The amount of abuse these people are willing to go through in order to keep a cheating spouse that hates them will always baffles me "I want to tell my kids I tried" to do what, to teach them they should let their spouses cheat on them?

@deusdamnit

6 ай бұрын

Cheating isn't an unforgivable sin. It is possible to reconcile and even rebuild the relationship back to a strong, trusting place. It's just very difficult and requires the cheater to put in 100% of themselves to fixing the relationship. It's pretty rare that they will. But, a divorce can be incredibly traumatic for a kid. Especially if it comes out of nowhere. People in dedicated relationships rarely feel like they can just leave. There are a lot of emotions and a lot of technicalities to sort through, especially when you have kids. And as a parent, your kids always come first. There's a reason a lot of abused women don't leave their husbands while there are children in the house. If they set the abuser off and he retaliates, there's no way of knowing who he might hurt. Sometimes it actually is just easier to suffer for 18 years and leave when the kids can get themselves away.

@un-kyejohn2968

6 ай бұрын

​@@deusdamnitfacts

@erilowl

6 ай бұрын

​​@@deusdamnitfacts But if someone cheat more than 1 time it's almost impossible to mend the relationship or the mind of the person... Here in Brazil there is a Comic Singer (The song lyrics are absurd) 😂, who says something about being a man and his gay experience 😂. But he's kind of philosophical in his musical jokes and reflections about the life (he's a old guy today and lives his life as a crazy man traveling the world). He says the first time you can do it out of curiosity and find out what you think. The second is to reassure you experience in the first time. The third is because you like it and there is no going back. He personally says he only tried it twice and hated it 😂. But this is also his criticism of the human mind in multiple situations, about addiction in situations that we ourselves create. For example, if a person cheats once, they will probably do it a second time to reaffirm the experience, after which they lose the shame and fear about it and do the third one... That's why it's so difficult to mend a relationship, the barriers and protections of the mind that prevent the person from committing such an act of betrayal no longer exist... So it becomes an internal war within the person, no longer a war of "this is wrong, and I can't." But rather a constant internal fight about the addiction and the temptation loop of betrayal in the person's mind, and they have to resist it and focus completely on repairing the relationship. That's why it's very common for people who cheat when discovered to do two things: 1- blaming the betrayed person for their lack of respect and self-control (verbal withdrawal because they do not want to deal with the addiction generated by themselves, just as someone who uses drugs does not accept having a problem with drugs.) 2- They say that the betrayed spouse can cheat to balance things, because in their mind it will be easier, as they think they will avoid having to deal with the mental struggle against betrayal. In the end, everything that is wrong releases a lot of dopamine and adrenaline, which is addictive. That's why relationships broken by betrayal depend on, as you said, a lot! Of willpower, self-awareness and self-control in addition to a lot of therapy as the mind goes will play tricks whenever he has the opportunity... A person without moral/mental barriers and a brain addicted to sensation is an unstable mix to deal with alone. Just remembering, I'm not complaining about your comment 😂. I just brought a little logic and reflection to the topic.

@andie938

6 ай бұрын

​@@deusdamnit But sometimes it depends, I've seen a lot of cases of children with parents that should divorce (friends, family, mine, etc.), even they realize and hopes for them to divorce. And if the parents comes to an agreement, the parents will still have an difficult and toxic relationship that will leave the children with a bad childhood. Still it depends on the specific context of what had happened with the couple.

@alwaysright3943

6 ай бұрын

@@deusdamnitTrying to salvage a relationship with a cheater is always a lost cause. It’s literally teaching tour children that holding the pieces of a broken relationship together is more important than their dignity. So it is actually unforgivable imo.

OP in story 1 is a Chad. I’m so glad he didn’t take or want back his cheating wife.

@juniormon7514

6 ай бұрын

This has to be Sarcasm , cause this weak doormat doesn't have any self worth

@Freelancer837

3 ай бұрын

Nah, at the beginning he was being super dumb, but luckily he came out on the right end still

Despite years in hospitality, catering more weddings than I can remember, I can't get my head around the insanity that weddings have become. They're mostly nothing more than an orgy of excess & accompanying waste of money, all for one day. Prior to Queen Victoria, people just wore their best clothes, had a nice feed & a piss-up, then off they went. The ridiculous obsession with wearing white, the blatant money grab that so many modern weddings have become, the debts, the loss of friendships, the food wastage, etc, etc, are just ridiculous & obscene. Everyone needs to calm their tits, relax & just have a fun time with their nearest & dearest.

@dravenocklost4253

6 ай бұрын

Amen. In a deeper sense, marriages used to mean something way more pure. Just like the west's view of "love" has been downtrodden to borderline "sex" and vice, marriages are now viewed as a chain sadly. What are you gonna gain in 20 years of hoing yourself out? Seriously? A new partner every week? It's freaking gross. Sure, you can argue it's fun but so is eating, till you get obese. View it as the same thing and you can see my point. Parents need to teach their children to try and view things in 5 years or longer, because way too many are ruining their lives before they hit 26. Ffs

@kingthe13

5 ай бұрын

Those wedding shows didn't help ether ever see those they might not all be bad but the American ones are the worst like most stuff in that kind of media it relies on drama and excess.

"From the streets did she emerge and to the streets she will return. And i say unto you, she is for the streets. So be not weary when she must return from whence she came."

If you think there is no shame in that, you can not call yourself "traditional". (Story 2)

@thierryntoh24

5 ай бұрын

I was about to say the same. No traditional person would be okay with promiscuity and pornography.

@emiliopalomo5124

3 ай бұрын

Who cares

@thierryntoh24

3 ай бұрын

@@emiliopalomo5124 sane people.

Of course the 2nd story is about other things and that this wasn't even an issue in the story, but I don't know about the idea of proposing before living together. That just seems kind of odd. Shouldn't you live together for some time with your partner to see if you're compatible on a day-to-day basis? I could definitely imagine a scenario where someone may bring their best for when they're going out/socialising, but be extremely lazy at home. If you only saw their best traits in the limited time you spend with them, you'd have a very positive outlook on them, but if you learned more about them by spending significantly more time with them, it could change your perception for better or worse.

@calebkerby2581

6 ай бұрын

Statistically people who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate.

He should check if kids are his.

Story 1, good on you. My brother, a narcissist and really good looking guy and also one of the biggest doormat also, left his wife after she cheated on him…3x’s…idiot.

17:47 "There's no shame in having these accounts" Aaaaand you lost me, that's exactly the reason why you fucked up. Online prostitution is as shameful and wrong as real life prostitution.

@kingthe13

5 ай бұрын

There's nothing shameful about it as a job doing it behind your lovers back on the other hand that's shameful. Not a fan of it personally but that's probably more cause I don't have the legs for it jk

@hannes5437

5 ай бұрын

@@kingthe13 Selling your body (male and female) is wrong and shameful, same is just whoring around.

@hannes5437

3 ай бұрын

@@kingthe13 Everything about being a whore is shameful.

"So... do you have any advice? You see... so do you have any advice? That's basically everything I have to say. So do you have any advice? You see, this isnt a rant. So do you have any advice? Because i could really use it. So do you have any advice?" Yes, after asking the question at the end, let people answer

Definitely before finalizing divorce look into alienation of affection laws in the state you live in and see if its possible for compensation from AP(s) for emotional trauma and expenses they might have received with your money used from the infidelity with ex-spouse.

Story 1 to update 1 makes sense then the rest of the updates are the same please skip to story 2 as it is just oo what do I do while I have her here every update past 1.

Op you need a vacation like cruise to make new memories take pictures while on there and place around the house

What happened to your second channel sorstory? Its not visible anymore

prior to initiating the WHAT?!

Can you put something in the title when you're reposting a story? The first you've done before.

Story 1: A repost that’s worded differently?

Up Sounds so weak And passive

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I heard being first gets u pinned but that might be false

@ultrusans6114

6 ай бұрын

Get this guy pinned

@holyroman6541

6 ай бұрын

That has never been correct around here

@un-kyejohn2968

6 ай бұрын

Why did you ever think that😂

Any "man" that attempts reconciliation with a cheater deserves to get cheated on!

@kingthe13

5 ай бұрын

That's a stupid take and did you forget he said he only tried so he could say he tried he knew full well she'd not stop and she'd didn't so he gave up after that

@redguy2312

5 ай бұрын

@@kingthe13 If you try reconciliation with a cheater you deserve to get cheated on. Like, can you not read???

@kingthe13

5 ай бұрын

@@redguy2312 I can and your wrong no one deserves it

Naw. He deserved to get cheated on. That's what he gets for trying to reconcile.

@randompersonnobodyknowsroa7116

6 ай бұрын

👎

@dominonine

6 ай бұрын

That's an L take my guy.

@nicknitro86

6 ай бұрын

Trying to reconcile with a cheater just says you didn't learn your lesson the first time. So I don't feel sympathy.

@dominonine

6 ай бұрын

@nicknitro86 , that doesn't mean that he deserved to be cheated on. Also, did you watch the video? He wasn't cheated on twice. He was cheated on and tried to reconcile for all of about five minutes before giving up. He didn't actually get cheated on twice there he just gave a half-hearted attempt at reconciliation, so with the context of the story, it just sounds like you're saying he deserved to get cheated on. Even if that's not what you meant, someone trying to fix their relationship doesn't deserve to get cheated on and that's not a nice way to view people.

@nicknitro86

6 ай бұрын

Yes I watched the damn video. He did not learn after he got cheated on. You reconcile with a cheater to stay in a dead marriage then you deserve the consequences.