For those of us who need that extra guidance, could you also do a series on how to treat a man like a MAN !! Because for some of us, we never ever had that positive role model. As a grown up, we went to failed relationships after failed relationships n finally we are at a point where after decades of being in a horrifically toxic marriage, which sadly we did not even know it was toxic because that’s the environment our parents provided for us, and all the while we thought that was the SOCIETAL NORM !! Only to find out decades later we were in this narcissistic toxic marriage. We were trained by our mothers to behave just like them and that our role was to serve men. It was a generational thing. I don’t blame my mother really. She didn’t know better. But now I do. However I only keep hearing everyone telling us what not to do, but nobody really delves into what WE SHOULD DO !! Please help people like me. There are lots of people like me out there. Especially people who are of ethnic backgrounds. Thank you so very much for hearing me out. Today is my first day on your channel. 💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏

@DF-ju4cw

7 ай бұрын

Read the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray

@minaahorlu3298

7 ай бұрын

You right

@sai7sai

6 ай бұрын

I need this too!

@brittanyann869

3 ай бұрын

YES THIS! Thank yoU!

When you are with a man-child, it brings you down emotionally, mentally and physically. Be careful whom you give your time, energy and love to.

The best tip is: be yourself the baby 😂😂😂

As you grow, your man should grow as well. Trust yourself above all else.

The world needs her voice 🙌

I had to do exactly this recently. Call out what was unacceptable to me and not yield. I am exhausted of being the evolved voice of wisdom, giving guidance and wise counsel when I am not his mother to teach him right from wrong. He is a grown man and should have the discernment by now to know for himself without me having to point it out and make him aware of it. I cannot continue this way as my cup is empty. He will either have to grow up, catch up to match my level of frequency or we must then grow apart. I am not budging. The boundary has been set firm. And as you said, I am willing to risk it all. Thank you for this confirmation that I have done the correct thing.

A lot of men are in their wounded feminine energy and have not integrated their male nature with no sense of direction as women have assumed the role of men and in their wounded masculine energy. this is very prevalent in todays society but many are healing

@707tich

7 ай бұрын

Well said

Well, yesterday i realised that my man want a mommy, this morning i make my coffee and open KZread to play some music and Paint.....this is the first video came out.Thank you universe❤

"If this man WANTS to remain a baby, please dont stay on it. You will be better off without it...if you take the risk to be more in resonance with where you are, you will be much better without [the relationship]." Confront the ego that says you cannot do it without a man. If it isnt a negotiation, if there isnt response, dont stay there.

I never ended up babying a man or with a man baby. So, it's not the only option. Do not date a man who lives with his mother past college or is enmeshed with his mother to an unhealthy degree. Don't date a man who does not earn his own living and function as an adult. He should show generosity and some protective instincts towards you. In my opinion, he should pay for dates, especially the first ones. Wait three months of dating in person before having sex or committing to someone. In three months you see someone's real character. Generally, don't do more for him than seems reasonable. He has to be able to make reasonable decisions about important things like an adult most of the time. Many man babies are identifiable and avoidable. Learn what men should be doing in life, dating and relationships. Don't do that for him. You can't live his life for him or single-handedly make a relationship happen. If it's not there, it's not there. For those already in a relationship with a man baby, I don't know what to do about that. Sorry.

My choice to leave and seek knowledge about this thing called love lead me here. 😂❤

I just woke up today and your video on how not to baby a man came up when I opened KZread and looking at my life I feel numb cos I feel I am exactly in that kind of of marriage. Been married for only 3 years and I am already suffocating. I m grateful for your teachings. Thank you.🙏❤️❤️🙇‍♀️

You are a different teacher for women compared to all the others! ❤ Thank you 🙏

Well, I watched to 6 minutes, and after a lifetime (im in my 40's now) of not meeting an emotionally intelligent, capable, honest, caring man - in fact always one who projects his issues onto me - this info has me deciding that there really is no such thing anyway, and that men are just not pleasant to be around. Thankyou for the decision not to waste one more minute entertaining one.

@sharinaross1865

7 ай бұрын

I feel similar. Most just want to compete or confuse.

@valaelia6622

7 ай бұрын

A specific vibration attracts similar.. When we change we attract the one we deserve. We should look inside not to blame outside. The other person is our mirror. ❤

@cmg2651

6 ай бұрын

With that attitude there could be a reason you are attracting this kind of man.

The partners if are not complimenting each other on high levels ...should not waste too much time in that so called "relationship" ...because it's NOT A RELATIONSHIP IS A TOXIC ENTERTAINMENT and sadly on both sides disadvantage and emotional damage!!!

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

wise woman you are

I love you and your message, Brave Woman. Thank you. ❤

I love this lessons

Look forward to your next interview

I don’t subscribe to channels on KZread but this one really talked to me. Thank you for sharing ❤

I wish you had these talks in spanish! My family needs to hear you❤

cant wait for the next video!

Wow 😊❤ Going through this phase in my life. Will get over it.

That is so well said thank you 🙏 from a place of self empowerment and self responsibility ❤

Thank you so much for sharing your immense healing wisdom on how the divine feminine should navigate relationship with the masculine. Blessings to you from Western Australia 🌏🦘

Powerful

Thanks I needed so much to hear this 🙏🏼💖

This is a really really good video and I wish I had this video before i started dating

I love this.

Very valuable Goddess... thank you so much for this amazing information. What a blessing. It. Am exactly on time ❤ blessings to you and all your loved ones ❤❤

Thank You So Very Very Much!

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Glad it helped!

Thank you dear .From France .

Very inspiring , thank you 🧚‍♀️ can't wait to see your surprise !

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Oh my goodness. How synchronistic and sacred….you are a beautiful WOWman. Blessed for divine teachings MUAH! XOXO

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you!

Thank you so much

so wonderful, thank you so much!!

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Thank you too

Thank you❤

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Welcome!

So beautifully said... Thank you for your guidance. Namaste

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

❤ wow nice guidance. I am forever grateful 🙏

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Thank you!☺

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Any time!

Beautiful thank you

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Thank you too!

I love this video so much! Thank you for sharing :)

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Thank you so much！

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Welcome!

I love you!!!

You are just beautiful ❤ thank you for this video and taking the time to make it.

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

OMG.....your voice is so soothing. It just calms my nerves. 😊

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

I'm so glad!

i really needed to watch that right now. Thank you!

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

I'm so glad!

My angel❤ thank you so much you are so amazing Namaste❤❤❤

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Thank you

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You're welcome

Namaste 🙏🏻

I will keep clapping for others until its my turn🎉🎉🎉

I was engaged to a man who wanted to be babied. His mother died when he was in his 20s idk if that played a role In him wanting a mother figure in me but I ran for the hills. He would throw temper tantrums when he wouldn’t get his way it was fascinating to see.

@indy3240

7 ай бұрын

Wow! He’s probably also narcissistic . You are blessed you ran he needs therapy ❤

@Tee-Star

7 ай бұрын

These men do exist, and feel entitled; that someone's daughter should be their mom, and also a mother to young children. Fascinating 😂

@Aisha_babii

7 ай бұрын

@@indy3240 oh yes probably! He tried to manipulate me to do things he wanted, he was never direct with his demands very indirect, condescending, financially abusive etc etc... I gave it a good 5 months and I ran for the hills!!

Zero attachement true ❤❤

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

thank you !

Ok, I just want to say that either that microphone comes from an advanced alien civilisation or the sound editor does...not a whisper of sound clutter...not a breeze blurring her voice...heeeeeyyyuuuuu!Fascinating topic of relationship with a man as sacred contract. Thank you for reading.

new sub, the wisdom you have is so needed

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Thanks and welcome

After 30 years of marriage, I left. I am grateful to have found your channel. So much to learn. 🙏

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Welcome back!

Thanks you my god mother!🙏🌷🙏 For your greatest guidance. I appreciate. 🙏💜🙏🌈💥

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

@createa.googleaccount713

7 ай бұрын

Sincerely Appreciate You 🙏🏻 🐻‍❄️🦢🕊🌹

❤❤ Yes! My boyfriend and I are perfect mirrors! Glad to have recognised that. 😌

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Yes!!

@jamaica2010ism

7 ай бұрын

How did you recognise that?

@eenzaakvanliefde1969

7 ай бұрын

@@jamaica2010ism Jamaica, for me it is a journey to observe and experience what I see and experience with him. If I see things I specifically do not like (or do like) I ask myself the question: 'Where do I do the same?' There is always something that comes up of what I know I have to change in myself. That is the challenge: to have the opportunity to letting go of something unwanted that can be a trigger in our relationship. One of the lessons that I have learned, is that we never actually 'meet' another person: we meet ourselves in our relationships through behaviours, habits, patterns. Pointing fingers is to me always a way of saying: I want You to change, so I don't have to. By taking responsibility for my acknowledgement that I'm the one to 'see' or 'notice' things, I have changed. It's become more harmonious. And it's evolving. ♥️ It does help that we are on the same path, and that have the same background and the desire to work on our relationship. And that we know each other for quite a few years. 'Where do I do the same, and how to change it' that's my key question. And believe me, we have loads in common. And the best thing ever: He is changing too, without me talking a lot about it: just subtle changes in how to approach things. I hope I have given you a bit of an answer. 😉

@21daysmiracle

6 ай бұрын

Boyfriend can only same mirror not husband's 😅

We should learn to love ourselves more...invest so much good in and for ourselves...just a suggestion 😊

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

So true!

Mirror 🪩 our attributes. Thanks for sharing ❤

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Yes! Thank you!

¿Puedes hacer un video sobre cómo ser una mujer y menos una madre o una niña? Adoro tus videos y enseñanzas, como mujer que no tuvo esta perspectiva, las valoro mucho 💕 bendiciones!

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Gracias, si claro, en la serie hay ejemplo los cuales puedes sequir. Mira en el playlist la serie.

❤

What are the characteristics to become a woman? What are key values that you need to be secure as a woman?

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

There are three principals: 1.- Obey what you know. 2.-Act before the information gets in your head. 3.- Display your gifts constantly and thoroughly.

@sydneyjaee6464

7 ай бұрын

What would this look like on a daily basis! Im 29 and this last year of my 20’s i want to settle into being the woman of my dreams with an exception of constantly evolving.. these are great principals but what would they look like in the real world!

@sydneyjaee6464

7 ай бұрын

Im understanding 1.follow your intuition 2.Boundaries 3.Never dim your light

I love you

I'm Always Shocked 😲 When Women call their Liver Man "Baby" as a term of endearment, Then wonder Why he acts like a Baby!

@lucidmaya

7 ай бұрын

Omg thank you for pointing this out!! Guilty in past relationships and hopefully will not forget to NOT do this anymore!!

Mam please share your knowledge on how to become a women in thinking wise, desiring, decision wose.

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

keep tune in to the weekly lessons dear, or visit the online mystic school

Emotional availability is not only a female attribute. A man can make her feel safe; those women were trying to come up with ways they could trust again, and including their wounds in that movement puts the man in an undermined, lesser than, role. Both must be empowered.

This is amazing insight. I asked my bf to be my mother. Healing and nurturing... but it seems like that's an unrealistic expectation for him. How do i get the "mother" i wish i had?

@GigiSupreme

7 ай бұрын

Become her and mother/love yourself in all the ways you need.

😊❤🎉

Why should I want to be inn a relationship if not to be admired?

I find that I don’t always catch when I baby my man. Seems to be based on habits.

What can be said about a relationship where both parties baby each other?

This is beautiful, but, how many times are we going to start all over if we keep letting our partners go each time they do not confer to our values??? Maybe if it's just a relationship, but marriage is sacred. I guess it's approach must/might be different. My opinion ofcourse. But thank you so much Ma'am

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

We appreciate all points of view.

@akeishaharris

6 ай бұрын

Exactly because no one is perfect. We are all at work in progress.

Patiently waiting for your interview with your husband about no longer being babied by you. I also would like to know in detail what you mean by "babying men"

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

coming this weekend !

How does this relate to manifesting? And how much of these guidelines are generational?

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing; yes it is a good idea to follow the rest of the series so a further understanding of the topic is contemplated it. Remember that here, baby, the man is not related to how we nurture them ( cooking, kisses, etc.). It is about not letting him : 1.- staying within his mental limitations ( negativity, blaming, doing things for him that he needs to learn, etc.) and projecting them into you or the relationship. It is related to the clarity of what belongs to you and what belongs to the other.- Boundaries, respect and responsibility.

I have a question. In romantic relationships we often call each other "baby, babe". Does it affect a man's consciousness and does he start being and acting like a baby because he constantly hears this word from a woman?

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

yes, that is a subtle reinforce to keep the relationship in the baby stage.

@mommymik3

7 ай бұрын

Wow never thought of this. Thank you for this question and response. I will find an endearing term that is more appropriate ❤

@akeishaharris

6 ай бұрын

​@@berdhanyawhat do we call him, daddy ?

What do you do when your partner brings you his problems?

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

the only solution is to fortify yourself with your daily practice.

If I want children...am I still utilising q man to make that a reality?

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

of course.

My brothers are babies! what to do?

@Tee-Star

7 ай бұрын

Why are they your responsibility? Are u a parentified child?

He calls me'my baby', lately sometimes also 'my love', what does it mean?

@realmaureenoyakhilome

7 ай бұрын

He loves you. 😅

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Usually the collective have expressions that reflect our unconscious state of mind.

What ways do we baby a man, so we can avoid

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing; yes it is a good idea to follow the rest of the series so a further understanding of the topic is contemplated it. Remember that here, baby, the man is not related to how we nurture them ( cooking, kisses, etc.). It is about not letting him : 1.- staying within his mental limitations ( negativity, blaming, doing things for him that he needs to learn, etc.) and projecting them into you or the relationship. It is related to the clarity of what belongs to you and what belongs to the other.- Boundaries, respect and responsibility.

you’re so beautiful 😊

@berdhanya

Ай бұрын

You too!!

I'm always the baby but it seems that men are attracted to my masculine part and i hate it 😢

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

forgive the choices you had made for yourself.- that is fundamental for the feminine to flourish in you

@a.s2118

7 ай бұрын

@@berdhanya thank you for responding 🙏. Ok will try that in my meditations. The good new is that I'm single since almost 2 years now because I want to end this vicious circle. So I'm very proud of myself for sticking to that decision untill I find the one who is compatible with me. But so far I still attract feminine guys. Or baby boys. Or irresponsible/ lazy/ passive men.Or guys not knowing what they want and seemingly scared of me. I know I'm a powerful and fearless woman, I'm very different, I'm tall, I'm mixed I'm strong and I'm super independent. I can provide for myself. I do whatever I want, I travel often and I have a very particular life very involved in meditation practice. But I crave for a protector, someone I feel safe and feminine with. Someone I can be vulnerable with. But for some reason it seems that whatever effort I put to make my feminine flourish, I attract the opposite of what I want. And it's not because I hide my vulnerability. I'm making efforts in being authentic stating my needs and sharing and owning my feelings instead of nagging. At this point I'm a bit desperate and I'm now thinking that's it's too late, what I vibrate never gonna change and meeting this kind of men makes me feel resentful towards men in general and that sucks....

@jamaica2010ism

7 ай бұрын

How did you identify your masculine part?

I'm scared at single woman in late 30s

@berdhanya

7 ай бұрын

calm down dear, you don't need a man to validate your value.

@user-pk5pl7ox1e

7 ай бұрын

@@berdhanya I understand Berdhanya! I would like to start getting on with finding someone compatible very soon & start family. I feel panic mode strike

I don't mean to be funny, but how could we possibly find men who are not babies? I can't name one that I know, who isn't a baby in one way or another. Emotionally, or lazy around the house, sexually, mentally. Also I don't understand how expecting a man to be kind and good with the family is to be feminine. That is promoting ridiculous masculinity which they are often obsessed with and damaging families over it

@berdhanya

6 ай бұрын

I respect your point of view, however I never imply what are you referring.

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