"When you shine a light on your fear, it's not scary anymore" best message to end the talk

I'm a self doubter and people pleaser for sure. My anxiety has gotten so bad i lost all my friends and am afraid to get a job because people might yell at me

@Moonlight-fz4bg

3 жыл бұрын

Im a people pleaser too and I hope you be find in this time. Sometimes you need to appreciate yourself

@all1soul

3 жыл бұрын

Don't be so fast to label yourself. Personally, I feel like it's better to say that you've had these tendencies in the past rather than owning them in the now. I've found that laughter yoga can help shift my mood rather quickly from one of negativity to joy and light-hardheartedness. even just a little grin and and a chuckle under my breath is enough to shift my mood to one of positivity. We are here to be happy and to love and help one another to be be good stewards of the planet. Love is the answer.

@brijjitgundy3081

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus delivered me from that, he can do it for you! I still struggle alot because its rooted in pride and fear, but he helped me so much. Still is. Repent of your sins and believe in the gospel of Jesus Christ and you can received everlasting life

@brijjitgundy3081

2 жыл бұрын

@@all1soul thats who The Lord is, love. Come to him, he is waiting for you. Repent of your sins and believe in The Gospel of Jesus Christ and you can receive everlasting life

@catspurr_98

Жыл бұрын

I used to be a chronic people pleaser but recently I pleased someone so much, and still didn't get any validation from them..from that day I got tired of it as I understood that just cuz u please doesn't mean you'll get what u want.

"I just need to know how to live" This goes through my head everyday. Damn.

@reginag.a.4187

3 жыл бұрын

That part resonated with me as well. I think many of us need to know how to live, whether we're aware of having this thought or not. So many of us do not know what we're doing. I love how we all pretend we know though. The truth is, we're here to figure things out and most of all to figure out how to live in our skins. And that's different for everyone. I thoroughly believe in each of us having a unique journey but also belonging to those shared qualities (like fear) that make us all human.

@TheOneLiliad

3 жыл бұрын

@@reginag.a.4187 What would you do?

@Marten-er4oz

3 жыл бұрын

W

@jainikadudhiya9020

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone

The common theme in all these archetypes is the enabling of oneself to submit to the fear itself, therfore, letting it grow wild like weeds in a garden. Making a habit of doing the things that make you uncomfortable, and reinforced with positive self talk is the only solution. I hope everyone finds it within themselves to face and conquer their own fears and let shine the greatness we all posses within.

This brought tears to my eyes. I have never looked at myself as having fear. I have always tried new things and stepped outside of my comfort zone. But I am also the biggest procrastinator and feel stuck at times but I realize now that it’s fear. Fear that I will fail or fear that I’m not good enough. Thank you so much for sharing this. So authentic and real 🙏🏾

I enjoy how “real” she always is. Ruth, you knocked this one out of the park!

@monicabenavides5946

3 жыл бұрын

I think she did

Fear is huge for me. I saw several archetypes and took the test. Hearing Ruth’s story helps and is inspiring.

"because when you shine your light on your fear, its not so scary anymore" I like this

What a great TEDx Talk!! Thank you for being so authentic, real, and honest, Ruth. We need more of that in our world. Definitely shared this with a few of my tribe that could benefit from learning more about fear archetypes and how to still follow their dreams.

Such an inspiring story! I loved how she described the fear archetypes. I'm definitely a mix between perfectionist and people pleaser.

Combo procrastinator/self doubter here! I love the clarity in Ruth's message and I have identified how these fears show up for me. Working on this daily. Great job, Ruth! Love your work

Thank you for sharing your story and inspiring us to recover from our lowest of lows and face the worst of our fears by knowing what our fears are. My archetype is Procrastinator and things make so much sense now for me. You've helped me turn my fears into strengths and to say out loud, I AM AFRAID...BUT...I CAN DO THIS! Thank you for this insight and for helping me see the fear in a more positive light. You are such an inspiration and then some!

It's amazing how much knowing my fear archetype has affected even the relationships in my life!

Procrastinator here 🙋🏾‍♀️ Knowing my fear archetype and how it can serve me or not serve me has been a powerful tool when it came to reaching certain goals I had for myself last year. Such good stuff. Thank you Ruth for doing the work 🙂💕

@reginag.a.4187

3 жыл бұрын

Procrastinator, too. Would you be willing to share a couple of the ways that you found it could serve and not serve you in reaching certain goals for yourself?

@ilonaarsenivna6156

3 жыл бұрын

That feeling when I didn’t need to call it with “archetype” word to realize the experience.

So insightful! It's amazing how accurate my Fear Archetype is!!

I'm always afraid about everything especially when it comes to my self... when she said Self-Doubter and talked about that, it really hit me. That is me :( thank you for sharing! It's really encouraging.

I took Ruth’s fear assessment and it was enlightening to say the least....and right on. I am first and foremost a Procrastinator by way of perfectionism and fear of not doing it right so it’s easier to not take action. After reading “Do It Scared” I now know my challenges....and how to use them to my advantage and even try to change them. So incredibly helpful.

Its always very good and helpful to share one’s life experiences with others. This is good.

Congratulations Ruth! Great speech!

Girl you are amazing. Praise God you have really come a long way. Prayers for you to continue to grow .Amazing that you are giving others so much hope.

Courage is the thing that keeps us free

this TEDtalk deserves WAY more views and likes. It nailed it and showed me the source of my depression and anxiety. Now I can work it out and overcome it!

@husseinfaiz3397

2 жыл бұрын

Hows it working for you now

@Vivivofi

Жыл бұрын

How is it working for you now

@nicogalax

6 ай бұрын

And now

Thank you for shining on a light on fear and the different archetypes...Thanks for the insight & striving to overcome

Gosh! I am glad I finally mustered the courage to find some help with this problem (by writing this comment I am already working towards that). I can identify with about 5 of these archetypes and as I was taking notes on this talk, my mind started working on ways of tackling the problem. Now that I have identified my fears, I feel more hopeful towards beginning the journey of lessening the impact fear has on my life🙂.

This was so interesting! I had always considered being a people pleaser and rule follower to be strengths of mine, but now I can totally see how those are really fears and could keep me back. Thank you for this!

@qmawpxvecxydiwixytvieowizhehsi

4 жыл бұрын

" No " is a decision right that we all have and it should be respected by all, so don't be afraid to say it whenever you have to. ☺️👌

@ilonaarsenivna6156

3 жыл бұрын

All the virtues are becoming a medal of both sides when you deal with the wrong people.☝🏻 No need to devaluate yourself in case to mask the rotten personalities issues. Yes you have to realize a danger of this value as well as a thought that a worthy person wouldn’t make you regret of having one.

Excellent talk. Until I took the fear assessment I didn't realize the reason behind being an Outcast. That helps me so much.

Not a pessimist, excuse maker nor outcast but I am all of those four remaining characters and I hope listening to this will help me shine a little bit of light to all these fears.

Love your courage and generosity in sharing so much of yourself. Wonderful talk. I am a rule-following procrastinator. Very inspirational and thought-provoking.

@eBuddy1999

4 жыл бұрын

How did you overcome the bad aspects of being a rule-following procrastinator? I have read many self-help books such as by Ruth Soukup, but I keep procrastinating taking action!

Nice one Ruth. I love reading your blog posts and listening to your podcast. You are an inspiration.

My fear archetype is SO accurate. It's so good to know so I can try to get ahead of it!

@amandakadziolka9068

4 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Bowman Procrastinator!

The most beautiful talk ever for those who are struggling because of fear😍

I am a procrastinator and self-doubter for sure. Very interesting Ted Talk. Thanks, Ruth!

Wow, this is great.. i have almost all of those, never even realized that there are such differences. Watched dozens of these talks, but not many of them go into actionable steps and details like this.

Powerful and helpful, as always, Ruth. Thank you! 🙏🏻 We can see how we're both Self-Doubters with a dash of Outcast. We're excited to dive deeper into your book to learn how to work with these archetypes.

My god. I am completely terrified right now, but I know I have to take actions . Even though I can’t breathe, my hands are shaking, I can’t delay talking actions anymore.

@liana7529

6 ай бұрын

im in the same boat as u, lets overcome and push forward together~

Sweet Young Lady, I was You at Your Age and I'm Now 61. I have been thru Many Experienes thruought this Life but I Am Eternally Grateful for the Strength of You Sharung Your Obstacles. Praying for You❤🎉

I can honestly say that I have all seven maxed out. I am pretty much a shut-in, and am on Permanent Disability. The hardest part is knowing that I have very real medical conditions that aren't being treated because of these fears, some of which may now need additional or more complicated surgeries to fix. I Mask heavily as a defensive mechanism, and tend to avoid "bothering" Doctors with my problems. I ignore pains that I shouldn't ignore. I am 44 years old, and haven't had so much as a physical since I was 19. Thoughts of suicide and self harm are only curbed by the guilt of how I would make other people feel by following out those thoughts. I have finally begun getting professional help last month. I am sorry if this isn't the right place for this.

@JessicaBowman

4 жыл бұрын

I can totally understand that! You don't have to do all the scary things all at once. Start by keeping a journal of all the things you're afraid of or that bother you. Then take the easiest one and do it. I used to be too afraid to talk on the phone, to order through a drive-thru. I always imagined the worst case scenario and could barely leave my house. But if you just try doing one thing, you'll soon realize that it's almost never as bad as whatever you've imagined. And that gives you the courage to do the next thing. And the next. It snowballs! Pretty soon you'll be doing things you never thought you were capable of, and you'll be making the most of your life, with no regrets! You can do it! 💛

@reginag.a.4187

3 жыл бұрын

@@JessicaBowman Very kind and uplifting ideas. Thank you.

@ccgodbless1423

3 жыл бұрын

@@JessicaBowman well said thank you

@z33boo

3 жыл бұрын

Please watch one of Wim Hof's interviews here on KZread and try a daily cold shower. You have nothing to lose, but so much to gain! I'm doing it (:

@all1soul

3 жыл бұрын

@@z33boo Thank you for your contribution. I have been meaning to try this. i take your comment as a sign that i would do well to make a habit of doing this. Blessings to you and us all.

I LOVED this video and learned so much from taking the assessment!!

Nicely done, Ruth!

Ruth, you're a rockstar! I've been following along with you for a long time and feel like "I know you." I'm so happy to see you on this stage - putting one foot in front of the other and facing your fears. Congrats, my friend.

@sayedelkofory9785

4 жыл бұрын

انت رائعه

@BB-ux5wd

2 жыл бұрын

ANy more advice for this issue ?

Aku tuh procrastinating kalo ga perfect ga mau ngerjain, people pleasure bgt ga bisa nolak, rules follower gw tuh tau kerjain sesuatu untuk otoritas di atas gw, outcast kebanyakan ah palingan juga bla bla bla, excuse maker banget juga, terlalu banyak toleran di hidup ini 😒.. Haih cape Makasih loh mba, bisa mendefinisikan apa yg gw ga ngerti bahkan sebelumnya di diri ini ada apa 🥰

Thanks for sharing this. The part about being a people please is something I understand so well, but once I understood the root of that fear and what it meant, I was able to release it and now it does not control me.

Thank you so much, Ruth 🌹❤🌹

Her hair is beautiful. Great inspiring talk i love it!

This video is exactly about me! Than I you!!😘

Thanks for sharing this video. I can relate.

Now I can use this information to start a paper I should've finished, continue a project which should be complete, and go talk to the guy I really like... Thank you, Ruth! Thanks, TEDx.

Wow. This was enlightening. I am a perfectionist and a pessimist. Guess I always knew that at the back of my head. But it is sooo hard to change that!!

This was very interesting and helpful to know my fear is mainly based on the “people pleaser” type.

@sriyaask4612

4 жыл бұрын

Same here

@ceecee6378

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Moore Yep.

@qmawpxvecxydiwixytvieowizhehsi

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah.. have a little pride on yourself and say f***** NO whenever you want to cause it's a human right and everyone should respect your opinion. 👍

best Ted Talk ever ❤❤

Very encouraging talk~thank you!

Basically we all have a little bit of each one of them. Mine, particularly, is the procrastinator.

Very impressive, Ruth! As one of your students, I thought I knew everything about you. Well, you surprised this Pessimist.

Im so happy as I watched this. Im a self doubter with all the doubts I have Im not stepping out of my comfort jone and Im please pleaser too I always used to think what others think abt me from now I try to avoid all my fears this video has helped me alot .

It’s so interesting thank you ☺️

Blessed

Thank you for sharing these 7 types, but I am still not quite sure how to overcome them.

Be fearless 💓

Very inspirational. Thank you

Very interesting. I would really like to learn more. I think I am a combination between a people pleaser and a rule follower.

I resonated with many archetypes. Majorly was with self doubter. And I know what triggers me. The situations where I have to present myself. Be it an interview, a presentation , Viva or anything. First thought that comes in my mind is 'I am not good enough' , 'I am going to make myself embarrassed ', 'I should not even try what's the point', 'I will waste the interviewers time'. I criticize myself so much. I have low self esteem. I feel like everyone can do better than me. Or I have not practiced enough. I want to overcome this, this horrible feeling, I hate it. I know its just that one tiny step towards my fear and boom it will get better. But I have been hesitating all my life. But now I am going to take the leap of faith and will give my first ever interview tomorrow. I believe I will get better.

I just have one fear but it is breathtaking : the fear of a blank planet

2 and 5 resonated with me the most

Wow... All 7... a new record for me.

It's so relatable. Now my condition is like this.

Thank You ❤️

Is it strange that I'm ticking 5 of the 7 fear archetypes!

I have all 7 and maybe even the 8th. Its amazing

Very interesting especially when you realize that we all have more than one.

so true, thx

Never knew you could be more than one. Wow

I am going through all these fear archetypes. Feels like she is just speaking about me only. Yes I am a self -doubt person and extremely confused person. Sometimes its really hard to choose between something & even more harder when you are an overthinker.. Because of overthinking, I imagine all the possible things to be happened in future even the terrible things too, so this scares me more...

Thanks very much

I checklisted myself 6 of 7, except the people pleaser. You can imagine how fear i am in facing everyday situation. I quit my job, lost income, quit college because fear. I have blushing in my face that will make my face turns red in every situation, especially when it cames to "caught in a spot" situation. But last week ive been employed by a new company. Its been 3 years since my last work. People will humiliate me if they saw im blushing. I hope i can stand the bully in my new job now. Because i cannot hide my fear, it is always shown right in front my face. If i success stand the bullies in this job, i will continue pursuing master degree and doctoral / PhD degree. I just want to live a normal live give contribution in sciences for this world

Procrastinator and self-doubter 🙋🏽‍♂️ The good news is once you confront your problems with some clarity you can change. I've changed, friends have changed, managing to overcome some horrible experiences.

I honestly feel like I resonate with very one of these fears. I know she said having multiple is normal, but all of them feels excessive

Most of them are very similar. Still enlightening.

From bottom up I'm built this way: Self doubter, pessimist and procrastinator.

Great talk☺

Damn, I can relate to all of the above.

I'm a procrastinator and self-doubter and she was accurate on her explanation, the problem is, how do I fix it...

Attempting something should be our priority irrespective of the result it might happen 👍

I’m built with all this I’m a mix of all types

The people pleaser - yes.

I fear getting started & Self doubter!

Brilliantly exposed!

i am a big procrastinator, yes i seek perfectionism. Working on it

@sachinrathore267

3 жыл бұрын

If you succeeded please help me

Interersting talk

I am like every one of them

Actually I fear failing I don't know to do with my career or family even with may self

I have a bit of all, but I think self doubt is at the top.

I am all of the 7 types !

My biggest fear is mainly loosing people I love and I just can’t its so hard to get rid of it but I am determined to do it

I am literally ALL 7!!!!!!!!!

I have many of those fear archetypes and I wanna work on them 😭

I really wonder why it feels like in the last couple of decades there are so many procrastinators.

Great

Are these archetypes or are they reasons that are related eg: following the rules -tule follower-can cause the procrastination -procrastinator for fear of being an outcast-and so one becomes a pessimist.

Sometimes i just feel i am completely lost. i feel i am alone

Love the jeans 🙂