Hi Quenby, I felt like you were just talking to me...!!!! Lol.... I have negative thoughts all day everyday.. its a battle to just get through each day...!!! Yes, I drive my psychotherapist crazy...!!! But we do laugh a lot during my sessions... and we have be ome good friends.... and yes my negative thoughts and thinking/PTSD have gotten bettet. However it is still a challenge every day to stay positive.... sometimes it helps to think about being your own best friend... if your best friend were having these problems what would you tell them... certainly not something mean or horrible... loved this video, grest topic... Maybe you could do a daily weightloss motivational video or group... this is a very tough area for me...!!! Thanks for a great video... Debbie.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely love that idea of being your own best friend. I wish I had included that in my video. Sometimes I have to kind of cheer myself a long. It's a daily practice for me and most people I know. Thank you for your comment I so much appreciate it

Thank you

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching I hope you got something out of it! Quenby

OMG I do this!#!!# a toxic relationship i wad in used to make me feel so crazy for doing this!!! Thank you for confirming!!!!!!!

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

Yes, I love it.

As soon as I saw this topic figured was directed at me.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

ah ah ahhaha ME TOO. We all need the reminders to talk kindly to ourselves. I know I do too. So glad you watched and it's great to see our friends on this channel too. xoxoox Quenby

Ty for this video!

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

I am so HAPPY you came over to watch. I love It soooo much thank you Lindsey!!! xoox Quenby

Thank you for this...now I am going to watch :)

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Ahhh I love seeing you here my friend!! xo Quenby

Great tip Quenby! Thanks for sharing

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

I am soooo happy to see you on my new channel! Thank you for watching and leaving a comment. I have to grow this baby channel somehow and I appreicate your support. xoox Quenby

Hi! Found your site from your other site!

Thanks Quenby. Very helpful!

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Tracy! Xo Quenby

Loving your new channel! I have definitely had my fair share of negative thoughts and I find what helps me is to play motivational speeches/affirmations and try to just in general keep a positive atmosphere around me

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Oh My friend, it means so much to me that you came over to this little baby channel. I appreciate it. I agree with you 100% and I listen to tons of Motivaltional/ spiritual/ self help content too. xoxox Quenby

This is awesome advice! Thinking awareness can take a lot of practice and it can be so helpful once you master it. Thought records are super helpful too. I ask my clients to do that exercise often, helpful for ED and OCD.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jenna! I like how you put that "thinking awareness". xo Quenby

If a client is going to.worst case scenario, we do all of the above bit also look at what another outcome might be.

@thegratefultherapist

Жыл бұрын

Yes you are right. So teaching the client to consider other possible ways it might go. Maybe it's not as bad as they assume.

Quenby, it was extremely important for me to hear this. My negative self talk, beating myself up comes from childhood through teenage year's. Extremely difficult to overcome. Thank you for these helpful techniques. Art therapy is powerful.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

YES!!!!!! I love seeing you on this channel! The negative talk can be so automatic, and habitual, we don't even realize we are doing it and it just becomes normal and it's left over crap, like with you from teenage years, and we have to fight that old crap! I love art therapy too!!! xoxo Q

Thank you, Quenby. Very timely. I used to keep a journal and wrote in it petty religiously for a few years and have gotten away from it over time. Perhaps I need to pick up a pretty new journal and start again. I retire from my library job at the end of the year so perhaps that will be the time to restart my journaling. Also, as one of our new adult programs at the library, we are going to do an Introduction to Mindfulness Stitching program. We just kitted the kits on Wednesday. I'm hoping to add lots of vintage fabric and trims to mine and some paper possibly, and ink. Because of Covid we have been doing grab and go kits and a companion Zoom which also helps with social time. I imagine you already do this sort of mindful journaling. You are very creative. Negative self talk is a battle for me. I tend to take things pretty personally but always roll with it and put on the happy face. My husband, though, gets to see how I really feel. LOL. I never tried talking back to myself so I will need to try that. Thank you again. I may refer back to your video from time to time. BTW, I love that top. I meant to tell you that in your other video. Have a beautiful day, Quenby. Say hello to your family for me.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

So great to hear from you! I have had a pretty solid journaling practice since I was a teenager and it has gotten me through so much so I encourage you to get back to it when you can. I love the idea of mindful knitting!! Xo Quenby

Thank you for the tool to fight negative thinking...I found the way you filmed this this video helpful in understanding the concept of negative thinking. I’d love an video on being overwhelmed and how to organize your thoughts/actions to combat overcome those feeling.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Oh Friend, You are talking my language. I have worked with overwhelm in myself and others for so long. I am a highly sensitive person, are you? I'm not too emotionally sensitive, but to my environment. Did you see my Introvert video ? I talk about this in that video. xoxo Quenby Let me think of how to make us an overwhelm video. xooxo

@roxysreruns4356

3 жыл бұрын

@@thegratefultherapist oh no I don’t remember watching the introvert video but will soon :)

We should never allow our mind to become our worst enemy. Self love = healthy thinking 💭 🤔.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!! I really appreciate your support on my new channel. THANKYOU!!! I agree with you 100%. xoxo Quenby

Thanks you for such a helpful and encouraging video with tools to overcome negative thinking. Very nicely presented. This is a great channel. 👌💐

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Oh you are so kind!! I love making mental health videos. I have so many ideas. I appreciate your support!! xoox Quenby

I have had negative thinking since I was a teenager. I have learned to control it most of the time.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, I think most of us have negative thinking. It's just the human brain and mind, but like you said we can learn to control it better, or talk back to it and say "no thanks" xo Q

@lynetteharris5832

3 жыл бұрын

@@thegratefultherapist I tell myself its not reality,and stop thinking about.

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@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

So glad you got to binge watch the videos!

Thank you great video!!

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Yay So good to hear from you Patsy. How are things. I love seeing you on my new channel. Hope you are well. xoxoxo Quenby

@denisecoffey6269

3 жыл бұрын

@@thegratefultherapist doing well! I wish you where in Ga because you would so be my therapist!

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Aw thank you. I know I wish I could practice outside of CA. I am looking into adding "coaching" so I can still work with people regardless of where they live. xo Q

@denisecoffey6269

3 жыл бұрын

@@thegratefultherapist that would be awesome!

A great reminder on how to deal with negative thoughts. Always good to replace that false negative with a truthful positive. Thanks for this information.

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

That is exactly it. I wish I had talked more in this video about "replacing" like you suggest here. You are right. You have to give that crazy monkey mind another thought to focus on. xo Quenby

@VictoriaRickert

3 жыл бұрын

@@thegratefultherapist So many variables in the human mind, as I was watching you I thought about the scripts we carry around, and where do those come from, so that takes me to childhood, and that takes me to nature vs nurture, and then that leads me to meditations, and then I think about the future, past and present. Pretty sure I'm not bi-polar, my daughter is and she explained how her mind thinks. so all this goes through my mind in like 30 seconds. We can only process bits at a time, but being aware of negative thoughts is is a good place to start 'Crazy monkey mind' lol

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

@@VictoriaRickert Well, My mind works like that too and I am def no bi-polar. If any of us pays attention to our thoughts, like in a meditation retreat for example, we quickly learn we have monkey minds!! And yes, Mental Illness like bi-polar is a whole different ball of wax that complicates thinking for many people. Love talking with you about this! xoxo Quenby

Hey You?????!!!! Yea YOU!!!! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME today as well as everyday! Take time to pat yourself on the back and know YOU GOT THIS!!!!!! ✌💜☺

@thegratefultherapist

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, you got this!! Positive self talk, I love it. Quenby

I d love to hear how you work with teens and respecting when their parents say no and stop a power struggle . The parents are very flexible , they are great parents and nurture their teen’s growth but sometimes it’s got to be a no to a request . How would you encourage the teen in this ?

@thegratefultherapist

Жыл бұрын

I would work with the PARENTS on this, not the teen. The parents have to set the boundaries and be firm yet kind. I dont know enough about the details of this family but that is my response given the information of this question. It's a parenting issue.