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When Iris met her abuser and to-be husband she had no idea he was the bishops son at her church. He used that to convince her he was a good guy. She lived through 16 years of abuse with him: financial, emotional, mental, sexual, and physical, and suffered through his love affairs. When she finally realized his actions were abuse his family would not believe her. He tried to make her look crazy and accused her of being the abuser. They wanted to keep her quiet so the church wouldn't look bad. Now she's speaking up to help prevent others from finding themselves subject to similar abuse.
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My mom has always said to me. Even if you get married, the moment you feel unsafe, my doors are open;You come right back home 🙂👌
@billie-ocean8286
4 жыл бұрын
That's how my mom was are she would constantly say let him go momas always right
@evelynvelasquez7999
4 жыл бұрын
God bless her nice mom
@sofiarose2543
4 жыл бұрын
Ewane Raissa You have a lovely Mother..shame it is not the same for all of us ..take care.
@snowqueen24
4 жыл бұрын
That's good advice from your mom😊👍👏
@asafaust6774
4 жыл бұрын
Very smart mother. Congratulations.
One of the most demeaning things in the world is having SEX with someone who is cruel to you.
@NetiNeti-gm5bz
4 жыл бұрын
That's called rape
@SaraFJones
4 жыл бұрын
BF TE that was my thought! 🤦♀️🤷🏻♀️
@marshamcdonald1475
4 жыл бұрын
I was verbally, emotionally, Physically, sexually abused, Financially abused. He abused My son . I reported the abuse To police. My child told police About abuse. Video confession Done. He had a lot of money. I was stay at home mom. My mother and siblings took His side even made bail for Him. His family turned against Me. He paid for very expensive Attorney. I had court appointed Atty who did nothing. I was Punished by the negligent, Corrupt judges in Texas For exposing him. The video Was lost somehow. I was purposely not informed Of the court dates. My son And I went from shelter to Shelter. A therapist talked to My son and again my son Revealed what my husband Did to him plus my husband Fractured his arm. I lost Custody of my son . My Husband recd custody. 1991 In This horrible city of Houston Which is known for giving Children to their abusers and Punishing women for coming Forward exposing these Dirty Texas Males. Good loving Kind women- (listening to All the stories of abuse Neglect,). We never know Who they really are. Women Need to get an education. Have their own money. Separate bank acct. Have Your own home. (Do not move Into their home -- unless You are on the deed because When these men act up, Become mean you can Tell them to leave whereas If you have moved into Their home ( you the abused Wife will have to leave). Because most of these males Make more money, have more Secure jobs, physically stronger, Have no moral compass. I Think now as a woman I am Better off single. The hell And no protection from A court system which is Nothing but a money 💰 Machine for dirty judges And lawyers in this corrupt Evil 👿 State of Texas.
@Tee-Kay_9708
4 жыл бұрын
@@marshamcdonald1475 , God will restore you and be your redeemer. I will pray for you and your son.
@marcia697
4 жыл бұрын
Cruel is too much of a nice word for these type of people...
Ladies take this as a note: Be financially independent, no matter what!
@spm9130
4 жыл бұрын
Randa Abdirahman no better truth than that!
@shirumuigai6868
4 жыл бұрын
True
@breadbutter4221
4 жыл бұрын
While I share your sentiments, I must admit that it doesn't stop the abuse and usually they are manipulative enough to make the abused feel they need them. My father is mainly responsible for being an independent woman. He drilled in me from early the importance of having a skill or profession and being the beater of my own drums and that has been with me to this day while my career driven friend ended up with an abuser and develop the strength to leave him after 10 years. At first she was embarrassed and hid it from her friends and family. He berrated her, tore down her confidence and made her feel he was the only one who wanted her. She was the main earner and provider, yet he controlled and manipulated her for 10 long years before she escaped overseas.
@spm9130
4 жыл бұрын
Bread & Butter I agree with you, but when you eventually take the decision to leave and never look back, at least you can provide for yourself and your children. Better than starting from scratch to look for a job or source of income! This is the reason why many women will jump from one man’s bed to another because they are looking for someone to take care of them! Have a career, start that small business or sell stuff while working, it will come in handy! I sell linen for another company as a part time consultant and it puts bread on the table for me and my sons!
@breadbutter4221
4 жыл бұрын
@@spm9130 I do agree that why I find it so unsettling when a woman chooses to be a stay at home mom and being totally dependent on a man. I know every marriage is different but at the same time yes as women we need to have our own. I can't begin to fathom going to my husband like a child to ask for money for every little thing I need. Nope not gonna happen.
The man she is talking about is named Phil Thompson. He was a member of the singing Ashmont Hill. I used to attend the church she is referencing called known as New Covenant Christian Center now known as Jubilee. This woman is telling the truth. I dated his younger brother my first year in college. I left the relationship after 3 months as I began to notice very controlling behavior. This woman was the victim of narcissistic abuse. Pray that this woman is able to heal from the trauma of this abuse and help many women along the way🙏🏽
@dramafan08
9 ай бұрын
Yes, thank you for supporting her. I’m glad that you escaped. I hope that she has healed or will heal fully.💜
@snowqueen24
7 ай бұрын
Are you serious?!?😱
@snowqueen24
7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you went through that.❤️🩹💔
@soniataylor2464
Ай бұрын
So sad
I was married to a verbal/emotional abuser. I thought that I was strong 💪 for not letting a man beat on me. I didn’t realize that I was still vulnerable and allowed the verbal/emotional abuse for years. Now, I know better; abuse is abuse. All abuse hurts. Her story is powerful and I’m glad she broke free. God bless her.
@crystallovinglife5917
5 жыл бұрын
I can relate to everything you've written.
@jackiebrantley8640
5 жыл бұрын
Queen_Of_Domination
@bigboyjoey12
5 жыл бұрын
Queen_Of_Domination emotional abuse is what we do not talk about. We need more people to be open about it. Thank you for sharing
@salmamkindu868
5 жыл бұрын
Me too. Am happy that am free now with my 3 kids it's hard but am better off.
@rabianaurangsar3839
5 жыл бұрын
Them is the most WICKED PEOPLE
The church is his cover story. It’s his mask. This is the lowest type of abuser. One who uses faith as his weapon of control.
@newsongjoy2839
4 жыл бұрын
I see a free Godly woman. I am you made said your relationship with God got you through. Jesus died for our freedom from all forms of bondages, more so marital bondage. You ex is a reflection of his father and of the kind of church they pastor. From a free single sister to another, enjoy your singleness in Christ and he will give you '' a good and perfect gift Revelation James 1: 17. Praying for you. Your enemies will be put to Shane in Jesus name. The battle is the Lord's.
@newsongjoy2839
4 жыл бұрын
You are so beautiful too!!! He just lost his favourite with God cos he lost ''good thing'' and his heavens are shut permanently because he treated the wife of his youth with evil Malachi 3. God bless you please focus on a strong relationship with God. Man should not define how you see God. God is nothing that the old foolish ex father in law of yours! I am a single pastor mother of two. God helped me now they are 30 and 24. That ex foolish man I was married is now hopelessly looking for the boys to help him! ♥️
@nancynahnigoh3550
4 жыл бұрын
But the God is looking at him and now this woman is free and tell the abusive stories to the world , it is the karma sooner or later , he get paid for his actions indeed no matter how they hide their bad deeds the The Almighty Lord saw it and asked the Angels to come to earth and shows the true colors of the abusive partners for all women that are engage with them , for those that have their freedoms right now congratulations , God blesses them always , these are my prayers from the bottom of my heart , Amen thank you
@josephholdman1037
4 жыл бұрын
🙄
@kiacarter93
4 жыл бұрын
Yess! Thats the same thing i was thinking.
Your husband saw your potential and was jealous of you. I'm glad youre out. Well done!
@jihadatuibrahim597
4 жыл бұрын
Very true
@sweettee6827
4 жыл бұрын
Yup!!!
@HuKnowWhoEyeBeee-3763
4 жыл бұрын
I AM HAPPY 💜SISTAH💜 IS SAFE, ALSO. PRAISES - AMIN
@leratorato6751
4 жыл бұрын
Man are like that, they don't want a broke lady but they don't feel comfortable in a relationship with an independent woman
@lisabrown469
4 жыл бұрын
Am in a marrage right now like that emotional abuse
I feel like you're telling MY story!!! I am 6 years free now and I am happier than I've ever been! Good luck to you and happy healing!!
@laquinafernando6207
4 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same situation I'm going to file for divorce this year
@nxtchpforme9154
4 жыл бұрын
God sent her help...
@mugishachance8844
4 жыл бұрын
At least you are free now. Me IAM in prison marriage for 13years, and I really don't know how I will be free again in my life , I have to stay with him because of 2kids we have together, and IAM in his lows country , IAM in his total in his pocket. one day I feel like IAM going to jump and desapear but he is not good with the kids as well , Ican get out of his house without my kids, and I have no money as well his money so called our money he controls it as hell, even 1cent he counts
@LibertyMadison
4 жыл бұрын
Laquina Fernando be careful
@LibertyMadison
4 жыл бұрын
Mugisha Chance what country are you in?
43 years old!- You look much younger and YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! You keep going girl ,let nothing and NO ONE define you or stop you! Ladies please let us all heed the warning signs!!!!!!!
@user-fc8nh6vw5o
5 жыл бұрын
You must take heed to these words. She made it out by the grace of GOD to save your life from BONDAGE. From the beginning of their courtship he was showing her his nasty disposition and character. Just because someone say GOD doesnt mean that they have relationship with him. God word say by their fruit you shall know and judge them. There were signs but she was listening to wrong advice and didnt listen to her god given intuition. If you ever feel uncomfortable in any situation 🏃 run. Also never get caught up with titles with people. Get caught up with God's word he has all the answers.
@sonyascott3758
5 жыл бұрын
@@Nope_Nope Why are you so critical of her story?? Grow up and STOP being so damn mean! It was devastating to HER, obviously not to you! Everyone perceives pain and hurt differently! If you were a mature adult you would know that already!!!
@kathleenseetahal5407
5 жыл бұрын
I'm looking at this for the first time and can't stop crying I'm 51 and I feel she is telling my life story 😔
@elena-lc4uk
5 жыл бұрын
You are so good natured and beautiful. You look 25
@debbiedebbie6958
5 жыл бұрын
She looks 25😍😍😍😍😍
Narcissists always want you to believe you're crazy and everything their doing to you is your fault. Stay strong sis
@louisarichie1048
5 жыл бұрын
U know it
@MB-ub5md
5 жыл бұрын
Nana Abena Frimpomaa 💯
@feefees9796
5 жыл бұрын
Nana Abena Frimpomaa yep I just broke up with my ex to
@Luci438
5 жыл бұрын
Nana Abena Frimpomaa yess, gas lighting.
@rileysmiley9585
5 жыл бұрын
I concur
Oh, girl....I just want to gather you in my arms and hug you and let you cry and cry ❤️ My ex was charming too. No one saw his evil and rage. He saved that *just* for me, behind closed doors. This sounds horrific...I am SO glad you are out!!! 2 years out and married to a wonderful man who's also healing from Narcissist abuse~ God is faithful in our healing journey, finding our self worth and self love 💕
THE moral of her story is: when someone shows you who they are believe it....
These videos keep popping up in my recommendations.......God is warning me, I see it. Leaving him today
@lakytas.4060
5 жыл бұрын
💗💗
@silktheshocker200
5 жыл бұрын
Chocolate Goddess that man going whup your ass
@nicolemarie310
5 жыл бұрын
Hope youre out...
@moonxshakti
5 жыл бұрын
Good luck
@AllThingsChrissy1
5 жыл бұрын
LMAO🤣 best comment! Let him go sis!
I hate how her parents kind of pressured her . If my lil girl told me a man scared her I’d be proud of her for letting go early and knowing better . Go with your gut .
@rubberbiscuit99
4 жыл бұрын
This is so important. My mother did the same to me. I understand now that she did not think there was any other way to live as a woman.
@SaraFJones
4 жыл бұрын
I tried telling my mother my husband and I were fighting, she said “what did you do?” ...so it could only be me, your child, doing something wrong?! LOL, I no longer have contact with her!
@princessnaaofeibeaquarcoo3091
4 жыл бұрын
@@SaraFJones personally it's up to you not family,if he ever lays his hand on you , sis leave
@tinacarlton9949
4 жыл бұрын
Pure brain washing by him and gaslighting
@tinacarlton9949
4 жыл бұрын
@@SaraFJones you shouldn't be contacted him she aint the fault your husband ain't worth a do do
You are a survivor of Domestic Violence and thank you for sharing your story with others. God bless you strong woman!❤🙏🏼❤
I was also in an abusive relationship for over 13 yrs. I was in total denial. I was washing his shirts by hand, cutting his hair giving him manicures and pedicures, cooking paying half the bills thinking I was taking care of my man in the name of love only to find he was making homes with other women behind my back and even marrying one then lied about it... My warning was his father who treated his wife the same way, she still accepted to this day. I left.
@oliviathomas180
4 жыл бұрын
I am in a similar situation and praying to get out because I live at his parents home
@bfactality1797
4 жыл бұрын
Olivia Thomas you will get out I thought that I never could because I didn’t have enough money my family was out of state but God made a way. He went to jail I found an affordable apartment off I finally went and never looked back after 20 plus years. Where there’s a will there is a way. Blessings to you.
@anniechattergoon2360
4 жыл бұрын
Makes me cry cuz im in the same boat but can't find a way out.
@anniechattergoon2360
4 жыл бұрын
Makes me cry cuz im in the same boat but can't find a way out.
@bfactality1797
4 жыл бұрын
Annie Chattergoon I was in that nightmare for close to 14 years I thought I was so in love with this man and he was in love with me. I shared my world with him thinking we were in it together. I finally got the courage from friends, family, prayer, other women showing up at my home, calling my home. I didn’t want to believe he could hurt me I was in total denial. His family was helping him with his lies, that hurt even more finding that out. I just needed that confirmation at every angle to confirm who and what he really was then I plotted my escape plan that gave me the strength and courage to get out of that situation. He was just using me like he was using all these other women. He’s a sick narcissist and I can only feel sorry for him and pray that he’s getting or got help by now and I can thank God that I’m finally rid of him. I can say I feel free to this day. Bless you
Barefoot and pregnant..they don't want you to educate yourself so they can undermind you! Run as fast as you can.. I hope you find peace
@marciahill6102
4 жыл бұрын
God help her and her children to get to a happier life. ❤️🙏
One thing I know about people, they were raised in church but they do not have a relationship with God. Talk to God, not mother, father, or grandmother.
@queenv1827
5 жыл бұрын
Yessss
@ms.5779
5 жыл бұрын
Sooo true!!
@kryssiewoo51
5 жыл бұрын
Yeees. Agreed. This is one reason I always see people in the comment sections bash Christians or religious groups. They don't understand that, not because someone say they grew up in church or a member of a church or even hold a position there..doesn't mean they actually have a relationship with God! Not everyone who says "God/Fathr" is for him!
@mishylove
5 жыл бұрын
Jesus warned about the "wolves in sheeps clothing". The pharisees hated him because he called them out for being a bunch of self important phonies that were dead inside and didnt know God.
@ernestinegarris1870
5 жыл бұрын
Happey67 the Bible said to listen to yr parents, That yr days may be longer on the earth.
I'm grateful that she's told her story to us, it's not easy to talk about it let alone in public. She's definitely helping others to recognize the abuse or to reflect upon a last relationship that was abusive too and to understand that you're not alone. I felt horrible when she said she basically knew right after the first date that she didn't want to see him again and then 16 years passed by. I'm glad she feels gods love and that she is so strong
I suspect this woman's mother and family failed her by encouraging her to stay in this relationship.
@Jaz31day
4 жыл бұрын
Possibly they failed her with proper guidance and support but ultimately we all as adults know when we have a problem and how to get out of it. This seems to have been purely a people pleasing, community conscious person. Reputation should have a backseat to happiness.
@shelocsher2396
Жыл бұрын
Suspect? It’s clear they did.
you look 25 you're beautiful!!!!!!! he left you because you started to figure him out
@survivorship4290
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!
@carongunjiri3130
5 жыл бұрын
True
@yudelleanlisatajirikenyana4519
4 жыл бұрын
That's true - they don't like to be figured out
@anitaneal3082
4 жыл бұрын
Honey that's where the devil live l stop going to church years ago l realize the game the most high God tell you in the Bible he don't drell in nothing build by man hand he drell in you forget this man made mess it's leading all to hell
I was married to a covert narcissist. They are malicious, sadistic, envious, big babies. Her husband sounds exactly like my ex husband. Life gets better when you cut them off permanently.
@mahalee3737
5 жыл бұрын
hair grows back, skin starts to glow, look younger, random smiles, the spirit is free
@strawberrytea8984
5 жыл бұрын
@@mahalee3737 Absolutely!:) When I was with him I looked like I aged ten years. A month or two after the divorce I started glowing again and my energy was back as well. Its amazing what happens when they leave and take their dark cloud with them lol
@mellajoe
5 жыл бұрын
So what is it called when a man is sexually arroused by conflict with his wife?
@chocolategoddess4056
5 жыл бұрын
He sounds like my bf......
@strawberrytea8984
5 жыл бұрын
@modestone Sadistic. They derive pleasure from bringing emotional or physical pain to others.
I’m so glad you dumped that trash!!! You’re much too beautiful for this devil hiding himself with a church. Stay strong precious sister!!!!
If my parents have to convince me that the guy I date is a good guy, it's a big red flag for me.
@rosyapplekitchen635
3 жыл бұрын
Never thought of it like this but you’re spot on we should be telling them how amazing the person is
He sounds just like a narcissist. I was married to a narc. These people are the worst evil people ever!!!
@memorymakoni8877
5 жыл бұрын
They are coz even you try sharing your story with some people will think you are lying and you are the problem,coz of the way thy seem so nice whilst in the bedroom thy are monsters
@millionairepotentialz
5 жыл бұрын
They sure are it's so sad.
@monmacphee289
5 жыл бұрын
Narcissistic sociopath dangerous combination from only 9 months in a relationship/ experience
@carollewis3632
5 жыл бұрын
He's he'll bound the worst ones for called ministers.How do they. Think they look in God's eyes when their suppose to represent him that's the lowest thing that they can do😪
@AbigailAbi-Yah
5 жыл бұрын
@@carollewis3632 Exactly!!! My Ex Narc was/is an ordained minister ; but denied Christ with how he lived , acted, and treated people. Also he had a Big Time anger problem. He is a total fraud. So very sad. 😟
Your story will help other women. Thank you for telling it.
@divine9100
4 жыл бұрын
The more women tell their stories the more strength others will fine the strength to stop accepting less then!! Women are the Gate Keepers of Love PERIOD ✨
@HuKnowWhoEyeBeee-3763
4 жыл бұрын
ALHUMDULILLAH
@benjamin54yisrael3
2 жыл бұрын
Not really some but some are so hard up that they will stay just to say they have someone.
WHEN SOMEONE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM...THE FIRST TIME!!!
@kynearamsey1968
5 жыл бұрын
So so so true. He and his family are wicked
@Blondie8666
5 жыл бұрын
Believe them the first time, move around them, forget what anyone else has to say. Anyone but God to you in your quiet time. When he gives signs and glimpses into someone's character, and it's shady, walk away, praying as you go. Don't even listen to another voice. People will cause you to second guess God and yourself for hearing from him. But, he knows us better than we know ourselves, and certainly others. This was a hard test to help her learn, trust noone like you trust God, alone. Noone! I thank God for learning, healing, and restoration.
@freemindopenmind2182
5 жыл бұрын
@ Dionne P. Thank you for holding up the signs and wearing the T-shirt...from the Words of the "Great Poet and Activist ❤Mrs. Maya Angelou.❤
@mariejefferson5593
5 жыл бұрын
A TRUE QUOTE OF MRS. MAYA ANGELOU .. 👍
@melissabeljeter5599
4 жыл бұрын
Kynea Ramsey but when u young u dont know. Life aint hit u between the eyes yet.
It took me six months to figure out the guy I was dating was a narc and I was out of there, never turning back.
@anneosiyo1219
4 жыл бұрын
Lucky you... Six months mine was 20years in hell
@TJ_Eats
4 жыл бұрын
@@anneosiyo1219 oh no, I stayed for almost 2 years
@QueenBee75246
4 жыл бұрын
I figured out the one I was dating in three months. After we broke up three months later he was engaged to someone else. I'm so worried for her and I pray she figures him out but I'm glad I saw what he was before it was too late for me.
@kikib7310
4 жыл бұрын
Yes I wish I had your discernment! Unfortunately I stayed 10 yrs too long!
@thatswhatsup712
4 жыл бұрын
Took me a year
This woman is very smart and articulates herself very well. This man didn't want her in school because he didn't want her to learn more and be smart therefore he tried to break her down anyway he could by taking over the finances, by keeping her pregnant and in the dark on their business. Marriage is a contract and business partnership and this man took total control over their marital business through abusive manipulation. I hope this woman can keep on track moving forward in a positive light. She held on strong and still has her sanity. I know abuse all too well but have always refused to intertwine my credit or social security number within any relationship after being forced into bankruptcy by my ex, my son's father. Never again!!!
@manichairdo6346
5 жыл бұрын
It was recorded 2 years ago. And isn't marriage a covenant...not a contract? Here in the UK, it has recently become illegal to deprive a spouse of money, or control money, restrict freedom etc. Many other things on the abusive list.
@Trophygyrl
5 жыл бұрын
@@manichairdo6346 Yes it should be a covenant but seems to have become more like a business contract and ran similar to a business. There's always one or the other that is in a leadership role as the executive, a finance controller, family decision maker and so forth. It's really sad how marriage has changed these days, some marry just for stability not so much for love or finding that person that completes you. They should acquire that same law here in the USA.
@DellaWatson-cz3mq
5 жыл бұрын
My on off keeps trying to persuade me to mix funds. This will never happen. I don't want to mix my funds plus, I get more money than him so if we mix funds... You know, u do the math
@manichairdo6346
5 жыл бұрын
@Valentina Worldwide I don't think anyone is surprised. She was paid a compliment. Many people who post videos are poor speakers, inarticulate and their message gets overlooked or just passed over. Therefore, her message was incredibly helpful and a great source of encouragement.
@manichairdo6346
5 жыл бұрын
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq Great thinking. Some suggest a joint account is a trust thing but I think more trust is shown even in committed relationships where separate accounts are held. My mum, now 86 always had a separate bank account from my dad because of his erratic spending in his youth. She was wise and when she went back to work he regarded her wage as her own so it was put there, too, for her to do as she wished.
My ex husband was an abuser and a pastor. They are the worst!
@Zorobabbel
4 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately they hide behind the church.
@tinabethea7868
4 жыл бұрын
Dont give up on God Jesus loves you
@uniquebeauty633
4 жыл бұрын
Pastor for Satan,C's when the holy spirit changes some one they don't behave like this, so sad🙁
@setapartaay925
4 жыл бұрын
😔
@achatwithgoitse
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I think they're the worst... my sis is married to a pastor... we haven't seen anything like this. He's entitled...
A third job...if I have to get a second job with a husband..I might as well be by myself 🤷🏽♀️
@priscillamorobe2856
5 жыл бұрын
I agree with you
@bereajohnson8906
5 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@All_starrSquad
4 жыл бұрын
👌
@naomical3302
4 жыл бұрын
Deadass
@SaraFJones
4 жыл бұрын
#hypergamy #dustfreezone
I feel you sister. I have been in an abusive relationship for 17 years,my wife was so abusive but she never admitted it. But now I'm free and I can think straight. God is so good.
My dad was a narcissist. After he left my mom he married someone just like himself. Karma!
@talcareyifill5937
5 жыл бұрын
Nobody wants them
@jackiebrantley8640
5 жыл бұрын
Julie Copeland Barrows
@cjgh2812
5 жыл бұрын
🤣😂
@veecalli15
5 жыл бұрын
@Corey Smith HUNNAY you KNOW it
@Blondie8666
5 жыл бұрын
😁😂😂🤣😃💜! KARMA!
When a person shows you who they are believe them and walk away.
@toyaj7513
5 жыл бұрын
brwntra 1 When I say I literally just said this to my dad, when I was younger I never understood why he drilled this in my head, but thank God he did because it helped me escape the abuse of a Narc....
@denisewilliams5484
5 жыл бұрын
brwntra 1 Yes he was showing his truth but you ignored it . Now God got you because you stay close to him and continue to stay in your faith
@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih
5 жыл бұрын
Ie having healthy boundaries. A narcissist is the ultimate test- we need so much discernment Not to be gaslighted and they are often real liars & charmers. Red flags & educating ourselves as much as we can. Should be taught in schools this stuff- to prevent domestic abuse and many needless deaths.
@user-fc8nh6vw5o
5 жыл бұрын
Amen
@speaklife4581
5 жыл бұрын
Believe them the first time
Girlfriend always have your own income.
@bubujooestes1499
5 жыл бұрын
He was a dog but SHE let him use her .Not in these modern times.Why do you keep getting pregnant? Does that church forbade contraceptives? What did YOU want.
@barbarac.mosley6989
5 жыл бұрын
That's what i am talking about We should not be fooled.
@crystalvouse7015
5 жыл бұрын
Yep amen
@karensmith8095
5 жыл бұрын
vevo maxx yes yes yes!! 👏🏽👏🏽💰💰💰
@47sandy3
4 жыл бұрын
vevo maxx she did, he took control 👎🏽
Sounds like a typical narcissist , they always try to ruin your character .
@sweettee6827
4 жыл бұрын
Definitely a narc!
@darlenesutton7248
4 жыл бұрын
Yep she described a narcissist she went through hell I am glad she survived. It could turned very dangerous.
@dianacampbell5433
4 жыл бұрын
It seems to me that their purpose on earth is ruin and destroy the lives of others especially if you are an empath they are attracted to you because they want what you have, that special light that is in us as empath that causes us to love and care for others it's not so with the narcissist they are destroyers, energy vampires they full or rage and jealousy they are self centered and manipulaters what hurt the most is that they look at you who are pure in heart and have the nerve to call us evil that is how sick they are ,stay far away from them you can not help them a matter of fact they don't need our help because they think that we are the crazy ones leave them to karma.
@sweettee6827
4 жыл бұрын
@@dianacampbell5433 💯💯💯
@rodahmuriu782
4 жыл бұрын
Dated one for a year 😢 . i feel like she's telling mystory
She looks much younger than 43years
@plumpdn
4 жыл бұрын
Black don’t crack...
@LibertyMadison
4 жыл бұрын
Silena Tasha I was shocked when she said 43. I would hv bought 33
@jayjo77144
4 жыл бұрын
She’s very pretty I think
@ladennayoung2939
4 жыл бұрын
She look 43 to me.
@ladennayoung2939
4 жыл бұрын
Again 43 isn't that old. I think I'm just generally good about guessing most people's age.
Plis don't go back, such men don't change.. Am sorry for all you went through but you're a strong woman
@ladymarmaladea.2463
5 жыл бұрын
irene wangechi Strong and Pretty. FUCK HIM
@Haterzarefans
5 жыл бұрын
@@ladymarmaladea.2463 :u stole the words out my mouth.
@angelamoraa2768
5 жыл бұрын
where will they go
@jackiebrantley8640
5 жыл бұрын
irene wangechi
OMG, I found myself in an abusive relationship like that in 2019. What I did was to disappear without my clothes and shoes one day.
Her ex- husband was demonic! Definitely parading like an Angel of Light.
@evelynvelasquez7999
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly
ISOLATION is the #1 weapon of abusers against their abused!
God always let us see signs but we ignore it.
@kwakoushakur9362
5 жыл бұрын
Happey67, NONE so Blind as those who will not see.
@Happey67
5 жыл бұрын
@Tewdy Quew, excuse me? A decision as serious as marriage, a person doesn't know what to do when they see signs? You are kidding right? The lady is mentioning church, prayer, prayer, prayer. He mother sounds like she wanted to live her dream through her daughter. Some mothers just want to brag about the children to their friends. Do you know what to do about pain? Well a bad marriage is real excruciating pain. I have listened to hundreds of people and some of my closest friends and family talk about a bad marriage. Stand for something or fall for anything. I had a fellow I was dating and I did not know he was in huge debt, his conversation minimize it. He worked and got paid by commission, this fellow was in his forties and me, in my thirties. He said If I can put his name on my checking account. HELL NO! OK. I did not need to pray about that or go to a counselor. I would have just deposit and he would have just withdraw.
@Happey67
5 жыл бұрын
@Tewdy Quew , you are a foolish person . Your statement make no sense. Get a life, dummy. You are being abused right now because you are a fool and deserve it. Ha!
@vivalospepes1402
5 жыл бұрын
And that is the truth. I wouldn't take no for an answer Decades of unhappiness
@queenv1827
5 жыл бұрын
You're so so right.
When I first left my narc abusive husband, my mom, dad, and sister (who’s also my pastor) all told me to work it out. We have 2 children and I’ve been a SAHM for almost 8 years now so I have no income. Thankfully, when I told them how he had been treating me, they all were shocked but supported me with no pressure to go back to him. He was a deacon in our church, we sang on the praise team together, and he also was the drummer. It’s always the ones you least expect that you have to watch out for. Never let your guard down just because someone “appears” to be safe and trustworthy. Always pay attention to the red flags. There are ALWAYS red flags 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Ladies we definitely need to practice more self-love and self-awareness. Soon as you find out about these narcs you need to leave.
@nomsantsoane3984
3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes is not that you don't love yourself. Is just that you doubt and see goodness where there's none
@KeepinItReal632
2 жыл бұрын
Oh how I wish it was that easy 😔
@nattie911
Жыл бұрын
Self love, it's hard to learn if you weren't taught as a child, but worth the investment! Also learn about the cycle of abuse, types of abuse, and red flags of abuse. I have learned so much from Google searches and I hope to never find myself in an abusive relationship again.
His father is probably the same with his mother.
@Retailstafftraining
5 жыл бұрын
That's possible, hence the mom in law could not help her
@bereajohnson8906
5 жыл бұрын
Facts
@christabelle3758
4 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY.
@kimhuynh8059
4 жыл бұрын
The mom in law raised him. She knew he was selfish crazy man
@anneosiyo1219
4 жыл бұрын
True.. She's not alone in this, the worst place to get a partner is from the church. The church is like a hospital where people go for spiritual healing.. A that's why I believe that getting a date from church isn't the right thing anyway.
You are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate woman. So glad you are doing well now. You deserve it. God bless you.
I can only imagine how draining that marriage was. His parents are the marriage counselors oh no 🙅🏽♀️
@yvonnebarash9373
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, her in laws being their marriage counselors is totally inappropriate and intrusive.
@yvonnebarash9373
4 жыл бұрын
@Krystal Ogoke true
@acheekychick
4 жыл бұрын
The minute I heard it, my heart SANK.
@yaafowaa4149
4 жыл бұрын
Dangerous dungeon
Hi, you kept yourself very well for four children. Something similar happened to me as well ( with a Nigerian Associate Pastor, married for 14 years, our first child died, after the separation I was left with no money and our second child from the age of 5 years, being a white European woman and a single mom for 15 y' s ). I found my happiness with growing flowers on my balcony and singing Gospel songs. Bless you. I wish you strength hope and healing in all areas of body soul and mind ! Love Conny
@inasyal6311
3 жыл бұрын
i am with Nigerian man now. disaster ....
You were awake from the beginning and saw exactly what you were seeing. It was others that you trust made you believe in something that you knew was not right. My mama use to say, " Follow your first mind and let your conscience be your guide." I'm Happy Your Free God will deal with him and his family give it a minute.
@michs8786
5 жыл бұрын
Amen, for the eyes of the Lord are in every place.
@peacheskong2245
5 жыл бұрын
This is also something that pushes people many times.. Other people vauching for the abuser.
@agnesholiness6942
5 жыл бұрын
Art Monarchia your Mom she is right but is not easy to follow your first mind . May God help me to leave this Guy before i get lost .
@jenniferfuertado6987
5 жыл бұрын
Amen
@artmonarchia5814
5 жыл бұрын
@@agnesholiness6942 I only speak for myself; If I love someone waking up in the morning looking at that person before I get out of bed has the power to form my day to change my life in a miserable way I'm out. My mama also said, " never settle for less when you can have exactly what you want." I had to learn only I can make me happy the other party that comes into my life needs to bring their own joy. Here is the perfect recipe for a good relationship the ingredients are: Happy + Joy + Love + Kindness + Understanding + Respect + Working as a team player + God fearing = Life Time Of Peace And Happiness. If any of this is missing you are in trouble.
Never idolized anyone it always leads to disappointment..Always!.
@denisseparker1358
5 жыл бұрын
Most preachers treat their wife like crap.They use the Bible to manipulate them.Where do you think their sons learn it.They're all brainwashed.Submission doesn't mean you abuse your partner. The wife submits to her own husband&the husband to his own wife.Submission is simply respect.It's a sin to be a Religious Leader using Gods Word to manipulate Women for your own agenda.You're leading people astray in the name of God.
@curtistinemiller1560
5 жыл бұрын
@@denisseparker1358 I totally agree.Thanks.
@LCbabyxO
5 жыл бұрын
Curtistine Miller AMEN!
@Aeon1019
5 жыл бұрын
Curtistine Miller *IDOLATRY* is a grievous OFFENSE to TMH
I was in a mentally abusive relationship and was not able to see it. My children suffered as well. Seperated for 18 years now I still experience the consequences. My oldest daughter is still angry with me until this very for not being able to end the relationship. My advise to any woman. Dig deeeep into a mans family and personal background before saying yes
@laurenmorgan3939
4 жыл бұрын
How long?
@nomsantsoane3984
3 жыл бұрын
@@laurenmorgan3939 hire a private investigator
I am not married but I was in an abusive relationship. Both verbally and physically I got out of there. We have to love ourselves first before we can love anyone.
never ignore the red flags
@irened.2779
5 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done 😥
@corneliampofu5697
5 жыл бұрын
True
@Aeon1019
5 жыл бұрын
pamela reyes Those Red Flags 🚩 are *CALLINGS* .... hope you have ears to HEAR🙏
@yudelleanlisatajirikenyana4519
4 жыл бұрын
pamela reyes I wish I had seen mine. I knew somethings were not right from get go, but coz I've never experienced that before,.....
@cirukarago7251
4 жыл бұрын
True 💯
To all my sisters, you are so brave. I know what it’s like, I’ve been there too. My mother saved my life. If it wasn’t for the grace of God and my mother, I would not be here today.
@brendakabanda2181
5 жыл бұрын
Bless you. Keep strong.
@jpsargeant1
5 жыл бұрын
I Design I can identify. Me too!
@carlad.c4078
5 жыл бұрын
Amen Hallelujah:) I'm so Happy You are a Survivor. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@kristinagreen9100
5 жыл бұрын
I Design 6
@queenv1827
5 жыл бұрын
Praise God Thank you Jesus. You should make a video about it.
That's why I left the church. There are spiritual narcissist in there. Too many Christian women getting cheated on smh. While they cover for the pastors cheating
@Ironsav2.0
4 жыл бұрын
So true! When you tell your marital problems to church leaders and they tell you you need to pray more, do more.. whilst reiterating husband's are the head of the home! Marc leaders destroy everything they touch
@Ironsav2.0
4 жыл бұрын
*narc
@SweetBlackSistah
4 жыл бұрын
Yup. One of the MANY reasons I turned Atheist. Brainwash bullshit. 💅
@nomsantsoane3984
3 жыл бұрын
True but I wont leave church. I just won't marry
I lived this life with a spouse aka abusive angry & controlling man. Thankfully, I went from being a victim, survivor to thriving ... Thank you for sharing your story ... peace & blessings 😊🌈💜
She describes a husband who has narcissistic personality disorder.
@lovelysosweet8386
5 жыл бұрын
So many of them especially in churches
@clevagal2
5 жыл бұрын
Lol... funny the way you term it. “Narcissistic personality disorder” hell waits for this kind of gentle abuser.
@hillarybillary21
5 жыл бұрын
Yep.
@starlingswallow
4 жыл бұрын
Amen. Her story is similar to mine. I'm out and I'm free!!! ❤️
You are a very strong, brave women. Thank you for sharing your story.
What's scary about this its very common in the church
@katrinahyke7238
4 жыл бұрын
And there’s even more pressure because your community is so much more involved on a personal level so it makes it harder to get away because your judged in mass and for a lotofpeople this community is all they know and it’s all they have so they never do anything out of fear of being judged or shunned
@Psalm_27.4
4 жыл бұрын
@crystal vouse, yes, very common in the FALSE church!
@kimberlyclark6326
4 жыл бұрын
When you get involved in religious cults, this is what happens.
Single life is beautiful. Thank you for that reminder... I've dealt with narcs before... I had the last laugh though.
@MsMaxinejoy
5 жыл бұрын
@@Happey67 sweetheart, if you can't learn to love your own company, then you cannot truly enjoy anyone else's. I have been on cruises by myself, and I have been on cruises with friends and family. I thoroughly enjoyed both! I enjoy my single life. I am a person that I can meet people of any culture, any race and I can learn and get to know people. I am alone, but never lonely. I no longer have problems with narcissist men, like I used to when I was younger. They stay the fuck away from me, because they see I am a confident, vibrant person that speaks my mind. 😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚
@kimberlyturner820
5 жыл бұрын
singleness ain't litt....but it's better than being with a narc
@MsMaxinejoy
4 жыл бұрын
@Chuck Anya Sorry YOUR life stinks. I'm LOVIN' it! 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
@helenbestman5338
4 жыл бұрын
Kudos to you for dumping his azz.
@lashondareed810
4 жыл бұрын
Your comment is golden, I agree with you Omonike Mama Maxx. The single life is beautiful. May the Lord bless you richly my dear.
I'm looking through a mirror. This was my life 9 years ago. Couldn't understand it until went through divorce.
@nicandrews1370
5 жыл бұрын
Please don't read this comment with malice, but what would make you stay in something so abusive?
@denisewilliams5484
5 жыл бұрын
Purposeful Love I know this life to well because it was me . She’s half way telling my story
@belindarosario2190
5 жыл бұрын
Something that people don't understand is that this is a bondage. And it's difficult to break without God's help.
@firstladygift.2431
5 жыл бұрын
Purposeful Love stay strong
@nyambura9971
5 жыл бұрын
@@nicandrews1370 I guess they were brave, I wasn't...I walked out after 7 months of marriage, it felt like an eternity.
Sounds like my ex. Narcissism was called James. He tried to intimidate and control me. Tried to choose my friends. It didnt work. I was stronger than my abuser and his lies.
@jacquesejones8619
5 жыл бұрын
The ex narc in my life has the same name.
@daniellehage1844
5 жыл бұрын
Me too
@ashleydouglas7861
5 жыл бұрын
@@daniellehage1844 me to I be snapping on him in public and all when he cross the line
This the reason, my good friend said to me ,love and respect a man but don’t give out all the power to a man!!
Im so glad you figured it out and pulled yourself up and got out.
Praise the Lord, you did not let the church kill your relationship with God. His Spirit and Mercy endures forever!
@bettysmith7247
4 жыл бұрын
I would leave in the middle of the night with nothing
Omg don’t cry your a beautiful strong black woman . May god continue to bless you
@millionairepotentialz
5 жыл бұрын
Amen
@brendalespoir3274
5 жыл бұрын
Amen.. Yes she a beautiful woman God be with you dear
@user-zx5xw4yw2e
5 жыл бұрын
Men are strong. She's a lady, not a man.
@Majestic_Dark_Horse
5 жыл бұрын
Father Yahweh knows I will "never" marry a female who have not received the gift of discernment of Spirits.
@user-zx5xw4yw2e
5 жыл бұрын
@@Majestic_Dark_Horse There's no such gift.
Boy, I remember going on a 3 day hiking/camping trip with an asshole boyfriend (obviously didn't realize that at the time, and not for a while after either), and on the last day my knees were hurting from carrying the heavy pack up and down hills, and he said, "this trip (back to the car) better not take 8 hours because of you." Well, he misread the map and went the wrong way down the trail, even after I told him several times that landmarks I had noted previously (including a large pile of deer poop) were not there. It wasn't until we met someone along the trail, of course he was walking way ahead of me, and that person let him know he was headed along the week long trail, so we turned around. And of course he got mad at me, not really abusive, but certainly demoralized me when every step was extreme pain. The only thing that got me through was a silly song I made up in my head about him. Well, when we finally got back to the car, I had looked at my watch and it had taken us exactly 8 hrs and 5 min. We did break up in the car on the way home, but I still let him back in my life several times, until I finally had enough and told him never to contact me again. But no, I didn't learn my lesson, and dated jerks (I guess I didn't believe I was worthy of a better person), and unfortunately married a selfish and depressed man who over the past ten years has sabotaged my career and finances. I am working towards rebuilding my life, my health and my self-esteem now. I tell younger people now, that if someone treats you disrespectfully, they are not your friend, and why would you want a partner that is not your friend. I see manipulators and bullies now and fight back, which usually shuts them up, but when we give control to another who does not have our best interest at heart, we lose part of ourselves.
@netsaigiro3805
4 жыл бұрын
You have all helped us those that are still single
@abdirahmanali5545
4 жыл бұрын
Marilyn Russell thanks for sharing your story. I think as women we need to take control of our lives.
@SweetBlackSistah
4 жыл бұрын
💯 facts
Never listen to your parents when it comes to relationship, you have to live it not them. Your first instinct should have told you to run regardless of who told you to stay. Follow your gut
@plumpdn
4 жыл бұрын
Lisa that was my mistake. My mother hates me so why would I think she would choose someone good for me?
@TJ_Eats
4 жыл бұрын
Not always. The my ex took care of me all around while I was in college, he became more and more abusive. My parents were in a tight financial spot at the time so me being with him in college really helped. I was afraid to tell my mom of the growingly bad situation because I thought she would tell me to stay. But to my suprise her and my dad told me to come home they'll take care of me. It was one of the moments in my life that I knew my parents loved me above anything...
@evelynvelasquez7999
4 жыл бұрын
Well parents have experience u should listen sometimes but bottom line use your brain
@prayerseabelo9073
4 жыл бұрын
@@evelynvelasquez7999 - so agree with you 💕💕. Some people either have super low esteem or they like projects, thinking they can fix such people. As soon as a person shows you their dark side, leave. Don't understand how they can stay all these years. Praying and sitting on your ass waiting for a miracle is what gets people into trouble.
@stacylisco9358
4 жыл бұрын
Whotney houston
Say no to narcissistic relationship
@fitnessbabe7958
5 жыл бұрын
Ntuchu Melvis what are the signs in theses types of men?
@ntuchumelvis7157
5 жыл бұрын
@@fitnessbabe7958 one the are very charming.talk about the future too soon and just think about what a mirror does when you look into.a narcissist look and study what you want in a partner and he starts practicing it so you feel you have met your soul .all lies lies soon or later you will start realising his words and actions don't match
@julieth.8273
5 жыл бұрын
He sounds more like a sociopath than a narcissist.
@julieth.8273
5 жыл бұрын
@@ntuchumelvis7157, he is not a narcissist. A narcissist would not be gone for several days knowing that the refrigerator is empty. Narcissist are about show and tell and to impress others. They use other people to make them look good. He is more like a sociopath. Sociopaths only care when there are consequences to their actions. She didn't allow him to be accountable for his actions.
@conchettam6861
5 жыл бұрын
6yrs ago...was hell..4me!! my EX Narcissistic... boyfriend was a evil...mess!!HE SAID HE WAS GOING 2 KILL ME!..JESUS removed him!!
1)First huge red flag “ we got lost on the trail and he lost it”. This why you honor your own intuition it won’t lie to you
@debbiemanning5983
5 жыл бұрын
We tend to look at their breakdowns as "temper tantrums" and want to pet them and kiss it and make it better when he needs A CHER IN MOONLIGHTING SLAP! Yes there are signs THIS AINT THE ONE.
@angelking5836
5 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! The first red flag run! I've had my experience with nut cases.
@dkellyiverson414
5 жыл бұрын
@Kimberly Monique , How sad! ☹️
@kimberly0717
5 жыл бұрын
Ladybug Eartha yes and her mother failed her also. She told her to go back to him? Too often as women we brush off the small stuff.
@kimberly0717
5 жыл бұрын
Kimberly Monique I know 😪. He probably didn’t want her on birth control, I’d been a sneaking popping my pill everyday something after that first one!
You went through exactly the same challenges as me. It's so painful that most people will always see the wife as the bad one only because the husband and his family serves the church.
I went to a Pentecostal church and all the wives work while the husbands didnt work . They used the scriptures for their own benefit. That's why never loose yourself 👈 in a marriage or relationship
@jackieadele11
5 жыл бұрын
Jessica L bibles told us by the fruits ye shall know them do not be deceives by man too often they don’t invite the Holy Spirit in they life and run into trouble why because the trust in man and not in the father in heaven
@ThestorytellerofKatunga
5 жыл бұрын
I see this too.
@ThestorytellerofKatunga
5 жыл бұрын
@Beverley Hohn Chang you are young....You even talk young!
@czarinaczar
5 жыл бұрын
@@ThestorytellerofKatunga She speaks the truth, young or not. 😑
@princessnaaofeibeaquarcoo3091
4 жыл бұрын
@Beverley Hohn Chang you're so wrong for the comment,how you were raised is different from others,some a emotional connectors,some are just vulnerable so please ,choose your words wisely
My dear, you are narrating my story. I wish I could talk to you. Coming from a third world country my ex taught he own me. I lived with this narcissist for 10 years. When I left I never looked back. My divorce was pronounced today. Living the best life, taking care of my girl. I have learned enough to teach her. Lots of love.
@reflections4me
5 жыл бұрын
Some One b
Satan is busy in the Church
@olayinkasonaike2027
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly. And we are playing in the church.
@elizabethletsoso2558
5 жыл бұрын
@@olayinkasonaike2027 Exactly 👊👊
@sexymom430
5 жыл бұрын
Dawn Nickelson he’s busy yes, but a lot of church folk are Doing this on there on.
@Redeye1983
4 жыл бұрын
Wee don't need you. Please take your thing's and leave. Thank you.
@Redeye1983
4 жыл бұрын
@Michelle Staunton no body is talking nothing about church at least I didn't. I'm saying that if you girls don't like boy's likemy self... you should pick your stuff and leave.
Did this husband of yours do anything for a LIVING? Sounds like to ME he was COMPLETELY spoiled by his CHURCHY parents!
@anneosiyo1219
4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
I watched your story last night and watching it over again today. I am sorry for all that you went through : the pain, the hurt, the heartbreak. I hope you and your family are doing much better now, a few years later. I hope your children are healthy and happy. May God continue to Bless and protect you and your children. Your husband will face his judgment. The only thing I am disappointed about, is that you did not have to courage to leave him before , it was only when you found out that he had * another woman,* it was ONLY then you gathered the courage and the strength to leave. Your church also failed you by not getting involved . God has never and will never fail you. Wishing you the best in life.
Ladies we must never never never never never give any man better yet anyone control over you. LOVE YOURSELF!! YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD!! You come from royalty. PUT GOD FIRST!! You do that nobody has control over you. Stop being so thirsty and desperate to be in relationships. Learn to be alone and have clarity. Know who you are. Get toxic people out of your life immediately. Seek God, He is truly amazing.
@user-zx5xw4yw2e
5 жыл бұрын
*You do not have to be desperate or thirsty at all for this to happen to you.* I do agree withYa though for those who ARE being 'thirsty'.
@deedeemoore6096
5 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree
@Dachdogoriginal
5 жыл бұрын
Godly headship aND submissiveness looks nothing like this. A real head is to cherish and spoil his wife and children and always act in their beat interest above his own needs and he keeps them safe and provided for. And he allows his wife the dignity to have a say in what happens to the family. People, and especially false religion does not understand of follow the proper headship of God. Husbands are to be in imitation of Christ and his Father.
@amirah_williams
5 жыл бұрын
yasss queen
Sounds like my ex. Satan masquerading as an Angel
@lovelysosweet8386
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@lovemagicandroad
5 жыл бұрын
Nqobile Hlophe Yes, mine too!
@Minique30
5 жыл бұрын
I can relate
@bentleyj02
5 жыл бұрын
Mine too!
@carmenseguridad7105
4 жыл бұрын
Same here
Some peep think marraige is a contract for SALE of a soul..only God owns YOU
@tiffytoo
5 жыл бұрын
That's right !!!! Love that you said this 😍
@ellielondon8501
5 жыл бұрын
Yep
@paulettecampbell6993
5 жыл бұрын
That's what his mother went though.so she could not say nothing the evil goes on
@Tabby.cat2
5 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏
@bereajohnson8906
5 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This lady describes her husband as exactly 💯 how Satan character is. 1st angle of light (charming)
She went against her 'gut'... her 'inner voice'.. her 'spirit'.. The Holy Spirit's voice to her Spirit'.. Whatever Ya want to call it. *We should NOT EVER ignore it.* Her mother's input caused her to second guess that 'gut' feeling. Ladies PLEASE (n men also) Do NOT ignore it. It doesn't matter what others say. That inner voice is the TRUTH. *N do not try2 make sense of it with your mind, the Spirit knows what the mind doesn't know.*
@melanatedwoman3760
5 жыл бұрын
Dazzling Jewel ...yes the inner voice is the Truth.
@Haterzarefans
5 жыл бұрын
So true!
@juliaedi111
5 жыл бұрын
Love your comment, I learnt this lesson late but now I trust my gut completely.
@triciabrooks2520
5 жыл бұрын
Yes, I lived this for 30 years before the Lord was able to get the truth through to me. Listen to the inner voice because the Holy Spirit leads.
@HazSut
5 жыл бұрын
The pain that would have been avoided had many listened to that inner voice. I thank God for healing and second chances.
I already knew before you said it that an affair was going on. Many times, maybe most times, when a man starts to act abusive, guilt over involvement with another woman is behind their anger and control. Stay strong and don’t go back. God will make a way for you Blessings! 🙏. PS When someone is busy trying to avoid seeing themselves for who they are, they won’t be able to see you for who you are.
@ZazaTyson
5 жыл бұрын
That’s EXACTLY what happened to me. Instead of just leaving me alone, being selfish just so he could have cake and eat it too
@strawberrytea8984
5 жыл бұрын
Facts
@thearough
5 жыл бұрын
Roz Christopherson ima remember that "... worried who you are"
@jmkbee5334
5 жыл бұрын
Roz Christopherson ‘wow’ to your PS.
@rozchristopherson648
5 жыл бұрын
Jmk Bee 👍
OMG!!! I’m listening to my own story, only I didn’t have children. My husband went away and at the age of 72 had an affair with a 27 year old lady, then bragged about it. That is how I got my freedom from an controlling abusive husband. After 25 years I’m happy to say he’s out of my life forever. We too met in the church. He even instigated a prayer meeting in the mornings in our church. As we all know ‘it’s not everyone that says Lord’.
I am sorry for your pain, glad that you are free, and disappointed that you did not share the name of the monstrous "church" your ex was part of. They absolutely NEED to be exposed!
Classic narcissistic abuse.
@julieth.8273
5 жыл бұрын
He is not a narcissist. He's a sociopath.
@greenqueen2673
5 жыл бұрын
What is the difference between the two?
@joeldavid5692
5 жыл бұрын
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@julieth.8273
5 жыл бұрын
@Valentina Worldwide, true but sociopaths only care when they suffer consequences and sociopaths do not have remorse. A person can't be a sociopath and narcissist because they either have remorse or not. Sociopaths are very good at manipulating others by making them think they are genuine. Narcissist are very easy to figure out because they let you know that it's all about them.
@julieth.8273
5 жыл бұрын
@Valentina Worldwide, they may show a little as long as it makes them look good. They use others to make them look good. For example, a guy (who is a narcissist) may buy a homeless man a dinner to impress his date.
God gave you the sign on the hike and all mothers don't know better.. Take notes in the beginning
@758natty
5 жыл бұрын
the mother said seems to be a nice guy....she saw what he wanted them to see...not mama's fault
What gets me is that you almost always see the behavior of abuse when you’re dating. Nobody is that good at hiding things. Usually, the signs are there but you either ignore them or you don’t know what to call the behavior so it flys over your head. It is not until you are in the marriage that things start unfolding. Ladies and gentlemen please be careful in everything that you do concerning marriage and dating. Do not allow anyone to cajole you into a life of misery. Remember that you were free and had choice before you met them and they can’t take that away from you. Hold God higher than any spouse or relationship because no man born of dust should ever have any hold over you.
U are a voice to many women out there who are going through the same thing u went through, .. suffering and afraid to speak out or leave their abusive marriages! ... Soon u will save many women out there, I have a feeling God has appointed u for such a job!
A minister, a musician, a gospel singer...a narcissistic abuser. RUN honey...and keep right on running. God is with you and will heal your brokenness. ❤
@AbigailAbi-Yah
5 жыл бұрын
Wild Rose so very true. Run , Run , Run Forest Run!!! 🏃♀️👍❤
@Aeon1019
5 жыл бұрын
Church Organizations and their *LEADERS* are Brood of VIPERS..... children of SATAN *TARES*
@brettsfav4
4 жыл бұрын
They are evil. I was involved with the minister of music at my former church. He proudly shared pictures of our intimate times together with members of the band and my fellow choir members. The bishop found out and did absolutely nothing. I’m done with church.
@piepearll
4 жыл бұрын
U mean those roles - Minister, musician, gospel singer that peeps occupy in church?
He kept impregnating her to keep her down.... it's a tactic as well. Don't get me wrong children are a blessing but they are a sacrifice indeed. Things get a bit harder especially in the beginning stages of child development . You become codependent or try to look for support of your spouse naturally.
@mwathani1
5 жыл бұрын
@J Thompson,she is a woman,she knew what was going on in her marriage, she should have used contraceptives, she kept having kids,after i had 2 and knew deep down,things weren't gonna change,we were starving and we were well off,thank God i live in a country,where school is free.I decided to get an injection. I left after 10 years,only stayed because of my kids and the stigma, Never Again.God bless
@jthompson4916
5 жыл бұрын
Christine Munday I'm a bit confused in your response. You were yourself in this situation yet you judge this woman for a having a few more kids than you did... I'm happy you got out but you can not and don't have the right to judge someone else. I am sure people judged you and told you to get out or maybe you were too embarrassed to reveal but you kept going according to your own testament -not as long as this woman, but you did. This mental abuse that takes time. The person is groomed. Maybe you are lashing out because you don't know what exactly happened to you or you are scared to admit to yourself the amount of control you lost and blame yourself. You should not. Read about Narcissistic abuse victims. Be at peace.
@MariePriss
5 жыл бұрын
You're soo correct man. That's straight facts
@Krystalonthemove
5 жыл бұрын
I was thinking that somewhere in there after the 2nd one, I wouldve went to a free clinic for birth control
@bslayedbellydance
5 жыл бұрын
J Thompson thank u cuz she trippin you know damn well how control works
That's why I serve God at home.I am a bedside baptist.
@mindmadeupsteadfast8
4 жыл бұрын
I am about to become one.
@patriciacole8773
4 жыл бұрын
I call it the remnant church. Revelation says Babylon is fallen Babylon is fallen come out of her my people. Babylon is the apostate Protestant churches. The leadership have all shaken hands with rome. They also know biblical Sabbath is Saturday not sun day.
OH MY GOSH!!! Girl! When my ex Narc and I were dating he brought us in a hike in the mountains of Virginia for my birthday~ we ALSO got lost and he FLIPPED OUT!! I also thought, where did this kind, quiet person go??? It should have been a huge red flag. He ruined my birthday with his rage. I kept telling him it was fine, that we'd look back on the memory and laugh and he was INCONSOLABLE with his anger! I too came back from my honeymoon weeping in my parents bed. My dad told me to divorce...my mom disagreed. 😞💔 I never felt married to someone either. It was NOT a marriage. It was slavery.
Snakes! In the churches..
@aliyyahlunsford5923
5 жыл бұрын
I went through that shit! Still ten times worse
@Dtella55
5 жыл бұрын
Big time!
@His2777
5 жыл бұрын
They’re everywhere - absolutely everywhere.
@josephbishara4791
5 жыл бұрын
Being in the church doesn't mean that you're a good person. Being in the church means that you're addicted to the "high" which religion gives believers. The fantasy of eternal life gives some people a "high."
@lorebay2593
5 жыл бұрын
Yes, they come in to deceive us
This breaks my heart. So many women want a companion so desperately that they often ignore the red signs. 🔥Ladies, don't let anyone control you and make you feel less than just because he's the man. Society says get married however if being single and Happy is more fulfilling then remain single until you find someone who will truly respect you and appreciate you❤️😢
@iamlee6833
5 жыл бұрын
well said dear
@beverleyreid7572
5 жыл бұрын
Carmen agree with you!
@mariovanda9504
5 жыл бұрын
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@aquilab077
5 жыл бұрын
Crazy thing is that a lot of these "men" women too, put on a mask and trick you into loving them. By then your emotions are already involved.
@lovelysosweet8386
5 жыл бұрын
Red flags are not always there in time! This can happen to anyone in church! They come to people like Hero's! Educated preachers! In church
Oh dear. I can hear myself from you. I was a single mother before I left him from the time I met him
Many women going through what you went through, but fear from being judged by the society and family keeps them from speaking out. You are a beautiful strong and confident woman who deserves more than having a title of a 'marriage'.
Never say I do if u r having any second thoughts. The its better to remain single than marry the wrong person.! Keep strong. All things work together for the good of Gods children.
@sarahmcgee6269
5 жыл бұрын
Anulika Ononye You are soooooooooo right!!!!!
I went through some of the same things with my ex husband of 14 years. Thank God you got away. I didn't realize how bad he was until I went through counseling after I got divorce. His family had the nerve to say, God forgives you for what you done for leaving him. These people are sick, twisted, selfish and evil. I will never go back.
You’re a strong woman. My heart hurts for you yet I admire you.
It breaks my heart to see your eyes full of tears. You’re a courageous woman. Do not anyone else abuse you. You deserve much better. 😘