I was at the gym earlier today and my friend said she wanted to do a girls trip in a cabin in the mountains and she kept dropping hints like she wanted me to come. I politely said “oh that sounds like it would be a nice, romantic trip for you and your man.” Lol cause girl I AIN’T GOIN’.

@Ryan-yw8iz

Жыл бұрын

That would be nice but honestly, I’m afraid to be in any mountain. I’m afraid of bears 🐻 and raciest people. I’m afraid some white man with guns and knives will hang me

@kaoshi_kutie

Жыл бұрын

Yesss 😂🥲 in the mountains as well 😵‍💫

@luzukomkhize4766

Жыл бұрын

Mountains 😬😬😬

@JaeElise

Жыл бұрын

You don’t feel comfortable like around her do you 🥺

@cruisecontrol7911

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

It honestly screams jealousy from the woman complaining and trying to fight her. I learned in my early 20s that alot of women aren’t actually friends with one another. It’s a whole lot of competition.

@Memomommy

Жыл бұрын

It’s disgusting, the competition will never end

@aprilclover2429

Жыл бұрын

The reaction was over the top but it was totally unacceptable for her to include her man in the girl’s trip! I would’ve just ended the friendship.

@sensimania

Жыл бұрын

@@aprilclover2429 I agree, her reaction was over the top. As an introvert, I don't appreciate "surprise visitors" when the understanding was that it was just meant to be a certain amount of us. But would I react by blowing up and trying to fight people?! Noo! That's weird, lol! Something has built up overtime, either this was the straw that broke the camels back, or she genuinely just doesn't like this person

@BoooHooo

Жыл бұрын

She invited not only her boyfriend on a girl's trip but her boyfriend bought 3 other men onlong with him. To me that sounds like a set up to get grape.

@briamonyae1396

Жыл бұрын

I learned this lesson too!

My last three girls trip 1. A friend invited a strange dude from the lobby to shower in our room. 2. An argument broke out in the room that security was called and we were put out. 3. Someone got hit by a stray bullet in the leg. I just stay home now 😊

@ClowneryAtItsFinest

Жыл бұрын

Damn😮

@LadyAngela678

Жыл бұрын

Good idea

@lilyflower5576

Жыл бұрын

😰😱

@ForbsieLaLa

Жыл бұрын

By 3 I was near falling off my chair. I'm sure as you typed you really had to say WTH was I thinking but you lived through it Thank God and learned who not to hang around in the future like that

@trisha1989

Жыл бұрын

@@ForbsieLaLa 😂😂😂 when she got shot we didn’t know wtf happened 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I’m planning a solo trip this spring. I literally only have 1 female friend that I would go on a trip with. We’ve been friends for almost 8 years. We have to be extremely careful who we rent these AirBnBs with. A lot of people are going on these “girls trips” with women they secretly don’t like and are only using them to help cut down the costs.

@swiitdoll

Жыл бұрын

I solo travel. I’ve been to 11 countries solo. 2 with a friend and 1 with an ex partner. I was miserable twice when I travelled with a friend. Go solo, read about where u are going, crime rates, public transport etc. you’d be fine

@jessicascreenwritingservices

Жыл бұрын

@@swiitdoll thanks for the advice 😊 that’s awesome that you’ve been to so many countries. I’ve been scared to go on any girls trips for that very reason.

@lesliesmart4595

Жыл бұрын

Went on my 1st solo trip a year ago for my bday. Best trip and bday ever! 😉 Enjoy!

@rogers5622

Жыл бұрын

You are speaking the truth . I just had to tell a friend to stop going on these trips with co workers and random " oh she's cool " people . Haters hide in plain sight.

@harmony3279

Жыл бұрын

@@swiitdoll read about the laws so you don't have a Britney Grier situation.

I learned my lesson years ago after being cursed out on the way home from a road trip, because I didn't want to go shopping at an outlet mall. Her energy didn't match the situation, and I thought she and I were cool. I've traveled alone or with one or two friends at a time since, but I've never been a fan of group traveling. Too many personalities.

@Raray200

Жыл бұрын

Most likely it wasn’t about the shopping. Most women, Sometimes me😢, fuss about something small, but there is a bigger issue she needs to be upfront about. Maybe she thinks you were saying no to everything she suggested. Maybe she was hurt or offended by something that happened on the trip and you didn’t realize it. Or she was on her period, omg my friend and I feel out because I was soo sensitive and angry on my period. I apologized and explained to her that I was pmsing. We have to ask and be direct.

@Price8903

Жыл бұрын

@@Raray200 menstruation is not a reason to flip out. I agree something else may have bothered her, but she still should’ve been respectful, voiced her concerns the moment something bothered her but never cursed her friend out

@Raray200

Жыл бұрын

@@Price8903 Just curious, Are you a woman? Hormones are real. It is a real reason for moodiness and hypersensitivity. Not the process menstruation, the the PMS ( excess hormones). Many women do not like to reference it, because it is stigmatized by men, who use it to doubt and question women's abilities to lead. Mood swings are real, but just like depression and anxiety, can be managed. They needed to talk it out. The friend should apologize. But the other friend should not dismiss her like she is crazy. There are levels for her to be reacting that way.

@lilbabytears

Жыл бұрын

Heavy on the too many personalities part

@icecreamtopics

Жыл бұрын

I agree to many personalities

Ladies, be mindful of the little red flags you tend to ignore. Trust your instincts! I have a friend like that now. At first she seemed so cool and non-judgmental, but it all changed when I had a mini glow up a few months ago. At first, she was impressed and complimented me often, but then I started noticing how she would stare at me a bit longer than usual. At first it seemed like she was admiring my new look, but now I'll catch her looking and she'll have this faith look of contempt. It'll disappear in less than a sec. It was especially obvious on new years. I went out partying with her. She kept staring at me the whole night. I've made a choice to distance myself. She is the type to wait for the right moment to throw you under the bus. And it'll be hard to confront her because she is seen as sweet, quiet, and nonproblematic. Be observant. Watch how people look at you when they think you don't see them. Pay attention to back handed compliments. Notice if they stay silent, look away, change the subject, or try to one-up you whenever people are complaining you. btw, don't take on of these clues and run with it. It's usually an amalgamation of everything I said.

@wanda01141

Жыл бұрын

This is 100. I pay attention to all of this. I know exactly what u mean and have experienced this

@lilbabytears

Жыл бұрын

I relate to this

@jellygurl27

Жыл бұрын

Yes Body Language never lies.

@kwashaburts933

Жыл бұрын

My coworker. She thinks I didn't see her hateful glances knowing that I'm moving forward. I talk to her and she'll completey ignore me.

@loversofanimal

Жыл бұрын

She’s not a friend. It’s a fre-enemy! Stay away 😮

I’ve been on loads of girls trips and no one has ever invited anyone without telling us. People need better friends.

@taalofaa

Жыл бұрын

Few women are ever a males friend so girl trips just serve as Passages to new Adventures

@metallicalyssa

Жыл бұрын

People need better friends! Say that again!

@taalofaa

Жыл бұрын

@@metallicalyssa What is a black female friend in USA lately..... Black woman who fully leaves you alone and does not stare at you as if you are property.

They’re both problematic!! This is why I’m a peaceful loner! 💯

@strongwoman2668

Жыл бұрын

Facts me too I don't deal with them!!!!

I've never witnessed a "friend group" of women who didn't betray one another, in some way, shape or form. I didn't have to find myself in the middle of it, to learn the lesson. I'm a loner, by nature. I've come to appreciate it. There's no noise/drama/misunderstandings. I wish people peace, love and light - while focusing on my own. I don't have an issue with Women. However, I realize a lot of Women have issues with themselves! Living a quiet life is where it's at. 💯

@ceecee8924

Жыл бұрын

Factss currently friend free and life is a lot more peaceful and less complicated

@p_tiffanii

Жыл бұрын

@@ceecee8924 💯

@AVIXO_SL

Жыл бұрын

No my friends from elementary school we never switched up but our families know each others we like cousins we havent gon on road trips but we def go to bbqs reunions weddings showers funerals and its always love

@dianasarahiflores8027

Жыл бұрын

👏

@Island_empress_340

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤

It’s funny because I’ve been in such a season of isolation lately & feel bad for not being around friends anymore but after seeing this & the shanquella story I’m good. ✌🏽 😊

@kthename08

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@paulaholland

Жыл бұрын

You are not missing anything. I've had so-called friends do me so dirty that I've isolated too. With some of these folks out here calling themselves friends, who needs enemies?

@loviaroberts293

Жыл бұрын

The past two years I too isolate myself and felt bad but when I think of how badly I was talked about from the same chick that I thought was a friend! Honey. I made the best decision ever!!!!!!! Now my journey of travel consist of myself or myself and my husband only.

@OrganicallyYahs

Жыл бұрын

Same happy loner here 😊

@come_on_barbie_123

Жыл бұрын

Omg, same! I just haven't been motivated to hang. shan's situation sealed the deal for me too, as I've experienced some degree of this and just shady situations. I'm just tired!

"alot of y'all don't have real friends and alot of it is based on competition" that hits real different Shumake! I had to learn that the hard way yearsss ago but I'm glad I learned! Shout out to you for telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth! Some of the people we called friends were really associates. At one time that person might have been a friend BUT yall are on different paths in life, AND THAT'S OKAY!

@Sunny-tc3ul

Жыл бұрын

People mixing associates with Friends

@honeybeemonique

Жыл бұрын

That is so true. I believe women especially black women. It’s sad

@paulaholland

Жыл бұрын

Well said!

@come_on_barbie_123

Жыл бұрын

A lot of bw, especially, don't even know how to be friends! Sad fact

@brooklynforever1990

Жыл бұрын

@@Sunny-tc3ulTHANK YOU! thy calling randoms friends smdh

I’ve never had a girls trip and now I never want to

@ebonynerd

Жыл бұрын

I did a girl's trip twice and it was a mess! Both times we ended up splitting up the group and we had to do two different excursions and things and the vacation got better both times especially when you are with like minded people or when you are on the same page

@deedee8316

Жыл бұрын

@@ebonynerd that’s good things got better during the trip and not worse. I think being like minded is essential. Also not ignoring the red flags. I’m sure the young lady that was filming felt things at certain times from her so called friend.

@qesther1241

Жыл бұрын

@@ebonynerd My girls trip consists of a day at a fancy day spa then an expensive dinner then home to our husbands/boyfriends. That’s as far as I’ll go for a girls trip and even then I find myself being irritated due to conflicting appointments with mani/pedi etc.

@ebonynerd

Жыл бұрын

@Q-Esther12 that's sounds perfect 🥰

@lyssanicole4469

Жыл бұрын

I’ve done several girls trips and they all have been so much fun. It depends on your friend group tbh. Some had bfs some didn’t. But we’re all there to have fun. We don’t compete with each other we’re there to have a holiday and have fun.

She's trying to play innocent. I believe she knew her boyfriend was going to bring those guys, and they came there pushing up on those girls and they didn't want it.

@taalofaa

Жыл бұрын

Wanted new unknown meat from unknown Butchers

@marzi0574

11 ай бұрын

It's just not that serious. It shouldn't diminish the trip.

I understand the woman’s frustration about not wanting her friend’s boyfriend and his friends visiting. I’m a firm believer in setting certain time and spaces just for your friends, family and yourself outside of your romantic partner. We don’t know the entire story, of course, but there’s a difference between a girls trip and a trip where you’re then inviting boyfriends, other men, etc. While she clearly did not address her feelings appropriately, i wonder if the friend ever asked if it was okay that her boyfriend and his friends visit? Idk I feel like when you add men to the mix or even other people who the trip was never intended for, especially without letting folks know ahead of time, you may be stepping on toes whether you intended to or not. EVERYONE displayed POOR communication skills. True friendship is about having difficult conversations but in a compassionate and loving way. Again, her behavior is out of line and she could’ve handled that so much better. At the same time, the other friend is clearly not understanding why her not communicating her boyfriend visiting is little inconsiderate of her friends.

@plumlocs

Жыл бұрын

I agree!

@Sunny-tc3ul

Жыл бұрын

I would not be mad if my homegirl man popped up on the trip. I would be wondering why our friend is that mad… my mind will be saying oh she’s f’ing her man. That rage was pure anger. As long as she’s not getting beat on, raped, or worse. I would have said someone had fun and started laughing if she happy I’m to see her smiling.

@apriljohnson7447

Жыл бұрын

That's fine and all, but that should never provoke you into fighting your friend because YOU didn't like a decision SHE made. And what if she had fought her friend, would we be watching another Shanquella situation? They both COULD have done things differently but THEY didn't. How you feel justified trying to fight, your socalled friend over her decision to allow her boyfriend to come over on THE LAST NIGHT is beyond me. People need to stop trying to control the behaviors of other grown people with physical violence because even if you started out with a good point, it becomes a mute point because you acting like a wild hyena. Period.

@rogers5622

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree. It's understandable that some of the other women would be annoyed that she invited her man and his friends . Their own men would think they were lying if they said it was ladies only on the trip .

@come_on_barbie_123

Жыл бұрын

Men being in the mix changes the dynamics and vibe. Women may be comfortable being undressed around each other. With men there, that changes or it should!

I went in a trip with my old high school best friend and she decided to ask me while we were out if I really thought my man wasn’t cheating on me. She was very sarcastic about it. She didn’t even know him. Lol needless to say I no longer deal with her and him and I are now happily married.

@fortunalutshaka7438

Жыл бұрын

Wait so did he cheat

Js, no girl should ever go on a girl's trip and expect any male to be there. Likewise, no girl should go on a girl's trip and not be safe with her girls. And finally, no girl should even consider a girl's trip, if her man may possibly pop-up. Just do a couple's trip, and leave one night for hanging with the girls/guys. It's easy to avoid drama when one is intent on avoiding drama.

@annagrace1159

Жыл бұрын

All facts!

@Lovelyone1

Жыл бұрын

Definitely! Maybe the boyfriend and his friends were not up to par…..some of these girls will date any ol’ body!!!

@kemi1486

Жыл бұрын

Boom that’s it right there. A girls trip is just that. Just girls! I don’t do girls trips so I don’t really know but why her man and his friend just show up and can’t fund their own accommodations? Sounds like broke crusty insecure dudes looking for a free stay and to keep tabs on women. Why she couldn’t go be with him at HIS hotel? Black women please just don’t have broke girl friends!

@hellothere8347

Жыл бұрын

Yeah true your right about that but to get upset and physically want to hurt your friend is crazy

@Pinkest1988

Жыл бұрын

Here's the thing tho, it wasn't tht deep. Low key excusing the "friend's" behavior doesn't justify her acting crazy af. If I was in tht situation I wouldn't even care tbh esp if you mentioned tht ya man was in the same area doin his own thing & wanted to stop by. This is jealousy. Cuz if thts my for real friend then i consider her family. Therefore, her man is treated like family. Yall chicks weird af & it shows smh

1000% facts! This is why you MUST have discernment! When you first start seeing the signs, either you confront them, and hopefully, they will change, but if not, then leave them alone!

This is why I ✂️ off and haven't looked back at relatives and so called friends in over 4 years because of no good, covert, jealous, demonic, haters that was rooting for my failure. I was the one that cheered and supported EVERYONE in my circle. I was that girls girl, loyal big sister/daughter, best neighbor etc. But got the opposite. I'm done!

What most likely happened is the girl videotaping bf told his friends that his gf had some attractive friends so they come along.They got to the house and started pushing up on the girls ,this girl may or may not have bf .Or simply could have been in uncomfortable position ,the girl recording probably said "oh girl u tripping have fun" or something like that.I know a girl who pulled a stunt like this but it was on her sister only thing different is her sister just entertained the guy and confronted her sister after.Lots of women will put their friends in uncomfortable situations to please a man ,some will even set u up to be raped.I see a lot people advocating for solo traveling but many women are careless when they go and let they guard down ,sex trafficking is real.Dont get drunk in another country or start hooking up with people.Find one good friend ,a trusted family member or partner to go with.

@korieedmonds6259

Ай бұрын

Yupppppp have a friend like this

The women I go on girls trips with are super sweet and fun . Even if it’s just a few of us, we have fun. Ladies , the power of spirit of discernment is real. Pay attention to how you feel around them, your body knows before you. I remember my ex bff would make me uncomfortable a lot and I wouldn’t understand why until she started saying stuff that I side-eyed cause why can’t you celebrate me when it took me so long to.. you get the drift, move where you are celebrated , move in spirit , move in discernment . Don’t ever second guess your intuition

@khem127

Жыл бұрын

Thisss!!!!! 👆

This is definitely a cautionary tale but to the women, in the comments, I really want yall to know there is another side to girls trips that are amazing and it really hurts to hear so many women have awful experiences. I wrote this in a reply, but for everyone to see here- I have been going on girls trips for 9 years since we all graduated undergrad cuz that's the only time I see most of my friends and we all LIVE for those trips, the best experiences and memories ever and if you have that opportunity don't give that up. There are 5 of us, been domestic and international, ain't lost a single woman or friendship and we even "survived Miami" where they say friendships go to die. It depends on you and the crowd, the vetting process, communication, knowing yourself, and what you want from a trip versus the women you are traveling with.

@sheenabean222

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment. It's important to have discernment regarding who you let in on a friendship level. Most times, the red flags present themselves early on, and they're ignored until a trip or vacation is going on. It's refreshing to hear you've had good experiences with your friends! It definitely gives me a lot of hope cause I've had some failed girls trips myself (eh, you live and you learn). Hoping more women see this comment. 🌻

@nisaregal7508

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you young ladies have, and are doing it how it’s Supposed to be done😉 Also, he mentioned early on that it’s important that you all are on the same levels in life…equally yoked for a lack of a better term. That way there’s no room or reason for jealousy…..projection….the need to one up on every positive accomplishment ( life’s little wins that should be acknowledged, celebrated, and always humbly Grateful for) You may be a walking mirror…unintentionally being a constant reminder/reflection of everything that she/he wishes to be. 😢 Most unfortunate, but not the person’s fault who’ve accepted life’s challenges….rolled up their sleeves….laced up their💩kickers, so win or lose you’re always living your BEST LIFE celebrating the wins and going back to the drawing board calculating the losses 😉😌✨🦋

@tee5705

Жыл бұрын

@@sheenabean222 Yes! you read my mind, I think those friendships weren't true in the first place and these scenarios bring out any underlying issue and/or insecurity in them front and center. I am sorry you've had some unfortunate experiences so far, but with your energy, I can pick up here, experiences had, and discernment gained, I do hope you can experience the latter!

@ForbsieLaLa

Жыл бұрын

You touched on something important in that for you and your friends see it as that special time to catch up(with the bonus of extra fun). Too many of these girls trips are planned with people they barely know and just looking to see what can happen

@sheenabean222

Жыл бұрын

@@tee5705 Aww, don't be sorry! If anything, thanks for your kindness and for being an inspiration with your initial comment!! ✨

The last girls trip I went on was very boring for me because the ladies stopped to take pictures so much I felt like I was on a photo shoot for 3 days. 😂 I’m fine with some pictures for memories of course but the picture taking was wayyy too much!

Ok most of the time on a girl's trip we women be dressing down while we in the room. Why bring your man into that type of environment. And gone probably be mad when you catch him looking. Now on the flip side that other girl is CRA CRA!!! FO REAL

There’s a myriad of problems here… 1. If your man is going to be there even if it’s for the last night..GET YA’LL OWN ROOM! A girl’s trip is just that! A girl’s trip 2. There’s no conflict resolution at all..folks go from 0 to imma kill you in seconds 3. For her “friend” to be exhibiting that level of anger and hostility, this has been a long time coming. Many a red flags have been ignored. 4. She needs to question the kind of man she’s attracting, because no man of mine or any kind of real man would begin to even slightly feel comfortable being in an environment with that many women 5. Fly solo! You can never ever never ever go wrong

@debbyshark1596

Жыл бұрын

She had her own room..and it was 1 night!! Too aggressive and hateful over 1 night like that

@LadyAngela678

Жыл бұрын

Right, Right, Right!!! I can’t fathom why she’d allow her boyfriend to be around all her friends like that.

@Hephbeu

Жыл бұрын

@@debbyshark1596 she had her own room with where her “friends” were..did he not have his own room? Or money to get them both a room for the night? Two things can be true..her “friend” was no damn friend, waaay to hostile BUT her man should be thoughtful and uncomfortable enough to not even think about being in an environment that was planned for just girlfriends..

@janayialove4414

Жыл бұрын

#4 Definitely no real man would feel comfortable being in closed space with other women.

@NegritaBrujita

Жыл бұрын

@@janayialove4414 majority of men don’t care about that! He was there for some arse 😂

I’m sorry, but if I’m going on a “girls” trip I’m expecting the trip to be all girls. Meeting us out somewhere is one thing but inviting them over (& them inviting the men they’re with over) are two different things. I’m not mad at the friend who was mad & I don’t think she was jealous

@Hopping102

Жыл бұрын

So acting crazy and wanting to fight over something so trvial is not being jealous? Wanting to phsycal harm your friend....ok.

@aprilclover2429

Жыл бұрын

Her behavior was over the top and inexcusable but it was not over something trivial. It was a betrayal and I would’ve been upset but not combative.

@queenjackson1037

Жыл бұрын

@@aprilclover2429 I agree. There was no excuse for her behavior but she was mad for a reason

@therealnavice

Жыл бұрын

The Justification 😂😂man …..

@719kai719

Жыл бұрын

I do think the chick over reacted some BUT I do understand her being upset about the lady's man coming by and bringing other men. Last night or not if it's a Girl's trip why is he popping up when no one else's man popped up? He could have waited another day to see her in my opinion, unless he was there to pick her up and take her home. Then on top of that he's coming through bringing other men that the other women may not feel comfortable having around them, especially strangers. When I think of a Girls trip I think of a trip with all women just vibing and enjoying each other's company/ friendship for a few days. Having your man (;if you have one) just pop up randomly defeats the purpose. Again if he waited until the last day to pop up why couldn't he just wait another day when she got home to see her? Jealousy ain't always the reason.

I think you're missing the point. She wasn't being "hah-stel" because of jealousy. You have no idea if she's in a relationship or not. She was upset because the boyfriend showed up unannounced and uninvited, and with a couple unwanteds with him. He then obviously LEFT those guys behind! Didn't you hear her say "they're for you" when the "angry friend" was blowing a tantrum. It was a safety issue, nothing more. The woman filming was ghetto af.

@JadeGraf

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad I’m not the only one that noticed that too I was in a situation like this before kind of I stayed the night over at my friends house in the next morning some random man that she was dealing with was in the room and I was in the bed naked. so I was so pissed and she completely thought I was in the wrong and told me to get out anyways today we’re not friends anymore because she was never my friend if you have respect for someone you let them know when other people are coming around ahead of time and give them the option of whether or not they want to be there

@kikiarthur7039

Жыл бұрын

No youre missing it When the girl who was recording got in the room she said the bully knew her bf was coming. And The woman screaming and banging on the door of a person who is obviously not trying to fight is ghetto. Because if that was the issue say that instead of yelling and threats period they are all too grown. Her message got lost in her mess

@Lovelyone1

Жыл бұрын

@@kikiarthur7039 who knows when the girl started recording??? She could have instigated the whole thing….and then started recording when the friend started reacting.

@sxyteesa0890

Жыл бұрын

Her following her around and in her personal space was over kill it didn’t matter what she did from there

@niajan5892

Жыл бұрын

All she had to say was they needed to leave, she ain’t feel safe. She waited til the men left to act saucy. Sounds like jealousy to me

Seems like they didn’t discuss boundaries before the trip. Wouldn’t been a whole better outcome if they did that.

@LadyAngela678

Жыл бұрын

To my understanding girls trip means no guys in the room- and thats at bare minimum.

@come_on_barbie_123

Жыл бұрын

U can even discuss it before hand, and they'll still act a fool! Smh

@icecreamtopics

Жыл бұрын

That is so true

@greenbeans7666

Жыл бұрын

Lol I think she got killed for not speaking about boundaries. That deep

The sad part is that they can feel that way even if they're doing better than you. God's light within you will agitate people who have unrighteous spirits.

It don't matter what the other girl was mad about... there is no reason/excuse to get all hyped up like that, wanting to fight. Chick had her cousins there so she started feeling extra brave enough to do what she's been trying to do for the longest!! Trust your gut! Pay attention to weird energy!

@briamonyae1396

Жыл бұрын

💯

@trainwithme7152

Жыл бұрын

No - the girls bf brought three guys with him. They were on the couch. The girl on screaming literally said "and you brought three niggas here" Girl on camera gaslights her saying " I brought them for you" Nothing to do with her having her bf over. On top of that she goes on her room and leave HER FRIENDS with three random niggas. I would be triggered and beat her ass no lie.

@maureens990

Жыл бұрын

Let someone put your left in danger... See how you'd react

@pariswilliams3451

Жыл бұрын

Facts

There is an addiction to frenemies. There are people who are around you sometimes waiting for the opportunity to see your downfall. And when you are the kind of person who seems resilient, always managing to spin yourself out of storms, always creating for yourself new opportunities, and you just won't seem to stay down despite their many efforts to speak tragedy into your spirit, they'll literally sit in the cut, waiting for a chance to push you over a cliff. It is sad because often some of you all know exactly who these people are and yet you keep them around you, trust them in isolated spaces, and you just won't cut them loose. You prefer to being on social media clapping and snapping off about who is jealous of you, and you know exactly who these people are. You cannot be friends with people who want your life.

@quettalogan3295

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@ebonywilson5646

Жыл бұрын

You said that 💥

I’ve been on many successful girl’s trips where my bf may pop up and bring us drinks, him and his friend may kick it with us for an hour then they leave. I’ve had situations were my friends bfs would do the same, there was never a problem. But there was this one situation, where my bf had been telling me about this friend of mine, but I wouldn’t listen. I went on a girls trip with her and three others. I was the only darker toned woman. We ran into these random Miami guys and it was all good until I start being shown the most attention. I wasn’t single, so I didn’t entertain it,. Once they left and we were headed back to the hotel, that girl talked so down about me saying, “they only liked you because you have a big butt, they probably thought you would be easy, etc etc etc. (She had been used to getting all the attention over me, which I didn’t mind because I wasn’t single, never phased me) but the one time I got attention over her she lost it. The night ended with me having to fight this girl and calling my bf to come get me. We’re no longer friends, but I am so much more cautious going only girls trips since then. It’s sad.

@719kai719

Жыл бұрын

Wow that's crazy. She was only comfortable with you as long as she felt that she was the center of attention. That's what you call a frienenemy.

@keyonnawilliams4182

Жыл бұрын

@@719kai719 yes yes, and I never noticed because I’m not competitive like that. I root for all my girls and I’m in a loving relationship. So once that happens I just cut her off. I told my bf and he literally looked me in my eyes and said, “I seen that coming.” Smh. I should’ve listened lol

@chitlinjuice

Жыл бұрын

Some women befriend women they think they are better than. I seen it and experienced this.

@keyonnawilliams4182

Жыл бұрын

@@chitlinjuice absolutely, that’s why I’m so cautious with be friends

@coulorfully

Жыл бұрын

You "had to fight this girl".... see thats the mindset I can't get with. Please tell me it was just self defense? ?? Women...people... need to learn how to resolve conflict or leave before things escalate. No need to get physical.

I had to tell someone that I refuse to hang with folks who won't manage their mental health, past/current trauma & their emotions. We've all experienced some form of trauma in life & things that make us mad. If a person had experiences that negatively impacts how they respond to situations, but never even attempted counseling to manage it, then we simply aren't compatible... They can keep it moving. No more trauma bonding with perpetually broken souls that I really don't share any other similarities with, or dealing with frenemies who can't handle their personal insecurities, etc. People have a right to feel how they feel, but adults need to understand that their 'crazy' is THEIR responsibility to manage, and not the burden of those who befriended them.

@719kai719

Жыл бұрын

FACTS

I'm grateful my husband and I are each other's best friend. This is terrifying to watch.

4:43 she didn’t just “bring her man.” He brought his friends and you can clearly hear the girl recording say: “They were HERE for Y’ALL.” If it was just her man I don’t think she would’ve popped off as hard as she did. But it seems like the girl and her boyfriend propositioned her friends to these other men. And that can be a dangerous situation if these men come in thinking they’re gonna hook up and it doesn’t happen, it can go south. I don’t think the girl who wanted to fight was jealous of her having a man…cuz clearly a man was “brought there for her”. I think she was genuinely upset cuz her safety was compromised - especially on their last night.

@maureens990

Жыл бұрын

This comment 🙌🙌.

@viciousreasoning504

Жыл бұрын

Naw…. Maybe no one was interested in her she was jealous because if my safety was compromised then my friend would ask them to leave and i wouldnt be trying to fight her

@nikkia4221

Жыл бұрын

Still weird that she wanted to fight.

@RDCFemmes

Жыл бұрын

@@viciousreasoning504 someone who even put in that vulnerable position should not be called a friend or may be you are that type of friend then your friends need to cut you off

@nishisalott1839

Жыл бұрын

I agree

I have been invited on several girls trip and I have always said no. I know better.

I’m so thankful for you being considerate of the shonquella situation. It’s weird that people used that story DAILY for content. Thank you!! Respect!! I’ve literally unsubscribed people because of that

This is why I do not do friendship groups anymore. I am only friends with individuals and that is it. I have experienced quite a bit and over time I realised it's about getting to know a person on an individual basis and not a group basis. If you do not know a person as an individual, or you do not feel comfortable being alone with that person do not. I REPEAT, do not invite them to a group setting especially to a holiday. *Get to know your friend as an individual, then you know if they qualify to go on holiday with you.*

I never knew things were that bad. SMH I'm a solo dolo person, especially when it comes to traveling. It even gotta be something for me to travel with family. I either travel by myself, as part of a program, or if it's funded by my job. Most I've done in the past was a road trip with my husband (at the time) and another couple that was made up of 2 of our very close friends/coworkers/neighbors. You definitely made a point about these competition friendships. Smh

She has been sour for a very long time,

@soroyale7805

Жыл бұрын

Something telling me something happened before, but this was the final straw that broke the camels back. The one recording did something inconsiderate before and the one flip let it slide,but was pissed inside. I've seen this episode before.

She should’ve NEVER had the man come there. If it’s a girls trip it should only be women there! And plus, she never told her “friends” it was going to happen, when she KNEW it was. She was wrong for that. 💯

@shereeseeverett

Жыл бұрын

She said in the video she told her friend that's why she was confused about why she was so mad. Also, it's her boyfriend, not some random stranger.

@Faith459

Жыл бұрын

If it was the last night of the trip he could have stayed home and seen her in a couple hours. And too I would be uncomfortable, I don’t trust everyone. The girl may have been jealous. She should not even want her man around that many females.

@whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859

Жыл бұрын

@@shereeseeverett he brought his friends too. No ma'am

@scorpiocarnage1055

Жыл бұрын

@@shereeseeverett You do realize a lot of crimes are committed by familiar people, right? Just because he's her boyfriend does not make him automatically safe. What makes him safe is if he is a good man.

@cosmic_innergy

Жыл бұрын

First of she mad cause the other young lady have a man and she lonely and single and she is jealous, anybody can see that, it's not that big of a deal! If yall girls on a sincere note, this anger would not have even come out! That is to angry for anyone! True friendship is not anger and jealousy, it is respect, integrity and love, empowerment! Shit while her man was there, they could have chilled while he was there! If you know I got a man and he wants to come see me while we are out, that should not be a problem just cause he swinging thru on the last night! She either jealous cause she want her for herself or that she got a man! FUCK A GIRLS TRIP IF WOMAN ACT LIKE THIS! I am married and we do not hang around anyone,,,,he treats me beautiful and I have had bitches that call theirs elves my friends but jealous and wanted to fight me cause my husband treats me like royalty! And I definitely treat my husband like the Royal GOD he is even after 31 years, we still act like we just met! You cannot be around people that know you have a great relationship and they lonely, bitter and single, or not in a good relationship, fuck woman, all they harbor is jealousy because they are not in your shoes! They even tried to fuck my husband and they were not expecting him to tell me but he did and I dropped them bitches like a bad habit! Watch your company, be discerning, and if you are a woman with a pretty discent relationship, hang by yourself or with a couple that is happy and content with each other! Peace and Love! Oh yes and the ones that are not feeling what I just said, come on and come for me, I am Ready!!!!🤔

Y’all I’ve had my husband tell me about different women in my life. He told me about fake friends and even family members that low key were jealous of me. I didn’t want to believe but later found out. Also I remember going on a girls trip a total of three of us. I went with my BF at the time and she brought her other friend. Her friend would make comments about us getting all the attention. When she finally got some attention she was like finally 🤦🏽‍♀️ girls are so hard to be friends with sometimes. I’m 28 and have two friends but no best friends.

Everything you mentioned is what I was experiencing with one of these girls I was friends with. She would always do weird sh*t especially when men were involved, and always side eyeing me. My spirit never felt at peace once I called her out on her and she wanted to act like she never did me like that and never toke accountability for anything, it was really just time for me to cut her off! Thank God I trust myself and that I´m not oblivious to people's behaviour and treatment of me.

You are right on point; women are in competition with each other. I have 2 friends in my life, and I travel with one at a time. They don't even know each other. I have and will not ever travel with a group of women. Jealous and envy is real with people. They try to make you jealous talking about your man or try to sleep with him, or flirt etc. They see this crap on Bravo, Real Housewives of Potomac, DC, LAMH all those shows have woman acting in this way and those women think this behavior is acceptable. This crap reminds me of Bad Girls Club. Why would a person want to be around another person when they know how rude and crazy, they act? They think it cute or think it's a trend that will get them "LIKES" and attention on social media. SMH

@come_on_barbie_123

Жыл бұрын

I believe reality TV shows influence this as well!

Time for a new group of friends. It’s not worth getting into fights. Too much hate. 😢

Even if I wanted to go on a girl trip, I couldn't, because I don't have female friends like that. And I'll admit, I don't get along with other women, why? Because of all the obvious traits you mentioned. Plus I always get dreams warning me about someone or some friend I think is a real friend to me. Does that mean I like drama or cause drama? Nope. I'm very observant and when I notice someone acting different or being hateful or envious, I get rid of them. Plain and simple.

@Cheerleader644860

Жыл бұрын

I'll be your friend

@miaporche2256

Жыл бұрын

💜

@nizarr21

Жыл бұрын

I too do not have alot of lady friends, and I am drama free. But whenever I tell people that I do not have many lady friends, they assume I am dramatic. I don't know why that is. I stay to myself 24/7 outside work and school.

@Cheerleader644860

Жыл бұрын

@@nizarr21 I don't have too many lady friends either. I only have one. She actually the daughter of my moms friends from childhood.

@nizarr21

Жыл бұрын

@@Cheerleader644860 that's awesome 😊 We can be Internet friends 😅

Ladies, this is very very very true. I’ve had to fly solo for quite some time due to issues of jealousy. Those back handed compliments hit haaaaard. Be patient for your tribe, protect and continue to develop yourself until then. It’s not being stuck up, run with people of your caliber.

@Noratheskindoc

9 ай бұрын

I absolutely agree. I've been in isolation and those who want access try to play on the whole she doesn't have friends thing. I have tons of people who would love access to me, but if I have to see less of myself to be around them they're not sent from God that's what I know.

Shumake, please do a part 2 to this video. Everything you are saying is absolutely 100% true.

I will say this. You have to understand the season of friendships. Everybody has a time limit in your life. It's up to you to discern when that expiration is. This video was much needed. I can see both sides. If it was a girl's trip a simple conversation with her man would have been fine. I don't agree with the fighting and the behavior she displayed but I understand it to a point. If some men I didn't know just showed up without my knowledge I would be concerned for my safety. I guess that is why I operate solo. I don't have the time or energy to determine if you are really my friend or not.

@morethanyourbasics

Жыл бұрын

looking at the comments someone said her man showed up with 3-4 men. To me the OP was gaslighting all of them and was provoking a response. How do you invite all of these strange men over on a girls trip and then record a video for your "safety" while featuring them in the background steps away from them and saying that "they were here for you". That definitely sounds like men that showed up with more than just their presence but wanted "something more". Obviously, she doesn't feel like she's in the wrong and isn't apologetic but if the person upset has been a victim of violence or r*pe there's just a lot of animosity that didn't need to be there. I have yet to travel solo but it's on the list. Sometimes the best company is yourself especially if the alternative is people who will sabotage your peace

Just came back from a solo trip for 4 days in Miami and I had the time of my life. Planning to do short 2 day weekend trips here and there that are driveable. It’s so much better y’all

I had a friend say that I gave them money to brag. What? I was just trying to help! So weird.

@sxyteesa0890

Жыл бұрын

Girrrl I would’ve asked for it back tf

My circle has always been small. I have many aquaintances and very few friends.

I'm seeing a lot of women advocating for solo travel. I especially love seeing black women in luxury and travelling. We need a new green book or website version of it for black women made by black women who have experience traveling. Give us wannabe travelers info and recommendations about locations, hotels, activities, and restaurants you've experienced at different price points. It's hard doing the research when you don't know where to begin.

@719kai719

Жыл бұрын

A book would be amazing but you can also check out some KZread channels of black women who discuss their experiences and advice with traveling solo. It's very insightful

@divinediva_

Жыл бұрын

There are solo travel groups for BW on FB that do this.

@Christines_letters

Жыл бұрын

@The passport abuser

It's for this reason , when I wanted to go back to Italy, I went back alone and travelled to venture other parts of Italy on my own . You can't trust these so-called " friends" these days. As a female traveller, I was scared at first cause if anything were to happen, I'm all I've got but fortunately, I did thorough research on how to move around to those places I wanted to go to prior to leaving. I also made sure I had enough cash in case of sticky situations. I did feel lonely here and there without a travel companion but I felt good overall knowing I was safe in my own company.

Some people will be in competition with you & you don't know it until you see the bullshit too late, and you've shared and cheered with and for them.

Every time I get into it argument with somebody the biggest comeback is " that's why you don't have no friends" I didn't feel bad then and I definitely don't feel bad now.

I went on one years ago. Never again.

I have 4 bestfriends from high school and were all close to 40 now. I only hangout when they come to the state I live in or I go to our home state. Women are really emotionally and mentally messed up from so much abuse in their relationships and child hood trauma and a lot of people need healing. I also go visit my cousins down south when I wanna hang out otherwise I hang with my baby and my man.

@natashabrown41

Жыл бұрын

Make a lot of sense

@corlenajames1381

Жыл бұрын

I had to tell someone that I refuse to hang with folks who won't manage their mental health & trauma. We've all experienced some form of trauma in life, but if a person has had traumatic experiences & has never even attempted counseling to manage it, then we simply aren't compatible. No more trauma bonding or dealing with frenemies, etc. People are crazy, but adults need to realize that their 'crazy' is THEIR responsibility.

@dimensionsofagemini

Жыл бұрын

@@corlenajames1381 yessss EXACTLY. Acknowledge your issue. Want to get help so u can be mentally and emotionally healthy and then u can began relationship’s and friendships with others.

I've had multiple girls trips in the last few years with no drama! It's not girls trips, it's the women you surround yourself with.

I commend you Brother!!! You are so insightful!!! I am a single woman and I don't have any friends because I can't take the jealousy, drama, and hate that comes from other "women." The sad part is, weaker women stay friends, because they still want to be able to go on girls trips or to the clubs, etc. So, someone like me, who doesn't have friends because I'm choosing not to be disrespected, doesn't go out, or on trips, and the result is, I never meet single men now. So it's a double-edged sword. I'm 41, and at this point, meeting someone and getting married is beginning to seem impossible 🤦🏾‍♀️

@KimPureLove

Жыл бұрын

To meet people go to events, volunteer in your community, learn a hobby like golf, go to basketball or football games. Don’t give up on finding your life partner.

I had one where a friend of mines invited her friend to a trip we had planned previously. Needless to say, her friend made the focus of the trip about HER WANTS AND NEEDS. Things got a bit ridiculous. After that trip, I kept myself not going on any girl related trips.

First: Not everyone is jealous. If these are your true friends they've seen you go up, down, and sideways but they love and stick by you anyways. People need to know who they have in their inner circles: strengths and weaknesses to lean on one another and build one another up. That's each individual's responsibility. Some women have zero boundaries and zero backbone. They will morph every time they are in a relationship with someone. In addition to vetting friends: do a self assessment of yourself and correct accordingly. It's a scarcity mindset (that is present in both men and women). This mindset will have people competing for what they deem to be a limited resource: be it attention, opposite gender, money, or whatever a thing is. Clout chasing is so prevalent nowadays. I don't know the details of this situation but logistics of planning this trip should have been set before they all agreed to go. Logistics as to why they taking the trip, who's going, what's allowed and not allowed, dedicated time for the group, solo activities. Poor planning and poor communication lead to these problems Based off what I watched :The woman recording was IMO wrong for letting her man visit the air bnb on the women's last night of the trip. She violated her friends' privacy and their friendship especially if it wasn't agreed upon by the group to have visitors of the opposite sex.

@shereeseeverett

Жыл бұрын

In the video, the one recording said she told her friend ahead of time and she didn't have an issue with it. So it's not like she just popped up with random guys or the friend didn't know about the boyfriend stopping by and was surprised when he got there. If it was a surprise, that was on her and she should be held accountable but not to the point of wanting to fight. That's crossing a line. The girl was so mad she banging on the door and busted into the room to fight her. That's crazy that's something else going on with her.

@coulorfully

Жыл бұрын

None of what the recorder did was physical and could warrant the response the fake friend had. No excuses.

You seriously have to pray to make sure your friends are true.

Thank you for this video. You dropped so many pearls here, one that really hit for me was "people can't be happy for you if they aren't happy with who they are...because every time you are around you confirm how they feel"- THIS. This was the missing link for me. My challenge in the past was, I didn't know the "friends" I had weren't happy, I thought they were doing well because that's what they were telling me. They were always telling me about raises, promotions, new opportunities and I was a whole cheerleader for them so I had no reason to believe that I couldn't share good news with them or that they would feel a way about me being noticed, getting my own opportunities. I wonder how many other people were caught in messes because they didn't realize they had people around them who were saying things were great but how they internally feel is different.

They say if you really want to get to know someone, travel with them or live together, you’ll know the true intentions and colors !

Hey Shumake, Thank You for your Calm Cool Collected balanced Humble Commentary! That way at 64yr Never hang Women cliques Since Elementary School! Maybe because I had brothers No Sisters. I watched out.! Let my guard down a couple times and got my butt burned! Much Appreciated! Helps me stay Calm. Peace and Blessings into 2023!👍🏽🥰

“Be careful who you call your friends “. Totally agree 💯

This needed to be said! Thank you! It’s nice to see a brother trying to help the bw community.

This is so sad. And based on comments I’ve read online, so many women are eager for friends . Yet situations like what happened to Shanquella have made it harder as even based on the comments on this video, more and more women are choosing to not interact (and I get it based on the stories shared). RIP Shanquella 🙏🏾

I’m the same way. I’ve never been jealous of any of my friends. I’ve always been supportive of whatever they do to improve. But like you said, everyone is not this way. Some ppl struggle with self esteem and take it out on you.

You have high character man. That’s why I’m following you now. I’m glad I found your channel.

Never had this issue. I don’t argue with my friends and damn sure get into physical altercation. Some of my best memories are the number of girl trips I took. The chick inviting her boyfriend and his friends over without checking in with the other guests is wrong but the reaction was unwarranted and ridiculous.

@Mita0.0.0

Жыл бұрын

Right. Yes the women was wrong but the reaction is wayyyy off. Gotta be other things going on. Strange!

I’ve been on a few girls trips everything you said in this video is pure facts.

Didn't you speak on Takeoff? The reason that Shanquella should be spoken on, is because she need justice and her name and case need to be heard, we need to continue to keep our foot in their backs or knees on their necks. Mexico, FBI, the police in her State and the ones in Mexico. All that involved need to be accountable for.

@therealnavice

Жыл бұрын

You got KZread just like him. Do the honors. And speak up make the video take action.

Thank you for making this video! Valid point.

Women need to stop secretly hating, undermining, disempowering, demeaning, and hurting other women. Get over your own jealousy and other personal issues. Heal yourself. Women need to uplift women.

You are inspiring me too o hey serious and to start creating content about issues like these. I had two best friends who stopped being my friend once I moved out the hood and started a career for myself. Till this day one of them can’t explain why she stop being my friend. The other one helped lined me up on my 29th birthday. Be careful out here everyone isn’t meant for a lifetime some are just for a season. And always trust your gut, stop listening to songs like “No New Friends”. Be inspired by people who are doing well around you.

By that scream, they fought. I pray that was it and she held her own and came out good. This is a shame. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I appreciate your King point of view! God bless you 🙏🏾 new sub

You are preaching brotha! I appreciate this video because my daughter is going away to college and I plan to move right by where she goes to school because I want to ensure she is safe and looked after. She can have the experience knowing MaDukes is nearby. This is so true. I had friends for decades that were lowkey jealous. I just couldn't see it. This is why I truly think married women should be around other women who are either in a serious relationship or married. The man coming is weird though especially since he brought friends. I also wouldn't want my daughter subjected to that. The only reason he should've been there was because she felt threatened. 💯 He also brought friends too....that is not cool on a girls only trip.

I had to learn about the word ‘Friend’. That’s why Im team solo dolo cause people a damn mess

Unpopular opinion but that girls vacay video I was torn about the issue they were arguing about.Tbh it’s annoying when some women bring men into all women spaces,and everything f is back to men.Sometimes you just wanna be with the ladies. Not everyone is comfortable being around strange men especially in a house you staying at so I’d be annoyed too if you set something up to just get away and be with the girls and there goes that one girl inviting guys around.I’d be annoyed too.It’s honestly annoying especially if you didn’t ask the other ladies.But that reaction? That’s was a whole different issue and complete over reaction.Legitimately over the top.At worse I’d advise leave the holiday early , at best leave them to it and talk to her then next day and if she doesn’t understand don’t holiday with her again. But you definitely need to know people you travel with ,family is best and only people you really know,especially if you not strong minded and can’t cut your losses at the first sign of odd shenanigans and it feels off.

Thanks for the content. All good points

Wow! You confirmed a lot of my suspicions today.

She better watch out her so called friend is envious of her and her man relationship. You don’t yell at your friend like they especially with that tone of voice thats pure hatred. I stay away from ppl like that. Energy and vibes don’t lie. 😠

I agree this is not a friendship, please lookup the word (friendship), to often what women are calling relationships or friendships, they are not. A real friendship she would have ask her if she felt comfortable with her boyfriend joining them.

He ain’t told no lies. I know from experience about them fake friends.

I don’t know who you are and why this video came up in my feed because I’m a loner. Maybe because I’m following S.R. case. But you hit all points on the head , the secret animosity, smiling in your face, people not being happy with themselves etc. If people’s eyes weren’t open they should be now. I pray thus video reaches all who need to see& hear it. Thank you for your wisdom.

After the whole Megan/Tory trail and what happened to Shanquilla, I'm good on making new friends. The internet made me realize how wicked so many people are. They justify violence as if hurting someone isn't a big deal. That's crazy to me.

@taalofaa

Жыл бұрын

Violence and hurting people as normal is a moment to moment reality of by and the domain of most women. Her simp the usual vehicle.

Advice well taken. The only girls trips I've ever went on were with my sisters and cousin, who was pretty much like a sister to us. Fortunately my sisters and I were close enough in age to be each other's best friends. As the old song goes, "keep an eye on your close friend."

What this man is saying is so very true. I have learned this the hard way...many, many times. Example 1: Went to the beach with a married family member whom i loved very much and had an almost mother/daughter relationship with. Even lived with her, her daughter and husband for years. We met ppl at the pool and SHE started talking to this guy that had the hots for me but I already told her I was uninterested but she acted suspiciously angry when I told her about this (fucboi) guy trying to get me to go home with him. I walked up behind them and heard her talking terribly about me to this guy, things that weren't even IN THE SAME TIMEZONE AS THE TRUTH. I spoke up and said "Kim...Why are you talking about me like this?" And told the guy to get lost. I catch him trying to go through our purses and stealing tylenol pm of all things. I physically shove him and threatened calling police. He left me alone then. So i turned back to her and repeated my question. Instead of an answer she grabbed a handful of my hair, wrapped it around her wrist and jerked so hard my neck made this disgusting loud pop. She had my face pulled down to my knees. I didnt want to hurt her, i loved her, she was my idol so i tried to talk sense to her "You dont want to do this. We love eachother. Let go of my hair. I dont want to have to hurt you. Im gonna have to hurt you." And then i slammed her into the wall where she still didnt let go and dragged me down as she went. So i had to hit her. She held on still. I choked her in a very awkward way. She let go. I cried and barricaded myself in my room and had to call a friend to rescue me from 2 states away . Example 2: a "friend" i had for years and saw regularly begged me to go to the bar out of town. I didnt want to go, i told her i was under 21. She said they wouldnt id me and i looked old enough to drink and continued to beg. So i went. I wasnt dancing, trying to get a buzz going first. A guy asked me to dance. I told him i didnt feel like it right now. My friend, her name is Amanda, asked me what he had said to me. I told her that he asked me to dance and i said no. Her eyes widened and she looked furious and little quiet mousy Amanda that cant look anyone in the eye yells "ARE YOU F*CKING KIDDING ME??? You're a dirty motherf*cking wh*re, you ALWAYS PULL THIS SH*T!!!" The "guy" saw what was goin on and asked her wtf was happening. She then commenced to puring a drink on him and cussing him out. Then she turned to the bartender, a female bartender so i knew the fun was over, and told her I was 17. I was over 18, therefore allowed in the bar but not allowed to drink. But they believed her and kicked me out in the middle of an unfamiliar area, by myself and I had no car because I rode with her. All because she was jealous a guy, a complete stranger to her, asked me to dance. Example 3: A friend of 10 or more years insisted I come to her housewarming keg party. I paid someone to drive me because my car had been stolen at this point (by another supposed "friend" fml). Mind you, she called several times to make sure I was coming and not gonna bail. Seemed like she really wanted me there. (Info you need to know: I used to have a pain pill addiction and smoke weed. Never in lisas home though bc I respected non-users homes with or without being asked. I had been for about 5 years at this point.) Anyhoo, I walked into the party, was greeting everyone and introducing myself to others when lisa comes out angrily and loudly accusing me of "smuggling drugs" into her home. I assure her, calmly, i havent touched drugs in many yrs and when i did-i never brought them into your home. You can search my purse if it would make you feel better." I was so hurt, embarassed and confused. At that moment she expells something like a battle cry and runs at me like a possessed football player ready to tackle me. Her husband grabs her and holds her down as she almost reaches me and hes screaming at me to "GO GO GO" to me. So i go. out his house, into the rain, without a car until I reached service area. I have so many more of these so-called-friend stories. Ladies, dont trust your friends.

Vet 👏🏾 your 👏🏾friends 👏🏾…simple as that. Excellent advice!

You make a very good point about ulterior motives when it comes to girl/guy trips. While you’re here to relax and get away from the daily stresses of life, your friend might be here to kick up a hornets nest of trouble. Nobody tells you that in when they are trying to convince you to go on the trip…that’s why the motive remains ulterior till you get there. You really have to be discerning about who you do stuff with and why. Some folks don’t need a trip, they need counseling.

Well said! My humble opinion is that people should just go with close bonded family members.

@Faith459

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It be family too 😢

@OfficalSeere

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Even "families" are burdens i know which is why i barely like the word family

Love watching ur videos! May God continue to bless you and your family with wisdom n understanding!

I went on a solo trip to Hawaii for my 29th birthday! I had the best time in the world and I met the most amazing people! I have also traveled most of the US alone! However if you do travel with people travel with those you know without a doubt you are safe with you have to pay attention to peoples character, aside from that I do not like the other woman recording herself as if she was going to be hurt! I don’t like her insinuating a Shanquella Robinson situation, that girl brought men over where another woman did not feel comfortable who knows if her safety was compromised and no one knows what could’ve happened to her so it is nothing in comparison to Shanquella Robinson. She put her friend in a compromised situation, she could be a victim of rape and being ambushed by men could’ve triggered her! I remember Having my first apartment in my Junior year in high school Roommating with a senior, i’m at home with three of my best friends since childhood washing dishes in my kitchen with a T-shirt and my underwear on, next thing ,pretty much the entire football team walks into my home and sees me and I felt completely disrespected and uncomfortable, she didn’t let me know they were coming and I was put in a compromise situation because she allowed all these guys to come into our house and I’m not even properly dressed! I had to explain to her how unsafe it was to allow all these guys into our home we are in high school we are young and it wasn’t a safe thing to do! That being said We don’t really know the full dynamic of the situation but is easily shown that the girl was put in an uncomfortable situation and she responded the way that she did, people act like they wouldn’t get upset if they felt uncomfortable or unsafe!

Spot on message, brother. Friends are hard to come by. Isn't it funny how we aren't formally taught how to make friends or be a friend in school? Something this important you would think there should be classes out there that we're required to take.

Like the old timers would say, Not everybody is your friend. Alot of times we just know alot of people but true friendships nowadays, is very scarce and becoming more rare.

That’s a crazy situation! You are so right about all 4 one & one 4 all! That was our motto too back in high school & college when we went out! Damn shame 🙌🏾

You are SUCH a GENTLEMAN......NO CORRECTION- A KING!!! OMG!!! Wish you much HAPPINESS and keep educating the BROTHERS!!!

My friends and I never did this. When we went out we all was having fun. Even when was single we didn’t act like this, that’s childish. But nobody was ever in competition. If you have to argue during your trip the trip is shot it’s over I’m going home. Sis mad because ole girl trying to get some D. Yea she ain’t your friend.

There are many women with bad and inconsiderate habits. There’s 2 reasons i don’t go on girl trips. 1.) They usually like to involve men we don’t know 2. I feel like unnecessary money is spent on things that I may not want to even participate in.