1st OP: *explains in detail why he doesn't want BIL at the wedding* Fiance: "You're over reacting!" OP: *shows post explaining the exact same thing and randos opinions* Fiance: *HYPERVENTILATING*

@mr.halfright

Ай бұрын

She thought he'd just keep taking the abuse like a doormat and still get married to her. Suddenly, when there's the potential of consequences for her, she cares

@jpv4253

21 күн бұрын

The op is a fraud , he knew already. He just want the money and the brodda cut off from inheritance. Money talks , there are a lot of problems in his relationship but he only specifies this.

Yikes. OP1’s bully is a psychopath. He’s obsessed with harassing OP and never changed, just got worse. The fiancée and her family are idiots for even trying to defend that bully in the first place. OP should just dump her and find someone who isn’t a moron.

@ChrissaTodd

Ай бұрын

No if OP decided she is fine she is, go away with your back seat counseling you're not a professional.

@gwencatz2483

Ай бұрын

Not a psychopath. Just racist :D

@heffa3821

Ай бұрын

@@ChrissaTodd no back seat counseling, they defended a bigoted racist, so as LunaP1 said I'll parrot, he should cut his losses and find someone who isn't a moron. Period. YOU'RE FREE TO disagree but you're doing the same with your back seat counseling offering your opinion on stuff to. Ok kettle calling pot black.

I'm very concerned for OP in the first story because his fiance didn't give a shit until she realised how it made her look. She only got upset when it was strangers comments talking about her but when the person she is supposed to love the most tells her she waves it off? Also the family was just cool with things being racists until they realised their grandchildren will go through the same thing. I usually don't care but I actually honestly hope they've split and he's with someone who treats him better.

@el_rodo14

Ай бұрын

OP did wait like 5 years into the relationship to speak up tho, before that he said it was fine. The reaction was probably because she was blindsided by this, but she came around and got her family to put the brother in his place

@jpv4253

Ай бұрын

Op is indian and she is wealthy not rich , thats why he does not want to leave her.Otherwise he would have left her the moment he knew who her brother was

@jamestown8398

Ай бұрын

Yeah. It sounds like OP’s fiancée doesn’t have good morals.

@jpv4253

Ай бұрын

@@jamestown8398 I agree

@brianbarber5401

Ай бұрын

@@jamestown8398she’s very catholic. They don’t have morals, they have proscribed rules. There’s a difference.

Story 2: "I don't know what to dooooo!" He knows what he has to do. He just didn't want to do it.

when your fiance first wouldn't support you, that is the time to break it off. so what they came around. you don't need someone who might not have your back

@Catherine.Dorian.

Ай бұрын

Yeah but if this was the only issue.. I often advise on Reddit for people to show the post cause the reaction is telling. If they read the comments and get defensive, bail. But if they take the comments to heart and change? Be careful but give it time

@srujanak1252

Ай бұрын

Yeah but also see from the fiance side, for 5 years he has been part of there life and most probably attended family functions etc saying everything was fine, but just before the wedding he opens up, I think that also played a role in this. It's not easy to see once happy family and act like everything nice and then say this.

@MrX-lk3ij

Ай бұрын

Lol. How do people like you even have a stable relationship?

@justinebidulopoutchini9774

Ай бұрын

Hé never told her that her brother made him go throug, and never told her how uncomfortable he was before with her bro…not really her fault

@G1sandG1rlsGaming

Ай бұрын

​@@justinebidulopoutchini9774It is once he opened up about it. She didn't take it seriously and got mad at him rather than listen to what he had to say. Didn't even try to see if the family could talk things out first, just immediately attacked him for opening up about her brother. She only changed her tune once the idea that it may ruin their relationship came into play and then even after everything was resolved she dug her heels in even harder trying to overcompensate.

The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalized.

@user-er9hv4pl2u

Ай бұрын

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.

@peterwilliams6361

Ай бұрын

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white

@user-er9hv4pl2u

Ай бұрын

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

@peterwilliams6361

Ай бұрын

You wont regret it

@brianbarber5401

Ай бұрын

Those hurdles: who had to work through the pain, you or her? I mean, as an example, if she cheated, your words are meaningful. If you cheated, your words are valueless, hypocritical and just make you worse. Context is significant.

Story 1: The BIL is honestly just pathetic and sad... Like imagine having so little going on in your life that you're still obsessed with harassing a random kid from high school.

The wife being excited about the carpets makes her seem like a very happy cute person. I hope she is doing well

OP2 doesn’t deserve to be married if he doesn’t protect the woman he married. His mother is a psychopath and dad is a doormat and he still thinks he has to take care of them just because they’re his parents?! He should’ve booted them a long time ago.

@Nitro89

Ай бұрын

Uhh i think you read something wrong op2 is the wife not the husband

@engiturtle65

Ай бұрын

@@Nitro89 no, the second op is clearly the husband, he's talking about his wife

@hennigadient4265

Ай бұрын

@@Nitro89ehm a nen having a miscarriage? 🥲

@kurieita7607

Ай бұрын

Did you miss the wife’s addition/update on that story? They’re Indian, where taking care of your parents when they’re older is a big thing, different cultures/heritage/people will mean different feelings/reactions to something like what happened; also his wife said/explained that he never really lived with his parents extensively for long periods of time so he, nor his wife, knew his parents were like that until that moment.

Honestly OP shouldn’t marry her cause if she didn’t defend him the first time i doubt she will take his side any other time. 😮 Story 2: make parents leave regardless of what they drilled in his head your WIFE is your family and the minute you don’t stand up for yours then that’s how you lose your family

Story 2: that tl:dr of "my parents insulted my wife" was an insane understatement. His parents harassed and abused his wife and then harassed his in-laws and refused to leave. I'm sorry she decided to stay with him, she deserves someone who will take her side immediately, not after a bunch of dithering and indecision and crying to the Internet about "how do I make everyone happy so I don't have to choose between my wife and my parents (🤢)."

#2 is a HUGE AH! When you marry, your spouse should always be your priority. Not your abusive and entitled parents. You don't deserve her or her loyalty. #3, I don't know about your husband, but mine would rather have teeth pulled than go to a wedding. Your husband may glad he has an excuse not to go. Sister is still a total and complete AH for her B.S.

@jacobjosefsberg7824

Ай бұрын

#2 go with the person in the right, don't just side with someone blindly. If my mom screamed at my SO like that, I'm siding with SO. If my SO throws a lamp at my mom's head completely unprovoked, I'm siding with mom.

@HomeMain

Ай бұрын

@@jacobjosefsberg7824 That's just a Tuesday night for some folks. You're right though, thanks for pointing that out. I honestly think I'd give my husband a Medal if he threw a lamp at my mom's head, but neither of us want to go to jail, so we just don't see her. Family crap is so complicated. I also didn't take into account the cultural differences from my own. Thanks for making me step back and look (listen) again.

You know your marriage isn't going to last when it took literally thousands of internet strangers telling her and her family bet they're douche canoes and aren't worth a damn for her to even put on a facade of caring about what was happening to her fiance 🤦

Story 2 is just... sigh. Imagine living your whole life under nastiness and hell drooling on the anticipatory passion to inflict it on the next innocent woman. What a wretch. Yeah, it sucks she was hurt and abused. But being so doesn't excuse hurting others. And it definitely doesn't excuse a pathological construct of "but I waited for my turn to be a monster, why won't you let me?" I'm loving how AITA and internet in general has given people a place to go find out that their normal is *not.*

@religionisevil8850

Ай бұрын

I know, right? I don't have kids, but if I did, I could never imagine treating them the same way my family treated me. I always wonder what makes some people say "This is horrible, I will NEVER treat someone like this when I'm in a position of power", and others say "This is horrible and someday *I* will treat people in this way because that will be what I am due". I cannot imagine being so devoid of empathy to enjoy or feel entitled to harm people in the ways that they were harmed. It would be one thing if people perpetuate a cycle of abuse unknowingly, like someone who was in a controlling relationship going on to become the controlling one because they unconsciously develop the belief that you're either the one in control of the one being controlled. But to deliberately continue to be part of the system that harmed you... I have no words.

No one cares about a man's emotional trauma until they have to face consequences for it.

@unpocoloco369

Ай бұрын

Hard disagree. I care.

@jazzie-sanbelle99

Ай бұрын

Sadly it's not fair ut unless people are willing to see it wouldn't change

@ARcinder

Ай бұрын

@@jazzie-sanbelle99 it will never change. It is how we operate as animals.

@coolbeans3752

Ай бұрын

Yup this is facts.

@ARcinder

Ай бұрын

@@unpocoloco369 I appreciate that, and I hope the men in your life do as well. But you are a part of a very rare few. If more people actually cared a lot of the senseless violence we face in society wouldn't exist.

Im convinced the background is a full Minecraft series just there

@trentberry6968

14 күн бұрын

Why did I picture Nicolas Cage saying this?

Story 1: Hell no so how will our futur look like? Everytime she acts like that you come with divorce? When she hears your feelings: 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ when you come with divorce: 😭😭😭🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲 story 2: Ahh niceee " if the parents raised her different she would had left? yes clearly it is important to teach a woman to let herself be mistreated. Logically!

OP#2's mother is downright evil. His father is no prize either.

This is on OP, he should have dumped her once she found out who her brother was. He's a ducking idiot to stay on the relationship.

@nicholaswilson1851

Ай бұрын

Nah, if the fiancé actually had his back he would have missed out on a good gal, but now? I don’t think he should marry her.

@jpv4253

Ай бұрын

Op is indian and she is wealthy not rich , thats why he does not want to leave her. Otherwise he would have left her the moment he knew who her brother was

@JayElJay

21 күн бұрын

telling people they should dump their SO after the first sign of trouble is a telltale sign of someone who has never been in a relationship.

@jpv4253

21 күн бұрын

@@JayElJay The op is a fraud , he knew already. He just want the money and the brodda cut off from inheritance.

Damn, you nailed his sister. That's funny.

Bullies never change.

Op is a doormat he should've confrontrd the bil.and called him out and told his fiancee and her family instead of doing this. His lack of spine and self respect is not surprising. And about the fiancee if ahw hadnt read the comments of the oost ahe wouldn't have cared about how hwe brother treated op

@lmaocopter101

Ай бұрын

the OP wanted other people to fight his battles for him, some1 had to make up for the fact his spine was made of jello

@iaminsideyourwalls2021

Ай бұрын

Bro had no balls nor spine.

@HeoBaby24

Ай бұрын

maybe because he doesn't want to cause issues? doesn't make someone spineless his wife needs to put her family in check not op

Honestly don't know why OP even bothered fighting for this to work why would you want to be around people who dislike you simply for the color of your skin. None of them cared till they seen the post and it made them look bad but its his life so he can do whatever I guess.

Op1 is a simp and weird. When he said she would have to do a lot worse for him to leave , I knew he was a finished person

These multiple story ones are good to listen to when I'm cleaning the house! ❤

Sandra is the goat.😂

2nd story is divorce worthy, immediately. Mama's boy.

Story 2: And here you see why I don't give a shit what my family thinks about my wife. I'll be damned if in our house you're going to disrespect my wife and the mother of my kids. Fortunately, my mother and wife get along really well...too well. In fact they're insufferable together 🤣🤣🤣 This lil boy said "I can't get them out of the house" Boy that's yours and your wife's home you damn 5th grader. No disrespect to 5th graders

Story 1: I wonder how long the brother is going to keep up the charade before he defaults back to his racists ways. People like that do not change at all especially if their not putting in the work to deconstruct their racist ideologies. The fact the fiancé and in-laws were willing to sweep it under the rug is a problem as well, mainly the finance; she only cared when she realized there was a chance they could break up. Idk I feel bad for their future kids.

Story 3 is BRIDEZILLA at its finest. And favoritism at its finest since the parents are too busy trying to keep the peace for their golden child.

@religionisevil8850

Ай бұрын

I wouldn't be surprised if the parents feel the same way towards Brad, but they have enough sense to keep their mouths shut around him.

S3) Look, I understand wanting your wedding how you want it, and it’s hard planning for accommodations at times. BUT. If you love someone, it’s work the extra effort. My fiancé and I are planning our wedding and our fathers both have differing severities of dementia. We can’t do a destination wedding, we can’t even just go on a trip with our families at this point to get married. And that’s okay. We are staying local, planning to have a nurse aid, and even a babysitter for the few kids that are included. We are looking for availability of a room for our fathers and the kids to go for quiet and tv or something if they have trouble being at the ceremony or reception. We are also keeping the event smaller to put less stress on our dads, the kids, and our moms since they are the caretakers for our fathers in both cases. We haven’t figured out many wedding details but we already know all these things because spending our wedding with our families is the most important thing to us.

My trust in people is very thin so even something like this would be enough to end the relationship. They knew it was wrong but said nothing, he stood up for himself ONCE and was dismissed. I would not trust the familyto repeat. All this apologizing after the realization of "oh, OP may leave" did they back him. All i would have said "if the roles were reverse would you stick around after" this and leave. No second chances on that one

“Don’t know if it was sincere” You know 100 percent that it wasn’t Fiancé : sigh I guess relationships aren’t black and white OP 2: ew he’s a horrible person just horrible

I'm not gonna lie I'm ok with how it went in story 1, people aren't perfect, but she was supportive and didn't take it serious because let be honest OP dismissed it for years, it's not right dhe and the mother didn't realize it was serious until it got serious but they did and they were genuinely sorry especially the wife. The father was probably only not wanting conflict and didn't actual found his son's behavior too bad but that doesnt exactly warrant breaking the relationship over and the brother doesn't have to be heavily in their lives he just had to not be a problem wich he can't be since they are all keeping him in check

Story 2: I think with the later context the husband’s behavior is somewhat understandable. They weren’t expecting that sort of behavior from the mother in any way, shape, or form and so they basically just didn’t know what to do. I was hoping the mother’s tone would have shifted when she heard about the miscarriage - but the fact the mom got even worse makes her pretty much irredeemable in all ways as a human being and the father by proxy since he did and said nothing. Either way - i’m glad the rest of the family were all consistent with the message that the parents were horrible people.

Story 3: Get the hell out of there, Babek! RIGHT NOW!!!

If you can’t pick your spouse over your parents, don’t get married. That’s so fucked. What the hell.

Story 1: OP has/had communication issues, and its irritating that it took comments for her to see the severity of the matter. The only apology is changed behavior though so I suppose she can get the benefit of the doubt

I hope he had the discussion about what religion the children will be!!

Story 2: OP is a complete idiot for not taking his wife’s side I hope she finds a better husband who treats her right

OP sounds like a push over

If your fiancee is entitled why are you marrying him?

so many people in the comments saying that op should've dumped their fiancé after the first sign of trouble. i can tell none of yall have ever actually been in a serious relationship

Story 3: God help any child that that sister ever has if they have any disabilities.

Ya no the original poster in the first story just didn't want to leave his wealthy fiance and leave all that money and the fiance probably almost 30 so she just did what she had to do in order to get that dream wedding.

I'm glad the relationships were saved. Oh I love love 💕 💕 💕 💕 💕 💕

*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*

Story 2: OP is a complete idiot for not taking his wife’s side

and god I am so tired of people and the 'famblee' garbage. it does nothing to improve my attitude towards 'famblee'.

OP'S WIFE+ OP SHOULD SEND THE BROTHER OF OP FOR A WEEKEND IN A NICE PLACE.

So Op#2 wasn't really raised by his parents, yet they expect him to fully take care of them and be ok with them abusing his wife. Sounds like narcissistic parents who only had him as an investment for retirement.

Bit of a typo in your chapter selection. "First sotry."

Story 2, why people like this can be married but i dont even have a girlfriend , good Lord

@girl1213

Ай бұрын

You're looking for a healthy relationship. They're looking for drama

Story 1) I know people are hard on OPs fiance for the 180. However, I think it wasn't just the threat of splitting but having it written out retold and then empathized with. Hopefully we can feel the hurt in someone's voice before we see it in their eyes.

❣

S2: bruh op leave your wife alone, your spineless, wifey leave him. He showed you who he was.

Do the people in this comment section not listen to the entire post...

Honestly kinda agree with the last ops sister minus the last outburst

@lindah3803

Ай бұрын

What do you mean.

I was confused with eid, so he's Indian and Muslim

@SinMachi

Ай бұрын

Yh people from any country can be Muslim ya know

@cricket5692

Ай бұрын

​@SinMachi Calm down there, put your fedora away, he was just putting the story together, not bashing on religion.

@barneytaylor9338

Ай бұрын

Yeah, that's what I was thinking OP. And for those who don't understand that, tell me you are uneducated without telling me you are uneducated.

@eveelee4152

Ай бұрын

Yes he is Muslim in India Muslim is really big religion in the country

@barneytaylor9338

Ай бұрын

Bro really? ISREAL has a higher percentage of Muslims than India does. Most of them left when Pakistan broke away. So yeah not a big deal in India. At all.

I dont blame the sister. Her wedding, her rules. She did go far though

Second story, hot take but fiancé was an ah too. She had every right to be mad at them and want them out of the house, but to say ‘I don’t care if they’ll disown you, kick them out or I leave’ and just giving him a week is unfair. At least give him some time to try and navigate a happy medium

Secretvoices with another doozy of a title. Op1’s fiancé was not entitled she was misinformed. Op downplayed her brother’s bullying until the wedding. As soon as she understood the extent of the bullying she was on op’s side. Entitled is clearly a buzz word for these kind of videos along with delusional when describing op. Do better Secretvoice.

In the 3rd story I do not see what the problem is. Sister doesn’t have to pick HER wedding venue for YOU. Sounds like you could have gone and just been there for your sister. It sounds like you want it all about you. You pushed your sister too far.

Story 1+/: op ia the real asshole, he doesn't like his bully fair enough but he also doesn't want to talk about him with his fiance and on wedding day he suddenly decides he doesn't want his bully their. I doubt if he is indian too because in India you don't marry your partner you marry his/her entire family.