"I've never even met a guy shorter than me." You never noticed the guys shorter than you.

@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457

3 жыл бұрын

Everyone noticed Prince...he was shorter than 90% of all women. Height never maketh the man. Some of greatest men to have ever graced earth were short ass men

@bugeyes5396

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 So one guy out of 7 billion who happens to be in ultra successful musician and famous celebrity.. Yeah I am pretty sure his life isn't like anyone else who looks like him.. And your talking to men not women here so we don't need a few exceptions to the rule, we know they exist, that doesn't break the rule. It is a generalization, and accurate.. most women want a man taller than them period. I'm not short, I'm average and yes I've dated taller women, I married a women taller than me lol.. but it doesn't happen often.

@Sammie551

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder what her height is

@waifuconnoisseur4789

3 жыл бұрын

@@Sammie551 she said she was 5'5. I'll admit finding a shorter guy would be difficult but I've definitely known several and I'm about her age. It could be a location thing

@Sammie551

3 жыл бұрын

@@waifuconnoisseur4789 True

Give her the Moon and the stars and she'll ask for some space.

@j-the-isso2087

2 жыл бұрын

Because you cant appreciate a star without space.

@FFE-js2zp

2 жыл бұрын

@@j-the-isso2087 Or checkout the all the other ones in orbit.

@inihilisme1511

2 жыл бұрын

@@FFE-js2zp Well, if you litteraly give her a object moon and a random stars, she will ask you to have the full object of the space, seem legit.

@collinsa8909

2 жыл бұрын

So funny

@evanroberts2771

2 жыл бұрын

Men ask for space and women think we're seeing someone else....

I'm 5'4" and I dated a girl who was 5'9" in college. She asked me if it bothered me, and I said it doesn't bother me at all. It would only bother me if it bothers you. Then she asked me why not. I thought for a bit and then I said, "Well, from my perspective, there's more of you to touch." She laughed. :)

@RR-et6zp

Жыл бұрын

that was another test

@BleubertholWScott

Жыл бұрын

LOL, that was a very good response. I will use that one brother. Thank you!

@mikeypaiz6200

Жыл бұрын

that shit was cold ngl🤣

@ThisIsMattsLife

Жыл бұрын

Short King

@adamdzwoniarek3841

Жыл бұрын

I guess you passed that shit test :)

Whether a man or a woman, the problem starts as soon as the phrase “I want” is uttered… The ability to compromise, accept people for their quirks or look past imperfections is a modern cancer on dating. Our 21st Century expectations are ridiculous to the point of counterproductive.

@rasmachris94

Жыл бұрын

I ran the numbers while back and it's concentric circles of qualities. People over 6ft are 15% of the us population. People earning over 100,000 in the us is 9%. Assuming an even distribution of attractiveness rated from 1-10, 30% of the population are above average attractiveness based on female standards. This means that women are looking for fractions of a percent of the population to settle down with before personal qualities or demands; Specifically it's 0.405% of the population. With the US's population of 340,000,000 and a very close to 50-50 split of genders. This equates to 685,037 men. And this number is more than fair given that women have more stringent attraction standards. That the population is distributed on a bell curve, not 10% across the board for attractiveness. And whatever arbitrary standards they apply remove EVEN more men. It's absurd. Many women are ruining their own chance at happy relationships.

@brandonschwab3692

Жыл бұрын

@@rasmachris94 I believe taller guys make more money on average than shorter guys. I would put money on it, for one already majority of sports players are over 6 foot tall probably 95% so already that would put a lot of millionaires in that category for starters. So I get some hgh if u short and hit A growth spurt.

@worm_and_no_man

Жыл бұрын

avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.

@gordongekko2781

Жыл бұрын

@@rasmachris94 A few years ago I calculated the numbers on myself. Based on height, appearance, wealth, and IQ, I determined that I'm 1 in 31,250. I then made a Venn diagram and posted it with the math on my dating profile to see what would happen. Needless to say my likes dried up. Women actually unmatched with me. Haha! I wasn't surprised, but it's very telling that women have that much aversion to a man who knows his own value. It is interesting how the statistics work. If you put me in a stadium with 30,000 random bachelors do I really think I'd be the ladies' top pick? Of course not. The math would suggest I should be top of the heap, but I can't even get a date on Bumble. In reality women are far more shallow than they admit. So, we can toss out the Venn Diagrams because we know all of the men who are a 9 or 10 in handsomeness would be chosen first. So, for example if you happen to look like Brad Pitt, then the ladies really wouldn't care if you're dumb as a rock or have no sense of humor. Or, if you live in a 8-bedroom mansion with a swimming pool, then you can be 5'5" and still get a good wife. Question: What percentage of the male population do you think is at least six feet tall, has *AVERAGE* looks, *AVERAGE* personality, *AVERAGE* wealth, and are unmarried? Answer: Less than 1%. {14.5% x 50% x 50% x 50% x 45% = 0.8%}

@bogumiljanowskiweb

Жыл бұрын

@@rasmachris94 we are fucked. We are going to share the fate of romans.

I love the subtle or unrealized honesty... "I've never dated a guy who was shorter than me, i've never even met a guy shorter than me." Its because those men are invisible to you sweetie.

@raducoc

2 жыл бұрын

Almost all the womens in my life was taller than me! They liked me because I am much more confident than the taller guys! For some womens the height matters but others cares more about your behaviour!

@johnserosanguineous1886

2 жыл бұрын

@@danitiwa “I” ≠ “all of us.”

@ciegosanchez5289

2 жыл бұрын

Nah tbh there’s not a lot of guys shorter than 5’6 5’5. There is, but it gets to be quite rare and even if she sees them it isn’t always an interaction

@phxboy3688

2 жыл бұрын

She cap on that one

@mauroalves317

2 жыл бұрын

indeed. I want to share a short story about this....i have this friend that claims herself as feminist to the fullest....and one day she tells me that she does not date shorter man!1i was shocked by this....iand my question was ...if a guy likes big boobs and refuses someoen for not having it hes a douche a pig whatever but if a girl claims that shorter man no all good? its insane ! no matter how good guy how cool like you said invisible!!and above all theres nothing anyone can do in regards to that!! this is stupid and duality and hipocrisy to the fullest!!!!

Great video, I'm going to share on my Patreon :)

@ApolloX_Games

3 жыл бұрын

Your videos bring me frustration but clarification!

@thisguy7976

3 жыл бұрын

You're one of my favorite KZreadrs because you speak with conviction and back it up with data. No hatred, no b.s., just truth. Keep up the good work brother 👌🏾.

@maverickstarreloaded463

3 жыл бұрын

i think courtney is a gold digger Alex i do like what she is trying to do though..... help

@estongarmstrong6524

3 жыл бұрын

Alexander Grace make a reaction video on this reaction video lul

@heyhey9282

3 жыл бұрын

Nice Video, You got new subscriber 👍

1- 7:23 Hot 2- 8:48 Taller (than the girl) 3- 10:02 Good in Bed 4- 10:27 Wealthy 5- 12:41 Preselected 6- 14:15 Status 7- 16:08 Body Confidence 8- 17:25 Older (than the girl) 9- 18:22 Independent

@rs-ss

Жыл бұрын

They will never get🤣🤣

@tennisace40

Жыл бұрын

You can just put number 4 number 1. Its not even close.

@lukaskucerik3751

Жыл бұрын

I can add if men is smarter she don't want him 👍

@Radnick0024

Жыл бұрын

@@lukaskucerik3751 These were just chapter markers, but yeah fr haha

@patienceobongo

Жыл бұрын

Alex is speaking generally. She is just giving her personal opinions

Alexander Grace is right 100%. In fact, Courtney Ryan's videos are so successful because she is one of the few women who tells the truth about women. That theme fills the comments of all her KZread videos.

"What we say and want we want are completely different" -- glad there's a woman out there who understands that.

@guestuser3182

2 жыл бұрын

⚠️INCEL ALERT INCLE ALERT⚠️

@prex327

2 жыл бұрын

We all understand that... it's only white. I mean right.

@jcruisioso5975

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the translation . Lol “Say & Want”, I’m taking notes.

@jmenhart9730

2 жыл бұрын

This is why guys rip their hair out when it comes to dating, they ask a logical question in guy language (objective, dry, logical) then get a reply in womanese (covert, coy, subtexts). Men think women are just as rational and dry as men are, and women don’t understand why guys can’t read the hidden signals.

@jmenhart9730

2 жыл бұрын

But if you’re a guy, you’re supposed to “say what you mean, and mean what you say.” 🤔

Hahah and all most guys want is a girl who generally takes care of herself, isn't insane, and hasn't made the rounds around the block.

@thetiredworm2100

3 жыл бұрын

It’s fine in fact better to have a higher standard (not with stupid stuff, but u know the important stuff like morals, beliefs, how they uphold themselves) if u don’t got a high standard then don’t be surprised if u never end up with someone good. Having physical attraction to your partner is important but beauty fades for everyone, it’s no good to have a super high standard for those things I’ll never understand girls who will only date a guy if there obnoxiously tall and hot LOL

@connormitchell8048

3 жыл бұрын

you just eliminated like 90 percent of girls, at least from western countries.

@garypierce7380

3 жыл бұрын

Are you Patricia Heaton’s husband?

@futuretechx5754

3 жыл бұрын

Hard to find though

@BillClinton228

3 жыл бұрын

Actually here's the 9 qualities women really want in a man but wont admit it - and this is proven by online dating data: 1) Be very attractive, I mean more attractive than the average attractive guy - like top 10% of the male species attractive. 2) Be handsome. 3) Have well defined abs. 4) have well defined arms, shoulders and chest. 5) Have full head of hair - unless you are really muscular then it doesnt matter. 6) Be at least 6 feet tall. 7) Act uninterested in everything, that way you can seem brooding and misterious so she can spend hours trying to "figure you out" with her girlfriends.. 8) Never talk about yourself. 9) Be rich.

Now that I'm over 50. This is my top 10. 10. More than two teeth. 9. Socks that match or at least the same color. 8. More than half a head of hair. 7. Can afford a Big Mac and fries 🍟 6. Likes dogs. 5. Can read the directions on a box of mac and cheese. 4. Has enough stamina to walk to the mailbox. 3. Doesn't stink 2. Knows how to put the toilet seat back down. 1. If he still lives with his mom, it's because he is supporting her.

@justman1884

Жыл бұрын

If she thought this when she was 21, then she would have been a keeper. Did you, Barb?

@deanshort9011

Жыл бұрын

Hilarious list!

@barbaramatthews4735

Жыл бұрын

@@justman1884 I don't remember what I wanted when I was 31, let alone 21. I'm old.

@manakin5

Жыл бұрын

Assuming you're at least half serious....many men meet this criteria. If this list were sincere, you should be happily dating or in a relationship now. If not, then it's evidence that even after 50 there are other criteria at work. Which gets back to the original point of the video.

@d.e.b.b5788

Жыл бұрын

Toilet seats have LIDS. I don't know a single women who puts the lid down. They just want the bowl prepared for themselves, and don't care about anything else.

I like the fact that Courtney comes across as Non-Judgemental while giving what should be considered useful and friendly information. Loved her facial expressions...

@dominiquez5643

3 ай бұрын

Exactly my post! Totally agree!

Those tic tok girls don’t really want a man, they want a sponsor.

@jerry-mind-sky

2 жыл бұрын

Right.

@alelectric2767

2 жыл бұрын

Which means they want a man to sponsor her

@gerarduspoppel2831

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN!!

@pathofresilience1796

2 жыл бұрын

Speaking truths💯

@mahri9022

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

The pre-selected part is so true. So many times I’ve gone to a bar where I’m going to meet my very beautiful wife and other women around me don’t notice me at all. As soon as she come in, sits down next to me and it’s obvious we’re married everything changes. I notice the same women at the bar or the female bartender totally checking me out. At one place, a women sitting next to me asked me out when my wife got up to go to the bathroom. I’m decent looking and in ok shape and dress pretty well like I have $$. But none of these attract females as much as when they see that I’m married to a hot woman.

@tailgunner2

2 жыл бұрын

I gotten into an argument with my mother a few year back over why I'm still single in spite of my age. I told her it is due to knowing how this game works and the players in it. I said I can attract women tomorrow, all I have to do is get a men's wedding ring today! She did NOT like that answer, and neither did I, but, I can and must accept the truth, while she does not.

@SHARPxOix69

2 жыл бұрын

Weird flex but ok

@williambontrager2349

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true. This is a core reason I disagree with red pill stuff bc they teach to not be friends with women. However going out with 2/3 attractive women friends regularly gets you looked at differently. You get the benefit of the doubt instead of being considered BSing. When those friends leave to go get a drink or go to the bathroom girls approach or send flirting signals. Maybe it's competitiveness or preselection but either way it's effective and game changing.

@BASKBLOODIRISHHART

2 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me. Walked into bar. I myself didn't see it, especially with a chipped tooth at the time, she swore the bartender was totally flirting with me. And my wife is a looker herself. At fifty she is gorgeous now

@jrd33

2 жыл бұрын

I've had several male friends say they get a lot more female interest when they are in a relationship or after they were married. So I think this one holds water.

The part about having a dating history feels a bit scary to me since for a lot of guys it means that getting a woman to date him is going to get harder the more time goes by, while the reason that he may not have a dating history is because women haven't even given him a chance yet.

@taylormoore7031

2 ай бұрын

Theres also girls who dont want to go for a guy with a history. Personally i want a guy who hasnt been with too many girls because that means i have a shit ton of girls to compete against. I dont want to be constantly compared to someone. Not to mention i have only dated one person, we were together for 3 years. Why would i want someone whos non committal if I myself am very committal

@al-imranadore1182

10 күн бұрын

​@@taylormoore7031You do want the guy to be with longer dating history than you.

my ex had all 18 qualities mentioned near the end with me, but she left me and took my baby while I was going through a really rough patch, lost my dad, was struggling to deal with it and covid related stresses in business led to a mild mental break down, proof you can have everything she wants but take too long to fix yourself to give all these qualities and it seems a lot have no time to support.

@danwinter8395

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that man. Best wishes going forward. Time heals...

@MuantanamoMobile

Жыл бұрын

That's really rough, man. Highlights why one also need to do ones own vetting based on things they value. It's a two way street - if she was kind/compassionate, supportive or loyal (better still a combination of two or more of these) then you wouldn't have gone through what you did (as regards leaving).

@Fucklifedeadshit

Жыл бұрын

So, you had a mental breakdown and it’s her fault that she left 🤨

@richardcole1280

Жыл бұрын

Sorry brother. How are you hanging in there?

@ridingwithbaz2736

Жыл бұрын

@@richardcole1280 having to move on but it's hard when the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with moves on and says I never loved her or treated her right when it's blatantly clear I did. Life goes on.

“I’ve never met a guy shorter than me”. Doesn’t pay attention to shorter guys. Hahahaha

@learnpianofastonline

3 жыл бұрын

I can't believe she actually said that. Lost a lot of credibility with me.

@dalaicavalcanti8106

3 жыл бұрын

@@learnpianofastonline She's like 5"5 I'm a dude and I haven't seen a guy below that other than some teenagers

@learnpianofastonline

3 жыл бұрын

I have very little sympathy for overweight women who complain that few men want them. Their challenge can be solved by going to the gym and losing weight. Even older women can have all the male attention they want with a little discipline and hard work. And it really isn't that hard. On the other hand a man who is short and/or bald cannot change those things without either growing six inches or spending thousands on iffy hair transplants. So I have zero sympathy for fat chicks in actuality. But again I must say that playing a piano and singing a bit has never, ever hurt me.

@TheSlopez71

3 жыл бұрын

She must have thought they were boys or children.

@FirstnameLastname-gm5nl

3 жыл бұрын

It’s hard to find guys under that height

Alexander Grace is a scientist in this game... good channel, he needs more subs.

@mattscoggins

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed! He understands the nuance to a lot of these topics and does a good job explaining that there are exceptions or that things sometimes aren't so black and white. And he isn't a misogynist, he wants both men and women to be happier in their relationships.

@zizwehunt1872

3 жыл бұрын

Also, money is not the leading cause of divorces. Lol

@zizwehunt1872

3 жыл бұрын

Money wont keep a woman.

@bobjordan1167

3 жыл бұрын

Best channel on KZread

@CaptainObvious0000

3 жыл бұрын

@OmWIR uT7qu true, scientist minus the science.

Courtney, Thank you for this and other conversations you provide. You are the most interesting, intelligent, honest, and articulate relationship advisor I have come across. And, of course, it helps that you take care of yourself and are beautiful.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🥹

Great job from both of you! These are actually great insights into how it ACTUALLY is in the real world....

I cant believe I actually saw a man, and a woman, stay emotionally neutral while talking about this subject. Subbed to you both! Good vibe

@nygelfoster2238

3 жыл бұрын

I never thought the day would come either

@chadirving3621

3 жыл бұрын

Men have too much to lose to play the dating game with women...

@rasheemthebestfirstone3274

3 жыл бұрын

Y’all must have been watching too much red pills vids but please my guy go out and meet people you’ll see

@davidevans7477

3 жыл бұрын

@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Only in setting like business where people have to restrain themselves do they act calm. Buy yes, I am mostly referring to online. Though I have talked to a few women about this type of subject. They were anything but calm. Very defensive. Even if it is not them specifically that I'm talking about.

@chadirving3621

3 жыл бұрын

@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 only a fool refuses to learn lessons from men who have gone before them.

Height is so important for her, that she cant even see the short guys she's been around. 🤦

@Jukeboxster

2 жыл бұрын

There you have it. If you don't meet a woman's minimum prereqs, you are invisible to her for all intents and purposes. It's just the way it is. Who cares, go for the women that do see you.

@katelynnlee5158

2 жыл бұрын

Right. lmao I live In California, and there alot of short or average height guys. The tall ones are less common. 😂😂😂

@zak6093

2 жыл бұрын

Height is the first thing they care about.

@Jukeboxster

2 жыл бұрын

@@zak6093 Every woman is different. Some do care greatly about height (especially online dating), others don't care AS MUCH. I know this because I'm short and I've had girlfriends, a couple of them beautiful by most men's standards. Stop harping on something you can't change and focus on women that appreciate what you bring to the table.

@mrjjthor

2 жыл бұрын

It's alright. Women can have their standards. We men need to have our standards too. She has to be fit, attractive, submissive, non-combative, young, able to cook, and sex on demand.

I once asked a girl what kind of dude she would like. She said she’s attracted to the body of a Channing Tatum. Me, discouraged and realistic, decided not to pursue. We came to be friends and the moment I mention a new girl she jumped on me. Joke is: I’m more of a Jonah hill type rather a Channing Tatum lol. Women are a mystery.

@DarthCasus

6 ай бұрын

Jonah bros, we found a way

@iLikeTrains0372

6 ай бұрын

Jonah Hill: Sir, I know we come off as a couple lady-killers but I promise you we will be super professional on the job. Ice Cube: Clearly I wouldn't be talking to you big titties.

@gregbenwell6173

6 ай бұрын

Thinking back to the old Spice Girls song that starts out "I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want...." And I laugh to myself because I know she actually WON'T!!!! My first wife used a lot of words to say NOTHING at all, while my second wife thought I was a mind reader, and thought I could "guess" what she wanted!!!!!!

@hidetoedwarduno7681

6 ай бұрын

Many know this but women will ALWAYS test you if she is attracted to u & is considering u for more. This is important to remember, cause many men will think she doesnt want u or is out of ur league but its exactly the opposite. BTW, the tests never end, even if you're married, they just change from do you believe in yourself to are u whipped on me.

@bacare1971

5 ай бұрын

​@@hidetoedwarduno7681and this right here is why no woman will ever see the inside of my house... take your shit tests and shove them where the sun don't shine.

Be a good person and you will naturally attract other good people. You don't need an army of "friends". You just need one who is loyal, honest and you can tell anything to.

@relicpathfinder2800

Жыл бұрын

Or...you will attract bad people masquerading as a good person. Never let your guard down.

Alexander is not appreciated enough, he is just spot on on so many things. That thing he said about women giving a "press conference" in order to look good instead of telling the truth about what they want is perfect.

@ceave

2 жыл бұрын

And the blanket fort is cool.

@mikhaillastname8719

2 жыл бұрын

in general, women are just the same as men. most men also like money, beautiful partners and want to make an impression on other people.

@dennisjr77

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikhaillastname8719….. women and men are more different than alike

@kevinboothby5260

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, asking a woman for dating advice is like trying to get a straight answer out of Jen Psaki.

@whitemakesright2177

2 жыл бұрын

To me, he's probably the best in the genre.

What I like most about Alex is that he isn't misogynistic, this becomes very clear when you watch more of his videos, he just doesn't like people with bad qualities, which I think is much different than a lot of other "dating coaches", he doesn't come from a pov of hating on women, just telling the truth

@tidefanyankee2428

3 жыл бұрын

Are some of those other "dating coaches" guilty of actually "hating on women" or are they just being brutally honest? Brutal honesty can sound very similar to hate depending on who is hearing the message.

@tobyey9134

3 жыл бұрын

@@tidefanyankee2428 both probably exist, but he makes it clear what his intentions are which is the difference

@tidefanyankee2428

3 жыл бұрын

@@tobyey9134 I don't disagree about Alex. I think he has the best of intentions. I was referring to how others hear the messages from other dating coaches. I have no doubt that there are "coaches" out there who don't have good intentions, but at the same time, I'll say again. Brutal honesty, saying unpopular things or things people don't want to hear (but might need to hear) can come across as hate. Much depends on how the message is received and by whom.

@tobyey9134

3 жыл бұрын

@@tidefanyankee2428 I know that you said that and I basically tried to say the same thing, there are some that have good intentions but phrase them in a way that seems misogynistic, there are some that actually hate on women and there are some that don't and whose words match that, the latter seem to be the minority and I'd categorize Alex into them.

@Angrybogan

3 жыл бұрын

The narrative is Feminism is never wrong. In that culture, truth is misogynist.

I so appreciate your honesty and objectivity on these subjects. My dating life is much less frustrating and makes so much more sense since watching your videos. You are a Godsend. 🥰 thank you. Thank you thank you, Courtney!

Courtney thank you for your honesty, it’s so refreshing and it helps a ton. My ex was beautiful and she is famous, it didn’t last. I don’t think I had enough status. Women do love older men, tall, successful and leaders. Men should be working to be all of these on this list, not for women but for themselves. Get some masculinity, train hard, get smarter and more educated. Find yourself, build and let that special someone eventually find you

@tillycomedy2194

Жыл бұрын

well said, and a healthy mindset

@spanishvideo2922

Жыл бұрын

"just get tall bro"

@d.e.b.b5788

Жыл бұрын

by your definition, the average guy who has a decent job, is generally nice, has zero chance of dating. Older, tall, successful, leaders, you're going to have women looking for renaissance men. There aren't a lot of those.

@blakemcmahan3960

Жыл бұрын

@@d.e.b.b5788 as sad as it is, western society has perpetuated exactly that. Be the best you can be, that’s it

I’m going to say this. Money isn’t worth your mental health. I actually took a 30% pay cut when I left the rental car industry, and went to work for my local county government. But... I am in a much better place mentally now. My wife has pointed this out, and it’s improved our marriage.

@mg43472

3 жыл бұрын

I just head the Rental car industry is going crazy right now..

@martynprice87

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree, its not worth the stress and important to be happy and not come home from work miserable

@tidefanyankee2428

3 жыл бұрын

No, money isn't worth your mental health. But you need to do something you like. If you do that AND can make money doing it, then it's all good. I'm self employed and I make a nice living. I would tell you and have told younger guys start there. Very few people like everything about their jobs. There are many jobs that lots of people don't consider like the trades. You don't necessarily need a BS or MS degree to make decent money. I have a buddy who went into accounting and he made a very nice living doing it, but he hated it. He switched to plumbing and makes pretty close to what he did before and he's far happier.

@jlmcgrot

3 жыл бұрын

But, you already had the wife...haha

@willskywalk

3 жыл бұрын

@@jlmcgrot this

"it's kind of messed up to say, but it's true" Literally his whole point of the video

I grew up on Hollywood movies when I was a kid, and I sincerely believed in love and romance until I was well into the end of my teens. I had these silly ideas that there's someone out there for everyone. I had to swallow a bitter pill when all these things came to light. Love was not this thing that could happen to everyone or anywhere, rather I learned that for women it's a practical thing, something of convenience or status, sometimes it was infatuation but that was mostly short lived and never truly sincere. It took the wonder out of the concept of what I once believed was love, and I have since stopped believing in the concept.

@varasano

Жыл бұрын

Alexander, grace passed on a great quote about this. I went something like this: Women are hardcore pragmatists masquerading as romantics. Men are romantics masquerading as pragmatists. Women often go on about expressing their emotions but then dump a guy because they lose attraction if he fails any of a million tests. A less emotive man is often more loyal

@rickraber1249

Жыл бұрын

@@varasano A woman who dumps a guy for failing any of a million tests is a woman who is short-sighted, self-centered, and has no sense of commitment. Let her go, and look for someone who is none of those things plus has character and warmth.

@manuelsilva8528

Жыл бұрын

Also grew up with Hollywood movies, but believed the lie much longer! Started having doubts about the existence of love in my early to mid-twenties, now I don't believe it at all, and it might have been too late.

@benster5

Жыл бұрын

Me the same. When I was younger, I thought I would be guaranteed to be married and have kids by the time I turned 30. I thought love and marriage was a given thing as you got older. How disillusioned I was by the fantasies of love and happiness. I'm 48 now. Single. Was married to my ex wife for 10 miserable years. I was 36 when I got married. I really struggled in meeting women and never picked up a whole lot of experience in the dating scene. I felt like I was running out of time and just decided that I was gonna settle with the next woman I get in a relationship with. Things got off hot and heavy right away and for a while, I thought I was happy and thought she was finally it. Then came the red flags after we got married. If I had picked up on the red flags on her before we got married, I would've baled out of the relationship. My fault for letting things peddle so fast instead of taking more time to know her more. Those were 10 years I learned about myself and what I really want in a woman, but I wish I could get those 10 years back. Now I'm back to square one. I'm happier now that I'm no longer married to her. We're actually much better now just as friends. But as I look myself in the mirror and realize where I stand now, I feel like my chance at happiness is fading away and it may never come my way. The harsh reality I'm facing now is that there ISN'T someone for everyone and anyone who thinks otherwise is living in their own happy dream world. And I hate it when TV shows depict the nerdy, unpopular, underdog gets the hot girl. Sorry, but in the real world, the Leonard's never get the Penny's.

@Goku227

Жыл бұрын

it does exist. But it aint like movies. And it aint everywhere. But surely exists.

I like the new natural look, Courtney! I completely agree that the list in the article is the 2nd list men & women go to, once the key items to them on the "attractive" list are checked off. Also, #4 - 8 is likely related to women being hardwired to look for a provider for themselves and the family. Just like men are more attracted to women who will be able to take care of the family.

A man without status? Bro, I'm the DM in my D&D group. I've got status.

@carbunkle9902

3 жыл бұрын

Status given to you from a bunch of idiots doesn't hold much value.

@taragonleaf8005

3 жыл бұрын

@@carbunkle9902 As least I recognize sarcasm when I see it.

@DavidSmith-wr6vj

3 жыл бұрын

I'm our groups D&D back up DM during the summer and only when Bob calls in sick,... So hey I got status too!

@DavidSmith-wr6vj

3 жыл бұрын

@@carbunkle9902 whooosh over the head

@trackatlas6626

3 жыл бұрын

I think you mean "stats"...

Alexander Grace and Courtney Ryan are easily my two favorite "relationship advice" KZreadrs ie. for understanding men and women. They both give very balanced, realistic and honest opinions... which is a refreshing breath of air in our messed up world.

@kikhazz

3 жыл бұрын

Check out huMAN. Great youtuber

@RoguePC4U

3 жыл бұрын

@@kikhazz Seen a few of his, pretty good too. I also like Better Bachelor.

@DoctorReyesArt

3 жыл бұрын

@@RoguePC4U Coach Corey Wayne is great too.

@ThePorschefan

3 жыл бұрын

May I recommend the first red pill master: Patrice O'Neal.. YOU WON'T REGRET IT!

I give you a lot of props for being honest and genuine.

So cute, Courtney. You give it away what you feel and think, even if you don't respond verbally. Your face speaks volumes. Keep up the good work!

He’s spot on. This vid is her going “no, but yeah”.

@wadecrawford6445

2 жыл бұрын

@Diabolic Dynamite she can’t be impartial, she is the subject of his video. That being said, two sides of the same coin dilemma.

@shortreviewsbysamcyn

2 жыл бұрын

Lol yes

@AsunaSword

2 жыл бұрын

Well I mean, she pretty much says that some women do like it, and that women are individuals soo, her reactions are very reasonable.

@abprepboy33

2 жыл бұрын

yup.... usually pro athletes meet these requirements and they have no problem finding women

@runreilly

2 жыл бұрын

_"Women share their true feelings on tik tok?"_ Are there actually men out there that use tik tok? Maybe Gen Z...

"looks are good for getting someone initially interested, but they are not gonna keep her". People keep spewing and spewing this phrase and dont realize what they are saying. They are trying to make it sound like looks are not everything, but if i need looks to even get to the stage where she can get to know the real me, then ill never reach this stage because i dont have the looks. I could be a perfect match for her, but she will never know because she wont be interested because i dont have the looks. That phrase does the opposite of what its intended to do: It says that looks are everything

@stewartlewis3503

2 жыл бұрын

If your sat in a Ferrari, she'll notice you. Even she said wealth should have been higher in the list, use expensive status symbols as a 'looks' proxy.

@MrKrusten

2 жыл бұрын

@@stewartlewis3503 pointless. How many people have ferraris and how many people are willing to spend money on a ferrari. On top of that, i dont want a girl who notices me because of the fucking car i drive, big red flag. On top of that, she'll probably lose interest real fast when she sees some ugly dork getting out of the car. At the soonest she'll lose interest when you are not in your car anymore and she has to attend social gatherings with you.

@marc416

2 жыл бұрын

I am sure there are girls out there who like the ugly package!! CHIVE ON!!!.

@Jazzmaster1992

2 жыл бұрын

THIS. I keep getting so exhausted with this phrase. People say it so they can appear not shallow, or not admit how shallow dating really is. Saying "looks are good initially" is basically saying "looks are what attracts someone off the jump, and without that initial attraction you're screwed".

@mrjdgibbs

2 жыл бұрын

I don't really know why I'm even here but take this from someone who, in his youth, did from time to time punch above his weight. The point is that unless you're actually ugly the looks aren't that important. Looks can get you noticed but there's lots of ways to get noticed. Particularly if you spend actual time in proximity to each other. So hit the gym, read a book, be an interesting person. The people around you, including the women, WILL notice

i really like your presentation and how your responses are so calm and thoughtful.

I agree with this guy whoever he is, 100% I don't get the snide remarks and the constant smirks you make, constantly putting this very truthful and informative man

"...but initially, yeah, you want to be attracted to the person that you're talking to...duh..." Court says everything so matter of factly and sincerely without drama. 👏👏

I think you totally made his point by skipping over option 3.

@MrDavinci1965

3 жыл бұрын

The smile on her face said it all. She said a big YES !

@jsharp3165

3 жыл бұрын

Oh she reacted, just not out loud.

@Indubidably0

3 жыл бұрын

She agreed with a sort of "You're right, let's not go there though" look

@anacebotari8604

3 жыл бұрын

She reacted like most of the women do. Confident to show the cleavage intimidated to talk about sex.

@foto21

3 жыл бұрын

THat's one kind of a pass. Men care about sex technique also, although men are more than willing to train a woman who's willing. Unfortunately, we all know that the craziest and least reliable women are sometimes the best in bed.

Hi Courtney, love your channel. You are really great at communicating your points. thanks for all the great advice!

Your honesty is much appreciated. Thank you.

2:55 with regards to the point you made about women being brutally honest on tiktok (eg height/facial attractiveness), women are more likely to be honest when they don't fear repercussions or judgement. However if a man asks a women in real life what she finds attractive, she will be more likely to virtue signal in order to look good and noble

@danielmatthews1522

3 жыл бұрын

The TicTokers also do it for entertainment and likes, they don't have to face any repercussions that a regular woman might.

@HelloKittysFriend418

3 жыл бұрын

i mean, wouldn't a guy want to do the same? in different social contexts we act differently, duh

@kauetadaieski3131

3 жыл бұрын

@@HelloKittysFriend418 no

@Viewable11

Жыл бұрын

That depends if she likes you and whether its a 1 on 1 conversation. I received excellent advice 1 on 1 from some women I was platonic friends with. Women will always lie about dating when being overheard by others.

"Two things I've never seen, a UFO and a ho that wouldn't go..."

@zbigniewbialczak1692

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao 😂

@mac1bc

3 жыл бұрын

Project Pat?

@Melanrick

3 жыл бұрын

Well, I've seen a UFO, so there is that lol

@markkoval3005

3 жыл бұрын

@@mac1bc IDK bout Project Pat, but it was TI who said "2 things I aint seen is this, a UFO and a bitch I can't get."

@markkoval3005

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/mKt2mbl6lNu7aJs.html

Being thrown into the dating pool or puddle in my case , lol I absolutely love your videos ! Your disposition and calming voice along with your classy and elegance manner are helping me so much and I Thank You 😊

Both POV's in this video were incredibly valuable, thanks for making this and appreciate your content. Have to say though that my absolute favorite part of the video is how you entirely brushed over "Good in Bed" while answering everything else lol. That alone drives the point home even more 🤣

In passing, women on dating websites have shopping lists of what they want in a man -- you ask them what they offer in return then you see that they've never ever thought about this !!

@BigTyronie

2 жыл бұрын

Im 6'3, financially independent and stable, im 260+lbs and im in pretty good condition year round. 20lbs from stage weight in bodybuilding. I get 300lb women who are 5' tall hitting me up on tinder or bumble. Its like really? What makes you think im gonna go for that?

@TheRealSlimShady509

2 жыл бұрын

@@BigTyronie women have incredibly high standards. Social media basically tells every woman they deserve a 10/10 man simply because they are a woman. Which basically means on average, ugly guys get no women, average guys get ugly women, and 10/10 guys get every woman then want. Because women have impossibly high standards.

@Jacksbox11

Жыл бұрын

Martin: Men have always had types of women they prefer. Women are allowed the same. Period!

@martinhealourlovecamden9191

Жыл бұрын

@@Jacksbox11 It's okay for women to think that vagina and hyped up looks is all they need to bring to the table? It's okay to blind oneself to the consequences of ones decisions? Men will go their own RATIONAL way !!

@andersnielsen6044

Жыл бұрын

This is where you forgot to ask your self one importan question: Why did she give you that answer? That is right, it is because she has nothing to offer YOU. If she was attracted to you, she would spend the rest of her life telling you, showing you and make you feel what she has to offer. ;)

Status is 100% a factor, I’ve walked into venues as the “new” Dj, the regular girls would act a certain way towards me but then once they see I’m the Dj it all changes and they’re way more interested lol

@sapitron

2 жыл бұрын

yeah , but , does that have any kind of meaning in their mind for choosing you as a long term partner ?? that should be also discussed

@DJBustovski

2 жыл бұрын

@@sapitron to some it does, i think that depends on the type of female. For those that wwant a "trophy husband" then yes it matters i would say, but im only speaking from personal experience.

@NoInsurance

2 жыл бұрын

yep, it's status. Is where you stand out.

@LethalByChoice

2 жыл бұрын

RIP to the people who don't have status, then lol

@TheBlackManMythLegend

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

As someone who is 6'8" let me just say, being this tall is actually a hinderance. Being this tall means most girls are incredibly intimidated by me regardless of how nice I am...

@alexmuenster2102

Жыл бұрын

>>someone who is 6'8"

@movement2contact

Жыл бұрын

I'm ~6'5" (1,96m) and I also only get terrified looks... 😒

@alexmuenster2102

Жыл бұрын

@@movement2contact Put down the club and the bearskin...

@viridionwaves

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@andym9571

Жыл бұрын

Being 5'10" myself...dont even get noticed on dating apps

Courtney is super insightful and does a great job explaining her views. I liked how calmly she assessed Alexander's video, which on first blush she appears to have a very different view from. However, she compartmentalizes his views so well (into 'how to get a girl, but maybe not keep her') and meshes it with her view on how to keep a girl. I have a great relationship and agree with all of her observations. I plan to introduce my kids to her channel - I see her as providing a reasoned and insightful take on how to be a better person, and thus how to create the groundwork for great relationships.

The top factors for male attractiveness will always be looks, wealth, and social status, so Alexander's list is pretty accurate. The other list, as Courtney said, is more for when he's already in a relationship.

@josecarlosxyz

Жыл бұрын

yes

@sienkiewiczmonika1161

Жыл бұрын

Yes. The article's title suggests it's about men already in relationship. Alexander can't read with understanding what he read or he pretends to not understand and he's projecting his bias.

@joaquin67

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes if one of those 3 things is above average, it can really make up for the other two. A guy can be very good looking but broke and not really have much status but still get women. Same if one is high in wealth or status.

@buffuniballer

Жыл бұрын

What Courtney missed is that he was talking about an article. So when women are asked the question, they give the answers on the list. What gets a woman's attention are the items on Alexander's list. Courtney nailed it before she started his video, "What we say and want we want are completely different" Now you can say she said she wanted all 18. However, the article didn't say that, so either the writer wasn't being honest or the women gave the 9 answers in the article, but failed to mention the 9 on his list. Meaning that even if everything in the article was on their list, they still did not say what they wanted because the other 9 were NOT on the list. His point was the article would have been more accurate had it included some or all from his list. My thought was an article with the top 5 on each list would be more accurate than just the 9 written up for the article.

@buffuniballer

Жыл бұрын

@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 hmm, let me look. The title of the article was "If a man has these 9 qualities, never let him go Scientists Say" So it doesn't really say if the man is in a relationship or not. It could equally apply to the men that women meet. Seems to be a stretch to say it's geared towards people already in relationships. Certainly cannot narrow it down to people in romantic relationships. But let's assume you are right, that it's geared towards those already in relationships. How does a man who cannot even get a second glance from a woman demonstrate these characteristics? Frankly, I think some from BOTH lists would be more accurate. Pick the top 5 from each list, or at least acknowledge that if he's lacking in Alexander's list, he'll never get a chance to demonstrate the qualities on her list. That was his point, a guy looking the list in the article and focusing on being that person doesn't get a chance to demonstrate those qualities. I.E. what Courtney said before starting his video, "What we say and what we want are completely different." So is he really misunderstanding, or does he understand that while one thing is said, just like Courtney admitted, at the very least, it's not ALL of what she wants. The items on his list gives the guy a chance to demonstrate the ones women are willing to say out loud. By omitting the ones on his list, they are not being fully transparent about what they want. This isn't a dig at women as men do the same sort of thing. It's like the joke, "A businessman decides that it is time to hire a new secretary and has it narrowed down to a blonde, a redhead, and a brunette. Unable to choose between the three of them, he decides to conduct an experiment. At the end of the day he places a five dollar bill on the ground in his office to see how each girl would react. The blonde sees the money, picks it up, and places on his desk and then walks out. The redhead sees the money but ignores it and walks out. The brunette sees the money, looks around, and puts it in her pocket before leaving. Which girl did the businessman hire? The one with the biggest breasts"

As the saying goes; A rich man can change your life! A rich woman won’t even look at your ass 😆😆

@saisusato2871

2 жыл бұрын

wow LOL thats so true especially nowadays with all this independent stuff and women wanting to make as much as men but date men who make more smh. like what kind of math did you learn in school?

@saisusato2871

2 жыл бұрын

@Diabolic Dynamite thats why i said with this independent stuff; it was very specific women i was talking about, namely the wannabe woke new feminists (i think women 1000% deserve to be appreciated and treated fairly in society, but i dont hink they should be put on a pedestal or treat others, especially when it comes to relationship's, like theyre simply a means to an end. women are not "queens" simply because they are women, the same way men aren't kings simply because they are men. my opinion.

@inihilisme1511

2 жыл бұрын

Sugar mommie : Well, i guess i don't exist.

@harryh875

2 жыл бұрын

A rich wumann won't even look at you unless you're Jeremy Meeks

@Acord718

2 жыл бұрын

"behind every man is a woman rolling her eyes" -Jim Carrey

thanks Courtney these are really good and your a good non bias presenter. Really altho theres numerous things to understand about a women its not that complicated to get the basics right. Women are complex but once a man starts to understand partners thinking, and because they want to, partner will respond making you happy in return. Its a win win. Men who dont or wont try to be the best husband, the best lover, the best father, partners closest friend, they end up in routine and very average existences. If the man can get a woman to fall in love with him and returns that love equally, he will lead a completely different and fulfilling life. If you love each other more after twenty years together your both winners. Men who dont try are losers. Compensating by earning lots of money is no compensation. Its a payoff to stay quiet. I love all women (except the 3 b's: bitches, bad tempers and baggage), and getting close to a woman, is unreal. Forming a long close platonic friendship with a nice attractive girl really is unbeatable. PS - If I were religious Id thank God for the gift of sight.. lol. Women are beautiful.

Just new to your channel for the first time. I loved your honesty and Emotional Intelligence most of all, which is what I seek for in a long term Relationship . I think all of us want and seek happiness and Joy. I want it long term on a foundation of trust and mutual respect. A committed relationship is only found in marriage. Physical or superficial Lust, is not Love, but will actually destroy it, and it can and will only be temporary. Who wants to invest themselves in a selfish short term relationship that will only cause them pain and regret later? Porn really teaches men how to NOT have true intimacy. True , happy intimacy is much deeper and way more fulfilling and satisfying to the soul, than all the fake intimacy pornography could ever provide. For me, my greatest want in a relationship is to be wanted. Talking to other men, many also said, their greatest want was to be wanted by their spouse.

@VivatVeritas1

11 ай бұрын

That’s a tough one, because most women know that and will use that lever to control you once you’re hooked.

Just finished the whole video. I haven't seen your content before today. Just wanted to drop a quick comment that it's refreshing to listen to a soft, feminine voice. So many female "personalities online" are loud, brash, etc. This was pleasant to watch / listen to. Great work.

@mattrickard3716

2 жыл бұрын

That's a good point. If I wanted to experience "The View" I would shove an air raid siren up my arse and step out into traffic.

@ericsmidt6923

2 жыл бұрын

Agree

@UnexpectedWonder

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! There are a growing amount of Feminine Women coming onto KZread fortunately. I'm Subbed to several.

@muznick

2 жыл бұрын

Her delicate voice and demeanor are very pleasing to listen to.

Impressive, two "younger" people actually speaking truthfully and honestly about relationships, and both are very accurate in their assessments. Maybe there is hope for humanity. keep up the good work !!!

@tacotrucktim9359

Жыл бұрын

Don't hold your breath

I just loved the way you did this. Have a guy put out the the qualities and you give your opinion. You were honest, to the point, and made sense. Thanks. You are really good at what you do.

While I do agree with certain points on Alex's list, there is one in particular that I think (and know from personal experience; depending on the person) women are indifferent about which is being tall. I am a man, currently in a 5 year long relationship where my girlfriend is 6'1 and I am 5'7. From personal experience, it is about being confident in who you are as a person and the right people will make there way into your life, regardless of height. Either sex/partner can be the "tall one" in a relationship. I truly believe it is important to challenge societal norms (the man being taller than the woman) and ask yourself "Is this the way I should be going about my life?". Great video Courtney!! I appreciate the hard work you put in to making this content available to so many people! You have certainly made a positive impact on a lot of people :)

Courtney, my experience after many relationships and a 22 year marriage, that Alexander’s list is significantly more accurate than the first. Great analysis and I loved your explanations- well done👍

Alex: "Every woman wants a man who can deliver a satisfying sexual experience" Courtney's face after that comment...

@1000equis

2 жыл бұрын

Sex should be the first thing that is discussed when dating or courting a chick. Useless sex in any relationship, is just that, useless. Just be responsable and keep it 100

@parthpandya5631

2 жыл бұрын

it's not depend on height

@wyleecoyotee4252

2 жыл бұрын

True

@wyleecoyotee4252

2 жыл бұрын

@Dr. John Fallout4Nut I'd rather work so I don't have to have a man. Say most women who are educated with a career

@parthpandya5631

2 жыл бұрын

@@wyleecoyotee4252 because you want to break family and 33% male is single educated wife divorce most 3-5 times. Why can't you make intect family like alpha male do with one income + little addition by male? Ask your self

The "status" perk was an interesting take because I feel as though it's broader than the first initial thought that enters the mind. This also encompasses how a man interacts with his surroundings, how he speaks to people, how he talks to his family, how he treats animals, sometimes despite perhaps not having a title or social media following that demands respect or admiration can also be redeemed through his charisma and his certainty in how he flows through life and I think that women still intuitively pick up these vibes and find them attractive.

@Viewable11

Жыл бұрын

"Inner game" is extremely important. At times when I had major successes in my life and therefore was very happy and optimistic and confident, very beautiful women began being attracted to me without me saying a word. It was like I had a flipped a switch. Therefore: Women are *extremely* good at perceiving the state of content and confidence of a man and react very strongly to facial expressions, body posture and timbre of voice.

@mark-sf8nf

Жыл бұрын

I'm 59 and I've never had any girlfriends never been on any dates they all said no when I ask for their number and for dates as far as I know no females ever were even interested in me at all I've never been afraid to approach I do it everyday it's just that females usually ignore me and won't talk to me and the few that do don't give me eye contact I've never had sex of course or kissed a girl no opportunities ever came up again I'm 59 years old. I do work out I'm not very tall and I have I would say a small to medium

@mark-sf8nf

Жыл бұрын

Build

I’m sorry for the faithful woman out there that got cheated on trust me not all guys are the same some of us will put you ahead of everything and just want to see you happy

The most important question a single person can ask themselves: " Am I becoming the person I want to date, wants". If you want a person who possesses certain qualities, are you that person they want to date. Figure it out then work on it.

@Qubicle.

3 жыл бұрын

problem with that is, confident people will overestimate themselves and get the girl anyway because, confidence. and insecure people will underestimate themselves even if they are objectively competent. and it's insecure people that needs advice on this kind of thing.

@AugustSchroif

Жыл бұрын

​@@Qubicle. confidence doesn't mean shit. Looks do. If you have looks you don't have to be confident, the girls will just say: "he is so cute and humble blah-blah-blah". Every trait is perceived is negative or positive depending on if you are attractive to not. If you are attractive, you are humble and shy. If not, you are insecure and awkward. If you are attractive, you are assertive. If not, you are stubborn and arrogant. If you are attractive, you are thrifty, good with money. If not, you are greedy, avaricious. Etc etc.

@Viewable11

Жыл бұрын

No. Wrong question for heterosexuals. Your question only applies to homosexuals. Heteros need to ask, _"Am I the person which the person I want to be with wants to be with?"_

If a guy is 5'2", obese, and looks like he is obsessed with playing card games, then it doesn't matter if he has all the characteristics that would help with a long term relationship. It happens tbh.

@BlueRedGooGoo

3 жыл бұрын

@@informationyes I can understand that, but there are still two other points there and I think my point stands with those.

@maliksmith9003

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh, how you gonna be short AND fat? Pick a struggle.

@BlueRedGooGoo

3 жыл бұрын

@@maliksmith9003 luckily I am only fat lmao

@Osodjrhrb

2 жыл бұрын

@@maliksmith9003 😂😂😂😂😂

@kiss4luna

2 жыл бұрын

let's play some warhammer!

I have to confess - This video was painful to watch. I hated how it made me feel…but I think I needed it. It shows me areas that I need to improve on. Especially the advice to “Be independent” being defined as “having a life outside of the girl that she can then join in on.” Thank you, Courtney-working on it.

@Churlz

8 ай бұрын

Hope you get the help you need. You sound like you need some therapy, as hard as that sounds. You've got this, King.

@vrhetinst

8 ай бұрын

@@Churlz You’re probably right, but at the moment, I can’t afford it.

@610kclaf

7 ай бұрын

yeah this was painful, even tho I do 8/10 of all of those it pisses me off that i have to do more.

@1x0x

4 ай бұрын

you guys need to do more research on women lol this is pretty basic stuff

I just came across your channel and I love the content keep it up 💯 I subscribed and liked

The same reason you’re attracted to a man with a hot ex gf is same reason women are hot for guys who have lots or women who desire him while you’re dating. He becomes a hot commodity makes you feel special to have what others want. It validates women.

@informationyes

3 жыл бұрын

Guys can think exactly the same

@2bituser569

3 жыл бұрын

@@informationyes Not in my reality. Never been attracted to women who had lots of man friends after her or top grade ex bf’s.

@informationyes

3 жыл бұрын

@@2bituser569 Everyone has different experiences but its not really about man friends just that other people want to be with them, people seem to like what others want

@breakingthemasks

2 жыл бұрын

@@informationyes ... Disagree. For this reason. When men see a woman who is had lots of hot ex-boyfriends... They see a lot of guys who've smashed that girl. And most guys don't want a girl who's been smashed a lot. Whereas with girls... When they see a guy who has a lot of hot ex-girlfriends. they aren't turned off by the idea that he's been smashing them. It usually makes them believe that he's authentically valuable to have obtained access to so many women's highest gift. So I'd say they're not the same.

@informationyes

2 жыл бұрын

​@@breakingthemasks The research shows that Both men and woman have negative perceptions of lots of sexual partners, also someone having lots of casual flings dont advertise that persons committed. www.psypost.org/2016/12/study-finds-number-past-sexual-partners-large-effect-attractiveness-46594

most woman dont realise how their most primitive instincts are dictating their choices (pre-selection, taller, older, richer, status).

3 жыл бұрын

Most women fully realize it, otherwise there wouldn't be so much hiding of it.

@informationyes

3 жыл бұрын

Thats only partially influential as were were a species with large amount of learned behaviour as well as individualistic as in nature loves diversity which is what we see in every human having different preferences as seen by how around 48.9% preferred to only date taller men so that below 50%! also this study's on dating sites have shown woman preferring shorter men. Nothing is certain with humans www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/do-women-date-short-men-fancy-match-study-dating-height-dad-bod-brunette-blonde-a7935766.html

3 жыл бұрын

@@informationyes Mistaken extrapolation of most prefer only to date. Among those willing to date shorter we might still find them 95% more likely to pick taller, effectively making that a bs point. And self reported is a joke, we should actually do a couples study and find out what percentage of the time men that are dating are taller. Also if you read just a little farther, only 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman is taller, effectively nullifying all the bs stated before. Ironically the second one doesn't even link to the claimed study, and knowing those idiots they misinterpreted data.

@informationyes

3 жыл бұрын

@ Yes but the reason is woman would date a guy the same Hight as them as the the statistics would conflict so so the guy doesn't have to be taller just not shorter so to doesn't nullify it as you dont understand what I'm trying to say, a large proportion of woman will at least date someone of the same Hight thus not only taller men

3 жыл бұрын

@@informationyes Except that's not actually what plays out. And yet again, if you read just a little farther in your own cited source, you'd have seem them counter that too.

A woman where I work has been DROPPING HINTS for me to ask her out, but for five weeks now all I've been doing is showing courtesy. Finally she cornered and asked me why I HAVEN'T made a move. So I asked her, " I HEAR what you say and I SEE what you do. Those two are NOT congruent. So which one of YOU should I ask out?" She simply stood there, mouth agape, with a dumbfounded look in her eye.

Gosh. Your honesty. Thank you

My sister told me many years ago that you have to have both physical and intellectual attraction, as you don't only have to look at them for the rest of your life, you also have to "put up" with them as she put it.

@thetiredworm2100

3 жыл бұрын

Lol good point

@ianbarkham5080

3 жыл бұрын

I've always thought there are 3 types of attractiveness, Physical, intellectual and emotional.

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

100% true. Looks will only get you so far. Same goes for women!

@drip369

3 жыл бұрын

@@ianbarkham5080 I've often personally added that to my thinking when single and looking. This modern society struggles to raise proper boys and girls into men and women

@ratamacue0320

3 жыл бұрын

@Justin Gary off-topic.

I got to this channel from clicking on a recommended reaction video to the "Hot/Crazy" matrix. I have to say this is one of the most level-headed, mature, and honest human beings on KZread. It's a pleasure to listen to Courtney speak on topics I never would go looking for.

Hey Courtney! What microphone do you use? You sound great!

Yes you are so right Courtney, physical attraction is worth a ton in the beginning. You MUST have it to not feel resentful later that you settled. I am an expert on this. You must have it when a big disagreement comes up as without it, getting out of a relationship when you just like them OK, will come to your mind so much sooner as you know by then that you can take them or leave them. I secularly married someone that after a while, they ranked at 5th or 6th in attractiveness and just wanting to be with them overall. So when I was finally done with them, I realized that getting over them was easy as could be, because they never meant that much in the first place. I just didn't really know it at the time. Now the ones I dated that were number 1,2 or even 3.... they are a whole different level. I was madly in love and very attracted to them and even though it has been decades, I often think and miss them at least 2 or 3 times a week. Nothing even remotely close to that heartfelt emotions with the one that I was legally married to.

I think I can safely say that Alexander Grace is *the* reality check when it comes to gender equality

@advancewarstournamentseries

Жыл бұрын

Just a cult for deillusional MGTOW

@slippo99

Жыл бұрын

👍

@Viewable11

Жыл бұрын

Unforgettable is his Tinder experiment where he had a female friend pretend to be him on Tinder and pick up women. Before the experiment she thought men had a much easier life than women and that she would be able to pick up a lot of hot women on Tinder using his identity.

@brucecates3772

Жыл бұрын

true that

@worm_and_no_man

Жыл бұрын

avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.

Her voice is so comforting she would make a good therapist.

@BrokTheLoneWolf

3 жыл бұрын

This is my asmr video for the night

@apataye

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, ¡same here! Also, as +Brok Homz implies, she would make a TERRIFICLY GOOD ASMR-tist.

@absolon486

3 жыл бұрын

agree, content is great but what for when i am falling asleep ? :D Alexander is energetic, he can keep your attention.

@learnpianofastonline

3 жыл бұрын

I find her voice to be rather annoying. Too much like a little girl.

@sleepingforest8214

3 жыл бұрын

@@learnpianofastonline Thanks for your thoughts. I disagree

Alex's number 8, I'd like to weigh in on. I'm 25 and my girlfriend of almost 2 years is 56 going on 57. One thing we really admire about each other is that we are constantly learning from each other. Even though she has far more life experience, I bring a fresh perspective and some knowledge that she doesn't have and vice versa. So sometimes it's not about the age that correlates to being able to look up to someone, although age tends to scale with that.

@alexmuenster2102

Жыл бұрын

>>I'm 25 and my girlfriend of almost 2 years is 56 going on 57.

@dirtyconsole2247

Жыл бұрын

@@visitor332211 yeah?

You are brutally honest, that is awesome 👍🏻 If women were as honest as you the world would be a lot different.

It's nice to have a woman that truly says the truth this will help young guys in there journey. Thanks Bella you are a beautiful soul.

the whole video is like ' u are wrong. but you are right'. i feel like she says she is honest with what she wants. yet she still talks in a way that makes her look good

Wow. You are one cool person. We all observe others. Well, while I was observing you in this video I was so damn impressed with your responses your honesty, intelligence your ability to logically make conclusions without bias. That takes a lot of effort to initiate all of those filters so you truly present a valuable video for people to watch. You are in it for the right reasons. Searching for the real truths seeing all possible sides. Nothing is definite. These are important points that you drove home and often reminding your audience of those truths. You are a leader of a woman and are doing cool great things for those looking to better understand this crazy cool world. All the best! 🖐🏻

Another one I would add to the list: comfort zone. Many women will select a mate from a familiar social milieu as regards to culture, class, nationality etc. Going with what is familiar, is perhaps the safest option.

That was such intuitive episode! The relative tables given by Alexander were excellent; meanwhile, Courtney`s explanation rounded up everything to the last detail. This is perfect for some my studies. Thank you so much Courtney, keep it colorful!

"People are felt rather than seen after the first few moments." - John Steinbeck

Thank you Courtney for sitting through this because I can tell these truths weren't comfortable for you. Thank you immensely for confirming, on behalf of all idealistic communicators everywhere - men and women. You are helping people date.

Thank you for your honesty!

In most cases, the damage has already been done and the game is over. Men have stopped playing.

@learnpianofastonline

3 жыл бұрын

I know I have. Hire a professional.

@tadieabeki5447

3 жыл бұрын

Well said mate.

@MrHelperForever

2 жыл бұрын

True king

He’s got such good points! I’m glad he’s focusing on things beyond what we’re supposed to politely look for in men. I used to naively think attractiveness shouldn’t matter, (obviously it should) and that money shouldn’t matter- but then I learned that it really does tell you something about that person. if someone is doing well - they are good at their job, they take it seriously, they think ahead and they manage their money responsibly, that’s the person you want to be tied to long-term. Whoever you commit yourself to, you both are putting your bets on each other that you have a strong teammate and they’re going in a direction you also want to go in (Career or otherwise).

@stickybandit2346

2 жыл бұрын

You want a hot business partner, not love! If someone is "doing well", etc etc. then they are just a conformist, pacifist, lemming, who won't stand up for anything that is right for fear of losing that paycheck.

@jameseverett4976

2 жыл бұрын

Does that mean the girl who seeks a well-to-do man, must also be well-to-do? After all, they're a "team" right? They're both working hard to achieve the same things, RIGHT? And if they're both on the same page, and both value the same things, and are both doing it right - you know, using their time wisely and all those other good things that any respectable person would be doing, so that they can be a match - they'd both have pretty much equal success, RIGHT? So tell me again how many women seeking well-to-do men are also as well-to-do as the men they're seeking? Or even close? Oh, ok, let's put it another way then: how many women want men who make about the same as they do? I'll wait while you find out, and get back to me.

You are my voice gurl!! Loving your channel💕

So many "advice" videos on KZread.....both by men OR women.....are based on hostility. There's a strong thread of anger by and for the opposite gender, which I think alienates (as well as attracts) a lot of viewers. This is why I enjoy watching Courtney so much......she's very objective and almost unemotional about her opinions. I don't always agree with what she says, and much of what she observes doesn't even apply to me anymore, due to my age. (70) I feel empathy for young men AND women navigating the dating world today. It REALLY was much less complicated when I was in my teens and early twenties. But.....I'm still optimistic that someday I'll come across Ms. Right. 🙂

@Jordanthecool7

Жыл бұрын

I agree, that’s why I wish there was more people like her that made neutral content for both men and women. One where the video still is honest and says the truth about both genders ( the good things and bad things) , and the comment section isn’t a war zone between the genders .

I absolutely enjoy how you are honest. Not doing the normal female reaction of arguing against even when you know he is right. We need more woman like you for men to choose from. Definite dating material

I lost myself when he said "I need to address this... because they say that all I talk about is women but that's not true... I also talk about my sponsor... I'm so dead 💀

@Viewable11

Жыл бұрын

That is the slickest transition to a sponsor I've ever seen.

Remember guys women supposedly aren’t superficial. She just admitted that most if not all women would never even consider dating someone shorter than they are which is 100% superficial considering a man has no control over how tall he ends up being. In reality women in general are much more superficial than men and men are a lot more forgiving when it comes to accepting women’s physical flaws vs women accepting men’s flaws.

It's easy to focus on externals, but internals are more important to me. A couplet: Beauty only on the outside fades like the rose, beauty on the inside grows and grows.

First time viewer of one of your videos. The “eye look” you gave regarding men throwing money at Onlyfans etc. was hilarious and spot on. The perfect definition of a picture creating a thousand words. I personally can’t fathom throwing my hard earned money away in that fashion.

@toriless

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, so lame of him, men are much more shallow about looks, etc.

@alexmuenster2102

Жыл бұрын

>>regarding men throwing money at Onlyfans

Good thing I'm an introverted recluse with anxiety disorder who is less than 6 foot, broke, a virgin, and a walking existential crisis. :)

@MaxPayneInTheAss

3 жыл бұрын

JUZ B CONFIDENT BRAH!!

@faixaazul69

3 жыл бұрын

Ha!

@Dhskzhsjsozb

3 жыл бұрын

Bro you look very athletic on your pp though, that's an important quality (for yourself, and of course for women)

@HungrySlothDEFCON1

3 жыл бұрын

Same bro same :/

@davidhunt9143

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, one less competitor! Haha jk man, work on building up that confidence. Try striking up random conversations and see where they go. And don't get discouraged if they go no where at first. It's a numbers game more than anything.

Courtney, a different male dating advisor mentioned a scientific study about the height preference of the sexes: Men prefer women who are 8 cm shorter than themselves, women prefer men who are 21 cm taller than themselves.

Even though I tend to agree with caution with this guy, your grounding, touch with yourself and clear mind never stops amazing me Courtney, you bring great logic and common sense to topics that are tough for men to acknowledge...another great video! Love your channel!!!