Sorry about the audio quality. Y'all know I like to yell. 😂

@cannibalisticrequiem

Жыл бұрын

You're good, girl! It's not yelling, it's impassioned speaking!

@IdaBwildin

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ #KimisThatGurlPeriodt

@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess

Жыл бұрын

​@@cannibalisticrequiem absolutely

@suezcontours6653

Жыл бұрын

STOP TALKING ABOUT COLORISM

@juketolson

Жыл бұрын

A black woman lecturing me about colorism and texturism with a white womans hair on her head...I'm not going to listen to you until you start leading by example

This is because people don't want to really talk about colorism. They just want to talk about dating preferences.

@YouTuberOnlineNow

Жыл бұрын

“Preferences”

@staysunny170

Жыл бұрын

"Preferences" are rooted in colorism.

@ebonyevaughn

Жыл бұрын

And because they think their dating preferences gives them proximity to whiteness and makes them more like them and less like us.

@shreehill9641

Жыл бұрын

As seen in the comments on this video

@theman9048

Жыл бұрын

@@shreehill9641 exactly

Even with their preferences, they sometimes have daughters that look like them and think someone else's son isn't going to eventually treat them the same. All the while, the system continues to not be kind to darker skinned people.

@grandcanyon2

Жыл бұрын

You can't try to hold blk men emotionally hostage by bringing up daughters or little blk girls, the mating market does that care about feelings. You think a blk women is gonna say im not gonna date this tall good looking rich blk guy , because my brother is 5'3 and is ugly it would hurt hes feelings and self-esteem. You can't shame folks into picking people they don't want no amount of yelling colorism is gonna make a man date someone who he doesn't want.

they won't bc they get to use it against bw. and they are not about to give up what little true power they have against you

@cannibalisticrequiem

Жыл бұрын

I detect no lies here.

@blakmartianheretic3318

Жыл бұрын

Or maybe we just don't give a shit!

@em.415

Жыл бұрын

@@blakmartianheretic3318 Gave a sh!t enough to comment and watch this video.

@hazeljust7001

Жыл бұрын

@@blakmartianheretic3318 and that’s sad because it hurts you too… Did you not listen to the video you commented under?

@spectrestatus7110

Жыл бұрын

​@hazeljust7001 We deal with it though and there is no real solution to the racist justice system or police brutality. We are cooked.

I tried to have a colorism convo w/ a family member. I explained how it affects only dark skin people and it’s systematic and she proceeded to talk about being called stuck up for being light skin in high school 😒. I think everyone knows how damaging colorism is but when you benefit from it, it’s hard to call it out.

@justcallmebon2684

Жыл бұрын

She knows. She’s being purposely obtuse. -Signed a LSW with green eyes and lighter hair

@briolivia

Жыл бұрын

I'll never take away from others' experience.. but i think "benefit" is a strong word to use. Maybe its just me and the fact that i function in predominantly in white spaces most of the time...but racist non-black people still treat me like the black woman I am regardless of a lighter skin tone & looser hair. The only "benefit" has been being sexually objectified for no reason by BM.

@moonlightauras1

Жыл бұрын

@@briolivia The fact that you can function predominantly in white spaces is a privilege of your lighter skin. It's called 'white proximity' and it comes with a wide variety of benefits that darker skinned people can't even dream of having access to because they can't even get in the door. That doesn't negate the racism those white people perpetuate onto you, but that doesn't cancel out the exchange.

@misersmakeup-nguoihatien2316

Жыл бұрын

​@@briolivia white people can be both colorist & racist. Light skinned people of non-white races do benefit from being light-skinned. It's uncomfortable for you as a light skinned person to acknowledge that, but it's true. At some point you will have to see past your discomfort to realise that what your darker skinned siblings, parents, neighbours go through is much worse. I finally woke up when I realised that it's not enough that I brush aside all comments about how light skinned & beautiful I am, because it is ALWAYS followed by comments about how dark my siblings is. When I walk into their bathroom and realise every lotion and cream they own advertise a "skin lightening" effect. And they wear a foundation that around my shade and say it's their match. And it gets worse. I have walked into other women's bathroom, and smelled ammonia from tubs of skin bleach. The numbers don't lie either, it's not an isolated personal experience. Skin bleaching and skin lightening/ brightening (new euphemisms) products have the highest sales on many e-commerce platforms I use. Almost every spa in my country offer skin bleaching in other prettier names, but ultimately its the same goals. Some older skin bleaching ingredients, like glutathione, are making a comeback, once the scandals have faded a little from people's memories. So here's from another light skinned person, we DO benefit, and are spared from the real harms caused by colourism that hurt darker skinned people every day.

@em.415

Жыл бұрын

@@briolivia You suffer from racism not colorism.

😂 for a woman who does not go to church, you sure can articulate like the best of those prosperity preachers. Preach Kim. It affects all of us.

Facts because children crying about being bullied because they're dark skinned aren't crying because people don't see them as desirable bffr and think

A lot of DSM take pride in being seen as more aggressive or masculine. I never thought those jokes about light skin being feminine was funny.

@commentpoliceofficer7991

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@t.p.m.414

29 күн бұрын

Whenever you hear "light skin men are feminine" jokes it's secretly saying "dark skinned women are masculine."

You always raise the unpopular but important points. Colorism is literally killing black men but they can still lean into it when it comes to women because prioritising their penises means more to them than life, and I don’t mean this just figuratively. These are painful discussions, even for women to have, about why they see certain shades of black men especially when combined with muscles, stoicism and other performative markers of hegemonic masculinity, more attractive than others. Let’s not even talk about how queer black men lean into this particular brand of fetishization and dehumanisation in the way they relate to queer white men. It’s is a lot!

Ni***'s don't be thinking that far about it, which is sad and I'm a bm. 🤦🏾‍♂️

Honestly Kim you just ate them all up and left not one single crumb.

It actually makes perfect sense that black men don’t care about colorism. Black men have the same relationship with colorism that white women have with patriarchy. While patriarchy oppresses white women, it also protects them and affords them a certain amount of privilege and affluence. While the stereotypes about dark skin cause legal institutions to oppress black men and see them as more aggressive, it also portrays them as more masculine, manly and powerful and they are fetishized in a way they like. These ridiculous stereotypes help as much as they hurt in their eyes. So just like white women, they are consistently trying to play both sides of the fence.

@papamaehem

Жыл бұрын

Why should we care about what divesters want?

@nstar1372

Жыл бұрын

@@papamaehemthis is why you’ll never actually get anywhere in life.

@papamaehem

Жыл бұрын

@@nstar1372 I'm an Hvac Technician. I make 75k a yr, got a house, a mustang, a truck and me and my uncle got our own Motorcycle Business. Where exactly am I supposed to be going Love 🤔

@chisomo8088

Жыл бұрын

@@papamaehem material things don’t make up for lack of wisdom and this will keep showing up in your life’s decisions if you don’t adjust your thinking

@hellotcautiver

Жыл бұрын

@@chisomo8088 if what dude is saying is true then it sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders lol

“That’s how I know these n***@ are useless!” Literally made me LOL!

@jbell7105

Жыл бұрын

I was like 😮😮😮. 😂

It hurts as a black man knowing that this simple common sense that we're ALL negatively impacted by colorism is something that completely goes over the heads of black men that perpetuate said colorism.

@gregorywalker6802

Жыл бұрын

Sir, Please explain the Pew Research Study, CDC and NY Times study released in November '22 states that Black males ages 18-54 66% are middle class income earners which is the highest rates of any ethnicity in the US....... this study statistics show Black males between the ages of 30 and up are the largest group of millionaires in the US of any ethnicity in the US ?????

@yoyodre

Жыл бұрын

​@@gregorywalker6802Sir, explain what that has to do with what he just said?

@brandonburns5365

11 ай бұрын

​@@yoyodrecolorism doesn't effect men 😂. Especially with the examples she gave. You really think the courts is giving less time to light skinned men 😂😂😂😂

@yoyodre

11 ай бұрын

@@brandonburns5365 this is a stupid opinion. You should look up what you asked me, and edit it.

@brandonburns5365

11 ай бұрын

@@yoyodre give me a link to a study that says the justice system treat light skinned black men differently then dark skinned black men 😂. You probably never had experience with the courts saying something thinking something like this

They have to see it in its literal sense and affect them, directly. A good example is their actual genuine shock that the NBA draft consisted of mostly bi-racial and/or light-skinned men. Then they spoke up about "erasure." Without mentioning most of the fathers were black men. In essence, they would have to admit, they are responsible for the erasure that concerns them lol.

@yoyodre

Жыл бұрын

When you say genuine shock, what specifically are you referring to? Light skin and biracial basketball players have always existed, but if you're referring to something recent i would like to hear about it.

Colorism , featurism, and texturism is the RELIGION of many BM. Black MEN do not suffer from colorism, featurism, and texturism. They are the agitators, perpetrators, and beneficiaries of these forms of discrimination. BM suffer from matters that align with RACISM. If it makes some BW feel better to feign that they have some shared experience with the very "people" who NEED colorism.

@Afrolatina1

Жыл бұрын

Your comment is very refreshing and the exact reason why brown and darker skinned women date out faster, if they are affected by colorism/featurism and texturism. If your mate does not recognize the issues you have what do you even have in common except “racism” that’s not enough to thrive better. Other races sometimes even do a better job to understand your struggle (or don’t deny it). The women that do not experience colorism, featurism and texturism (or just experience one and not the other) will have more in common with ‘religion brothers’ since they have more of the same matters that interest them.

@melanatedthinking

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more

Someone must have seen a certain episode of proud family: louder and prouder because that episode reeked of the creators of the show not understanding how colorism actually affects woc and girls of color (nor understanding what interracial fetishism and objectification is). [That episode was messed up and showed how weak the creators of the show are when it comes to topics that affect women and girls. A lot of people did call out how bad that episode is, but I saw so many wrong takes from so many men and white people.]

Right!!! It's all a joke to them, and the ones that care get called simps for educating themselves. Smh

They suddenly cared during that NBA draft last year when all those black men pulled up with yt wives and all the prospects were lightskinned and only two was dark with black mothers and fathers “WERE BEING REPLACED” yeah black women was telling y’all this years ago but everyone has preferences right?

@spectrestatus7110

Жыл бұрын

That Twitter thread was a joke we made. Most of the prospects were full black

@armanisumter1225

Жыл бұрын

@@spectrestatus7110 sweetie I know that I’m talking about the live it wasn’t two black ones but the overwhelming majority were biracial

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

Жыл бұрын

​@@spectrestatus7110 They were actually mostly biracial.

Girl what? They’re the primary perpetrators bc they hate this blackness yall want them to love…are you ok? 🥴🤣

@merandasmith8052

Жыл бұрын

Black woman don't want black man to love blackness, you trying to lie about the situation. Black woman want black man to stop hating blackness. Who said anything about love, what video was that because it wasn't this one.

@MsMoneyonMyMind

Жыл бұрын

@@merandasmith8052 you’re just as delayed I see. Relax. Lol

I had to check my partner for saying colorism is universal and Black women were just upset and jealous and crying over sour grapes- I cut him off and told him the ideal black man was the rick fox type and to not be delusional. I told him colorism and colorist beauty standards absolutely apply to black men, and gave countless examples. Then the universe backed me up because the show we were watching touched on colorism and black men. He shut the hell up.

@commentpoliceofficer7991

Жыл бұрын

Lol you told him😂

@zaink.7243

Жыл бұрын

& he's still you're partner? you're a saint. & good for you for educating him! (even though you really shouldn't have to)

@Astr0629

Жыл бұрын

@@zaink.7243 yeah, it’s a real give and take sometimes. The good outweighs the bad. 🙄🙄🙄

@WillOrng

Жыл бұрын

This sounds like one of the many cases where removing discrimination feels like oppression to those who are privileged by and benefit from that discrimination.

@yoyodre

Жыл бұрын

If he meant that other communities experience colorism, that would objectively be true. But i can't understand how he would think colorism is universal AND think BW are jealous about it. Those ideas don't connect at all.

It is what it is. Society is brainwashed to think African is ugly.

I was on clubhouse one day and the topic of colorism was brought up and I noticed that some Black men mainly just see colorism as a black woman’s issue and all though they know it exists they rather just pretend that it’s not a real problem and gaslight black women when we bring it up. Many of them are colorist themselves against DSBW so they don’t care. Colorism also effects black men and women differently. We don’t have the same exact struggle just because we’re both dark skinned. Black men tend to get fetishized more for being dark skinned cause it’s associated with masculinity so they see that as an advantage where that’s not going to be a good thing for BW to be associated with masculinity. Most black men have no issue being fetishized since they think with their 🍆 anyway. They aren’t aware of the ways colorism can effect them outside of the dating world until they are blatantly faced with it or when their preference doesn’t prefer them, then that’s when they complain. They don’t even seem to realize they too are slowly being erased by the light skinned mixed boys they produce. Just look at the up an coming basketball players💁🏾‍♀️

@AltinaClarke

Жыл бұрын

I've heard a few of them admit that they're jealous of the 'light skinned guys with the green eyes' (that's always the description they use) so they retaliate by calling those men 'soft'. Purely because they've experienced those lighter-complected men being chosen over them by women (and girls when they were younger) every single time.

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414

Жыл бұрын

Colourism dosent affect men in sports pls take a seat

@commentpoliceofficer7991

Жыл бұрын

@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 lol that’s what you took from my entire mini essay. You need to go and take a seat. I said they are being erased. Black men in America have always been known as the top athletes in the NBA and NFL but in the near future it will be predominantly light skinned mixed men, period

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

​@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 everything the person below said AND the fact lightskinned black people (men and women) have been seen as more "intellectual " for decades making up most of higher education(I know because I have experience being one of few black people in academia with most of those black people being light skinned and/or biracial) but keep telling yourself it doesn't affect black men lol.

As the black man focuses on these things that are not gonna help to move the needle in the progress of Black people I have to know wonder if they like being part of the under class in the bottom of the barrel or better yet as long as black women feel less than them they’re OK Forget, trying to obtain proper equity within the greater society as long as that black women feel less than a black man and she feels terrible about herself. I guess that is Blackmans reparation.

@silkyslim2111

Жыл бұрын

If BW had self esteem , most of these men wouldn’t get xes , a home , or any of the stuff they enjoy . It’s pimping 101 - you need broken women to get that kind of admiration.

@em.415

Жыл бұрын

@@silkyslim2111 🎯

@papamaehem

Жыл бұрын

Shouldn't divesters be asking these questions to the white men they worship 🤔 its not black mens responsibility anymore to care about your feelings. Can't have it both ways

The only head they think with is dangling between their legs. Anything that challenges their preferred brain is derided as "SIGN" language, which is hilariously a self-own.

Some good points made Kim. I definitely care about colorism. I’m the same skin complexion as my mom. And I became conscious and learned to care about the issue when my mom told me stories about her experiences with colorism growing up.

@YouTuberOnlineNow

Жыл бұрын

Her name is Kim. Harriet is in reference to Harriet Tubman hence the “for” part

I’ve had black men tell me I was being a hater because I called out difference in treatment of LS women vs other skin tones.

@grandcanyon2

Жыл бұрын

Men are not gonna care, the same there is a different treatment women give broke and rich men, ugly and attractive, short and tall.

Sorry, but make all the videos you chose trying to make them see the error of their way. Black men know better. Black men have always known better. Black men will continue to be....in my opinion the biggest perpetrators of....Colorism, Feturism, and Texturism against bw. Because we, and I use WE, lightly, bw have been their biggest cheerleader by putting them and their looks on a pedestal. Also, look at how they walk around being dark skinned, large nosed, big lipoed, and kinky haired and have the Audacity to hold the same look against the women who birth them. Bm will ALWAYS be this way. There is no incentive to change. Their ww preferences like their look, the light skin bw like their look and so on. It's the dark skin bw who is not liked for her looks. Yet the dsbw still going around idolizing and supporting them!!!

@relationaldatabase6903

Жыл бұрын

Precisely, the way some BM literally LOOK speaks volumes as to why colorism is NEEDED by them as a tool to construct attractiveness as a symbolic concept as opposed to an aesthetic matter according to the very scale that they utilize. Configuring dark skin as somehow "masculine" benefits BM. Blk males NEED colorism. Blk males WANT colorism. Blk males feel as though they control and thrive within parameters of colorism. Without Blk males there is no power to colorism, colorism has no reference of its various empirical demonstrations with Blk males "proving" its supposed "points". Theres no opportunity to insinuate the "truths" that "validate" colorism with "see, look at the Blk males are doing/prefer!" DSBW are foolish not realize that colorism functions specifically against women.

You can't take most BM seriously.

Kim, when you were talking about how colorism affects black men, my first thought was about that video with Charlemagne the God, who was talking to Amara La Negra and him asking “if colorism was still an issue”….. it’s a bad example and also a good example of how black men have a tendency to engage in these conversations. I say it’s a bad example because Charlemagne tends to be a pretty vapid person publicly but also it’s not lost on me that he is a black man with a black male’s experience asking a black woman if colorism is still an issue in the community, which I’m still slightly shocked by because he was able to articulate a little bit of the issues surrounding it but he also said that we’ve overcome that because there are popular black celebrities that have dark skin, which is not a real life comparison and also all the people he name have publicly stated they have had issues with colorism in their career. 😒

“Anyways” 😂😂

I think it goes back to what you said about the people who are considered slightly above average will take every opportunity to shit on those slightly below them.

@WillOrng

Жыл бұрын

The relative pecking order tends to win over solidarity, sadly, divide and rule has a long history of working for the few against the many.

I love you Kimberly 😂 You be talkin yo stuff girl 💗💗💗

Colorism really doesn't affect men the same way because they can see dark skinned men succeeding, becoming famous and rich through things like sports and entertainment. The majority of A list black male actors are not light skinned. People don't care if an athlete has dark skin if he is an asset to a team and helps them win. I think men view race as having more power over them than their skin shade. Some dark skinned boys and men might get some teasing within the black community but I honestly don't believe white police officers or even teachers often give light skinned black males passes. Women have fought over dark skinned men. It's different for them and because colorism doesn't affect them in the same way, they don't see a reason to address it.

@Afrolatina1

Жыл бұрын

I agree for the full 100% BM do not experience the same colorism as black and brown women do.

@Liiinda4

Жыл бұрын

In terms of the criminal system, they definitely are affected with being sentenced more harshly than their lighter counterparts, etc. Pop culture is not an accurate barometer.

@Afrolatina1

Жыл бұрын

@@Liiinda4 let me rephrase that, it doesn’t seem like they feel they are affected by it. Because if they were they would make noise about it. Where are the podcasts about that?

@larissalaflore7202

Жыл бұрын

@@Liiinda4 In regards to the criminal justice system, if dark skinned black men are aware of differences in sentencing based on skin shade and choose to accept that that's on them. Apparently they don't see it as a big enough issue to speak about, or maybe they choose not to go against other groups of black men on public platforms. Are there any channels where there is a dark skinned black woman sharing a regular space with a light skinned black woman to discuss various subjects? Sherri Shepherd and Kim Whitley do have a podcast but I don't know all of the topics they've discussed.

@slickrick8046

Жыл бұрын

@@larissalaflore7202 Fact of the matter is men are under the burden of performance so colorism is pretty much a nonissue. Most women who complain about colorism are basically making the ugly girl argument or they just want to be white women.

Honety, some BM just permanently on that “hurt people hurt people” trip…..Whether they admit it or not, BM get disrespected everyday & everywhere. Unfortunately some BM have designated BW to be their punching bags to release their anger🙅🏽‍♀️

@WillOrng

Жыл бұрын

Abused people are more likely to abuse and kick down

Thank you.

As I listen to Kim discuss colorism in the entire community and effects I see BM in the comments make it about dating and BW playing victim for not being picked by them. I just don’t know how a they can be so vapid and maybe they are a lost cause idk

MISS MAMASSSSSS YOU EAT IN EVERY DISCUSSION!!!! I just found your content last night and I’m binge watching you as we speak !!!! Please give us some new content !! You spitting facts and WE need to hear it!!! Thank you for all you’re doing; such as using your platform to speak on issues I can’t put into words myself! We need more of this!

🗣 I agree 💯%!!

Agreed! Though it definitely sucks that an issue has to impact them for them to even consider caring about it. It's not enough to know that black women face these problems.

Thank u Kim!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

It was a literal study that showed dark skin men get stopped more by the police than light skin black men. The connotations associated with dark skin affect black men and women!🤦🏿‍♀️

They Useless AF !!!!!!!! #SpeakOnitttttttttt❤

I feel this 🌻

Yasss honey drops mic and pretty gurl walk off. Thank you for that exceptional read 🙏🏽 nothing but facts sadly this is the world we live in

Tbh let them continue to not care 😂😂😂 it's only hurting them 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ I won't come a-marching.

look how she ate dat. and in under 4 mins

Preach!!

This is so infuriating I don't have words.

Oh well, I have a right to not be concerned about it. Im a proud colorist

@merandasmith8052

Жыл бұрын

As a light skinned bw, I'm really happy your a proud colorist. You can focus all your energy on me. While I watch entertaining videos of the cops killing you. Knowing that, the content will keep coming because u care more about me, than yourself. Keep it up and don't loose focus on colorism, so more black man can die in the street without care and without justice. I think it's the perfect solution to the problem

*How is it many don't acknowledge the intelligence and educational levels of others?* All of those like that are illiterate. Men and women both. *I'm amazed at the subjects that's causing so much divisions in our society.*

I've got just one question. Why do you care if BM PREFER lighter women when you're wearing a white woman's hair?

@ForHarriet619

Жыл бұрын

Which white women do you know have kinky straight hair? Link to a picture please.

@sedefg6781

Жыл бұрын

@@ForHarriet619 which black woman have straight hair? Even the kinky straight hair? All I am seeing is straight hair which is a white woman's hair and you know it so well.

@sedefg6781

Жыл бұрын

@Pink Exodus its a white woman's hair. Accept or not. Black women are trying so hard to look like us.

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

​@@sedefg6781anyone can rock straight hair, it's called a flat iron. her point is that white woman with straight hair don't have the same texture as the straight hair she is wearing. Nothing with switching up the look. Black women can wear their hair in a multitude of ways including BUT NOT LIMITED TO their natural hair. Also, she just pointed out how colorism goes beyond dating preferences yet here you are...

What would you like the balances with the dynamics others can luv. 16 shades of black from melanin rich to other than nation 2 naturally each 1 luv 1 what trust do you justly amongst equals joy factor?

In mating and dating colorism was a thing in the 1990s. Largely women being attracted to lighter skinned guys. This changed in the late 1990s as dark became the in thing. Today it has receeded.. Its not s big issue. If you are attractive you are attractive...Men are not tripping off of colorism. The other things mentioned regarding colorism really relate to racism. Not colorism. [police, rentals, mortgages. Hiring, etc] ..

I like sermonette Kim 😂

The ends of her hair made a ❤

Because they are colorists. And yes, they are small minded. Also noticing a new style of communication, it's giving manosphere.

@ForHarriet619

Жыл бұрын

The way y’all say this every time I cuss in a video. 😂

The Recommending Numbers have not abandoned you, they're just late.

Whew 🙌🏾🫰🏾

❤️

What do you propose. Do you know useful women? Do you know useful men? How will that merge in your sceme of things? Can you manage your emotions? Sometimes relationships manage to do what it do. Management skills are a must. Just y ca thought

I agree with the folks in the comments pointing out that “looking black “ is a detriment but also a privilege for some black men thinking about the rise of men who look like Michael and Jonathan in masculine roles in movies media and dating. Also think of recent memes poking fun at light skin men for being “effeminate “. If your priority is to be perceived as masculine by other men and especially white men so you can play on their field, leaning into super black features helps a bit. I’m excited to watch the whole video on P because I’m positive friend will get into this more

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

But micheal B and Jonathon are vrown skinned if not pretty light tho.

random but I love your necklace.

hi

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🦇

Get over it.....

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

Get over mass incarceration and don't expect black women to march on your behalf if you ever get unjustly shot by the cops then...

Yooo

It's usually the dark skinned people that mostly date out.

@stepahead5944

Жыл бұрын

Provided this is true, have you asked yourself why?

@jbell7105

Жыл бұрын

They tend to go where accepted for you colorism and self hatred sitting the black community

@machtrio3921

Жыл бұрын

@@stepahead5944 I know why better than most black people. It has nothing to do with the psychological issues that people think. Research Melanin, in particular the 2000 Noble Prize in Chemistry. Its actually about black people. Also see Carol Barnes' Melanin; The Chemical Key to Black Greatness. Everything people think they know is just a distraction.

@relationaldatabase6903

Жыл бұрын

@@machtrio3921 You have made reference to the research of others but you did not provide correlation that makes a response to the question you posed. Making reference to melanin as the determinant of causation for a broad spectrum of biologically derived advantages, does not explain why "dark skinned black people themselves 'date out' ". If you want to suggest that somehow, the melanin of these individuals is sought by those who lack it, you need to explain how the dark skinned black person is psychologically subverted and convinced to participate in the process of provision of the sought out. Perhaps the question ought to be , WHY do dark skinned blk people then willingly treat their sought out melanin as a very cheap, accessible resource?

@machtrio3921

Жыл бұрын

@@relationaldatabase6903 I made a statement, not a question. They (caucs) do not seek it they are afraid of what it can do. The whole not dating dark is a ploy to distract melanin people from learning about their own skin. The psychological aspects were inbred/introduced into many cultures around the world as not being attractive or having lower value in a dowery system. The underlining truths are the unknown reasons that validate the statement. What each melanin gifted individual in each society went through as a result of the "ploy" can only be exposed by them. When in all, it is bigger than a single individual and what we call colorism.

..............ANYWAYS 😇

USELESS 🎯🎯🎯

Men dont experience colorism tho😂. You really think the police or the courts care if where dark or light skinned 😂😂😂

I feel bad for anyone who takes this woman seriously,she out here worried about isms,what a joke.

As a relatively successful black man, I could care less about colorism, because there is a fundamental common factor and that is we are BLACK. Noone can appease everyone. Hear me...YT women were the primary clients of cosmetic surgery and tanning parlors trying to look darker and acquire the features black women were genetically BLESSED WITH. Why in the hell are blk women getting surgery when it's not your body or color that needs to change. It's your attitude and control over your emotions. Just review YOUR EPISODE. You see I find it fruitless to complain about something WE CANT CONTROL. I focus on refining the COMMON mental, behavioral and verbal capabilities the mass majority have, but only affluent people "PERFECT". I'm intolerant of victimization and I offer no loyalty to folly. I was born in the hood, but I'm not confined by it. I professionally HUSTLE UNTIL MY HATERS ASK IF IM HIRING. I walk in wisdom not weakness. I MUST BE WEIRD TO BE WEALTHY, SO SIGN ME UP CUZ IM DAMN SURE NOT GONNA BITCH ABOUT BEING POOR.❤

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

It's not about just being poor though. And is it wrong to point out that our people have exceptional systemic challenges that other races don't have to overcome while we try our best to overcome them though? And what does it mean when we don't do the most to promote our own image when white peopel have shamlessly promoted theirs for the longest time? Why must be be a slave to white supremacy? Addressing colorism helps us to combat that.

Colorism is a real issue, no doubt about that. But what if a man just feels you're just not cute, then what? Nothing to do with your skin or hair, you're just not as attractive as YOU think you are 🤷🏽‍♂️

@birdiewolf3497

Жыл бұрын

Lol then nothing. Also that person can still think they are as attractive as they want to think. Just like you don't need to adhere to their standards of attractiveness also means they don't have to adhere to yours.

@teddylong5823

Жыл бұрын

@birdiewolf3497 I agree with you, but at what point do we stop saying it's colorism when the man or men you want just don't find you attractive. (Not you specifically, but you get what I'm saying).

@birdiewolf3497

Жыл бұрын

@@teddylong5823 Idk when colorism stops being an issue in general? This feels like a dumb question or maybe I'm out of touch with the dating market because are women getting rejected and telling the men it's cause their colorist? Is this an interaction folks are having in real life? Are you telling people you think they are unattractive when you curve them? I don't really see the point of this question since it is about some random woman thinking the guys she likes are colorist because they rejected her. But she really is just "ugly." Idk block them, if they bothering you. You could also list of the physical characteristics that make them unattractive to you. I think that is a good exercise to think about what makes a person look unattractive to you.

🤣SMH

To get the black men you desire to listen to you, you're going to have to follow his lead. If not, he has options, and he can build what he desires with someone else. You can let pride tell you that's not true, but you're the ones complaining about what men won't do for you but will do for other races/cultures of women.

@InspirationalSurfboards-wk8mx

4 ай бұрын

Lol,you're hilarious

I'm confused. Are you new to earth?

Colorism is still a nuanced thing... I dated light skinned and dark skinned women... I ultimately married a darker skinned woman. Just a generation ago, the blk community had the highest marital rates of any disparate group in America (80-84%)... did blk men suddenly begin only picking light skinned blk women?

@hr9336

Жыл бұрын

They like to blame it on things they CANNOT control like hair texture and skin color and completely ignore what they CAN control like compliance and attitude. Anything that absolves then of accountability of why someone else was chosen.

@wokefromhome7389

Жыл бұрын

@@hr9336 compliance?

@hr9336

Жыл бұрын

@@wokefromhome7389 Yes.

@wokefromhome7389

Жыл бұрын

@@hr9336 what do you mean by compliance specifically? Situations of colorism can happen even if someone is compliant to social norms and expectations. It seems like a very black and white take to such a nuance social issue.

@hr9336

8 ай бұрын

@@KB-nz6bv I don’t know where you got that from. Skin color and hair texture have nothing to do with someone’s attitude.

I am afraid to watch your longer video. In over three minutes you avoided to point out the colorism with black men. Because from Detroit, St Louis, meeting people from different states and countries darker black men, majority of black men, are seen as better than the other shades. Yeah, biracials may have ups on them, yet they often look like theier white half or enough like it. And biracial men often end up with non black women. Most black men are super cocky, pretty much delusional about their experiences with other races because they get the flings (not me, super rejected. Went from piss colored to disgusting light brown color for what I have been told many times. ) So as long as the average black man is cool with sexually sharing the same non black women they can't possibly see an issue.

What men are doing this?? We all are under attack from the racism of this culture.. u are fired up!

@mjdrhd0318

Жыл бұрын

We discussed colorism in a wominist theology couse i took

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

​@@mjdrhd0318we are yes. But soem of use have it even worse than others and there is nothing wrong with addressing that. We need to fight white supremacy from all angles.

Men are not allowed to complain and if they do they are mocked for it.

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

Which is a problem. This is what feminism seeks to end as well.

Black men really don't pay rent. They live in Kimberly's head rent free. 😂😂.

CLICK BAIT!!!!!!

as a black man i'll say this....i pray to God that black men wake up and soon....because they'll know how cold this world is when black women are no longer next to them. and im already starting to see it. im scared af im ngl..... especially for me because i cant see myself with any other race of women.... i like the good parts of our culture and would like to preserve that.

The reason why black men mock y'all for talking about colorism is that y'all claim y'all are the only victims when many a black man including myself was labeled cute but “too dark” or black women never gave us the time of day growing up we get bashed for it while y'all get sympathy, empathy and get coddled colorism happens to both black men and women until we acknowledge that we can't have a real conversation about this………..

Black men don’t need to play victims when it comes to colorism because they primarily judged on what they can produce.

@relationaldatabase6903

Жыл бұрын

They tend to produce what precisely?

@yanrice2

Жыл бұрын

@@relationaldatabase6903 point missed

Black men would probably care more about colorism if black women didn't treat them like perpetual children who should always shut up and never speak on the subject. Light, dark, or anywhere in between, a black man venturing into the discussion on colorism is likely to be called a problematic supporter of misogynoir patriarchy, regardless of his stance on the subject or his own experiences. Expecting blind, unilateral, non-nuanced following from black men on any social concept is unrealistic and unproductive. But as usual, alot of feminists online are more interested in a retweetable moment than an actual dialogue with the very men they claim to want/need support from.

@merandasmith8052

Жыл бұрын

Saying colorism is wrong, is not hard. BW don't treat y'all like kids, y'all act like it, it seems. Y'all also get treated like dogs by the cops, how do you feel about that. The possibility you could get killed in the streets by a cop for a simple traffic stop gone wrong

Just leave the country.... You will complain until your hair is gray n nothing will change

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

Жыл бұрын

Colorism is worldwide...

@thefitG

Жыл бұрын

@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 I live in Ethiopia and that is not true.

@relationaldatabase6903

Жыл бұрын

100% correct. This is a futile matter.

I am a black man. Here’s the black male honest perspective on this issue: 1. We lookin for the women with fat assess and small waists who can twerk. 2. There is no #2 Yes, that’s right. This is the extent of the black male inner-workings and mating signals. To take it a step further, brown-skin and dark skin black women (the majority of black women) are the ones who poses these qualities on average. It’s almost a rarity for a true lightskin women to have an incredible athletic body and a fat ass, it’s usually the brown women and dark-skinned women. Anything outside of what I’ve just said is a total lie and unequivocal fabrication, a figment of your imagination and simply not true. I’ll take it a step further and let you in to the mind of a black man since you all are such experts on what we think: Women care about other women being pretty, this is extremely important to you all, it’s the primary quality you all covet and most other cultures of men as well, beauty in terms of the face. Not black men. When we see a beautiful woman we make sure she has the body we require and are disappointed and lose attraction for her immediately if she don’t got some kinda body and ass. We’ll take the 6 in the face with the 10 body over the 10 face with the 6 body, 90-95% of the time. So rare is the combination of 8-10 body with the 8-10 face that we aren’t afforded the luxury to include skin tone in our equation. Given your ridiculous colorist (racist) theory your saying that: Me as a black man with limited mating choices by way of being a man, would turn down the darkskin woman who’s a 10 in the body and 10 in the face for a lightskin woman who’s an 8 in the body and an 8 in the face you’ve lost your damn mind. If your saying that if there both tens all over and I’m choosing the light-skin woman due to my being a self hating racist, your reaching and insulting black men and turning chance and preference into something evil. Who are these men with access to, and choice of every perfect ten black woman in America, who can then discriminate as to skin color? Have you ever met a woman and got her number and began a romantic relationship with her? Are you aware of the difficulty and trial and error and serendipity involved in the entire enterprise. No man has it down to the snap of a finger and a white board whereby he just selects like the NFL draft. You can only chose from what’s available to you, what you see, what you run into, which women give you a look, or are in the line at the grocery store with you. You all are making a disingenuous argument that’s not rooted in reality or common since and doesn’t reflect the mechanisms of male mating ritual and selection. We runin down on any woman that’s kinda cute wita flat stomach and a fat ass. Ask ya brathas, ask yo male friends, ask ya cousins, they gone say “oh fasho”, “ in a heartbeat”. Sometimes, alota times we have no idea what we want or what we like, we’ll see a woman who doesn’t have any of the things we thought we wanted, and we’ll fall in love with that woman more intensely than any other woman we’ve ever dealt with, thus the magic that exists between men and women.

@grandcanyon2

Жыл бұрын

There not talking about the avg man there talking about the top 20 percent of men who either are above avg in terms of looks,status, or money. Those blk men have the choice and alot of blk women feel their being excluded by those men. They want the rights to be part of the top 20 percent of blk mens small harems under the guise of some racial loyalty .

You just proved their point. But you'll be a victim when those men give a rebuttal that you will then perceive as an "attack". The black community has been done since the 80s. Everyone is shouting into microphones and not being heard. Yourself included Ms. Harvard

@iateyursandwiches

5 ай бұрын

How did the prove their point exactly when she just spoke on how they are also badly affected, well who we are ALL badly affected in systemically overall.

It’s obvious that men can’t have preferences 😂

@camiba6773

Жыл бұрын

men can have preferences, you are free to marry whoever you want. it is the violence , harassment and the racism black men perpetrate against dark skin women because when you hate someone because of the color of their skin you want to do damage to them. best believe please put your energy to your preferences just leave us alone and tell your friends to do so as well.

@6ft130k

Жыл бұрын

@@camiba6773 last time I checked men can’t force relationships on women

@Aishyo

Жыл бұрын

3minutes and 50 seconds Went right over your head

@carmkizzle

Жыл бұрын

@@Aishyo you know they don’t have the range

@angechrisman1694

Жыл бұрын

@@camiba6773 Okay then but has Michael B Jordan EVER said or done something harmful or negative to black women or dark skinned women ? Because you said that there's no problem with dating outside of your race or dating a "preference" as long as you doesn't disrespect darker skinned women and black women as a whole in the process. But he is still getting called out for some reason. A lot of black women obviously seem to care regardless. Be honest

As a dark skinned black man I’m so happy I don’t have these chronic debilitating victim mindset. It’s actually nuts how much y’all want us to be afraid of the white boogey man.

@hr9336

Жыл бұрын

It’s very sad how much these women have invested in that victim mentality. A more attractive woman gets chosen and they want to create a whole movement to insulate themselves from the pain.

@hazeljust7001

Жыл бұрын

Yeah cause it’s easier to be afraid of black women who twerk and wear weave lol. Y’all are weak.

@pandapariah1075

Жыл бұрын

@H R WE have a victim mentality? This coming from a group of men who blame all their problems and failures on everybody else but themselves, lol. Nobody was saying that black men can't date lighter skinned women or women of other races, lol. Love is love, you date whomever you want to date. The problem with a good amount of black men (Especially dark skinned men), though, is that their "preference" for light skinned or mixed-race women doesn't usually come from a good place, and often comes from a place of self hate and they often look down upon darker skinned women because of it. They will often put down darker skinned women in order to uplift the women that they're with or have a "preference" for, and that's not cool. Stop playing dumb and gaslighting us just because we expose this toxic mindset that a lot of you guys have.

@hr9336

Жыл бұрын

@@pandapariah1075 LMAO….they’re “looking down” on women that are non-compliant and disagreeable. Maybe other races of women are more agreeable and compliant. That I’m not sure of. But I’m positive men have no problem with good looking DSBW that say YES more than NO and who speak softly more than yell and curse.😂

@ashley_p825

Жыл бұрын

Based Perry Your statement was very anti-black. White people say the same thing when black men complain about police brutality.

What about when women with long synthetic weaves and theatrical type that determines a lot.

@ForHarriet619

Жыл бұрын

baby, this weave costs more than your rent.

@red_delphino9858

Жыл бұрын

​@For Harriet, I was going to say that. 😅😂

@nizbet5707

Жыл бұрын

Syntax, my nigga. Damn.

@rebekahkingbello9560

Жыл бұрын

This is incoherent.

@kweenz600

Жыл бұрын

@@nizbet5707 🤣😂🤣

What's interesting is her extremely condescending tone towards black men and the intellect of black men. It sounds like you truly believe in your heart of hearts that you and black women in general are smarter than black men. If a black man spoke with the condescending and demeaning tone that you use against black women I'm sure you would have a problem. Why is it okay for you to talk down to black men but you have a problem when black men do the same to black women?

@melanatedthinking

Жыл бұрын

BM’s failure to comprehend the issues she talks about, once again proves their lack of foresight and intellect. You are literally erasing yourselves and silencing BW in the process when they speak out against it. Your favorite words: “bitter”, “haters..”z. I appreciate Harriet for raising awareness but this shit is exhausting and I’m just too old to care🤷🏾‍♀️. This curse will end once you’re done erasing yourselves.

@WillOrng

Жыл бұрын

Because men are more privileged than women across all other intersectionalities, I think.

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414

Жыл бұрын

@@WillOrng Cap

@dkt4377

8 ай бұрын

@@WillOrng The societies are far tougher on men than it ever has been on women.

Your conflating colorism with racism. You want bm to react to colorism as if they were women. And why do you even care about European beauty standards??

@in2blueoblivion

Жыл бұрын

Y’all are so daft. Look up the definition of colorism

@stepahead5944

Жыл бұрын

Yet people with your opinion want BW to embrace the same people, to march when racism (often tied with colorism) leads to another death, etc. How can care and advocacy only being expected in one direction?

@hazeljust7001

Жыл бұрын

Colorism is racism. The further you are from whiteness, the more intense your experience of racism is. You have a lot to learn Nick.

@nickjones3860

Жыл бұрын

@@hazeljust7001 colorism and racism are not the same.

@birdiewolf3497

Жыл бұрын

​@@nickjones3860No it literally is. Remember race is not real. It's fake bs made up by degenerate Europeans. So then you think about how was "race" constructed. And they othered us based on our skin tone and our features. But Kim's point is where you lie on the spectrum of the white/black binary impacts how you are treated. The closer you are to stereotypical blackness, the worse you get treated. The population of comparison she is using isn't white people. It is other black people.

Sit tight 😈

What happened to being Black Queens, Independent, Strong, Boss Chick ? Always playing the victim..... Black Girl Magic..... Smdh

@hebe4703

Жыл бұрын

''It's stupid for Black men not to care about colorism.'' That's the topic being discussed and this is your response. Yikes, I cannot imagine being this narrow-minded and vacuous. Such an oversimplified response to a complex topic that affects both men and women.

@YummyLix

Жыл бұрын

Black women can form the most logical, clear, message about a critical issue that impacts them and this is how black men respond. Black men are a lost cause.

@em.415

Жыл бұрын

What does that have to do with this video?

@LaLa_856

Жыл бұрын

So bringing awareness to colorism means we're playing victim? We're not allowed to call out what we see and experience on a daily basis? 😮

@gregorywalker6802

Жыл бұрын

@@LaLa_856 only talking points and no real solutions......