you know this story is real when a 52 y.o use words like electronics & machine

@ril_eyy

5 ай бұрын

LMFAOOO FR

@nereus2929

5 ай бұрын

Just the way it's written out, those incredibly well written stories have a different feel

@juliearmfield2634

5 ай бұрын

Hey are you making fun of us gen x'ers. 😂

@Gazzxy

2 ай бұрын

if this wasnt AI written or at least a bad fake ill eat my boots.. just the way its written seems off.

@cassandrapettiford6030

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂yep!😂😂

Soon as I heard she was pushing for open relationship and OP said no, I knew what was happening smdh

@TheShadowSentinel

5 ай бұрын

Because it's always the same.

Hate the fact that if the cheater is a woman, the dude still have to pay alimony or spousal support. like wtf?

@themurderbotfeed7688

5 ай бұрын

I dont understand? Cheating being a factor for alimony depends on state/country, not gender of the cheater. If a woman is rich and she divorces her cheating husband, she owes him alimony, same as if he is a SATD or has primary custody, that is increasingly common where I live tbh

@isekye

5 ай бұрын

@@themurderbotfeed7688 So then its safe to say, no matter who is in the right or wrong, the richer pays? Thats sad on the innocent regardless of money.

@themurderbotfeed7688

5 ай бұрын

@@isekye thats my understanding of it, at least in my country, (EU), probably different elsewhere but yes, richer pays and also, whoever doesnt have custody or has partial custody pays the main guardian, regardless of wealth. Ofc, payment amount is set by courts depending on income so its technically always “payable” (in this i personally disagree, it may be payable but leave the payer surviving on scraps, it depends, case by case basis ofc). Depending on place cheating can get u out of support, and if u have a prenup u can include a no support in case of cheating and other clauses, in which case that rules. But yeah, alimony is about children custody and wealth, not gender. Tbh courts have historically favored women for custody, but that is changing. I have a coworker that has primary custody of his 2 kids instead of his exwife cuz she is a geothermal engineer who travels for work all the time, so they are better with him in a stable home, she pays hefty alimony. So yeah, things are becoming fairer thankfully, although cheaters still exists unfortunately

@aurorethebore

5 ай бұрын

Some states are at fault so cheaters get nothing but what the betrayed spouse is willing to offer.

@Lykosas

5 ай бұрын

@@isekye No, the child caregiver gets paid. Whoever gets the kids gets the alimony, also if no kids involved, the spouse might still get alimony if they sacrificed their career for their relationship. If a man cheats, but he's a stay at home dad that has an interest of keeping the kids contrary to the wife. The cheating partner would either way get alimony, because of kids and no career.

Love how he put condition that in that year of break he can choose to pursue casual relationships, while she can't. That's one way to take back dignity and bring it to even terms.

@ianmoritzplatapino3684

5 ай бұрын

Nope, the only way to regain it is by divorcing her. He is staying because of the kids. Bad choice

@zoeb3573

5 ай бұрын

Not really. If he believes what she did was amoral, doing the same means he's decided to be amoral as well. It's his right to be petty, but there's not much dignity to be found there.

@rungeon83

5 ай бұрын

It's childish though and while it might hurt the wife, it will hurt the kids. Best thing todo is be honest, break up and be there for the kids while getting help In recovery, if you need payback or revenge then that's part of a bad personality trait that they could use as an excuse to cheat on you.

@arhael3594

5 ай бұрын

​@@zoeb3573 You are attributing arguments to OP he didn't make. He is hurt by betrayal, not by the fact that it's "immoral". Most people are not religious nuts upholding values for the sake of it, they do it because they feel like it. He laid out conditions that would make him feel better, plain and simple. Moreover, he gave those conditions, which means it requires her consent, which make it not anywhere comparable to what she did. And dignity there is. He will feel like a man after sleeping with other women and he will find it easier to forgive her, since he got to sleep with other people too. Or he will realize that he doesn't want to go back with her and will continue either casual relationships or find someone else. He took his agency back with intention to figure out what's best for him.

@arhael3594

5 ай бұрын

​@@rungeon83 Childish? Are you for real? The dude is 50. It will help him figure out, if he wants to get back with her. Chances are he will prefer hookups or find a new partner. It's the best way to get his agency and manhood back. And yes, it wil hurt her. And best part is that she will have to accept it without any complaints, if she wants any chance to get back with him. And that is not a bad personality by any merit. He gave her conditions, she accepted the terms, so it's on her. Her consent also means that it's not cheating, so you can't argue that he stooped to her level, not even close. He did what's best for him as he rightfully deserves in given situation. She could deal with sleeping with another men, she can deal with him sleeping with other women, she has no right to feel bad about it nor it makes him a bad person in the slightest.

If AP has any close ties with his Native side, tell him his Ancestors would, if they haven't already, turned their backs on him. That'll make sure he sings, actually tries to make up for his role, and never tries this with anyone else. Bonus points if you can find the Aunties. Rez Aunties are RUTHLESS, and many times, I've found, on or off the rez, still ruthless asf. Tell them, and oh god. That man will never know peace in this life without moving where literally no one (and even then, not a safe bet) knows his name.

Why do I get the feeling that OP is walking into another trap? Cheating is point of no return. She will cheat on him again.

@VerniasAugoeides

2 ай бұрын

Not all cheaters cheat again. There's a massive distinction between someone who cheats once or with one AP vs. a serial cheater. It's on the cheatee to figure out if a relationship can be fixed or not

@vicchavez007

2 ай бұрын

Lmao EA and PA lasted more than 18 months and statistics show cheaters cheat 7/10 times again so...

Normally, I am more upset at a cheater than their AP, but in this case, it is the opposite.

Bringing someone else into the relationship? Yeah, no way she's not already cheating on OP with him, even if just emotionally.

I don't know why, but with the way the AP was described, I'm reminded of John Redcorn.

Competitive Home-wrecking is insane

he wrote this like "eugene from the walking dead" is talking.

And this is exactly why you don't have close friends of the opposite sex that you spend a lot of alone time with when you are in a committed relationship. If you don't have clear boundaries then it's too easy for boundaries to get blurred and bad choices happen

@JoelXl-zc4rp

5 ай бұрын

I agree.

She cheated. She should be giving him money. In my opinion he should dangle the idea of getting back together after the divorce if she doesn’t ask for alimony

If your s/o asks for a 3rd ask them for a another see how they respond

Too bad he didn't have alienation of affection laws or marital neglect claims to get compensation from the AP to have him charged in court for emotional trauma and if any of his expenses were used without his knowledge.

I'm still waiting for a story (even if it's a fic), in which the betrayed partner decides to infect the other with AIDS (idk how, but) and watches everything fall apart 😂. (I know it's a bit psychopathic, but it would be an insane story).😂

@eliterun6214

5 ай бұрын

nothing like committing a felony to help your cause in divorce court

@erilowl

5 ай бұрын

@@eliterun6214 as I Said It can be a Fictional (as it is a little over behavior 😂). And a saying from Brazil for you: "It's only a crime if you get caught" 😂 Who gonna discover that, probably they would think that the affair passed AIDS to each other 😂 since in the most cases the partner stop having intimacy with the Partner 😂 while having a affair, even are cases of multiple affairs.

Basically got sold on being cheated on. File for divorce and a law suit against the AP for sexual harassment especially since he has a pattern and then you can decide if you want to stay friendly or date her again.

AP doing this intentionally should be considered a crime.

Man hidding behind children welfare to avoid breaking up or to separate you kind a deserve this and keep on find your flaws entire lifetime

@adyashanayak7958

5 ай бұрын

Children's welfare is very important. Especially because there is a risk of parental alienation. Not to mention another reason of his was the huge amount of alimony he would have to pay (more than half of his paycheck). Because she was the primary caretaker, she would get the house and the child custody. There is a huge risk of parental alienation with her having child custody. Risks for that is high when op said that during her affair, their then minor teenage children had issues with their mom and if he would have left then, he could have been deemed the bad guy.

So dumb when the cheating victim feels responsible for affair.

The only problem I have with this story is that my TAXES WENT TO THIS GUY if true of course. Kudos to the counter intelligence training though.

Hello again, Telltales!

@Telltales.

5 ай бұрын

Hello there!

So she just kept boundary stomping and he just kept letting her. Soooo... he gets what he deserves. More than half his paycheck.. fuck family court.

Simp

How did the ap manipulate her when the ws was the one who approached him?

I don’t understand all the acronyms

Talk to your wife. It could potentially save your marriage. Or not. So better pack your luggages.

@sababaratashvili8629

5 ай бұрын

Why would you want to save such marriage?

@TS-jm7jm

5 ай бұрын

the marraige was destroyed the moment she cheated

WTF WHERE'S THE DNA TEST?!...

@TS-jm7jm

5 ай бұрын

well, they're both white, the ap isnt, its not impossible but unlikely.

Oh my God there's soooo much useless yapping in this, bro just divorce her move on and for God sakes shut up already

What game is this? Minecraft?

@flamey69

5 ай бұрын

it is minecraft with some mods

@seracto

5 ай бұрын

@@flamey69 thank you

Here before the kids come yelling " First"

@isrln

5 ай бұрын

Inevitable

Im glad im asexual and hate getting to know new people this guy would of annoyed the hell out of me to the point i cussed him out for being creepy

I don’t think blaming the AP is fair….he was a single man. Even if he flirted with the wife, she should have said no. So tired of weak men blaming others for their wives.

@zoeb3573

5 ай бұрын

I hate when people blame the AP instead of holding their cheating partners accountable. You see it both in men and women and it never works out for them, because the cheating partner will keep doing it even if you somehow get rid of the current AP. But I guess it's easier to do this than to accept the person you love doesn't love you back.

@adyashanayak7958

5 ай бұрын

He did blame his wife tho. For her choice to cheat.

@DemonLucifer875

5 ай бұрын

Being single doesn't makes cheating with married women right and same applies on a women who cheats with married man

@JoelXl-zc4rp

5 ай бұрын

The dude still got involved with a MARRIED woman, that's no excuse at all.

Very subjective telling of the story. Only me, my feelings, my thoughts, my actions. Bordering on Narcissism.

@stevenmanson6720

5 ай бұрын

Yes cause he got cheated on

@DemonLucifer875

5 ай бұрын

So what do you expect i was man with flaws so my wife rather than communicating or divorcing me she decided to cheat on me😂🤣

@erilowl

5 ай бұрын

Aaaaa... how's supposed to him know how she feels? SHE DOESN'T SPEAK WITH HIM AND THAT'S THE F* WHOLE PROBLEM HERE😂 Environment Construction Interpretation 😂 you need that

Doesn’t matter it was her choice to cheat

Soon as a woman suggests an open relationship, you've already been in one unknowingly for half a year stirring another man's porridge 🥣