“What are these mind games that I didn’t sign up for but I’m playing” same tbfh 😕

@buttcheeksguy

5 жыл бұрын

i went on a "date" with someone i met online with whom i was enjoying conversing and we clicked very well that we then decided to meet up. we were both just looking to be friends and not be in a relationship, or so i thought. but when we met i didnt make effort to impress the person because i thought we were just friends and we will continue being friends online regardless. when i got back home, i received a message in which i'm told that our personalities don't match... and i'm like why do we have to have matching personalities to be friends? i felt like i not only lost a friend, but i also was on a date i didn't even sign up for.

@Daniel-ke1bn

5 жыл бұрын

Gold

@ellaoxford3281

5 жыл бұрын

It's called "orbiting" when someone disappears from your life but still looks at/likes your social media, but never anything beyond that.

@dewanhassan7320

4 жыл бұрын

That is probably the most truest hard hitting line of modern day society we're all going through.

@liekelouter

4 жыл бұрын

me when he likes my facebook status but doesn't reply to my personal text...

I don’t get ghosted because I don’t talk to people

@manofgray5239

5 жыл бұрын

Mood.

@Ashley-wn8cx

5 жыл бұрын

Read

@strawberryjpeg6000

5 жыл бұрын

Diya Patel same

@fattyboomboom5804

5 жыл бұрын

Same

@jermed2001

5 жыл бұрын

Same.

so he is a ghoster and a cheater, yeah, I really don't like him

@raquecubillo

3 жыл бұрын

i totally agree, like hes not even that great ig

@CybertroninfiniteOfficial

3 жыл бұрын

@@raquecubillo girls fall for the weirdest guys sometimes

@dinizv

3 жыл бұрын

At least he’s honest about it. Most people wouldn’t give that level of honesty or bargain their dignity like that

@londynmurphy8818

3 жыл бұрын

ok.

@Ichigo-dh9rd

3 жыл бұрын

he thinks it's aLpHa n qUirKy🤪 lmao

I feel like you've officially entered adulthood when you're honest / brave enough to reject someone without ghosting...

@p.r.9982

3 жыл бұрын

Even when that person is abusive?

@perfectgogeta

3 жыл бұрын

I believe you don't know what you're talking about.

@bettytes_2615

3 жыл бұрын

That's the bare minimum wtf😭

@valerijajovanovic2020

3 жыл бұрын

@@bettytes_2615 ikr

@p.r.9982

3 жыл бұрын

@Sarita Hsa Have you tried it yourself?

Am I the only one deleting conversations with people that I have ghosted or who have ghosted me ?

@411y5un

5 жыл бұрын

um me too, i was watching the video shocked these people kept those texts!

@thefirsttime7759

5 жыл бұрын

People who ghost are garbage people

@p.r.9982

5 жыл бұрын

I believe everyone has done it. I do it to people who have been disrespectful to me, or someone who doesn't take no for an answer when it comes to flirting.

@viktoriyam458

5 жыл бұрын

I could never bring myself to... It feels too final even though i know that I'm probably never going to talk to them again

@JWO.Lonlon.The.Nerd.Slayer

5 жыл бұрын

I don’t ghost people but I think it’s justified in situations where the person is abusive, creepy, can’t take no for an answer other than that it’s a shitty thing to do

“But it’s ok, I just laughed it off. And I’m still cute” omg I love that so much 😩🤣

@MashCruMusic

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@joanafairy

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, me too😂

@solidus1995

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sure you do

@Gytu

2 жыл бұрын

Something about her periodic ghosting rubs me the wrong way. Immature at best.

@Mellowyellow54

2 жыл бұрын

With that type of personality she’ll be just fine

Ghosting is the weirdest thing ever, like people will be acting like theybare really into you, sending massive paragraphs and replying instantly and then they just disappear🤷‍♀️😂

@anonymous_4276

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. The most annoying part is the lack of explanation/reason for the sudden change in attitude. All you get is stuff like "I'm really busy, will talk later".

@doggielover4999

2 жыл бұрын

@@anonymous_4276 those text are so annoying. So I agreed

@illestvillain1971

Жыл бұрын

@@anonymous_4276 I have had friends who actively text me, and despite not caring about them to be polite I reply quickly. They may ask a question out of the blue and when I respond which naturally leads the conversation somewhere they open and ignore. And then the cycle repeats. This one particular friend who does it often I've just barely replied to anymore or if I do it's open and shut replies I do not have time to deal with these dumbass mind games and power trips. I have so many friends that do similar stuff and they are not worth the hassle.

@anonymous_4276

Жыл бұрын

@@illestvillain1971 I've been lucky enough not to face such behaviour from my friends. They've all been pretty straightforward with me (and so have I). I faced such behaviour with the person i first dated. She seemed so caring and loving, she used to talk about how much she loved me. Then suddenly she started ghosting me, with no explanation. I almost begged for an explanation, yet I still got none. I was also in love at that point so I tried way too hard. Personally I don't think such friendships or relationships are healthy. I think it's better to confront them straight away (which is what I did with her though that resulted merely in me being ghosted faster). I think having some level of honesty in all friendships or relationships is the best. It's very frustrating to deal with this crap. I hope your friendships improve.

@taethetical

Жыл бұрын

I had a guy that I matched with, went on great dates together we had a lot of things in common, and would send paragraphs alongside voice messages. This guy was broke and didn't have any money and was looking for jobs, and I was very understanding until one day he started becoming distant saying "I'm busy tonight, going out with friends" I had to end up blocking him for my own mental health.

"have you ever been ghosted?" "as good looking as i am, that's still a problem" LMAO SAME

@forgetfulstranger

2 жыл бұрын

I love him hahahaha

@marcoAKAjoe

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

“It’s okay, I’m still cute.” Love her energy lmao 💕

@pheebza

5 жыл бұрын

celesteee c. LOL THATS ME! thank u!!!

@honeydipped

5 жыл бұрын

phoebe esperanza - No problem!! You were great 😂

@DP-oi9nd

5 жыл бұрын

@@pheebza youre soo hot

@zestyfruitloops6290

5 жыл бұрын

Deja Pointer that’s a yikes from me. She’s ugly

@vl4eva

5 жыл бұрын

You're cute. Of course you'll ghost others. Lol

Most ghost texts end in one liners like *LOL* or *Ha*

@shitmandood

5 жыл бұрын

Are you the expert?

@lepiee

5 жыл бұрын

@@shitmandood LOL

@manofgray5239

5 жыл бұрын

@@lepiee Ha

@imback2killu328

5 жыл бұрын

LOL

@huydinh228

5 жыл бұрын

Yikes

Social media it’s literally one of the worst things that ever happened to humanity.

@elisscaliving4776

3 жыл бұрын

Why

@OllieCreates

3 жыл бұрын

You wouldn’t have watched this video or projected this opinion without it.

@Bogna1

2 жыл бұрын

Dating apps much worse.

@cassu6

2 жыл бұрын

@@OllieCreates Indeed. Fuck social media

@sade2576

2 жыл бұрын

I would definitely have to disagree

Everytime i get ghosted i have a mental breakdown....

@einsamervolf

3 жыл бұрын

Same.

@tjenglish7036

3 жыл бұрын

I ride my bike to go get a paleta

@elliaforsyth5638

3 жыл бұрын

Same!!! And then I mentally extradite then to Canada so I don’t have to deal with them. It’s concrete yk like “they’re not even in the same mental country anymore move on.”

@persona7506

3 жыл бұрын

Same.

@alanageorgia932

3 жыл бұрын

@@tjenglish7036 HAHHAHA BRUH CAN I JOIN

I don’t ghost people I procrastinate.

@matilda1744

5 жыл бұрын

Same

@verydoge5262

5 жыл бұрын

I still haven't replied to this one rando for like 3 years lol

@satturnny8389

5 жыл бұрын

hard yes

@user-sm2pc6qu6z

5 жыл бұрын

@A G sometimes time just flies and before you know it you're like damn probably past the point of no return lol.

@eamami1087

5 жыл бұрын

Me too😂

That feeling when you run into the person who ghosted you irl 😬

@asm3282

5 жыл бұрын

I gave them a smile, they smiled back. 10/10 awkward

@QuixoticUkulele

5 жыл бұрын

I went straight up flip mode. This nicca sees me and grabs my hand in the grocery and proceeds to say, "hey beautiful." How are you going to pretend that you ghosted me and we're fine now? All I seen was red.

@alyssahinolan7827

5 жыл бұрын

Dude twas so awkward like we just walk past each other like strangers

@StrykerGamingOfficial

5 жыл бұрын

Happened to me, they made eye contact with me then turned to a different direction instantly. Feels bad

@lildel7698

5 жыл бұрын

It’s like I wish I had that remote from the film Click starring Adam Sandler so I can freeze time and slap them silly

Red flag I should have noticed earlier: the girl who ghosted me literally had a tattoo of a ghost on her arm.

@truecrime256

2 жыл бұрын

😃😃😃😃

@samo917

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@gemempertin1759

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 this made me laugh

@Butterflyyy1122

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@thotslayer9922

2 жыл бұрын

Yo 😂 these chicks are crazy

No one ever responds to “just let me know” let’s be real

@TheSmily4ever

4 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭

@droberts4791

4 жыл бұрын

haha that's what I was thinking, like at least ask what days she has off

@chad5617

4 жыл бұрын

If you aren't willing to put in bare minimum effort to "let someone know" then you were never interested to begin with.

@camila101_

3 жыл бұрын

i do haha at least sometimes

@honesttruth817

3 жыл бұрын

Actually someone did recently AND I was very surprised. So true, who does reply to them.

3:00 "i'm glad i can be there for you" "do you wanna grab coffee?" and suddenly he is not glad to be there for her. and this is the same guy who cheated on his girlfriend and she told him to leave her alone. a very decent guy this dude is.

@bl2023

5 жыл бұрын

And texted her on her birthday! That was her day, and he made it about him.

@bridget4858

5 жыл бұрын

Came here to say the same thing.

@scarlao

5 жыл бұрын

How do you know this?

@sorachan6485

5 жыл бұрын

@@scarlao there is other video about people texting there ex's and he was in it

@scarlao

5 жыл бұрын

@@sorachan6485: Ahh, thanks. I must have missed that one!

Being ghosted...sucks. sometimes can make you feel alone...

@yagirlceleste1497

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I know :(

@renaldfloydcayaban

5 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean

@reality_hits_hard_fast

5 жыл бұрын

all the time make you feel alone

@hylahphillips7965

5 жыл бұрын

fr. 4 year relationship down the drain bc they just disappeared and i haven’t heard from them, or know what even happened to them for 3 months now

@lildel7698

5 жыл бұрын

Forreal some of us don’t have family or friends maybe just moved alone to a new town and are trying to find love or companionship

Ghosting shows a severe lack of empathy😣

I don’t really classify half of these as ghosting. Ghosting is when you’ve formed a sort of relationship with the person and you are completely blind sighted when they disappear. When you are ghosted you are left with no explanation and them no longer communicating with you comes straight out of the blue.

@luminouscali

2 жыл бұрын

Yea these are suggestions to make plans and the person doesn’t respond to make future plans which is fair. Ghosting is ignoring questions.

@sidneyboo9704

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I just got ghosted for the first time I can remember. Saturday: I like hanging out with you, we'll see each other again. Sunday: I'll call you later this week- Last text I ever got from him.

Last girl seems sweet. Hope she found someone!

@liluhaas

5 жыл бұрын

Natalie gonzalez me hopefully 🥰

@penisbutthole1720

4 жыл бұрын

i didnt even tell she was a girl

@BlueWithoutBiu

3 жыл бұрын

She was really polite, mature, understanding, kind. I would want to be friend with her.

"I want you to be you...in whatever way that is." *Powerful words.*

@missddeezz

2 жыл бұрын

Yuhh, I got teary eyed ngl

My best friend at the time ghosted me and his last text was, 'You're not alone. I will never leave you alone.' so ironic

I've never ghosted anyone because I don't have a problem saying "Hey, I am not interested. Sorry". My first ghosting happened a few months ago with an ex-boyfriend of two years. He stopped replying for 2 weeks so I gave up. Then he messaged again and we were okay for about one month. We went out, slept together, etc like normal. Then he ghosted me again about 2 weeks ago. I am really done with him now. People who ghost are cowards.

@cassu6

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah ghosting is honestly super scummy. Really shows the lack of spine some people have

5:18 aww she’s so sweet

@ruthasan6355

5 жыл бұрын

So sweet, right?? That smile killed me!

@QuixoticUkulele

5 жыл бұрын

Best one, imo. I want to be her friend.

@lxxy05

5 жыл бұрын

she honestly had such a good response to that ,

@irislaluna5620

5 жыл бұрын

Omg she is!!

@fleur1492

5 жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t even call it sweet. More like basic human decency. I don’t get how so many people seem to lose that capability online.

Funny how people react to being ghosted so differently to when they ghost other people themselves...

@Sp1n1985

5 жыл бұрын

Hypocrisy thy name is human

@p.r.9982

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I ghost people too. It sucks but I can't be "mad" at anyone for doing this. I think I'd only lose it if it was a bf or a relative cause doing that to a lover or family is a no no. Other than that, there are situations where ghosting is better. If confrontation doesn't bring closure (toxic ppl), it's not worth it.

@Sp1n1985

5 жыл бұрын

@@p.r.9982 passivity, it's a common female traits. Very common in society today

@mylittlebouquet3994

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe they are different things :///

@opal331

5 жыл бұрын

Marcus INfinity not even remotely a common female trait. If you have a pattern of women routinely ceasing contact, there's something going on with your conduct.

Ghosting has taught me to be more honest with people. If I'm aware that someone is interested in me, and I don't feel the same way, I'm very to the point. Ghosting to me is just a cowardly thing to do (unless you need to for safety reasons), and anyone who still thinks its okay to do, I lose respect.

@standground7956

Жыл бұрын

Not at all. Once I got definitive proof that I was cheated on, I realized that confrontation would be meaningless and disappeared without a trace. Meaningless in the sense that it wouldn’t change anything and I didn’t want them to feel bad about getting busted. It was refreshing to walk away while they drift in uncertainty of the unknown. Plus, I’m being considerate- why would a cheater want closure from someone they were being dishonest with. I sure both women never discovered that I found out they were cheating so it evens out. They’ll be aight. A coward would have been complaining, yelling, whining and asking for apology or trying to make the other person feel guilty. It takes ’balls of steel’ to ghost a person you’ve known for years. I sleep very well at night knowing you don’t respect me for my actions.

I don't think these are the worst cases of ghosting. It seemed too casual... Especially when it's someone you just met one or two times. Doesn't make it right but it certainly isn't the most painful. Real ghosting is when you pour your heart out to someone or message something serious that requires a reply and then they never respond. It is incredibly painful and so selfish and cowardly of the other person.

My boyfriend (7 years relationship) ghosted me, I wrote I miss you. He never replied, I don’t understand how can people do this and live with that.

@karleenkarlotta6740

5 жыл бұрын

Lillie Sch I'm so sorry that happened to you 😭. But seriously how can they live with themself

@chaospig222

5 жыл бұрын

I can only guess something horribly wrong happened in his life, so take solace in the fact that it probably wasn't you?

@benharrison8604

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe he just couldn't handle it emotionally so it was easier to pretend it didnt exist.

@megd7593

5 жыл бұрын

Ben Harrison After 7 years? Nope, he’s a coward and she deserves closure. To him- man up, baby ghost wimp!

@benharrison8604

5 жыл бұрын

@@megd7593 Exactly, he couldn't handle it emotionally and found it easier to ignore. That's what cowards do.

I don’t know why, but this is hard to watch. The ones where people seem so into you and then ghost anyway. Makes it really hard to trust anything anyone says.

"Im only getting milk, i'll be back in a couple of minutes" -my dad, 30 years ago

@LadyFlorinaC

2 жыл бұрын

My dad said “I’m only going to work in another country for 3 months..didn’t come back” ✌🏼

@marcoAKAjoe

2 жыл бұрын

@@LadyFlorinaC sad

@saunokchakrabarty8384

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. I don't even know what to say to that. Peace to you, my fellow human being.

"What are these mindgames I haven't signed up for but I'm playing??" UGHHH WORD I CAN RELATEEEE

@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw

3 жыл бұрын

It definitely sucks

@shirin8609

3 жыл бұрын

Remove those kinds of people from your life!

"Hey, how's your day? Can we hang out together tonight?" *Delivered*

@mariee_e

5 жыл бұрын

I feel like I hate Delivered way more than any Read message

@JonhEdward

5 жыл бұрын

seen 12.00 AM

@BlueBerryBronzer

5 жыл бұрын

Marie M lol why? Most guys I talk to have their read off and the ‘Delivered’ is the only way I can tell they haven’t blocked me and in a sick way puts my anxiety at ease cause then I can make excuses for him as to why he may not have hit me back yet💔😭 I’m sad, i know ya I’m sad, I know ya🎶

@fabinemichel5376

5 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭💀

@Daniel-ke1bn

5 жыл бұрын

@@mariee_e what exactly does that mean? It has always confused me

Every attractive girl has a guy talking to himself in her DM’s.

@miked9466

5 жыл бұрын

whats a dm's?

@ashlynbeckstrom9846

5 жыл бұрын

Mike D You’re kidding..? 😭

@DrAdnan

5 жыл бұрын

Mike D Direct Messages bro

@HappyDagger1993

5 жыл бұрын

doc martens

@humzauddin6692

5 жыл бұрын

has a 20 guys *

Can we all just appreciate the last girl for a second? How goddamn nice she is? I hope she sees this because I'm sending her my warmest and biggest hug. STAY AWESOME! ❤

Bottom line: Never say "Let me know"

I know that first guy had a girl tell him to leave her alone. I wonder if it’s that same girl 😂

@louisparker7580

5 жыл бұрын

mrsembm don’t mug it prove it

@babyshooz

5 жыл бұрын

I see that !!!

@InnerRise

5 жыл бұрын

Thought the same

@cutienerdgirl

5 жыл бұрын

@@louisparker7580 He was on the "Last texts from your exes" video. Short story even shorter, he cheated on his ex and asked for forgiveness on her birthday.

@alexsaceanu7770

5 жыл бұрын

Plot twist ... you're the girl🤣

Ghosting is rude, childish, and cowardly. How hard is it to write one sentence to let them know you’re not interested, you’re too busy, or whatever lame excuse you have? If you don’t intend to keep up contact, don’t give out your digits. Pretty simple.

@insomniacraccoon

5 жыл бұрын

How are you supposed to turn down someone asking for your number? Just come off as the biggest fuckface in the universe?

@megd7593

5 жыл бұрын

Insomniac Raccoon If you’re not interested, just tell them you don’t generally give out your number to people you don’t know really well. Chances are, you probably have a mutual friend you can tell them to get ahold of if they need to get a message to you. If they’re interested, they’ll do it. Or tell them to get ahold of you on Facebook messenger. They can do that without being on your friends list. If they message you, you can decide where to go from there. Either way, if they put forth the effort, it means they’re probably truly interested, not just looking for a hookup. Now, if you really ARE interested, that’s a different story- give them your number!

@alexd4566

5 жыл бұрын

+Megan D Exactly. It has to do with respect and basic human decency. Give a person closure so he/she knows to stop contacting you.

@Twylinaelizabeth

5 жыл бұрын

Isn’t not responding letting someone know you’re not interested?

@Un1234l

5 жыл бұрын

There are many reasons for apparent ghosting. People who live on their phones think ghosting is such a big deal. People who don't live on their phones and don't replace real interactions with digital ones don't care much about responding right away.

Interviewer: Have you been ghosted? Guy: *SWIPES UP* Let me count the ways!! I felt that.

sometimes ghosting is kinda unavoidable.. people get persistent, and even when you tell them that you are uncomfortable, they are not stopping...

I feel like the woman who said this guy had been trying to pursue her multiple times and in person she told him she wasn't interested multiple times isn't even ghosting. He's kinda harassing her really and she doesn't owe him a reply since he's not respecting her boundaries

@monaDJ139

5 жыл бұрын

there is something called block.

@rolandk3061

5 жыл бұрын

@AWGaming why do you put these words in her mouth and expect the worst?

@maryhawkins3427

5 жыл бұрын

Omg i was looking for a comment like this THANK YOU

@theonlyonewithgum1452

5 жыл бұрын

@AWGaming No... it would still be harassing. We've all seen this scenario in movies/shows (since it's rarer irl) and cringed hard.

@KattReen

5 жыл бұрын

Idk if it's harrassment, but it's definitely not taking a hint and being a bit overbearing.

I really like that girls dimples!👍

@pheebza

5 жыл бұрын

peppermintfoxy thank u!

@KoiNadi

5 жыл бұрын

I swear, I burst out laughing when she did the thumbs up!!!! 😂😂💀

@lildel7698

5 жыл бұрын

phoebe esperanza you’re cute are you Filipino?

@faizolmai5844

5 жыл бұрын

phoebe esperanza you’re beautiful

@pheebza

5 жыл бұрын

Adel The Kid yes (: filipino & bolivian!

- "I'm glad that I can be there for you" - "wanna grab coffee?" - *disappears*

@marcoAKAjoe

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

Ghosting is not just immature, it is cowardly and cruel If things aren't working out, have the integrity to be upfront with the person I have been ghosted for over a month now by a woman I really thought I had a connection and a future with No argument, no rejection, she just vanished. It is a horrendous feeling and leaves you profoundly depressed

Im always the person who just texts or calls to check in with friends but no one ever does the same for me. I just want someone to just ask me how im doing and really want to know the real answer. Not just the typical "im fine" or "im good" response. People go weeks without replying to my texts and I get that people are busy with school, work, kids, life but just a "hey how are you?" And not because you need something or a guy trying to see if im still interested, just a genuine interest in how im doing. Ive been ghosted so many times so i know how it feels. So im always open and honest if im not interesed in a guy. Better to let them know and not be hanging on.

@asiamaya1527

5 жыл бұрын

Rebecca Same! It hurts so badly when you are always the one to check-in

@mimimartinez7474

5 жыл бұрын

I've been there. I don't know, I just feel bad sometimes for wanting to be asked how I'm doing. I feel like I shouldn't expect anything from people, but then again, it's hard to be that way 😔

@Varaidzo1

5 жыл бұрын

Im the same as you! Dont change! Youre a good friend =) We need more people who care in this world, and it does make a huge difference. Im sure at some point somebody will be brought into your life who will appreciate you checking in and will ask you the same :)

@TJ-1234

5 жыл бұрын

Hey how are you?

@bonkers2121

5 жыл бұрын

@@TJ-1234 I'm doing good! 😊 busy dog/house sitting sitting over the holidays. How are you?

I think not answering people is plain disrespectful (unless they're the ones being disrespectful/pushy to you of course, like the girl who said she had told him no multiple times). I can't do that, I see it as a lack of respect for another person.

@MikroAnimations

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I'd rather get rejected than get nothing at all.

@newchapterasmr

5 жыл бұрын

@@MikroAnimations It's like saying 'I really couldn't care less about you'

@massb7428

5 жыл бұрын

Mariana Oliveira but see it’s mostly females that ghost sometimes I’ll be talking to a girl it’s going good and we’d have a date set up then I get ghosted lol just say your not down or something it’s not that hard

@newchapterasmr

5 жыл бұрын

@@massb7428 That is very rude. But I disagree that it's 'mostly females'

@massb7428

5 жыл бұрын

Mariana Oliveira oo yea millions of girls ghost just if they get bored because they know they have a million other options. Don’t believe me then why do women take joy from posting I guy trying to talk to her. I’ve seen countless times where women say loool look at this guy talking to himself in my inbox. Instead of all that why not just say hey sorry but I’m not interested?

The dimpled girl’s confidence is YES

My ex literally texted me that she'll always be there for me before blocking me from every platform in existence out of the blue. These people are sick. If you've ever been ghosted then be thankful. You don't wanna live with such mindless people.

I don’t get why people act interested at first then disappear? Like why act friendly and give me your number if you don’t want me to use it. I’m only messaging you because I thought you were interested which is why I thought was the point of us exchanging info. Also I don’t want to follow your life on social media if we’re not gonna hangout or communicate. We’re not friends if we don’t talk or hangout

@aquariusmoon6174

5 жыл бұрын

There are a lot of reasons why people ghost. some people are too afraid to be honest because they don't want to hurt people's feelings. Then there are people who genuinely want to hang out with you but they get scared because they are intimidated by you. They feel like they are not interesting enough or they have nothing to offer. Or you unintentionally said or did something that really bothered them the first time you met them and they just had a bad impression of you but they don't want to say anything to you to be rude. Just don't take it personally.

@kurtwylde2332

5 жыл бұрын

Suzi Williamson that’s why my father told me if you see a girl you want to talk too give them your number instead of asking them for theirs so if they text you they may be interested in some way. Instead of you force texting them

@flyingdutchman9053

4 жыл бұрын

Suzi Williamson the actual mistake is “getting the number”. Get a date first then ask about the number to sort details.

@jonathanxavier2026

4 жыл бұрын

@@kurtwylde2332 The thing is a lot of women do expect men to make the effort, including the first texts. So they won't text you but would be still interested.

@lekhamutyala790

4 жыл бұрын

preach

Advice: If they don’t reply after a certain time throughout that day, don’t blame them, they probably are really busy. But if it happens more than 2-3 times, then I think the sign is there. Don’t bother texting them repetitively ‘cuz then you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment.

@vl4eva

5 жыл бұрын

I ain't got no problem with that. I'm just not a pussy that I can't respond to someone and tell them how it is! Just a thought!

@RiruKrypto_

5 жыл бұрын

Busy as an having better people to hangout with than you. 😔

@McHaxercid

4 жыл бұрын

@@RiruKrypto_ exactly

@dianalove539

2 жыл бұрын

@@mochiloki I feel the same way.. what to do?

@mochiloki

2 жыл бұрын

@@dianalove539 hey! my relationship with my friend is really weird right now but i still want to help. it depends on the situation, but i'd suggest lightly bringing it up with them. obviously if they're busy it can't be helped, but maybe you guys can reach a compromise! i know this response is late though so maybe you've already figured it out? hope this helps!

Ghosting is immature, cowardly, and cruel.

@mreit28

3 жыл бұрын

and yet, women do it more often then not

@olliviermae

3 жыл бұрын

@@mreit28 the graveyard harbors ghosts, both men and women. Poor behavior favors no sex, it knows everyone well.

@auspicious6703

3 жыл бұрын

No it’s not, because a lot of people don’t easily just let you stop talking to them even after you specifically express that you don’t want to engage with them anymore. I think it’s actually immature and entitled to expect someone to keep expending their time and energy on you even if they don’t want to.

omg that last one has me tearing up! open, honest, and kind communication - that's all it takes!

That's why I hate texting. I hate it. Social Media is cool - but that's killing us socially.

It sucks because ghosting also happens with friends. "When you message just to check in, about their day, no response/one liners. When finally have the time to hang out, they don't respond. But when they want to hang out and you're busy yet you still respond with a polite *"I'm so sorry, I'm busy. Maybe another time?"* or *"This is such bad timing, I'm busy right now. Maybe later?"* , they become angry and don't message back. They only really message you when they want something from you. And I know that I don't owe anything to anyone and no one owes anything to me, but it's just friend to friend interaction. Why can't people just say they're busy? Text culture is being ashamed to reply right away, it's not responding to messages to days at a time to show that you don't care, why do we do that? Why do I do that? I don't know. I'm a hypocrite. How was your day?" A message one of my online friends sent me. It really speaks to me.

@betholivia99

5 жыл бұрын

A.RIVAL that’s a situation I’m currently going through right now and it hurts so bad

@lepiee

5 жыл бұрын

I dont know where I read this, but on average you will only meet 5 people in your life who are always there and reliable. Those are your true friends.

@Mr.Elliott

5 жыл бұрын

Dont consider thoughs people friends. I have a super tight circle and i mean SUPER tight. Dont let "friends" make you question your relationship with them, cause then they arent friends only added on stress to your life. Find people that enjoy your presence enough to not do that to you.

@Sp1n1985

5 жыл бұрын

@@lepiee Alexa! ▶ Play "real friends" by Kanye West

@buttcheeksguy

5 жыл бұрын

friends DO OWE each other.

Ghosting texts is heartbreaking sometimes, but it's not a big deal when you pass by.😅😅

I was ghosted by my three best friends from high school. Years later it still hurts. I reconnected with one recently, but it will never be the same. It really sucks.

@nanven

Жыл бұрын

Sorry for the late comment, but did you ask why they ghosted you? I mean, I had the same stuff, but never has a chance to ask, so, I'm just curious for possible outcomes 😄

Life was easier before texting... now you don't reply to a text for a million valid reasons and people imagine a million scenarios of why 🤦🏻‍♂️

'DELETE'... why would anyone keep these kinds of messages on their phone. That doesn't help you at all get over someone.

@andrewjudeus6283

3 жыл бұрын

No, but it helps you self-reflect when you see a similar pattern with someone else, or even if to stop you from once again reaching out to that person.

I respect people who can communicate. You don't get that a lot nowadays ❤.

1:58 that one wasn't technically ghosting, awkward and direct but not ghosting since there was a response to end the relation/contact

I was thinking of ghosting this guy I went on a first date with recently but then I just felt bad about it. I don’t think it’s classy to ghost someone. I had to be an adult and just tell him I didn’t think it was going to work out between us.

@NESherv

4 жыл бұрын

Right, exactly. If you "feel bad about it", that's a good sign that you don't think things are going to work out. Say that instead of agreeing to another date or leading them on. Good for you for being honest and upfront with them.

@andrewjudeus6283

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I don't know you but I am proud of you.

@jaylahman2417

3 жыл бұрын

Omg, thank you so much. Please spread the word on this. I’d rather someone tell me they just didn’t like me than have that happen. It literally stops the other side from achieving any kind of closure

Why would you keep those text. I delete them personally

I respect the people who actually said why they didn't go any further with things to that person instead of leaving them wondering. Shows more respect to another human.

"when they don't respond to your texts but reply to your Instagram story" BROOOOOOOOO i relate. They leave you on seen/read yet are viewing your Instagram stories and posting their own stories and also liking your Instagram comments you leave on an account page but don't have the time to respond to you back.

3:21 that’s not ghosting is it? That’s the end of the conversation

@strawberryjpeg6000

5 жыл бұрын

Felicia ye

@julianprofas

4 жыл бұрын

Nah, That's the DEFINITION of ghosting; pretending to finish a conversation while in reality being flakey, inauthentic and disappearing. Authentic people cancel or reschedule.

What a sad, lonely generation.

@humzauddin6692

5 жыл бұрын

no doubt. I have many friends but no friends at the same time. Like people would spend time on social media being social but won't meet up. Fucktards. Thank god, I didn't got me a smartphone :/

@humzauddin6692

5 жыл бұрын

there was a time when my friends would actually come to my house to call me out to play, now it just pubg that they play.

@Andrea11208

5 жыл бұрын

Your comment made think a lot. If this is happening now, I can't even think what the next generations are gonna live 😱

@depressedsimpsons4878

5 жыл бұрын

Andrea Soto Jiménez there won't be one

@Andrea11208

5 жыл бұрын

@@depressedsimpsons4878 generation?

The girl at the end warmed my heart. Such a nice reply, shame the other person didn’t at least acknowledge it.

my sister literally ghosts everyone and i feel bad because she’s also struggling too

@usersnoone

3 жыл бұрын

tell her to stop

@dertodisteingeschenk1260

3 жыл бұрын

If she is ghosting she deserves to be struggling

@hannahmary6023

3 жыл бұрын

@@dertodisteingeschenk1260 you don't understand. it isn't that simple.

@jenn1738

3 жыл бұрын

am I yo sister

@jenn1738

3 жыл бұрын

it's going to get harder tbh...especially when she's lost every single person bc of that

Yeah iv been ghosted plenty of times....last message from them was: "Thank you for submitting your resume to 'insert company name here' company"

I can relate when someone ghost you & still continue to watch your Instagram stories, what's up with that lol

@camila101_

3 жыл бұрын

for real i wish i knew

@ladypink3473

3 жыл бұрын

Right it’s disrespectful actually. More disrespectful than a simple text saying something along the lines of “sorry I don’t think this will work”

@robchip1

3 жыл бұрын

My best friend of 4 year's is doing exactly the same thing to me right now. Ghosted me weeks ago on everything yet watching all my stories!! Why seriously I don't get it.

@andrewjudeus6283

3 жыл бұрын

This happened to me once. It bothered me so much that after him liking yet another of my IG posts, I flat-out texted him "Hey, why did you stand me up?. I want to know because I don't wish to hold ill feelings towards you." He responded with "Sorry, I was having major anxiety and depression, shouldn't have ghosted you." Ok...I suffer from those every day, day in, day out. I don't ghost people but hey, the closure was nice...I guess.

@imtired2983

2 жыл бұрын

A narcissist who wants to see if them ghosting you will make you a mess.

Ghosting is so mean. Especially when you're freinds. Just tell the person if you don't want to hang out anymore. That may hurt them, but so much less than just disappearing. At least it gives them closure and they can move on with their lives. THANK YOU!

that first guy is an example of what NOT to say

The ending was so wholesome

A friend I was close to stopped talking to me for years and it broke my heart. I didn't have many close friends.

@sukkulentdad9005

4 жыл бұрын

same here

@HAlimabushra123

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome to my life. I had an ex friend I was besties with that decided to reach out after her ex died, saying how much she cares for me and how much she missed my moms food, so I naturally thought she wanted to be back in my life but then when I asked her that no response. That’s when I realized she just wanted to use me for emotional support. Life happens and it’s for the best that these ppl leave your life. Sorry for the long paragraph.

@firemangan2731

2 жыл бұрын

I had one friend that I considered close to as a close friend but then she ghosted me... So I straight up deleted our texts.

@ssm5708

2 жыл бұрын

Same it hurts

"Okay fine I tried 🤷‍♂️." Never let anyone waste your time because it's priceless.

I feel texting can come across in a different way vs you and the person talking having convo. Texting has ruined real communication.

I bet the rejection reasons are lies. I rather you tell me you not feeling me. Don't go to the whole I am too busy to date. I have used that line.

@GuyLogen

5 жыл бұрын

I have no capacity to date, like that’s the biggest lie I’ve ever heard. You don’t go out with someone twice and then give that reason. I would have ghosted that person

@yc2557

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Im too busy to date=im too busy to date YOU

@s.a.8548

5 жыл бұрын

I had this one dude tell me he never gets into a serious relationship or dates people. Fast forward 3 months it's his wedding day lol AND he invited me

@darksky1933

5 жыл бұрын

I do that lol but it's because rejecting someone so bluntly makes me feel like an awful human being

@victoriavezich7914

5 жыл бұрын

Queenofwheels suddenly reeks of hypocracy in here tho?? If you don't want someone to use that line on you, why did you use it then??

Imagine traveling for someone 20 hours and spending more than half of my paycheck just to be together. So when I came back home, ghosted. I traveled so long and in return I didn't even deserve that much respect to get a reply.

@megd7593

5 жыл бұрын

borisjularic Were you invited, or did you just take it upon yourself to go? Did you outstay your welcome? Just some thoughts.

@rata1r

5 жыл бұрын

Lol omg I did that. Went to see a friend in Vietnam and China, they didn't even asked me How was the trip? Did you arrived safely? Are you go home yet? Im always the one that has to start the conversation

@isabellahu4606

5 жыл бұрын

@@rata1r dump em

@bokjuuu

5 жыл бұрын

Megan D I was invited and we agreed when I was arriving and leaving

@mionrena4615

5 жыл бұрын

Ive done the same thing. Spent a lot of money to see a guy i liked, lost my virginity too. He calls me babe and babygirl but every time we make plans, he says oh my mom needs me or i forgot. He doesn't call n he barely texts. I feel like the biggest dumbass of 2018.

Awe she was sweet for saying I'm sorry for feeling this way.

We live in such a heartless world. No one thinks of the psychological damage to others of their insensitivity, carelessness and unkindness. It’s abuse! When you are on the receiving end, it’s sometimes easier to force a smile and act like it doesn’t matter just because these things - ghosting, breaking up over texts, etc - are becoming social norms. But we all know that deep down it hurts, confuses, frustrates, makes us insecure and takes a lot of emotional energy when we have to answer all our own questions about someone else’s cold mistreatment to us. We all need to be better stewards of each other’s well being. Just like everything else in life, the pollution you emit will come right back around to ultimately poison the space you live in as well. The very basis of karma and the golden rule. This is all very sad and concerning.

I’ve always been amazed that people keep all of their texts for such a long time especially ones like this

@alidi13

5 жыл бұрын

Right. If I'm no longer talking to someone, I delete ALL texts, lol

Everyone in the comment section has been ghosted on youtube.

@eeo_o103

5 жыл бұрын

@Milaura Eleazard Son of a @^#&#&. LET ME WIN. 😂🤣

@davinacollins1941

5 жыл бұрын

LMFAO 😂

@johnburke846

5 жыл бұрын

Or don't understand the expression. Of all the comments here,I chose you to explain it to me. Will you help me?

@eeo_o103

5 жыл бұрын

@@johnburke846 At first no e of the comment had a reply, when someone is "ghosted" it's when you text someone and they don't reply.

@prakritihrai

5 жыл бұрын

Wow same

"let me know", i feel like this is the best way to get ghosted. i have been in that situation many times because i dont want to pressure people by asking directly so i say "let me know if you wanna ..." also dont be an a-hole and ghost people. just be honest and tell them you are not interested so they move on. dont give them any hope if there is no hope.

“What are these mind games that I didn’t sign up for but I am playing” lmfaoo facts

Not replying is rude and childish. Some people are just self-centered and don’t know how to communicate with people.

@kaori_kanzaki

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah at least you could give a like or put a smiley for response. I do that when I don't find anything to respond cuz my friends are too precious for me even THAN myself.

@asm3282

5 жыл бұрын

The word you're looking for is "Cowards"

@insomniacraccoon

5 жыл бұрын

Let's also take into consideration people with anxiety who literally cannot help it.

@isabellahu4606

5 жыл бұрын

@@insomniacraccoon how so?

@NiamhLauren

5 жыл бұрын

Brendons Forehead take me for example. Especially when I haven‘t seen the other person for a longer time because they moved away or something, I want to make sure to send them a nice long text not in between, so I keep it on unread. Then time passes and I think about what I could text. I get anxious about being boring, oversharing and texting honest but negative stuff. So even more time passes. When I finally have the guts to answer, it is sometimes 3 months later even though the the other text wasa not that deep. Still, by now it is that late that I feel too ashamed to ever text that person again, even though I like them.

I got ghosted on my first EVER date, no calls or anything afterwards.

@LMMSkits

5 жыл бұрын

Feels bad 😢

@phnxen3rg666

5 жыл бұрын

Did you reach out?

@shitmandood

5 жыл бұрын

Wow, way to go. You really showed them you were this awesome human being.

@up2richie447

5 жыл бұрын

Chill shitman damn.

@taylor3200

5 жыл бұрын

The first guy I’ve ever talked to did that to me.. & he told me we’d go out multiple times but that never happened..

I'm kinda glad for these videos man. I've learned that I should just take a hint. If they can't even pursue a convo with you what makes you think they gonna want anything else ya know?

I love these videos! It shows that we all go through the same confusion with people we have feelings for

For the people wondering why they ghosted you: I'm really sorry. I've been a ghoster in the past, and I can tell you that I really didn't know how horrible that action is, and that I did it because it's what I was taught to do(by my mother who also has trust issues and has been hurt by others all her life) if people hurt me/or will hurt me. For me, it comes from a deep fear of being the one left behind, so you just leave first. And why no explanations? I was scared that they'd be able to convince me to stay in their life and to me that meant another chance of them hurting me. Another reason is that I hate confrontations and I had issues with communicating my feelings in the past. I've since grown and realized that proper communication is one of the tools to have peace of mind because I do wonder at times at how I hurt the people I ghosted, and how the way I treated them could be how they treat others in the future because of the pain I caused them. It's just one big circle you see: you're in pain, so you leave for no reason causing them pain as well, so they'll leave first in the future just to avoid the same pain you caused them. To the ghosters, I want you to see yourself in the ghostef person's shoes. How would you feel if someone did that to you? The key is always to communicate how you feel and come from a place of love when you do.

@veterpierinna

5 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you have grown and learned from your mistakes. :)

@louera

5 жыл бұрын

pierinnani thanks :)

@msg3tr1ght

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so honest

@finthehuman3649

2 жыл бұрын

you defs have an avoidant attachment style girlie, i relate to this

@standground7956

Жыл бұрын

I found out that my gf of almost a year, friends with her for 2 years prior to our relationship; had another boyfriend. He confronted me with proof, there was no fighting, I was just thankful. I ghosted her, ignored/deleted all her voicemails and texts without reading or listening. I avoided her until I crossed paths with her at an outlet mall. Why is she worthy of an explanation?

If people worked more on mindfulness and tapping into empathy more this would happen less. But we are a contradictory, hypocritical species.

@massb7428

5 жыл бұрын

Debbie Moore yea mostly women

@debbiemoore2747

5 жыл бұрын

@@massb7428 that is your reality and I respect that and thank you for sharing your truth. Have a nice Christmas

@massb7428

5 жыл бұрын

Debbie Moore merry Christmas to you to , I hope you had a good one. But I’m saying a lot of women ghost just if they get bored or for no reason sometimes. And girls stand up guys more than the other way around. Even in the video the guy asked the girl out and she didn’t even message him back

@Un1234l

5 жыл бұрын

No, if people stopped relying on digital communications for meaningful human interaction, and stopped living through their phones, this wouldn't be an issue since you won't be so invested.

@sukkulentdad9005

4 жыл бұрын

I was just ghosted by someone who works in social work and seems decent...

I had a few ghosters throughout my life who's last message to me was literally ''See you soon'' or ''Catch you this weekend'' or some other form of confirming a get together. That's whole other level of fucked up.

5:15 Looking at her eyes makes me want to cry and her messages were so sweet.

0:58 He didn’t text her again, but she didn’t either. Lack of interest. 1:51 That’s not ghosting. He just rejected her.

@Blueslyfox

5 жыл бұрын

Womens egos are too fragile to call it rejection

If you ghost people, then there is something wrong with you. It says more about you than the other person.

@JB-ie6dn

5 жыл бұрын

Ikr, if something is not right or you're simply not interested, just be upfront with it and don't waste time 🙄

@insomniacraccoon

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao context matters fam. Ghosting is perfectly acceptable in some situations.

@JB-ie6dn

5 жыл бұрын

@@insomniacraccoon For example?

@insomniacraccoon

5 жыл бұрын

Someone harassing you is one example. Some people do not understand the phrase 'I am not interested.' Someone could have anxiety or any other disability/illness that makes rejecting someone incredibly difficult. It's not that hard to take the hint. If someone isn't responding to you, they obviously aren't interested. Would it be nice to have a response? Of course. But people shouldn't feel pressured to respond to every single message.

@JB-ie6dn

5 жыл бұрын

@@insomniacraccoon Honestly, when someone is crossing the line from like just being annoying to harassment, then the best solution is to block them (or report to authorities if messages suggest something dangerous, as they might hurt someone else). "Someone could have anxiety or any other disability/illness that makes rejecting someone incredibly difficult." idk ignoring them seems like a worse idea. They may have harder time to take the "hint" you talked about and may imagine you being offended at them or whatever. I guess to each their own.

That last text was so sweet!

If you want to be happy and not care when someone ghosts you literally don’t have expectations from others. If you don’t expect anything from anyone you can not be let down nor hurt. Ez as that.

But see that’s the thing with ghosted, just tell the person you’re not interested in that way. Like you don’t know how you are affecting that person but just ignoring them. It plays with the mind.

@zoelockett

3 жыл бұрын

i get that, but the one girl said she wasn’t interested multiple times and he still kept texting her over and over. that happens all the time, at some point u just have to ghost them bc they won’t stop

That moment when you get ghosted twice by the same guy

@taay_thegreat2057

5 жыл бұрын

Yazzle Dazzle many times

@SikhTranslations

5 жыл бұрын

I have done this, looking back I feel bad for doing it but tbh in the moment I am usually not sure what I felt for the other person so I had times of talking & ghosting until I ghosted them for the last time.

@humzauddin6692

5 жыл бұрын

I don't talk to people who ghost me even once.

@taay_thegreat2057

5 жыл бұрын

Humza Uddin I’m weak but I have learned in the last year to say boy bye

@osvaldosanchez6922

5 жыл бұрын

Very relatable

I had a woman that would break things off, but then would text me, then we'd hang out, she'd break it off, text me, hang out, break it off, text. Yeah, exactly. Finally I had to break it off 🤔 🤷‍♂️

Best thing to do is to just move on: It hurts, but no one really owes anyone anything