed this video so much. Personally I see so much sense from the lawyer’s perspective and the woman on blue dress as well. Abusive marriages is an absolute no for me. Mental,emotional,physical abuse in a marriage doesn’t only affect the couple but also the children. Being separated to sort things out is not a bad idea but if it isn’t working you shouldn’t hurt yourself even more by staying in that marriage. In Nigeria I feel our culture and traditions has affected how we think. Why stigmatize a divorcee especially when you have no idea what exactly warranted the divorce. It’s crazy really. No one prays for a bad marriage but sometimes people actually find out the bitterness of this and can’t live their lives in pain all because of societal stigma. People will always talk anyway so make the best decision for yourself and children as the case might be. Also sexually molestation/ abuse, either a minor or adult is a very big crime. I’ve seen situations where women stay with their rapist husbands all because of where will they go,how will they start afresh,why did the girl dress like that. Hmm, even when this involves a minor o. It’s really a stupid act,that woman shouldn’t be a mother and they are both supposed to be jailed if she conceals it. The sad fact is women conceal these things sometimes all to protect the criminal who is their husband all because of the Union. Staying with a criminal after knowing what exactly they are capable of is a choice really. But that woman on orange doesn’t even seem like who will report such. She initially said she’ll ask the daughter if it’s true😒why would she lie on her own father as a kid,it’s crazy ooo but that’s aside sha. Though I feel that woman just totally hates the concept of divorce and can explain why she keeps hitting on being separated instead of divorced.

Forgiveness is everything Dear Jesus ,this Nigerian culture is so outrageous speaking as a Nigerian this is crazy and what's even crazier is how real this thing happens in my country Omo I don tire , as a child of separated parents I had to watch my mum have to go through so much ......I hope the society works abeg all this thing don tiya me

that woman is sharing her traumatic experiences and being vulnerable and this two people , Alvin and Lady in orange were heavily invalidating her experiences. my heart broke every time her voice broke. I would have defended her if I was there.

@cmk2278

Ай бұрын

Lady in orange reminds me of the barrister who burned her house maid with iron

@Afrogirrl

Ай бұрын

When her voice was breaking when she said ‘can’t someone hear me’ because they all shouted over her. Wicked people

@baybeetacoo8734

Ай бұрын

@@AfrogirrlI think that’s how she also felt when people kept coming to tell her to remain in the marriage. She felt trappped in that marriage again. I’m so angry for her

@confusedchan238

Ай бұрын

What! ​Let me guess , for cheating??😭😭

@confusedchan238

Ай бұрын

​@@Afrogirrlvery wicked people , Its more than ignorance .

Who’s this guy on green that is pro divorce - Your parents should be proud of you! Oga Lawyer- your wife should be proud of you. Mummy green - you’re brave and strong and thank you for standing your ground!!! God bless you all

@pelumiadepoju217

Ай бұрын

Awwwn…His name is Fisayo

@DaemienSho

Ай бұрын

AMEN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK TO HEAR

@Tdawglove

Ай бұрын

yesss! I know the lawyer's wife is living peacefully. He is very level headed and wise!

@barbarambanugo5676

Ай бұрын

​@@pelumiadepoju217 you are really a child from a home

@pelumiadepoju217

Ай бұрын

@@barbarambanugo5676 I don’t understand

I don’t like the way most people on the panel are trying to silence or invalidate the experience of the woman on green on grounds of "she got married at 19". It's insane

@akinolaomotola7019

Ай бұрын

Like 😭🙏🏾 it's sickening

On this “Divorce Affects Children” topic, please let the children speak for themselves. Personally, as someone from a broken home, I am way happier with my parents divorced than when they were together. In fact, it was an answered prayer.

Not them gaslighting the mama on green … that she married too young… ridiculous… as if it wasn’t a norm then ….

@jan6742

Ай бұрын

Exactly

@morenikefashina4433

Ай бұрын

As in when they started doing that I felt like jumping into the screen 😂😂. I would not have stood for it at all!!!

@immaculatepeter5529

Ай бұрын

And the other woman married at 30 and was being abused too

The anti-divorce side is vexing me

@joeadeleke

Ай бұрын

I think they're intentionally sthupeeed for content cuz no sane person can say what they said.

@mameyaapokuah-debrah1470

Ай бұрын

​@@joeadeleke you would be suprised

@beyiokuibukun9602

Ай бұрын

​@@joeadelekeive heard people say such in normal conversations

@lucykoi7823

Ай бұрын

Honestly insane

@studi0047

Ай бұрын

you would be surprised lol, many older nigerian women think like this, its so sad .​@@joeadeleke

This man really asked who is going to help the man?????? Not even the child that was abused?? I'm burning up with anger right now😡 Some people just spill nonsense out of their mouth

@chikalaetitia4383

Ай бұрын

That part got me soooo angry too! Like someone earlier commented, if I was there, I might have insulted someone.

These anti-divorce ppl are scary af. 35:55 the fact that he said they’ve separated countless times in 3yrs is a RED FLAG!!!