Im 58 and your story was my story 35 years ago. I had 3 children and stayed 15 years. He went to prison for domestic violence against me and the kids and i left for good. I eventually got remarried and we never looked back. Your story resonated so much with me. You’re so strong. Thank you for sharing your story and letting people know these situations are more common than most people know❤

You poor girl. What a terrible experience. Most of us have no idea what's going on behind other closed doors. Well done for speaking out. Well done for getting through it all and still having a beautiful smile for the world.

Thank you Libby for sharing this. Abuse is abuse. You were physically, emotionally, socially, financially, abused. Bruises or no, physical harm or no, abuse is abuse. Also please forgive me for saying so, but if you never went to a memorial service for your abuser, never saw an obituary, etc., wouldn't it be possible his friend lied that he died? In my experience suicidal threats from the likes of him are empty threats and they are there to make the victim feel guilty and responsible for the other person's happiness. When you told your story, i couldn't help but wonder if this was a lie to get him out of being a father to your child. And an attempt to make you feel bad for not complying with his unreasonable demands. A parting shot. But also a way to hurt you even worse if he shows up again later demanding anything like custody or visitation. Again, forgive me. I've simply seen some crazy shit out here and wanted to clue you in to the idea just in case. You may have direct evidence of his death which would make this speculation ridiculous. Regardless of all that paranoid nonsense of mine, you are a strong person and a survivor. Plus you are a fun and vibrant person. Dont give up - you are worth it all!

I’m really glad you’re here to tell everybody about it

@SimplyLibbyt

2 ай бұрын

Me too! thank you! ♥

@karenbradley598

2 ай бұрын

@@SimplyLibbyt you’re most welcome. Best luck to you and your future hopefully it’s brighter than the past.

I went through the love bombing, gas lighting, mental abuse, financial abuse, the " you can't have your friends over because I know what's going to happen" episodes, only his family could come over. The staying out all the time, the " I didn't answer the phone because my phone was dead, my screen was black, etc... the emotional abuse, the " where are my shorts, where are my shoes, what he was ACTUALLY trying to say was that another man was in the house and took his stuff. Really. 😮left and I never looked back 😮.

Lifting you up to the Lord for healing

First, congratulations for being brave enough to share. Second, I’m so proud of you for putting Kelly first. You are NEVER, NEVER responsible for another persons actions. When someone you love so deeply hurts you so deeply it does something to the love you thought you shared. I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years. We never had children. We moved a lot. He even went to prison and I would go every Sunday to visit, like a good little girl. But, one day I just walked away. Years later I ran into him at McDonald’s. I was with my now husband and two children. He told me he had cancer. I felt nothing. Later, when he died, I felt nothing. I didn’t go to the funeral. Didn’t give condolences to his family. Nothing. This was my very first love. I gave up everything for him. But, after 12 years I came to realize he didn’t give up anything. He didn’t love me. I’m sorry you had to live through this. Im sorry Kelly will never know his biological father. I never knew my biological father, either. But my Daddy that did love me, that gave me his last name, that raised me to be a strong independent woman was the best Daddy ever. And, I believe if Kelly gets the love and nourishment he needs from his father figure he will not become a statistic. Love and prayers to you both. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story with me! 12 years is a long time, and I am beyond happy that you had the strength to walk away. That takes so much! Feeling nothing when your abuser passes is so normal. I felt so much shame for that, but it is incredibly valid. I am glad that you had someone step in as a father and raise you. Watching kelly and colton bond just makes my heart so happy. Hugs and love!! ❤️

Oh Libby. I just watched your video 😢. I want to give you a big hug. I admire your strength. I am 4 and a half years out of a narcissistic marriage. We don't see the red flags in the beginning because they are so good at what they do but they can't keep the facade up forever, that is when we start seeing the red flags but their manipulation has you questioning your own sanity. Whenever I questioned my husband about his cheating, I also got the response "you've been having another one of your bad dreams". So yes, I felt your pain. Keep your videos coming, you are amazing ❤️

Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. You are wonderful and beautiful and your son is very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom! lotsa love. xoxo

@SimplyLibbyt

4 ай бұрын

Thank you soo much for being so kind!! ❤️❤️

Recognized a lot of stuff from my first marriage. My current husband I remember when I was trying to juggle so many thing and get dinner made. He called me when I was picking up my daughter and I told him I was in my way home then I could get dinner started. He said “I can start dinner “ I just posed I think my mouth literally fell open. I had to tell him I guess you can boil water for the noodles. I didn’t mean to insult him I just never had help only criticism or if I did have “help” it came with so much emotional distress and energy it was just easier to juggle it all myself. Even asking him to take out the trash after I literally did everything else he was ask why I couldn’t do it. My husband now takes out the trash not only do I not have to break down crying, but I don’t even have to ask😮. It sounds sad when you say it out loud, but that was my life for years. And like you it was good in the beginning and I never had any physical bruises.

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

I am so happy that you got out of that marriage and found who you are with now! The whole narrative of your everyday life changes when they are gone. Not to mention, when you get into a healthy relationship, it is literally SHOCKING. You deserve someone who makes you feel less stressed, and you dont have to ask things of. I am so proud of you and i know out kiddos are happy to see us thriving in healthy relationships ❤️❤️

I went through something very similar. The love bombing, the gas lightening, the emotional abuse, the financial abuse and the mental abuse. Physical abuse did happen but all the other abuse had a last effect on my mental health. I already had CPTSD and BPD I left with dependent personality disorder. I barely remember anything. It's a big blur. Longest 4 and half years ever.

Thank you for sharing this. I love you. I love your courage. So many of us hide our stories because we feel embarrassed or ashamed. And we aren't to blame for what happened to us.

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

❤️ thank you so much! I was so ashamed of my story for so long. But they hold so much power.

When i met my ex he had a story about how he did have his kids due to an accident that left him in the hospital for days. And he was trying to get them back especially after we got together cause i could help with the kids. I got pregnant and he was still using his other kids to manipulate me into being with him. One day when i was about 6wks he left for the day and my parents came to get me. When i got home he was messaging me saying he would use my depression to get custody of the baby when it was born. I couldnt bond with my child because i was afraid of losing this baby to him. I was around 4mos when i learned the abuse "his ex-girlfriend/kids mom" did to the kids was actually him confessing. And when i say it was bad i mean i dont know how hes not in jail. I also found out beside the 2 kids i knew about he had at least 3 others he was not involved with. My daughter is 7yo and im still terrified he will come around to try and take her.

Well I'm relieved he's gone out of the picture. The trajectory for this scenario was that you and the baby would be killed. The man was truly insane, thank your lucky stars he turned on himself rather than you. Nice girls often end up with these types of guys, its like the men have a radar for picking out vulnerable women. At least you have a lovley little boy so thats absolutely wonderful.

I just found your channel. Oh boy, I am so sorry what you went through. I am so glad you are safe and happy. Just by the way you speak, you seem a beautiful soul. Love and best wishes to you and your family💞

I really admire you. You have suffered so much. You have an inner strength that you don't realize you have. You are ready to actually enjoy the ride. The uphill climb is over.

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏼

@SimplyLibbyt

23 күн бұрын

Thank you for listening❤️

You are so brave 👏🏻👏🏻👍 and no doubt you help people by sharing. This is the second video of yours I’ve watched, I do hope you are still happy with your friend.

I am so glad you are here to tell your truth. I watched my daughter go through it. Oh she would not tell me or confirm but i felt something was very wrong. It escalated to him having a gun to her head. And he was a correctional officer. Well he screwed up and is serving 9 years in prison. She is now very happy and married to a good man. It took time but she is doing great. I pray that for you

So much love and respect for you! ❤

What an amazing human you are for sharing your story, this will help so many people, myself included! Much love

I'm so glad you got out. Thank you for sharing your story. When you said your thoughts were "I'm a single mom, what am I supposed to do ?" " You're supposed to LEAVE ! That's what you're supposed to do." That made me cry. I didn't have a job, '"What am I supposed to do?" And I was too embarrassed to tell anyone what was happening. I stayed partly out of embarrassment. Dumb reason to stay.... I always pretended everything was fine, because if we ended up staying together, I didn't want everyone to hate him..... So dumb When I went to a friend's house, he literally showed up and took my car keys and dragged my suitcase and all of my stuff back to his car and to his apartment.... Ugh anyway too many triggery stories from DV to tell. ( I'm glad he was rude to you at delivery because it helped your decision to end it. ) It took me several times of trying to leave, and him gaslighting me to give another chance, before I stayed out for good. I'm so proud of you and glad you have a kind person to be with now ! ❤❤❤

@SimplyLibbyt

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. Its so hard to revisit those memories. Im so glad that is not your life anymore. Theres no dumb reasons to why you did what you had to do to survive. ❤️❤️

Do NOT feel sad about his suicide! I went through something similar, although , as far as I know, he’s still alive. It’s been 38 years and I still have nightmares. I had two sons from a previous marriage and he took advantage of how bad I felt about myself from the divorce. We had a son together who he used as a weapon when I didn’t do what he wanted me to do. I finally had enough and went to a community college to get a better education so I could get a good job. Obviously, my being independent didn’t go over very well. He would use his middle finger and poke me in the middle of my breasts where no one could see. I moved out with my 11 year old son(my other sons had joined the service and were gone). I got a good job and put my son through college. We are strong and resilient!

I've just come across your channel, and i love it. You are a beautiful person both inside and out with such a kind soul. Thank you for sharing your story x

Praise the Lord you got your son safe

you're so strong girl!

@SimplyLibbyt

8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much ❤️

So proud of you

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️❤️

You are sooo strong! I'm so happy that you are now in a great relationship :) *Hugs* ❤

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!! ❤️ i appreciate that!

Libby, you need to look at where you are now. See how strong you are. Never go back. Repair yourself. It may take a longtime. You need to value yourself. I stayed in a relationship, believed in marriage. My mother passed comment to me one day, when she was visiting. She told me he was so charming, but if you think he’s fooling me, or I don’t see what you’ve become, you are mistaken. It was like I needed permission to get the hell away from him. She said my sons were learning this is acceptable for men to treat women like this. My daughter would think his behaviour was right. Having children will not help you with a narcissistic psychopathic personality.

Oh wow girl. Your domestic violence story and mine are eerily similar. Your ex sounds exactly like mine....only mine was from a different country 😢

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

Oh really?! That is so odd! I am so sorry you had to go through that ❤️

@carriengugi3405

Жыл бұрын

@@SimplyLibbyt yeah we met on a dating website in 2005. In 2007 he came over here to the US. He said and did all the right things not only to me but to impress my family. 2008 we were married and he was over here on a temp visa. 2008 to 2009 was great...no issues...then in 2009 I got pregnant with our son and that's when his true colors came out. He started knit picking apart anything and everything I did from how I would wash the dishes to how I would feed and dress our son. Calling me names and saying I was stupid. He did the verbal and emotional abuse first with severe gas lighting. He also had slowly been separating me from my family and taking money from our joint account and putting it in a solo account with his name on it. He kept telling me any money he earned was his and only his. One day I went to get cash for groceries and baby formula and found out he had withdrawn all funds from our joint account and removed his name off it. When I confronted him about it he started blaming me saying I was the problem. I wouldn't let it be and thought if only I could get him to listen to me....he called the police on me saying I was crazy and throwing things at him but I wasn't even near him. Simply because he said I was abusing him I got arrested. The judge later dropped my charges but those things started a deeper spiral. He eventually got accepted to pharmacy school 2 hours away from where we were living and his words were "I'm going whether you and our son are with me or not." I didn't have any money or resources due to how he isolated me so we packed up and moved. Things got worse where he would be out nearly all night and come home and belittle me and gas light me. To this point he had not been physically abusive yet but shortly after I got a part time job he started getting physically abusive and at that point was when I packed up our son and left. That was in 2011 and I have never looked back. He is 2.5 hours away and part of our sons life but our son who is almost 13 very rarely sees his dad by his own chosing and his dad's narcissistic behaviors. After I left him I had 2 very distinct moments where I stood up to him and let him know if he crossed my boundaries with me or our son then he would have hell to pay, he finally stopped trying to use me and realized I was a force to be reckoned with. I know he was cheating on me when we were together because all the signs were there but no hard evidence and as of today he is remarried. I don't feel anything for him but feel everything for his new wife just knowing she too is facing the same horrors as I did but I can only pray for safety over her.

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness. They are very similar. I am so happy that you left! Dealing with narcissistic abuse is horrible. You feel like youre going insane! Glad you are safe and happy ❤️

Been there. It doesn't matter who tells you to leave the relationship, you'll know when your breaking point is. 😔

@SimplyLibbyt

Жыл бұрын

It truly doesnt. Until it clicks with you, there's nothing anyone can do. Glad that you are safe now. ❤️

@canadiankabingurl9782

Жыл бұрын

@@SimplyLibbyt ♥ 🤗 I'm happy we are both safe.

My ex also tried to take his own life after I left. I still feel to this day it was a manipulation thing

@DomesticAbuseSurvivor55

2 ай бұрын

My abusive ex would never even think of doing that to himself. His narcissistic personality and his arrogance wouldn’t allow him to follow through. Because even though he bottles his emotions of guilt and shame, he knows that he’s a horrible person on the inside, but still tells himself that he’s a great guy and the best looking thing walking this earth. 🙄

6:15 Wow!!😳😳😳😳 FINALLY someone else says this!! 🙌 So this is a real thing right? I was starting to think I was trippin. So this is extremely validating. 👉🏽My ex did THE SAME EXACT THING and was strategic with his physical abuse. I sometimes wish he just would’ve punched me in my face and caused me to bleed and have bruises. Because to be honest, I would’ve just immediately gone to the emergency room and put on the performance of my life!!!! And the main attraction would’ve been me constantly pointing at the blood and bruises on my face. So it’s not like I would’ve been making it up. 🤷🏾‍♀️ There’s the evidence right on my face. Just a random thought. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story. It’s people like you that I watched when I was still living with my abusive ex that gave me hope and let me know that it was possible for me to break free. I couldn’t see how at the time, but coming forward about the domesic violence definitely gives other people hope. God bless you and your family and friends. And I wish you the best of luck on your journey towards healing. 🙏

I’m sorry

😢❤

@SimplyLibbyt

4 ай бұрын

❤️

God’s love and strength for you in the name of Jesus, Amen. ✝️🥰🫂

@SimplyLibbyt

4 ай бұрын

❤️

7:10 Facts Lol 💯💯

🫂 I know...

@SimplyLibbyt

4 ай бұрын

sending you tons of love and hugs!

@lucyroberts2800

Ай бұрын

I understand