So awesome video!

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

Thank you Agnetha!

It seems to me that it’s better for both the photographer and the model to have a friend there but not someone controlling. I’ve had the same doctor for over 20 years but she always has an assistant in the room for any physical exam. It’s just good practice these days.

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

One of my future goals is to be able to have a full-time assistant who can always be with me on shoots. For one, it's never a bad idea for the photographer to have someone there in their best interest, but it's also nice having the helping hands.

I don't do "model photography," I do traditional portraiture...that is, "regular" people. While that might be young (ish) women, I always ask them to bring someone else to the session for the sake of safety and encouragement...but I'd rather not a boyfriend or husband only _unless they're also being photographed_ or they've come with another woman (like mother). Otherwise, girlfriend or mother, preferably not a "significant other" male by himself. Even in my kind of work, male significant others tend to be watchdogs (as they should be), not cheerleaders, and that can bring down even a traditional portrait session. OTOH, I've had mothers who have pushed for sexier photographs of their young daughters than I was comfortable with....made me kind of wish dad was there. For "model photography," though, I think it falls back to whether the model is professional or has a professional mindset. If she has a professional mindset, she'll have already dealt with the "insecure boyfriend" issue.

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

Speaking from experience, the boyfriend can indeed be both a protector and cheerleader, but it seems to be rare these days. And if I'm being real about it, GWC's have certainly not helped the cause. If I weren't a photographer, I would definitely be on guard at a photoshoot with my lady, no doubt about it. But to some degree, we - as men - have to trust our ladies to make good decisions, and to be able to fend for themselves. Naturally we can't be everywhere they are at all times, so we have to trust them to be vigilant and smart. And at the end of the day, if you, as a man, don't want your lady doing boudoir-type shoots, and she insists on doing them, you may need to reconsider if she is the right one for you.

My problem with a model bringing company is that I live in Colombia. Many photographers here don't recommend that because we have a saying, "The opportunity creates a thief" and they have been victims of that. While you're shooting, the friend takes a chance to grab something. I know it's not everyone, but it is something that happens more often than we would like to accept. What I'm doing is, I set a kind of a living room in my home studio and tell the companion to sit there during the photoshoot.

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

That's a very valid point, and I would absolutely be hesitant if I lived in a place where things like that occur frequently. I know these things are just part of the world we live in, but imagine how much more enjoyable life would be if we didn't have to worry about things like this.

@ozarksdigitalcreations9254

8 ай бұрын

This is a very good point and was my wife's biggest worry when I first started when I had my studio in my garage. In honesty, we're an opportunity for theft no matter where we shoot and who is around. That's why I stay strapped at every shoot. Not all states/countries have the luxury of carrying to protect themselves, but this may be a good reason where you live to have an assistant with you. Someone to hold or watch your gear/keep an eye on the surroundings.

I definitely see both sides of this. Personally because models need to have their guard up I tell them bring a friend, a hype girl, their significant other or Smith & Wesson to their shoot just don’t go alone. A photographer that won’t let you bring someone is usually a 🚩🚩. That being said I see the argument as well that some photographers do not allow boyfriends or husbands because they can be controlling and argumentative both with pricing and style of shooting.

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

Yup, it's a tough position for us a photographers because, in my experience, the boyfriend/husband is - at best - neutral, rarely uplifting, and more frequently than not, negative. The stark reality is, most men don't enjoy photoshoots. They don't want to be there, they don't want to be a part of it, and they don't necessarily love some random dude taking pictures of their girl. But, I personally can't bring myself to tell an adult who they can and can't bring, but I do stipulate in my signed agreement that I'm not responsible for not being able to do what I need to do as a result of someone accompanying the model/client. So, if the boyfriend causes problems, that's on the model/client. I've only had a handful of models bring their boyfriend, most bring a female friend, but of those that did bring the boyfriend, I did feel it somewhat muted the vibe. I managed to get some good images nonetheless but the shoots could have been way more dope had they not brought the boyfriend.

I’ve dealt with the uncomfortable boyfriend before but I’ve always interacted with them to ease the situation enough for me to do my job. I always have a female assistant in most situations, which greatly reduces any confusion or insecurities. Most of the time my assistant looks better than my subject 🤷🏽. I’ve had those guys offer to pay more for the shoot, just so that I can pay my assistant more 😅. If the roles were reversed and my woman was doing this, I’d tell her to take a friend. If I had to go, I’d trust the photographer to be professional unless they showed me the red flags of a creeper.

@visionz_n_media

8 ай бұрын

@AnthonyToglife what video from TMIDD did this happen in?

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

Anytime I have a male on set, whether they're a part of the shoot or just spectating, I always have a one-on-one with them. In more words I essentially say "I know you don't want to be here, but your lady does, and this is important for her, so the more excited she is, the quicker I can get this done." For the most part, that has worked really well for me because it 1) shows that I respect the man being there and 2) it's a gentle reminder of what the shoot means to his lady. I would do the same as you regarding my lady.

@kirkdarling4120

8 ай бұрын

@@AnthonyToglife Good point.

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

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I’m cool with a model bringing an escort when the escort is cool. I put in my FAQ and state beforehand that if there’s a problem, I’m stopping. I don’t tolerate someone directing anything or being part of the session in any unplanned way. I’m probably more accepting of a boyfriend being there than another woman who isn’t a model but is the hype woman / selfie model to the extreme, directing poses and making comments about how their cousin would do things. 😂 I’ve been Black a long time, there’s always one or many of these people at events / weddings. -another topic… I 100% agree that someone saying no to an escort is a red flag. I want models or clients to be comfortable and feel safe / protected. If that means someone else being there, I have no issue.

@AnthonyToglife

8 ай бұрын

I also speak to it, in the agreement the client/model signs. Fortunately I haven't had any major issues to where I had to stop a shoot and walk away, but I also have conversations at the beginning explaining how the shoot is going to go and what everyone's "role" is. This, in my opinion, assures everyone understands expectations and are on the same page. I tend to encounter more of the escort being neutral and I'd personally prefer they be more of a cheerleader, lol. Standing in front of a camera can be somewhat intimidating and it doesn't help when you have someone - even if it's your friend - just sitting there, watching, not really saying anything. But that it what it is, I don't say anything in those instances unless the escort does something and then I'll amp 'em up "YES, give her more of that!". On the black thing, it's always interesting how things be so different across cultural lines, LOL.