"I still wanna see black girls with big noses and braids" I feel you girl! Yessss because we exist! Don't forget about the dark skin AND that 4C kinky hair!! We need to see more of that please and thank you!

@lashaeleaf8842

5 жыл бұрын

Channing Chavous 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@cervr1

4 жыл бұрын

Channing Chavous, Well then let’s see it! Take the Wig off, and Weaves out of your hair, and start being more Natural.

@jonothandoeser

4 жыл бұрын

And even w/out surgery, the kind of bodies you see on popular IG models are from women who can spend HOURS a day exercising their glute muscles! It's basically their only JOB to have a big butt and thighs. *Women who live in the real world can't spend that kind of time in the gym doing squats and leg raises!!*

@Yung_ammo

4 жыл бұрын

Joe McAdoo 😃😃😃 bruh frfr!

@brittneydavis7846

4 жыл бұрын

@@jonothandoeser It doesnt matter if most women have the time to achieve the idea body type. Women in general should accept their unique image and aim to maximize their (potential(health, skills, intelligence, etc.)

Yes, these bodies have gotten out of control. And when people say, ‘These are black girl bodies.’ I would say most black women don’t have these super sexy perfect looking bodies. That can definitely cause self esteem issues because everyone expects black women to look like that. I’ve heard guys say, ‘I love black women’s curves’, as if all black women have the same type of body.

@TheDanster4

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you. As a slim/skinny Black girl, I've had (still have) self esteem issues for YEARS because of the ideal curvy body type in the Black community. I understand, people like what they like and that's fine, but sometimes I feel unattractive to Black men because of my kind of, lack of curves. (Which yes, I know I shouldn't base my worth off of male validation, but that's way easier said than done.)

@steff6146

5 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes!! skinny black girls exist. Fat black girls exist.

@mpauli12

5 жыл бұрын

So true! Black women come in all shapes and sizes. Non black women are accepted with their average shaped bodies. But if you’re a black woman then it’s like you HAVE to be this curvaceous bombshell to be special or get chose.

@stanfatou2002

5 жыл бұрын

Freaken annoying as a skinny black girl with small curves smh

@nkreseknowledge2241

5 жыл бұрын

Most??? I think most of them do, however there's a lot that don't.

Wishing ACTUAL HEALTH to black women of EVERY SHAPE & SIZE.

@Hfgv281

4 жыл бұрын

💕 this

@libbymills4432

4 жыл бұрын

Kind and WISE words. Thank you...

@sarahomotunde5067

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏿👏🏿

Black bodies became fashionable when white bodies appropriated them. (Kim kardshian). Deja vu or what?

@sierra750

5 жыл бұрын

💯💯

@rebecca4829

5 жыл бұрын

@@waduwadu2171 Those features you will find most on black women.

@10byrdie

5 жыл бұрын

Most black women I know do not have these shapes.

@waduwadu2171

5 жыл бұрын

AB same

@concretejungle550

5 жыл бұрын

CJ all facts

I read an interesting take on this the other week. This person said that beauty ideals, including body types, change according to class. It was fashionable to be fat at one point, because it was a symbol of wealth and looking skinny meant you were poor and malnourished. Skinny became the ideal when junk food became real cheap, and working class people started to pack on the pounds because fatty food was more affordable than a healthy, varied diet. Now, Instagram Fit is in because the lifestyle these women sell - the well-travelled, sponsored by Everybody And Their Mothers™️, having the means and time to spend hours in the gym or thousands at clinics - can only be attained by people with money. It definitely intersects, though, with the current fad of looking blackish/mixed race, as you've pointed out in previous videos.

@mpauli12

5 жыл бұрын

Sayoora wow that make sense!

@Belihoney

5 жыл бұрын

100% that's why you can usually guess what the next trend will be

@Lulu060986

5 жыл бұрын

Wow great point

@kimberlywinton9302

5 жыл бұрын

I was thinking this same thing!!! It seems to do with wealth/status....

@rachaelmaritim1653

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your response! Your comment is insightful I will like to dig deeper into your analysis.

Instagram is just an unhealthy place in general. I'm so glad I deleted that app in 2015.

@ShesGiftedAndProspering

5 жыл бұрын

Claire W sameeee. Ion got time for that

@dr.dermixgirlmd7479

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. I don’t mess with the ‘gram at all.

@sweethartia

5 жыл бұрын

Yup! I very rarely go on there. Only to like my friends pics and leave!

@BlendedBarbieDoll

5 жыл бұрын

Personally I just find it appealing. I still prefer Pinterest if I was to see fashion, beauty, home decor etc. IG is too filled with superficialities

@K7M80

5 жыл бұрын

It actually is based on your feed. Follow positive instagram users with pro body, history, travel and so forth. You only get what you like

There is nothing wrong with being slim and fit! I don’t understand why everyone wants to look the same.

@zuriis7632

5 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY 😣

@sarahgivens7182

5 жыл бұрын

True

@lacortneyfinch

5 жыл бұрын

its so gross. all you see now is bundles and booties and breast

@brooklynreine4710

5 жыл бұрын

lacortney finch and lashes & photoshop 😂

@libbymills4432

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr?! Sad commentary on today's society...

I have never been thick in life 🤷🏾‍♀️. I have always had a body that wasn’t ✌🏾Black ✌🏾. For years, I was envious and angry, watching comedians joke about how a black women is supposed to have a onion booty or when men on social media would always lead with the curvy body as what made black women unique. I hated hearing family members joke about my lack of a backside. Now that I’m twenty six years old... for the first time in life ....I finally love my body. I have days where I still feel insecure, but I don’t feel like I have to get surgery in order to get a man or love myself in general anymore. (Mind you, I was the girl who has done the research and seriously considered getting a bbl) I say all that to say that it’s NEVER been Instagram. Black people have always pressured petite black women or black women with no shape to feel less black as a result of their bodies. We have been conditioned for years to want to have a fat ass 🤷🏾‍♀️ Now there is an Internet to talk about our insecurities. That is the only difference.

@Snicklez89

5 жыл бұрын

YeahIGotNuthin agree with this wholeheartedly. I was you for a long time, i hated being skinny smh

@daisyflower1545

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed! My family has made fun of my skinny body since I was young. Being curvy has always been a black standard but it got worse for me when it became an IG standard. My friend started recommending IG models who were skinny and became thick to me. Other family members started giving me idea on how to become thick. But the truth is that I never hated being skinny. Maybe cause I'm also tall, I could see my image in the super models and pretend I was a model. Also being skinny attracts men who have money, even black men. I dont care to be catcalled and stared at on the streets by black men.

@YeahIGotNuthin

5 жыл бұрын

Aja Olokun well I’m short so I have a different experience with men. I don’t have a problem attracting them, it’s keeping them that is difficult 😭😂

@daisyflower1545

5 жыл бұрын

@@YeahIGotNuthin lmaooo 😭😭

@jasonbrown7299

5 жыл бұрын

Has a black male who is a lover of the "big ass" I have come to the understand that you should accept women for who they are. Which means what size, shape or body type you have we should all embrace who we are naturally. Love yourself how you was born and we need to educate ourselves both men and women.

it's weird because i follow gardening, architecture, farming and health channels. as a rule, i don't follow people who post lots of pics of themselves, their families, etc. so, my instagram feed is plants, beautiful buildings and healthy food and reinforcement. it's all about who/what you associate with - online or in real life.

@teneishabrown7218

5 жыл бұрын

Me too

@mindysmith5825

5 жыл бұрын

me too...that seems to be a healthy approach

@greenatlmom

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly, I'm into gardening, green living, small business info, quotes and motivational words or videos.

@PinaColobster

5 жыл бұрын

Right. I totally get the sentiment of this video and the problems addressed are indeed real, though Instagram as a photo-sharing platform offers much more than photos of body types. There are plants and nature pages like you mentioned.. even a decent size conmunity of people who make mini sculptures of everyday foods, things in the house. Speaking of foods, one of my favorite pages is of this woman who makes different random things out of cake! I've seen her post realistic looking burgers that are actually cake, and all sorts of cute things! Instagram is what you make of it

@venushibana

5 жыл бұрын

Would you mind giving some examples of these accounts you follow? I would really like to find some for myself.

Also, Instagram is taking away authenticity. Black people in every state had a strong subculture, now everyone doing everything damn near the same.

@ForHarriet619

5 жыл бұрын

this is an interesting point!

@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249

5 жыл бұрын

Monaedeezy Cultural diffusion will happen with or without social media. The only way to lessen it would be strict segregation lol

@23ahndra

5 жыл бұрын

Monaedeezy omg! This! I was just taking about this. I miss those regional dances and slangs.

@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249

5 жыл бұрын

Monaedeezy Well, there are black people around the world. Even if black American culture is blending into other American cultures, there’s still black people elsewhere that can innovate and stuff. Though I suppose a lot of non American black people do look to black Americans for certain trends

@memoir02

5 жыл бұрын

@Brittany FFF Yes! If I hear ONE more white person say "Spilling tea" on TV 😠

Eating disorders and body dysmorphia are prevalent in the black community, it’s just presented differently among black women. Black women are going in droves to get bbl’s and other cosmetics surgeries.

@vee2890

5 жыл бұрын

A Hall so true’

@moneymitchamp

4 жыл бұрын

A Hall as soon as me and my ex broke up 3 months later she told me she wanted her body done

@TheCritic9196

4 жыл бұрын

A Hall that’s because Narcissism also prevalent in many of these women, the crave to be centre of attention and to be worshipped is vanity

@alexish8183

4 жыл бұрын

OG Yoda ' I wouldn’t say narcissism per say, but insecurity. Many of us, black women, feel inadequate when we don’t fit the stereotypical curvy standard placed on us.

@moneymitchamp

4 жыл бұрын

A Hall my ex was definitely a narcissist. They also want to use the altered bodies to get a so called “ higher value man” and of course the attention that comes with it

I hate that even in the dark skin and body positive spaces the images are still heavily sexualised and posed in a way that accentuate features that sexualise the women. There's nothing wrong with a woman being sexual but it's almost as if that's the only way to have value or be beautiful, accepted and desirable. And it's disheartening to see girls as young as 7 following that trend

@natalyaakselaleksander4502

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Sadly even the "dark is beautiful" pages are filled with extremely curvy or model-like women with a ton of makeup, expensive/luxurious looks/life and the average black woman isn't like that! I feel like they just make things worse by posting women who are perfect in every way and happen to have dark/brown skin.

Regular fine is not enough anymore 😂

@MusicCrackhead

5 жыл бұрын

Mia Sionne lol ok, can’t even be regular cute. Gotta be BAD! Smh

@MsKala

5 жыл бұрын

Regular fine has never been enough.

@nezzylearns

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly you have to be perfect but society’s definition of perfect

@blazebaby89

5 жыл бұрын

Scientifically Sheila a definition which is literally unattainable without surgical augmentation 😬

@FlNGELFl

5 жыл бұрын

Yes every man for some reason thinks he deseves a supermodel even if he’s average

Definitely becoming caricature-ish...so not the natural black woman body.

@AnnoyingAsianWitch

5 жыл бұрын

Venus of Hottentot but photoshopped.

I love how she talks about how other women's beauty -artificial or otherwise- should not be threatening. Women do not exist to compete with one another.

@mrblackalchemist

4 жыл бұрын

Yes they do

@honeydrop7306

4 жыл бұрын

@@mrblackalchemist No we don't . Not everybody wants to compete

@EverythingHappens4AReason

4 жыл бұрын

mrblackalchemist they’re not ready for that truth chill 😂

@mrblackalchemist

4 жыл бұрын

@@EverythingHappens4AReason haha you right, I will chill

@godsamazing2090

4 жыл бұрын

@@mrblackalchemist She is saying we shouldn't exist to compete. That's why we all were made differently. Even though we shouldn't compete because we are different, some women do. That's just immaturity and if your a victim of it, grow up and you'll feel much better about yourself and know you didnt and dont have to compete! 😘

I deleted my Instagram over a year ago. Being married, I choose not to spend time staring at IG models. That’s me tho. To each is their own.

@ScaryToRemarry

3 жыл бұрын

Jerseygirl8999 m that is soooo true

@DejaLevette

3 жыл бұрын

You’re a king

@treeharrington7308

3 жыл бұрын

@Jerseygirl8999 m self control plays a big part in being in a secure and happy relationship!! Its so many same 🐟 🐠 in the sea you will know when you catch the right one!!

@queenapryllm8454

3 жыл бұрын

I think Instagram keep it food music anime I moved more more away social media it gets to u

@weruleyoudrool

3 жыл бұрын

Good going! I don’t trust most men with IG or Twitter personally.

👏🏿fashionova 👏🏿 clothes 👏🏿aren’t 👏🏿 even 👏🏿cute!!!!!!! SIS! 😩

@dimevixen06

5 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@truvy_5544

5 жыл бұрын

Most of that stuff you see on fashion Nova is on wish & AliExpress lol

@FitnessSweets

5 жыл бұрын

truvy _ It's just an organized version of AliExpress. AE is a fucking mess. That's why I go on SHEIN or Rainbow.

@jenkrash8122

4 жыл бұрын

why the claping? i dont understand. love from ISR

@jfaustin1742

4 жыл бұрын

Afrobelle 86 oop unpopular opinion . . They have some definite cute items especially bodcon dresses

Fashion Nova is Rainbow with an amazing marketing team and strategy.

@AngeliqueWinterPoppaea

5 жыл бұрын

Pretty much!!!

@chamab.6800

5 жыл бұрын

Facts

@chamab.6800

5 жыл бұрын

And people used to be low key be embarrassed to shop at stores like Rainbow.

@michellecastel8346

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

@Love25648

5 жыл бұрын

Facts

I think alot of ppl forget all these cosmetic procedures require MAINTENANCE and if you're not wealthy, maintenance will be costly or risk the health consequences

I deleted instagram because I was feeling bad. I was feeling bad from feeling like I was being left out every time I saw people hanging out without me, and I'd feel bad about not being fit enough, etc. I still have the account but I've disabled it, and I haven't been on it in quite a few months. I don't remember the last time I've used it.

@jrr7031

5 жыл бұрын

I think that's called fear of missing out, and I guess....like u said, it's a legit thing

@Mariah203

4 жыл бұрын

@@jrr7031 yup FOMO, i experience that too. It seems like everyone is out living their best lives and traveling and so on and it makes me feel like I'm missing out on something.

@marianz6947

3 жыл бұрын

Same I found myself comparing myself to other people. Smh comparing myself to people who pretend to be perfect all the time

@natalyaakselaleksander4502

3 жыл бұрын

Omsgh I feel you! Everyone seemed to be having a good time while I was stuck home reading and studying online! My close friends were even going out without me and I kinda felt bad. Even when I travel or go out, I don't take pictures because I'm not photogenic so my IG looks like I don't even do anything since I don't post anything. Anyway, I deleted mine too and have been quite peaceful ever since--not perfectly but surely.

@natalyaakselaleksander4502

3 жыл бұрын

@Roxie Moxie thank you for the encouragement. I sure hope so! Sometimes it seems like my parents don’t want me to have fun but my dad always says that good things will always be there. What is here today won’t be here tomorrow. And tomorrow something else will be there when you can actually afford it yourself without having to worry about school.

I’m a social scientist. Girllll I’m getting on this. My research is focused on Afro Latinos and mental health. This needs to be done too

@ShabbyTabernacle

5 жыл бұрын

I wanna know more about your research

@stanfatou2002

5 жыл бұрын

Ooo that sounds cool!

@YooTooLoB

5 жыл бұрын

We need more Afro Latino representation, you go girl!!

@alyeahm.3772

5 жыл бұрын

As a young afrolatina I’d be super interested in seeing your research one day

@boricua584

5 жыл бұрын

Buttercup ok buttercup lol

16 year old girl here I think gen z knows what "real" bodies look like, they just don't care

@Sad-iced-coffee

5 жыл бұрын

17 and I agree. They think modified bodies look better.

@deej5608

5 жыл бұрын

TRUTH. As long as it looks good so what. That's the attitude

@vroomlaine

5 жыл бұрын

@@deej5608 exactly I also think they (especially boys who watch a lot of porn) just expect people (mostly girls) to look good (to them). They don't care how that's achieved

@deej5608

5 жыл бұрын

@@vroomlaine EXACTLY or expect women to be this tiny one-size-fit-all idea in their head because of porn

@stanfatou2002

5 жыл бұрын

Right. Everybody wants cartoon figures smh

KZread is becoming infected as well. A new BBL story daily...😔

@tlunceford77

5 жыл бұрын

You not lying lol

@nowwhat1434

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao fact

@GlitzKai

4 жыл бұрын

Where is the lie? Lol

Black women LEAVE YOUR body alone. Don't fall for the weird science.. The most high didn't make any mistakes when he made you💜💜

I’ve noticed when thick became popular on mainstream media it became EXTREME. Cuz when it was just in urban media it wasn’t that crazy looking.

@saeon4427

5 жыл бұрын

It was normal looking cause the people who naturally have thick thighs and big butts are black , non black women can have it buts its rare for them so by going the surgical route in order to have its end up looking deformed and disproportionate that's why non black women aren't built for it, take a look at Kylie ,she looks disproportionate even Kim why cause its not their gentics

@symonelewis1690

5 жыл бұрын

I have seen many Black women who have super fake bodies on Instagram. Big butts with legs that look like loose cigarettes. Anorexic-looking waistlines with huge hips. Most Black women may have the genetics for it, but it isn't just non-Black women getting injections and implants.

@saeon4427

5 жыл бұрын

@@AngelBDivine most of these chicks look deformed, on IG I can immediately tell if a chick has gotten work done

@jmc5910

5 жыл бұрын

@@saeon4427 i think we are mixing up some instagram models with society, i dont see alot of non black women or regular black women with these gigantic ass , you don't even see them at regular strip clubs unless your in atlanta . everyone still isnt really into that look unless its a fetish

@jmc5910

5 жыл бұрын

@@symonelewis1690 the vast majority just may be black women but no one wants to admit it , the data is out there

I'm actually getting a counseling MA and i plan on doing my capstone on black women's representation. I'm actually making a video on detoxifying social media for this exact reason!

@ForHarriet619

5 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@PrincessRell09

5 жыл бұрын

This was my thesis too! I wish you well!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@mutedearthvirgo

5 жыл бұрын

PrincessRell09 ❤️ awesome!

@cicefashion4685

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you sis❤

@misacarter5721

5 жыл бұрын

38ktgold I’m subscribed to your channel if you post on KZread! 👍🏾🤗

The Chinese foot binding is a great reference. This is sad, and will impact black women in the long run.

It depends on who you follow. I follow home decor, minimalist, travel and natural health pages. Makes me happy.

@laurawinans8082

3 жыл бұрын

Yes girl me too!

@tobeornottobe9689

3 жыл бұрын

Why you watching this then?

@Amasowomwan

3 жыл бұрын

@@tobeornottobe9689 you don't educate yourself on things that don't directly impact you? Also as a Black woman, it's still good to know the potential ways Instagram could harm me, even if it's not currently happening

@swoosh3684

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I look at it for outfit inspiration, diy decor and the organic commmunity

@SJ-qf2tz

3 жыл бұрын

girl same, I follow mommy pages, vegan recipes and environment stuff. It really depends on what you are looking for

The butt injections situation was honestly so frightening and sad.

@libbymills4432

4 жыл бұрын

Yes...

Fashion Nova also steals from other designers and bite original high-end designers, how tacky.

@desi-likes-unicorns3214

5 жыл бұрын

Sister Sovereigntea a lot of the clothes they have are from rainbow store too

@jmc5910

5 жыл бұрын

what the hell is fashion Nova ?

@sistersovereigntea868

5 жыл бұрын

@@desi-likes-unicorns3214 LMAO

@sistersovereigntea868

5 жыл бұрын

@@jmc5910 well in my opinion...shit 😂

@reimourrpower9357

5 жыл бұрын

That is the fashion world, period. Welcome to Earth.

When your instagram feed is full of cats and you can't relate...

@carlw5360

3 жыл бұрын

Lol same it's full of art and drawing stuff. I didn't know that this stuff was going on.

@daniellee7969

3 жыл бұрын

Lol mine is food and creative arts

@nanaefuaneffie8328

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry are we related lol cats for life

@thefemininealchemist

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣 mine is full of BIRDs and Vegan recipes

@queeniebeanie3196

3 жыл бұрын

Mine is memes, art, and kpop😭

I'm a guy and noticed this myself. Social media has degraded society itself.

@oyinireland1561

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely

And you have a butt.. imagine being thin/athletic? Sometimes I don’t even feel black enough, like if your butt isn’t a certain proposition more than your waist you’re not considered black so black men/women attracted to women, will ignore tf out of you - or worst yet. Ridicule you. I had to toughen tf up and I regularly deleted all my social and use it sparingly when I do. Instagram is toxic.

@takishaedwards273

5 жыл бұрын

Girl I have the same problem. I don't have a butt at all and I struggle sometimes to call myself a black woman

@GDL364

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah me too. Now I’m focusing on becoming more fit and toned. It’s the other side of the spectrum that’s also trending, but it’s healthier to have fitness gains than surgery gains. Also you attract richer men as a thinner in shape woman.

@calendarqueen

5 жыл бұрын

Bibbi DaSilva story of my life!! It’s so true the ridicule is real. Especially when you’re the only black girl around... people comment like you’re broken! It’s so tragic :/

@nicococoa

5 жыл бұрын

Lunges, deadlifts, and hip thrusts with weight ...get your booty popping

@Smileyshanice

5 жыл бұрын

Girl same. I was asked by a black boy when I was in high school "how you gonna be fat with no ass???". I'm black and my mom didn't have a big booty either. She has long, toned, thin legs. I got a mixture of big thighs, long legs, and no ass. I've never been black enough either way 🤷‍♀️

I hope you mention too how pages slide into womens DMs under suspicious pretense of rappers needing 'models and dancers' but its really a trafficking scam👀

@MsEliteForever

5 жыл бұрын

Well if your a black woman.....and you fall for that scam knowing most rap artists want non black women....mmmm yea

@Itsme_1648

5 жыл бұрын

Health&Glitter good point.

@MsEliteForever

5 жыл бұрын

@@Itsme_1648 Im just saying...lol

@soulosoultv8803

5 жыл бұрын

@@MsEliteForever they don't call it "the cold hard truth" for nothing plus it makes logical sense but people tend to operate on anything except logic nowadays: emotion, impulse, carnal lust, etc.

@MsEliteForever

5 жыл бұрын

@fifi femi It is.

I’m in my 20s..Never downloaded instagram or Snapchat..living on social media is not my thing..I prefer to socialize in the real world off line and I don’t have time to compare myself to anyone

@carlw5360

3 жыл бұрын

I'm in my teens and I have instagram but I only follow and like art and drawing accounts, so that's the content that instagram is suggesting using their algorithm. If you don't want to see insta models then don't look them up or like their posts or follow them. It's simple.

@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2

3 жыл бұрын

Tiktok , I don’t have this **** in my life

This video really needs to go viral --- particularly among teens and twenty-somethings, it's a fantastic, concise and contemporary explanation of the commodification of the female form. Really well done!

@anuhassan5596

5 жыл бұрын

Hi I'm 16 and I just want to point out that our generation KNOWS that all these insta girls are fake and that social media presents a lie. We just don't care. In my generation if you let social media get to you, you are seen as weak and are ridiculed. We KNOW everything wrong with social media... but we just don't care?? I mean it's just social media. No offense but in this comment section I keep seeing people "deleting" and "shaming" Instagram but it really ain't that deep it's just some fun.

@nyanteea226

4 жыл бұрын

Anu Hassan I think it’s the opposite. Young people are more likely to participate without actually being critical about it Bc it’s been around their whole lives so you don’t see the generational effects. You all don’t see how it’s affecting you at all

My 17-year-old was disparaging her looks yesterday. I've discussed with her cutting back on social media, but I'm sharing this video and revisiting this conversation again.

@Tan87ful

5 жыл бұрын

ImJustLiving TheGoodLife 😂😂😂

@Jenna1394

5 жыл бұрын

ImJustLiving TheGoodLife We really were dusty, but we also had more in innocence and less exposure to social media and the internet on our phones.

@brittanynicole4370

5 жыл бұрын

God!! I hope things are better for her now!!

@FitnessSweets

5 жыл бұрын

Married folks should just reduce it in general, especially men. They contribute to the BS.

@phedreBiOn

3 жыл бұрын

Hope it goes well for both of you, and she feels heard in the end x

I was watching the movie The Players Club last night and noticed that back then Lisa Rae aka Diamond was considered “fine” back then. And today she would be considered skinny.

@ForHarriet619

5 жыл бұрын

Yep. Basically, anyone considered fine in movies from the 90s and 2000s is skinny in 2019.

@BlendedBarbieDoll

5 жыл бұрын

Mia Sionne great example. She’d be considered too skinny and not having enough ass.

@tionak

5 жыл бұрын

Right! AND they made a comment in the movie about her butt being big. Not today. Smh

@mpauli12

5 жыл бұрын

Teaira, First Of My Name and people thought she was so fine back then. She still has a nice body but it’s funny how times have changed.

@TheTeresamori

5 жыл бұрын

Mia Sionne I was watching Romeo must die and Aaliyah would not have been popular by today’s standards.

Social media is so scary. So many people's judgement, emotions and perspectives are heavily influenced through social media. It is so scary to see how bodies and mentality has changed so much in such a short amount of time.

@mahoganysoul7195

5 жыл бұрын

It's true , Ive been thinking about how the world was without social medias and I don't recall any of these issues that been evoking mental health issues ( depression aniexty ...) existing .... It's sad

True. My 16 year old daughter always talks about how lucky I am to be built like I am. She doesn't understand that "back in my day" my body wasn't celebrated (90s). Thinner and boyish figures were in style. Body types change and at 43 I know that. What are these girls and women going to do when this look isn't trending anymore?

@zinab2blessa

4 жыл бұрын

Yes that is the question. I think they will try and folkow the trend because the issue is bigger than just looks. It's very sad

I like how you brought up "do we even know what normal bodies look like any more." A few years ago I moved to Europe, and people here are way more comfortable with being naked than back in the US. If you go in the women's showers at a pool or gym, it will just be one room with taps on the wall - no stalls. It honestly helped me with my body image because you do see women of all shapes, sizes, ages, etc who are not ashamed to be naked. I realized I had not seen a single naked woman in real life - only in movies. So of course you will get a wrong idea of what women's bodies look like if you only see Hollywood stars. (Or Instagram bikini pics) But just being aware of the variety that is out there, helped me to accept myself.

@libbymills4432

4 жыл бұрын

I like this. Knowledge and understanding...

@v.v.9.9.

3 жыл бұрын

Oh boy I could never go to one of those, I don't want anyone to see me, nor see anyone. It gives me anxiety. But I absolutely understand your point, and I'm happy for you.

I can't stand it. As a musician with a "real face", it is impossible to live under these conditions, knowing that a natural face and body are not "in" anymore, and I have no chance. Do people really find fakeness attractive?

@catmo59

4 жыл бұрын

And voice

@caramelcocoa234

4 жыл бұрын

Ever watched the circle on netflix

TEACH WOMEN NOT TO CARE ABOUT BEAUTY SO MUCH. Teach women to resist the culture. Also, female competition existed looong before capitalism.

"I still wanna see black girls with big noses, big lips and braids" matches exactly how i feel

Yes Kim! Fashion Nova is TRASH and it does look like a strippers paradise. I always thought the clothes looked stripper-esque and poorly made!

@makampa

5 жыл бұрын

Moni Que W Thank you! I don’t get Fashion Nova at all.

@sweethartia

5 жыл бұрын

Poor quality, poor representation, poor customer service. Glad I never shopped there

@cherishoneal9108

5 жыл бұрын

You're not lying. Their clothes look like they're strictly going to the club.

@TheBlaqueLilly

5 жыл бұрын

I live in South Africa and I am not aware of any other sites that sells Fashion Nova jeans for pear shaped women. It's a very strippery clothing house but their jeans fit me better than what they sell here, so buy from them🤷🏽‍♀️😔😣

@gelitrippingkiddo5907

5 жыл бұрын

I know you don't have any foul intentions, but oblige me. Are you a stripper? Is it so despicable to be a stripper or dress like one? It's not your preference, and that's just as admirable as the antipodal vestiary ideal. Men and women alike seem to find offense in everything but it's perfectly okay to denigrate sex workers, even amongst communities as supportive as this one. "Stripperish" sounds vilifying and curl of the lip"ish." I'm a dancer myself, I'm 23 I've been working since 18. I just want to view these videos without feeling as though I ought to be embarrassed of my survival just because you find a piece of clothing tasteless. There's so much I despise about my industry-let us consider changing the working conditions so fewer innocent girls don't endure sexual abuse. I'm not angry, but I think it'd be lovely if we found a better vein to criticize fashion Nova or similar vendors. They promote something unhealthy and uncanny. I don't know what their labor practices are, but gosh I'm sure they're butcher shops. I dunno, language is ethereal in many ways-yet somehow so palpable and it can gurgle in your stomach like a virus or a pinned butterfly. I'm sorry for getting so tangential-but if we are going to be insistent on including and respecting everybody we could put the quill down and think about the implications and SPECIFIC situational use of the word as it pertains to the topic. I hope you're doing lovely and I do hope I didn't sound upset, I just wanted to go over this briefly.

I've been social media free for like 6-7 years and it feels great! Social media is TOXIC with unrealistic beauty ideals.Mental illness is on the rise and I know too many people who are suffering from body dysmorphia, depression,obsessive compulsive disorders, low self-esteem, etc. because they are feeling societal pressure to look a certain way. Many women/men are getting work done trying to look good for social media, as if real life doesn't matter. It's just all very sad and disturbing. Very excited for for your perspective!

@elevenfiftynine

5 жыл бұрын

Do you really think that KZread is not social media.

@moniquew3603

5 жыл бұрын

@@elevenfiftynine lmao you know it is definitely a form of social media, but, I dont feel like it is the same as Facebook, Snap Chat or Instagram. I come on here to learn different things ( hair, makeup, home decor, or to learn peoples sociological perspectives on different topics) definitely feel like I have more control on KZread and if KZread recommends something that I have no interest in, I can put not interested. I dont feel pressure to do anything or be anyone. That's what I like about KZread.

@elevenfiftynine

5 жыл бұрын

@Melanin Queen never did FB or IG. And have 2 reduce YT. It can consume too much time to. Imo.😊

@elevenfiftynine

5 жыл бұрын

@@moniquew3603 😊😊

@elevenfiftynine

5 жыл бұрын

@Melanin Queen I remember the past YT and loved it back then. Now it's all about the benjamins, trollon and collecting data on ppl. Don't get me started on what I deeply think about Google. A higher force than I needs to clean up everything. Deep bunkers will be no protection from Him, I believe.

I dont use social media because it negatively impacts my mental health and self esteem. Proud that we all are becoming more aware of this sham!

I unfollowed a lot of curvy black Women , had me thinking and plotting on getting the BBL ( I’m a women with no shape)... I find curvy woman in my circle tend to get more into relationships and attract attractive men that’s willing to do anythinggggggg !! I even find curvy women to be attractive , hips are everything!!! (I’m not even gay) I’m the chic within the circle that don’t receive much attention and tend to hear my girlfriends brag about the dates they’re going on. My self esteem has been shot and Instagram makes it worst ! Men do like women with curves , fellas let’s not even lie...they’d break they necks for women with curves.

@lexielondonn

4 жыл бұрын

Same here but I still get dates. Don't change to look like everybody else. I like to think my body is model type. Perfect for all clothes. Your Prince will come.

@trinityjohnson5226

3 жыл бұрын

I used to feel like this too, I'm 5'6 and about 110. No curves whatsoever. I wanted breast implants, BBL, all of that. But really, do you want a man who's going to break his neck every time a girl with curves walks by? I personally wouldn't want someone to just want me for my body cause there will always be someone prettier and curvier. It also helps to think of all the regular looking people in your life that are happy and in love with their partners. Everyone has different preferences. You don't have to attract EVERY man, what's meant for you will come. I notice it's been some time since you commented, but if you want to chat on insta or something, I'm here girl!

@1984Styles

3 жыл бұрын

@@trinityjohnson5226 hey thank you so much love ! Yes since then I had a different perception, actually I got the same perception as you now . My Instagram is @londonshara

And not to mention women are getting ribs broken in Mexico to have an unrealistically small waist. I believe Keyshia Ka’ oir had this done.

@ShesGiftedAndProspering

5 жыл бұрын

Mia Sionne u fr? That’s funny bc she’s always promoting her waist trainer 😭🤦🏾‍♀️ I thought she worked out to get her waist so small. Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

@Lulu060986

5 жыл бұрын

Mia Sionne omg what!

@msprettynurse83

5 жыл бұрын

@@ShesGiftedAndProspering girl no! She had ribs removed.

@pha2traore

5 жыл бұрын

@@ShesGiftedAndProspering alot of frauds selling dreams on Instagram.

@blazebaby89

5 жыл бұрын

That's really insane. Hello ladies, your ribs are there for a reason, there's squishy organs underneath 😞

It really pisses me off when influencers post "unretouched" photos to make them seem more relatable and act like reminding people they arent perfect is somehow progressive. No. Stop photoshopping yourself. Stop face tuning yourself. Being honest about being fake isnt the same as being "real" people will still see your fake images and still be influenced by them. The only way to stop these unrealistic expectations for women is to stop promoting them and most importantly STOP PERFORMING THEM. I've heard people say posting super edited images of themselves somehow makes them feel better about themselves and improves their self esteem but what about the people who see these images and start feeling shitty about themselves. People only think about themselves and not how other people will feel when they post something. It's a neverending cycle fueled by our individualistic nature.

@nicolesmith4371

5 жыл бұрын

flowercat “Being honest about being fake is not the same as being real” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽

@jamiedodson3402

4 жыл бұрын

Best comment ever 💜

@godsamazing2090

4 жыл бұрын

Great comment! Also, the only person they are truly fooling are themselves. Because, they know how they truly look without the photoshopping etc. Lol! I believe most ppl have it better than them because we live real lives in our own skin and social media really isnt that important. Honestly, we all need to put these damn phones down and get back to family. Then insecurities will diminish.

@Wokewitch666

3 жыл бұрын

I dont felt better. In the beginning i loved to Use filters cause i always looked great even without make up etc but after years i realized how i was feeling ugly if i made a normal picture without using filters. So i stopped using them so often cause u are destoying the picture u have from urself. U are not Looking like that. Also i don't wanted to participate in this fake game anymore. I dont want others feel Bad cause of fake pictures i dont want Meeting people who are not recognizing me cause I Look so diferent in the Real World.

I think the comment section is bad for black women because people literally attack and beat up black women for sport in the shaderoom comments.

And this is why I am thankful that I grew up during the 90s. Internet was just becoming a household thing and we didn't have social media in our faces 24/7.

@vee2890

5 жыл бұрын

Eli Castroverde correct.

@brooklynreine4710

5 жыл бұрын

Eli Castroverde great times

@NoName-zi9st

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I feel like us who grew up without it are far more grounded. We are realists, these kids coming up are pure fantasists. LOL

@b.alexisbeauty5013

4 жыл бұрын

Facts! Wonderful times

@tri3183

4 жыл бұрын

Remember when you'd wait almost two minutes for a page to fully load then someone picks up the phone and you'd be disconnected 😂

Great video, Kim! And SAME. it is insane, as a black woman who has been a "slim thick," naturally hourglass for my entire life, to get on IG and see bodies that are obviously plastic, and still take a hit to my self-esteem. Literally today I was walking down the street and thinking, "Damn, I really need to start doing squats." Anyway, thanks!

@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813

5 жыл бұрын

Lol why ? I feel lucky to have my shape naturally. I may feel my hips are a bit narrow but like this video says you have to remind yourself it’s fake. if you have a waist of 130lb woman You are not going to have the ass of a 200lb woman , which is why some of these bbl’s look freakishly unnatural. Ig doesn’t affect my self esteem because I follow tags and people I relate to if you only follow models then yea you’re bound to start feeling a type of way. 💕

@E_MZ_

5 жыл бұрын

IGuessIt’sOk YungRichBaby I mean yes it’s fake, and I am “lucky” if you will. But it’s still a weird mind trip that happens when you’re constantly exposed to those images even when you’re aware that it’s artificial. It’s not like i want to be that extreme. I am glad that Kim made this video and addressed the topic.

@saeon4427

5 жыл бұрын

Lol was it the women u were seeing on the road that made u think that or only social. Media

@Ikekel

5 жыл бұрын

@@saeon4427 lmao

@E_MZ_

5 жыл бұрын

@@saeon4427 no, I'm a day dreamer and my mind wanders a lot, so I was out and the thought crossed my mind. I'm sure I've internalized the things I've seen on social media at this point. If you think about it, social media (esp. instagram) provides this concentrated platform of beauty, artificial or not. So if you're taking in these images all day, it takes a concerted effort to not compare yourself even if you are naturally attractive. At least for me.

The only thing thats gets me with the "social media is negative/bad ideal" is the fact that people literally create their own feeds. What comes up on people's timeline correlates with what they already show interest in. I feel it'd be best to teach moderate to little social intake as well as appropriate following. The things that people see is based on an entire algorithm that does not take self-esteem into account so we as peers, parents, and/or guardians need to help teach others how to make their social media their safe place not a place that fuels an internal horror story.

@kyrathedestroyer_

5 жыл бұрын

GroovyTB thanks for saying this.

@gradientmapabuser9875

5 жыл бұрын

GroovyTB yeah insta models piss me off so i mainly follow art, political accs , ppl i know, and meme accs. i got sick of looking at them after 2.5 seconds

@michellecastel8346

5 жыл бұрын

Finally someone said this! You generally aren’t being forced to consume these images. My feed is filled with superhero, vegan and natural hair tutorial pages. It’s eclectic but it expresses my interests. Unfortunately, with this recent algorithm, you’re also seeing images based off of what the people you’re following are consuming which I think is unfair especially if (like me) you’re following a real life friend who is really into midwifery for example. 😂

@Myemotatic

5 жыл бұрын

@@gradientmapabuser9875 same I follow things that got my aesthetic and I haven't had a problem

@atmo85

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I see some of the types of posts she mentions in this video. But I mostly look at memes, my fave celebs, and art pages, so my explore page is composed mostly of those things.

Most of the social media is not good for black women, it's not just instagram......

@maddipage1347

3 жыл бұрын

I agree!

Thats why I dont use Insta, I refuse to accept that beauty is the be end and all of a black womans worth we are far greater than that.

I’m white and I think it’s so important to listen to black women. Thank you for using your platform to bring more attention to this issue.. I used to want a body like that. I feel like it’s an epidemic at this point because it’s not just getting surgery because it’s something you’ve always been insecure about.. this is a social issue and social media is the reason. I don’t follow any ig models, fashion nova, etc. It’s actually sad when you really think about it this way. This is sooo dangerous mentally and physically. I know that black women have it so much harder even though i’ll never understand what y’all go through..and what you said about the data and white researchers definitely makes sense. I’ve always been more attracted to bigger bodies but I remember when white women were sooooo afraid of having a “fat ass” Anyway.. this video was great and I love how you express your thoughts so clearly. Sorry for the paragraph!

@KITTIEKAT221

5 жыл бұрын

Devon Elizabeth yes girl!! I remember growing up watching all these white shows/movies where the white woman turns around and says “does this dress make my ass look fat?!?”

@dahliamacabre

5 жыл бұрын

KittieKat221* yup! it was a fear😂😂😂

@KITTIEKAT221

5 жыл бұрын

Devon Elizabeth lol!! And I could never understand why...bc in our black community it’s always been a good thing hahhaha...it’s so weird how that is

@girlwhomustnotbenamed4139

5 жыл бұрын

I'm from Europe so growing up I simply had no exposure to black culture whatsoever. In high school I danced and I remember our sorry asses were told to lose weight at 45 kgs. The first time I heard that big butts are considered a positive for black women was when social media exploded in my mid-to-late 20s, and it was such a shock. I really understood there and then it's all cultural and society can create a pressure out of anything.

@susanwright6168

3 жыл бұрын

You said everything I was going to say! Thank you for saying it so well.

We need to talk about the truth behind this: black women are doing this because they feel like they have little opportunities for success and love without it and in many cases, those feelings are validated by how they lives improve/change directly after surgery

@AwqCutie

5 жыл бұрын

An example is how people get on here and dog out the Clermont twins for their enhancements bit completely disregard the fact that their careers were stagnant as black models in the black community with their original bodies and faces

@NoName-zi9st

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think that is the truth though. That's is not the conversation that needs to be had. Many successful women do not even dream of this (think Michelle O, Oprah). This is more than that, this is narcissism to the highest degree, only a certain type of woman gets a BBL and that is attention whores. You don't get girls getting BBLs and minding their business, you get girls getting BBLs and posting multiple pics a day on social media and basically trying to get themselves noticed by anyone. Obviously these girls definite success as having a baller bf, attention, followers etc....but the attention is their main gratification as it feels their narcissism.

@NoName-zi9st

5 жыл бұрын

@@AwqCutie narcissism can be a dangerous mental illness, especially when it causes you to mutilate your body and put yourself at risk of death, so I think the conversation that people need to be talking about more is mental illness and how we can encourage mental health. People are acting like this kind of thing is normal when clearly it's not at all.

@monember2722

4 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-zi9st narcissism isn't mental illness it's conceit and pride and it is a sin. Sin has its consequences.

@NoName-zi9st

4 жыл бұрын

@@monember2722 can you read? I said *it can be* because if it is severe then it is classed as NPD which is a mental illness.

I am a white gay men from Spain, and Girl i learn so much from you! Thanks for all your content

Speaking of people not knowing what real bodies look like, I'm always astounded when people consider stretch marks as a "flaw." What?! You expect the human to grow and shrink without getting stretch marks?!

@user-lm9oo3ry8w

4 жыл бұрын

Right!🙌🏽

Gen z girl here. I could only tell a body was fake when it looked similar to niki since when I was young everyone would tell me how her body was fake. I can only distinguish fake bodies that aren’t overly extreme is from giveaways (legs don’t match the butt and stuff like that) that I learned online or irl. I truly think that if someone hadn’t told me what to look for I’d probably wouldn’t be able to tell the difference which is sad.

I make the conscious effort to not follow pages that market this unrealistic body type. I saw this coming a long time ago and did not want to be influenced by the insta models and fashion nova brigade. I stick to my natural hair and black positivity pages. I can't do this other stuff with folks WANTING to look like ants. Whyyy. I definitely need yall thats in psychology or social behavior fields to do so research cause I need answers lol. Also, it's even being advertised on youtube. I've gotten 3 ads since yesterday promoting a BBL surgeon in my area. 😑

to hear somebody laugh and say she don't know wtf was injected in her body is SCARY

"Do people even know what real bodies look like anymore?" That's a word!

I don't usually comment because I'm here to listen, and I enjoy your perspective. But I need to say this to any woman who thinks they want a big butt. I'm 36-29-47 naturally. All my body fat is disproportionately located in my butt and thighs. My back hurts all the time because it's permanently arched. My legs ache, and my hip joints have issues, even though I'm only 27. People comment on my body all the time, especially ignorant race-based nonsense about how a white girl got a black booty. It makes me so self-conscious. I understand that I'm supposedly the "ideal" for this brief moment, after decades of being mercilessly teased, and the moment will soon pass, but I'll still look like this. You don't want it. It's not worth it. Do not get ass implants!!

@mindysmith5825

5 жыл бұрын

Same...were you bullied for your body shape too?

@mirandapontarelli5485

5 жыл бұрын

@@mindysmith5825 absolutely! I was 7 the first time someone made fun of my big butt, and it's never stopped. People feel so entitled to approach me in public start talking about my butt. Men, women, black, white. I have started wearing really baggy clothing so people can't see my shape.

@ninagrace-lee8323

5 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry that happens to you! That’s awful

@mirandapontarelli5485

5 жыл бұрын

@@chloealexa5380 For one, I'm low income and don't have access to most forms of healthcare in the US, let alone cosmetic procedures. Even if I got liposuction, my body would eventually go back to its natural state. This is just how my body fat distributes itself.

@mindysmith5825

5 жыл бұрын

@@mirandapontarelli5485 Sorry to hear that. The same happened to me when I hit puberty. I was skinny but had a big butt and everyone made me feel self-conscious about it. Now I love it, but it was tough for a while being called fat because of the way I was shaped.

This channel has been lurking in my recommendations for a while and I’m SO GLAD I finally checked it out. Awesome video! Thank you for sharing your views with us. A more diverse Breadtube is a better Breadtube 🤘

@AddBowIfGirl

5 жыл бұрын

letthemeatwords; Leader of the Meatball Brigade Is “breadtube” a nickname for leftist-tube I’m unaware of?

@alienswillcomeAWC

5 жыл бұрын

Add Bow If Girl Yep!

Instagram is the reason that regular-degular black women can't get on in hip hop and get that tip top mainstream attention, but Cardi B who isn't even authentic can jump TO THE TOP OF THE GAME without even writing. But she has the aesthetic, so Noname will have to wait I guess 😫😔

“I’ve also been black my whole life, and I’ve been kinda thick since 2003” 😩 A word sis Not original deelish body 😂😂

Ayesha, Uchechi and Donovan are my absolute favorite on the Grapevine panel!

@antoinettebradley3793

5 жыл бұрын

Melanin Queen I can binge watched them all day!!!!!

Your analogy to foot binding is so spot on. It's so unnatural. Thanks for another great video.

I unplugged from a lot of social media due to anxiety and plummeting self-esteem, so I always implore ppl suffering to do the same. Ig wants to hide likes bc they want ppl to stay on ig. It’s not in their best interest to tell ppl to “take a break” bc once they do and realize how much better they feel, they wouldn’t likely return! I was talking about this with my bf when he reminded me of Nickelodeon’s “day of play” when the station was “off” for a day to encourage us to go outside! Like wow! Our attention really is unimaginably more valuable than we realize.

This was a well done video but it's kind of a typical analysis of this trend. As a black woman who doesn't have a butt, I wish more of these conversations included perspectives of women like me who are the main targets of these beauty ideals instead of black women who already have a shapely figure and just want to enhance. I struggle sometimes calling myself a black woman because I have never been shapely, so I understand 100% how these women feel. But again, analyses of this trend are always centered around "black women enhancing their curves" or people trying to emulate "black women's bodies" but what about us black women who don't have what is thought of as a typical black woman's body? What about those who get made fun of/ are ostracized/ invisible because of our lack of curves? I never really hear our perspectives. There is no space for us and plastic surgery gives us a space, not only to be visible in general but to also be visible to the black community as well. No black woman that is considered beautiful will ever look like me so plastic surgery gives me a means to be in the black community and to finally stop being the marginalized of the marginalized. It would be great if I could hear more people like me have these honest discussions and conduct these important analyses, but until then I'll still feel invisible. Representation matters in all forms

@LeratoM98

5 жыл бұрын

That's absolutely true. I feel you ❤

@Love25648

4 жыл бұрын

Not true at all skinny black women have way more dating options lol

@meme9924

3 жыл бұрын

So write a blog or make a video of your perspective. Since you experience this treatment of society and the black community, then you are one of the best people to talk about this issue.

i remember in high school, being obssess with video vixens bodies, and praying my body would look like that way. Now I just embrace what I have. Awkward shape and proud. ❤️

I'm also really interested to know how IG and social media affect gay men's self-esteem because now, I've mainly stopped using IG because I keep feeling bad seeing all of these guys look amazing and I don't look like that. Sometimes, I've wondered if I was the only one

@SuperMariposa91

4 жыл бұрын

Darius Rahmaan I was having this conversation with my gay friend, I was telling him that gay men are always portrayed as these beautiful put together men, the most handsome of all men. I hang out with him and his friends and they are all just regular with normal looking cheekbones and eye brows. I was really wondering how it affected them.

"I just am not at a place where I believe that the prosperity of a few justifies the suffering of many" Well said! I wish more people were like you. Your video is ON POINT. Instagram has become such a toxic platform and I feel worse about myself every time I use it. It's definitely an issue that needs to be addressed by more people.

Thank you for mentioning Nicki Minaj. A lot of people overseas (particularly Asian) seem to think she's an example of a natural, everyday black woman. I would counter that Rihanna is a better example :) EDIT: Overexercising is pretty popular all around. Low-carbohydrate, high-protein, lots of water and intense workouts (when you're barely taking in enough energy to keep up with your over-stressed mind, then adding additional stress to your body with 1-2 hour long weight & cardio intervals). CRAZY!

Instagram has completely changed, the way the algorithm works is you see the content you engage with the most . Personally I don’t use instagram for anything but my fashion blog. I I don’t ever see any of the kind of posts that you mentioned. So I think we also need to look at what we are consuming and what we are allowing ourselves to be exposed too. Instagram now days is a business, they only care about money. So they will show you content that they feel will keep you on the platform longer. What’s annoying is that black women have been curvy for centuries! But The Kardashian’s show off their curves and everyone wants to be curvy. Because let’s be honest, being curvy wasn’t a thing until they got attention for it, even in the black community.

@saeon4427

5 жыл бұрын

It was in Africa , we use the term.she has "shape" maybe not in ur own black community but it was in ours

@13ikea

5 жыл бұрын

I've cleared my search history numerous times and my explorer page, and those plastic body bikini photos still pop up. Smh I barely get on my personal page anymore.

@MelonBrews

5 жыл бұрын

@@13ikea Same issue. Doesn't matter what I do, it still plagues my page.

@Prettywins

5 жыл бұрын

dear black girl lol are you Kenyan ? I just translated the you have shape in our language and yeah we always say that 😂

@saeon4427

5 жыл бұрын

@@Prettywins no im Nigerian lol ever since I was young that's we call women who are curvy ,people even tell me that hey kemi u have shape

qotd: a white woman getting thick is not a threat to me. yyyyyyyassssssssssssss KIM!

@mxchic05

5 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@franslam7398

5 жыл бұрын

The sad thing is it's black men who will post pictures of thick white women and tell black women they should be worried and to step up their game as if the black man posting that nonsense is some kind of catch that black women need to 'do better' for. Please🙄 . That type of man ain't no damn prize but they keep trying it smh

@saeon4427

5 жыл бұрын

There's no thickness to white women.its fat

@asanwa3126

5 жыл бұрын

@@franslam7398 Then post pictures of rich White men and tell the black men to step up. 2 can play that game. Lol

@HampityHamp

5 жыл бұрын

Let her get thick. She will have the thick problems too. Especially from black men. Have at it honey!

I don't have a booty never did and my whole life growing up ppl felt the need to tell me and point out my little booty. It really traumatized me.

"we dont wanna look like taylor swift" "black women dont want to be skinny" uhh I beg to differ lol. i know its a generalization but I still personally prefer the body type of being skinny. and healthy. and realistic. i like taylor swift and ariana grandes physiques.

@anikadiamond007

5 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@ollDeadfishllo

3 жыл бұрын

I think by skinny, she means not curvy. So like slim hips.

Your content feels good for my mind. Intellectually stimulating.

I can’t be the only dark skinned black woman who prefers skinny? I noticed that I attract completely different types of men when I am a size 2/4. My mother is naturally petite and so am I. So as long as I keep my skinny figure, I attract men from a certain income bracket. My curvier friends attract s lot more attention but it’s usually over sexualized and very very creepy. These men (usually black and brown men) prefer curvy women, the larger the hip to waist ratio, the better. Anyone else have this observation? I think they both come with their own pressures. But I refuse to fight the current - I’d rather just go with the body type thats close to my own than aspire to curves I can NEVER achieve. It just wouldn’t look right on my body

@ellevaughan7180

5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you! I’m a tall curvy woman and although I do attract professional guys. I also attract ALOT of creeps smh. IMO woman should just stop being so hard on each other and ourselves. At the end of the day most men don’t even want a super “sexy” extra fine woman. They would much rather have a natural looking basic chick.

@Monaedeezy

5 жыл бұрын

Honestly I do agree about income bracket to physical shape. I always thought taller skinny women got the best picks for partners. A curvier woman is fetishized sexually . I always felt petite/tall fit/curvy women got better picks. I’m very curvy myself but honestly the attention I get from a lot man aren’t the best, a lot of bums (lol). A lot of times it’s lust. I observe the most handsome and educated men desire smaller or evenly framed women instead of a women with a huge bust/behind. That’s my honest observation. It may sound crazy to others.

@ninagrace-lee8323

5 жыл бұрын

Monaedeezy Nah I see what you mean and I agree. But my experience comes with its own problems. You don’t get that much attention, and mainstream beauty standards apply. So people do tend to prefer skinny women with European features. I’m a DSBW with thick nose and full lips so...not exactly fitting into that beauty standard. BUT those who find me attractive tend to be highly interested, so I guess the trash takes itself out. My partner now is non Black (shocking right? I’m being sarcastic btw) and he genuinely prefers thin women with larger breasts. So I guess everyone has to get in where they fit in *shrugs*

@jessicat2304

5 жыл бұрын

my goal is to be a size 4/6 again.

@GDL364

5 жыл бұрын

This is true. Not only just thin but actually being fit attracts better men.

I use IG for mostly business and laughs. But I do/did try to follow more positive afro centric/natural hair pages.. and I've noticed that you can't escape the outlandish bodies on the hair pages either. I try to follow black artists and it seems as though everything the artists draw and paint are shapely, busty women with big asses and wide hips too. My feed now is pretty much music and cake (I'm a baker) and it's less stressful to scroll down my TL. Now that explore page? Whew chillaayy that's a whole other story.

Social scientist here 🙋🏾. You made great points. Previous research examining the implications of media consumption on body image among Black Women found no (or lesser) relationships because mainstream media typically show bodies that are not idealized among Black Women. But since IG provides space for images omitted within mainstream media, the relationships may change.

Whenever I see the outrageous bodies I just think of Sarah Baartman. So many of my favorite youtubers have gotten BBLs and it was really getting to me. But between this channel and discovering Lizzo’s music, y’all keep me from succumbing to the new social standards of beauty 🙌🏾🙌🏾

@hellokittycutie2003

5 жыл бұрын

@@couleurful I believe it stands for Brazilian butt lift.

@itsbibifam

5 жыл бұрын

Yesss to Lizzo!!

@melissasmith6762

4 жыл бұрын

Lizzo can't sing.

This is so true. When I first began singing in high school, my talent was more valued and now, I really have to cater my IG to my image instead of my music and now, I’ve kinda become obsessed with my image and have even thought about the idea of plastic surgery. Ya girl is broke though sooo lol but I completely suffer through body dysmorphia just as any other woman out there. It’s become the new norm since social media has advanced

@ceecollette6708

5 жыл бұрын

I haven't looked it up, but I always wondered if that was part of the motivation behind H.E.R.'s mysterious persona in the beginning...I think that was a really creative way to put emphasis on talent vs having an ideal "image"

@AlexisSamone

5 жыл бұрын

Cee Cee it was. I’ve followed HER since she was on Maury as a child and she’s been signed to Alicia keys since she was like 12. She’s always had a young and phenotypically non desirable look and that made people over look her voice. I think people gave her a fair chance because they didn’t have the opportunity to judge her for her image first

@brittanyr1456

5 жыл бұрын

Alexis Samone Dang this hurts me to even know she had to go that route because she knew she wouldn’t be accepted if she showed her looks verses hiding her identity because of how society is today. I have Body Dysmorphia and it sucks. It limits who I am and want to be cause I know SO much emphasis is placed on what you look like 😔

@swaggkoolaid

4 жыл бұрын

As an artist I completely agree

I have been asking myself for a while what is wrong with natural bodies. Imagine teenage girls looking at this stuff we have to protect them from this. Looking at this stuff all day will definitely make someone feel insecure. I want to see natural black women of all shapes and sizes. They even make the trendy clothing to fit this fetishized body types so you won't look good in the clothes unless you have it.

@happylivesmatter95

4 жыл бұрын

Amazon_Queenn This is not a bw thing. So don't make it that.

@happylivesmatter95

4 жыл бұрын

Amazon_Queenn Its a thing for non black women.

I deactivated both my Instagram and Facebook because I felt self conscious beyond measure. Life has significantly improved. I only use Snapchat, but only to keep in touch with my closest friends.

@tiffanylarose5069

5 жыл бұрын

Same but I don't keep in touch with anyone except close friends. Social media is truly toxic. It feels great like a weight has been lifted of my shoulders since deactivating my accounts.

@tiffanylarose5069

5 жыл бұрын

Same. I don't keep in touch with anyone except my close friends. Social media is toxic and it feels great having that weight off my shoulders.

As a 90's baby, this video is ON POINT! Thanks for posting!😘

Sheesh! We were already struggling. Sucks that IG is making it worse. I am 40+ so I am not feeling this but I do get frustrated seeing all of the “my life is perfect “ posts from my age group.

it baffles me the amount of work she puts into these videos and then she barely cuts?!?! i'm a grad student and have to present so much i am so jealous of the way she presents all this information!!! how! thank you so much for all the work you're doing to make these videos. i think i learn a lot from them and i'm white and i think watching helps me be more fluent in addressing these topics. ur beautiful thank u

Butt injections are much older then 2012. They started in the trans community, moved into the stripper community, and then became more publicized and mainstream around 2012. Buffy the body was a stripper and got multiple rounds of butt shot injections.

@brooklynreine4710

5 жыл бұрын

KandyG TV false Buffy’s body is real. She even started a fitness channel years ago. She never had surgery.

@TeamYELLOW17

4 жыл бұрын

Please say this ! It started in the trans community...

@honeyandlemonsbebe

4 жыл бұрын

KandyG TV AND I THANK YOU...::

@ultravioletmix33

4 жыл бұрын

I think Buffy’s body is real, that what she says. According to her she was underweight, took a prescribed appetite stimulant, got too big, then toned up... she had a KZread channel talking about it and pictures to prove it.

@bigcheekkilla

4 жыл бұрын

Buffy's is real...ok...so is Kim's

Its not just about opportunity. Sometimes its about love. Even the good guys are attracted to curves. And if you dont have that booty, that tummy, that waist, they're not checking for you enough for you to get in the door and start developing relationships. Its not on purpose. Its brainwashing. So us regular girls are just stuck in singleness. i dont feel like I'm shaped like a woman, let alone a black woman most of the time bcuz of my skin tone and shape. Mix that with short 4c hair...makes dating difficult. Men want women, and if you dont fit the ideal, they dont see you as a woman, or desirable for that matter

@mindysmith5825

5 жыл бұрын

You're beautiful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise

Segmented Insect Thoraxes 😂 Oh No

I never had Twitter and deleted my Instagram over a year ago. I too noticed it was all about mixed women and foreign women showing off their bodies.I am also over many of the black rhetoric thats gained popularity on social media lately. I also find it ironic that I never meet Instagram baddies IRL nor ppl with these extreme ideas. I also have white and Asian friends who HARDLY ever post online, I think that it is telling. Instagram never made me feel good and only increased my anxiety.

Fashion nova and the bod ideal that their brand and clothes represent epitomizes the spread of these unrealistic standards in my opinion. As an inherently skinny asian woman it distances me from my femininity and definitely makes me feel unrepresented. Loved the video, first time watcher and now subscriber :)

I've always had a tenuous relationship with my own body image. Even at 40, and esp after childbirth, I've felt the gnawing effects of IG and these social media ideals. I think Jackie Aina touched on it in her last video, saying if you are dark, then you gotta be EXTRA curvy, greased up, etc. to be focused and pushed forward. I've never had a big butt. I've always had a gut.My boobs hang. And even in the plus sized community, you gotta have a flat stomach and super proportional curves. (And nobody has 4 C hair LOL...)And I've always been self-conscious about it. It's like unobtainable for real, even with 200 hrs of working out LOL. And surgery is so deadly...It's crazy.

I was literally trolling the KZreads last night for a video JUST LIKE THIS and I was like, dang, if only For Harriet had a vid on this. AND HERE YOU ARE :D

Thank you for this video. As a less than curvy black woman I find myself taking social media breaks often because it’s draining seeing all the fake bodies and how celebrate they are. It is also sad to see Black men trashing Black woman that don’t have that exotic or IG model aesthetic.

A lot of this is just pure misogyny and misognoir. Women are getting the “be young! stay free! be gorgeous!! youre so empowered!” message 24/7. That intense desire to be beautiful can totally override the rational, careful mind.