I have checked through all videos (YES i saved all VRChat sessions since October 2018 until now, all stored) and i discovered i was actually met Ray much earlier without realizing it's same Ray_is_deaf.
The first contact went not so great, so i have no much attention with it, because they're in desktop mode, so no talking, no signing and room has no pencils, makes the first contact bit sad. The video is recorded in November 12th 2018 but due night overlap contact is at November 13th 2018.
I only make friends after some talking, so i cannot just click randomly.
The real contact and talking is months LATER in February 2019.
The uploaded video can checked at my channel.