Dear Rosie. Thank you for sharing your struggles. I'm sorry for what you are going through. I could feel it in this video. You had asked for some tips. I saw a video posted by a mom of 4. Her advice: She had read children do better with less toys, that they focus for longer periods of time on one instead of jumping from toy to toy. She chose 4 to 5 of each child's favorite toys to keep available for them to access. All others were gathered, put in a box/ container/ bag and put away, where children couldn't access. She set a time limit, 3 or 4 months. At the end of the time she set, she would take box out, and rotate toys, always keeping with only 4 or 5 for each child (or whatever, but small amount). If an older child specifically asked for a toy put away before the time set expired, she would get it for them, but they had to give one back. Anyway, her experience was her kids didn't miss all the extra toys she put away. She didn't have to make any decisions to get rid of anything, and picking up wasn't as overwhelming. Someone else mentioned asking for help. I never did, and I went through life feeling like a failure wondering how could I be so flippin' lazy that I couldn't, for the life of me, keep a tidy home. I was so ashamed. No one was allowed in my home. I didn't know it then, but depression can be extremely debilitating and exhausting. Wish I had asked for medical help sooner. I didn't know it was depression. Sorry post is so long. I just want to reach out and give you a hug and tell you you are doing a great job. It will get better.

@RosieFlaten

27 күн бұрын

Thank you for being here for me, I am lucky. I am blown away by your message and thoughtfulness. I will implement that with my kids and I’m sure my life will be a lot more seamless. I have heard of toy rotation but it felt like the toys would get forgotten about if they’re put away but hey maybe that’s a good thing… then when the get to see them again they’ll feel brand new! Thank you for the hugs, today was hard and they’re appreciated. ❤️❤️

Great job !! Kids are the little Gremlins who follow behind and undo what you have done - this will never end. And in the real world no work is ever really DONE - EVER. So life as a mom is constant pick up clean up and exhausting on even the best days. Keep it up you are doing awesome !!!

@myutube5882

27 күн бұрын

"A man's work is sun to sun, a woman's work is never done."

Being truthful isn't being negative. Everyone displays toxic positivity and that doesn't help anyone. I can see the overwhelm you are feeling and am so happy to hear you have a great husband who supports you. You are doing great regardless of what the depression tells you. You feel like you are cleaning all the time because you are ruminating on it. Your mind is so consumed with the thoughts about what you need to do that it makes you exhausted. I have several suggestions that have helped me and you can try or not. I suggest that immediately when you wake up you start a load of laundry. Get it ready the night before if needed so you can throw in the soap and start it. Doing 1 or 2 loads a day will give you a feeling of accomplishment. Load and start the dishwasher, take a bag and walk around and gather any garbage/recycling laying around and while picking up garbage have another bag and find 5 or 10 things to declutter. After you make that a habit then start working with your daughter on picking up her own toys. She is getting to the age where she can do this with help and support from you. Doing those things each day will add to your sense of accomplishment and pretty soon those habits are formed and I think you will be able to add on another daily task. Plan a weekly ride alone or with the family where you drop off your donations once per week and stop at the park or get an ice cream as a reward and to get you out of the house for an hour or more. I hope you try it, it has helped me get some control. On days when your depression is really bad, give yourself a break, do your few daily tasks and then just be with your kids. Love your little dog and your son is adorable. He has such a sweet face.

@RosieFlaten

22 күн бұрын

Thank you so much! love and appreciate all of those ideas. Especially the getting out of the house to drop off the stuff. I have been doing my best to start my laundry first thing in the morning. I did that this morning! 🩷

Hi... watching all your videos, liking, and leaving comments to help your algorithm! Wishing you the best!

Oh, Sweetie. You are doing a good job. I know it feels impossible some days, just know that this is a temporary season in your life. It is so hard and everything you are feeling is valid. Give yourself a hug.

@RosieFlaten

25 күн бұрын

Thank you 🥹 I know I’m going to miss this someday

Dear Rosie, post partum depression is absolutely the worst! I hope you will go to your doctor often and get the help you need. Many doctor's don't really understand how dibilitating it is. Get a psychiatrist if you need to because they actually understand this problem better than most other doctors. God bless you I will pray that you get better and stronger everyday. You are doing a wonderful job with two little ones. Keeping them happy is so much work. You are doing great!

@RosieFlaten

25 күн бұрын

I am getting help from my doctors but most often the answers I have been given is to practice self care. My KZread channel has been my self care. Having support from you all and reading your words of encouragement have been so healing. ❤️‍🩹

Ok first Incredibly proud of the progress you’re making, not only with the house but with your self image. You’re not perfect, and that’s ok😁 no one is! Bravo! Bad days can really interrupt any momentum you gain and you’re handling like a champ. 😊 Clean as you go is Soooo much easier said that done😅 Everything in the house needs to have a home and you need room to expand if/when needed. For a family in a home your size 🤯 cray lol In my, slightly less than 40 years on this planet, I have received advice from soo many people. I didn’t grow up in a messy house but I, myself have always been a mess. Piles being moved into other piles😂. They all work🤷 just not for me. One thing that almost always did work for me, asking for help. You have a decent support system but if more is needed ask. Don’t know how to ask? Ask someone how to do that. Lord knows we’re all busy and can’t be there for each other physically all the time, but if we can’t there’s other ways. Don’t just expect more from yourself, request it from us too. ❤ We are your village😁 love you!

@RosieFlaten

Ай бұрын

I love you so much 😭😩

Goooood😍

@RosieFlaten

24 күн бұрын

💕☺️

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Just tuning into your channel. Very relatable. You are doing great, and you are not alone. I had PPD with my second child, it was awful. I was put on Zoloft, I am not one to use medication- not sure if you have mentioned if you are on a medication- it honestly changed my life. It changed my relationship with my husband and kids. It doesnt have to be forever, just this season of life. Something else that helped me was getting rid of systems/toys that didnt allow me to control the mess. I personally found the Ikea bin storage (you have it too) was a constant annoyance for me. The kids would dump and throw/kick the toys out of it constantly. I cut their toys down, donated a ton, sold a bit, sold the Ikea storage unit- went back to ikea and bought a bookcase. At the top of the bookcase i put bins of stuff that i didnt want to get rid of... but wanted to be able to control access to (small pieces, etc). On the bottom shelves i put approx 10 toys, just set out one by one. It'll make that portion of your life a lot better... toys really bothered me. Then, just take it corner by corner, day by day. Instead of saying "i got nothing done today" at the end of the day, i challenge you to name three things you DID do. "today i took care of my kids, today I showered, today i cleaned a corner of the kitchen" Keep going youre doing great! Oh! and headphones help a lot, i kept one in my ear and one out so i could hear them. But just listening to a podcast or a youtube video can help drown the chaos!

@RosieFlaten

26 күн бұрын

I love those suggestions! I am going to put some energy into toy rotation soon and only keep out a few for them to play with. :) I am on medication and have been for almost 6 years, so unfortunately my doctors haven't been able to offer me any options medication wise which has left me to try to heal just using self care and my support system. I am going to be kinder to myself and remind myself of the thing I was able to accomplish. Thank you so much! 💜

I love you! First, good job on still accomplishing things even though you were having a rough day! It can be so incredibly hard to be productive when things don’t go right and you still worked through it! I am so incredibly proud of you! I love your honesty and openness. Also your laughter towards the end of the video was so brightening! Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re amazing!

@RosieFlaten

Ай бұрын

Thank you! I wouldn’t be able to keep going without you. I love you!! ❤️

Rosie as I keep watching you what your husband needs to do is get rid of everything you don't need your house is very small for so much stuff. I thin getting rid of all the stuff you have would help you so much, I love your personality and your honest. Take a breather.

Rosie, I think you are the absolute realest person on youtube. I enjoy watching another youtuber who is pretty real but she has 5 kids and makes life look easy. I have 4 and I feel exactly like you and you've made me see that it's possible even if I have to do a little bit here and there

I admire you for speaking your truth. I’m an independent parent of 3 working full time from home & I definitely relate to a lot of your emotions. You didn’t just sit there & let your emotions rule your day, you got up & did what you could do. I’ve learned to give myself grace because all that we do is not easy. I’m sorta a neat freak & get told all the time that my home is always so clean. Sometimes I wish I could tell them all the exhaustion that goes into that. From prying the covers off me when my alarm goes off in the mornings to forcing myself to do the dishes before bed. You keep doing what you can, when you can & I’ll keep supporting you mama ! 🫶🏻🤍

@RosieFlaten

26 күн бұрын

You don’t even know how much that means to me. I can sort of relate to the neat freak side of things because when I’m pregnant, I go into nesting mode times 1000. When I would wake up, I would start cleaning and I wouldn’t stop until I went to bed. If something was even just a little bit out of place I couldn’t rest until it was taken care of. I was on my hands and knees, scrubbing the floor the dirt from the little grooves in the linoleum. I was so exhausted at the end of every day. My whole house was spotless, but when I gave birth that all went away. I can imagine that’s how you are, but it doesn’t go away. You are superwoman! I am trying to be kind to myself well also giving myself tough love when I need it. Thank you so much for your support. 🥰❤️

Dear Rosie, I think it's really brave of you to share your struggles with the world and also helpful to other people more than you might think. I struggled a lot from depression caused by work related stress. At those times I had similar feelings to yours - feeling paralyzed and not being able to do things which would help me to sort my situation out. What I found extremely helpful was a 3 tasks on my to do list rule. I would put just three little tasks on my list. Things which were most important but could't take more than 5 minutes to complete otherwise they would have had to be split into 2 or more individual tasks. When they were complete, I would assess how I felt and decide if I put another task on the list or if I was done for the day. It obviously doesn't help sort out a big mess but it does help to start. And because I already accomplished something that day, it helped me to give myself permission to relax because I new that tomorrow I'll do another 3 things at least (even if it was exactly the same ones I did that day. Sending lots of love and emotional support. ❤❤❤

Here’s a suggestion that might help. When my house gets all messy and things are just to over welding I start cluttering. I need to see the floors and corners of the rooms. See if you can get a storage unit. Put everything in it that you don’t use. It will give the kids a place to play .. you a place to sit and watch them. Teach them not to fight. I think the kids can feel your stress. I really feel for you but I think a lot of your situation is having to much stuff. Saying this with love. Try to give it a try ❤

When your kids are small they're the first thing on your mind in the morning and the last at night, don't be so hard on yourself.my flat is small and that's it, I carn't do anything and less now that I,'m 60, don,'t feel it ,don't look it.was like you when my kids were small.even the family in law critizied me, awful bad things, made me suffer.but whithin the years I learnt .you will aswell , lucky to have a hubby that understands and helps . 😘😘You are strong,you are brave, you are beatiful.❤

Rosie I can feel for you my tip for you as a parent is each day set a goal also put the baby in his high chair where he can see you. Than sit your daughter in her chair and give yourself some peace of mind to get your goal done each day you are overwelming yourself for no reason.

Hearing you talk about things makes me feel like u know me 😂...I'm the exact same way!....just subscribed 😁

Your doing great hun

@RosieFlaten

26 күн бұрын

Thank you so much!🥰

set a 5 minute timer and work for only 5 minutes. then sit for 15. repeat as necessary. it's seriously the only way I can get out of the funk of exhaustion and overwhelm to get anything done. also, you're going to hate me but putting my phone away/removing all dopamine producing apps (social media, shopping, etc) has helped me regulate my rage and depression. go outside or on a car ride if you have your own car. I have two little ones as well, with depression and rage. I wish I could give you all the advice I've found to help but those are my top 3!

@RosieFlaten

18 күн бұрын

I love all of these ideas and I am definitely trying to implement them. Thank you, it helps to know you get where I'm coming from. 🩷

PS Not sure if you've already seen Remi Clog, you have so much in common with her, if you haven't seen her videos yet I think you would really love watching her and connecting, I'm sure you'll get to a better place, it takes time thats all

@RosieFlaten

29 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a genuine comment. ☺️ I have seen Remi and I love her videos. I’ve been subscribed for a long time. She actually is one of the ones who inspired me to finally take the step and make a KZread channel.

I am not tired to hear you. I like your voice

@RosieFlaten

18 күн бұрын

Thank you!! 🥹

young lady it hard woirk been a mom to two little kids,and harder when not well yourself but itgood you talking away to the camera to get it out what you feeling and doing what you can in the day , can hear in your voice the effort you trying to get yourself going before your husband comes homes , so putting on a load wash and pottering around doing something instead jumping on a chair to go on phone was great , tha another wash load done ,:) ,you are very pretty young lady and your kids look very happy and fed and clean so thats the most important thing in the day anything else is a bouns , just dont look at a room has a mess just look at one box a day throw out what you dont use so less to clean :) .and having a support network around you is awesome ,i didnt have that with my twins and was no youtube back then :) you doing all the right things talk it out /kids first / one box a day / ont beat yourself up you doing great , get some vitamin's and one step at a time ,:)

@RosieFlaten

25 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for your sweet heartfelt comment. I can feel the love, I appreciate you. 💕💕

All you can do each day is the best you can do. How wonderful that you are so brave to share yourself with others. There are so many people who share your struggles. Blessings and success in all you do. 😊

@RosieFlaten

25 күн бұрын

Thank you so much! 🥰❤️

Hello, I have watched a few of your videos, I really enjoy them, and I can understand some of your struggles. I have a suggestion: Is there any way you and your family can get a house/apt? Two bedrooms would help so much! I have always lived in small houses, but it really makes a big difference!!

You will have good day and bad day, do what you can and if you acomplished some thing reward your self, you are taking the steps for your recovery and that is very good.❤

@RosieFlaten

28 күн бұрын

@@marisolbenitez1339 thank you! I am in such a better place now but a few months ago it was so much worse. It’s important to share the real side of life with little babies. Thank you for supporting me. ❤️

Great job I just subscribed 😊❤

@RosieFlaten

24 күн бұрын

Yay! Thank you! 💕☺️

I think your little girl is jealous of the baby.I understand, your a great mom!

@RosieFlaten

18 күн бұрын

I think you're on to something with that. We try to make sure that she gets enough bonding time with us and also is bonding with her brother. Thank you for leaving a sweet comment. 🩷

I had it when i had my first child and no one regiosined it and i was completely left on my own to deal with it and with a newborn its hard but we get through it some how

Using a timer for even 5 minutes help get started on my bad days, many 5 minutes add up.. Mom of 4

@RosieFlaten

28 күн бұрын

I will definitely try that! Thank you so much! I love hearing advice from more veteran moms than me. I’m always wondering how you all do it! I’m running around like a chicken with my head cut off with just my two. 😅

Yes, you have always been an old woman! Fan of the golden girls since age 5!

Love you honey. ❤

Take One Day at a Time and try to clean when the kids are sleeping that might be easier.

I wish you could get the feeling of deep satisfaction when you accomplish a task and really feel good about you for completing it. Makes me realize how something’s are so hard for some and not others. My heart goes out to you. Don’t stress over any of it just one day at a time. I follow a you tuber fearfully created. She use to be like you but 5 years later she is a powerhouse. I have learned so much about having patience with yourself from her. Just be you. It will get better I promise.

@RosieFlaten

26 күн бұрын

I appreciate that, I will check her out. Thank you for taking the time to leave me a thoughtful comment. ❤️

Ask doctor to check your thiamine (vitamin b1) level and B12 or ask doctor about a high quality B complex supplement

@RosieFlaten

25 күн бұрын

I haven’t heard anything about this! I will ask for sure. Thank you! 💕

@Kriszee4

25 күн бұрын

@@RosieFlaten No problem! They have helped me with many symptoms so I tell everyone I can lol. I hope you can find some relief. Thank you for sharing, you are very brave to speak out and help yourself. That is one of my most difficult things to do so I commend you for your courage. Good luck on your new channel!