You've heard abou the gaydar. Now get ready for the... compACE :3

@mach1nefan

3 жыл бұрын

YES I LOVE THIS SO MUCH

@DavidJBradley

3 жыл бұрын

Shit, that's good.

@Zeturic

3 жыл бұрын

I love it. That's amazing.

@zacharypegg790

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy about this and I'm totally stealing it

@ConradTwigs

3 жыл бұрын

This is amazing and I am using this in the future.

Aphobia is so wired. Like, bro why are you mad that I’m not getting laid tf?

@KatKitty_

3 жыл бұрын

And then usually when someone (usually a vag having person) gets laid, they call them a sluut

@yaapeasah4443

3 жыл бұрын

@@KatKitty_ but when you have a vag and are asexual you get called a prude or nun! 😔😔😔 You just can't win period

@Deg40000

3 жыл бұрын

Some people are just way too obsessed with sex. It makes me uncomfortable and confused when people do that.

@stealthbonus

3 жыл бұрын

@@yaapeasah4443 actually I was jokingly told that I would be sent to a convent when I was a preteen. It sounds hurtful just in text, but in context it was actually really funny.

@stitchedkitten8547

3 жыл бұрын

Right? Like this aint ya issue but out. But its also kinda funny it try and hear them out when your in the right head space fir it

A guy once told me that I *can't* be ace because I'm "conventionally attractive". He genuinely expected me to be flattered by that. Wild.

@projectpitchfork860

3 жыл бұрын

Did he really believe that or was he just desperate for a realtionshio?

@ser9guhe9f0gue2

3 жыл бұрын

LOL

@FiSH-iSH

3 жыл бұрын

in what weird world does that actually work on an ace

@worstusernameintheworld9871

3 жыл бұрын

he's probably salty he can't get the "good looking person" because they're ace, they deserved that for acting that way tbh

@mommygottaglock70

3 жыл бұрын

That dude is probably mad you don't wanna get him laid. Don't know why. But there probably why

Aphobia is literally hilarious “I am angry that you don’t want to have sex, not only just with me, but with anyone 😡😡😡”

@badlie4858

2 жыл бұрын

true, i never understood that. i guess people just need a reason to be salty, any reason, that's all.

@katherineavery4611

Жыл бұрын

I also love the "you're too ugly to have sex with anyway" argument.... I'm like "good.... go away"

@Emkito

Жыл бұрын

@@katherineavery4611 if men say im ugly then im doing something right LOL

@Average_Drone

Жыл бұрын

HOW DARE YOU, PARTICIPATE IN HANKY PANKY IMMEDIATELY!!11!

@JewelWildmoon

Жыл бұрын

The best answer for them is "You shouldn't be this offended over no gender wanting to give you their fluid."

Aphobes: you're shortening human population Me: yeah you should thank me for that

@LilyCelebiFlipnote

Жыл бұрын

Ikr? Isn't the whole idea of their biological defense thing... that asexuality is helping them in the sex/dating market??

@beatblocksgaming

Жыл бұрын

Literally, we’ve got so many problems, having more people will only make things worse and adoption exists, easy as that (not quite but better than having children out of obligation)

@Fayesnotthatcool4398

Жыл бұрын

Adoption still exists and we should be happy people aren’t just aging out and actually getting adopted and being able to live a “normal” childhood

@weirdo8453

Жыл бұрын

We are already 8 billions

@Chaos_kitsune

Жыл бұрын

If IM screwing up the population then how about YOU go screw someone for me. Start by leaving to go screw yourself.

I once saw someone say "allos and aces are not real" Dude so angry he invalidated literally everyone

@hiagain1463

3 жыл бұрын

He probably meant aros but that sentence is so funny. Like "ya know what? no one is valid"

@slavishentity6705

3 жыл бұрын

@@hiagain1463 That would be the happy ending

@hotsuope

3 жыл бұрын

WTF LMAOOO

@crazylizze98

3 жыл бұрын

Only demis are real🤣

@molecularalien

3 жыл бұрын

Only aros and people on the a-spectrums exist lmao (unless they have the ace/allo override, in which case their being ace or allo cancels their existence)

Bis, Pans, Aces, and Aros: bonding over the fact that they are opressed even in their own community.

@real3576

3 жыл бұрын

i'm late but hey, dont forget trans people, nonbinary people, people who use neopronouns and,,, oh wow..it's sad :( (i do agree w you tho, i'm not trynna take the attention from bis pans aces or aros (i'm personally aroace :))

@alinagolovach7125

3 жыл бұрын

@@real3576 whats a neopronoun?

@alinagolovach7125

3 жыл бұрын

@@real3576 aroace buddy :D

@shahshajsijee

3 жыл бұрын

me, an asexual panromantic: *muffled screaming*

@AresMercuryDamien

3 жыл бұрын

@@alinagolovach7125 neopronouns are pronouns that are different from he/she/they, ranging from xe, ze, fae, ae, ey, e, a, ve, co, hu, thon, to it, one, nounself pronouns, pronounless and emojiself pronouns (only used in online communications).

You know we're in a fucked up society when _not_ wanting to have sex is somehow controversial.

@joshuanorman2

Жыл бұрын

"different = bad" has unfortunately been a thing as long as humans have :(

@dr.cheeze5382

Жыл бұрын

​@@joshuanorman2 It's fascinating (read: horrifying) how much tribalism is responsible for basically every societal issue.

@Kingofthenet2

11 ай бұрын

Dammed if you do dammed you don’t at this point 😭😭😭

@superbat6965

11 ай бұрын

In the words of Bo Burnham, "Welcome to the internet, come and take a seat."

@AmazingAutist

8 ай бұрын

It's because of puritanical values I think. Because celibacy is good but only if you're suffering. You have to want sex, but actively not have it. If you have no desire for sex, then you're not suffering.

Declare a vow of celibacy no one bats an eye. Declare asexuality and suddenly everyone loses their minds.

@stephaniethebatter7975

Жыл бұрын

Maybe asexual people should declare a vow of celibacy because they'd rather be celibate anyways so... /lh

@D0MiN0ChAn

Жыл бұрын

I feel like that might be due to celibacy being somehow regarded akin to a martyrdom. Along the lines of " omg, you're so brave for doing something like this, I could never!" If that makes sense. whereas if you simply don't feel the need or want to do sth, you're somehow peculiar for that. Similar to how often I have to explain myself as a German for not drinking alcohol of any kind. It's *that* out of the norm for many people which is kinda scary if you think too long about it.

@ironmoondarkwing4190

11 ай бұрын

@@D0MiN0ChAn A fellow German not-drinking buddy! And here I thought I was weird for not seeing the appeal of alcohol.

@leahcooper5831

11 ай бұрын

If you're not desperately white-knuckling it, it's not noble repression and it doesn't count.

@GhostCryProductions

9 ай бұрын

@@leahcooper5831 Don’t be a gatekeeper.

I honestly don’t understand aphobia. If it’s known that sex without love exists, then why can’t people accept that love without sex exists?

@loverrlee

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I don’t understand it?

@a-disaster5285

3 жыл бұрын

I remember that the end of the joke is "And then there's [the person being addressed], with nothing." so maybe that's why?

@Laura-zc6rm

3 жыл бұрын

@@slevinchannel7589 hey no offense but what does this comment mean? Can you explain yourself again if you dont mind?

@ahleenah

2 жыл бұрын

Because people are inherently horny and can’t imagine someone not being (as) horny. And because not having sex has always been associated with not being successful. Somehow everything is about getting laid, people even pay for that, maybe even feel guilty for having the urge. Idk At the end, anything that diverges from the status quo is “weird” and “invalid” and has to be the result of some kind of defect to make sense. Because we’re all unique but aren’t allowed to be different; are only allowed to be unique inside a uniform mold

@user-fw1wd2gb1w

2 жыл бұрын

That is why asexuals should only love other asexuals. That way no one gets hurt.

As a young ace person, I desperately needed to hear an adult person who thinks exactly the way I do about the validity of my identity. Thank you :)

@paksgarrion3252

3 жыл бұрын

You are totally valid as a young ace person and if that changes or not, or you discover more about yourself, that is valid too. You are one of us and we are happy to have you in our community.

@pjuliangrey

3 жыл бұрын

Paks Garrion Thank you so much, that’s very encouraging!

@Maru-et6of

3 жыл бұрын

Friendly reminder that you're not pretending, you're not broken and you are a very much valid :)

@tiredpeaches

3 жыл бұрын

I’m also a young ace and I just wanna say that you are never to young to be ace

@pjuliangrey

3 жыл бұрын

Tired Peach absolutely. ace is the label that works for us right now, and that’s just the same as anyone else identifying that way. 🤍🖤💜

"Sex is the expression of love" i sure hope this guy doesn't have any pets

@bkCheezburgor

2 жыл бұрын

ඞwhen the aphobe is susඞ

@Homodemon

2 жыл бұрын

Or kids for that matter...

@ZeldaWayne_Letsplays

Жыл бұрын

Or siblings

@VantaDraws

Жыл бұрын

Or parents

@ZeldaWayne_Letsplays

Жыл бұрын

@@VantaDraws Or cousins

My cousin told me "how do you know you don't want to have sex unless you try it?" so I told him "how do you know know it hurts to stick your hand in a fire if you've never done it before?"

@Sean20245

Жыл бұрын

Smart💁🏾‍♂️

@ritaerror7829

Жыл бұрын

Actually most kids unconciously (or at least don't remember it for later) try to stick their hands like...everywhere. So at some point they probably did, and brain got like "nah, hot=burned=bad". So actually not the best example... It's more like not getting through the demo. Porno and attractive people are everywhere, the same way they might "choose" what kinks/sexuality they have before geting to it, the same way other can choose that they aren't interested

@RheaRoyHunter

Жыл бұрын

@@ritaerror7829 I work with kids. I know they try to stick the hands and fingers everywhere, it's how they learn about the world around them. My cousin is 17 and can be an ignorant twat.

@jownadel1526

Жыл бұрын

Actually (if you do it right) you can stick your hands into fire without getting hurt and I've done it before

@AbsurdistLemon

11 ай бұрын

You could also have asked him (if he's straight): "How do you know you're straight if you've never had ṣẹx with a guy?"

“People both straight and normal” is my favourite new thing ever 😂

@spectralumbra1568

3 жыл бұрын

I did a bit of a double-take when he said that, thinking I had misheard it.

@JustWinglessSeraph

3 жыл бұрын

I was literally about to say this lol. I heard that and i was like "Huh?... OH! Oh my gosh yes!"

@druid_zephyrus

3 жыл бұрын

I need not add anything beyond what the three of you have said, lmao. All true.

@michaelroditis1952

3 жыл бұрын

It is funny but a bit offending to heterosexual and it isnt smart because he is responding to hate messages for his sexual orientation.

@thgritic102

3 жыл бұрын

It needs to be on a shirts, mugs, bags, etc.

Here’s a story of me coming out to my mom: “I’m biromantic asexual with a preference for women” “No” Not even joking literally what she said. I sent her a very helpful video on asexuality after that and she understands now but I still find that hilarious

@jessicab831

Жыл бұрын

At least it was a uniquely hilarious experience compared to most others. Lol

@robo1513

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad she's excepting now but that's so funny XD. I mean you wouldn't say that about other things "I like the colour blue" "no"

@HornAndHaloWrestling

Жыл бұрын

​@@robo1513 "I like Pizza" "No"

@CheezyBois998

Жыл бұрын

I’m gonna just make joke “Hey mom, I’m lesbia-“ “ *N o* “

@FlagBoi

Жыл бұрын

@@CheezyBois998 Two PFP

If a relationship is only worth it because of sex to some people, then that doesn't seem like a healthy relationship to me 🤷‍♀️

@IgnisPeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Agree

@kinkisharyocoasters

Жыл бұрын

The subject of many sitcoms

@morpheuslaughing

9 ай бұрын

Thats like 75% of relationships out here today. If the sex went away there would be nothing

One time, I was arguing with someone about gender, then out of nowhere, he just said, “asexual isn’t a real gender” and I just thought… “well… yeah…”

@Tiny_Koi

3 жыл бұрын

I- ??

@venturoushope2846

3 жыл бұрын

It wasn’t a gender to begin with what 😭

@CaptainFishEye

Жыл бұрын

lmao bruh!

@nickronca1562

Жыл бұрын

You should have said "Yes, and neither are homosexual, bisexual, or heterosexual real genders either. Sexual orientations aren't genders. I thought this was obvious. What's your point?" I would have loved to see the look on his face if you said that. He probably wouldn't even know how to respond to such a roast.

@justanotheranimeprofilepic

Жыл бұрын

Well I can't be angry at him. He's right

Seeing an ace model makes me think what it would be like in an ace world. I'd imagine being able to walk down the street wearing very revealing clothing without being harassed, cat called, ect. You know, just imagine wearing what you like without being sexualized

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

It honestly scares me that people will sexualized you even if you are Asexual.

@dvffYT

3 жыл бұрын

wow... let us wish 😌

@sistersamich2075

3 жыл бұрын

That sounds amazing

@mims3013

3 жыл бұрын

that would be my dream world

@marsh799

3 жыл бұрын

That would be great

Ace hate is so confusing. They don’t do anything. it’s like hating people who dislike bread. Like who cares? Who could this even theoretically hurt?

@americanliberal09

Жыл бұрын

You know what's even worse? Now there are plenty of people who'll despise you for disliking politics. I mean like seriously. I didn't even expect people to get butthurt over people for disliking politics. 😳

@StardustCorvid

Жыл бұрын

It's like picking on the guy just reading a book over by the fire. What did they do? Just blind hatred of anyone different

@CyberBlastoise

Жыл бұрын

​@@americanliberal09because those that are apolitical are people who benefit from the status quo as is. They are privileged people who don't understand the things that others go through.

@americanliberal09

Жыл бұрын

@@CyberBlastoise 🤔But you do even realize that they're not really a monolithic group that you can easily pin down, right? And, besides. Nobody gains any advantage for being non-political, because it doesn't provide you anything. That's it.

@CyberBlastoise

Жыл бұрын

@@americanliberal09 the only people who are apolitical are people who can afford to be, aka people who benefit from the status quo. Y'all might not be a monolith but that doesn't mean there aren't commonalities. Also I never implied that you get benefits from being apolitical. I said y'all get benefits and that lets you be apolitical. Big difference.

Growing up in the '50s and '60s, with no access to anything even approaching the internet, I was taught by my family and by society that my place in life was to get married, be a good little housewife, have 3 well-behaved children, and satisfy my husband's every need, especially sexually. When I reached high school, my mother started asking me when I was going to start dating. After all, my younger sister had at least 2 or 3 boyfriends at any given time. One night, after my mother had been on the phone for a while, she came into my room to inform me that I had a date to go skating on Saturday night. The date was a disaster. The guy was a freak and a homicidal weirdo. I continued to date him, at least nominally, just to keep my mother off my back. When I stopped seeing him, my sister felt sorry for me and "gave" me one of her boyfriends. He became my partner in the first of my 3 failed marriages. I always felt like a square peg in a round hole, but I didn't know why. I did have a child with my 3rd husband, and they also never felt like they fit. They had the advantage of the internet, though, and, through it found they were asexual (and one of the founding members of AVEN. As she was telling me all about what she had learned, I realized she was describing me. No wonder I had never been happy trying to live up to what and who I was "supposed to be." i'm 70 now, and I finally feel like myself.

@moistmarader5595

Жыл бұрын

It always makes me so happy when I see the older generation discover and embrace parts of their identity the same way i did thanks to the internet/youtube ! It's a neat little connection.

@gslTM

9 ай бұрын

You are an inspiration to all of us asexuals. Thank you for being yourself. ⬛🟪🟩⬜

@ishaalimtiaz6715

3 ай бұрын

Aaaw I’m so glad you found your place in the world! It’s a shame your journey had to be so long and arduous and it took you so long to find support. I guess we all have to try harder to change society. I’m teaching my little brother to be a kind human being so that he doesn’t discriminate against anyone!

@monoduck

Ай бұрын

Aw well I'm glad you finally figured out who you finally were :]

I'm asexual, I got me a brain tumor, and I'm really not looking forward to having people assume the latter explains the former. Thanks, House.

@BeastGuardian

3 жыл бұрын

I know, right? I've gotten the 'you're not really ace, you're just sick' thing explained to me entirely too often.... especially when I'm the cell and molecular biologist who has the better understanding of the impact of an execratory tumor on libido reduction... guess what, it doesn't affect one's sexual or romantic attraction. Asexuality is not a medical condition any more than any other sexuality.

@anthonynorman7545

3 жыл бұрын

Oh shit that sucks!

@DakotaFiles

3 жыл бұрын

@@anthonynorman7545 I appreciate the sentiment! Luckily nobody has said anything like that yet, my brain tumour is minor, and I love being ace, so it aint all bad ;)

@anthonynorman7545

3 жыл бұрын

@@DakotaFiles good luck

@huntera.4623

3 жыл бұрын

I get this often (in a similar manner) because I am aro and a victim of abuse. So... most people like to point out that it is probably a fear due to my trauma lmao.

Ace phobes confuse me like they're mad about people who don't want to have sex

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

They're just jelly. XD

@lyviaspillekort6180

3 жыл бұрын

They probably are so pressed about it because they are scared to find attractive asexual people that would never want to have sex with them (as being acephobe is not enough of a reason to not be attracted to them, in any way possible, even just for friendship)

@catbatrat1760

3 жыл бұрын

Same reason people are mad about a bunch of strangers being gay: They're different, and people don't like different, even if it's none of their business.

@Its_Asteria

3 жыл бұрын

They're just mad about LGBTQ+ in general

@orangejuice9102

3 жыл бұрын

-Sounds like sexual harrasment to me-

Ain’t no way people are hating on asexual people just because they aren’t into sex what sad human beings

@DamianGarza-de7uq

Жыл бұрын

Fr

@personofearth447

Жыл бұрын

They just can’t accept that Some people are diffrent.

@deepfriedpaper

Жыл бұрын

yoooo just realized that vflower's color palette is similar to the ace flag

@moodswings4642

Жыл бұрын

@@deepfriedpaper Holy shi- it is

@lord_voldemorts_sex_slave

Жыл бұрын

VFLOWER VFLOWER VFLOWER

I got told I'm selfish for being Ace by a 15 year old boy. I was disgusted wow 😀

@IgnisPeaks

2 жыл бұрын

That makes absolutely no sense lmao, how is someone selfish by being an ace? I don't understand some people, like seriously.

@Fett-Haskesin

2 жыл бұрын

@@IgnisPeaks this is a wild guess but I'm gonna assume he probably means I'm selfish as in not giving my virginity to someone

@IgnisPeaks

2 жыл бұрын

@@Fett-Haskesin Well that's just dumb people can find other people. But he probably meant it like you said.

@junkoenoshima2756

2 жыл бұрын

"Omg you won't fuck me nooooo" I think that's what they mean

@inihilisme1511

Жыл бұрын

@@IgnisPeaks he is an r/niceguy, thar's why

so, is atheist a useless label since it is based around the lack of belief in a god or gods? in a world where most people are religious it is important to have a label/community for the non-religious. same with sexuality

@anthonynorman7545

3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly, but I'm an atheist lol

@nixxdra

3 жыл бұрын

@Ruben Colon No it’s not, they just explained why. Mind explaining yourself?

@QuikVidGuy

3 жыл бұрын

@Ruben Colon so, on one side we have the use of the word being demonstrated, on the other side we have "it's useless" so it's decided

@claireaquos6532

3 жыл бұрын

SO AGREE! (I do not belive in gods or any religion... Thought I do belive there's something outside the physicle world, just not something like a god expecting us to act a certain way) I also find out pretty recently that I was asexual and demi panromantic

@Call-me-Al

3 жыл бұрын

@Ruben Colon I live in a country that is de facto majority atheist (2016: 18% self-report as atheist and 55% as non-religious). I still find it a useful label. Because I do talk with a lot of people from other countries.

Asexual Person: Hey I don’t want to have sex, maybe ever. People: _Impossible_

@toaster7423

3 жыл бұрын

Religious people simultaneously: A B S T I N E N C E

@archerx68

3 жыл бұрын

Celebrate celebrity

@jacinthlilly3148

3 жыл бұрын

Anime: Baka a na

@kitzeproductions7154

3 жыл бұрын

I seriously don't understand why that is so hard to believe.

@TheKarret

3 жыл бұрын

@@jacinthlilly3148 lmao that's exactly what I thought! X'DD

I didn't understand I was asexual till I was 23. I grew up in a very conservative religious, large family, and I was always told that having a child and having sex were the goal, what we are supposed to strive for. I was told my whole life by my mother and grandparents how they couldn't wait for me to have kids, how I would make a amazing father (mostly because I raised myself for the most part and did some babysitting for my family and their friends). I played the part of a straight person for so long, going through many relationships, many ending because they didn't understand that I wasn't always "in the mood". I had a girlfriend when I was 18 who was very sexual, like the kind that tries to do stuff in public, we were dating because we both really liked anime (I was kinda stupid with that relationship and ignored so many red flags and just tried my best to be what I thought was a good boyfriend, which ended up being a doormat), Anyway, I ended up saying no so many times that she got really agitated and through a bit of anger and even a threat saying if I didn't give in she would claim I raped her... (that broke me) I ended up giving in, because its extremely rare for a man to have their word taken in those cases as I had seen time and time again. I found out shortly after that, that she had been cheating on me for months, she was caught in a threesome behind a gymnasium, after that I spent YEARS hating myself for not understanding why things had happened, thinking I was broken because I couldn't feel what everybody around me felt. When I was 23 I watched a D&D game called Critical Role (im a huge D&D nerd for going on 7 years now), in campaign 2 there is a character named Caduceus, and he is Asexual and Aromantic. When I saw his character in that show it hit me, I started looking up what Asexual meant and learned that what I had been feeling for most of my life, while not exactly common, was normal. Representation matters, it really does, and since there is so little of it for Asexual people, I went my whole life up until then feeling broken. When people say things like "oh this is just a phase, you wernt asexual until recently" or similar things, it breaks my heart a little, knowing that way of thinking will only breed more stories like mine. There needs to be more recognition for asexual people and more good representation.

@marmarlittlechick

Жыл бұрын

Well, said. Thanks

@iamshigeo

Жыл бұрын

Well said, im sorry you were coerced into something you clearly didn’t want to do but it’s clear that you’ve managed well and have grown from this. Great message, I’m 21 and I’m only just understanding how I’ve felt my entire life and bringing it up to people who don’t understand is extremely invalidating. Ace/asexual representation is definitely necessary, and I could only hope it gets better for a younger generation.

@spaghetto9836

Жыл бұрын

So she actually ended up assaulting you, while threatening that she'd lie about you doing it to her. Psycho behavior. I'm so sorry, man. I'm trying to make up for lack of ace representation by scouring out characters in media that fit the bill for me. From John 117 to Elsa to Jesus 😂. And characters who are canonically ace, like Hiro from Big Hero 6, the original Jughead, or Data from Star Trek. The most annoying media trope for me is when most of our rep comes from non-human things (robots, aliens, spirits...), that are shown as less human for their lack of that one specific type of love, usually needing to change as part of their arc.

@_Minos

Жыл бұрын

Omg, Sorry that happened to you. A little advice, when you have to deal with annoying people always press audio recording on your phone 😅, just in case something like "if you dont do that, I will tell that" happens again.

@KumaChrisVT

Жыл бұрын

@@_Minos Im much more careful now about who I let into my life, most of my relatives arnt in my life in any meaningful way now so I don't gotta deal with them. In terms of Dating, outside of Long Distance relationships I have remained single, since finding partners when your openly Asexual is difficult as is. I don't think the idea of recording everything is a good idea, mostly because if you are close enough to the person, you would never assume they are about to fuck you over, like the girl did to me. If I know a person is not trustworthy, im not going to be alone with them at any given time when we arnt in public.

When people say "you haven't found the right person" I really want to see "so you're saying I'm demisexual?" As a response.

I love how some people are like "how do you not feel sexual attraction, that's impossible!" meanwhile I'm thinking about how come sexual attraction is real and whether people are just exaggerating things or not. I swear If we lived in a society where asexual people were in the majority, that's how allophobia (just go with it) would look like, it'd be claiming that allosexual people are just exaggerating their likings and that sexual attraction isn't real lol

@Mel-qr5ob

3 жыл бұрын

In highschool I literally thought they were all pretending... and then I realised I was the only one pretending.

@yunagamerz7336

3 жыл бұрын

I know right! In High School I was watching a movie with my friends and there was a scenewbere the characters started making out. I made a 'bleh' noie thinking that's what everyone thought, then looked around because it wasn't getting skipped. They were invested. I was so freaked out, I made up an excuse and left immediately.

@emexdizzy

3 жыл бұрын

I cannot even fathom seeing someone else and thinking "I would enjoy banging that person". Never happened. Ever. It's an informed thing to me, like enjoying sports. I don't get it, this is boring, I'm bored, but since all of you keep showing up, you must be enjoying it, and I believe you know your experiences better than I do, and thus I take you at your word that sports make you happy.

@GloomyFish

3 жыл бұрын

Literally this! Even now I find it hard to understand that sexual attraction is a thing and I have to remind myself that not everyone is asexual lmao

@Dragonbleps

3 жыл бұрын

Same! I always thought people were exaggerating for some reason, and growing up with shows where sex was always such a huge talking point in relationships (not explicitly, but always joked/hinted at slyly bc censors) confused me. Why did it matter so much??? I'm 27 and only recently realized that Sexual Frustration is a real, actual thing that Allos struggle with and when a friend explained it to me, I thought "Dude that sucks, that sounds literally awful. I can't relate though". It's like if people were Sims, and for Allo people, Sex is one of the Needs bars, whereas for Ace people (or, at least Me), that's not the case. When Allos Need bar for Sex gets lower they start feeling frustrated and upset.

I'm asexual and aromantic. I'm also a 33 year old female, so I've gotten to the age where well-meaning women feel they have the right to comment on my life. A woman in her thirties who isn't partnered up seems to be fair game for all sorts of advice from friends, family members, coworkers, and strangers. People are very concerned these days with my biological clock, and the fact that as I age, I'm apparently becoming less desirable to potential partners. I find all of it very insulting. I was 12 when I decided I never wanted to marry or have biological children, and absolutely nothing has changed my mind in the past 21 years.

@rilla5058

3 жыл бұрын

I'm quite young, I haven't come out because I already know my parents wouldn't be happy, but even online people tell me I can't really know because I'm too young, so honestly thank you. It's good to know that there are other people out there who knew who they were at a young age. I feel more valid

@KyubiChan95

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 26 and my mom has been telling me to freeze my eggs....She says that I'm going to be too old to have any kids soon. I've told her I don't want to have kids my whole life. It's not even like my sister hasn't already given her three grandsons.

@melTiceTiger

3 жыл бұрын

@@rilla5058 I've known since I was 8 that I didn't want children. I suspected I was bi since I was a teen. But I've fought with my asexuality my whole life, because everyone everywhere says sex is so important. I've gone to doctors, I've tried different hormones, I've had all the tests in the world, I've been to therapy. I'm 32 now, and it's time to face the fact. I'm not broken, and I never was. And neither are you. You know you better than anyone else can possibly know you.

@snipercow861

3 жыл бұрын

KC if anyone ever says your to young to know your sexuality say u where never to young to know your straight

@stephaniecourteoreille5972

3 жыл бұрын

@@rilla5058 bruh- people who use your age as a weapon against you can go jump into icy water- it's pretty much equal to saying: your *10* YOu can't possibly understand PerSOnAliTy's

I was on ace meme video and I commented “asexual here, can confirm”, to which somebody replied “disgusting” and i just straight up said “no, i’m asexual”

@gameypiettvgamergames7463

11 ай бұрын

I assume People sometimes struggle to understand asexuality not because it's about not being attracted to anyone, but mostly because they don't know what the term means. The reason people might find it puzzling is that they think it's similar to other parts of the LGBT community. They might confuse it with being gay or being transgender. For instance, it's kind of strange when someone reacts with "ew" instead of assuming you'll find a future partner. I wouldn't consider assuming you'll find a future partner as them being hurtful, because they usually don't mean it in a harmful way. It's more like an annoying comment, and in some ways, it can feel a bit insulting. However, it's generally not intended to be mean. This is something that you might hear often from different people, and it's one of those everyday things you'll come across. It's something you might need to get used to addressing calmly. I'm not saying that your feelings about it aren't valid, but it's something you'll likely hear from various people. Learning how to handle these situations calmly is important. Reacting angrily might come across as odd, so it's a good idea to find a balanced way to respond.

@ishaalimtiaz6715

28 күн бұрын

To people like that I respond "Yeah I know you are but what am I?"

They always say we are "useless"... What are we? Tools?! 🤣

@republicanmapping589

Жыл бұрын

that's so mean- your value isn't inherent to your sex drive 😭😭😭

@Akab

Жыл бұрын

@@republicanmapping589 exactly.

@kittyfangz5262

Жыл бұрын

it’s an extension of seeing people as only ‘necessary’ inasmuch as they are useful for the ruling class

@gslTM

9 ай бұрын

No but I like the Tool band

@gustavesoucy-breton6841

8 ай бұрын

from an ACTUAL useless person: you guys are not useless.

I started going by asexual when I was 14. At the time, while I wouldn’t say I was sex repulsed, I was very uncomfortable with the idea of ever having sex and didn’t think it was ever something I would want. However, because of the way our society is, I didn’t know not having sex was a choice I even had. I had a genuine fear that one day I’d have to have sex, regardless if I liked or wanted it. Stuff like this is why I hate when people act like being ace doesn’t impact a persons life. True, in someways we are an invisible orientation, but in a world where sex is such a huge deal, and asexuality is rarely talked about, of course there’s a huge god damn impact on a person when they find themselves not wanting what everyone seems to think they should

@nessa-parmentier

3 жыл бұрын

I agree so much I didn't go by asexual until last year (i was 19) when I learnt that the word exists, but i knew deeeply that I wasn't interested in it since I was, what, 9 or 10 ? I remember when I was 11 and the biology teacher explained how reproducing works (meaning of course, sex). For context, i had a year in advance + was born in november so most of the kids in the class were 13, they seemed to enjoy it or at the very least not care, while I was sooooo disgusted, to the point I started crying in the class. The teacher took it nicely and changed how he explained it just for me, I still to this day don't know if he just thought i was too young for this or if he guessed I could be asexual (because it wouldn't surprise me if he acknowledged it as a thing, he's a wonderful guy). But that was the first real indication for me that the other kids started to think very differently from me, and this class reminded me that it is a thing people do, most people in fact, while I just wanted to shrug off its existence like I always did. And i still do to this day, do your thing if you want, people, but please don't involve me or force it onto me, i'm not bothering you about your thing so why would you bother me for me not wanting it ? (I didn't want this to get this long but heck, i'm almost never talking about it irl so i'm getting it off my shoulders online, sorry ^^')

@katekelly794

3 жыл бұрын

I discovered I was ace recently! I’ve never dated anybody but if I do i know I don’t want sex to be apart of the relationship which is definitely not what most people like. I’ve decided because of that I would rather just have friends instead and I’ve never been a very affectionate person anyway but I enjoy having friends with similar interests as me. I do worry I will end up alone in the later years of my life but who knows. It feels like a lonely road but I would rather be comfortable by myself than uncomfortable in a relationship that is forced.

@TheSapphireLeo

3 жыл бұрын

Same and also didn't have a "label", then, for it, but my perception of those around me, disgusted me, then, AF, and was put off, even more?

@ballisticbee6001

3 жыл бұрын

Fr though, I’m biro/ace and lived in a pretty conservative place most of my childhood. I thought something was genuinely wrong with me when my friends brought up crushes. Just to not confuse them, and confuse childhood me, I just sorta chose a guy at random that I talked too (maybe a mixture of conservative people and being young but... I didn’t even know what gay meant until my family and I moved elsewhere. FYI my Uncle’s gay.)

@---xs8oz

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not ace but I for some reason relate to you guys - a lot. Anyways here's a story how I almost came out as asexual: I've known that I'm bi since I was 12 - but at 13 I got over my crush and suddenly found everything to do with attraction stupid and useless. (I guess I just was extremely sexrepulsive that time) - people joking that I had a crush on guys I was just hanging out with, or talking with pissed me off - and one day I had enough and came out during class. I was showing three visiting guys around the school and this girl from the other class was like ”Oooh, she's in a hunt for a man”.13 yo me wanted to scream that I was asexual as to say not everyone is obsessed with making out, or instantly having a romance with people they've just met. (Is it even a normal thing to do at that age???) - BUT I forgot the word for asexual, and only had ”bi” on my toungue, so I said ”look, I don't feel like that I like anyone but I think I'm bi and not straight” so why is everyone making it a big deal only when I hang out with guys? Straight is not the default??? It could be that I'm somewhere between allo and demi bc I feel alianated from this mentality of sex being the pillar of relationships. And it annoys me that people claim that ace people aren't oppressed- hell I'm a horny lil bisexual and even I feel pressured by people that assume I like all the basic sexual stuff that ”everyone likes” 💗💜💙🤝🖤🤍💜

My mom: You said you were Trans but now you're Asexual and Panromantic, how is that possible? Me: Mum, Transgender is my changing of my pronouns , Asexual is my sexual attraction to nothing, Panromantic is my romantic attraction to anyone not based on their gender. My mom: Oh, sorry sweetie! I hope you aren't upset, I was a little confused. I love my mother, she is trying her best to support me

@jedithekitten8891

3 жыл бұрын

Aww that’s so wholesome :)

@ArcticFoxGoddess

3 жыл бұрын

You had me in the first half not gonna lie

@petscopkid

3 жыл бұрын

Ey a fellow Asexual Panromantic

@dvffYT

3 жыл бұрын

That is so sweet

@whytho8856

3 жыл бұрын

omggg that's so cute and wholesome what the heck

"You can find people both straight and normal" Killed me

About aphobia being widespread, my parent is pretty accepting of LGBTQ+ stuff, if a little confused. And yet she told me that I'm "too young to know I'm asexual". I know this isn't the worst aphobia ever, but it shows that aphobia is everywhere. Sex as a positive/normal thing is so deeply ingrained into our society that I'm not even allowed to acknowledge my own lack of it until I'm old enough.

@MeriaDuck

Жыл бұрын

Thing with biological parents is that they almost by definition are cis het. So that makes understanding of not wanting to have sex a bit more likely. And quite a few parents dream of being grant parents for some reason 😂.

@gameypiettvgamergames7463

11 ай бұрын

Your parents aren't telling you to ignore or hide certain aspects of who you are. It's more about them not being sure because, well, your parents aren't all-knowing super-beings. They've been through situations when they were growing up where they didn't experience sexual attraction until they were older. Plus, they've seen this happen to others in movies and shows too. That's why they might think that you might not feel it until you're older. They're not saying you can't accept or talk about it. They just believe that things might shift as you get older, because sometimes that really does happen.

@foxpro3002

3 ай бұрын

That's what my mum said, it's why I haven't come out yet because I know she'll never believe me.

Straight: The door swings one way Gay: The door swings the other way Bi: the door swings both ways Pan: it is a revolving door Demi sexual:The doors locked, One person has a key Asexual: The door is actually a wall

@Letcharlieplay2545

3 жыл бұрын

I disagree with you on the bi, the ace, and the demi ones. Bi people =/= only 2 genders, it's more defined as liking 2 or more genders, so it would be that the bi door swings multiple ways, but not always all ways. Ace is better suited for the 'locked door' metaphor, because it's not like ace ppl can't have sex or don't like it, they just don't desire it. A good metaphor would be that ace is "A locked door, but it depends on the door if the lock has a key." Demi ppl are similar to ace in that we don't experience sexual attraction, at least not without a close bond with the person, which normally take some time. A metaphor fro that could be "A locked door, but the key suddenly appears after becoming familiar with it."

@veqv

3 жыл бұрын

Asexual: Who needs doors when there isn't even a wall?

@dangaspar3242

3 жыл бұрын

Nerf: It's nerf or nothing!

@shockingfish

3 жыл бұрын

Most asexuals are straight (all be it without sexual desire/interest) - the door is still there you just don't use it. If you are Aro/Asex then it would be the wall

@nyancat2221

3 жыл бұрын

So then what’s omni? Is it the vacuum of space?

The comments about childless people being a waste of space makes me wonder... what about cishet people who are infertile?

@Pendrake

3 жыл бұрын

They usually get a pass because "at least they're trying." It is very weird.

@bluegirl278

3 жыл бұрын

@Voidboxave Yeah but then they get shamed for being “broken” or failing as human for not being able to reproduce. The world is so screwed smh

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

I guess am a waste of space for not wanting kids.

@Trollestiatumblur

3 жыл бұрын

I’m Intersex and can’t have kids so I suppose I’m a waste of space 😂

@user-leavemealone

3 жыл бұрын

They probably left to sniff their brats' scatty diapers after leaving the hate comments.

When I was a student my classmates asked me "what is my type of Boy or Girl?" I answer them "Well I have absolutely no type of Boy or Girl" And they tell me that "I'm weird a girl" all because I had NO type of Boy or Girl. Today I'm 21 and I've never been attracted to others. I started to feel misunderstood by others because my family and my friends told me : "Maybe you haven't met the right person yet." “Don't worry will come one day or another." "It's because you don't go out enough" "Maybe you'll meet someone and fall in love when you start working" "But Sophie being in a relationship is very important and too good" "You don't know what you're missing" These boring words over and over and over and over and over.

@grenade8572

Жыл бұрын

I feel it... the sadest rving, I believed until now (almost 33yo) that the right guy will come and I'll fell in love and feel attracted by him. I just learned about asexuality a few time ago and just identified as ace. I still don't want to identify as aro, but... pretty sure I am.

@robo1513

Жыл бұрын

it kinda makes me sad for the people who say those things. Is the only joy in those kind of people's lives sex?

I had a lady get mad at me once because apparently she had problems with getting pregnant and I wasn't interested in doing the thing that gets you pregnant and she took that personally for some reason.

"Pff, everybody likes football, you only say you don't to get attention." "You just haven't found the right team, yet." "Hey, I could show you what a real footballer is. Wanna touch my ball?"

@RiveroftheWither

3 жыл бұрын

@Slevin Channel Don't like your own comment, especially when you are ignoring the conversation op wants to have in favor of something entirely off topic no one wants to discuss with you due to your inherent rudeness. If a group of people are talking about cute dogs and you walk in the middle of it and try to immediately change the topic to yesterday's Saturday Night live episode, do you genuinely think anyone would want to engage with you in a positive fashion? Do you think anyone wants to have a conversation with someone who ignores and interrupts what other people are talking about to push a rehearsaled agenda that makes them feel smart. We are people looking to have actual engagements here, not a captive puppet audience you can use for an ego boost.

@joshuaharrington3951

3 жыл бұрын

No I don’t want to touch your ball or any other part of you

@platinum_noelle

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao fr 🤣

@comradekenobi6908

2 жыл бұрын

“I could teach you the way of the STEEL ball.”

@Amphitera

2 жыл бұрын

I don't like ANY sport that involves a ball. No idea how a grown person can find something as lame and childish as that interesting^^

Im not asexual/aromantic myself, but it hurts me to see that so many people hate on ace people :(. can't we just respect eachother?

@bob-uv3ls

3 жыл бұрын

Fr I don't even make fun of straight people, even tho the LGBTQ+ community actively makes fun of them. I just want to to respect everyone and to be respected by everyone. It's really not that hard to get along

@itsokitsnotyoufoult8850

3 жыл бұрын

A-moderfucking-greed

@sistersamich2075

3 жыл бұрын

I wish. My ace self really does.

@bahareslami3646

3 жыл бұрын

You are a pure soul for wanting that and I love you. I wish everyone had the same mind-set as you.

@practicalgamer4991

3 жыл бұрын

we can’t ;)

imagine being so down bad you refute the existence of people who aren’t down bad.

It took me almost 40 years to figure out that I wasn't deeply, fundamentally broken; I was just ace. It was a MASSIVE relief.

Why do people have that much of a problem with asexual people? It's not your business, allosexual or asexual

@tayloradams3993

3 жыл бұрын

"You're different?!? HOW DARE YOU!"

@stuartmacleod7466

3 жыл бұрын

It because we are happy being Ower sife and they not

@gillyrae

3 жыл бұрын

It's the aphobia. Bigotry doesn't have logic

@lukasnovella9001

3 жыл бұрын

Your mad that I’m not doing things? Bro get a life smh. A phobia is just- stupid

@Montgomeryyy

3 жыл бұрын

because they can't deal with rejection

I'm glad my gym class is supportive "Oh hey what is your sexuality?" "Ace" "Oh cool- she's ace too" points to girl Girl turns around "Ace buddie?" " Y E "

@TheCatgirl

3 жыл бұрын

wholesome

@MicaVonSchilf

3 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful class ^^ I remember only having straight girls that always asked if I was lesbian and maybe a few other straight girls that were ok. Took a few years to find two wonderful friends that are still in contact with me. One is a homosexial feminine guy and the other is a pansexual trans guy, I'm so proud to have helped my trans friend find his identity. Ok I'm talking to much and get of the course here. Have a good day, stay safe and love yourself :3

@snybies

3 жыл бұрын

I am happy for your experience with telling people your sexuality.

@cheeto.burrito

3 жыл бұрын

@@slavishentity6705 Middle/high school kids ask that stuff all the time

@a-wild-goose

3 жыл бұрын

Aw, that’s really cool! I wish it had gone like that for me. One of my classmates asked if I’m straight and I said no, then they were like “so ur gay?” and I said something along the lines of “Not really- I’m ace- asexual.” I explained a bit more when I noticed they were confused and they responded with “So you’ll just be alone forever? That’s sad.” and left me alone with my thoughts. It doesn’t bother me so much anymore, though.

Oh man.. The amount of people (especially men) who get mad at me when i say i'm asexual..aromatic🤣and even the LGBTQ community being rude to us ace or bi people. 😶

@grenade8572

Жыл бұрын

A few month ago, I replied on a comment, saying that I was too childless and celibate, and that I was perfectly fine without sex. Everything was fine, but then THAT guy came. Basically, he said that, as I did nothing with my butt, someone should take control over it and make me please a man and breed. Scary. I'll never come out in real life. 😢

@Average_Drone

Жыл бұрын

People saying “oh so your demisexual? Your just normal you only want to do people you care about I guess” Aha yeah not like years of trauma cause me to not be able to participate in such until finally after dating my partner for three years I was able to even consider him in that way without feeling dizzy and nauseous. Yes! Because demisexuals don’t exist we are not real. I get this from our own community and those outside. It’s horrendous.

@SproutiusShrubiusthe16th

Жыл бұрын

@@grenade8572 I can sense the creep vibes through the screen 😶

@gslTM

9 ай бұрын

​@@grenade8572It's horrible what the Internet allows people to say. But you can come out right here.

@gustavesoucy-breton6841

8 ай бұрын

sorry for being a guy

The fact that people get so pressed about someone just not wanting to have sex is confusing as Hell

@I_Am_Kosh

Жыл бұрын

I believe it's about not feeling sexual or/and romantic attraction, and not directly related to the desire to have sex...

@lankthedank6931

Жыл бұрын

@@I_Am_KoshThe Asexual umbrella is a bit deeper than that. Some Asexuals may have occasional heat, but at the same time think the idea of actually having sex to be gross. Kind of like eating disorders in a way. Other asexuals are open to romance, just not wishing for sex.

I have a boyfriend. I'm ace, he's not. I'm not sexually attracted to him, but he is sexually attracted to. Our relationship works because he knows I don't want sex and he respects that. We're still intimate, but in a different way

@crazylizze98

3 жыл бұрын

@Faith Fontes I got really lucky. I'm still amazed he still wanted to date me knowing I'm ace

@fennaknaepen3037

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for you

@seineevee

3 жыл бұрын

That’s amazing! Best of luck to you and your partner, and I think it’s cool of him for respecting you.

@crazylizze98

3 жыл бұрын

@@seineevee thank you so much

@--j7852

3 жыл бұрын

Nice! i hope u both have a great day :D!

I love the "You say you're ace because you're sad you can't get laid" bits. Some of us didn't figure out we were ace till AFTER we started having sex. Not even bad or traumatizing sex. Physically good, just with no attraction involved. It happens, y'all!

@RiveroftheWither

3 жыл бұрын

As an ace woman who has not had sex, I can say for certain that it was entirely my own choice and not from others lack of interest lol

@loverrlee

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. It’s like being mad at someone for not liking pizza or some other popular food. Like, it’s okay but… I can take it or leave it? I’m not gonna go crazy fighting someone just to get some… (honestly I love pizza this was just an example)

@toothless3835

3 жыл бұрын

yeah that comment also confused me, I mean I've listened to some gay content creators who said they pretended or felt like they needed to like the opposite sex and didn't realize oh wait, that's not what I like until they were older in high school or college. So.... It makes sense that someone who is ace would also try to make themselves feel something they're told they're supposed to. I did, and I'm demi. Been told it's weird to not have any interest in talking about, watching, or touching myself because "Everyone does [watches porn, masterbates, thinks of sleeping with people], you do too." No, I don't. But okay. My boyfriend, yes, I share a bond with him on an emotional level, but before that bond was formed, I didn't. I need that connection. without it, you're just some stranger and your successes or failures will have no impact on my empathy for you.

@Kimi_143

2 жыл бұрын

Feels like watching a nature documentary in first-person lol

@lauralee9983

2 жыл бұрын

I wish that was accurate, maybe I could leave my home with cat calls then

When I was in my teens, I avoided s because I was afraid of pregenency. I my 20's it was AIDS/STDs. Lost my virginity in my 30's, did not feel anything. Tried it with a woman, same thing. Blamed my lack of a s-drive on depression, religous background, or lack of men who I found attractive. Now I know, I'm an ACE!

One time someone told me that nobody would want to **EHEM** me if I kept saying I was asexual- I just replied with “YES!!” and ran away.

Aphobes: sex isn't even that big of a deal, why you gotta create an identity based on not caring for it? Also aphobes: GOBBLE ME SWALLOW ME DRIP DOWN THE SIDE OF ME-

@sxlarnxbula3461

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a demiromantic sex repulsed ace and I tried to listen to WAP and I couldn't make it past 30 seconds.

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

Also Acephobes: "SoOoO How CaN YoU HaVe LoVe WiThOuT sEx DDuurrrrrrrr"

@juliaf.6105

3 жыл бұрын

@@sxlarnxbula3461 you should listen WAP well armed peasants

@amxterxsu138

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliaf.6105 dude i love the well armed peasants version

@amberb.6395

3 жыл бұрын

@@sxlarnxbula3461 I was able to get through the whole thing. Mostly because I was trying to figure out why so many people hated it, trying to understand it, and pure curiosity. It wasn’t horrible, but I haven’t listened to it since

Personally, being ace isn't the hardest part of my life, but when someone's first response is to question my asexuality, it still hurts.

@Nakia11798

3 жыл бұрын

True. My parents don't even think to question it bc they don't know what it is and that almost hurts more than if they were confused.

@megasauruss

3 жыл бұрын

It really, really hurts, and I really really wished it didn't.

@hanac5586

3 жыл бұрын

It also feels horrible to let others down if you're aromantic. I sometimes wish I could experience romantic love just that I could avoid awkward situations. The times I've had to explain "I really like you, but not in that way." Maybe I will someday, but it feels uncanny. I never even had celebrity crushes.

@hanac5586

3 жыл бұрын

@Gabrielle Harper '24 I gotta admire your dedication, leaving the country so you don't have to make your friend sad :D

@_KUSH1_

3 жыл бұрын

@Logan Roof Of course it's the one with the Nazi pfp

Bruh I spent last night drinking, woke up with a hell of a hangover and now I'm learning shit about sexual identity from this channel that I would never have learnt otherwise. Dunno how I got here but I'm enjoying every second of it.

@elizabethyow1165

5 ай бұрын

I love this for you! 🩶🖤💜🤍

actual convo i had w/ cishet guy once Guy: are you also a panny (trying to make fun of kid in class who is pan) Me: no G: bi? (shakes head) gay? (shakes head) straight? (shakes head) then what are you M: ace (said in a whisper)... I don't really like people like that G: so you like don't wanna get married? M: I personally don't G: huh, that's sad. bruh

@mustashfan1o198

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like an ass. I'm glad he lost interest quickly after that. Maybe that's the trick, just tell everybody you're ace and they leave you alone?

@GensChilledCola

Жыл бұрын

@@mustashfan1o198 maybe, the pan kid was annoying as hell but making up a new slur is crazy

When I tried coming out as Ace, I was nearly kicked out of the house. I almost ended up homeless around age 15 for saying I was ace because I noticed that a "crush" to me did not look like that of my peers. A "crush" to me was more like quality time spent with the other with maybe some hugs. Over a decade later, that still hasn't changed. So I will definitely say that we definitely get discriminated against.

@commentbot9510

2 жыл бұрын

My lesbian friend once said "Asexual people shouldn't be part of the LGBT community because they're not oppressed. No one cares that you don't wanna fuck." Boy was she wrong. This was a few years ago though so hopefully her view has changed.

@smelly4498

2 жыл бұрын

@@commentbot9510 the point of the queer community is gender, sexuality, and romantic minorities sharing our experiences and supporting one another. the fact that we exist as a sexuality minority makes us inherently queer, every identity should be working to help each other gain acceptance. i don’t like validating identities based on how oppressed they are, it’s an opening for competition over who’s the most oppressed, and it makes gatekeeping a big problem. as an asexual person i’m very aware that i can “hide” more easily than other members of the lgbt community, and i understand in the grand scheme of identities mine doesn’t affect my day-to-day life or safety. but i’m here to support those who need it and spread awareness.i’m not hetero*sexual* and im not using my experience to gain brownie points. i want to support and be supported which is the point of the lgbt community in recent years (or maybe i’ve just gotten better at avoiding negative comments) i feel like aro/ace acceptance has become much more common, maybe one day nobody will seem out of place for their identities /pos

@sparklypee263

2 жыл бұрын

@@sabersin7694 Why would you not be different from the majority by not being interested in sex? You do realise that the world is very oversexualised, and that not caring about that part is seen as very abnormal, right? I don't know what your definition of 'special' is, but asexuals don't tell other people their identity to feel special, it's just their personal information, which would help people around them understand them better. Also, "just because you made a choice"- makes no sense, sexuality isn't a choice, it's beyond your control. The only thing you get to choose is how you label yourself.

@Never_again_against_anyone

Жыл бұрын

@NeedlesGirl : Sorry to hear you had to experience that. I hope you have found accepting people and find more of them.

@totallynotana

Жыл бұрын

wait what does having a crush mean to others-

"Is it an easier pill to swallow to say 'I'm not sexually attracted to anyone' rather than 'Nobody is sexually attracted to me'?" Ooh! Ooh! I can answer this one! NO! Because people HAVE been attracted to me and it's awkward as heck! It's ruined relationships that a partner I was only romantically attracted to was also sexually attracted to me and wanted to have sex and I... didn't. And we just weren't compatible there and it was heartbreaking. And it makes looking for a romantic partner so stressful, cause it's like "Will they want sex? And will they get mad when I don't?" And I must say, as an ace person, it really baffles me that people will insist you can't have romance without sex. Like... are you saying your entire relationship is based on sex? That without it you would just have nothing??? Surely you have things that keep you together even when you're not banging!?

@raicantgame6634

3 жыл бұрын

Also, I feel like people who claim that WE think we're better than them for being ace are dealing with some internalized shame that they are projecting onto us. I remember, when I first discovered the ace community, a guy talking about a church group he was in where they would sit in a circle and talk about what sinful temptations they'd struggled with that week, and the others in the circle would affirm them and be like "Yeah me too, it's ok" and share their own experience with it. Well, once guy listed struggling with lustful thoughts, and so everyone had to go around and share their own lustful struggles, but this dude, being ace... didn't have any. And they got mad at him, and among other things accused him of acting like he was better than them. And i think in some ways it boils down to that. Especially in cultures with certain religious leanings, people have internalized this idea that having and wanting sex is dirty and bad, and especially if you're wanting the "wrong" kind of sex. So then they see us saying "Well we don't want any of it, we don't feel that way" and get it in their heads that we're saying we're better for not wanting the dirty bad thing that they want. "I am asexual, I do not feel sexual attraction to anyone" is a neutral statement, there is no morality or superiority in it. It's just a statement of one's own feelings and nothing more.

@nessa-parmentier

3 жыл бұрын

Yes ! The "nobody is attracted to you part", i'd answer that i've had someone being attracted to me, i just never saw the signs and turned them off without even knowing it because i literally didn't think that this could be a possibility, and i learnt about it later when they changed places and someone told me that they had a crush on me. I'm personnaly not looking for a romantic partner at all (unlike what my mother seems to believe, NO, that girl friend i have is just a friend to me, i don't have a crush on her, SHUT UP please xD) but I can definitely see how it could be complicated for an ace person to find someone that respects that. And yeah, i totally agree that the "i'm asexual, i'm not attracted to anyone" is a neutral statement that people misunderstand and interprete because of their education. I live in a place where religion is less and less important, so sex isn't treated as that dirty thing anymore (at least my most people i know), so when you tell people that you just don't feel sexual attraction, they don't understand it either most of the time, but I never saw or heard someone here say that I think I'm better than them because of that.

@sarahk5412

3 жыл бұрын

I've been accused of stomping on hearts because I thought we were friends and they thought something else.

@sarahk5412

3 жыл бұрын

@@raicantgame6634 Finding out about asexuality sure answered a LOOOOOOOOT of questions for me about why purity culture was so hard for people who otherwise had it together FAR better than I did, when it was so easy for me.

@raicantgame6634

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahk5412 Right? I remember in high school seeing girls get pregnant and guys getting in trouble and thinking "Why is this so hard for y'all, just don't do it???" I guess that akin to a gay man telling straight guys "Just don't date girls what's the big deal?" lol

To the "right person" comeback, I say this: The "right person" for me would be another asexual, so...checkmate.

While even as a lesbian, I personally still struggle with what asesexuallity means and what it entails, however just because I’m naive when it comes to a subject doesn’t mean I will attack others because I don’t understand it. It’s a shame that these people would rather fight than learning more tbh

@PrismTheLoser

Жыл бұрын

Goddamn do we need more people like you Whether or not you understand, you respect us, and I wish more people were like that

People: if you're not into sex what are you into Me: The world is obsessed with sex, I'm obsessed with hand holding. That's what I'm into.

@yaapeasah4443

3 жыл бұрын

Don't forget cuddling!

@rosecandy8922

3 жыл бұрын

And cake.

@tic857

3 жыл бұрын

@@yaapeasah4443 cuddling yes!

@tic857

3 жыл бұрын

@@rosecandy8922 how could I forget! Of course cake! Maybe pie too.

@yaapeasah4443

3 жыл бұрын

@@tic857definitely pie.

*"A chair is a chair mainly because of its chairness"*

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

XD

@the_phantom_cat7912

3 жыл бұрын

Hmm yes, this *chair* is made out of *chair*

@lunarmist8330

3 жыл бұрын

*C H A I R N E S S*

@gurcantecer1234

3 жыл бұрын

wow, what an argument.

@destinymills255

3 жыл бұрын

Ah yes chairness

i told my mom i was Asexual and she said "yeah sure, just wait till you meet that one person." da faq is that one person gonna do? wave a magic wand and say Abra Cadabra??

@moistmarader5595

Жыл бұрын

She gonna be waiting a loooong time 😂 When are you getting married? 😥 I'm waiting for the right person!!! 😘✌

@DetectiveRaven

6 ай бұрын

It sucks, I want a husband and kids, but everyone I like is sexual, and I can't change, unfortunately. I don't feel normal because of it.

dear all ace in the comments. your valid and loved.

@callistopaws

2 жыл бұрын

:)

I'm not asexual but honestly.. I am so sick of everything revolving around sex ALL THE GODDAMN TIME ! There are way more important things than that in Life and especially in relationships.

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

I know, right. It's always shoved down everyone throat's. In Media, TV, Videogames soo much more.

@Doleryn

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-sp2jg9rx8r Not only that, even in conversations between people.

@Roadent1241

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I would like to enjoy my TV/films/books/games without randomly having to put it on the 'oh FFS it's got allo crap in it but I kind of enjoy it outside of this' list instead of on the 'ace safe and I can fully enjoy this without feeling nauseous' life. Or just dumping it as soon as the allo crap comes in so I don't get to enjoy it. Uhhh???? I don't expect there to be specifically Ace-safe versions of things but.....!

@Doleryn

3 жыл бұрын

@@Roadent1241 That would be awesome if there was two versions. Also, I like allo scenes, but only when it's not completely shown or short, not for the same reasons, obviously. But for example, the fact that Netflix wants ATLA to be more """""mature"""" if you see what I mean, I'm completely against it and I think it is really annoying because not everything is about sex and adding this thing in something that doesn't really talk about it because it's not needed, is really ANNOYING. And again, I'm not ace at all and it bothers me too..

@Roadent1241

3 жыл бұрын

@@Doleryn Interesting. Maybe if they did what they do for programs and adverts and put allo versions on past a certain timeslot, or - because there's a lot of ONLINE ON DEMAND WEBSITES - Just upload an edited version legally so we don't have to illegally?? So there's just two versions, one noticably shorter but-! Seems easy enough.

You may hear someone say “Sex is the glue of a strong relationship” Makes me wonder why relationships that spray glue everywhere can still fall apart or just glueing your partner isn’t enough in the long run, how it could possibly burn out if it’s so important? I guess lust isn’t the main component of love...

@druid_zephyrus

3 жыл бұрын

well, I got two things to say in response: If it is as sticky as glue, you were supposed to wash it off earlier. When using glue, if you put it everywhere you are merely making a glaze, you need to put it in the specific location to keep the two items bound. Now I completely grasp this is unhelpful and probably only funny to me, however, I highly recommend intentional r/whoooosh'ing any morons that use "sex" being primary to relationships. Because then they are forced to elaborate and that usually falls flat as they realize they actually have zero evidence or debate to back up their claims. Like, I don't have sex with my dead grandfather, but I still value the relationship.

@thetwelfth9987

3 жыл бұрын

@@druid_zephyrus i don’t quite get it. But nevermind

@acedianPianist

3 жыл бұрын

@@druid_zephyrus Lmao, I get it.

@druid_zephyrus

3 жыл бұрын

@@thetwelfth9987 no worries, fam. The second part is for you. The first part was for me. I am my own biggest comedy fan.

@Nakia11798

3 жыл бұрын

Tell that one to my sister whose relationship fell apart partly due to sex... Some people

getting hate as an ace person has always been so super wild to me. it's the biggest 'i'm just sitting here bro' vibes i can put out into the universe and that pisses people off. the ace couple really helped me to understand way, as well as some other resources over time, and i understand where it comes from now but it will never not be confusing, stupid and just plain wild

Your appearence is so creative! I've never seen someone with your style, also be who you want to be, etc. etc., i support LGBT. 6:04 woah, that was really rage baity for some people

"pansexuals and bisexuals stay so quiet." I haven't been accused of being quiet since middle school. What the hell are you talking about?

@Red-uo6od

3 жыл бұрын

@Fun_Aunt _Meg I’ll defend all yall! As a Pan person, I am definitely not quiet. Ace people don’t deserve the hate they get, it’s literally about what are *not* doing. People need to chill

@ResidentMilf

3 жыл бұрын

@Fun_Aunt _Meg The sad fact is, polysexuals are more sympathetic to aces because we, too, experience prejudice from monosexuals even within the community.

@yunicelennar7626

3 жыл бұрын

I don't stay quiet. They just think I'm gay

@vordjoncus

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely ADORE the bi/pan/ace solidarity!

@Summertimeislife

3 жыл бұрын

People have told me to shut up sooo much

It still amazes me that one can be a part of LGBTQ+ and exclude ace ppl just because

@i_love_rescue_animals

3 жыл бұрын

As an asexual, I find it sooo annoying and devaluing to have someone (I have no less than 3 lesbians tell me this) say we (asexuals) are not part of the LGBTQ+ community!

@yunicelennar7626

3 жыл бұрын

@@i_love_rescue_animals ikr! This is sick. While I'm demi, my gender identity is more important to me than my sexual identify/orientation so I don't feel like I have any rights to say if ace ppl can be a part of the community so it cracks me up that someone even further from aces has the guts to decide it. That's ridiculous. That's not their choice to make.

@shytendeakatamanoir9740

3 жыл бұрын

@@yunicelennar7626 What is a demi? Sorry if that is a dumb question, I am still relatively new here.

@8DX

3 жыл бұрын

@@shytendeakatamanoir9740 demisexuals are people who require a strong personal emotional/romantic connection with someone before feeling any sexual attraction to them. This can include sex-repulsion or just a lack of sexual attraction towards strangers / friends / nonpartners.

@yunicelennar7626

3 жыл бұрын

@@shytendeakatamanoir9740 it's fine! Actually, David really nicely explained it in his video that was mentioned here (the one about meeting the right person I believe). I'm bad with words so I won't give you as good explanation as his, but I will try nonetheless. Demisexual is a part of the ace umbrella; a demi person gets sexually interested in someone they have a strong enough emotional bond (I recommend not judging by the time since some bonds are built quickly, and some take time). In my case, I thought I was like completely asexual since at the time I hadn't had any bonds that would fit the criteria. Later on, I developed a bond with my current boyfriend and only after that I started to understand a bit the sexual attraction allosexual people experience.

I have an Ace joke I came up with if you don’t mind me sharing. What would you call Phoenix Wright if he were asexual? An Ace Attorney.

Tbh one of the best comebacks to the "your genes won't be passed" quote is "look, I carry a gene of a dangerous malformation, I wouldn't want any of my future generations to have it" :>

Tbh, I'm asexual but not aromatic, its... annoying to have to explain this over and over.

@nyancat2221

3 жыл бұрын

I think because a lot of people think that sexual attraction is integral to romance. When it isn’t really. Probably what you define as romantic feelings does also change identification of it.

@swizzyspoon

3 жыл бұрын

yeah i feel romantic attraction and not sexual. some people find that so hard to understand and like dude up it’s easy. and even more than that, why’d you wanna know about my sex life anyway? it doesn’t matter

@thedarkreunion4399

3 жыл бұрын

I’m biromantic asexual and I came out to my parents as ace, not as bi. I was so scared that I’d they found out i liked more than just guys, they wouldn’t bear with me anymore, Yet, I feel like if i came out as bi instead of ace I would feel more comfortable around them, now they refer to the convo as The Weird Conversation. It hurts

@CarcassBones

3 жыл бұрын

Same, I’m ace/Biro and I still get people telling me that I’m an emotionless psycho

@magpie322

3 жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one... I didn't want to bring it up that I could feel romantically towards men and women, but I don't feel sexually towards anyone

Also I hate how people think they can groom me into believing they're the one who can finally "fix" me and they're my salvation Like please piss off you're overselling your genitals

@Dragonmongamer

Жыл бұрын

People who do that are disgusting.

@anangelicpancake7876

Жыл бұрын

The phrase “overselling your genitals” is a new one, bravo👏

@Cressyextraeepy

Жыл бұрын

"please piss off you're overselling your genitals" is such a good like omg

@pustota7254

9 ай бұрын

@@Dragonmongamer your comment got liked 69 times.

@sifangwuhai

8 ай бұрын

Here's a rant. What in the name of all that is good even is "corrective rape"?! Even based off the "logic" (you haven't tried yet) behind it, rape is traumatic. Oh. Sorry. I'm guessing they just want to do someone but everyone asked rejected them.

The idea that asexual is just a coverup for "nobody is sexually attracted to me" is so annoying because for years ive had to say no and deal with people not taking no for an answer when they want me to go out with them. Its painful to deal with and has even ruined friendships so to even like.....THINK that.

Sexuality in general I firmly believe is purely neurological in nature, no matter if straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, etc. So asexuality would make complete utter sense to exist. I don't get how it's such a difficult concept to grasp. I'm most definitely some kind of queer myself however.

@ArDeeMee

11 ай бұрын

It’s about as relatable as colorblindness, I guess. You literally cannot imagine what the world looks like without the color blue in it, unless you are afflicted. Imagine a colorblind person explaining to you what the sky or ocean look like. It is unfathomable. Full color spectrum and sexual urges are the default settings in biology.

Aphobes really be acting like we're some kind of endangered specie and overpopulation cannot exist lol

@user-lc7zc3jo3x

3 жыл бұрын

How tf would we even overpopulate? Sex?

@pinkygodofwar2687

3 жыл бұрын

​@@user-lc7zc3jo3x Not just "sex", but sex with the goal to have a baby (because you can have sex for pleasure, if there is protections and no accident, it shouldn't make a baby XD) What i mean is, like we can see, a lot of lgbtphobe use the excuse "you can't make babies" to say we're bad (too much people seems to think the only reason we live is to make babies, and that's sad). But if actually everyone had just one baby in their life, in the span of, let's say, 20 years, we would already be double the population of today (7,8 billion today, so more than 14 billion in 20 years). That's already a lot, but if we continu to live like this for dozen of years, and everyone had one child before they turn 30, there is no way we don't overpopulate at some point. XD (maybe 14 billion would already be considered "too much") Of course that doesn't count the facts that everyone can die at any age (even before they're even born), and some people are infertile, but it shows how "they don't make babies so they're bad" is stupid logic (even if it's to straight people who just don't want kids). Not everyone can, or should have babies for that matter (the number of terrible parents in the world that mess up their kids is just sad) And yet, we're more and more every year, with more and more ways to live longer with the progress of medecine (less people dies when giving birth, less people dies from somes illnesses that used to be deadly, we know more about healthy habits...) and technology. Less people die but there is still a lot of birth. So, in theory, yeah, we could be overpopulated one day. I mean, in 200 years, we got from 1 billion people to 7,8, and we could be more than 10 billion in 2050, that's already a lot, so imagine if everyone could and had one or two babies per couple/person ? The catastrophy XD Overpopulation can be real, it might not last forever, but it could happen, it would be stupid to completely deny this possibility. But well, it's still just a theory right now, who knows what might happen next. All i'm truly is saying is that, if everyone was to live like these people want us to live, making babies... then, with all the ways to keep someone alive, overpopulation would definitely be real (i don't know at what point we can say there's too much humans, but our planet definitely has a limit XD), it would be total chaos. It's just surreal to even think everyone should have a child, to begin with XD

@user-lc7zc3jo3x

3 жыл бұрын

@@pickleproductions5736 I was joking bc a majority of asexuals either don’t want to have sex, or we don’t seek it out actively (its a spectrum so it obviously changes but still)

@pickleproductions5736

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-lc7zc3jo3x Sorry. The other guy who responded seemed serious so I thought you were serious too.

@user-lc7zc3jo3x

3 жыл бұрын

@@pickleproductions5736 that’s perfectly understandable! It’s hard to tell the tone in which people type without being able to see their face or hear their voices!♥︎

At first I thought I was bisexual, then I thought I was gay, after that I thought I was pansexual, I thought I'd settled on demisexual, but no, no, I'm just asexual. Took about 12 years for me to come to terms with my asexuality because literally everything in this world tells us that we should be sexual. It's nice to finally feel comfortable with myself.

@commentbot9510

2 жыл бұрын

And there is also the thought that if you don't want sex then no one will ever want you because they want sex

@doommarine4067

2 жыл бұрын

Took you 12 years to decide Damn

@actuniversalstudios

2 жыл бұрын

I thought I was heterosexual most of my life because I have felt sexual attraction, but only in very specific circumstances. Recently, I had started wondering if I was ace, but because I do feel sexual attraction in rare circumstances, I didn't think I could be. Then I realized that demi-sexuality falls on the asexual spectrum, and it all made sense to me. I'm still essentially coming to terms with it. I've always felt the world was majorly hypersexualized, and I didn't understand it because I rarely felt sexual attraction. It is still weird for me to feel like I belong in the LGBTQ+ community. I feel comfortable with who I am--it's the categorization that is still weird for me.

@Josephine_de_Beauharnais1763

2 жыл бұрын

Right? Just about everyone is constantly telling you that sex and romance are attractive to everyone and everyone will experience it one day or another and you just need the right person and- It's exhausting. I was so desperate to fit into a category deemed normal by the people around me. When I heard about being gay or bi or pan, I was like "Oh, okay. I guess I'll start searching for someone attractive there" but nO one's attractive?? Then I finally learned about ace and aro but I was told that being aromantic is fake. It was so frustrating. I started doing my own research and I realized that yes, aroace does fit near exactly what I've been searching for for years. I'm still kinda scared to 100% come out to my family and friends, but I'm more confident by the day and I think I will, I hope they accept me if I do.

@normalhuman9878

Жыл бұрын

I remember sitting on the school bus, thinking to myself “I think I would feel the same way if I was dating a boy or girl (I didn’t know about other genders at the time), so I must be bi” Then I got asked out after hearing about asexuality so I just really hoped I was Demi and would eventually develop feelings because I really liked the person as a friend and didn’t want to hurt them. Now we’re still friends and I have accepted that I’m aroace

Don't worry L= Lesbian G= Gay B= Bisexual T= Transgender Q= Queer I= Intersex A= Asexual/Aromantic/Agender SO THIS MEANS, YOU ARE VALID AS HELL!

@notreallyginger5831

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of people say that the A stands for Ally for some reason... Its kinda strange

@Ryker73

2 жыл бұрын

@@notreallyginger5831 Those people think that Ace are not real. Which is... Acephobic

@notreallyginger5831

2 жыл бұрын

@@Ryker73 exactly

@geoffahunt

2 жыл бұрын

The Q is questioning actually

@Ryker73

2 жыл бұрын

@@geoffahunt I researched and it said Queer?

"You will find people both straight and normal" amazing, an icon, im gonna frame that quote in my room

I would totally go to a museum filled with slightly imperfect pride flags!

@jacklandismusic

3 жыл бұрын

I’d love to see a bisexual flag where all the colors are just slightly off to the point that they’re all kinda similar and it’s hard to tell where each one begins and ends.

@himbo_kai

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like it should also have a poly flag with the natural log symbol instead of pi

@colleennewholy9026

3 жыл бұрын

@@jacklandismusic cue my colorblindness cursing me more. Lol

@QuikVidGuy

3 жыл бұрын

@@colleennewholy9026 meanwhile I have really fine hue differentiation so I'd be constantly telling people "that doesn't look right" without being able to explain how

@colleennewholy9026

3 жыл бұрын

@@QuikVidGuy you'd certainly confuse me. Lol

The comment that really grated on my nerves was “People pretending like asexuality is as big a deal as homosexuality and bisexuality when it pretty much affects nothing, lmao.” Because it does affect so much. Like I’m asexual but not aromantic. But since so many people want sex in a relationship my prospects are virtually nonexistent. I want to love and be loved but sex terrifies me. I don’t get aroused. I know that sex would be the most unpleasant experience for me, yet no one respects that. They always pull the whole “how could you know? It’s not like you’ve ever tried it.” Like I can know I wouldn’t enjoy being an axe wielding murder without having to “try it” first 😤. I’ve had people try and coerce me into having sex and it’s absolutely disgusting and invaliding as anything. Just because 99% of the population enjoys sex and wants it doesn’t mean that the other 1% is obligated to do and feel the same way. People are so aggravating. Sorry for the rant. Just glad to see I’m not alone.

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

Don't let anyone force you into Sex. That's disgusting when people pressure you into it.

@catbatrat1760

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-sp2jg9rx8r A-frickin-greed!

@zanyawesome30

3 жыл бұрын

Dude seriously I always have to tell someone that yes I am panromantic but I'm asexual so no sex is that an issue. People always either go nope and dip or go yeah no problem and then three days later their like so are you still asexual 😉 like I'm just playing hard to get.

@catbatrat1760

3 жыл бұрын

@@zanyawesome30 I had a similar experience. I was messaging a dude, and things were going pretty well. I told him I was asexual from the beginning since I know it tends to be a pretty big deal-breaker, and he said he understood and that it was fine. Unfortunately, his method of flirting involved a lot of talk about genitals, and I was really uncomfortable. I asked him to stop a few times, then finally asked if he was absolutely sure he'd want to date someone who is ace without trying to change it. My theory is that when I told him I was ace, he thought he understood it and would be okay with it, and it took a couple days of messaging for him to realize that he actually didn't.

@dessertcactus

3 жыл бұрын

Regardless of sexuality/asexuality NO ONE should try to coerce you into sex. That's so disgusting and i'm so sorry it happened. It could end up being a traumatic experience for you especially since you don't like it, and they're not taking your comfortability into account. You're valid and other romantic/ace people are out there.

How I sometimes wish it was that no one was sexually attracted to me. I'm so tired of cat calls, sexual advances, and offers. So exhausted by men and women trying to "fix" me and ultimately leaving because they can't. I don't seek to be validated or offended, I just want to be me and find someone who can like me for that. I once had someone ask what medicine I was on when I told them I wasn't interested!!

To me, it is utterly fascinating how often aphobia and purity "culture" go hand in hand. I seriously don't get how they square that circle. Guess, pegging holes is all they can think about 🤪

@jessicab831

Жыл бұрын

It's funny cause both anti-gay/heavily religious people AND some of the members of the lgbtq community think they're all about smex which is not entirely true at all, of course.

Ok so if gays come out of the closet... And pansexuals come out of the cupboard Do asexual's (me and all of you other valid beauties) Come out of the deck

@kuhujoy

3 жыл бұрын

omg

@snybies

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I am going to take a Ace card with me on every pride festival.

@gingerpatch6803

3 жыл бұрын

Non binary people come out of the computer Ok my joke was bad

@goose3566

3 жыл бұрын

actually pan people come out of the PANtry ahaaa, this is my favorite pun as a pan person haha

@LoneWolf-vu6qy

3 жыл бұрын

Yes.

The people who are mad that you're ace, are mostly mad that you're hot but they can't have it.

@averagetransboi

3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU FOR THIS, THESE WERE MY EXACT THOUGHTS

@amandagarza2875

3 жыл бұрын

That explains so much 🤔

@loverrlee

3 жыл бұрын

It’s my body not theirs. They aren’t entitled to my body without my permission. Ever.

@unicorndragon2181

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you this actually helps me feel better because my ex boyfriend tired get back with me after HE broke up with me, but by the time he came back I knew I was asexual (he practically helped me realize this when we tried to do "stuff" when we were together, but I never cared for it or liked it at all) and boy was he furious

@doommarine4067

2 жыл бұрын

@@averagetransboi that's the exact opposite lol

I'm asexual and I just found this channel and it's so cathartic to watch I actually discovered my identity a little while after getting into a relationship and I remember having a lot of self-loathing over it, thinking "oh crap how do I tell him- If this is a deal breaker for him I'm gonna be heartbroken cuz I actually really really love being with him" Long story short, the several months of my inner turmoil didn't matter much because when I finally did tell him, while sobbing my godamn face off, he sat me down and told me this is still gonna work and he'd never consider breaking up with me because of my sexuality I was so happy to hear that

I honestly hate talking about my sexuality because I don't want people to try and disvalidate me or prove I'm broken.

I'm a young ace person. I'm currently ace. that might change in the future, but that doesn't mean I'm not asexual right now.

@hammer158

3 жыл бұрын

people need to learn how fluid sexuality can be, I feel like this is what many have a problem with. we're allowed to grow and change

@hannasmith6621

3 жыл бұрын

It's so refreshing to see a comment like this, I'm a young bi person that is currently asexual but that may change. I thought something was wrong with me when I was with my ex boyfriend (turns out we were just best friends) and the most we did was french kiss because I felt terrible for not recuperating and tried to force myself into it. I will never tell him this as I know if I do he'll blame himself. If you are an ace person in a relationship don't try to force yourself into feelings you don't have.

@gaymer2488

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same someone is like meee!! I

@Idk-je2ql

3 жыл бұрын

@@hannasmith6621 Thank you, I needed to hear that last line 💜

@coremagpie9221

3 жыл бұрын

Mood it's like I am ace probably or maybe not but probably I am ace

Now personally, I'm not asexual I'm pansexual, but I don't get why anyone would would think that asexuality is anything less than equal to gay, bi or any other identification, we're supposed to support each other not put others down. To any asexual reading this, I love you 💕

@FiSH-iSH

3 жыл бұрын

why thank you

@yachishairclips2250

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you and I love you.. Demisexual here

@amandagarza2875

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much. Love from a gray-ace ☺💜

@calinasagilitypartner4444

3 жыл бұрын

My niece just came out to me as pansexual. I shared with her that I'm asexual. We a nsked questions. We talked about her mom's reaction. It was a great conversation. I feel closer to her, in an asexual way. I think we see each other as equal, as allies. She also said she thinks her brother is gay. I hope he'll tell me if he is. I also had two brothers (I had 4 brothers growing up) who were part of the LGTBQIA community.

@Toni-lo9ms

3 жыл бұрын

I'm demi apparently (recently realized it was a thing that fits my experience) but had I not met my wife I would tell you I'm ace. Basically, thank you. ❤

This one girl was like, “why do you have a boyfriend if you’re ace?” And then was like, “how do you know if you haven’t tried?” So I asked her how she knew she was straight, then.

I have a story about dating a homophobic and aphobic dude I had a boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) who I fell in love with. I was 13 and he was 15 at the time and we met in Facebook. We dated for 2 years and in the middle of the second year I figured out I was asexual because I don’t want sex. I told him about it and he got mad at me because I don’t want to passionately hug. He also said stuff like “you’ll grow out of it” which pissed me off. He also disrespected my boundaries and when I spoke to him about having depression, he called me a liar. The whole relationship went toxic for the second year and I stopped talking to him. Now I’m single, alone, and depressed. Also I’m in the closet irl and my parents don’t know I’m biromantic asexual (I just want support and someone to talk to about my hyperfixations)

@Jeewanu216

8 ай бұрын

Bigender and pansexual autist. Hyperfixation is my middle name and I'm here for you friend. I live a busy life, but at the very least, I would love to chat here and offer my support.

@Frost_Daddy

8 ай бұрын

^^

"I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way" - Jessica Rabbit One of my fav ace anthems

@tarot1361

3 жыл бұрын

Jessica Rabbit is an Icon.

@allybratz

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad others are jumping on the Jessica Rabbit is Ace bandwagon, I love it.

I mean they’re not wrong A chair IS a chair

@druid_zephyrus

3 жыл бұрын

lmao. you have clearly never play d&d. A chair is not _always_ a chair. =D

@th3kng276

3 жыл бұрын

@@druid_zephyrus Chair was An Imposter

@druid_zephyrus

3 жыл бұрын

@@th3kng276 That Chair is mad Sus

@Emerald__Ace

3 жыл бұрын

Unless it's an SCP.

@insomniacgrey5674

3 жыл бұрын

@@Emerald__Ace Then it's somtimes mulch

I made an asexual coming out video on my channel, and it took 5 minutes for someone to comment on it that it is a symptom of a personality disorder. I haven't had the courage to put it back up on my channel since :(

@thatgoshdarnblep2726

2 жыл бұрын

There is nothing wrong with you! You are valid. Put it back up. Remember that these people don't know you or your story. They are insignificant in your life because as far as you know them...the only thing you can describe them as is a bunch of words that are negative. And that's not good enough to be relevant in your life. Sending love❤

"a chair is a chair mainly because of its chairness" well you see i am not a chair

Just a reminder for comment-scrollers aces that you are totally valid valid and also cute because I said so

@user-sp2jg9rx8r

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. =) Makes me happy that people like you are very welcoming and kind~💜

@Bastion90

3 жыл бұрын

Comment-Scroller Ace here. Thank you

@Sirvaria

3 жыл бұрын

Nice

@Griftyfox

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! X3

@littlewyzard

3 жыл бұрын

Omg thank you 🥺❤️

I always feel kinship with my ace peers. I’m bisexual, and I feel like a lot of these stupid reasons people use to exclude ace people are the same as the reasons to exclude bisexual people. Not to mention that biromatic ace people are integral part of bi community. Ace & bi solidarity to make LGBTQIA+ community more inclusive and fun! Much love to you. Your videos are so interesting and educational! Thank you:)

@shytendeakatamanoir9740

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! As a fellow bi/pan, I know full well what it is to feel like to have your entire existence invalidated! That it's "just a phase". And I am still so angry at that. No one should ever feel that way just because of who they are.

@cartilagehead6326

3 жыл бұрын

For all that the joke is that dating while bi should be like going to the biggest buffet in the world, being bi has derailed plenty of romantic opportunities for me. Gay people mistrust you and same sex partners assume you’ll leave them at the first sign of difficulty or social pressure. Straight people mistrust you and partners of the opposite sex think you’ll inevitably cheat or ask to open the relationship up when they don’t want to. Now imagine how much of a barrier to potential intimacy and emotional companionship asexuality must be.

@catalinaplaza7909

3 жыл бұрын

YAAASSS ace/bi solidarity!

@dvffYT

3 жыл бұрын

You're amazing alice!

@SinWeissfell

3 жыл бұрын

I've also always felt some sort of kinship to you bi peepos out there. If memory serves me well aces were included in the bi community at some point because no attraction to either gender is just another form of equal attraction to any gender. Naturally beeing bi and beeing attracted to either gender to exactly 50% is unlikely at best but I think the point I'm clumsily trying to make is clear. Y'all rule

honestly aphobia is probably the dumbest thing ever like i just don't care for sexual attraction

why tf are people getting mad at other people for not wanting to get bitches, that doesn't make any sense to me 😭