You explained this beautifully ❤️ "Starving them, punishing them, Forcing them is not the answer" Well said ✨

@stephaniebonds5107

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Dr. Shivani! My daughter explained to me that when she was younger, her stepmother became upset with her and punished her by withholding her dinner from her. I was extremely livid and ensured to her that this or any form of cruel punishment would never occur again. My heart and prayers sincerely go out to children, adults, and seniors who are being abused in any form. I pray that God will help people to love and give with a pure heart! God bless you!

@brianfadde5597

Жыл бұрын

Sadly, I'm a child and am forced and starved.

@stephaniebonds5107

Жыл бұрын

Hi Brian, I'm so very sorry and that is not good. I am very, very upset this is happening. Do you have any family members that you could confide in? Have you informed any of your teachers, principals, someone you can trust so that this can be addressed within a positive manner?

@spiwolf6998

Жыл бұрын

It is of your poor 😢

@nextsundew66sundew68

Жыл бұрын

I am also picky eater but my mother and father were really understanding,and now I am slowing becoming less picky and trying more food its all thx to my parents that I am trying more food

A lot of ppl think not treating your kid like shit means you’re spoiling them

@shady610

Жыл бұрын

It's about being a parent over a friend. If you let them control you, you're creating a problem. What if she's picky about her bed time? What if she's picky about showering? Do you let your kid dictate those? No you don't. This is no different. It starts young and you have to be persistent.

@cronchcrunch7287

Жыл бұрын

​@@shady610 🤡🤡🤡🤡 there is no reason to disrespect your child. Especially if you want them to keep you in their life when they're grown karen

@shady610

Жыл бұрын

@@cronchcrunch7287 Making your kids follow rules is disrespect? Making them appreciate what they have, is disrespect? Get real. Kids need to be raised. Not coddled.

@malory1444

Жыл бұрын

@@shady610 adults are picky eaters and no one freaks out about it. Comparing not forcing your kid to eat foods they can’t stand to letting them stay up all night and not shower is ridiculous.

@blvckdrako4334

Жыл бұрын

@@shady610 I have been beaten with a belt every morning as a kid for refusing to drink milk until I drank it. I'm 23 years old now and I still despise milk. As a parent you shouldn't be authoritarian for the sake of it, you should use whatever method to best raise your child. Being friendly, and trying to convince your kid is way better than forcing them to follow the rules, so it should be at least the first method of approach, don't you agree ?

I have sensory issues and people just tell me I’m being picky and a brat and it makes my day better seeing you be so supportive!!! 😊😊😊

@Fairy_xara

9 күн бұрын

Same like what I get called picky and a brat cause I can’t handle the texture of stuff and forced to wear or eat it I have a mental breakdown (I don’t want to have a mental break down btw)

@chaoticcar1052

5 күн бұрын

I will almost throw up if the texture of certain foods are off, so I get you

@CallistaGris

5 күн бұрын

I have AUDHD so I understand you so much 🩷 don't force yourself, it's ok if you can't eat certain foods. Gather compassionate ppl around you, it will help 🩷

@GW42329

4 күн бұрын

Oh you’re all so special 🙄

@chaoticcar1052

4 күн бұрын

@@GW42329 and you're so ignorant 🙃

I’m autistic and was EXTREMELY picky when I was little. My mom never forced me to try things she encouraged me. Now I’m never scared to try someone once. Definitely eat 100x more different food today because of it.

@UPGRADER94

Ай бұрын

My parents never encouraged me nor forced me to eat anything, they just gave me rice 🍚🗿

@Fairy_xara

9 күн бұрын

@@UPGRADER94still lucky I love rice

@UPGRADER94

9 күн бұрын

@@Fairy_xara rice is like water to Asians, it's not a food but a necessity

@IAmTheOneWhoAsked.

7 күн бұрын

​@@UPGRADER94My mom does. She makes me try different types of meat vegetable or other ingredients with rice 😋 i used to hate eating pickled chilis or cucumbers with rice but now i do

@Bint-Tahir

7 күн бұрын

My daughter drove me insane coz she sticks to one thing and that's it. Even as a toddler, she'd go 2 days with just breast milk. I was going crazy and weaned her. And then she'd only eat baby cereal. I tried every tip. I screamed and yelled and forced her to eat stuff but she wouldn't. She had so much deficiencies that she was prescribed supplements. She was later diagnosed with autism. She very slowly and gradually expands her "palatables". I'm just glad we are off supplements. Edit (for context): I did not repeatedly on different occasions scream, yell and force her to eat. It was one time, I broke down crying, hugging her then called my mom. I was scared she was going to gradually die. 1. She stopped moving before emergency C-section and had to be hospitalised for days. Even when she was well, they wouldn't discharge us until she latches. 2. We still had to see the Dr frequently and when she was six months, they emphasized she gets a balanced diet. I tried she wouldn't, so I let her be. 3. When she was a yr, my sis (a Dr) visited and said she needed some supplements. I gave her and she became more lively, started walking shortly after 4. She was a yr and a half, she sometimes wouldn't eat at all just breast milk directly, I'd be called from work. My work would complain. The drs would complain and give more supplements. Friends, relative, coworkers and everyone who knew would say I'm spoiling her and I'm killing her gradually. 5. I was a first time mom with no experience at all. She was getting worse, they had to be right. One day I tried a recipe someone promised she'd like. She didn't. I started screaming and yelling and trying to put the spoon in her mouth. She cried, I cried and held her. Called my mom. Told her everything. I'm losing my child, my job and myself. 6. She came in the next day. We talked and she said she had no idea what I was going through. We decided she takes my daughter for a few days and I could visit. She said I shouldn't worry, my baby isn't going to die of malnutrition or deficiencies and I should just continue with her usual feeding and supplements and STOP LETTING PEOPLE TELL ME HOW TO CARE FOR MY CHILD. Best advice ever. I got her back after sorting myself out and it's been great since then. 8. What I did was horrible and even at the moment I did it I knew it wasn't right. I was scared, confused and frustrated.

Never, ever punish surrounding food. If you create a negative, toxic relationship with food, you foster eating disorders.

@nocturalTragedy

8 ай бұрын

yup. still struggling with one today

@sashas_buttercup

7 ай бұрын

​@@nocturalTragedyme too

@bubbletea6320

7 ай бұрын

for sure. my mom always tried to make food a good thing for me; she'd never shame me for whatever i decided to eat or what i didn't decide to eat. recently, i've been struggling with food. my mom told me to promise her i'd take care of myself and eat good foods, and to be honest? i accepted so fast. she did so much for me and i can't ruin myself at her expense. luv my mom

@Ihatesocietyman

7 ай бұрын

My parents did the same thing and thanks to them I DESPISE those food

@_.vicky._._.1

7 ай бұрын

⁠@@Ihatesocietymanthen that’s technically neither of your fault don’t blame.

My mom was the “at least take one bite, if you really don’t like it spit it out.” Type.

@justarandomakwardperson.8525

10 ай бұрын

thats a great mom from what i can hear.

@anxii_spam3158

10 ай бұрын

Nope just by looking at it I can tell if it’s good or not especially at restaurants

@viddergrapho8488

10 ай бұрын

Meeeee. My kid and I often eat different meals because I just can't do mac n cheese and hotdogs every day. But she IS expected to try nearly everything I make, sometimes she even asks to try it. The main goal is that she eats.

@thatgirlAlisia

10 ай бұрын

That’s what my mom did she never force me to eat her cooking cause she knows I’m a picky eater she will give me like baby size to see if I like it and if I don’t she will let me pick/make my own meal if I want I’ve never been forced to eat anything I don’t want and. I’m very grateful for that😊

@aaarrriic

10 ай бұрын

@@anxii_spam3158idk, I feel like a lot of foods can look unappetizing but taste phenomenal

I barely ate with my parents - then i got the chance to feed myself AND my boyfriend introduced me to different ways of eating foods i couldnt eat and never pressured me. I can eat so much more now

You know, as an autistic person who struggled eating foods that had a certain texture, taste or smell, to the point of eating only a select few meals, and going three or even four days without eating as a kid if none of those were available, I have gotten better at introducing new things. Granted I am the one introducing myself to these foods in a safe environment, but I have managed to get a somewhat good diet overall. Sometimes I wish my mother or father had the same approach to food like you have. I wouldn't have spent days, crying in pain in bed from not having eaten anything. Can't undo that though. I hope that, if I ever have contact with children, either through my career choice or through extended family, I get to help out these kids and introduce healthy eating habits, whether they're a picky eater or not, or struggling with arfid or just a kid who really dislikes certain textures. And I thank you for being encouraging to your kids, gives me hope others will learn from you, along with myself.

@Dreaming1009

20 күн бұрын

Omg i feel so bad for you, i actually can't imagine how it would be to go days without eating, past can't be changed so i hope you the best for now and you future

@IloveJesus777j77

2 күн бұрын

​@@Dreaming1009Romans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".

@Dreaming1009

2 күн бұрын

@@IloveJesus777j77 the fck do i care

@Dreaming1009

2 күн бұрын

@@IloveJesus777j77 how does that have to do with anything

My mom would tell us kids we needed to at least try and taste everything, but we weren’t required to finish anything.

@mrsphilm.007

6 ай бұрын

I appreciate that she tried to get us to be open minded about food, but also didn’t try to force us to eat.

@BackgroundCharacter13

6 ай бұрын

@@mrsphilm.007 W parenting

@xxecxx_ljx8372

6 ай бұрын

That's a really great advice! :o

@DND-de1ux

6 ай бұрын

Your mom sound AWESOME, I’m a picky eater and I don’t like potatoes or yams, or anything like that, it would take me hours to finish it cause I was disgusted by it but had to eat it, and when I would go visit my grandparents, my grandpa would only cook mashed potatoes with boiled eggs and I felt obligated to eat it bc I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Sooooo when I told my mom I didn’t like potatoes for the first time she kept telling me “are you sure? Just eat a couple bites. You’re just saying that cause you don’t want it.” I also don’t like avacado, I’ll eat it if it’s not plain but if it’s straight up avacado I will throw up, and most of the time I was forced to eat it. Idk where I was going with this but, I’m glad your mom didn’t force you to eat stuff like my parents did 👍

@honeyHall-pr1ir

6 ай бұрын

I feel like that’s pretty healthy if they didn’t force you to finish it if you didn’t like it :)

I'm so glad my mother was like this. Thanks to her, I'm nowhere NEAR as picky as I was earlier on in my life. Sadly this doesn't always cross every parent's mind

@MixieMuse

Жыл бұрын

Me too! I used to be more of a picky eater, but it's slowly going away since my family reintroduce foods to me

@pameladeasis8178

Жыл бұрын

Well research shows that picking eating is directly correlated to how much parents pamper their children from birth to early childhood so idk what to tell you. Healthy relationship with food? you eat what's on the table and that's that.

@Empress_CODM

Жыл бұрын

@@pameladeasis8178 everyone’s parents are different get over it you may have been raised to eat what your given and by all means we respect that but stop trying to force it on us if we are picky SO WHAT it’s not something we can fucking change

@pameladeasis8178

Жыл бұрын

@haydenwiley4673 trust me, after some serious parenting it can be changed

@Empress_CODM

Жыл бұрын

@@pameladeasis8178 none of us need serious parenting my parents did a hell of a good job with me. I try food all the time and if I don’t like it they don’t buy it. It’s that simple

"Starving your child is not the answer" should really be common sense honestly. People are wild

@umhi9778

5 күн бұрын

It's because parenting is about domination and control instead of love. They're tyrants who were disobeyed, not good people.

As a very picky eater - my parents always used to force me to eat and didn’t care if I like it or not 😭 I wish I had a mom like u are

@moritzstotzner9760

3 күн бұрын

Good.

@IloveJesus777j77

2 күн бұрын

​@@moritzstotzner9760Romans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".

@dreamofmaizie

9 сағат бұрын

aww ur so edgy >.< ​@@moritzstotzner9760

When a parent listens to their child needs, it’s seen as spoiling them/being too lenient. Children are not objects, they have wants of their own

@katiepena3108

Жыл бұрын

Right bro like some how you control every aspect of a child? God forbid your kid doesn’t like tomatoes

@rosameijering5161

Жыл бұрын

Wow nice

@sydneyhay1971

Жыл бұрын

My dad thinks I'm spoiled bc when he tried to punch me & I fought back. 19 years & he never insinuated that I was a brat until that moment. Ppl really don't understand that our kids are not possessions & @ bare minimum should be treated as people & treated with kindness

@cristianiliusi3489

Жыл бұрын

@@sydneyhay1971 imo even if your parent tries to hit u, u dont hit back or fight back. Just step back keep distance. Like idk how u mfs put hands on your parents even if they start it

@cristianiliusi3489

Жыл бұрын

@@katiepena3108 na but its just not good being picky, maybe as a middle class citizen(assuming america) the concept of not having anything else to eat doesn’t really exist but that shit hits real hard and being poor for a few years gonna take out any pickiness u ever had 😂

Exactly! Having a healthy relationship with food is important!

@M11A3

Жыл бұрын

Hi 476 likes and no comments? 😁

@miyazoe3941

Жыл бұрын

​@@M11A3 Haha! 😆 Here's another comment ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻

@YukiSatagawa

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. 💯 You never force anyone to eat unless they in danger and need to be!!! I don’t effing understand ppl these days. Don’t got a sense in their words or actions

@GingerSnapy

Жыл бұрын

Yet my parents still get very angry at me to this day, and how I need to stop being picky. How the actual frick do you stop being a picky eater?

@tbug50

Жыл бұрын

@@GingerSnapy Depends. A lot of people are picky eaters because they refuse to try new foods. I can understand parents who get frustrated at the kids who refuse to eat anything but chicken nuggets. It’s neither healthy nor sustainable

"They'll eat it if there hungry" - my parents

@UPGRADER94

Ай бұрын

"rice🍚" -my parents 🗿

@user-wq7ho2vm8t

22 күн бұрын

Aaand. It's true. Picky equals spoiled. Grow the fuck up

@Surpendo

11 күн бұрын

​@@user-wq7ho2vm8t sit down and never talk again

@nombre3053

4 күн бұрын

Depending of the type of picky eater, they would starve (or sneak food) before eating that

@okiokipo

4 күн бұрын

when i was a child i literally went an entire day without eating because the food they gave me (charquican) made me gag 😭😭😭 if im remembering correctly i got nauseous nearing the end of the day because i had not eaten anything

As a child who was starved for days on end as punishment for not eating a meal I can't Express how this made me feel... I thought people like me were meant to just go hungry... Thank you for showing that's not always the fate for every child who was like me... ❤

Bro people hate seeing minors get treated with respect dignity and overall like an actual human being

@muzanwifeandgf

Жыл бұрын

For real.. some people think spoiling them means respecting them..

@getyassified6390

Жыл бұрын

Frrr

@whatsthislmaoo

Жыл бұрын

You can say children y'know

@bxbygurlshay6518

Жыл бұрын

@@whatsthislmaoo ik but the term minors goes for anyone 17 and under so I felt as if it was a better fit

@TrippyDanyy

Жыл бұрын

Yep plus a lot of ppl are jealous and threatened bc they either weren’t treated good as a child or feels a child should not be living better than them……sad asf

Thank you. I'm a picky eater and my dad would force me to eat food I HATED and it got to the point where after I ate I'd go to the toilet and (TMI) throw it all up, I now also have an eating disorder from it. I wish my dad could've had that mindset tbh.

@FaerieFix

7 ай бұрын

Why are we the same person

@FaerieFix

7 ай бұрын

@@Hermul.jellow that's a very toxic thing to say considering this isn't Instagram or Twitter

@oneforvivi

7 ай бұрын

​@@Hermul.jellowgirl what

@TBarbie.

7 ай бұрын

@@Hermul.jellow weird

@NoPersona

7 ай бұрын

​@@oneforviviwhat they say?

I’m so happy that your daughter is ready to try new thing and get out of her comfort zone willingly. It shows how great of a parent you are

As a picky eater this makes me happy to hear.

It’s stupid that not beating or mentally abusing kids anymore is seen as spoiling them I remember throwing up every time my dad would force me to eat something or force me to eat more than I could and making me not like dinner time and now I’m trying to branch out and try new foods but it’s difficult tell your daughter I’m so proud of her for trying a new food

@yddyhrxhtfxgfhxtfh3986

6 ай бұрын

My parents are kinda sexist because they say something like, "oh boys should eat everything", which i find pretty rude and unrelatable

@meronkebede1363

6 ай бұрын

Fr

@inferior970

6 ай бұрын

@@yddyhrxhtfxgfhxtfh3986bro as long as its like one or two foods you don’t like its fine but people that just dont eat half of the foods there are are just annoying

@autismworldtravel

6 ай бұрын

I never did this to my kids and regret the times I withheld treats or insisted they eat 3 bites of broccoli. I never went as far as many parents go or what my parents did, but I was still wrong. I quit using food as a reward or insisting they eat something they don’t like. They get a treat no matter how much dinner they eat, and honestly they eat everything I prepare them most of the time. All of my kids are now eating all kinds of foods and my oldest aren’t afraid of food. As adults, they eat so many things they turned their nose up, so parents should try to relax. Things change, kids don’t stay kids forever. With autistic twins (14), they will not eat foods they dislike. One will not even tell you he’s hungry. Because he’s anxious around food and people trying to force foods upon him. I always prepare his food according to his preferences and don’t force him to eat certain amounts or try new food if he doesn’t want to. He’s eating better now and gaining some weight. He became a much better eater when I stopped making it a battle.

@midhatjahansidra1171

6 ай бұрын

Bruh I was a picky eater when I was a kid too now I can eat many more things 😅 but I can understand

this is a really important message. as a child my mother NEVER forced me to eat anything if i didn’t want to. she always reminded me that i should new things, so i can learn from experience.

@blueberrycheesecake508

Жыл бұрын

Ikr, my sister is a picky eater because she have a problem in her stomach wherein she vomits easily when she eat unhealthy, acidic, too seasoned food. My family keeps on telling her to eat that eat this it won't harm you. Like what the fuck do they know it does to my sister's stomach. Whenever she is hospitalised, they think it's because she's just thinking about vomitting. That the reason why she can't stop vomiting is because it's a mental problem. Like wtf

@just-aa-person

Жыл бұрын

@@blueberrycheesecake508 that’s terrible I’m sorry

@Kathashi_

Жыл бұрын

​@@blueberrycheesecake508 oh god, i feel so bad for her :( i actually have a very similar thing as her, but my mom understands that and doesn't make me eat that i can't Hope it gets better mate in there

@rebeccahughes1174

Жыл бұрын

@@blueberrycheesecake508 oh no! I think it could be acid reflux otherwise known as heartburn though? Hope it helps :)

@yasminibrahim8511

Жыл бұрын

@@blueberrycheesecake508 I know how it feels cuz I suffer for it to believe it or not it feels like hell the pain is on another level sometimes it's like vomiting is the cure but only for a minute not always am at The hospital right now and I saw your comment it Broke my heart I hope they understand how painful it is 😰💔💔

Hey, former picky eater here, my parents did the exact same thing you did, understood and tried to get me to try new foods but always had a backup meal incase I hated it, I feel like that was what encouraged me to try more foods, so I can confirm this does work

This is really nice seeing parents helping their children when i was younger i was a picky eater and i had to eat food i didnt like or i starved now i have a eating disorder

I can't tell you the amount of times I've cried in front of my parents while they yelled at me because I didn't like something. I'm happy to know there are people like you in this world who are understanding and kind with there kids. Thankyou

@willburgerrotmg2867

6 ай бұрын

Yea understanding and kind teaching their kids to be bums your parents are strict cuz they love you and want you to be mature

@ErgenTheDum

6 ай бұрын

@@willburgerrotmg2867 love? Love!? That what you want to call it? Last time I checked abuse is not love!? I have had to deal with this crap for the last 14 years and it's hasn't gotten any better! Love isn't yelling at you kid and calling them dumb and self sentered because you didn't like something! Love isn't making your kids hate you because of all the crap you have put them through! This is not love!!!

@willburgerrotmg2867

6 ай бұрын

@@ErgenTheDum may I ask how old you are? Cuz depending on how old you are my response will be VERY different

@ErgenTheDum

6 ай бұрын

@@willburgerrotmg2867 I'm 17

@trashcat5318

6 ай бұрын

​@@willburgerrotmg2867I understand what you're trying to say but dude, this isn't the time. When someone talks about a very stressful situation with a parent u dont say to a stranger that their parents obviously love them. Its a nice thing to say but there are appropriate situations to say this and right now is not the right time.

As someone who is a picky eater due to sensory issues, thank you. Its not like I chose to dislike alot of foods, because they always look so good.

@safiyyayumna2432

Жыл бұрын

Me too.

@v3nera319

Жыл бұрын

Yeah same here

@tatiana4050

Жыл бұрын

Exactly same, because of my mother forcing me to eat foods there were so many foods that I would not try. Because they had my hated Ingredients in them. It took me till my 20s to try and see which ones I like and which ones I don't. That actually cabbage is not that bad if it's thinly sliced and not over cooked. If I ever had kids the rule would be "just try it. And if you don't like it you can spit it out" instead of "you are not eating anything until you finish eating this"

@catherinedaisey08

Жыл бұрын

my parents as ive been growing up, knew i had sensory issues from the age of two because of how i am with tempatures snd textures, hearing that not everyones parents tried to accommodate them with sensory issues breaks my heart. i dont know how my life wouldve been different without my support systems

@k9roppi

Жыл бұрын

yes me too!

I love this video. I am a very picky eater like your daughter and this video made tomato soup look sooo good!! I decided to try it and now it’s one of my favs! Thank you for showing people what it’s really like having a picky eater and thank you for helping me branch out ❤️❤️❤️

THANK YOU!!!! I'm still a picky eater, and the way my parents treated it when I was growing up led to constant anxiety issues when I'm offered food from other people. I'm terrified they'll get angry when I don't eat all of it and I usually refuse to eat at all unless I know I can eat it.

growing up, if i refused to eat something, my mom would grab me and force it into my mouth or take away my food privileges until the next meal (or the next day if it was dinner). she would grumble about how i'm so lucky, i didn't deserve her hard-earned food, and when she was my age, she didn't get to complain about her food or else she'd starve. turns out i have both very intense sensory issues and a fucked up relationship with food now. you are doing the absolute right thing, and i'm begging you, please do not ever resort to harmful ways.

@StraykidsStan_14312

6 ай бұрын

I feel so sorry that you had to go through something like that 😢 i wish Il you the best in life❤

@katitii

6 ай бұрын

@@StraykidsStan_14312hello stay ❤

@Whydoiexisthere-

6 ай бұрын

“There are people out there STARVING, be grateful!” “Honey, here’s the little detail you forgot: *im not those people”* Could’ve been the best comeback if you wouldn’t have been drilled in the cheeks by a steaming hot belt

@XGalaxyPlqyZ

6 ай бұрын

@@Whydoiexisthere-same honestly I’m grateful I have a good relationship with my parents and all, but sometimes my mom would still bring up this argument when sometimes I would feel jealous of others who have better things than we do and all, or other things. I know that in moments like those I can sound really ungrateful, but being compared to those who are less fortunate makes me feel even worse. I know I’m being ungrateful, I don’t need to be told it. I need comfort and understanding to get over that pain of jealousy before I can think rationally again like I know I should.

@willburgerrotmg2867

6 ай бұрын

I hate to be that guy but you caping for sure

Dude. Picky eating isn’t just because a kid is being stubborn. It’s sensitivity to temperature, texture, flavour profiles. I used to be super picky and I had no idea why until I understood myself and then I became more adventurous and willing to push my boundaries and developed a love for food. Now I’ll eat anything that’s actually good. (Frozen meals yuck but I’ll make my own shit instead). People need to learn more empathy. So proud of your daughter for going out of her comfort zone and trying something new!!!!!! ❤❤❤

@PickleJam300_Jbq

6 ай бұрын

Ain’t no way bro wrote a paragraph about what being a picky eater is but still a W

@cookieepasel2406

6 ай бұрын

I will throw up if certain foods had certain tastes or textures. I also hate ice cream because of how cold it is.

@idontsm0ke

6 ай бұрын

​@@PickleJam300_Jbq many people need to see this comment cuz they DO NOT KNOW what picky eater is at all 💀

@iamkoreaneminem-taehyun

6 ай бұрын

THANK YOU!! I wish my mom understood this I'm a picky eater and she says my little siblings are better than me- She will make me eat the food even if I gagged, puked or even if it burns because it was too hot/spicy (she says I'm being dramatic cuz it wasn't spicy FOR HER)

@killuathebabystomper6786

6 ай бұрын

Exactly! Especially when it comes to children they’re more sensitive towards textures and such. It sucks that so many parents failed to realize that and it really goes to show you need to do heavy research and be prepared before having a child or even getting a pet.

Omg sooooo true! My younger sister is a picky eater to the extreme. And poor girl is so used to people disregarding her taste that she’d rather not eat FOR A DAY OR TWO rather than bother explaining what’s the matter. I always try to be sympathetic and to create a safe environment around food for her

You are such a wise, warm, and understanding mom in all the positive ways possible, ignore ppl’s stupidity because all what they are wishing for is having a mom like you!

My brother was labelled the ‘picky eater’ of the family Since he’s gone off to Uni he’s been trying more things and seems to enjoy food more I think being able to explore new foods at his own pace has really helped. It’s so nice to see that’s what you’re doing for your kids.

@amirahelechi7113

Жыл бұрын

777

@Imowe_

Жыл бұрын

Same! I considered myself picky, but in college I started doing those meal boxes (Hello Fresh) & started getting bases that I knew I liked (chicken mostly) & they would have sauces that you make. I decided I’d at least make it as is (except for spice since I physically can’t handle it) & see how I like it before adding everything together. Turns out I LOVED the sauces (even the jam based ones) & use them still. I realized after being free to make my own food choices with no judgement that I have safe food bases & there are dozens of possibilities from there. Years ago my brother would only eat spaghetti & pizza (not the bread), so I told my mom maybe he just likes tomatoes & she could find more foods with that🤷🏽‍♀️

@bezimena4795

Жыл бұрын

Right, my family always talks abt me not eating a lot and being picky, but if i do decide to try smtn theyd be like "omg YOU eating THAT thats crazy whats come over u" and so on so forth, it really affects me and bothers me, they are the only reason i dont try more food rn

@Goalsthetic

Жыл бұрын

that's the same situation with me too...I don't like food which most of my family definitely include in thier plates or even in general but when I start exploring the food with my own pace that really helped me and I can enjoy food now that I didn't before. and of course for this my mom help a lot by experimenting with food by adding my fav ingredients.

@sin3358

Жыл бұрын

Me too. My mom only cooks the same 5 meals every time. They're very bland and have no flavour. But I eat almost everything new I try when I eat out because they add spices and stuff to make them taste good. My mom sucks at cooking

I’m a picky eater and trust me, WE DON’T WANT TO BE PICKY

@Charlotte-ld7vn

6 ай бұрын

IK

@debrapillay

6 ай бұрын

If you're not doing well finically then u have no choice but to have things u don't enjoy....most parents aren't rich enough to give their kids nice foods but they try hard to provide for them.

@XxGachaInfluencerxX

6 ай бұрын

​@@debrapillayi understand where you're coming from but that's not always true if a parent is aware a child of theirs doesn't like a certain food shouldn't they avoid getting it?

@SPANIMATIONS4114

6 ай бұрын

It sucks man. As someone who doesn't like watermelon(or many vegetables), it legitimately SUCKS and I really dislike that because for one, watermelon is such a commonly held fruit for outdoor days and a good source of eating and hydrating!

@mitsuberry

6 ай бұрын

@@debrapillayYk most picky eaters actually prefer cheaper foods right? One example is most picky eaters I know just like stuff like kraft Mac n cheese, chicken nuggets, pizza, that kind of stuff. It’s more common for picky eaters to prefer simple comfort foods and actually dislike expensive meals.

May your daughter find good food that works for her, my parents were not understanding, mad respect to you

Loved your advice! And the gourmet tomato soup you made was an act of LOVE. I guess some people don’t understand love. Keep up the good work ❤️

I wanted to leave a comment actually saying thank you for being so kind towards a picky eater. I myself am one too, not because i'm spoiled but because i have sensory issues and a lot of food is too strong or has textures i just cant really handle. People arent picky eaters because their parents spoiled them like so many people seem to think, some people are just like that. And it's great that youre trying to help your child slowly instead of forcing her to eat things she can't/doesn't want Edit: the amount of people that act like they've never heard of neurodivergent issues is concerning 😬 no i did not get sensory issues for fun, i was born with them

@xkia8531

Жыл бұрын

FAX

@destinyc7801

Жыл бұрын

Same I have so many texture based sensory issues around food, also recovered from an eating disorder because of food insecurity as a child, abusive parents, bullying and learning my relationship with food from my mother, so I went veggie at 11, then vegan at 16 (it was for the animals and all the normal reasons but it’s helped my food issues so much)

@kirstybrown1185

Жыл бұрын

Some people are unfortunately. I know an obese child, he didn’t dislike other foods just preferred some to others. He got spoiled as an only child and food was just another way of doing it, this child is 11, is 18 stone and his mum is currently in the process of losing custody because he chokes her out now if he doesn’t get what he wants. People like you exist, people like him exist, you denying his existence actually hurts yourself, the more people who ignore him and don’t acknowledge these people as part of the larger community, they see them as the whole community. You are the majority though and that’s great.

@aribari2434

Жыл бұрын

true! i’ve never been a picky eater but as of late i’ve been developing problems (mostly sensory) wit food that i once ADORED & now can’t eat too much of it without wanting to puke, if any at all. i’m trying to work through that by trying different cooking methods to alter the texture, or adding toppings that can mellow out the sensory overload. i still love food, but sometimes i feel like i need to take a step back and i can’t help it😭😭😭

@ron_ron9024

Жыл бұрын

Omg, so true. I am very sensitive to smells, texture especially anything slimy

Bottom line: she is your daughter and you are raising her in a positive environment. People can give to others what is inside them. Unfortunately, there's a lot of miserable people living today who refuse to do the necessary inner work. Sending positive vibes 💓

@bwingbwinggwiyomi

Жыл бұрын

So true, it's very unfortunate. But thankfully, social media is helping create awareness of how to behave and think in a more healthier way that helps heal and nurture ourselves ❤️

@quitstalin

Жыл бұрын

@@cautioncrazyperson1375 unfortunately, you refuse to do the inner working

@gracefully_livy

Жыл бұрын

🙏🙏

@tns.xcoske

Жыл бұрын

@@cautioncrazyperson1375 that’s so sad😢

@jerricho11

Жыл бұрын

@@quitstalinAnd here's one of those "miserable people" the poster was talking about.😂

That's EXACTLY why i have an eating disorde... You hit the nail on the head. I would've loved to have a mother like you...

@hangunpoh

Күн бұрын

To be diagnosed as an eating disorder person, it needs to be evaluate and examined by a professional physician. Not a Google doctor or you feel it in your gut yeah it’s the reason. Therefore, the reasons could be varied.

I’ve always been quite the picky eater, and growing up I remember many times my mother would yell at me and guilt me and force me to eat all of my food (as I would also not always eat everything that was on my plate) and tell me I could just starve if I wasn’t going to eat it. Personally I come to realize that a lot of the time since those experiences occurred I have spent forcing myself to eat things I did not enjoy and making myself eat more than I can handle because of the feeling of embarrassment and guilt I get when I don’t finish my food or when I don’t want to eat something. Makes me very happy to see parents like this lady being kind and gentle about things like this.

As I am also picky eater . I found someone who is understanding us not forcing to eating 😢

@eleenababu

4 ай бұрын

Same

@eleenababu

4 ай бұрын

I had to starve sometimes because of picky eating it's really Happy to see people like this

@adelina06jk

4 ай бұрын

Same

@HunterBREAD_

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, forcing and being more outwards about it in a way that could cause trauma related to food could cause stuff like anorexia and i’m glad that there’s someone that understands that you need to help them branch out at a pace they’re comfortable with rather than forcing them to eat or starving them.

@susannellis6896

4 ай бұрын

Same

Why were people upset? Because she’s a picky eater? 😂🤨 that’s a strange thing to be upset about

@shady610

Жыл бұрын

I don't think at the kid. But at the scenario to which she became picky.

@pinkbombshellcasing2672

Жыл бұрын

Peoples lives are apparently too good and boring, so they feel the need to add drama by picking on a child and her mother, who is trying to help her daughter develop a good relationship with food. I was a picky eater as a child, and now I literally eat/at least try anything because my mum didn’t force me to eat things I didn’t want to. Instead, she encouraged me to try new things and make food in a way she thought I would like.

@ttmoore4447

Жыл бұрын

It's not about being upset, it's about being entitled to manipulate your parent bcoz they soft. Ppl are not upset sir, it's that we can't relate as a child telling ur parents they don't eat this or that. My Mom could care less what I didn't like....Dinner is on the stove, you can eat or take yo picky Blk arse to bed. That choice is yours.😁👍🏿

@JayTee2000

Жыл бұрын

@@ttmoore4447 nah, they were definitely upset 😂 if you can't relate then keep the negativity to yourself. The mom is happy, the daughter is happy, everything is good. 👍🏾

@MissRandomComment

Жыл бұрын

I think people get triggered when it comes to pets and children. Especially mothers get a lot of shit online. Suddenly everyone is an expert and you're doing it wrong. I've seen it happen a lot. I'm not even sure if they are parents themselves, or where the intensity is coming from. Maybe something in their personal life.

People like you are awesome parents I wish I had a mom sweet as you

all these comments that are saying "oh my mom would tell me just to try it and spit it out if i don't like it" are kinda crazy. my mom was that way and i felt so much pressure, especially if i spat it out because she'd feel bad because i didnt like her cooking. it took me a while to realize that that wasn't a healthy approach to trying different foods, saying that you NEED to try it. its not encouraging.

@rere-fz4ep

4 күн бұрын

I think there’s nothing wrong with that saying but don’t force them to try it, ask if they want to or say they might like it but to like continuously force it isn’t ok

@rere-fz4ep

4 күн бұрын

But I understand what you mean bc my mom would get lowkey offended if we didn’t like something but…everyone has different taste buds yk, there’s people out here who don’t like normal things most people eat

I remember that my mum used to slowly introduce new foods to me, but would put so much effort into it, like she would make homemake ice-cream for me and would make it such a fun experience, that I began to like the fruits they were made of. And would ask what I didn’t like about the certain thing, and change how she cooked it accordingly. And now as a 16 year old I am open to trying new foods, and like most foods.

@crashpeperami7130

Жыл бұрын

You are a lucky person. Your mums stellar.

@zachk3589

Жыл бұрын

My mom and family would get so excited and after proud when I'd eat a new food, so I eventually got out of being picky through my mom just being sweet and loving her kid

@Icantbelieveyoudonethis

Жыл бұрын

Perfect example of good parenting and adapting to a situation…some of the parents here are mad their child won’t eat certain foods, yet it seems like they never tried adapting to the matter, they call what she’s(mom in the video) doing bad parenting, I call what they’re doing being closed minded

@Wheres_Ana

Жыл бұрын

Lmao same here!!

@Ilovetostudy

Жыл бұрын

so lucky !

This was awesome. I have a 4 yr old that is so picky. My parents are always telling me to let her starve or force her to eat. I don't do this. I introduce new things and reintroduce things in waves. I want the positivity.

@interstella_sapphic

Жыл бұрын

This is how it should be done 👏👏 introducing something new every now and then, without pushing, and in a safe environment is the best way to expand the food horizon

@Imdoingit_ru

Жыл бұрын

That’s great! So caring, you should show your parents this video and hopefully they understand

@alicedodobirb2808

Жыл бұрын

Im so happy there are people who don't force feed their kids just cause there the adult and need to be in control :')

@lovenala1987

Жыл бұрын

Could you give an example of how you reintroduce food in waves? Like could you give a food example?

@lilgayboy9597

Жыл бұрын

I ty for doing this , i myself used to be forced to eat food as a child i used to throw it up and if my uncle found out about it i would be spanked with a belt. DO.NOT.DO.THIS.

as a picky eater PLEASEEEJJSJAHJDHDD I WISH MY MOM COULD UNDERSTAND THIS

Thank you I showed this to my parents and it really helped❤❤❤

There’s literally nothing wrong with making sure your daughter is comfortable with trying new foods, and having the ones she likes. I was not a picky eater, but my little sister was. My mom had the same mentality of “if you didn’t eat what was there, then you weren’t really hungry.” But as I got older and started exploring and cooking for myself, I started to teach my mom ways to incorporate veggies and healthy foods in a way that would make my sister comfortable with trying them.Even now, in our late 20s, I still go to my sisters home and teach her how to cook varieties of food for herself, and my nephew, so that he’s open to trying new foods. It’s all about the approach, in my opinion.

@randomz5890

Жыл бұрын

That must have taken quite a lot of initiative on your part. Well done!

@Viv165

Жыл бұрын

That’s awesome and I genuinely wish I had someone like you in my life. I’ve been a picky eater my whole life, but I’m trying to fix it by eating new foods and such. It’s just hard lol

@blinkonce9785

Жыл бұрын

I'm a picky eater, my mom used to get angry w me when I don't eat my food so I just force myself to atleast eat a small amount but after knowing I don't like that food, she separate a food for me to eat whenever she cooks that food, she doesn't always do that but like she will encourage me to try it & if I rlly don't like it she said I shouldn't eat. My dad, grandma, & grandpa also do that to me cuz they understand me, I'm so grateful to have them around growing up

@fabulouslyfee4755

Жыл бұрын

@@randomz5890 thank you ☺️

@fabulouslyfee4755

Жыл бұрын

@@Viv165 awe you’re so sweet. Try smoothies and juicing for Fruits and veggies.. you might like them. My sister loves veggies like potatoes so one day I did a pot roast and substituted potatoes for parsnip and she actually liked it. Kept things like carrots and roast that are familiar but switched one veggie.. Also, it’s okay if you don’t like something! At least you can say you tried💕

"starving her is not the answer, forcing her is not the answer" GOD BLESS THIS MOTHER ❤ Edit: oh- ok, 👁️👄👁️ um, could I interest all you lovelies in joining me for a spot of tea? ☕ Idk 😶👉👈

@sparrowhawk2983

Жыл бұрын

Lol

@Escotch647

Жыл бұрын

No no no stopppppp

@emiipxstelz379

Жыл бұрын

Well yes ofc shes a great mother but thats kinda the bare minimum if you have a child, your job is to take care of them

@slayqueen990

Жыл бұрын

for real!

@DanielT6355

Жыл бұрын

great mother, i agree

Im kind of a picky eater. And what did you say in this video really explained it, "you just have to understand them" ❣️

I was the picky eating kid. The dont like it dont eat mentality didn't work. I would starve myself just to avoid trying new foods my family tried forcing me to eat. It got so bad I would only eat bread and nothing else. My mom was so happy when I started eating toast with jelly and her being happy and excited about me trying new things got me to try new things. Positivity in parenting like yours is awesome. Thank you for being such a great mom.

@j.6267

Жыл бұрын

Sameeee. Id just starve myself too. Now i just cook when theyre not home

@liciapaulus1338

Жыл бұрын

Also same.Its horrible because both my siblings would eat anything.

@blepblep7245

Жыл бұрын

sometimes i think ppl from 1st world countries should just shut up bc it's annoying. bro some kids in my country eat once a day and u guys be like "omg i dont like what my mom cooks, i'd rather starve myself 🥴" --- what??? u guys r so annoying lmao shut up and eat what ur given. i understand if u have an eating disorder or whatever mental disorder but other than that i'd rather let ppl like u starve lol. if u cant appreciate food that's handed to u then u dont deserve it.

@mikem9270

Жыл бұрын

​@Hot Coco I could be wrong, but I think they meant that their relationship with food became so bad that they eventually just started eating bread just to stay alive

@heracleskarpusi1716

Жыл бұрын

@Hot Coco I would actually eat a lot of things as a toddler. But it really quickly turned into not wanting anything my my favorites and then turned into me convinced I wouldn't like it therfore wouldn't eat it.. Not liking/refusing to eat stuff I used to. I wouldn't eat pizza because I was convinced I wouldn't like it so my mom had to take the cheese and sauce off or I wouldn't eat it. I would starve myself rather than eat something I "didn't like". Picky eaters are picky for different reasons. Mine was a weird control thing made worse if my family tried to force me to eat but I've had friends with texture aversions who will throw up if they eat certain foods. I would be fine if my mom could force me to eat something. But my mom got tired of every meal being a wrestling match or beating my ass to get me to eat and just letting me starve was me actually starving because I refused to eat something to the point I would go days without. I think the longest was a week when I was 5 until my mom caved and just gave me some toast. Its a parenting challenge not many expect to happen.

My mom is the “DONT YOU DARE SPIT THAT OUT” type Edit: thanks for all of the likes😨 also, I I try not to be a picky eater. I actually try the food before I say I don’t like it and most of the time I just have a very weak stomach and I can’t eat too much.

@katt1996

5 ай бұрын

my mom did this to me once with sushi, i threw up in my mouth because she wouldn't let me spit and i hated the texture... so i had to swallow the sushi plus some vomit... needless to say i refuse any and all sushi

@carlislejetubongen919

5 ай бұрын

​@@katt1996Sushi? I was only allowed to eat it when i was like older but i think that i wouldn't like the texture but i'm not a picky eater but if it's eggplants yea no

@soyeonsveggiez

5 ай бұрын

@@katt1996She didn’t let you spit it out when you VOMITED? That’s literally abusive.

@BrainDumpProductions24

5 ай бұрын

Oh joy 😒

@MilkyandOreo

5 ай бұрын

⁠I ate to MUCH sushi one day now I just can’t eat it and now everyone makes fun of me while I’m also Asian and not being able to eat sushi 😭

THANK YOU I for real needed to know someone’s mom understood!

Not catering to them but being the parent and the adult and deciding whats for dinner, is the ANSWER

As a picky eater (that now eats most things except sauces), being shamed, starved, or forced dosen't help at all. That is what made me have a bad relationship with food and stops me from eating, even now that I like most foods. I'm really happy for your daughter, you're doing it right!

@xkhalilthebossxx9986

Жыл бұрын

Lol I'm such a picky eater too once as a child I sat with oatmeal which I hate for 12 hrs I even missed school after that my mom never made it for me again 😂

@ChanyeolsHaneul

Жыл бұрын

I would like to know ( for future reference if I ever have a picky eater child) what you think cause you to be that way? Is the texture of some food? certain flavours? What can be done to help you as someone that can't understand why you don't want to eat certain things when for others is really delicious food?

@notsure4876

Жыл бұрын

Yeah also food doesn't go in if you don't like, I can't even force myself like i tried but it doesn't work. It's like a punishment. Iyk yk

@ChanyeolsHaneul

Жыл бұрын

@@notsure4876 I understand that feeling. Is impossible for me to take any kind of pills or medicine, is like my throat close and I can't force myself to take them. So I guess is similar in that regards.

@kpopfan1463

Жыл бұрын

​@@ChanyeolsHaneul it depends I'm a picky eater and I don't like sweet things there are many kinds of picky eaters

As a picky eater throughout my childhood,I can completely relate! My mom never forced me to eat everything. She understood my concern,and took creative approaches to feed me. Thanks to her,now I'm a person who's not that picky now😀

@anashasamaroo533

Жыл бұрын

I don't think I'll ever stop being a picky eater. Sometimes my mom gets so annoyed, she just tells me to go crazy in the kitchen and luckily I haven't burn it down yet while sometimes, she loves spoiling me with world class cuisine 😆

@jadewelch8474

Жыл бұрын

I’m still sorta a picky eater and my mom made me try new things all the time but once I made for sure that I didn’t like something or I couldn’t eat it without gaging, she didn’t make me eat it anymore. My stepdad said he would have starved me but I’m so thankful my mom was more understanding when I was growing up.

@bepopee

Жыл бұрын

That’s exactly how I was!

@nicoleb1002

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@Chessmaster09

Жыл бұрын

My parents are divorced and as a kid I was a really picky eater and my twin was a little more open with food and the rest of my family ate anything they were served. The thing with this was my mom would not make me eat food I didn’t like but instead of not giving me new stuff she would make different foods and the have one dish that she was sure that I liked and that developed into right now where I only don’t eat really spicy foods or certain meats. But my dad as I remember would make some food for the whole family that I hated and I was gagging out my food the whole time while my dad stood hovering over me as he made me eat a big pork chop with cheese that I hated and for like 2 hours he just stood there until I hesatently ate it all. I don’t think parents understand that the kids don’t choose to be a picky eater but just can’t eat certain foods without gagging also my brother was not supportive in this aspect as he would always say that I liked only half of the food in the world because I don’t like spicy food and that he can’t eat at any Indian places anymore because I don’t like it

I wish my parents were like that, I grew up getting punished and forced to eat it. I soon fell into depression and got anorexic

Fr my family always scoulded me whenever i dont like the meal saying i shouldnt be picky forcing me to eat them when i was little.now i eat less food because of that and only stick to the food i know and like because of what they did to me with my food.-and they dont understand at all that i can only eat less food then my cousins because im much smaller then them.always comparing me with how much food i should eat and whenever they do force me to eat that many food i felt like i was gonna puke.props to you making a great environment for your kids to food

Shoutout to my roommate who is better at introducing me to new foods than my parents ever were.

@oscarbenigsen4538

Жыл бұрын

In some regions food is not entertainment, but fuel. The people there generally have only one or two things to eat each day - and cannot afford anything else. Picky eaters do not exist in such places.

@ravenskull420

Жыл бұрын

​​@@oscarbenigsen4538 while that is true, in places, environments, and religions that do allow other and more variety of foods, will be able to find what they can eat. it's not always about not wanting to eat something else but feeling disgust towards some foods or the taste (and textures!). everybody's taste buds are different, you're just going to have to learn to live with that, hun. 😐 edit: and picky eaters do not see food is entertainment, it is fuel to them as well, but certain foods they will not eat. everybody learns and grows and once you find the foods that you like and know what foods to avoid it's not much of a hassle.

@hanyuuhiiragi3544

Жыл бұрын

@@oscarbenigsen4538 I'm sure if I was born into circumstances where I couldn't afford to be picky, I'm sure I wouldn't be. But I wasn't. I grew up in a household where I had to clean everything off my plate no matter how long it took. And unfortunately for me, my pickiness stems from sensory reasons. Despite eating meat, I can't stand the texture of ground beef, for example. The same goes for beans. And it's still hard to try new things because of that, my parents literally forcing new things down my throat as a kid, and a sensitive gag reflex.

@stinky_dog9206

Жыл бұрын

W friend

@maci5580

Жыл бұрын

@@ravenskull420 omg slay

My parents made my picky eater sister stay at the table until she ate everything. It bothered me so much as a kid. I can still remember it to this day. I'm in my 60's. After I started cooking, I realized that both my parents were picky eaters and it made me more upset that they treated her that way. When we were older I asked my sister what she thought about it and she said "I was more stubborn than them, I was not going to eat something I didn't like". When I have guests over for meals, I make multiple entrees so everyone can enjoy it.

@soapycleaningproduct

11 ай бұрын

God bless you, I used to be treated like this as a picky eater, and I would be forced at the dinner table to eat everything. You’re amazing

@Percy_Of_The_Sea

11 ай бұрын

I always ask my friends and those coming over of they have allergies or aversions to food so I can better accommodate with what I'm making. (This is difficult to do when I'm living with my parents but I still try. Lol)

@biggiebeats1490

11 ай бұрын

You realize this woman is rich? Most of us cant afford to feed everyone stuff they like. This womanbis insanely privileged

@ILoveTakis8335

11 ай бұрын

That happens to me to when I was younger I would cry for a hour and they would say if I didn’t eat it all they would take my phone away. And to this day it still happens

@tojitheblueprint

11 ай бұрын

@@biggiebeats1490 so? Why are you and everyone else mad at her for caring about her daughter?

Not a parent so i won't know. But i do know my nephews who my sister tried to accomodate for years and years and every meal was a rough battle for her. Eating out, picking something they chose, but when the food came they threw a tantrum and refused to eat anything. Just last night eating out i had the kid throw the spoon because he refused to eat what he chose, hit my cup and spilled water all over my pants. So my only takeaway is there is no one right answer just like there is no same child. All i know is that my sister who did the "gentle and caring approach, trying to make her kids understand" ended up looking like she aged twenty years ahead of time.

Good for you, and for your daughter! I'm not at all picky myself, but I'm glad she has such a supportive environment. I hope she enjoyed the soup, it looks delicious!

People get so hurt when they see what they lacked as children. You’re encouraging a healthy relationship with food with your child and exploring what she likes together. You are doing a great job❤

@chronicmelancholic

Жыл бұрын

You really put it the best. I'm saving this quote

@troy511

Жыл бұрын

this is so true. they see children with loving parents as spoiled children. its all out of jealousy.

@jailynne6867

Жыл бұрын

Yep they're all just narcissistic misery loves company.

@BiG-JuPO1O1

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but imagine living in low income family and being forced to eat ramen noodles every day. Sometimes you can't afford to be picky and you need to eat what given to you.

@chronicmelancholic

Жыл бұрын

@@BiG-JuPO1O1 that's those people's problem only 💀

i can be pretty picky about food for sensory reasons, as certain textures will just make me throw the food back up. my mom’s rule was always that if i tried what she was making and couldn’t eat it, i could make something else for myself as long as i ate at the table with the rest of my family. i was never made to feel badly about it, and while i had an unhealthy relationship with food for a while and am in recovery from an ed, she was never the reason why :)

@TakehitoKaren

Жыл бұрын

My friend is the same. For him it's part of his ADD.

@queenlea4412

Жыл бұрын

I have very similar experience, some food textures or smells make me avoid them.

@VanessaGarcia-rx8pn

Жыл бұрын

Am like that too one of my aunts never shamed me for it she even made food that I will be able to eat plus I have food allergies and am lactose intolerant so when ever she’s throwing a party she makes extra food for me if she’s making something I can’t eat she always says that as long as she’s alive I won’t have to question the food she make in her home as am one of her kids

@gnobba

Жыл бұрын

Same, mushrooms were a bitch, but now I love mushrooms.

you’re such a good mom, i wish mine had that much patience

Thank you so much as a picky eater and as someone who dislikes a lot of food this means a lot. I get yelled at by my parents and forced to eat all the time. Thank you. This truly means a lot

As someone who was a big picky eater when I was kid when I saw the video about the tomato soup I thought two things “what a sweet story” and also “that looks delicious I wanna make it” but never once did it come across my mind that this was spoiling her. To be honest I do not know how my parents kept up with me for like 10 years 😅

@Quiet_Grove

Жыл бұрын

Same

@Rockwaterman134

Жыл бұрын

Ong

@TheGarciaCooksanEats

Жыл бұрын

People don't realize it's not how a used to be. I know when I was a kid my father was big on if you didn't like what was served I guess you're not eating tonight. That was me and my husband's time. We're not like that with our kids

this made me tear up because when i was a child i was an extremely picky eater and my mom used to tell me "you either eat the food i made you or starve." so i was naturally just extremely skinny and lower than the average weight of my age for a long period of time until uni where i started to try foods at my own pace. I just wanted to say thank you so much for doing this, your an amazing mother💕

@jleija

Жыл бұрын

There is a skinless body behind dominoes

@catelynnes8377

Жыл бұрын

Similar when I was younger, there were many foods I didn't eat or a certain way I would eat certain foods. And I can also understand I grew up in a big family and there was SO many specifications and details to remember them all but at the same time this doesn't justify the fact that my siblings or I would get lectured at or forced to eat a certain food(s) and using the "ungrateful" card doesn't make the situation any better but label food in a negative connotation when eating food w family is meant to be joyous and enjoying...If only this video was there when those occurrences were happening 🙁

@firepanda3708

Жыл бұрын

You mom isn’t your personal chef. She’s not forcing you to eat anything, it’s food. It doesn’t have to be something you like.

@Luna7Nox

Жыл бұрын

​@@catelynnes8377 Holy moly. It is very nice of a mother to care so much for her child. But especally in a family with many kids and with not so much money it is impssible to care for everyone. For example there is only one meal I don't like, my mother still made it because my siblings were fine with it and it is healthy. So she just expected me to eat a bit of it and I did. People who can always eat what they want have to be rich... Remember there are also ppl who would do anything to just get something to eat....

@supercool2086

Жыл бұрын

​@@firepanda3708I'm just gonna pretend you didn't just say that 😌

I was very picky eater growing up and still am today, but I have come to realize it’s not so much the picky thing as it is the comfort in regulation and control over my own food. When I get to choose my own food I always pick the same thing. The food servers at my college even know my exact order 😂 sometimes I will change it and they go “what?! You’re picking something different today?!” 😂😂😂 anyways, I appreciate your patience with your child and love that you approach food in a gentle way. That is a great way to help prevent creating eating disorders.

In my family I was basically forced and threatened into not being a picky eater. You’re doing a great job!

I can’t believe people actually starve their kids because they are picky. Your words touched my heart. Keep doing what you are, you are an amazing mom ❤😊

@old_soul99

Жыл бұрын

I did go to bed hungry a few times because I didn't like whatever my parents made that night (especially if it was hamburger helper). There were even a few times where I said "I'll just make myself a sandwich" and my mom told me no. It was so confusing to me because it's not like I was making her do more work?

@Mareeux

Жыл бұрын

its so common sadly

@ruthbouret3350

Жыл бұрын

Happened to me when I was a kid, I went through a lot but now I pretty much have like one meal a day if I eat lol

@somethingbambi875

Жыл бұрын

​@@old_soul99I feel horrible for you 💔 I always let my son have a sandwich after or at dinner, I think it would be child abuse not to.

@cyberslvz

Жыл бұрын

That’s because most people saying that are either teenagers or kids.

I have a sensory processing difficulty and until recently I didn’t realize how much effort my mom put in so that I ate good and complete meals without stressing myself. And even now in highschool we celebrate little things like tasting shrimp.

@bwingbwinggwiyomi

Жыл бұрын

I think it's amazing and healthy you guys celebrate every little and big achievement. You deserve it and you and your mum are doing a fantastic job ☺️ be patient and kind with yourself :)

@Them00nischeese

Жыл бұрын

Me too I’ve always had difficulty with specific food textures and my family for a good part of my life just called me dramatic and still just forced me to eat the same foods :(

@olgamonzales5737

Жыл бұрын

that's amazing ☺️

@geeperjane

Жыл бұрын

An occupational therapist can help immensely in the early years for children with sensory processing disorders. They can help parents figure out exactly what the problem is and expose children to different textures/smells/temps/sounds in a fun and safe environment.

@sophiam7158

Жыл бұрын

that’s awesome!💗

As a picky eater i wished you were in my family to teach some of my relatives that even though i don't like some of the food they bring that doesn't mean im too sensitive or i don't like they're cooking😢

as someone with an eating disorder: THANK YOU

I was shocked by the negative comments under that video. I thought people were going to talk about the beautiful roasted tomatoes or the creamy final soup. Instead I was horrified to see people blatantly and uncaringly proclaim that starving or beating their children will “fix those spoiled brats” I’m so happy you responded so calmly and confidently to those horrible parents. You are doing an amazing job raising your children

@itshyeonjindae

Жыл бұрын

same ppl who abuse their kids and think they deserve parents of the year award

@Vex-the-partycrasher

Жыл бұрын

I’m more surprised no one reposted this to the police or something….or at least someone with authority-

@newmrj3547

Жыл бұрын

No not really

@kittenmimi5326

Жыл бұрын

Skill issue those parents are probably just a shit cook (aside from being an abusive parent that will traumatize their child into not wanting to eat any food ever again)

As a picky eater myself that was forced to eat everything my parents gave me when little, I really appreciate the fact you simply try to introduce new food to your daughter without forcing her into anything!

@kpopiiiii

3 ай бұрын

Same 😅

@sharmiladalal-samant5537

3 ай бұрын

Ikrr

@user-uk8uo7wv5b

3 ай бұрын

My mom still forces me to eat what she makes knowing that I don't like that food but I do it for her

@kimberlyhemminger3822

3 ай бұрын

@@user-uk8uo7wv5bI'm sorry. My kids tend to be picky sometimes. Like one time they will want to eat something and another time they won't want to eat it. (Probably more of what sounds good at the time). But I never force them to eat what I cooked. I don't make them a separate dinner but if I know they usually will eat something, I will cook it and if they decide against it then they can make themselves a sandwich or some noodles or something. They are teenagers so very capable of feeding themselves if need be.

@samuelabishai2283

3 ай бұрын

💯

I used to not be a picky eater, but I started to become picky. My mom noticed, and started making foods that she knew I loved. That's why I love her.

I appreciate what this woman is doing. she isnt forcing her kid to try new things but she isnt just letting her do whatever. my parents, while i am grateful they were understanding of the fact new foods werent easy for me, they did little to encourage me to try new things, so by the time i realised i needed to try new things to move along, I had already developed a fear of new foods itself since I distanced myself from them for so long. my relationship with food is presently extremely strained and eating in unfamiliar spaces in front of people makes me nauseous; I have a class trip to a restaurant next week and, for context, that is currently my worst fear. what this lady is doing is a very good thing

I’m a very picky eater myself and I think what your doing is great! When my mom forces foods on me it just pushes me away. Letting your daughter explore is a great tactic!

@ambsanshz16

Жыл бұрын

You’re*

@ObingNNgpk

Жыл бұрын

Lol😅😅😅

@Dominik189

Жыл бұрын

You need a dad like mine... You'd be out of that "picky eater" nonsense by the end of week three.

@Runningforplaggscheese

Жыл бұрын

Same here girl. But also what did this woman ever do to make people so mad. Its called being a good mother

@leamai645

Жыл бұрын

​@@Dominik189 yeah but I bet they'd hate your fucking dad and would never call them again. Sick of that bullshit mindset and y'all wonder why most y'all grandparents and parents ending up in unloved nursing homes begging for their children to see them and why so many of us need therapy. Kiss my ass you stupid cunt

People when you treat your child like a human being and not an animal: “oH mY gOD yoU’rE spoIliNg thEm sO MUCh”

@vaangh

Жыл бұрын

Bro she treats her child like they're on the same lvl she's tge parent and shouldn't just do everything her daughter wants

@Medusa_pelusa

Жыл бұрын

​@@vaangh querer entender a tu hijo y ser su amigo está mal? Bro por gente que piensa como tú tuve que empezar a buscarme la vida muy pronto

@vaangh

Жыл бұрын

@RTU_DEV bruh why do you guys always make these bs excuses

@thesquigz616

Жыл бұрын

​@Cormac Dor' idk, why do you insist on defending bullshit parenting practices? If someone, kid or adult, doesn't want to eat something-- the LOGICAL answer is to stick it in a Tupperware and try again later. Shoving shit down people's throat is just fucking stupid and a waste of food half of the time.

@flyingorange2482

Жыл бұрын

​@@vaangh Its not an excuse, Iitteraly true

From one mom of a picky kiddo to another huge YEAH, your kiddo has grown and reached a milestone.

I am very Picky so i am still trying things slowly but this is amazing. I needed this in the past

Thank you for this video. I grew up in an environment that was negative around food. Starving, punishing & physically/financially forcing me was common. I later learned I had physical health problems that affected my eating habits extremely & being treated like that as a kid only worsened it. I say all this to encourage adult caretakers to be kinder to children. Kids are humans too

@allimacroon

Жыл бұрын

I agree

@Random--rt3rq

Жыл бұрын

I agree 👍

some people just hate when parents treat their children like human beings and not like simple toys you're a very nice and dedicated mom, your daughter is very lucky to have you

@sasha.the.silver.fox.therian

Жыл бұрын

You are one very kind person!

@kaylah5571

Жыл бұрын

You are so so nice❤

@rishikeshshine4783

Жыл бұрын

What are u saying they should eat what they get. Ugh they should prepare her for the real world

@nevergonnagiveyouup1180

Жыл бұрын

@@rishikeshshine4783 yeah that’s what they’re doing dummy. She’s creating a healthy relationship with food for her kid so she can enjoy it. Since it’s a necessity Punishing her is only going to make eating not enjoyable and likely lead to an eating disorder

@rishikeshshine4783

Жыл бұрын

@never gonna give you up yeah but if she continues she think she can always get away with what she has done and she is always right

I remember i hated tomatoes (still do) my parents would try to force me to eat them now and then tho i would throw up because of it, but when my grandma cooked she made a meat sauce with the tomato and i would eat it all, i always told my parents to instead of making me eat full tomato pieces just make sauce like my grandma did

This makes me happy. For me it was eat what’s given to you or starve.

im autistic and have a lot of sensory issues with food, my dad and my stepmom used to forced me to eat food i didn't like and didn't let me eat dessert or other things if i didn't eat what they cooked, now i have a very complicated relationship with food, i'm so happy you're doing this for your daughter, it heals my inner child

@ilovechickennuggets1139

Жыл бұрын

I m sorry you had to go throught that. I hope you are better with your food now :) (sorry for my english tho)

@aloeleaf

Жыл бұрын

@@ilovechickennuggets1139 your English is really good!

@patriciahaywoodfoley7927

Жыл бұрын

Hi autism bud I have spectrum atisim

@patriciahaywoodfoley7927

Жыл бұрын

I'm picky about sticky and messy foods

@maddiesmenagerie8853

Жыл бұрын

@@patriciahaywoodfoley7927 yesss I hate eating fingerfood meat off the bone like wings and ribs its so gross to me i wipe my hands every bite and burn through tens of napkins in the process…

“Oh no, someone else’s child has eating preferences that in no way inconveniences my life whatsoever, I must go to the comments to rage!” 😅😹

@TheGlitchingFox

Жыл бұрын

Lmfao, that’s literally every single hate comment here

@Leg1503

Жыл бұрын

They assume that it’s some clandestine pipeline. One minute it’s “no tomatoes” and the next it’s “Mother I am going to rob a bank”

@STZ2289

Жыл бұрын

Forcing your kids to eat better things for your body is good, I used to be picky but since my parents made me try new things i'm not anymore. You shouldnt ever let your kids tell you no to a homecooked meal and if they do for a while stop making them food so they can see why they need it

@hhuy4341

Жыл бұрын

​@Triggering comment ikr, it's literally called a comment section

@Leg1503

Жыл бұрын

@Triggering comment it’s almost like you can scroll along Edit: YOU GOT ME!

THIS. When I was a kid, I was also super picky; if there was something I didn’t want to try, I just didn’t eat. Even if I wasn’t hungry at a certain time, I’d be denied food until the next day and would get yelled at if I was caught trying to get food for myself later on

I'm a picky eater and I can't help it 🥺 growing up in a Hispanic household was hard when I didn't wanna be picky about certain textures and flavors, but my mom made it work 🤍

As a picky eater, I can confirm that starving them isn’t the answer. My grandma never once said “you won’t leave the table until you finish the food” she would adjust the recipe and slowly add things. It’s because of her I love foods. And though I may not always like the foods because they are not for me, it’s I do give them a chance.

@treed5953

Жыл бұрын

I learned to accept that I would go hungry, and my parents learned to accept that I was willing to

@Atwan82837

Жыл бұрын

Hunger is the best seasoning. That is all I am gonna say

@Ms421twilightgirl

Жыл бұрын

@@Atwan82837 Yes and no. If something such as a very hot salsa or mustard is placed in I can usually detect it before eating. No amount of hunger will suddenly allow me to eat something I can’t handle.

@Atwan82837

Жыл бұрын

@@Ms421twilightgirl eh, you get used to it and build your spice tolerance. I grew up broke and always ate what my mom made because we couldn't afford to waste food. If you are seriously experiencing hunger, you will eat. Only people who have gone really hungry will truly understand the value all of the meals that they are blessed with

@Ms421twilightgirl

Жыл бұрын

@@Atwan82837 i could build my capsaicin tolerance, however I usually find hot sauce masks bland tasting food. If the food depends on the hot sauce is it then good food? I like to taste food, not be in so much pain I can’t focus on anything else. Then there is the other issue with having a high tolerance with chile. As my grandparents got older, they noticed they couldn’t continue eating chile because it would cause them pain on their side. So now they eat food without their desired spice level and the food sucks because of it. As I have chosen to not take that route, I won’t miss what I don’t know and the years of pain to build a spice tolerance won’t go to waste.

I am a picky eater and because of the environment around food because of it, it creates an ED. I'm so grateful to parents like you for being able to be patient with your kids💜

@Onestruck

Жыл бұрын

This, my parents never tried to encourage me to eat, instead they created a fear around food causing me to develop ARFID

Exactly. My brother was a really picky eater and my parents did stuff like force him to eat stuff he didn't want until it grossed him out to the point of puking, or force him to sit at the table until he finished his plate. His pickiness was a control issue because we had a shitty abusive stepdad (who was a chef side-note). Once he got away from that he was basically borderline anorexic until he had the space and the control to experiment with food on his own. He's still picky now at 36, but he knows what he likes and what he's comfortable with. He's put on weight and he can have a meal in a restaurant with his family. *I* was not a picky eater, but that's because i had the opposite problem, i am an over-eater because food is the only comfort i had. The abuse i received around food was being called fat and lazy all the time. His nickname for me was "lardy". I would eat what was put in front of me with no fuss and i was STILL given abuse for it. So in the end we both have bad relationships with food (even now) and the abuse we received about it didn't "fix" us. Anyone who thinks or acts that way is an abuser. A healthy relationship with food is the only thing that will make a difference.

My daughter is a picky eater. Not because she never wants to try new food, it's because had bad food experience with her other family. I reintroduced those foods with her and she loved them. It's just it wasn't cooked to her liking.

Bro, thanks for not treating your kids like shit, my parents get so mad when I’m not hungry or I don’t like what they make for dinner cuz I’m a picky eater, once I wanted a quesadilla for dinner because I didn’t like the food my mom made and it made my dad so mad that he smashed our big box tv on to the ground. It was in like 2015 and my sister and I had one of those huge box shaped tvs in our room.

@unitymomentum

Жыл бұрын

That sounds like extraordinary tantrums to watch adults go through..

@stickysquad9914

Жыл бұрын

They did overreact, but also I do have some frustration towards picky eaters, especially when they refuse home cooked meals, because you’ll never know when and if it’s the last meal your mom or dad will cook for you, and you will regret it your whole life.

@hadez908

Жыл бұрын

To be fair when someone spends an entire day cooking for you and ask them for to make something else instead of making your own shit and making do the extra labor because you wanna be picky kinda makes you seem like a jerk

@shadowgacha3021

Жыл бұрын

@@stickysquad9914 I was 5 and she made grilled cheeses and canned tomato soup soooooooo, when I was younger I hated soup, she had the stove on and she was making something in a pan, she didn’t even really go out of her way to make it

@chloespades

Жыл бұрын

@@stickysquad9914 guilting someone into eating something they don't like won't fix anything 💀

As someone who was forced to eat something i hated until i threw up when i was a kid i appreciate how you deal with having a picky eater

@Audio_Snap816

4 ай бұрын

Here here 👏❤️

@Pixar_energy

4 ай бұрын

Same

@blesymathew6283

4 ай бұрын

Same

@ggcanada884

4 ай бұрын

Same

@roqaya1371

4 ай бұрын

Same here

God this is the best take I’ve ever heard on disciplining children.

As a picky eater myself mainly in terms of taste and texture (which my family often grows annoyed of), I really enjoy this sort of video! I have a strained relationship with food due to my upbringing and really hope that others treat their young picky eaters a bit better. We never asked to be picky and want to enjoy our food just as much anyone else, it’s just harder to find the foods we enjoy.

I was very picky growing up and didn’t need to be punished by my parents, I faced the consequences on my own: embarrassment at bday parties when I couldn’t eat anything they were serving, no options at restaurants, distress when my food was touching, etc. From those consequences I learned and began making the decision to try new foods as I became a teenager. Now as an adult I’ll eat just about anything. My parents neither forced nor coddled me, but instead just let me figure it out on my own

@imsimple379

8 ай бұрын

Ugh, not being able to eat food at social gatherings like parties is the worst. Everyone else gets to enjoy this random food that you find disgusting or just unappealing and they're all having a great time, but you're starving. It still happens to me and I absolutely loathe it, to the point where I'll just eat my own dinner/ lunch beforehand so I don't starve or have to wait until late in the night to eat.

@minacarel9487

7 ай бұрын

Unfortunately a lot of times many picky eaters can't even if they want to it's better that you find a way somehow

@ugnecibulskyte

7 ай бұрын

The food touching distress is so real😭

@GermanChocolateMoose

7 ай бұрын

Precisely. I HATE when specific foods touch. I can really tick me off. After an avocado touches my food, I especially don’t want it anymore. I just never liked avocado.

@ninjago_pjo

7 ай бұрын

@@imsimple379 ikr?? Everyone is on the sweet and spicy, savory, etc sides but Im here wishing I could enjoy those things like them!!