Searching For My Son: I Had To Give My Child Away | Lost and Found | Only Human

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From: Lost and Found S1 E3
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  • @pascalswager9100
    @pascalswager91009 ай бұрын

    My Dad was adopted in Sydney in 1954. His birth Family rejected him again when he found them over 20 years ago, he put on a brave face but I know it hurt him 😔 thank God for My Nanna Meree (Dads adoptive Mum) she was an amazing woman and he always knew he was loved and wanted thanks to her 😊

  • @alanalycan3986

    @alanalycan3986

    3 ай бұрын

    Bless nana Meree 🥰🎀💝🙏

  • @marz736

    @marz736

    3 ай бұрын

    I am so sorry that happened to him. Thank God he has a loving family.

  • @user-cy4vw1qj9m

    @user-cy4vw1qj9m

    3 ай бұрын

    Very hurtful.

  • @laurieroman1528

    @laurieroman1528

    3 ай бұрын

    Sorry to hear of his rejection, thankfully, his adoption was the best thing, those others aren't worthy, their loss💕

  • @monikaracak6813

    @monikaracak6813

    3 ай бұрын

    That had to be so gut wrenching. How dare they not have the balls to stand to him in his search as a then adult. That's just wrong. Even if they didn't want anything to do with him from them on they could've at least met and let him know his background story. Grateful he had supportive Nanna Meree!!

  • @carolr7962
    @carolr7962 Жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful adoptive family and well adjusted child. They raised Martin well.

  • @annieb9627
    @annieb962715 күн бұрын

    Martin's parents are absolutely wonderful. They gave their son a wonderful upbringing and gave his birth mother the peace she needed.

  • @kingstonstreet3726
    @kingstonstreet3726 Жыл бұрын

    I started crying after seeing his adopted mom being so gracious sharing photos of him as child

  • @REALcatmom

    @REALcatmom

    Ай бұрын

    What a wonderful woman she is! Sharing the son she loves with his birth mum. ❤️❤️

  • @kellysnider5138
    @kellysnider5138 Жыл бұрын

    Martin's parents are wonderful human beings

  • @ajj9694
    @ajj9694 Жыл бұрын

    The kindness of the adoptive mother!!!!

  • @loridean.5986
    @loridean.59862 ай бұрын

    What a kind and loving woman his adopted mother is, she just reached out and welcomed his mother w open arms.

  • @laurenbendik2006
    @laurenbendik20065 ай бұрын

    Martin is handsome. It’s amazing how easily this investigator found him, or at least made it look easy.

  • @laurenbendik2006

    @laurenbendik2006

    5 ай бұрын

    I wonder if his birth father would like to meet him….probably doesnt even know he exists.

  • @JOHANNA-qd6iz

    @JOHANNA-qd6iz

    3 ай бұрын

    @@laurenbendik2006 His mother knows nothing about him as it was a one nightstand.

  • @yvesvolupte8486
    @yvesvolupte8486 Жыл бұрын

    I couldnt hold my tears and at the same time with a big smile on my face watching Martin hug his mum!❤💕🙏😍

  • @melanielatham5665

    @melanielatham5665

    2 ай бұрын

    Me too x

  • @Emy53
    @Emy532 жыл бұрын

    Martin is very handsome, and fortune to have so many around him that love him. Many blessings.

  • @floaretudorache9287
    @floaretudorache9287Ай бұрын

    Wow that is remarkable for Ann to find out her son was loved and raised well He is very handsome he looks like his mom

  • @eedwards4603
    @eedwards46032 ай бұрын

    Martin's parents are truly angels on earth.❤😇

  • @michelleanderson8663
    @michelleanderson8663 Жыл бұрын

    I LOVE this show. With so much heartache in the world, this show is uplifting and so heart warming. Thank you, to all of the wonderful people who are willing to share their stories. ✨💖✨

  • @harrietbaker4484
    @harrietbaker44842 ай бұрын

    I found my mom when I was 21...the best moment of my life!

  • @mariiaaa6667

    @mariiaaa6667

    Ай бұрын

    Good bless you. Sometimes young mums didn't have any choice. We live in a world that it's crazy. I am so glad you found your mum and you accepted her ❤❤❤

  • @marilynvallance
    @marilynvallance Жыл бұрын

    What a lovely adoptive Mum and Dad Martin has.

  • @terwandersingh3605
    @terwandersingh3605Ай бұрын

    Missing out the growth of a loved one is the biggest punishment a parent can have..

  • @Emy53
    @Emy532 жыл бұрын

    He paid child support for a child he never was allowed to be a part of his life. What an injustice to both these wonderful souls.

  • @yukiefromoz2573

    @yukiefromoz2573

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right. Like being told well you own this house but you're not allowed to see it or live in it, or collect rent, but you gotta pay the taxes for it.

  • @inekawalker2449

    @inekawalker2449

    Жыл бұрын

    I just saw this part! I am so angry and sad for Amber and Glen.

  • @kathrynwitte3398

    @kathrynwitte3398

    Жыл бұрын

    In the US, child support is totally separate from custody or visitation because it has been used for too long as leverage/punishment of the custodial parent. However, custody and visitation cannot be denied to the non-custodial parent unless there is a provable reason/history of criminality or abuse. Even mental illness is not a disqualifier to visitation though if it is severe, visits may need to be in a monitored place. One parent moving out of state can also be disallowed by judges, even if the primary custodian is a professional or has an occupational or familial reason to want to leave. Be careful with whom you have children.

  • @LORGSW6
    @LORGSW62 ай бұрын

    How grateful I am for these Beautiful hearted people that helped finding the lost loved ones!

  • @jeanettedias64
    @jeanettedias647 ай бұрын

    Praying that ill find my son too. Was so overwhelmed. Bless d adopted parents for taking such good care if him. God Bless d mother n son fir d reunion n d adopted parents too. Jesus loves u guys. Stay blessed

  • @cherylbrooks7005
    @cherylbrooks7005Ай бұрын

    I dont know why i watch these shows they make me choke up every time! ❤

  • @lornadenisevalverde3580
    @lornadenisevalverde35802 ай бұрын

    He so handsome. Definitely his mom...

  • @audreymcleod4076
    @audreymcleod40768 ай бұрын

    It was so respectful including Martins adoptive parents, I always feel they get pushed to the side when the biological mother come into the picture. Ambers dad said , " I knew i would find her one day", I hate to break it to you, but you never found her , she found you.

  • @dennysmith7862

    @dennysmith7862

    2 ай бұрын

    They found EACH OTHER... acquire some manners and respect dammit!!!

  • @Ariesmonique
    @Ariesmonique Жыл бұрын

    No child than also no child support. That kind of "mother" has to learn how to treat the father of their child. Children has the right to know their father.

  • @shannonobrien9922

    @shannonobrien9922

    3 ай бұрын

    Try this: my parents loved my sister more THAN they loved me. What you wanted to say is "No child THEN no child support"

  • @gabe_2544
    @gabe_25443 ай бұрын

    With the last father daughter reunion, contact has “gradually diminished” - something didn’t go well afterwards. I wonder if he wanted to move in with them, wanted money or something. I remember one episode of an elderly father looking for his daughter and it ended up where she and her aunt, his sister, ended up having to tell him to leave them alone.

  • @gdiana8357

    @gdiana8357

    3 ай бұрын

    wondering too but didnt think he did something wrong

  • @aimiloo

    @aimiloo

    3 ай бұрын

    Link to the video?

  • @EllaBella-76

    @EllaBella-76

    2 ай бұрын

    @gabe_2544 •Indeed same thing only my son was ten I had tried keep in contact with updates to his Father unanswered..We lived together 2 Years and he decided 💡we should have a child ultimately I was Naïve I thought that ,if you live with someone all that time they meet your Family and Friends (He is Sri Lankan ?An Attorney)I feel like a dodged not A bullet but a bomb 💣 a ticking one he made contact when I stopped my son was 2 years 6 Months..Having only asked for cards ?I have no regrets about it,they met at ten years old .It was not easy and not smooth sailing the opposite

  • @Emy53
    @Emy532 жыл бұрын

    I know how much I love my parents, but I was not adopted. I can't imagine what Martin feels, but I can bet that his adopted parents have nothing to fear because Martin loves them both as his mother and fathet. They are his parents. His love will grow for his biological mother in time, but she's a stranger to him.

  • @elainecolon27
    @elainecolon273 ай бұрын

    He said his daughter look like him and he is right.

  • @alexandria62753
    @alexandria627532 ай бұрын

    What a loving adoptive parents he got…. and he surely is a very kind sensible man…. Very lucky Anne❤️

  • @leoniea138
    @leoniea1382 ай бұрын

    Ann a nice lady . Glad she found her son.

  • @Ifugaoinparis
    @Ifugaoinparis3 ай бұрын

    I hope for families to stay in touch once they found their birth families. It hurts to know that after them finding one another then the connection vanished 😢😢😢😢

  • @gailathomas5218
    @gailathomas5218Ай бұрын

    What wonderful adoptive parents! They were so generous and welcoming. Many may have been threatened by the birth mother seeking her son and desiring a relationship.

  • @jennyevans8160
    @jennyevans81602 ай бұрын

    Oh my gosh I can so relate, so happy for u all. This is like my life story me being Martin ❤️❤️

  • @KarleneE
    @KarleneEАй бұрын

    I haven't seen this whole thing yet, but I really want to be able to reach through the screen to hug Ann. Her heart is so broken. I can only wish her peace, acceptance, and love, for the rest of her days!

  • @LAVirgo67
    @LAVirgo67 Жыл бұрын

    I wonder if Martin Hall's biological father knows that he even exists? Wouldn't that be a surprise for him.

  • @JOHANNA-qd6iz

    @JOHANNA-qd6iz

    3 ай бұрын

    His mother had a one nightstand she knows nothing about him to even try to start looking.

  • @m.r.6222

    @m.r.6222

    2 ай бұрын

    DNA testing is the only way to find his father.

  • @jennypalmer331
    @jennypalmer3314 ай бұрын

    Amazing stories with beautiful endings

  • @virg0_lem0nade
    @virg0_lem0nade Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for putting up the full episodes!!!!

  • @sinavereivalu6744
    @sinavereivalu6744 Жыл бұрын

    Oh God it makes me so emotionallllwith the sweden guy and mom

  • @Pink_143_6
    @Pink_143_62 ай бұрын

    Please use the word relinquished not the phrase, “ given away”. We as adoptees are not objects but people. 🌷 God bless these people. Finding our identity completes us in order for us to feel an innate belonging in such a big world 🌷

  • @angiealberts7251
    @angiealberts72512 ай бұрын

    Stories like this are heartbreaking for me, I tried for years to find my mother's child she gave up for adoption, mom never got a reunion like this. Maybe someday I will still find her.

  • @musikbox1983

    @musikbox1983

    2 ай бұрын

    If you haven't already, take an Ancestry DNA test as well as one from 23 and me. Those are the most popular commercial DNA tests. If your sibling ever takes one of those, you'll find them (if they're receptive.)

  • @sarasullivan2027

    @sarasullivan2027

    2 ай бұрын

    I was adopted and found my sister through 23andMe. I had previously looked for them but they never stopped trying. I missed meeting my mom about a year after she passed and my dad had already passed. I now have 7 siblings and am a great aunt at the age of 39 😂 Don’t give up!

  • @intodaysepisode...
    @intodaysepisode...7 ай бұрын

    This episode is what LIFE is about!!❤

  • @havenly6133
    @havenly6133Ай бұрын

    Im addicted to this show and I absolutely love seeing kids being reunited with their parents. The host of this show gets to travel all over the world which is pretty amazing in itself. It would be very awkward tho meeting someone after 30 years and one thing Id be wondering is why didnt you look for me sooner. I do know sometimes money or life in general can play a hige role in why someone wouldnt look sooner but id still be wondering

  • @patriciapingitore756
    @patriciapingitore756 Жыл бұрын

    Happy to see the Fathers being acknowledge, it's always mother and child.

  • @lindamon5101

    @lindamon5101

    Жыл бұрын

    Bcz alotta guys ditch out. Da.

  • @thaddeusbanerjee3862
    @thaddeusbanerjee3862 Жыл бұрын

    God Bless you and your family with true love and obedience

  • @jessenabablit2934
    @jessenabablit2934Ай бұрын

    made me cry again, Philippines❤

  • @penelopecarstairs
    @penelopecarstairs2 ай бұрын

    Bless you for what you do.

  • @user-qc9on7qb6i
    @user-qc9on7qb6i2 ай бұрын

    Am from Kenya and am crying with strangers in Australia 🦘😅

  • @ravenbaa7989
    @ravenbaa798910 ай бұрын

    Why did contact with Wayne diminish

  • @amsbestunderstanding1646
    @amsbestunderstanding1646Ай бұрын

    Beautiful!

  • @Emy53
    @Emy532 жыл бұрын

    This mother did what she felt she had to do.

  • @drogerdarren4697
    @drogerdarren4697Ай бұрын

    Very touching n awesome effort

  • @harrietbaker4484
    @harrietbaker4484Ай бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @Really2025
    @Really20252 ай бұрын

    Find your way home Babyboy.

  • @Kementiri
    @Kementiri2 жыл бұрын

    Great episode and brought tears to my eyes. On the offchance does anyone know what song is playing at 33:20? Thanks :)

  • @kmccarthy3760
    @kmccarthy37602 ай бұрын

    It breaks my heart to see stuff like his taken place bless this dog to good care 🙏 Thankyou

  • @dennysmith7862
    @dennysmith78622 ай бұрын

    What a Heart-rendering story... What a terrible time this poor lady went through... Hope she learns to forgive herself firstly... She cld've aborted the precious life... Bravely carried on... Godspeed to her... And fine son... He looks SO much like her too... What a cute chubby little guy he was as a child... Adopting parents were adorably lovely...

  • @enough345
    @enough345Ай бұрын

    All I kept thinking was his mum looks like Jamie Leigh Curtis.

  • @donnafletcher5386
    @donnafletcher53862 ай бұрын

    See what a blessing it is to put a child up for adoption instead of abort your baby. She now has two grandchildren and a daughter-in-law along with his parents. If you're pregnant consider an open adoption so you can pick the parents to know who your child is going to. Love a child is better than taking it's life. If she would have taken his life as a unborn baby those two grandchildren would not be here either.

  • @bekeleendalew6317
    @bekeleendalew631726 күн бұрын

    I am wondering how you happened to choose this amazingly and blissfully professional adventure

  • @catherinemoreau3419
    @catherinemoreau34192 ай бұрын

    How wonderful of you to have given that child his life! So wonderful. You are an angel. I really really am against abortion now not for severe severe cases but for all these girls that are just using it as a birth control system. I praise you praise you I appreciate you brought that child to the world how wonderful thank you

  • @user-tj4cy9vn3c
    @user-tj4cy9vn3c9 ай бұрын

    Love the show

  • @yvonnelacomber1241
    @yvonnelacomber1241Ай бұрын

    Bless you x x

  • @pluffshangazi8487
    @pluffshangazi84873 ай бұрын

    why did Nicky stop contacting/ seeing her dad after seeing him, gosh!!!!

  • @Emy53
    @Emy532 жыл бұрын

    She didn't abort her baby, and I hope her son understands her decision, and wants to meet his mother.

  • @angelinasouren
    @angelinasouren3 ай бұрын

    Abandoning your child is one of the hardest things to do and it's a testament as to how much is wrong with society that there can be circumstances that force you to do that. Do you ever recover from something like that?

  • @cplmpcocptcl6306

    @cplmpcocptcl6306

    3 ай бұрын

    Giving a child up for adoption is as far from abandoning them as you can get. (Granted, it does happen sometimes.) I can’t fathom anything harder. I have so much respect for Moms that have the strength to place their baby up for adoption. I am not that strong or selfless. As a Mom to 3 bio, 1 bonus, I am eternally grateful to my bonus babes bio mom.

  • @angelinasouren

    @angelinasouren

    3 ай бұрын

    @@cplmpcocptcl6306 okay, let's call it "having to let go of your child". I meant "abandoning " fairly literally.

  • @helend80d.64
    @helend80d.6426 күн бұрын

    He looks like his mother a lot!❤

  • @user-ju4fi3gg1i
    @user-ju4fi3gg1i3 ай бұрын

    I'm crying too much

  • @dianet2702
    @dianet27023 ай бұрын

    Amber is interested in the Maori culture bcs it is what she is , deep down to the genes . We all are built by everything our ancestors were before us.We carry inside ,just about everything from our history. Family Constellations is explaining how things work and should be. It is also a valid healing method that has helped countless people worldwide.

  • @jelayun8139
    @jelayun81392 жыл бұрын

    Mother's love ❤

  • @lovingmayberry307

    @lovingmayberry307

    2 жыл бұрын

    Just as beautiful as a Father's love. ❤

  • @k_j_n1242

    @k_j_n1242

    Жыл бұрын

    @@lovingmayberry307 💯

  • @jessenabablit2934
    @jessenabablit2934Ай бұрын

    emotional❤

  • @jhonspointofview2263
    @jhonspointofview22632 ай бұрын

    My tears keep falling while watching...every character in the video makes such a great inspiration for bravery of facing life's reality,and they all showed love,compassion,and gratitude. Thank you for sharing us,quite touching and inspiring💝

  • @monikajones6062

    @monikajones6062

    2 ай бұрын

    @jhonspointofview2263😢 I'm currently experiencing the same thing as I'm an emotional person. It's heartwarming to hear some of these stories and that they do accept each other back into their lives and it all works out but the others are heartbreaking when things don't work out 😞

  • @kamalroy4359
    @kamalroy43593 ай бұрын

    God bless David

  • @mariiaaa6667
    @mariiaaa6667Ай бұрын

    omg i cried so much

  • @mariebelle3493
    @mariebelle34932 ай бұрын

    Beautiful!! DNA science is a beautiful thing ❤ very thankful for genealogy

  • @familyiseverything1617
    @familyiseverything1617 Жыл бұрын

    I wish I was in New Zealand

  • @Tammissa
    @Tammissa2 жыл бұрын

    Ignored her? He doesn’t know his story, don’t put a label on a man before knowing the full story.

  • @Emy53

    @Emy53

    2 жыл бұрын

    Exactly, what if this man doesn't know he even had a child...

  • @lisabarnes4653

    @lisabarnes4653

    2 жыл бұрын

    That wording bothered me too….

  • @nedhenery6816
    @nedhenery68163 ай бұрын

    David Lomas can you help me find my biological mother, I like to know if I have siblings also. My dad took me when I was still an infant

  • @user-hf7zm2sm3v

    @user-hf7zm2sm3v

    Ай бұрын

    Where u from

  • @donnafletcher5386
    @donnafletcher53862 ай бұрын

    ❤ it that it works out!

  • @carolcole570
    @carolcole570Ай бұрын

    What I find so ……different from the way that I would be…..is that…..if it were me that had been FOUND, I would have immediately been RUNNING towards them ! Certainly not standing there stoically ….watching the person walk towards me. Or really, no matter what end I was in this…..my immediate response, once knowing I was willing to BE met…..was to RUN towards them. However, in each of these videos I have watched, there is always this very slow walk from the seeker and a stoic standing still of the sought after. My mind, heart, and emotions just do NOT compute with ANY of them. ANY of them.

  • @roja7426
    @roja74262 ай бұрын

    The biological mom looks like Jamie Lee Curtis.

  • @lenafonvig6608
    @lenafonvig6608Ай бұрын

    Unforgettelbel

  • @ubiquity069
    @ubiquity069 Жыл бұрын

    Another adoption from the baby factory known as Crown Street Women's Hospital.

  • @micklostheman1723
    @micklostheman172310 күн бұрын

    Its not about being ignored its about knowing where your roots come from whether you get a great reception or you dont ive been there its not easy

  • @familyiseverything1617
    @familyiseverything1617 Жыл бұрын

    Wow

  • @SweetMakeupSerena
    @SweetMakeupSerena2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️

  • @marmel4086

    @marmel4086

    2 жыл бұрын

    💙💙💙💙💙

  • @shannonobrien9922
    @shannonobrien99223 ай бұрын

    Tell the truth....who else is crying???

  • @halukkiran
    @halukkiranАй бұрын

    I cry more then Martin😥

  • @simyalater
    @simyalater2 жыл бұрын

    anyone know the song playing at 18:15?

  • @Daisy021
    @Daisy0212 ай бұрын

    Children are suffering the consequences of the irresponsibility of their mothers! It’s a shame!

  • @user-tl4mf9ce2q
    @user-tl4mf9ce2q25 күн бұрын

    Amber walks like her father.

  • @cecile5780
    @cecile57802 ай бұрын

    All I see is beautiful souls reuniting 🥹

  • @mahmamaa
    @mahmamaaАй бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @albaemagana
    @albaemagana4 ай бұрын

    Sorry but Amber's mom is gross. I can't believe she keept her daughter from meeting her father. He actually wanted her in his life. He missed out on seeing her grow. This is selfish & gross 😢

  • @melanielatham5665
    @melanielatham56652 ай бұрын

    Phew 🥺😢

  • @karenreeve3912
    @karenreeve39122 жыл бұрын

    Give these people a tissue

  • @justchooks289
    @justchooks289 Жыл бұрын

    The music on the soundtrack is so inappropriate. It's jarring and doesn't fit with the sensitive subject.

  • @user-yw7mr9xm5f
    @user-yw7mr9xm5fАй бұрын

    18:11 what's the name of the song?

  • @karenreid9476
    @karenreid94763 ай бұрын

    I was taken from crown st womens hospital .sydney... baby theives.

  • @anonfornow359

    @anonfornow359

    2 ай бұрын

    Goodness. Im so sorry

  • @KS-se9jb
    @KS-se9jb3 ай бұрын

    Im not crying... YoURe crying 😭

  • @carolcole570
    @carolcole570Ай бұрын

    What kind of agency does a person contact as detectives ? Ballpark, how much does it cost to have a full fledged search ? My guess is that a person would need to be rather wealthy to have a full fledged search that could spread over continents.

  • @margaretbrennan9624
    @margaretbrennan96243 ай бұрын

    👍❤️😇🙏

  • @jadoo868
    @jadoo868Ай бұрын

    You’re crying, no you’re.