This is very insightful. I realize now why my husband behave the way he did during the twenty-five years I was married to him. He could not get that sexual satisfaction any more than he could get the emotional satisfaction so he went from one to the next to the next to the next and it was miserable. I wouldn't want to be in his head for any reason.

@staceykersting705

2 жыл бұрын

The Milky Way is only one galaxy.

@KoolT

Жыл бұрын

Not your fault, their sick minds.

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

He could have also been secretly gay and you could have been his beard 🤷

My psychopath ex said that I was his world, but after sometime I realised that he was creating a solar system & I was 4th planet in it. ✌🏼😂

@smackdashitoutchu7755

2 жыл бұрын

Quick talking $h!+ about your ex. Grow up ffs. Have some class.

@andresandres1666

Жыл бұрын

So he lied, you were mars not earth, learn your planetary order girl.

@yakno3493

Жыл бұрын

Is he a psychopath because he left you? If so, are you a narcissist who's tryin to create a twisted image of your ex because he left you? If not then what a twat he was..lol

@aroojaziz

Жыл бұрын

@@andresandres1666 lol… sorry my mistake 😝

@tstjstlikecandy

Жыл бұрын

😂

No one is sweeter than a psychopath that is grooming you...

@mzgg9826

3 жыл бұрын

Creepy.

@rebeccawrite1614

3 жыл бұрын

I still think they show red flags even when being sweet.

@AIwaysRight

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah...and to be honest, once you've experienced it, you don't want anything but that

@cheridehart7771

2 жыл бұрын

Sarcasm

@jessestewart169

2 жыл бұрын

Scary but true.

This is a difficult topic, but Dr. Grande delivers the information with dignity as always!

Dr Grande your content is pure gold

Your channel is the most helpful mental health channel I have found. Thank you again.

@martinkarp9298

Ай бұрын

I agree

Thank you Dr. Grande for this insightful video.

I LOVE YOU DOC GRANDE

@cartergomez5390

Ай бұрын

Thank you for saying his name, I didn't even know it!

@ralfphilipp

23 күн бұрын

clear case of Love Bombing. Are you narcissistic ?

Thanks Doc. One of the most helpful uploads for me to date.

Thank you Doctor Grande! I'm doing a psychopathy marathon! 😂It is probably in line with not being able to connect to the other person. It seems like there is another level, but it is only during the idealisation phase. It is a vicious cycle.

As someone who raised to believe there was no such thing as mental illness this is so eye opening

@LeonCouch

Жыл бұрын

I was raised this way too. I was basically told to be "logical" about every goal, decision, discussion, and action. Yet, I have observed real mental illnesses and evil, as well as experienced anguish myself. Yet, it still hard to convince parents who value "scientific thinking" about the existence of mental illness and investigators to describe the workings of the human mind and brain. That is, they don't really believe in psychology and psychiatry, basically by how they constructed their social circles and professions. I had more curiosity about the unbelievable variety in this world.

@loveandletlove8529

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you grew around a bunch of narcs ,it tends to be an idea of theirs that everyone is like them but somehow inferior cause they don’t do the same decisions.

@lauraantic1384

Жыл бұрын

As a kid nobody never spoke about that too ,they were very perfect and lovely family

@shannane5171

Жыл бұрын

Mental illness is very real.

@nugget6635

10 ай бұрын

Tell your parents to look at a Schizophrenic person for at least 300 hours to see what they think about their """"science"""".

I can't recall, have you done a video yet on "successful" psychopathy? If not, I'd love to see that at some point.

@DrGrande

5 жыл бұрын

This video touches on that construct: kzread.info/dash/bejne/gYONq9dyZKafc5s.html

@swindler1570

5 жыл бұрын

@@DrGrande Thank you! Really enjoy your content here. It's nice to see someone actually taking the science seriously, rather than trying to go for a sensationalistic approach.

@karagraham9764

5 жыл бұрын

Its probably the ones who aren’t in prison

@commissaryarrick9670

5 жыл бұрын

Just look at high level bankers , lawyers, record company execs , Hollywood producers , actors and politicians . I would bet most of them are successful psychopaths

@e.thomas2475

2 жыл бұрын

@@commissaryarrick9670 Reaserch doesn’t back that up. Psychopaths can only typically end up in positions of power for long periods of time if they have say: a family member who put them their and keeps them their. Psychopath are just too impulsive and erratic to maintain anything for long periods of time It would make more sense that Machiavellians and Narcissistic individuals end up in positions of power and stay there.

Thank you Dr. Grande very helpful video! Your time, knowledge and effort doing these videos and answering our questions is greatly appreciated. Kind regards from Sweden!

@DrGrande

5 жыл бұрын

You are most welcome!

@CodyWright-pq3eq

6 күн бұрын

King of Sweden? That sucks.

It’s like shining a bright light on cotton fabric, exposing the chest. Thank you for the information Dr. Grande.

You just answered my final question. My ex-Psychopath (clearly full on Factor 1) was so violent and forceful after a while. I was forced into things I can’t write. My confusion was that you’d only ever mentioned the sexual nature of this (in your videos that I’ve watched so far anyway) as a Factor 2 level issue. So I was confused there... but you described him to a T once again. He’s one of the bad ones. I am afraid every day of what he will do or have someone else do. Psychopaths never go away (especially when you have a child with them).

@smackdashitoutchu7755

2 жыл бұрын

Quit talking sh!+ about your ex. Grow up ffs, have some class.

@lisap3344

2 жыл бұрын

@@smackdashitoutchu7755 she’s here for help

@cyropower7808

2 жыл бұрын

Are you out of a relationship with them?

@genevab.5316

2 жыл бұрын

@@cyropower7808 I am. We're safe. He still lives close and still won't go away, but I'm getting help to make sure we'll be safe from him for a long time. Thanks. I hope you are safe, too.

@vs4571

Жыл бұрын

Can you recommend some more of his videos to watch on this subject? I’m sure I could just search but I know there’s 1 or 2 that you’d want others to watch. I’m trying to learn about psychopathy, antisocial and sociopathy and of course narcissism. Are there different types and levels to all and where do they all tie in and what’s the core term? I know antisocial replaced the term psychopaths (at least that’s what I heard)?

I appreciate these videos, not merely for their dispassionate (in a complimentary way) summary and basis in theory and practice; but, because it elicits great comments from people who either suffered from others with these issues or they themselves get a chance to offer personal testimonies on how they think, feel, and/or act when they have these traits. Rather than suppressing these people, I think it's better they talk with others. First, those suffering from these traits/disorders can get a better sense of how the rest of society views the traits and how they are affected by them (when expressed), and thus how to change behaviors for their and the greater good. Secondly, the rest of society can come to empathize with their issues, rather than merely demonizing them, and ideally come to solutions that work for as many individuals in societies as possible with the least damage. // What I'd like to see is the recognition, acceptance, and even appreciation of the huge variety in human personality, behavior, etc., moderating the ill effects of deviance rather than enforcing conformity. (I value core American and Western values, as opposed to authoritarian rule of every behavior and thought that we see becoming possible in China with modern technology, with the great loss of creativity and true ideological, social, and technological progress.) At this time in human history in our Western society, perhaps some of these traits are not useful or merely useful in certain professions. For instance, I suspect that psychopaths -- when put into balance by others or laws or such -- might be better surgeons, CEOs, etc. Put in the most hopeful light, perhaps there's a place for nearly everyone somewhere in our society at some point in time, if we could just figure out how to find the appropriate people for the appropriate places. Maybe this is too optimistic, but I'd rather live with hope and to work for a better future, than give up in defeat before trying sincerely.

Thank you very much for your videos. I find them very helpful. Especially for people who do not hava the means to seek prosessional help. Thanks again.

Thank you Dr. Grande.

Dark triade! Yep u described him perfectly every point!

This video made a lot of sense. Thanks!

well expressed. they way i'd put it is the usual barriers between a person's mind and their actions are sometimes missing in an individual with psychopathic traits, like impulse control maybe, or that lack of empathy which is considerate of whoever is on the recieving end of the behaviour, and i guess the antisocial disregard for social norms, which i think is what drives up the consumption of porn since there's no socialised shame to buffer urges. Seems like in a relationship setting what is most important is managing expectations, hoping for changes that were never verbally manifested as goals is a recipe for disappointment and when dealing with a narcissist i might even call it a waste of time, the benefit of empathy is knowing whether what one gives to somebody is likely to be recieved as a gift or as a debt and with narcissists its usually the latter, they think they not only deserve all that they want but that it is owed to them. my only remaining question is whether there's any trend in emotional disregulation with psychopathy, since some comorbid conditions are flat affect-inducing while others go in the extreme opposite 🤔

@LeonCouch

Жыл бұрын

My impression of the psychopaths I've observed and tried to understand informally as an academic in a non-psychology field is that intelligence, personal restraint/control, etc., are different factors (perhaps correlated). The dumber the psychopath, the more likely they were to think they could get away with bad behavior and thus do it. The smarter the psychopath, the more they could manipulate under the radar and people would only realize aftewards the damage they had done. // one thing we forget is to consider psychopathy as a continuum rather than a binary (psychopath or not). And, I'm thinking of the most extreme cases I've seen -- and, in a way, the least successful psychopaths (kind of dumb men, really) // My feeling is that we should identify these traits early on and train individuals explicitly in societal norms and laws, whether or not they feel bound to them, as they can often obey these if it's in their best interest. Our laws are based on what people *do*, rather than how they think. Secondly, I think we should train them to be more empathetic and at least to read other people's emotions and the results of their positive and bad behaviors. For nearly everyone, it's possible to grow one's empathy, if one's interest is sparked and there's sincere motivation & dedication. Lastly, I think we should more explicitly teach psychology -- not in a theoretical way, but in a very practical way -- to all children. Working with people, identifying traits, knowing oneself, and how oneself and others fit in this world, all would help children be successful in friendships, romantic relationships, and their professions. People who are good with people go further than solitary people who simply work hard .

thanks for sharing the science / evidence. relating to Bowlby's Attachment theory, I think the key is how you mentioned 'insight' as in, maybe all of us have deviant fantasies at some stage, but they instantly alarm healthy people, where health here is defines as having a rich internal narrative, sufficient to parse the malevolence and steer it towards loving. i've watched a few presentations about pyschopathy / narcissism and the word that stands is the feeling of 'emptiness'. from the world of literature, art, what makes for a soulful generative narrative. also there's the idea of 'extrinsic drift, that if psychopaths are made, then the culture of constant distraction, oversimplication, the double-speak of positive-thinking, shallowness, general brutishness of rule by oligarch / hypermasculine might is right etc. ... could be a factor - psychopathy visualised as nepalming the forest of mind, fascist blitzkriek of society.

Doctor Grande can you do a video..on what it is like to be in a relationship with a borderline or sociopathic Male ( if you are a female or I guess a pro social Male as well) and what are the differences.. how you could tell which disorder they have...and what you should do when things start deteriorating after the love bomb? Is it possible for relationships with either of these types can be saved?

I once read in an article that the psychopath might engage in the abusive sexual behaviour as revenge. The partner made them somehow jealous. So they punish them

@aurav1376

5 жыл бұрын

But do psychopaths feel jealousy?

@user-gy7bg1rv6o

5 жыл бұрын

@@aurav1376 l cannot seem to find the article. Forgot where I read it. Maybe it's part of the mind games Or because they view people as possessions

@joanlynch5271

5 жыл бұрын

That sounds plausible.

@joanlynch5271

5 жыл бұрын

@@aurav1376 I think that is like the chicken and the egg argument. The psychopath wouldn't say I felt jealous so I acted out. They would say I acted that way because I was angry, or I didn't care about the consequences at the time. Remember that psychopaths wear a mask of sanity, they are acting normal, seeing all their behavior as normal.

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

Yes I guess. Idk Would leave me alone. I guess they figure I'm an easy target and they're predator cluster B's 🤷

1 view and 4 likes! Thanks for the vids, Dr. Todd!

This doc is fabulous

Please could you recommend a good introductory text book that approaches mental health in the excellent scientific/critical way you present this fascinating subject area.

Incredible educational video - thank-you Doctor.

Thanks for the interesting videos!!! This video made me think of the Peter Madsen case from a couple years ago. I'm pretty sure he is a Psychopathic narcissist, but the thing I was wandering was why was he so violent toward the object of his sexual desire? I know he was abused as a child, but i'm not sure to what extent. The brutality that he showed toward his victim, along with his complete lack of sympathy for her boggles the mind. Maybe you could do a video on where this guys brutal, sexual behavior comes from. By the way this is one of the most disturbing cases I've ever heard of. It shows the extremes of human behavior. Thanks again.

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

I think that's what I'm dealing with like one of those guys that I didn't give my number to one time and so he decided to be a psychopath or something 🤔

@fredashepherd5013

Жыл бұрын

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Thanks Dr. G.

You just described my husband. Why did it take me 25 years to put a name to the abuse I’ve endured? I have brain tumors and he recently punched me in the side of the head. He had zero remorse and really tried to blame me. I’ll never get away without being financially wiped out and destroyed by his fantasy things he tries to say about me. He tells me he’s going to make sure I’m homeless and I have two houses. One I owned before I was with him. I’m now fighting the battle of my life making me weaker. He’s like an opportunistic blood sucker trying to prey on me while I’m down. He tells people I’m a gold digger. When he moved from his moms to my house and lived there over 25 years. He bought me a house while we were separated for taking over my house pushing me out.he’s trying to take that now. He has a girlfriend he lies about.

@monalischen1746

Жыл бұрын

Are you still together with him?

@beingpallavi3272

2 ай бұрын

Do psychopaths hit?

Thanks amigo Todd. The big

Wow you described like 100% of my sexual mind. Even the kinks matched up perfectly! I think the behavior and traits happen at the same time and the fantasy occurs after and you fantasize more because it’s not something you can’t do.

@nobody8328

4 жыл бұрын

I fantasized about that sort of sexual behavior long before I ever saw porn or had sex with another person. For me, the traits and the fantasies started before everything else.

Thank you for your work and time I appreciate it and it is helpful. God bless you and your family in Jesus name Amen.

Dr. Grande, is it possible for a patient with Paranoid PD to be confused for a psychopath? Thanks for all the videos ❤

@precogunitking

5 жыл бұрын

@Diogenes TheDog ty for the input, and I agree multiple sessions with a professional would help differentiate the two for sure. I guess my question was really... Could a patient with Paranoid PD be mistaken for a psychopath by common folks without education on the topic. Like, would the average person think a Paranoid is a psycho? As far as mental health professionals and their diagnoses, I'm sure they would identify the differences rather easily. P.S. good luck with your journey in education!

@kimlarso6622

4 жыл бұрын

null Gr8 question!

This was so helpful!!❤

Very needed topic! Thx Doc🌹

I was married to a man with type one psychopathic tendencies that I didn't recognize at the time. I just thought he was very strong and in control of his emotions. He was eventually unfaithful and got into recovery for sex addiction. He became a very prominent and respected member of the program and was a pretty decent husband for 17 years but once that recovery fell apart he got into the poly amorous S&M movement and we went our separate ways. That was over 10 years ago. We have 3 kids and he does give us some financial support and sees the kids a couple times a month. Our children are now almost grown up. The kids and I ask for his help whenever we may need it and are sure to be very grateful when he gives it but we don't expect it ever. I have been very careful over the years and never allowed the kids to be alone with him. Ironically they all know exactly who he is and what he is capable of without me explaining it to them. It sometimes makes me so sad that my kids didn't have a loving caring dad. My girls are not particularly interested in a relationship with a man which also makes me sad but they may still find someone who changes that. I can only hope.

@tovenrvik6336

Жыл бұрын

Madsen who killed the Journalist in the Submarin, was also into the BDSM community ‼️

@MsRuneGirl

10 ай бұрын

Your girls aren’t interested in a relationship with a man but you hope someone will change that? What does that mean?

Thank you for your scientifically grounded and straightforward presentations. One question. When repeat criminal offenders with high levels of psychopathic traits fantasize about and then realize/commit murder that is nonsexual in nature (no overt sexual engagement with victim), does that still qualify as deviant sexual behavior (ie sadism)? Thank you.

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

I mean I think some of these guys are probably gay so maybe there is a sexual component

I'm seeing someone who has been upfront honest with me about his sadism he has a really caring side and he says he wants me to know he's a really nice person - we talk and message about sexual fantasies and they overlap although not completely I believe he is and wants more extreme things - we have not yet been intimate and I think your message here is clear that I'm more craving the submission with intimacy and there is a risk he's faking it because his sadistic fantasies are only what he seeks to carry out - keeping my eyes open and moving forward slowly with this one 💯

I’m curious what your opinion is on Robert Hare’s PCL-R as you seemed to suggest there’s no ‘test’ you find satisfactory for labeling someone a psychopath. I’m a student and I was discussing this with a practitioner just yesterday. Anyway thank you very much for all the information you put out. There is value in your channel for students, practitioners, armchair psychologists, anyone curious about psychology! Ps: I would love to see you do a video about mental health portrayal in popular media. That would probably perform well also!

@getemgotem1173

5 ай бұрын

Oh yes I'd love to hear this opinion too!!!

I think the person I once entertained falls under this umbrella. I didn’t know a lot about psychopathy at the time but the more I learn about it, the More I think so. I abandoned that situation bc things were getting worst and worst and I think what kind of wieirdness was going on when I wasn’t watching.I just know I began to think he hates women bc of ways he was starting to treat me. I pray he never shows up in my reality anymore.

Fascinating video 👍 Thanks Dr. Grande 😃

@thenarcissistsscapegoat5091

5 жыл бұрын

I haven't watched this video yet but I'm pretty sure it boils down to the priesthood requiring sexual abstinence combined with the previous hard-indoctrination against homosexuality. Its a recipe that attracted gay men and lesbian women who took society's shame out on the kids. I doubt it will occur nearly as often now that the social stigma is lo longer, plus I highly doubt priests and nuns actually maintain that vow when they can sneak out( in regular clothes) to a stranger using Tinder or Grinder. The actual true exclusive-pedophiles will still be attracted to places where kids end up under their control, especially moral influence which gives them a chance at internal and projected justification - to call it love that God always endorses. Finally another point that just struck me is undying regard and unlimited respect for religion to the extent of devoting one's life to it requires maintaining a sense of wonder.. or emotional immaturity... that aligns itself with the mental traits of pure-pedophiles...but that's just throwing something out there don't hold me to it I might disagree with myself in five minutes.

@DrGrande

5 жыл бұрын

You are most welcome!

Morning to you, Dr. Grande..My intuition of red flags on this topic I pay attention to, this video has given me MORE information to be intuitive about. Thank you for another excellent video! 👍

I am now experincing isolation, which is devatiting to me. Phyopath are cunning and not remorsful. They just do not care about their victums.

Doctor Grande es un doctor grande!

I love your videos it's like as close to the truth as you can get

My husband cheated on me with his sons wife. His son and wife committed suicide and im still in recovery. Please any advice would be used, I'm in Trama councling but I would love to have more help. This video and comments has helped but maybe my story is relatable to someone else's I'm extremely embarrassed about this

Interesting, thanks. Is voyeurism, such as stalking or deception, associated with this condition? For example, if an individual placed devices such as cameras etc. in somebody's property without their knowledge?

@sarahalderman3126

Жыл бұрын

Amongst other things…

English is not my 1st language. And the turms u use are above my levels even in my mother ton. So far from my understanding I meat all criterias of all the psycho disorders u mentioned in u vedios. Thank u doc for letting me know 😂

Dr. Grande does drug addictions like "meth" have any influences in the person forming psychopathic traits? I noticed my ex has numerous sexual partners even at the same time, along with discarding of our daughter which she wants nothing to do now.

@CJ-fs9gt

3 жыл бұрын

My ex had a meth addiction before he met me. I was told through my therapy, that meth changes the brain on top of pre existing mental issues. For example, my ex was insatiable in his appetite to get into one form of trouble or encounter .. he slept less than 3 hours a day and would be in and out all the time. The meth creates this increased craving for astronomical levels of dopamine and serotonin, unbelievable energy because their addiction trained them to never sleep .. even after they 'quit' using. They do the most disrespectful things right under your nose. I can't believe the small signs I missed early on about the secret sexual side.

Dr.Grande,i have a question or topic for discussion. I watch you tube videos on wildlife,sharks, lions,all types,anyway it's scary to me to read all comments about how the evil humans are the enemy to the survival of just about everything, including the planet itself. It seems to me that the loathing of humans is a nasty state of mind,suicidal,homicidal,genocidal. Maybe im over thinking thing,but it I think it could devalue humans and pave the way for bad behavior. I like the creatures of the earth and believe they should be looked after and treated with care,but some of the comments i read are distubing to me. Just a thought,thanks

Is there anything pathological when there are 2 honest (non-deceptive), consenting adults, regardless of the number of partners?

Overall, these are people who want to not give, but take, and take only what they want in that form. This is knowledge to have before looking for a connection, whatever aim you have. They do not like risk, which is opposite to what I had thought.

Is it known whether introversion and extroversion are equally common among psychopaths?

@smackdashitoutchu7755

2 жыл бұрын

Psychopaths are far more likely to be extroverts.

@ruelvandijk6854

2 жыл бұрын

@@smackdashitoutchu7755 yeah they’re very likable among people but deep inside they hate people or even interacting with them, they only use extroversion to get something from people

@AnayaRapRock

2 жыл бұрын

Depending on why type of psychopath the person is. I'm diagnosed as a charismatic psychopath. I often attract and hunt for extrovert empaths.

@AnayaRapRock

2 жыл бұрын

I would play the introvert card in this case for opposites attract and I'll use that to my advantage.

@smackdashitoutchu7755

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnayaRapRock Lmao Your message had so much edge it cut my thumb as I touched my smartphone screen.

I disagree about the archaic ideas of general fantasies... there are several studies reporting that women also think of multiple partners.

@Chefgrlangel

3 жыл бұрын

🙋🏻‍♀️

@reeyees50

Жыл бұрын

At the end of the day, they also want to pass their traits as much as possible through all means

@beingpallavi3272

2 ай бұрын

Psychopathy is not gender biased bro! Chill!

It's not just men that do this

It's almost as if he knows what my questions are and my thoughts.

oooh! where did you get that tie?

Do you think that people who act out organized (sex clubs) Sadism and Bondage have been numbed to generalized sexual behavior? I was thinking that it might be a way to stop themselves from taking that next anti social violent step. My fantasy of any type would be like imagining him pay the electric bill.

@taramay8174

Жыл бұрын

I believe that if you continue watching anything that's quite violent in nature youre mind becomes desensitised to it. That's facts. They don't get the dopamine hit from regular porn, so they go onto harder stuff and end up acting out their fantasies

Could you speak specifically about the female psychopath doctor?

Can you PLEASE do a post on the ProDrome phase of schizophrenia, specifically in children?

Thank you for the insight that people do want to give in so to speak to the sexual fantasies hoping there's something else underneath. This was my exact feeling. My ex partner was quite giving.. I'm assuming that is not a psychopathic trait. But his fantasies were violent - so I don't know what to make of that.

Thank you...very interesting🙏

i had implications of my mental illness my entire life and no one said anything. i only got diagnosed with depression at age 27, even though i know i suffer from PTSD, ADHD, which lead to my Anxiety and Depression. It has been projected on me my entire life to just be apart of society, work an honest job, make a living, be responsible. yet i could never simply do these things. they never lasted. I am so self destructive, sitting here day in day out having pity parties, because i gave everyone all of me at all times. whether it was dark or light, it was all me. I am now a felon with mental illness. i would really like to be exiled from my country, leaving everything I've ruined behind, and be left to be a lonesome monk in nature.

@udukhai

Жыл бұрын

i do not think i will ever love people. The self awareness has led me to recognize my own abomination i can not depart from. Fibonacci. I am doomed by all means of physics and chemistry,

Yep, interesting.

can personality disorders be more common in ppl who've been born with brain trama and developmental trama like being born premature and with a brian bleed.

I love Dr. Todd

My abusive ex is factor 1. Thank you for this video

Yes the coldness that’s the biggest one, even though he was my husband, it was a transaction most times no emotional connection just sex and forced etc or triangulated and the open addiction and cheating and abuse

What about border line personalty thay can be psycho bath ?

Described her to a T again Dr Grande. Thank you for sharing info

Thank you!

Can you educate us regarding public masturbation. I had a dear friend, years ago, who had a high level position with the Federal Government. During his lifetime he was arrested twice for public masturbation. He was genuinely worried that he would lose his job, and eventually spent a lot of money getting his record expunged. He would refer to is as a compulsion, and indicated that he would best be sexually aroused simply by feeling the cool air on his thighs. He also indicated that the first behaviors started as early as age 10. The last time we spoke (I recommended "The Safer Society" to him) he indicated that he had been seeing a therapist for over six months and had reduced his 'cruising' for, at least, 6 months. I'd love your opinion on these types of disorders, or if you could recommend any books that delve into the psychology of wanting to expose himself, or as he put it "I want to be seen."

I've been with a Don Juan Peter Pan Psychopath. He had dysfunktional erectile issues and I think it has to do with his inability to be in a real relationship. One time he had four affairs at the same time and smiled me in my face when he told me about how good it was. Any time we were out together, he flirted and even changed seats to have a better view on women. He visited all his female friends all the time, etc. His father was exactly the same, the second husband of his mother as well, and she liked it. She excused her son's behaviour and she didn't leave the husband for cheating, but for his lifelong infantikity. I found both behaviours in her son horrible. Btw- he was almost pervertely admired my adult women and aquaintances right from puberty, because he was so good looking. He used this pattern to be treated nicely, because the truth is- he is f....afraid of everything.

For the full set of information on this topic, see Dr. Venti

I never understand how psychopathy isn’t a mental disorder. I understood that it’s because the lower range of exhibiting a feature of psychopathy would be normal behavior. Also something something about a separation from Anti Social Personality Disorder. It seems like there is a lot to determining what is or isn’t a mental disorder when it seems like a disordered person. Is there a recommended book on this topic? Will I forever believe psychopathy is a mental disorder?

@Brxwn9

Жыл бұрын

It's a mental disorder. Those people are mentally f'ed up.

Does it have a cure?

Can you do a video about the Toolbox killers? They were notorious for their sadistic sexual crimes.

Thank you for your insights. « As above, so below » Do you think the act of gaining trust through charm is a first cycle of the sex act for psychopaths? What I mean is do they project « distrust » as they would orgasm? Maybe I’m not explaining that well enough. But, it seems to me there is an experiential co-relation for psychopaths to gain trust, and then an orgasmic type of experience when they prove to the human object that they weren’t trustworthy « because » of their orgasm. I’m thinking of Ted Bundy for example, but also perhaps people who have multiple immature sexual cycles of superficial one night type sex acts. They aren’t just YOLO in their own minds. They are completing a cycle of trust to distrust needed to removing themselves from the interpersonal feelings of during sex. I’m wondering if it is like the story of the Scorpion and the frog. The Scorpion charms the frog to trust him and get on his back then he kills him. Obviously, the Scorpion gets something out of it emotionally.

@LeonCouch

Жыл бұрын

I'm not an expert, but my observation of the few truly unabashed psychopaths I know is that people knew the psychopath were superficially charming and women generally had a underlying bad feeling around them. Something about the way they communicated is that they were parroting words and behaviors intended to mislead their (female) victims into a position where sex would be used more for establishing dominance (power) than for mere pleasure. This person I'm thinking of did deal with everyone, including males, in their callous manner but sex with males wasn't the method to hurt men.

@sushiking56

Жыл бұрын

Interesting observations. Every psychopath is different, so your thoughts are definitely valid towards a maladaptive psychopath who is obsessed with power. But not all psychopaths are maladaptive. Not all psychopaths will be sexually oppressive to their partners. I’m not a psychopath but with my partner, I tend to play with what I can get away in bed but I never go so far as to hurt her because there’s always a safe action/word in case it becomes too much. There is a power dynamic in sex but a clear distinction between having violent sex with a maladaptive psychopath versus a non psycho is that you will actually enjoy the sex rather than be traumatized by it.

What about someone who is just not sexual, and/or they r just cold and disconnected?

Yes. Some sort of con. Struct. I get it. Absolutely. 😊

Thank you Doctor. You just explained my ex to a t.

You,r very right about the fantasies, there dark, disturbing and a real horror show. But everyone don’t act on them, i don’t act out my fantasys even if it’s hard. Freedom is more important to me then my fantasys. /cecilia with psykopati

Disgust as you stated is the issue

Thanks again dr . Grande Are all people who rape or molest or have sex with children psychopaths? Are parents who have incest with thier kids psychopaths? Or mentally ill? If so how? Do they know the harm they are doing to their victims but just dont care? Or are they unaware?

@heide-raquelfuss5580

3 жыл бұрын

I want to know this too.

@LeonCouch

Жыл бұрын

I'm a PhD in a completely different field than psychology, but I have developed an interest in psychology, due to the psychopaths and (well, honestly) strange males I've encountered over the years during my travels (platonic aquaintences or friendship as long as they could last with their huge troubles). And, when I've gained the trust of these men, they've admitted their actions, thoughts, and reasoning. And, I've watched numerous interviews of convicted men, etc., out of morbid fascination. So, that said, I'll tell you my impressions, as a non-expert. // I'm going to only talk about male offenders, because motivations of women usually seem quite distinct in motivation. The men seem divided into a couple groups: (1) some men don't have the ability to think in another person's shoes, specifically children, and don't understand how their actions hurt children, (2) most men, I believe, just let a thought or fantasy grow inside until some situation occurs where they transgress boundaries, such as being drunk or ending up in #3, because their desires have grown so large, (3) some men are able to rationalize their behaviors for specific cases -- the children they abuse -- as something exceptional from the norms of hurtful behaviors, (4) some men wish to harm others or have power over others (psychopaths). Of those convicted pedaphiles I've heard in interviews, it appears to me that the group of #4 is overemphasized compared to the normal population with greater than 50% being psychopathic. There is a significant number of #1, who could have been informed, educated, and trained on emotional ability, impulse control, and societies norms, such that they didn't lose their life to prison nor would have hurt so many people. Of the #4, they still could be educated about the legal consequences misbehavior and convinced it's just not in their best interest (since that's all they care about). But, I think the majority of these cases are in category #3, where it's some normal interaction -- family relations, friendly neighbors, helping out in social clubs -- just starts with a thought and grows unmanageable for that individual. In these cases, they need to be taught to recognize bad thoughts and discard them early before they're unmanageable. That is, keep fantasies as fantasies. All this is made harder with the demonization of pedaphiles. They cannot talk publicly, among friends, among family, nor even to counselors/psychologists. So, to get past just making stronger laws and social punishments to the destruction their lives and everyone around them, we will need to start by having sympathy for offenders (this doesn't mean condoning nor holding back punishment for any misbehavior) and giving them the tools to be successful in society before something bad happens -- rather than silencing them. And, to help them as well as all types of criminals reintegrate into society, rather than become worse in prisons before being released. Those are my current thoughts as a non-expert and I invite opinions and research that might refine or even change my opinion.

@LickerOfAnuses

8 ай бұрын

@@LeonCouchYou’re absolutely right. People need to learn that demonising will only promote the rate of sexual assault victims of children. It’s a controversial, emotional topic. Not an easy issue but one step is realizing these people as disordered and getting all the help they can get will reduce the amount of cases.

What is behind the mild choking thing? Both sides: choker and chockee?

@Raring93

5 жыл бұрын

For a lot of people it's probably a domination/submission thing. And for the chockee there's things happening in the brain during oxygen deprivation that can lead to pleasure.

@Coelacanthimorpha

5 жыл бұрын

Being choked / oxygen deprivation intensifies the orgasm a lot, you don´t even need a kink for it to work ^^. On the other hand, yes it´s a very powerful symbol of power. You´re practically holding someones life in your hands

@dollyrama1132

4 жыл бұрын

It intensifies orgasms.

@Mysikrysa

3 жыл бұрын

Dark side Force users. :)

@gothicgirlfriend7375

Жыл бұрын

I don't know but I love being choked. I love being slapped and dominated in general. And I end up falling madly in love with my dom. Surprisingly I've never had a dom cheat but they are mean in other ways and sometimes flat out abusive. Ive never found a man that's into that that isn't a narcissist. I've learned to accept it because I can't live without good play time.

Sure is interesting to try and figure women out.

Great👍🤩😍

My wife and I decided to try S&M. You have to have a safe word. You know what a safe word is, right? Mine was "Boring."

@npcnpc3047

5 жыл бұрын

Mine is - keep going 😂

@timg6176

5 жыл бұрын

S&M is not S&M with the use of safe words..

@Renaissance-Hell

4 жыл бұрын

How about a video on psychopathy and plagiarism? Let's give Norm MacDonald his due credit for this joke, Mr. Frank Stallone.

@Mysikrysa

3 жыл бұрын

:D

@musictravellife392

3 жыл бұрын

50 shades of grey

5:12 these are restless unhappy people I promise, run.

Haven’t seen you do Sandusky, or maybe I’ve missed. More interested in those around him, than him. Something other than enablers, must be a completely different type of person. At least, blind enabler. Is it possible that his victims can go on somehow, heal from the emotional wounds. Pedophile priests might be too broad a subject, but there too, can children grow into releasing the heavy baggage...if so, how.

What about the sexual life of a convert narcissist?

Dr how true your words I have thoughts that if we dig deep in to childhood or teenage years also a child born out of wedlock the people sadly aren't in love this was lust the man and woman find themselves living Thier life through the child they think if they have. Another child this will bring the couple closer together in fact the division between the couple is driving them further apart the partner works has to come home cook for the children and himself as the partner leaves to go to work the man is left living his life amongst children children go to bed mother arrives home tired has no time to nuctture her partner he feels list and alone due to his standard of living he is clutching at straws which in some situations the man mY go astray through the use of the internet possibly if there was an a proper bond of trust this may not have happen ed this is a stage In Thier life where some turn to the internet for comfort to fill the empty void in Thier life due to Thier wrong doing they need a support network. Certainly not fejection

iTwo of the last four women I have been involved with have asked me to physically abuse them in ways - choking, spanking, flogging and more. Am I a "mark" for masochistic women? Serious. Am in any danger through indulging their requests? (and yes, this has all happened and this is a real question).

@dande_lion

5 жыл бұрын

Is it abuse, if they like it? What danger are you talking about? Danger being a psychopath? For sure not only because of that.

@aurav1376

5 жыл бұрын

You’re in danger if you actually harm them and they report you to the authorities.

@carenblomgren6486

5 жыл бұрын

Pain is pleasurable for some people and if they truly want you to do those things and there's communication about it (and a safe word or alert of some sort set for when they want it to stop), then you're just having sex! Just like having "vanilla" sex requires consent and the ability for both partners to stop it if they want to at any point.

@TheLocalLt

4 жыл бұрын

Caren Blomgren pain being pleasurable is in itself a sign of a mental disorder even if it’s not listed as such

The problem with the DSM is that it has all these classifications, but the cause and treatement is largely the same. It still comes down to early attachment trauma, abuse, and dysfunctional families. How it manifests itself of course has to do with genes and other factors, but it doesn't matter the disorder...the root is the same. The DSM spends too much time and thought on differentiating SYMPTOMS of the same neuroticism. Regardless of your genetic predisposition, if you are raised in a mostly loving home, with a high level of acceptance of feelings (including anger, rage, sexual feelings, etc) with no physical abuse (including spanking) and minimal verbal abuse...you are not going to end up with extreme mental illness. You HAVE to have environmental input.

If two psychopaths were having a normal conversation, would each be able to identify the other as as a fellow psychopath since both are masters of deception?

@belalnoor9686

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, because there's no one out there that they find relatable but they will know when they find one.

@Mysikrysa

3 жыл бұрын

It´s a good idea for a movie: two insane psychopathic killers who try to kill each other and at the same time to camouflage their intentions from each other.

@Rawyalty220

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mysikrysa I would watch that movie❗️

@jamiemackie3994

3 жыл бұрын

Beware of a strange love for cats. Sure sign. -fellow psychopath.

@osmankovacevic6135

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mysikrysa dexter? Not sure which season

Is there such a thing as an asexual psychopath? My husband is at least a malignant narcissist, but I suspect he may be a psychopath.. he is very asexual and never interested in sex. But I believe he uses the lack of sex and intimacy in our marriage to torture me. I believe he enjoys the pain it causes me. Do you know anything about this? I also suspect he may be a closet homosexual. He would never admit to that because of his strong religious belief that it is a sin. If you know the answer to these questions please make a video.. thank you so much for your help

@susannec659

5 жыл бұрын

Sam Vaknin talks about this in a number of his videos.

@juneingram669

5 жыл бұрын

My husband is exactly the same

@gamleskalle1

5 жыл бұрын

There is a thing called divorce

@changinitupmcgee2397

3 жыл бұрын

My husband was a narcissist covert, Malignant, all of it. Pretended to love me and we never had sex. He left for for his mistress. They have sex, it’s just not with their wives

@kariann3198

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how psychopaths abuse, they withhold affection and sex

I once took a dark triad test and it said I scored lower than average on dark triad traits. Can that be an indicator of a disorder, or does it just mean I have more moral fiber than the average person?

@t.rok13

2 жыл бұрын

@@pain5835 moral fiber for a total psychopath, yes.

I went on a date with a boy and he asked me do I think he is a psychopath ? What do you think about this one thanks