Dang, the first girl I feel for ya. I felt like gecko was dancing around this the whole time so I'm just gonna say it: You cannot enter your marriage in the hopes that he will just magically "grow up" one day. People are capable of change but it is often slow and subtle. You need to decide if you are okay with the fact that he likely may never change. If quality time is your #1 need, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to go on the rest of your life without the level of attention you want. Do your lifestyles line up enough that you are content or will you be unfulfilled? I wish you the best of luck & a happy relationship ❤️

@archer1546

2 жыл бұрын

Ok imma ask you this bc its my problem as a man my last relationship i took my time to always cook and clean and spent time with my ex along with working 40-60 hours aweek but the one time i got on to reduce my stress i got yelled at for it was i in the wrong as the man im so confused by it to this day.

@balltoast122

2 жыл бұрын

@@archer1546 sounds like there's a reason she's an ex. Goes both ways doesn't matter if you are a man

@juanurena87

2 жыл бұрын

Playing video games doesn't mean you haven't grown up.

@Flow-.-

2 жыл бұрын

@@juanurena87 For real, just because these girls don't have hobbies doesn't mean the guy should have to give up his.

@adamgru2334

2 жыл бұрын

@@Flow-.- such a hilarious answer but i'm with that 100%

Damn so her options are basically deal with it or move on to someone who has more time for her. Relationships are hard

@achromaggie

2 жыл бұрын

It's not even finding someone who has time for her--he clearly has time, but even when she's willing to meet him halfway and game with him, he doesn't want that either. It's more like finding someone who is willing to *make* time for her or even compromise a little bit.

@FuCkEr99ify

2 жыл бұрын

@@achromaggie she’s also complaining cause her working husband has a hobby lmao. Maybe he doesn’t want to be around her for a reason. Maybe she’s not relaxing. Maybe she doesn’t ever shut up, and all the man wants is peace and quiet. I don’t think that the relationship doesn’t work because of him, it doesn’t work because of either of them. She’s equally in the fault. Plus they work different shifts, like suck it up

@achromaggie

2 жыл бұрын

@@FuCkEr99ify who hurt you

Sounds like his video games are his ONLY coping mechanism for his hard job. When you only have one or two coping mechanism, that can create problems and dependency on just those things. It’s similar to how addicts use substances because they don’t have the resources for a broad range of coping skills.

I feel like if my dad started playing candy crush my parents marriage would implode. Thankfully he plays golf.

@LeoInterVir

2 жыл бұрын

Mine plays candy crush on his gaming pc... wish he played golf lol

"My boyfriend's a cop, so..." Oh sweetheart, good luck escaping that guy if y'all break up.

@woodchuck003

2 жыл бұрын

This comment makes me wonder if the reason cop suicide is higher than that of the general population has to do with the popularity of discriminating against cops?

@betheguy_posts

2 жыл бұрын

@@woodchuck003 Spousal abuse by police officers is also higher than the general population but good on ya. Swing and a miss slugger.

@woodchuck003

2 жыл бұрын

@@betheguy_posts Spousal abuse is currently a crime and we have legal remedies for that. Also would you be willing to support my discrimination of a certain demographic if the statistics show they are more likely to commit a crime?

@quixoticrealities5072

2 жыл бұрын

Cops have been made to discriminate in our current class economic warfare. So who really cares about them? No moral dilemma with incarcerating people over plants, they're not very compassionate people by taking that job alone. So why share them empathy?

@woodchuck003

2 жыл бұрын

@@quixoticrealities5072 Your response is demonstrating that you don't know what empathy is. Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing. What you are saying is you can be empathetic you just have a prejudice (bigotry) that prevents you. I do hope you one day can move somewhere where there are no police and make yourself the perfect soft target. I am curious what other noun could we replace cop with and ask if they deserve empathy?

The first person with the game addicted fiance, I think she should just move on. I'm not even saying it's wrong for her fiance to be involved in games like that or anything but their priorities are so different. She even tries to game with him but their tastes in games clash too. I don't think marriage is a good idea. Not sure why people even ask these questions, the answer is obvious: either decide to stay and deal with that or move on and find someone more compatible. To already feel neglected before you walk down the aisle is a red flag and neither should burn themselves to keep the other warm. He needs someone who won't mind his gaming (and maybe game with him I guess? Idk) and she needs someone who wants that quality time she's looking for. Also, marriage is 50/50, if he's not even trying why not just leave him? Seriously, I think that's advice for any kind of relationship.

I feel for the woman whose man plays games all the time. In the past, I've been with men who play a lot of games and I often found myself in the background. Watching, or doing other things while they played, waiting for a break in the games to feel seen or heard, etc. Recently I've refound the love of my life who was a HUGE gamer and, without me EVER saying anything, decided, upon our becoming official, that he wanted to sell his Xbox, give his best friend his specialized controller, and focus on our relationship and us building our future together. His friends who he gamed with regularly are pretty bummed and I feel this guilt that I think comes from past relationships and desiring quality time or attention or affection, when in reality, he made the choice on his own to focus on the next chapter of our lives rather than the games. I'm really grateful. It's a learning curve for me.

In regards to the first girl - I'm a person who enjoys alone time by playing games. However, my language is quality time so there will be nights of instead of me playing video games, I do an activity with my girlfriend. Whether that's going out to eat, or watch a movie and cuddle. Sometimes I just lay in bed with her and scroll on tik tok with her and show her what's on my feed. Unfortunately, her boyfriend will have to make the effort to set time for her. Whether it's date nights or weekend trips together. If he won't make the effort, then I recommend she should find someone who can fulfill her needs.

First girl's relationship is essentially doomed to fail imo. Without any other information it seems they are incompatible in how they express their love for each other.

I feel for the first girl but 1st thing, this dude is a cop and has a ton of shit on his mind all the time and as a a person that has a close relationship with my brother, videogames have always been a bonding activity and helps get away from everything. Hard situation but he seems to enjoy time differently

Joining a frat to understand men is like going to a prison to understand murderers

@kimmy9618

2 жыл бұрын

Not really lol

@duality4739

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimmy9618 yeah ur right, you’d find better character in prison walls than in a frat house

@yeldarb1880

2 жыл бұрын

@@duality4739 you make no sense

@duality4739

2 жыл бұрын

@@yeldarb1880 calm down Bradley

@carstarsarstenstesenn

2 жыл бұрын

Not all frats are the same. A lot of them are full of sex pests and weirdos but some guys who live in frats are just normal people. It just depends on the school and the culture

The late great Patrice O'Neal said it best. "Men want to be alone, but not by themselves"

as someone who play video games and been in a 8 year realtionship remember games can go on pause or take a few days off you sigficant other is way more important. being in the same room wont make her stay trust me

@AlteredState503

2 жыл бұрын

"Video games can be paused"? Clearly, you're not a gamer 😂

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, have the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference

The guy that Geck started calling 5 was refreshing to hear for some reason. High 5!

41:45 didn't expect to hear that lol

40% of police

@zomgkb

2 жыл бұрын

Domestic

@raak4070

Ай бұрын

This guy knows

emotionally detached cop who is a bad spouse, sounds about right!

I feel like great geckos would be JPEGMAFIA or Vince Staples

Listing in the parking lot while accidentally being one hour early to work lets go

@iljabutterwick6297

2 жыл бұрын

Have a good day at work :~)

One thing if it pertains to one of the callers is you can’t generalize people on anything based of your own experiences simply because people tend to surround themselves based off their own perceptions so in a sense you have a filter. Going off that there are people out there you never got to know that will contradict your own judgement: spread love though

Love you geck

love u geck!!!!!!!!

Geck short king !!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Average Elden Ring enjoyer > Soon to be maidenless.

gotta get 100 gecs on here

Classic Big A

goat

Every gamer has dated this girl

@raak4070

Ай бұрын

Idk she sounded pretty ideal as a gamer, pretty much how my wife is, we built her a pc and she plays with me all the time, but if all i did was play games and ignore her id be shocked if she wasnt miserable. Take time to put the games down and maintain your interpersonal relationships. Thats coming from a runescape player lmao if i can do it so can you.

The dude at 30:00 needs to realize not adhering to the ethics you preach and hating when you are wrong is something people do in general, it is not just limited to men. He should also go to a sorority if he thinks women aren't horny. It sounds like his mother is a misandrist and her causal sexism is now negatively affecting her son mentally.

How can I be a guest on the show? I need to make this happen🤣

@FearsSean

2 жыл бұрын

I have no idea what time hes on twitch but you call that number and youre in i think

What does assigned male at birth mean? Like if you have a penis you get assigned male right? You wouldn't get assigned female if you have a penis?

@raak4070

Ай бұрын

So sex is what you are born with and gender is the role your perform, or are expected to perform in society. If you are born a male(sex) then you will be treated like a boy and then a man. People who transition later in life might refer to themselves as a man, but assigned female at birth or vice versa for clarification.

Just let the dude play his game. Shawty is literally jealous of a machine

I'm so early

@kimmy9618

2 жыл бұрын

Hi early

5'6? Damn, time to unsub

Relationships are waste of time to be honest. It gets boring no matter how hard you try to make em interesting.

@lanebo6329

2 жыл бұрын

The essence of the modern humans technology induced blight

@OlgaUnKolhozs

2 жыл бұрын

@@lanebo6329 agreed

@brandonburns9092

2 жыл бұрын

12 years with my girlfriend and we still have fun everyday.

@zep0th370

2 жыл бұрын

@@brandonburns9092 first how the fuck has it gone so far?? Y'all are probably cheating, two, congratulations

@brandonburns9092

2 жыл бұрын

@@zep0th370 that's a sad comment you made, glad you deleted it.