Rebuilding Life After a Crisis is Possible (Even After 60!)

Rebuilding your life after a crisis can be challenging, but, it offers an opportunity to internalize the lesson and strengthen our character.
Perhaps you are dealing with a divorce, separation, illness or death of someone you love. Dealing with these kind of unexpected challenges gives us an opportunity to rebuild, redefine and recreate a life. It's difficult and painful. But it is in these moments we can shine.
In this video i talk about the concept of "post traumatic growth". Growth that can energize, empower and strengthen you.
Have you ever had to deal with crisis? What did you do to help navigate the way forward? What kind of growth did you experience? Please share and inspire the sisters in our Sixty and Me community. We are here for each other.
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  • @kathyteschner8586
    @kathyteschner8586 Жыл бұрын

    When I was 33 my husband died of a heart attack, he was only 32, leaving me to raise our five children. It was the most devastating thing to ever happen to me, and still there is a hole in my heart where he is! How did I over come, survive 33 years later. I had five kids, I had to get up, they needed me. I had family, friends, a strong support system. The one thing I did was keep journals, some days I only wrote " I'm glad this flipping day is over, but other days were filled with memories, fun times, holidays, 1st birthdays, anniversaries etc. It was so therapeutic for me.

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    What an amazing and heartbreaking story- thank you so much for sharing it with us! ❤️

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Kathy, you're obviously stronger than you could ever have imagined. Prayers up for your continued strength. 🙏🏻❤️

  • @pavla2055

    @pavla2055

    Жыл бұрын

    You have my admiration - you are so strong and resilient .

  • @mymeemawsandiegoca1923

    @mymeemawsandiegoca1923

    Жыл бұрын

    I can relate! My husband died when I was 39, leaving me with 3 kids to raise. My youngest was 5. I look back now 26 years later and wonder how we did it. ....

  • @steveplummer4552

    @steveplummer4552

    Жыл бұрын

    Hello Kathy

  • @sharonhughes588
    @sharonhughes588 Жыл бұрын

    I am newly 68 years old....but 14 years ago I lost my youngest son, at the age of 35, to a massive heart attack. He was active, very healthy, and healthy looking....but he had an inherited flaw that no one knew about. I am also a professing Christian. I tell you this because, not only did I expect a lot of me, but others expected a certain way of mourning from me too. I beat myself up trying to be the brave warrior who had the faith that I would get through this with just a bit of praying, reading the Bible and meeting in church for services. Grief is an awful enemy that takes its toll on every single person in a terrible, and different, way. I am the mother of two sons, so I am left with my first born now. I still have weepy days when I miss his voice so much that my ears seem to hurt from the strain of trying to hear it. I have days when I speak of Danny with laughter, for he had such a big laugh! Growing old has been much harder to grasp than I ever thought possible. It is an actual act that takes place each day and, if you are not aware of it, can almost cripple you when you look in the mirror and see the newest image of yourself. I, now, doubt if grief is ever a finished chapter in one's life.....but I think it might get softer, with months and years and tears, and a bit easier to make room for....not as a friend....more like toleration for its part .

  • @cathyhamilton4718

    @cathyhamilton4718

    Жыл бұрын

    Sharon, I lost my daughter. She was 23. I also feel grief never leaves us, but morphs into a manageable part of our everyday life. I’m a Christian also and that has always given be the will and hope to go on.

  • @susiemartin6497

    @susiemartin6497

    Жыл бұрын

    wow, what a beautiful testimony to truth, transparency and weakness when we are supposed to be "strong" (I am a Christian also). May God bless you as you share and love on those in your circle of influence, Sharon. My dear in laws lost their precious oldest son in a farming accident (years ago) at the age of 4. My MIL told me that she was wracked with grief, though she had to carry on for the other children and family. As time went by, She became active in our community, being someone who was a first responder if/when a child died unexpectedly. My mother in law would visit people she didn't know at the drop of a hat, because someone called her that a child had died in an accident. She was a soothing balm to that heartbroken parent because she UNDERSTOOD. I pray that God will place perfect people in your life who KNOW your pain in that most terrible and yet intimate way. I am praying for you now as I type this. Godspeed, friend.

  • @lindavernon8051

    @lindavernon8051

    Жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful comment. It is a gift to me. Bless you very very much!!

  • @peggybaggenstoss3817

    @peggybaggenstoss3817

    Жыл бұрын

    I lost a brother to his 3 rd heart attack when he was 48. I still miss him and occasionally talk to him. We were very close emotionally. When I see a bright red cardinal outside my window I say out loud” thank you brother for checking on me”. ❤️

  • @tweetybird4347

    @tweetybird4347

    Жыл бұрын

    I can relate. I lost my brother when he was 60 years old. I miss him so much, as we were also very close. I, too, have bright red cardinals appear occasionally in my yard and I always equate it to him checking on me. I am sorry for the loss of your brother and am sending you a sincere virtual hug.

  • @valtovey3676
    @valtovey3676 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this Margaret. This time last year our 30 year old son tried to take his own life. It was saved - just. Very traumatic, we were badly shaken. I never dreamed that a year on we’d be anywhere near healed. But we all came through it. We were offered counselling but at the time we felt too numb to tell our problems to a stranger. There was too much to process. He’s turned his life around, has his own flat, passed his driving test and has just got a job helping others with what he’s been through. I’m so proud of him. Also very proud to be a member of your channel. Your videos really help. Sending love xx

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    So happy for you Val - what a hard journey and beautiful mom you are!

  • @steveplummer4552

    @steveplummer4552

    Жыл бұрын

    Lying in your loving arms is gonna be heaven on earth.....gosh your so adorable On this day, I vow to be completely yours forever.I crown you the Queen of my heart.....plz give us a chance 🙏

  • @arielleswinkels982
    @arielleswinkels982 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your wise words. My funny, loving, adventurous, marvelous 33 year old son died last May, only 6 months ago, practicing extreme sports. I miss him so very much but I also know that I have to be strong and enjoy my time although it has to be without him. I retired a month ago and we had many plans of going hiking in the mountains together. I somehow know he is out there, wanting me to enjoy my time and be happy. That's what makes me being able to cope with this tremendous loss. I want to send my love and hugs to all the mothers that have lost a child.

  • @gildasomia3461

    @gildasomia3461

    6 ай бұрын

    I lost my son 4 years ago, the pain never leaves ❤️‍🩹

  • @lizmartin418
    @lizmartin418 Жыл бұрын

    6 years ago my husband had a surgery that caused a major stroke. His left side is totally disabled. He went from a normal functioning man to being totally disabled in a minute. He was in neuro ICU for 2 weeks and in patient rehab for 4 months. There were many times that we didn’t think that he would Survive but he did. When he came home we had to accept a new life. He was permanently disabled and I became a full time caregiver. I cried every day for a year. We cannot put our sorrows behind us. We must deal with them every day. We still grieve ours losses every day but move on to the next day.

  • @jenniferwells9032
    @jenniferwells9032 Жыл бұрын

    I’m 70 plus. All the time covid was news👎 my youngest child fought for her life with stage 4 cancer🥲 it was pure horror🥲 but her twin gave his stem cells which is another level from chemo. She survived 🙏❤️❤️ thnx god, prayers and my baby girl (mum of 2 boys) and she’s thriving. OMG I’m so happy

  • @elizabethwallace-donnelly.2356

    @elizabethwallace-donnelly.2356

    7 ай бұрын

    🙏🙏🙏💓💓💓💓

  • @m.mercedesalonsosevilla2090

    @m.mercedesalonsosevilla2090

    2 ай бұрын

    Sí Happy for you

  • @missydevore6385

    @missydevore6385

    2 ай бұрын

    I have had grief and, still do. I did hear someone say”Grief Is Love with no where to go. This I keep in my ❤.

  • @ellenbedford3888
    @ellenbedford3888 Жыл бұрын

    I ended up having to leave my job because of medical reasons, and on full time disability in 2019. We were taking care of my stepson - he stopped working, he has a couple issues, but my husband babies him. He is 45, won’t work, and doesn’t qualify for disability, so my husband pretty much gives him what he wants. It really put major strain on our marriage, and after 13 years we separated. I was put last, and enough was enough. I’ll be 62 January 9th. There are days I’m relieved, but other days scared to death. This was my 2nd marriage (the first was an alcoholic and verbally abusive), and never thought I’d be dealing with divorce again. Everyday I think of the pros and positive things in my life; I’ve gone back to church; and trying to do things I can do with my disability. Best wishes and positive happy thoughts to everyone! ❤

  • @Jenifer_G

    @Jenifer_G

    Жыл бұрын

    Ellen, keep looking forward, things definately improve, when I was struck down with a serious sickness, years ago, one thing I did to help myself was to go and watch ballroom dancing, at no cost. Best to you.

  • @denacollins352

    @denacollins352

    Жыл бұрын

    Get up, take a walk, be physically active. Don't set and be depressed. I go to the swimming pool 4 times a week for water exercises. Join a book club, I go to a church that has speakers and the library also has speakers. Iook forward don't look back.

  • @zanpsimer7685
    @zanpsimer7685 Жыл бұрын

    Yes! This! I’ve experienced crisis after crisis since 2015. Trying to navigate thru it all without becoming bitter.

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Zan, it's been a very rough year this year, but actually, it's been since 2015 here, too. I feel very overwhelmed, so I understand.

  • @zanpsimer7685

    @zanpsimer7685

    Жыл бұрын

    @@roseyc.5846 I know you get it. My heart goes out to you. Comfort and Peace my Sister ❤️

  • @steveplummer4552

    @steveplummer4552

    Жыл бұрын

    @@zanpsimer7685 You may not be perfect, you are flawed like all humans.You'll fit perfectly snug in my arms for all eternity, can we have a conversation

  • @sweetypatnett6123
    @sweetypatnett6123 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks Margaret, I still coping with the loss of my beautiful mother, brother and loving husband. Prayers🙏🙏 changes things and heal the mind. I enjoyed listening to your kind words. You're a woman of great wisdom. Thanks!!!🙏💖🙏

  • @summerrosebooks
    @summerrosebooks Жыл бұрын

    It is a privilege to read all these heart felt comments. Deaths, loss, fear this year has been such a challenge. I find strength and courage in giving myself permission to go to simple pleasures like tea in the garden. No problem solving, just open to bird song and sun. I don't look to be fixed, just to be in a bigger love .

  • @cathyhuffman7611
    @cathyhuffman7611 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this channel. My mother passed at 63 which is now 21 yrs ago. So I didn't no how to be 60s. Now I am going to be 66 this yr in July and still trying to deal with the estrangement from my daughter 5 yrs ago.

  • @tamc6474
    @tamc6474 Жыл бұрын

    "Even Blue Birds Sing" a true story of grief I would like to recommend , thank you

  • @annabellecork8487
    @annabellecork8487 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Margaret my husband passed away last 27 November 2022 . And lit just helpful that you’ve touched this topic thank you again.

  • @malkaz9167
    @malkaz91678 ай бұрын

    There is nothing more difficult in life than losing someone you love. What helps the most for me is knowing how others have coped. Thank you, everyone, for helping me get through this life without the loved ones I have lost.

  • @juliemartin5397
    @juliemartin5397 Жыл бұрын

    My beloved eldest sister 13 years older than me died 17 years ago aged 56 on..... Christmas Eve. Unexpected when my husband told me I screamed and wet myself on the spot wall of shock. TMI but that's real life. Therapy and time heals but you live around it you never get over it. My niece was left without mum, but my other sister and I became surrogates mums. There is always joy remembering my beloved ❤️💐

  • @peggybaggenstoss3817

    @peggybaggenstoss3817

    Жыл бұрын

    My condolences to you and your family as you move forward in life. The day and time of day I received the call my brother had unexpectedly passed away was the time of day he’d said he’d call me after he’d been a pallbearer at his sister by law’s funeral. He died shortly after the funeral.

  • @nancyciampa3485
    @nancyciampa3485 Жыл бұрын

    I've been broken and still feel like I'm breaking.

  • @sarahm3614

    @sarahm3614

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too.

  • @lindapowell2397
    @lindapowell2397 Жыл бұрын

    Thankful for seeing this post today. A week today, my Granddaughter was killed in a horrible car accident...31yo. I don't know how we'll recover from this. Seeing the grief & sorrow my son & daughter n law are going through is as bad as the grief I feel. I feel helpless to comfort them. 😢 Prayers & God...❤

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh my goodness, Linda I can’t possibly imagine what you’re going through. How terrible. There’s no words really I could share just my love and desire that you find peace with all of this. My heart is breaking for you. Please take care of yourself. Sending you lots of love.

  • @lindavernon8051
    @lindavernon8051 Жыл бұрын

    What a great pep talk to wake up to this morning. There’s something sweet about grief. It breaks your heart but the crack makes it more open and suddenly you feel true compassion for the whole human race. I can only see the top of your head in the video but if you were to pan the camera out, I could see your halo. You are a shining light. Thank you.

  • @gildasomia3461
    @gildasomia34616 ай бұрын

    Thanking you Margaret, just reviewing this podcast 🌹Life can & does bring us to our knees 💖

  • @EC-yd9yv

    @EC-yd9yv

    5 ай бұрын

    🌺💖🙏✨✨

  • @susanperkins5465
    @susanperkins54654 ай бұрын

    thank you i need to hear your words. i have gone throuh divorce illness, lost most of my friends. shunned by my family. my ex emotionally abused me and used our sons like a human shield. and more. i live with chronic anxiety and depression and childhood trauma and abuse. wow. i sound worse on paper. i was happy and creative,j loving great sense of humour. you are helping me to deal with my life and struggles. my goal is to thrive. i am grateful for your words. they are helping me to climb out of this rabbit hole and and have a good, meaningful and loving existance

  • @lindadupuis1531
    @lindadupuis1531 Жыл бұрын

    I’m going through a crisis with my relationship with my daughter. She’s always had a tendency to treat me awful. It seems to come when she’s stressed out. I

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Linda: Same here; you're not alone.

  • @sharonallenberry6588

    @sharonallenberry6588

    Жыл бұрын

    @@roseyc.5846 Same here with both my adult daughters, and son a few yrs ago, I cry a lot

  • @maryzatko5661

    @maryzatko5661

    Жыл бұрын

    Me, too. I miss my 8 year old grandson

  • @oliviacasino8888

    @oliviacasino8888

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here…you gals are certainly not alone. This time of year is always the hardest to cope. My heart sends love.

  • @melp8175

    @melp8175

    Жыл бұрын

    Same, mine left the house. You need to focus on you and get therapy or a good friend to help you. It’s awful ❤

  • @MsPea
    @MsPea Жыл бұрын

    When I got divorced, I was overwhelmed. I was broken just as Margaret says. But a friend of mine reminded me that I would not always feel that way. That really reached me. I would often repeat that to myself when I felt the grief so much. Just saying to myself that I will not always be engulfed in sadness just reminded me that there was another side, and I would reach it. And I did.

  • @Pearl2677
    @Pearl2677 Жыл бұрын

    Dear Margaret ❤️You truly amaze me with your brave topics. Deep and disturbing, but a good way. 🤗Life is cruel sometimes , it can change forever in a split second. The hardest thing is the acceptance. Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone 😊Take care ❤️Pearl

  • @dramathompson9053
    @dramathompson9053 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Margaret! I won’t share my crisis, but truly am grateful for this video and for You!

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad it was helpful!

  • @gennab.3504
    @gennab.3504 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for another thoughtful video. I am going through the process of getting older and losing the benefits of being part of the working, busy group of people. I now think often of the older people I knew when I was very busy, working, raising my family, lots of social activity. My husband is depressed and I am looking for groups he can join to get him going. Socialization is important to our well being.

  • @gildasomia3461

    @gildasomia3461

    Жыл бұрын

    Probus is an amazing group for retired people 😍

  • @ohdear2275
    @ohdear2275 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful message today. Thank you so much for all the positive uplifting advice and tips. I felt exactly as you described after my 30 year marriage ended in 2007. It wasn't my choice. And i had another serious 3 year relationship end since which left me devastated (in every way, even to my HORROR, financially, as I found myself jobless and homeless during the height of Covid pre-vaccine!), and I still feel quite broken and ashamed for having been so foolishly trusting and naive. My best advice is to talk with someone about your feelings. Sure, share with those who love you, but talking to a professional helps. Or get involved in a support group. And take the time you need to heal. Don't feel pressured. Don't pressure yourself, either. We grieve. We're human. It can take years. That's okay. That's time invested in your healing. Journaling is good, too. Even if you feel devastated and alone, be good to yourself. Treat yourself with the same patience and kindness you'd show people you care about. Blessings to all!

  • @Mint-he5ok

    @Mint-he5ok

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh Dear, I am sorry for your grief. You’ve helped us all with your openness and honesty. I think your advice is right on! I try to do the things you mention. Thank you. Love to you!

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful comments thank you.

  • @ohdear2275

    @ohdear2275

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Mint-he5ok Thank you. I'm glad you're on a positive track. I'm wishing you love, health, and happiness!

  • @ohdear2275

    @ohdear2275

    Жыл бұрын

    @@sixtyandme Thank you so much, dear Margaret. You're a delightful and beautiful lady. P.S. Your hair and makeup are beautiful. Those colors are perfect on you. Your top, everything! And thank you again for all you give to us from your heart. ♥️

  • @kimsweeten1849

    @kimsweeten1849

    Жыл бұрын

    Margaret … Thank You for bringing peace, positivity, and words of wisdom to our world!

  • @julielewisizame
    @julielewisizame Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for making this video. It really hit me to the core of my being. Post-traumatic regrowth is a wonderful phrase that I shall carry with me. Hope is a hard word after trauma. Spirits can be lifted. I hope you/your subscribers can touch on this subject in the future. I know I'm interested. When my husband died, I broke. Life has been quite a difficult challenge for us, my daughter who is 41 and disabled and I. I'm 61. Thank you x

  • @amandahunter4034
    @amandahunter4034 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Margaret. Wise words, especially the idea of Post Traumatic Growth. I went through a crisis in my mid-late 50s that turned my life as I knew it upside down. I went through a long, difficult divorce trying to cope with what I'd found out and try to keep things together financially. It was a deep shock, but I survived it and have had to learn to adjust, and I'm still learning. One of the things I found most useful was keeping a positive journal - writing down a list of positives in each day, no matter how few or tiny. Write it in the evening, or add to it at any time when you notice a positive, and read the previous day's list before getting up in the morning. It doesn't make the pain go away, but it encourages you to get up each day and reminds you that normal life, with all its ups as well as downs, is still out there and one day you will rejoin it. At first it's quite hard to do, but soon you start looking for positives to put on your list and that's the whole point. It helps make you live again. I still keep my daily journal - now it's much broader than daily lists of positives, but it's a habit that has helped me get troublesome thoughts out of my head and make sense of them and know for sure that positive things do happen to all of us every day. Also, even in your lowest moments, treat yourself kindly as you would a friend who was going through a similar experience. x

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Amanda for sharing! ❤️

  • @roseyc.5846
    @roseyc.5846 Жыл бұрын

    The loss of my husband when I was 43 was a Big One, Margaret. But, I had the kids still at home (they were 18 and almost 20) really helped me. Plus, my mom was alive, and, I had a good support system of friends. I still miss my husband, almost thirty years later. Last Christmas, there was some family trouble; my son and daughter are no longer speaking. And, my relationship with her, strained over the past years, has become more distant. She also stopped speaking to me for almost six months after the incident. It took a huge toll on me. My keeping the family together was absolutely everything. But, things don't always work out as we hope. I'm still suffering with the depression and anxiety, but, trying to go forward with prayer and mindfulness. Thank you for a wonderful topic..love and blessings! ❤️ Rosemarie 🌹

  • @hollyo6486

    @hollyo6486

    Жыл бұрын

    I could've written this. The stress, depression and anxiety are so debilitating. However trying hard to keep going and praying a lot

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Holly O Prayers up for all of us going through this. There are times I still feel I'll never come back from it. 🙏🏻

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Holly O Beautifully said! The daily struggle against the depression and anxiety, the sheer "weight" of it, feels sometimes impossible to bear. We are all part of this wonderful community family here. Prayers and hugs..we will make it! Rosemarie ❤️

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Rosey ❤️

  • @sixtyandme
    @sixtyandme Жыл бұрын

    Have you ever had to deal with crisis? What did you do to help navigate the way forward? What kind of growth did you experience? Please share and inspire the sisters in our Sixty and Me community. We are here for each other.

  • @melp8175

    @melp8175

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks Margaret! I unfortunately have lost my hubs at a young age and my parents and brother who was my best friend . I struggle to survive with adult (now) twins. I just had a long overdue knee replaced and am back to working part time, but in this economy (US) I’m in need if a full time job . It is a struggle when no one can help,financially. I’m moving forward, as always ❤

  • @bnosnebkram

    @bnosnebkram

    Жыл бұрын

    Hello Margaret, by chance today I watched your video re. the sadness of coping with the downsides of life, I can resonate with your words, too many sad times in my life to mention, also keeping a lot of happenings in my mind which from time to time jumps into my my mind and is disturbing to me. I so wish that I had the capability to bury these sad times forever, however, not so. I am able to, most days, live my life happily, with each and everyone of us, there is always, always a sadder story to be heard. Apologies, I am waffling..... just wanted to say, thank you for your wisdom, so glad I found your web site. Blessings x

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    @@bnosnebkram you are very welcome - thank you for sharing your perspective 🌺

  • @laurawalker546

    @laurawalker546

    Жыл бұрын

    In a space of 3 years around the 2008 financial crash, I went through a shock divorce after being married for 30 years, my father died, my aunt died and my youngest sister died. I needed therapy and a group support system through a church called divorce Care and also grief share which are weeks of a program that help you sort through many things. That helped me a lot. However because I was grieving, I was not in my right mind so I did make a lot of bad decisions which put me in a more precarious position. It takes a long time to heal, and I certainly cried for 2 or 3 years on a consistent basis, and in public or privately depending on what triggered it or made me fearful or sad, and on top of that I got a case of Lyme disease which was debilitating and also was very frightening. I felt like there were no breaks in life. I was frightened and heartbroken. I am glad to say now I am in a much better place. I certainly appreciate life a lot more now. I also am stronger but I remember all the little details of grieving and panicking, and negative feelings that I had. And one has to face all of it and work through it to get to the other side. It is a lonely road that grieving creates but we certainly do grow from it and our lives are transformed. Rebuilding happens little by little, it cannot be rushed. And it is important not to expect too much out of oneself, and to try not to make any big decisions that will impact your life in a long-term way.

  • @grumander5378

    @grumander5378

    2 ай бұрын

    Your post was so brilliant and touching and helpful. Thank you x

  • @pamelamoore6239
    @pamelamoore6239 Жыл бұрын

    The grief of estrangement seems ongoing and never seems to end. How does one cope?

  • @theunspeakable24
    @theunspeakable24 Жыл бұрын

    Yes. The most important thing is to remember that rebuilding can be done. You are going to grow anyway, might as well grow towards your best hopes and dreams.

  • @marydietterich5968
    @marydietterich5968 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful message from a wonderful lady

  • @barbarahughes9401
    @barbarahughes9401 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this talk. Plus also, you are beautiful inside and out, and the make-up and clothing/jewelry colors look fabulous on you.

  • @steveplummer4552

    @steveplummer4552

    Жыл бұрын

    You may not be perfect, you are flawed like all humans.You'll fit perfectly snug in my arms for all eternity, can we have a conversation?

  • @harrietlovejoy3424
    @harrietlovejoy3424 Жыл бұрын

    Another wonderful message! I’m loving your vlogs and this community.

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Margaret is true gem; we love and appreciate her! 🤗❤️🌹

  • @hisforever4937
    @hisforever4937 Жыл бұрын

    Ty. This was very helpful for me. However I find it so difficult to not feel like I’m failing bc I still cry often and am generally apathetic and sad after loss of relationship with adult child and Grandkids💔 and it’s been 3 years and still cry often. I’m not the same person and that makes me even more sad.

  • @sarahm3614

    @sarahm3614

    Жыл бұрын

    You're not alone.

  • @annettehansen6329

    @annettehansen6329

    Жыл бұрын

    You are no alone. My daughter and I doesn’t want a relationship with me because I voted different than her and I can’t talk to my granddaughters. It’s been three years and every night I cry.

  • @marnasorensen988
    @marnasorensen988 Жыл бұрын

    I just listened to this again. Thank you Margaret.

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    You're very welcome

  • @nitroriley857
    @nitroriley857 Жыл бұрын

    Really lovely thoughts. Thank you.

  • @janine1517
    @janine1517 Жыл бұрын

    Such wise, lovely, heartfelt and reassuring words Margaret. I've always found it so easy to be a friend to my friends but hard on myself, giving yourself permission to grieve and to be kind to yourself really struck a chord x

  • @janine1517

    @janine1517

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi Margaret, I read in an earlier post about a lady who' d received a scam message from you about claiming a prize. I've had a similar message attached to my previous comment, thought you would like to know. Sadly, 'tis the season for scammers, this has been happening on other sites as well.

  • @myattt7173
    @myattt71738 ай бұрын

    I am so grateful for all your videos ❤

  • @karengagnon831
    @karengagnon8319 ай бұрын

    I love this group I have gotten divorce after 46 years together it is a challenge but every day I feel like a make a step forward everyday but it isn’t easy. I’m just taking one step at a time praying next year will be easier. The divorce from my husband I have learned to accept not it is just managing my finances and getting them organized

  • @silviasegev3645
    @silviasegev3645Ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for your insight ❤❤

  • @peggybaggenstoss3817
    @peggybaggenstoss3817 Жыл бұрын

    At age 39, after 20 years of marriage came my divorce after 19 years of my trying to improve a relationship that husband didn’t want. My deep grief came when our grandchildren were being born. I mourned that we weren’t going to enjoy the grandchildren together and make memories with them together. Even though he’s passed away and each moved on after the divorce, I can still go back to reminiscing our good times amidst the troubles and feel an emptiness of the things we didn’t get to share in our older years.

  • @jdk5379
    @jdk5379 Жыл бұрын

    Thank You, Margaret😘

  • @terri4353
    @terri4353 Жыл бұрын

    Great talk. Thanks! ❤

  • @evaclaudialeiner1255
    @evaclaudialeiner1255 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @dotsyjmaher
    @dotsyjmaher Жыл бұрын

    VERY helpful..thank you...

  • @littlemissy8356
    @littlemissy8356 Жыл бұрын

    Hair looks really good.

  • @millig8980
    @millig8980 Жыл бұрын

    I clicked your post only to look at your makeup 🤣🤣🤣🤣. That lipstick colour is stunning 😍

  • @teresarasnick547
    @teresarasnick547 Жыл бұрын

    Ty. God Bless

  • @minniestevenson2993
    @minniestevenson2993 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for you. It seems that you are helping me more than my therapist. Last year I loss my sister my nephew then my son , with in seven months am having such a hard time still , I cry everyday I miss my so so much he was 41. I don't know what to do.

  • @dniki2152

    @dniki2152

    Жыл бұрын

    Try to find an organization with young ir pls people in need and give your love, so many people just need a caring word and your love needs an outlet, bless your sons soul, so sad

  • @connietristao1913

    @connietristao1913

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm so very sorry for your losses. Prayers tonight for all of you amazing, strong women.❤

  • @lindavernon8051

    @lindavernon8051

    Жыл бұрын

    Put one foot in front of the other, Minnie. You can do it! You CAN do it!!

  • @arielsea9087

    @arielsea9087

    Жыл бұрын

    Try to find joy in the memories you have. One day you’ll see him again in the resurrection. In the meantime be glad for each day and try to connect with friends and meet new people that have similar goals as you. Life is to be lived.

  • @minniestevenson2993

    @minniestevenson2993

    Жыл бұрын

    @@arielsea9087 thank you so much. Are you one of Jehovah's witnesses if you are so am I. Thank you my sister ❤️

  • @ranatavakoli-azar7554
    @ranatavakoli-azar7554 Жыл бұрын

    I was single mother ,I had nobody except my child ,Now that I am older I am dealing with cancer for 4 years . Life is tough

  • @gildasomia3461
    @gildasomia3461 Жыл бұрын

    Fabulous ❤️

  • @alexismundy5893
    @alexismundy5893 Жыл бұрын

    I lost my son Andrew at 30, 15 months ago to suicide! I am devastated and really struggling!

  • @doriswhyte1931

    @doriswhyte1931

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi Alexis, I too lost a son but it was to a drug overdose. He died on his 38th birthday nearly 6 years ago. I can understand your devastation. The deep heartfelt pain is something that will ease with time but the sadness of their loss will never go away. It feels this way because of the love we have for our children even though they brought us tremendous devastation. I know that you feel that somehow you should have been able to do more or say something that would have changed the outcome but I know that in my case, there was nothing I could have done and I suspect that you still feel tortured by his loss. When my son Russell died I thought that I might die too and am surprised that I survived. As a mum we feel that we can and should be able to deal with our children’s worries, fears etc but in reality it’s impossible. Both of our sons are part of us but they were also independent men and the choices they made were made by them not us. I think of Russell daily and would have moved heaven and earth to keep him safe, however he has given me 2 beautiful granddaughters and I thank God for this gift he left me with. I have a strong faith that tells me I will meet again with my much loved son and that this time of separation is only temporary. I will pray for you, that you will find a way to go on with life as your beloved son would have wanted you to and that you will find peace with time. Doris x

  • @sarahm3614

    @sarahm3614

    Жыл бұрын

    @@doriswhyte1931 I am sincerely sorry for your experience. Have you found Alliance of Hope? It is a well written newsletter and community of people who are also grieving in suicide loss.

  • @Earthtime3978
    @Earthtime39783 ай бұрын

    There’s no recovering from landing on SSDI at 60 from a work injury unless you have a boatload of money. You live with financial fear and worry daily. Every day you’re on the verge of ending up homeless and hungry.

  • @devasadhvi
    @devasadhvi Жыл бұрын

    Living with Covid seems like a tragedy also.

  • @Rose_1212
    @Rose_1212 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Margaret. Have you got a link to Harriet - that you mentioned. I did look through your list of links but couldn't find it! My apologies if it's listed & I've missed it. Regards. Rose

  • @sherylW315
    @sherylW315 Жыл бұрын

    I disagree with you that if you don’t grieve a loss deeply then it wasn’t love. That may be true for you but I don’t think you can measure the depth of love by your level of grief.

  • @susanprentice9668
    @susanprentice966811 ай бұрын

    I do lik you and you are so normal

  • @suzette2855
    @suzette2855 Жыл бұрын

  • @suzanneadamson1306
    @suzanneadamson1306 Жыл бұрын

    Grateful for you. If only we didn't live in ageist America, things might be easier, too.

  • @joan7562

    @joan7562

    Жыл бұрын

    dont let ageists determine your existence, never think of age, one else has to approve ,

  • @sarahm3614

    @sarahm3614

    Жыл бұрын

    If you eat a lot of carbs, the flavors of things wont be enjoyable. Since I gave up sugars I have developed a taste for many healthy foods I used to not like. I love blueberries, but I get the frozen organic ones. I used to eat them with chocolate (sweetened with stevia). I now enjoy organic creamy peanut butter on them. Go figure.

  • @carlenefreney4781
    @carlenefreney4781 Жыл бұрын

    💜

  • @peggylasala2988
    @peggylasala29888 ай бұрын

    I am 66 and lost my husband to cancer

  • @EC-yd9yv

    @EC-yd9yv

    5 ай бұрын

    🌺🙏✨

  • @sjlewis51
    @sjlewis51 Жыл бұрын

    I am writing a short book called AGED. How to find romance in the 70,80,90’s. How to transform yourself from a wilting flower to an eternal song. I would love to talk with you about this book. Would you have anytime to talk with me about it?

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi Susan, not able to help personally, but there are so many wonderful people who focus on aging and relationships. Also we do have a blogger program you might be interested in. Details on our website at the bottom of the home page.

  • @roseyc.5846

    @roseyc.5846

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, by all means..I'd LOVE to hear. Are you a couple? All my experience has been with these older men lusting after MUCH younger women, ignoring the rest of us who have so much to offer. If there's some secret, I'd like to know, but, most of this stuff is just Pollyanna, don't give up, blah blah. Truth is, these old guys don't even SEE us anymore..just the "Kardashian style" young girls. 😐

  • @jackietaylor7240

    @jackietaylor7240

    Жыл бұрын

    I LOVE the term Post Traumatic Growth ... A new word for the new me 😀. Love the brand new word Love the brand new me!!!! Blessings everyone xxx

  • @laurasharp9488
    @laurasharp9488 Жыл бұрын

    Take a final destination trip?

  • @stephanietorres5679
    @stephanietorres5679 Жыл бұрын

    Coming: correction.

  • @debra832
    @debra8329 ай бұрын

    Margaret, could you please send me the link to your patron group Debra

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    9 ай бұрын

    Yes it’s www.patreon.com/sixtyandme

  • @bramielubbe7510
    @bramielubbe7510 Жыл бұрын

    Margaret come visit me in South Africa. I'm serious....

  • @annosullivan1347
    @annosullivan13478 ай бұрын

    🇮🇪💕🥰.

  • @dianew6955
    @dianew6955 Жыл бұрын

    Do you know that your channel said I had won something and it’s a scam. Got me for over 200$ and want more! I am totally grieving

  • @sixtyandme

    @sixtyandme

    Жыл бұрын

    Diane. I am so sorry that you had this experience. I am not sure what prize you were expecting to get. What did you think you had won? If you had left a message in the comments section of a video which one was it? I always mentioned how a winner will be announced and warn women not to follow up on any WhatsApp, or other approaches. Where did you leave a comment that indicated that you wanted to be considered for a giveaway? I only have done this once in the last six months, and that in a brand new video has not even been published yet.

  • @dianew6955

    @dianew6955

    Жыл бұрын

    @@sixtyandme They said it was for commenting on your Lurzern video. Then to DM them on Telegram. It escalated from there. I take responsibility for not seeing red flags. I was under a lot of pressure at time and obviously not thinking clearly. Thought you should know it happened. I am doing what I can to recover monies and whatever else I can.

  • @reneewilson3320
    @reneewilson3320 Жыл бұрын

    Christian Healing Rooms are available for prayer. These "trauma" centers are located all over the United States. The results are exceptional! I've been healed of diabetes, pinched nerve, anxiety and stress disorder and more! Google these centers for help right away! 🌄✝️✝️

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