SELF CARE HABITS that are changing my life
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Let's talk about self care! Lately, I haven't been feeling my best. So I've been prioritizing self-care more, and it's been helping a lot. Specifically, there have been three self care habits that have been life changing for me. So I wanted to share them with you all today!
Lots of love,
🌼 Vera
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Why I'm doing more self care 0:00
Sponsorship 0:59
Niksen 2:32
Soothing self care 6:52
Emotional boundaries 10:19
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If you had a couple of hours of 'niksen' time, what would you want to do? 😄👇🏻
@srinidhi_ks
Жыл бұрын
Mostly Sleep 😄 and some cleaning with some rainsounds playing in background...I really need time to unwind myself from the work I have done during weekdays..or else work / code will be running in Back of my mind..😅
@stephaddiction
Жыл бұрын
I could use more examples :(
@alexandraalmeida3661
Жыл бұрын
Stitching or admiring the seagulls that I see in front of my house 💙
@williamclark1244
Жыл бұрын
I had a pretty productive morning today so I'll be watching a favorite movie and then taking a nap.
@pinkroses135
Жыл бұрын
Play animal crossing
Self care isn't just holidays and massages.It's working on your habits, mindsets and healing your past. It's removing toxic thoughts, people and places in your life. It's living intentionally, purposefully and consciously.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
I can relate to that 😊 Also, love your profile pic illustration!
@debrakarin
Жыл бұрын
I agree completely!
@annchee1329
Жыл бұрын
I totally agree with self-love!
@dollops1729
Жыл бұрын
Very well said.....
In Sweden, we sometimes use the word "nix", which means "no". It is probably related to "niksen", because it means saying no to the hustle and yes to rest and relaxation. Did a lot of niksen this summer instead of getting very busy on my vacation. So nice to take it easy without planning in advance!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah so cool! Saying no to the hustle and yes to rest and relaxation 💕 Love it!
I’ve accepted Niksen time recently. I’ve come to realize I just need to ‘be’. I love to sit on my deck to listen & watch the birds & squirrels.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
So wonderful!!! Enjoy!
Fellow empath/introvert. In therapy I'm learning about all sorts of boundaries and how to use them in my life. The only social media I have is watching KZread. I mainly follow cleaning and book videos. You, Vera, are the only KZreadr I follow in this category of videos. I really appreciate your calm and thoughtful aura in your videos. They help center me when I watch them. Thank you 💕
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so much Audrey, that's so nice! 🤗🍵💕
You’re so right about social media, people get addicted to it so easily. I only have instagram, because I don’t know anyone personally who likes any kind of art and there I can share my art work and admire other artists and establish a connection based on art, BUT I set for myself the boundary of not following many people, because otherwise that would drain me, since I like to take my time admiring and commenting. I only subscribe to KZread videos that TRULY interest me and teach me something, art or otherwise (like yours). I didn’t know the term “niksen” (I hope I spelled it right...), in Portugal doing nothing is seen as lazy nowadays. When I was a child and adolescent (I’m 51), doing nothing was seen as a good thing, but now people have to be constantly doing something productive, otherwise they’re seen as weird. Even children. When I was a child, I came from school, I did my homework and studied and then my parents let me do what I wanted, and I played with my toys, my dolls, etc. Nowadays parents have their children’s time ALL occupied with extra curricular activities. They don’t have the time to sit and do nothing or, which I find quite useful, invent ways of playing. And when they’re not with extra curricular activities, they’re on social media. I find this so sad, that people lost their ability to just look at the window and admire the sky or a tree, or just enjoy being on their favourite sofa. Or just stitch (like I do 😊) without a purpose, just for enjoyment. Thanks for the wonderful video. I loved it 💙♥️🧡🖤💛❤️💗💚💜
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, I really agree with what you said about the value of doing nothing, also for kids!
I like this format a lot and it was the quality of tips not quantity. Sometimes when there are too many tips (in anyones videos) I get overwhelmed like I’m not going to remember them all or need to write them down. This was clean and easier to absorb. Thank you ☺️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that!!! I enjoyed having the time to really go more in-depth for each tip as well :)
Never heard of "Niksen" until now, so thank you! There is an old Spanish proverb that I loved though, something like, "how wonderful it is to do nothing and then to rest after". I am definitely working on reforming my workaholic tendencies and on setting healthy boundaries to protect my emotional health. I ask myself, "what is the most loving thing you could do for yourself right now?" Watching your videos with a cup of tea is definitely on that list so thanks again!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
"how wonderful it is to do nothing and then to rest after" I love that so much!!! Thanks so much for sharing Annlynn
@melrmontez
Жыл бұрын
I completely agree. These videos are always calming yet full of wisdom for me.
@alexandraalbertz1442
Жыл бұрын
There is also a Mexican saying "Dress me slowly as I am in a hurry" I love that. When we hury we make more mistakes
sorry forgot to say in my niksen time i would walk by the local duck pond and watch the wild life, its a lovely distraction from the inner chatter in my head, they go at a slow speed and i need to slow down so welcome reminder for me
Love this video and can so relate to being highly sensitive! Love the Dutch way to relax and renew. I am a 63 year old life coach and still learn amazing things from you. Never thought I was a minimalist but after watching you the last few months, I have tackled my closet and re-did my kitchen with replacing items that were not environmentally safe. Thank you for being the wonderful person you are and sharing so many helpful life tips. I love having less clutter!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah that's wonderful, thank you so much!!!
I’m Dutch so I know niksen, but I didn’t know it was going around on social media. I love niksen and do that already for at least 36 years every Sunday. That is really my pyjama day snuggled up on the sofa with a book.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
How wonderful!!! :)
:) Always learning something new from you. Because my job is so stressful, since 2018 I made it a habit of taking off 3-days every other week to Niksen. Never knew that's what i was doing but I just tell my boss it's to sleep. I do and plan nothing and just be be all by myself :) it's allowed to not expect so much in myself or life.
✌🏼💜🫖 I love sitting down with some tea. I’ve been drinking sencha in the am for less caffeine and it’s so good. Lately others have been asking me to do things every weekend and I can’t do the things I need like yard work let alone things for myself like a bath or sitting on my massager chair so I love this idea of telling others I am keeping my phone on silent during weekends 💚
Great video💕 we must always remember to treat ourselves as though we are our best friends, give Love and patience and validation to ourselves, and not wait for someone else to do that for us. God tells us always who we are and how wonderfully and magnificently made we are, we forget that when we are in the muck of life, you are your best friend, Love yourself like that💕💕🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 praying for anyone who is struggling with stress and sadness or uneasiness, May that be lifted off of you and be healed🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕
I have noticed that food affects my mood and physical well being. I am a teacher and I need to focus on self-care, taking time to cook healthy food and keep time for myself and turning off work after school and on weekends. Thanks for the video!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I notice that too :) Great that you're doing those things for yourself! :)
I enjoyed this video and your timing was perfect! I had a chaotic summer and even broke my foot and needed surgery-so now, I am all about better self care. Many of us have had wake-up calls recently, so self care is very important to practice at this time. I especially liked your point about doing things that help us in the long term. And comfort food is not it-as you mentioned (hot chocolate or sugar…). It’s a great practice to stop and think about these choices of self care, and to be mindful that these practices are positive. Thank you for your thoughtful videos! ❤️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Oh I'm so sorry to hear about your foot! Hope you're healing nicely. :) Sending some good vibes your way! Also, yes comfort food is another great example. Better to make sure our soothing activities are also good for us in the long run :)
Video games + walk + gym + Netflix and chill.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Haha sounds great!! :)
Thank you so much for this. I suffer from anxiety and depression and have bad days. Some days I don’t feel like doing anything but just laying around resting, listening to music and playing on my phone. I’m so glad I am not the only one. Thank you again. I really enjoy your channel. 🙏🏻❤️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Definitely not the only one. I say do whatever you feel is helpful for you :) Take care!
I definitely agree that doing nothing is an important part of self care. Loved this video!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Lisa!! :)
Oh yes. I very much like this format. I don’t feel so alone in my struggles and I appreciate your simple thorough techniques. Very doable and not overwhelming. Best to you and your family member. 🌸
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Audrey, happy to hear you enjoyed the video. Take care, sending you a digital hug!
I am a big empathetic person. I work at a high school kitchen and get to talk and know some of the students during lunch. When they are having a bad day or fought time I try to make them feel better in the short time I have, but then I worry the rest of the day about them. I do that with most people though and it’s tough to do and try to take care of myself and my family. I’m working on trying to balance that but it’s hard to do.
Thank you! You are like a friend to me living in another corner of this world! Much needed vid for me. 🤗
It's so hard to fight hustle culture when money is too much of a problem for you. I just want to relax, but I need to make that money. Congrats to the ones who made it through that point in their lives that money is no longer a huge problem to them. You're the kind of people I strive to be.
@j.m.7056
Жыл бұрын
You will get there! Have faith in yourself.
I definitely relate to #3! It's hard to separate my emotions from others', especially when they're negative. I've been getting better at not taking other people's bad moods personally :)
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Exactly :) Great that you're also getting better at it :)
Currently niksing on my couch! 🙋♀ I watched a Netflix show and now your video. Thanks for your tips Vera, they are always helpful. I did some restorative yoga yesterday evening and slept really well so I feel refreshed, but still not a 100%, so I'm taking it slow today too 🍵
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
So wonderful, yaaay! :)
Really refreshing video. Looking forward to more like this. Thanks for being vulnerable for all of us. Showing imperfection gives me hope for myself.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you Mae! Take care and have a wonderful weekend!
I haven’t heard of niksen but I do think it’s important to just do nothing now and then. Of course, that’s easier said than done, for me at least, as someone who feels like I need to be productive and “useful” at all times. I decided recently that Sunday would be my “day of rest” but things keep coming up. I have pets (2 cats, 2 dogs, 3 chickens) and a kid and a house and things just always seem to be falling apart!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Gretchen! I can relate to that feeling of things oftentimes coming up. It's wonderful to plan a self care day like that, but when our schedule changes because of unexpected things coming up, I find it also helpful to be more flexible and enjoy some time off on other times or days of the week, when suddenly I see a window for some relaxation coming on. Kind of a combination of planning self care, but also being flexible and spontaneous about it
Another wonderful video and tips. Totally relate to having a lot of empathy which for me is so draining.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Lynby :) Hope my tips were also helpful for you in that way
I enjoyed and appreciate your self care tips. Never heard of “Niksen”, however I think I have been practicing and enjoying it intuitively. I have been retired recently and I am simply basking in leisure activity. I am smiling sweetly not thinking about school/college assignment, family/ work responsibilities . All my present activities, physical, social, mental , spiritual, health maintenance are evenly paced and enjoyed.
This is what I needed to hear today. (rewatching and sending love)
Sometimes I feel like the concept of Niksen isn't practiced enough here in the states.... and admittedly, I feel like I fall into that trap myself every now and then of constant busyness, so this video is honestly much needed for me. ❤️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Hope you can have some much deserved niksen time soon Amy, and as much of it as you need :)
I did really enjoy this video! I've never heard of niksen before but I like the word 😁 To me that would involve sitting alone on the little hidden away beach near my cottage or sitting on my deck with a tea listening to the birds.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Wow that sounds like bliss 😍
Just going outside is one of the best things to do when you're feeling sluggish (even when you don't feel like it).
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Going outside can work wonders :)
Didn’t know Niksen was a thing and I truly love it! I also loved how you mentioned emotional boundaries because that’s exactly what I’m working on right now and the « phone off on Sunday » topic wasn’t received well by my friends which was the opportunity to explain my boundaries :)
Great video, Vera. When you said you had "heat wave brain," I just had to share... Our environment has way more to do with our moods than we sometimes realize, as you've pointed out in other videos. Weather is also a huge factor. If we aren't "hot beach babies," the heat is going to drain us. If cold makes us miserable, cold weather will do the same. I live in Florida. Not great for someone who gets really drained by the heat. Recently, I thought I'd try to save a little on the budget by turning the A/C up a couple of degrees, but in a couple of days, I was miserable. I was irritable, tired, and not sleeping well, even though I turned it back down at night. So, I determined that paying a little bigger power bill was worth the comfort and feeling lots better. Now, all that being said, Florida is fabulous during those cold, miserable Winter months "up North"! 😄
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah yes, so true! As we don't have air conditioning here in the Netherlands in most places, and since I'm very sensitive to hot weather, I usually feel pretty miserable in the summertime. Really looking forward to the fall :)
@j.m.7056
Жыл бұрын
I believe money spent on physical comfort in our homes is money well spent!
Thank you for the self-soothing tips. Never occurred to me to have a list of things to do to regulate my emotions. In an emotional time right now, so it came at a critical time. So helpful.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear it :) Hope you can do some of these nice self-soothing techniques in the future :)
“Doing nothing often leads to the very best of something.” - Winnie the Pooh
I heard that Dutch is very organized and everything is planned, including not doing anything. So a planned niksen for weekend sounds very good :D
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Haha yes, I do think we're very organized usually. :)
You are So Thoughtful. Im blessed to have remotely become familiar with you these years.
Another excellent video. I've never heard the term 'niksen ' but I've been doing it for a long time now. I'm really amazed that there's a positive word for it. I work in a hospital kitchen and it's very busy and there's loads of different things to deal with each day, so when I'm finished, I do nothing for an hour or two. It's very energising. On my days off, I sometimes have days where I may not do much at all. I read,listen to music, listen to KZread, rest. I really love it. So 'niksen'- I'm voting YES!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Yay for niksen!! 😄🌼 Awesome that you're already doing it
I loved to know about niksen! Really, mindfulness changed my life. It's not always all the time, but it's amazing to see how I changed. I'm very grateful for that and for have discovered slow living. All that reflections about how we react with the real world and it's stupid and unreal urgencies it's really important. It helps us reflect on ourselfs and our self care.
I've never heard of this before but I thank you for this video. It always reminds me that I'm doing enough and going slow isn't as bad as people make it seem. It's okay to be mindful and calm.
Self-care for me sometimes is putting a noise cancelling headset and listen to ASMR videos when I feel overstimulated by sounds from the outside. Sitting in a hammock to release pressure from my lower back. Also doing some collage journaling is been helping me to release pressure from my head.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
They all sound great! I love ASMR too :) Love the tingles
I like to sit in my hanging chair with my dog on my lap and look at the trees, feel the wind.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Soooo nice!!! Give your doggy a hug from me
First I've heard of niksen! Makes sense. Just heard doctors reccomend 10,000 steps a day. It sounded impossible. Got a step counter. Surprised that I do more than that in a day. When athletes deplete energy, here's a certain amount of time for muscles to uptake stored energy again.
Great reminders, Vera! I haven’t commented in a while, but I’m always here enjoying your wisdom and insight. Thanks again for being you.💚
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw yay, thanks Teresa! I've been wondering how you were :) Hope you're doing well, enjoy your weekend!!
Your videos are so soothing and comforting to me. Thank you for sharing your energy
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Briana 🤗🌼
Thank you so much for sharing about nixa. I struggle with doing this without guilt and you sharing that this is a normal and named concept elsewhere helps me to shift my perspective on it.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome Mari, enjoy some guilt-free niksen time!!! :)
Sounds so much easier than self-awareness. Nixin totally freeze the mind. I would love to have a great meal, like lunch, and slowly walk around somewhere in nature with lots of greenery. My neighborhood is just streets and cement, with hardly any plants anywhere. I so miss nature. I would love sit or lay down on a nice outdoor soft cushion, maybe read and look at pictures in a magazine. Oh that sounds so nice. I love your videos!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Not much nature around here in my neighborhood either I'm afraid. But yes, niksen can be done anywhere :) As an introvert, I usually prefer staying home to just niksen for a while. The mind just needs a break sometimes. Even a break from our usual free-time activities. So nice :) Also, it's been studies that nature sounds and house plants can create similar effects in the body and the brain as actually being in nature. So you could get some plants, put on some nature sounds, and read a book on your own sofa :)
I am going through a hard time right now but your videos calm me down 😅 keep them coming please 😢❤
Thank you so much for sharing about emotional boundaries I needed that. Loved the video
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear you enjoyed the video Wanda :) Take care!
Thank you Vera for the Native code! I wanted to try this brand and just placed an order. Much appreciate your content!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Awesome!! Hope you'll enjoy them as much as I enjoy them :)
Thank you, Vera! 💖 I really enjoy this format a lot. 😊 I especially appreciate the reminder to have boundaries with news intake, as I continue to struggle with my emotions about current world events. It's nice to know I'm not alone in this. You have helped me so much over the past couple years.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Meredith, happy you enjoyed the video! Yes, you're certainly not alone in that, feel free to limit your news intake as much as it takes for you to feel your best. :)
An excellent video filled with wisdom and really practical help. Thank you. (I’m about to redo your excellent course again, so much gratitude from me to you!) ❤
This is one of your best videos. I’m glad you’re finding ways to take care of yourself. You look rested and happy!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so mcuh Debbie! :)
I really enjoy this format. I appreciate your vulnerability, and these tips are very practical and helpful. I love the long-form videos too, but sometimes there are so many suggestions that I don't know where to start. Three tips are the perfect amount!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear it, thank you Anne! I also enjoyed having more time to go in-depth about the three tips, instead of needing to go over every tip quickly. I still need to check the video analytics though, because most of the time, I find videos with a higher pace to have better audience retention. But we'll see :) I think from now on, I'm going to focus more on fewer tips, with better explanations :)
Taking on other people's burden is not going to help anyone- so true Vera! Also 'Niksen' word is new to me
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! And enjoy your niksen time!! :)
Definitely a really helpful and necessary video Vera, so thank you! I've found myself more attached to my phone the past couple of months, partly through work and social media too. I've already tried not to use it early in the morning and late in the evening in the past week, so my screen time is already showing an improvement on less time spent on my phone. I'm trying to use that time for more self care in terms of video games - like animal crossing, reading and just relaxing in my own company. It's really helping me so far to unwind after a busy day and enjoy my weekends more.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that changing how you use your phone is helping you feel better :) So important to be intentional when it comes to our devices :) Take care!
Yes love this format & I hope you are feeling so much better now. 🙏❤️ Wonderful advice & sceneries beautiful 🦋🌳🍀
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Sharon! :) Have a wonderful day
Your videos are so helpful. I connected with the last self care. Boundaries are hard when you are looking after a loved one.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear my videos are helpful for you Rebecca :) Take good care!!
hello, Vera 👋🏻🌻 thanks a bunch for making this video, I just want to greet you from Indonesia ☺🇮🇩 and let you know that I've learnt so much from you.. not only did I learn about Niksen, but also about how to be calmer with my life , since I've been through a lot lately.. I watched your inspiring video before sleep to help me out with my insomnia.
Enjoyed this video so much. First time viewer so have no seen previous format. Good tips. You are genuine and your openness drew me in to watch the entire video.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Michelle and welcome to the channel!! 🤗
Dear Vera, I really appreciate the fact that you open up about what you're going through! Because I can strongly relate to all that and it makes me feel like we're companions on our journey. It is a great support, thank you for sharing your experience and your tips. With love from France, Marianne
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so much Marianne!! :) Take it easy and take care, enjoy some niksen time this week! 🤗💕
I find meditation, journaling and reading help with self-soothing. And as you said, to go thru emotions.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful!! :)
Love, love and love! 🫶🏻
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Yay! :) Thanks Julie!
Love this, Vera! Very self-soothing ❣️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so much Cheryl!! Enjoy your weekend
Loved this video! It actually relates to what I’m working on right now! Thanks 😊
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
So happy to hear that! :)
So glad to watch this, I use all of these, but vary rarely, I should do it more often. I realised sometimes I do put things for self-care in my plan for the day, but then do not do them. Putting them on the list makes me think that I did the thing. And then also feel guilty taking time for myself.. Need to change that. Guilt is strong.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
No need for guilt, enjoy all the self care you need! :) In whatever way, shape or form you need it :)
Yes Vera I do like this new format. I have not heard of that Dutch term but I understand the concept. Just doing what you want that is easy and nourishing. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. ❤️🙌
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Dawn, glad to hear you enjoyed the video!! 🤗🌾
I love this form of video from you, Vera. Your advice is always kind and peaceful. My self care lately has been to back away from people and things that cause me stress. I’m reading more and trying to limit my internet time. I haven’t turned my TV on since May, and I find that I love silence. Who knew ? 🤪 As always, thank you for being so transparent and encouraging toward us HSP when many other people don’t understand. ❤️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah so wonderful!! Thanks for sharing Karen, so happy to hear you're finding value in my videos :) Take care and have a wonderful day!
Your videos are part of my self-care routine. Thanks!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
So happy to hear that, thank you!!!
I was introduced to niksen on your Patreon, and I've been trying to incorporate it into my life and very much enjoying doing so 😀. I love the way you described self soothing and the value of it. It's a shame that it needs to be said really, it should be the most obvious thing in the world for us to do, but it seems most of us rarely do it! Tying together your time just enjoying a Ghibli movie with a recent example of self soothing of my own, I recently found myself giving a hug to a Totoro plushie that I have (the only stuffed animal I possess since decluttering the others) and as strange as it might sound, it was rather lovely and rather soothing. Clearly my inner-child appreciated that bit of comfort 😊.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah yes, love it!!! There's something very soothing about Totoro hihi :)
Self soothing is huge. The way you explained mindfulness sounds a lot like the DARE anxiety stuff. Never heard of Niksen but I'm all for it.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, happy you enjoyed the concepts in this video! :) I don't know a lot about the DARE method, only a little bit, but I do see comparisons with mindfulness
I LOVE your channel and you`re so authentic as well.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! :)
I have been niksening for years but had no name for it and sometimes I have felt guilty. Thank you, Vera for giving me validation! I find that I niksen to relieve stress sometimes and sometimes I use it to refresh myself when tired.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Awesome!! Enjoy some lovely niksen time! 🤗
Yes this was very timely and helpful.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
So glad to hear it!! :) Thanks Fiona
Very helpful video 🙏 Struggling right now, so it's great to get some "support" and tips ❤️ Your voice is always very gentle, and your channel is the only one I've found on KZread, that I can listen to, when I'm really stressed / triggered. Thank you 🌈 Greetings from Denmark
Thanks as always
Hello Vera. Greatings from Brazil. I'm learning more and more abouy self care and this video helped me a lot. Thank you so much for help us in this journey.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
🤗💕🌼
I’ve never stopped nothingning since I was a teenager, never felt guilty about it 😂. I love your simple and easy self soothing tips, I will definitely incorporate a few minutes of soft stretching everyday. I have a crazy stressful job, but I work from home so it will be easy to add to my day. Thanks Vera! And to answer the question from your last video, I started following you a few months before you upgraded your channel 😊
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear you enjoyed the self soothing tips, and that you're making time for doing nothing! :)
Thank you so much for these reminders. I, too, am highly emotionally sensitive and can struggle at times with keeping my much needed boundaries, to live healthier. I love the bonus info in your videos too about Dutch culture. Some of my great grandparents (and before) were from the Netherlands (I'm in the USA) and I love to learn about my ancestor's culture. I am at my most relaxed when having "niksen" time too - if I can, I literally do almost nothing - just drink some tea and stare out the window at the trees etc. (it usually puts me to sleep though - guess I needed the nap).
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful example of niksen time!! :) Also, so cool that you have Dutch ancestors!
@Celeste-new49
Жыл бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen Thanks!
I really enjoyed this video! I find the self care tips to be very practical and hugely important. I also learned something new - 'Niksen'. I usually feel pressured to be productive all the time and guilty when I am not, maybe now I'll feel less pressured and guilty. Thank you Vera! ❤️I do hope you are feeling better😊
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for your kind comment! So happy the tips in this video were helpful for you, niksen especially 😄🌷 Enjoy your guilt-free niksen time!
Such a lovely video! Yes, I resonated with this video and this format. Happy to meet fellow sensitives who are happy to nicksen! 🌿
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, happy you enjoyed the video!! :) Take care and have a great day
I tend to get most everything done during the week, including housework and exercise. Never heard of 'Niksen' but I do that at least one day out of the weekend in order to restore myself. Thanks for sharing this.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful, happy to hear it!! :)
Broke my leg, I’ll be in this position for 3 months.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah so sorry to hear that, wishing you a speedy recovery! 🌷
This beyond great! Thank you!!!!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so much! :)
You are always so inspiring. happy to find about the niksen concept. thanks. and take it easy... sending love
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Caroline, hope you can enjoy some niksen time soon! :)
love this video format!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Kiki, happy to hear it! :)
Thanks for this video. If Im honnest I love these videos where you talk about your experience.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear it :) Thank you Doris, have a nice day!
I've read a book about niksen and found it very sympathic. Thank you for reminding me to practise niksen. I When i look around i (in my community) always get the message to do and do and doch.thanks a lot for your inspiration
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah so cool! Do you remember the title of the book?
@mariane7899
Жыл бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen It is from Anette Lavrijsen, the title is german: Niksen, wie man Glück im Nichtstun findet = How to find luck in Niksen
Very useful and good tips, Vera. Thank you 🪴
I really enjoyed this. We all love someone who is relatable.❤️
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much! :)
Hi Vera....this video was eye opening!!!!!! Thank you so very much!!!!!!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear it, thank you Diane!! :) Enjoy your day
This came at a perfect time because I'm in a difficult family situation and I have a mild cold, so it was comforting to listen to self-care. I like "self-care doesn't have to be expensive". Niksen may become the next hygge. English doesn't have a word for intentionally doing nothing. People might say "do nothing", "veg", or "chill", but these can have negative connotations or different meanings. Niksen isn't known here, but hygge has been in articles for a few years. P.S. Stoopwafel are becoming more common since the first Dutch import I saw this year. I've seen a couple other kinds now. I still find them too sweet. I normally eat waffles with butter and syrup, but not as sweet as this. But I've heard other Americans say they love them.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Ah funny that stroopwafels are becoming more common over there!! They are quite sweet, that's true. But still very yummy haha. Also, so sorry to hear you're not feeling great. Sending some healing vibes your way!
I have never heard of Niksen. Very helpful concept.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear it :)
Thanks for sharing. Love this
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear it! :)
I always love your video,s you make me feel as if i am normal. I hope all works out well with your relative, just be kind to yourself is very wise, if a friend was in those shoes thats what we would say to them. Take care and rest well.
Yes more of these!
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Stephanie! :) Glad to hear it
Hi Vera, thanks for an open, deep dive. This video was awesome. Very accessible and an empathy bridge. Great reminders that we try our best. We learn a lot and try again. Lots of effort and Niksen (no effort) are also good. Like you said. Doing nothing with no objective, timeframe, deadline or standard of evaluation is liberating. I'm very sorry to hear about the family issues. Wishing you, your family member and whole family peace and compassion through the journey, pain, joy, lessons etc. Namaste.
@SimpleHappyZen
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words Dave!! I really appreciate it :) Take care and have an awesome weekend
@davedeal9152
Жыл бұрын
@@SimpleHappyZen arigatou, sochi mo!
This is so interesting to me. I grew up Amish, and always spoke 'Pennsylvania Dutch'. The term we use for 'nothing' is 'nix' [or niks] 😄