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Terry lived through abuse as a child in her wealthy home. She then found herself in an abusive marriage. When she tries to get out, her husband disappeared with their son. Now she is an author. Link and bio from her book are below:
Videos in this series are part of an oral history of survivors of domestic abuse, with the purpose of raising awareness. None of these stories have been verified. They have been edited for clarity.
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More Than My Share of Pain...25 Years in an Abusive Marriage and How I Got Out
Written by Terry Maxwell
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From the Author
All I can do is share my experience, strength, and hope. I'm writing this book to offer my story and to help other women rescue themselves from the physical pain--as well as the mental and spiritual distress--that comes from enduring a verbally abusive relationship. I want those that have suffered verbal abuse to know that they too can find peace and happiness. That's what I share in my book--the story of my abusive marriage, the story of how I eventually got out, and the story of my renewal--my second life.
About the Author
I thank my Higher Power for being in recovery.
I now have a wonderful and healthy life with the help of the Domestic Violence Center(now HopeWorks) and Al-Anon(12 Step Program).
I just celebrated my seven year anniversary with my husband Jake. On our anniversary we visited Sedona and the Grand Canyon. It was wonderful, beautiful, spiritual and inspirational all at the same time. We enjoy estate sales, travel, parks, museums, food, theater and walking our dog and two cats. I currently enjoy meditation, yoga, ballet and painting.
I have spent a large portion of my life running and creating very profitable businesses.
I have lived in Spain, England and the Netherlands. Now I am back in the States.
This is the first series of books about my life which I am writing to help others survive and get through the insidious and devastating effects of verbal abuse.
Verbal abuse does not have to define you, it does not have to destroy you - but it can make you stronger.
To get additional information on my upcoming books and events, please send me an email at terrymaxwell25@yahoo.com.
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How many women is she representing? Wonderful lady. “The abuser never leaves.”
I was married to an abusive husband for 31 years, my two daughters want nothing to do with me, I know how much it hurts. Thanks for being brave ..growing up I honestly never remember anyone being that nice to me. My faith is really the only thing that carried me through the tough years.
@rebeccaletford2611
4 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you shared your story. It will give others in similar situations hope to escape, including myself. I believe certain men are able to manipulate people and it feels like you are the one who see's them for who and what they really are. It is such a shame you have had to lose your daughters over this man. I really hope your wrong will be put right.
What a beautiful sweetheart! No trace of bitterness...amazing lady
@beatricedesire4943
4 жыл бұрын
Strong and great personality!😏😏😏😏😏😏
@ShesTexan
4 жыл бұрын
She is a joy! Bless her and I hope she is happy now.
@spookyboi7645
3 жыл бұрын
Right ????? Crazy
@calliope4293
2 жыл бұрын
God knows everything about us and more. His plans for us are always for peace and out of love - never for our destruction. God has always been concerned about saving His children, and save His children He did. What a loving Father we have found in the Almighty God.
If I had not gone through this for 30 years with a narcissist husband, I would not believe this beautiful lady with a calm voice. There is an inner peace inside her that shines out. You have really healed from it all. Blessings to you, my dear. ♥️♥️🌟
@maureendoyle6632
5 жыл бұрын
I don't think she will ever be healed BUT SHE IS A SURVIVOR the scars are internal mental. AMAZING THAT SHE WAS ABLE TO KEEP UP WITH THE BUSINESS /BETTER TO BE ALONE (SOMETIMES DIFFICULT)THAN IN AN UNHAPPY OR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
@indiracamotim2858
5 жыл бұрын
Naomi Brown - trolling ???????
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
My husband was tested by a psychiatrist during our separation. He was diagnosed as being a narcissist.
@lourdesprudencio5647
3 жыл бұрын
Me too.....
@benjamin54yisrael3
2 жыл бұрын
She has Millions, that's got to feel good. She can afford to be soft-spoken with Millions.😂😂😂
She's the one who made the million-dollar business with a new baby. Meanwhile, he's high most of the day, working one or two hours a day and criticizing her. She's an amazing woman.
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
Carolus Thank you Carolus...no one has ever said that. ❤️🙏❤️
@StepHanie-fb9nn
4 жыл бұрын
Carolus what weed does to people...slowing down mentally and physically. Fact. And yes: this lady is full of grace and forgiveness. ❤️
Really enjoyed you sharing your story. I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents and while they never abused me, the atmosphere was very toxic. I found Al-Anon at age 21 and it changed my life. Learning to rely on my God and myself as well as to only have expectations on myself (vs others) and to set boundaries changed my outlook on everything and has shown me how to have a peaceful, positive life. I’m 52 now and still rely on what I learned so many years ago.
@terrymaxwell2920
3 жыл бұрын
Great post Haley...I am 62 and I am most grateful for my higher power every day and throughout the day. I have been most blessed in my later years.
You come across as such a calm and peaceful person. I feel like crying just listening to the part about your son. I had 2 sons with a very abusive man. The first one also became a drug addict. The second one (last time I heard) finished university. Both treat me with the same disrespect their father treated me with, because that is what he taught them. My ex died 5 years ago, but the bad relationships with my sons continues. I got to a stage where I just decided I did not deserve the way my children were treating me. I was a good mother who did my best to try and protect them from their father, although I did not fully succeed. I also understood that the anger they feel against me for not protecting them better against their dad, may be the deeper reason for their treatment of me. Of everything I went through, nothing hurts like the fact that my sons rejected me. Anyone who is in an abusive relationship, should try and understand how much damage this relationship will do to the kids. That you will heal, but the kids will have a much harder time of it. That you should understand that the father will poison the children against you, as a final way of spiting you and getting to you. My ex told someone he will make sure I will have no relationship with my children. He knew that was where it would hurt the most. And sadly the children hurt and hurt through it all.
@marthamyers3182
4 жыл бұрын
I agree. Hindsight 20/20.
@nichmon3221
10 ай бұрын
Wow! I'm sorry to hear this.
She is such a positive women in spite of what she went through. Her face is just like a bright light even though she is talking about such a harsh time in her life.
@lunastarr1925
5 жыл бұрын
True its hard to believe that this beautiful lady was abused......
@Aurora-uh9nk
5 жыл бұрын
Crazy right ?!!!!
@heleneburger7947
5 жыл бұрын
Mae 0
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your support...❤️
@katjapia8206
5 жыл бұрын
She learned to smile. It's sad to see her smile.
You are a beautiful person, you are a example of strength and dignity.
@beatricedesire4943
4 жыл бұрын
I totally agreed!😏😏😏😏
@james-le2rs
4 жыл бұрын
Miriam.....this woman is loco
She's smiling while she talks about her son not coming home. Traumatized dissociation. I do this too. 😌
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
Julia Grant so, that is what it is called. Thank you...❤️🙏❤️
Wish my Mother had left my abusive violent father!
@recoveringsoul755
5 жыл бұрын
Did you not listen? She did leave. And the abusive violent narcissist stole her children. This is standard practice for these personality disordered types. Parental alienation. It is so much more than "Just verbal abuse". so if your mom left, it's likely the abuser would have gotten custody. Happened to me. But I wasn't allowed to work or have friends.
@carolellamuch9571
5 жыл бұрын
Recovering Soul you need to apologize for not reading her comment
@MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts
5 жыл бұрын
belinda hawkins I understand the miscommunication here. Recovering sole is trying to say that maybe if that persons mothers had left the abusive father would have gotten custody. I trying to work up the courage to leave, but I have be brainwashed for years into believing if I did leave I would lose my child. In fact if I had no child I would have left long ago, it is my son that had kept up together. He uses my son as a pawn to keep me. The threats of losing my son are many. Especially if the abuser succeeds in getting you on drugs/weed. He will tell you if you leave they will take your child away because you smoke Mary Jane. If I was not afraid of losing my son I would have left. Please know that if your mother didn’t leave you were probably her main reason for doing so. She didn’t want to lose you so she kept the awful secret to herself & prayed to god each night you would not be affected. I’m so sorry, I hope my son knows how much I love him... I am going to try to get away before he makes us anymore insane, but it’s really really hard. Especially when he starts waiting on us hand & foot as soon as he finds out we are leaving & has an inexplicable way of making me look like the crazy one. When in fact I have never burnt a bridge in my life, whereas he leaves a path of fire behind him everywhere he goes. For me it has been 11 years in this sick relationship that I never wanted to be in. I never wanted to be with my husband, there was no honeymoon phase. He stalked me from the beginning & my father knows it because I was living with him at the time. We did call the police & have him removed once. The next day there was a rose stuck in my front door, I wish my dad had thrown it out... after we had our son he told me any call to the police was an automatic call to CAS/CPS & that they would take my son, he etched this in my brain day after day & I still believe it & it terrifies me. If there was no such thing as CPS I would call the police right now & have him gone. But I will not risk losing my child. I have been brainwashed that all “workers”, doctors, nurses & authorities are against me & WILL take me child. Yet somehow knowing I am brainwashed doesn’t change anything or make me less scared. I think I am brainwashed for life. About a year ago my hair started to far out, I am not even 40 years old. At 34 I had a mini stroke, since being in this relationship I have developed cysts all over my insides & had appendicitis, been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder & suffer constant panic attacks. I have no doubt it’s the stress he causes that did all of this to me. I have been fighting some strange illness since October, in my throat/neck. I’ve now lost the ability to eat solid food. I’m going to the hospital today. I have plans to finally leave him this week. It’s funny that I should have to go to a shelter, meanwhile he gets to stay here in my family’s million dollar home. It’s not fair... but I can’t let it stop me. They can remove him once I’m gone. I am not allowed to use face book instagram or show my face on my KZread channel. He has parental restriction locks on my phone so I can’t access certain websites & for awhile I didn’t know & thought my phone was broken & was forced to do my online shopping from the laptop. I am also not allowed to have friends or leave the house without my husband or a family member. Definitely not a sister tho (cuz women are sluts of course.. oh & lesbians never to be left alone) he calls random women ugly & pigs & fat. Some of the women are prettier than me, so what must he think of me? I still remember the sick feeling I got the first time I heard him call a random stranger, a woman a pig. Ok I better stop. If you still don’t see my face on my channel & it’s been over a year it means I did not make it out. I swear this is it tho, I won’t let him kill me. I am so desperate Please do not be mad at your mom, we are all suffering from “captors” syndrome. Good luck to anyone reading this, I hope you can escape & find peace & know real love ❤️
@annabellabells6647
5 жыл бұрын
Hey leave an essay why don't you...🤔🙄😬
@Gucci8857
5 жыл бұрын
And I wish my father had left my abusive violent mother!
Despite going through abuse she is so positive and serene . She has not let this destroy her . Still, a heartbreaking story ❤️
@msdanet31
3 жыл бұрын
Jeanette Bird 🙏🏾
Her mother closed her eyes to the abuse. Her lavish life was more important. Just as responsible for this tragic story.
@sandraserles
Жыл бұрын
Oh my God!!!
@Jane-rc2rk
Жыл бұрын
Have you not understood how abuse works? Her mum was probably terrified of him too.
@joannearonetz7527
Жыл бұрын
She even said we had beautiful boat..So?
@snookies1224
11 ай бұрын
you've got no idea how this abuse works. I am a survivor.
@Jane-rc2rk
11 ай бұрын
@@snookies1224 so am I.
I am 73 years and have been so lucky in my life I have never had any violence like this .
@sarahdixon6011
4 жыл бұрын
Ditto, well I'm 50 and have also never experienced violence like this. I thank God, and feel for the women who have, WOMEN BE STRONG TOGETHER.
@thezmanchar
4 жыл бұрын
So what are the two of you contributing to this story. Who cares if you never experienced all of this, it’s ridiculous. And the 23 that gave a thumbs up are just as stupid as the two of you.
@sarahdixon6011
4 жыл бұрын
@@thezmanchar Oh. 'Interesting' comment, what by the way are YOU adding to the conversation?
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
Congrats for you dear
@tinapoucher7406
4 жыл бұрын
My grandma was always on guard and taught me to protect my kids.
I want to be like this woman. Positive, calm and at peace. She reminds me of my own mom
@terrymaxwell2920
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Erin, trust me I am not "always' that way. One day at a time...
It's interesting -- and tragic -- how a father and family of origin can groom you for other abusive relationships; we tend to normalize the abnormal early on. This affected me deeply. Thank you for sharing it. xo
@michelesmith9880
Жыл бұрын
Great comment!!
@ernarc23
Жыл бұрын
@@michelesmith9880 ❤
@nichmon3221
10 ай бұрын
EXACTLY!!! It wasn't until I married an abusive man at 31 years old and subsequently got help, that I finally realized my own dad was abusive. I thought I was the problem,...that their behavior was normal. Both my sisters would get mad at me for having nothing more to do with my dad after I realized it. They thought he just hung the moon!
@shawnmendrek3544
9 ай бұрын
Good for you. This is awesome.@@nichmon3221
OMG! My heart goes out to her. And the amazing grace on her face. Unbelievable how she has come across such a horrible journey. My deepest sympathy and deepbows to her.
You are a very courageous woman. It is incomprehensible that your father, a "professor" and pillar of the community, abused you from 8 - 12. That is beyond disturbing. You have such presence and strength. I can't relate to anything in your story on a personal basis but I know friends who were molested by family members. The impact has been devastating. I'm sure you're empowering thousands of viewers.
@amberlilly4101
5 жыл бұрын
I have said many times that this kind of thing has been going on down thru the centuries, we are just now hearing about it. There are many others that are accomplished well known people that have done the same thing. You would be shocked. There are groups of people who take young people to the elite and politicians who use them for sex and then the group, that took them there, will turn around and blackmail them for money not to let the cat out of the bag. I worked with an young women who was very involved in the church with her parents and the youth minister ask her to stay after church that he wanted to pray with her and in doing so he said he had to put his hands on her and when he did he was, feeling her, in a sexual way. When she told her parents they didn't believe her and said to her "he couldn't have done that he is a devout christian and minister" So you can imagine how that made her feel. It's everywhere, especially, in places like church, boy scouts because of their high standing position and access to young people.
@rebeccamendez2691
5 жыл бұрын
@@amberlilly4101 how horrible - how great that it's not in every church
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Zora, thank you for your share...
@robyndismon394
5 жыл бұрын
@@rebeccamendez2691 How can u be so certain that its 'not in every church'? I would bet u a dime 2 a dollar it probably IS in more churches than u could conceive.
@eviesmail5447
5 жыл бұрын
It’s always the powerful who abuse
What amazing lady! Whatever hardship she gone through she’s still smiling that’s what I call faith!! May God bless you
Her son will regret turning his back on his mother
@tonirad9577
4 жыл бұрын
trucker wrecker Hopefully. But the sad truth is, he may never regret it . She has yet to see what really goes on in that young mans head.
@thezmanchar
4 жыл бұрын
trucker wrecker did you listen to the entire story before you decided to give your opinion. She said that she did speak to him, and if you want to know more than listen to her entire story.
@nicelady51
4 жыл бұрын
Word for word, the same happened with my son. I felt like he was living a life practically parallel to mine, except I don't make a ton of money. I'm better at spending it, I guess. My son is 27. He started smoking weed at 15 when he went to live with his Dad. His Dad is hard-working and made a very good living. Bad part was that he went to work in the afternoon until wee hours of the morning. My son loved not having an adult around. His reason for smoking weed is that it is his tool for anger management. All the years I spent teaching him there was plenty of other things to do with your life than drugs, went out the window. I keep trying and I will never give up. He used to say: If it's not one thing, it's your mother! And, "Mmmm, pink in the middle! Just the way I like it!!" every time I put chicken in front of him. I miss his humor. I miss him.
@karenfridie689
4 жыл бұрын
Not if hes a NARC like his father who manipulated him from childhood.
@karenfridie689
4 жыл бұрын
@@tonirad9577 He's been brainwashed by the sicko father
Can never understand how a father can have sex with his daughter. Why dont mothers realise that they must be protective of their own daughters. As a mother I would have to notice something. He should be locked up.
@WindDancer435
4 жыл бұрын
Most women do indeed know that their child is being sexually abused. They simply deny it, ignore it and pretend to the world that all is ok because they dont want to reveal themselves to the public as less than perfect. At all costs, they must maintain a facade. Shame isn't it?
@irenemax3574
4 жыл бұрын
I think the power of denial is very strong, especially if you are witnessing something very revolting. (I have often wondered how the adults in my life apparently saw nothing) But after watching a documentary about a man who had molested his sons, their friends, and his students, and hearing his wife relate that when the police showed her his collection of child pornography, she could not see it because her mind had created blindness, I immediately understood that her brain had needed to protect her from the reality of her situation. I know it really sucks for the unprotected children, but I think it may explain why so many adults turn a blind eye, literally, to what is going on in front of them. And maybe sometimes, people who have had experience of molestation don’t trust their instinct if they see what they think is an adult behaving inappropriately with a child, because they think, I’m overreacting because of my history.
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
Noel Noel the karma will pay for these men
@ViolaHGlaze
4 жыл бұрын
Anne Welch ...incest is horrific but it's just as damaging for mom to realize it's going on and she fails to protect her child. Sadly, her mother likely knew but didn't want to disrupt things in her life.
@dawnemile4974
4 жыл бұрын
@Noel Noel To the police. It is all coming out now about religious institutions and famous individuals and their downfall will be great.
You were the best mother you could be.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Gennie Jefferson I truly believe that. ❤️
@0906blue
4 жыл бұрын
I don't know the other side of the story.
@beatricedesire4943
4 жыл бұрын
I agreed!😏
@kathyh4804
4 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to be a parent and raise successful children when you are raised in a severely abusive childhood Thank God my children all are marvelous and successful happy adults!
@james-le2rs
4 жыл бұрын
She is nutsy cuckoo
I am so sorry to hear that you were abused and also about your son rejecting you!! That's so sad!!!
@beverleygribble1577
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Terry, I've studied adult male Asperger's for 30 years and you describe the characteristics and traits of the Jekyll and Hyde Asperger male. To others he wears the facade of a nice man, but to those closest, the chaos is painful. Wish you well and glad you escaped. The promises were so real weren't they? that's why it took 25 years.
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
It is okay if the son rejected her cos she raised her son so good not her son took good care of this beautiful woman , you see the karmas followed her son and her ex , it is true
You should be respected. Such a lovely lady ..bless you
Sweetheart are you talking about my life? Omg! Seriously so many similarities. Thank you for your honesty.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
L' Kat Morin Are things going well for you now?
@conversationswithadrianne
4 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you
@alhoumauritz2419
4 жыл бұрын
Im glad im able to walk away from a narcissist ex husband...terrible relationship , great manipulator and excellent liar....God bless him 🙏🙏
@cameeldavis487
4 жыл бұрын
Ladies you must leave your new normal is the departure of the buses train's and planes. Ten years ago i left so can you too.
Most of us watching can relate to your pain. I went through some hard times and had to do it by myself. Then on my way home from a counselor's office I stopped at a store (Marcs) and found a coffee mug in closeouts that said "Trust in the Lord". I have never seen a mug like that in that particular store so I bought it. I knew that was the message for me all along. Found out I can't rely on people, not even family, not money or anything but Jesus is "always" there for me and He will never let me down.
@manichairdo6346
5 жыл бұрын
That is awesome. Made me cry. I left a difficult home, unnanounced, aged 17. I hitched 400 miles. 80 miles into the journey I saw a poster on a country chapel wall...Thank God for the past and trust him with the future. So, I did. I was in a fish lorry...eek. But, 50 years later, I can testify God is still with me where I go, everywhere I go. Yay!
@sereneflatun
5 жыл бұрын
MsOliveLeaf i loved reading this sister 🌸💕
@susannabonke8552
5 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for trusting.
@tangerinesky3336
5 жыл бұрын
MsOliveLeaf Al-Anon changed my life. No mug ever could do that.
@brendadrew834
5 жыл бұрын
When one goes through something like this one needs to connect spiritually. One has to get the body/mind and spirit in balance, which is basically the Holy Trinity whether one believes in God, Jesus, Buddha etc. because we all have that body/mind and spirit connection. It's the disconnect of those three that causes illness and emotional pain in life. "We're all spirits having a human experience'...Wayne Dyer.
I too married an abusive man, but I left him when my son was 6. He moved far away out of both of our lives, thankfully. Unfortunately my son became a drug addict and alcoholic from age 14 to age 34. He was abusive while he was using alcohol and drugs too. My son sobered up December 2013 and he’s grown to be a wonderful man now. He lost 20 years of his life and still has so far to go, but I am thankful every day for his sobriety. I blamed myself for my son’s choices but my son tells me none of it was my fault, he takes full responsibility for his drug and alcohol abuse. My hope for every parent of a drug addict and/or alcoholic, is that your child finds sobriety and you find peace of mind. Never give up hope.
@juespennerspencer2475
5 жыл бұрын
I can fully understand Angharad my son lost his best friend in a car crash he turned to drink and drugs lost 12 years of his life and now hes sober goes to drug and alcohol classes on his own back and has moved back with his ex partner with 2 babies I pray everyday thank you God xx true words NEVER GIVE UP
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your life with me. ❤️
When she got to the saddest part where his son left, her bright smile is just so painful to watch.
Your story is so moving and enlightening for people who have been in abusive relationships. Your a special woman and strong.Winifred
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Winifred...
You always never know exactly what you've been in until you are freed.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Made New so true...
@silveradotow957
4 жыл бұрын
Old and new are different whirls and not agree
@silveradotow957
4 жыл бұрын
Cannot agree
@spookyboi7645
3 жыл бұрын
Yup
How in the name of God does a father get AWAY with this? And why is no one outraged? The comments just seem so 'whatever' as if though childhood sexual abuse is just 'one of those things'. Where is the justice here?Was her father ever confronted?
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Robyn Dismon I'll be sharing what played out up till today...
@beatricedesire4943
4 жыл бұрын
Because society is so blind by reality!🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨
@tammybarnes9436
4 жыл бұрын
Different time . Mothers turned a blind eye . I dont think they knew what too do
@Robocamp19
4 жыл бұрын
Why oh why do men think they are so f******superior. Most men are overbearing pains in the arse that need to grow up and learn to live equally with their partners. Enough is enough
@tanyawins
4 жыл бұрын
Robyn Dismon 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You never know what people have gone through, it’s easy to hide behind a mask.
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
Marcia Walden don't hide behind the mask break up through it , stay healthy and happy , move on start from scratch to the bright future
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
Michelle Baratta you mean go back go with the ex that abuse his wife or girlfriend , yes give him some space one or all , that space he got is left him forever and stat a new life , that should the space giving to him , any woman leaving that space is fantastic , free , happy and healthy minds and have more bright future waiting for them ( women ) , I am going to say to them millions congrats after leaving those abusers , millions thank you for saving their lives freedom
@michaelgregory3079
4 жыл бұрын
All of humanity is hiding behind a mask.
@vikkievenden9988
4 жыл бұрын
I don’t believe it easy to hide behind a mask , in fact it extremely difficult to keep up the pretence takes every bit of strength you’ve got to stop any shit seeping through and to appear “ normal”
@lioydwilliams1850
3 жыл бұрын
Marcia Walden, hope you are with a good husband!
She is one of the most beautiful women I´ve seen recently! How inspiring her story is...Thank you!
I am grateful I listened all the way to the end. Your story of your life is heart wrenching and I kept hoping that you found happiness in the end and you did. I am a recovering addict with 31 years clean and a disabled Vietnam vet. I have also been going to Nar-anon for 9 years because of my addict sons, an addict granddaughter who is in recovery, and a great granddaughter who is experimenting with drugs. The First Step is -- "We admitted we were powerless over the addict and our lives had become unmanageable." I cannot change the addict, I cannot fix the addict and no matter how much I preach or beg or yell the addict will not change until they make that decision. Remember the three C's - I didn't Cause it - I can't Cure it -- and I can't Control it. I've added a fourth one -- I can contribute to it by enabling. My wife is a recovering prescription addict with 31 years clean and we have 51 years in marriage thanks to recovery and the 12 Steps. I am grateful you found a good man - he found a good woman.
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
Love to you...thank you so much for your post. It brought tears to my eyes.
She is s really smart, fun & interesting lady!
I'm sorry that you were sexually abused by someone you were supposed to trust. And in terms if your ex and son, this is what drugs bring to the table. Despair, confusion, heartache, misery. Im glad that you have survived found peace and a good partner. God Bless you
There really is no Winning with a Narcissist!!!
@beatricedesire4943
4 жыл бұрын
That's truth!😢
@christinadn1819
4 жыл бұрын
So true!They never ever change.Run!As fast as you can!
@kathyh4804
4 жыл бұрын
Definitely not
@linbonn4749
4 жыл бұрын
@@beatricedesire4943 Yes... it doesnt get better
@spookyboi7645
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
A serious and awesome story. God Bless.......
I did the same thing to save my son and I had the same experience. I just learn to stay strong.
@msdanet31
3 жыл бұрын
Dena Collins 🙏🏾
You are strong & beautiful, thank you for sharing you’re story ma’am ❤️
Dearest, may God bless you and your son!
@fionagregory8078
4 жыл бұрын
God is blind deaf and dumb.
@heatherrose9373
4 жыл бұрын
@@fionagregory8078 That's SATAN.
Thank you for sharing your story. I love that you chose life.
@lioydwilliams1850
3 жыл бұрын
aussiegirlintheUSofA, hope you are with a good man!
U give women hope and inspiration I Thk u for ur honesty ur a strong courageous women God bless u ❤️❤️❤️
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Mary Motherofgod ❤️❤️❤️ to you Mary...
Be in strength beautiful women! I shed a tear at your story.
@overcomingyourpain3975
4 жыл бұрын
I am sending you a Reiki hug Luxmee...
My gosh you have done everything right as a mum. Wow touched my heart
@wordivore
5 жыл бұрын
Not really. She stayed too long. It would've been more right to leave sooner.
@missfluffydiva2120
4 жыл бұрын
Wordivore Much easier said than done.
Not many women are strong , believe me course i have been there , u are an amazingly strong woman , u did what u had to do with strength an determination even though it didnt turn out the way you wanted it but u tried , u has a great attiude about it too , may God Bless you an hope your son comes completely clean..
When someone shows you who they are, believe them 💕
@terrymaxwell2920
3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely Starling...
You left your ex to save your son. But you saved yourself as well. Your son will come around gradually. God bless you and your new happy life!
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
Dale Howard that is exactly what happened. I think he has finally moved out of his fathers house at 27. I did see him once last year and it was very difficult. I am blessed because we have had several real conversations on the phone.
@dalehoward8352
4 жыл бұрын
@@terrymaxwell2920 Good. It will get better between you two💜
You have such a beautiful attitude. God Bless you. Thank you 😊. You educated yourself and are doing the right thing.
@teresaduke5290
5 жыл бұрын
Lisa, that is absolutely correct. Thank you!!
Thanks for your story. We need to do more on the aging woman facing a crisis in these relationships and alone in poverty. She---was allowed to go to work many are not............
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
A very true statement Elizabeth...❤️
@cambridgeminix5704
4 жыл бұрын
I believe positive ppl help by telling their stories, because we all have a story. If you have been taught , then you can teach..there are some places we find ourselves in that we can't find our way out..so we have to be lead out..if you haven't followed you can't lead.
I asked someone once why they exhibited negative behaviour although they themselves were abused. She replied: "I am like my parents in some ways you know". This woman has to realize that her son might be more like his father than she would like to acknowledge. She is also quite a bit like her mother in not wanting to face unpleasant facts. I am glad she finally recognized this blind spot.
Wonderful and beautiful woman, good for her, hope she can reconnect with her son. Keep strong.
@dianasmith4530
5 жыл бұрын
CC's World AUSTRALIA 22wwêêê4443443344a
Aaah this is so very similar to what I've gone through... thank you so much for sharing... you're a most beautiful soul and love is surrounding you everywhere!!! ❤️
@oscarwilliamson6163
2 жыл бұрын
Jacey Lataire,You deserve better 🙏
I was spell bound listening to her! Courageous and an inspiration.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mary!! Please pass it on...
Wow, I relate to this son situation because I left my ex to save mine. My ex tried to destroy our relationship too. Thank God that my son finally came to me on the day they were evicted from the house. He was 17 at the time. I showed him through my actions who he could count on. Sadly, my ex barely speaks to our son now. We moved across the country to start a new life, my boy and me.
You're a beautiful soul sweetheart. I wish you a lifetime of peace and a strong new relationship with your (little boy)
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Sue Nathan I receive your words Sue...thank you.
you are so sweet. your voice, your spirit and most of all your courage.
He was a narcissist
I can relate, my children were 3 and 2 when they went missing ( legally missing). We are amazing as mothers, the heart of a mother NEVER stops loving. Thank your for your story and bravery, you are never alone.
Sad sounds like a narcissist Thankyou for sharing god bless you
Absolutely amazing to hear all you have gone through and to know you chose love and have a wonderful husband now. You’re a light in this world showing us there is goodness to be found. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story.
After I left, the sores on my head disappeared.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Annabell Mendez yes Annabel...the toxicity manifests in your body. ❤️ I am so happy you are healing...
@bluesky4568
4 жыл бұрын
Me too, my whole head would erupt in painful sores.. I was in counseling and he told me I was married to a covert narcissist. I left after 15 years.. I am so happy now.. I no longer have sores on my head..
I’m so glad your Son called !!
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mad Hatter...
@pmck7903
4 жыл бұрын
Forgive him as the lord forgives us he was so young and ended up hooked . You are teaching him that simple honest living is the best high.
Beautiful woman you are. Thanks for sharing your strength. Also, I'm happy that you are healing.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Vidya Dhanraj thank you for your kind words Vidya...❤️
I am walking through this now. Finding this is a godsend. Blessings and Gratitude to you.
@jenniferleedy6024
4 жыл бұрын
did you make it out??
Amazing woman. Smart woman. God bless you
That’s a story so many of us can identify with! I left my narcissistic husband after 19 years of abuse. In a time of healing now and stories like these gives me strength and hope ahead of my journey
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
Adom Nti awesome...it has always been about sharing, experience, strength and hope.
@pinkpugginz
2 жыл бұрын
And they always turn the kids against you
I realized that my husband was lying, angry, cheating, controlling. My health was affected adversely. It's frustrating. I didn't know it was abuse either. It's so hard to co-parent. My husband is using our son like a puppet against me. I hope to heal. Thank you for giving hope by telling your story.
@lorrainewest7408
4 жыл бұрын
I have been told children are many things but they are not stupid. Given time they make their own judgements. If I had choice of good parent child relationship it would be communication, listening, guidance, love, support.
Her story is so inspiring and it came from her heart
You asked where you went wrong. You went wrong by staying 15 years. I've been in the same place - if I stay I'll die. I got out. My son resents his father, not me. I know I was lucky.
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
Kathy Hoskin that is wonderful news Kathy!!
My heart is broken for you... pray for your son to come home to you... it’s never too late for God to touch him.
I'm so sorry you went through all of this. One day your son will wake up and realize that you were the better parent. You did the best you could 😊💕 I wish you peace.
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
pauline callahan thank you Pauline...time has treated me well...we are corresponding! I am so blessed.
Once the narcissist/psychopath exerts influence over your kids you have already lost them. It's too late. And if you let them back into your life they will take you down with them. Been there done that.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Juanita Richards I hope things are better for you...
God Bless you! I am so glad that I had the opportunity to hear your truth and my heart and love are with you. I too have had quite a journey with my daughter. Nevertheless, compassion & love for oneself is an alright thing. Love is everlasting & eternal. Peace be with you, that's what you deserve.
What a beautiful lady. Such strength during incredible hardship.
Thank you for sharing... you have a gift for sharing your story. I really hope you get many more phone calls.
Women wait too much before they leave an abusive husband. 🤔🤔
@cocobutterchin6768
4 жыл бұрын
I left my ABUSIVE Narcissistic ex husband within 2 years of our marriage. Luckily for me I had my own money to be able to run away from him. I was too scared of him up till now ,if I look at his pic I will be having panic attack and depressed. I haven't talked or look at his pics in 5 years. I escaped from a crazy man. He tried apologizing to me about now he treated me. I told him to never contact me ever again.
@beatricedesire4943
4 жыл бұрын
Same I can related I moved git a restraining order and chan my phone number!I thank God jope I never see this monster ever
@MariaLuna-fq6xx
4 жыл бұрын
Tamora P poo h
@susansherlock7474
4 жыл бұрын
That is due to Trauma Bonding, look it up...
@valeriabonfio7020
4 жыл бұрын
I definitely agree. Women have to escape right away from an abusive husband.
Beautiful you are an inspirational and Strong LADY - God Bless You!!!!!
God bless you you are a wonderful mother......
Omg she seems so SWEET! 😭💕 I would have never guessed that she had been thrall of this. No sadness or bitterness showing in her at all. I hope to be this way if I ever encounter hardships.
God bless your heart! You did your best as a mother and a wife. Very sad, what happened to you.
Comes up like a real nice person. Hope some day your son comes back home. To a lovely and caring mother. Hope he can heal too, from bad influences that the father lead him in to. Forgive himself and his dad. And move on to a better life.
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
mary nyaga this has become a reality Mary. ❤️🙏❤️
DV does not know socioeconomic boundaries. This can happen to absolutely anyone. Isn't she a blessing! You are a warrior and I wish you all the best now and in the future.
I am so sorry you had such a dreadful experience as a child /young woman . It is most disgusting that you were abused in such a way . You are a wonderful woman , for you to be able to sit and talk for us this way , I can only tell you how much I admire you . Thank you for sharing this with us . God bless you and your loved ones .
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
pat gladwell thank you Pat...
Thank you Terri for your courage. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
15 years is too long. I feel grateful that I left a drug addicted person when my kids were 4 and 6- which itself was too long. 😞. Hindsight is 20/20!
@robinluich5576
4 жыл бұрын
I was married for 5 years,it was 5 years too many.
@ileanaari7505
4 жыл бұрын
Ms B I left my ex husband for the same reason plus was the lazy guy.
@noonespecial619
4 жыл бұрын
Ileana Ari oh yeah. I worked and he refused. Imagine that!
I bet the 310 people that disliked this video are pot smokers. Thank you for sharing this story, what an amazing lady!
It never ceases to amaze me that a universe of stories can be inside one life. Does anyone know who this corageous woman is?
@terrymaxwell2920
3 жыл бұрын
Hi there...how can l be of help?
Your’re a saint...I will pray for you.
You are a sunshine to life! Thank you for sharing
You are amazing! I'm in the same predicament .... I miss my kids so so much ... my heart so broken ... I know I was a great mother too ... just trying to keep my sanity and lots of praying ... I know God is bigger than all ... please pray for my kids and I .... much love to all
Beautiful and strong you are! Thank you for sharing.
@overcomingyourpain3975
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you F S.
The ex husband is a NARCISIST . Thats why he could manipulate your son.
@bluemoon3699
4 жыл бұрын
Yes A good father would not be OK with their kid doing drugs and selling drugs.
@lisakelly9180
4 жыл бұрын
So true
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
He is more crazy than crazy person cos crazy person didn't harm others they living in their own world never bothered of worldly belonging
@christabelle3758
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly. It is SO SAD, to have children w/a narcissist 💔😔 My childrens' dad is a covert narcissist. Disheartening. Especially our very flawed legal system missing the signs of their insidious manner 💔🙏🏼✝️🛐 ~💜~ Good luck to us all 🙏🏼
@christabelle3758
4 жыл бұрын
@Mary Little 😔🙏🏼 yes shame on these individuals 😞 They are so driven by ugly mean dark ego, that theyre too caught up on "winning" or striking at their kids mom they hate from their bruised ego, for us having left them. Broken away from their abuse to us, my goodness. Because we finally realized they are too filles with hate, to come through for their Family, as I prayed and prayed he would. He didnt 😔 He just got worse. Abuse got heavier. Too, too much. Too sad. Too painful. Once it escalated to being verbal and physical in front of our sons, my gosh NO MORE. I ended. But his abuse, HAS NOT 😩😞😔 It is a shame that our systems are not educated on the very insidious and masked narcissistic abuse by these dark individuals. N he has no remorse. Instead denies n lies. Driven by revenge and anger, manipulates. Its dark. Its mean. Its sad. I started praying for him again. Bcuz while he thinks he makes me mad or "puts me in my place"... all he is doing is hurting boys and I mentally n emotionally and finished pushing them away. Sad. 🙏🏼✝️🛐🙏🏼
You are very strong, and you deserve the best of life. I am sure you went thru hell, but God will protect you.
God bless you , lovely lady ,I wish you all the best that life has to offer
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Hazel Evans thank you Hazel...
Wow, what a strong woman. I only held it together while watching because, somehow, she was able to. ❤️ God bless you
What’s a lovely lady so warm truly inspiration 👍
You can only do so much for kids. I couldn't tell my son things either. I call him to check in he won't call me. Stay strong.
@terrymaxwell2920
5 жыл бұрын
Nicole...have you spoken with your son?
I'm glad that she was able to find someone that she deserves! Glad that she walked out of a horrible situation
@terrymaxwell2920
4 жыл бұрын
ByHisLove thank you...
I am sorry you had such abuse in your life. I wish you the best.