Why is it always that if a man can not control his desires, and if he is not satisfied with his current wife then he has to go and marry another. Are we not humans who are born with tongues so we can communicate with each other unlike animals? Talk to each other if there are problems between you and try to solve them. Tell you wife what you are lacking and let her tell what she lacks as well. Try to fulfill each other’s needs. It is not okay for a man to just want his first wife to accept his second marriage if everything was okay between them & he just got married again for a change of routine in what he desires. Why can’t the woman do the same then? It is halal for a woman to divorce her man as well if she went out and felt attracted to another man, but that act is always frowned upon in society. Especially in the arab society which is so messed up. It is such a masculine world we live in that they defend the man for marrying a second wife to fulfill his desires but a woman is frowned upon for divorcing her husband to be with another man even though she did it in a halal way. If y’all say well a woman has to be patient and sacrifice for her kids, why can’t a man do the same if his second marriage would put his first family in jeopardy? And how do men expect their first wife to be patient while she is sharing her husband with someone else? How does she feel special? She is not special anymore because whatever he gets her then he gets the other. I would just love to see a man being patient after divorcing his wife and bear seeing her in the hands of another man. Would they stand this scene? Of course not. Maybe some men don’t care but a lot of them do. Just like how some women these days have no problem with their husbands sharing a second wife, a lot of women do have a problem with that. I understand that God created men with this certain desire but so did he create women to be attractive and like to be noticed. Does that mean that women go around seeking attention from other men if she is lacking it from her husband? And why is it that women always have to be patient and agree to the man marrying a second wife? And where are her rights in this? A woman does have a say in this. Just because this matter is halal it doesn’t mean a man has to do it. And if a man just totally ignores his first wife’s wishes and trashed her feelings and emotions to please another, how is he being fair to his first wife? Also, When a man introduces a second wife then the risk of contracting and transmitting diseases and infections increases. And thus he transmits it to his first wife. So yes, he does need to get his first wife’s approval because it is of her right to know so she can be careful and aware of her health. Also, I oppose and condemn men who don’t tell their first wife about their second marriage. How is this being fair and just if they’re being open to the second woman about his first marriage while hiding it from his first wife? The messenger of Allah didn’t do that. In fact all his wives knew of each other and he would be careful to divide the nights fairly between them all.

@kamrunnaherbithy7297

3 жыл бұрын

I agree🙌🏽🙌🏽 glad you said these.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

Polygamy is a very big responsibility in Islam, it's not for fun and lust/sexual desires!

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

@@kamrunnaherbithy7297 as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

@kamrunnaherbithy7297

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire unfortunately Muslim men DO NOT care or maintain these. We're giving our opinion

@umar9174

3 жыл бұрын

In today’s society we need polygyny but their are also speaking as my self as a man that many man hurt women when they do polygyny. Which is sad like not giving money and other things. Also no man is gonna share his wife with another man is that is the case Allah swt will turn him into a pig.

And just like it is the right of the man to marry a second wife it is the woman’s right to know of this as well so she can decide about staying in this relationship with him or divorcing him and finding another loyal man as well. Just like it is the man’s right to be satisfied and get a change in routine so is the woman’s right as well to do so. And for those men who keep their second marriage a secret from their first wives, God knows best, but this is not following the sunnah anymore because the prophet himself had all his wives know of each other. He never had a secretive marriage. So if the men’s excuse these days is having a second marriage to fulfill a sunnah then do it properly and let your first wife know about you wanting to have a second marriage first. It is her right to decide whether or not she wants to continue her life with you or start over with another man. And there is nothing wrong with that as Allah SWT made divorce halal. And if a man is willing to damage his first marriage to please another woman, then he does not really cherish and appreciate his first wife’s feelings and emotions. So she should not cherish his emotions either and she can go find someone else who does so instead.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

No man in my family or relatives have second wives, bo secret wives!. All the men have one wife and they respect women!. We have hypocrites in the ummah. Did you know that the men who do polygamy marriages and secret wives are drinking alcohol, go night clubs, gambling, take interest and have morgeses, they dont do salah, they dont worship Allah swt some dont even believe in Allah swt but come from Muslim families!

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

If he takes a second or secret wife then that's means he dont love, care or respect you wives!

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

@Ms Malik as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

"I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, 'Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.'" (Bukhari, No. 4887)

Sisters, if you are reading this please write in your nikkah for your future husband to agree to inform u and ask for your permission to marry a second wife. After this he has to ask for your permission or inform u (if u wrote inform instead of permission). I hope this helps u all. Pls protect yourself from these deceiving men.

@ebuqble33

Жыл бұрын

So if he ask for a second wife , will you give permission, even if he agrees to abide by Sharia? This shows your understanding about your own Deen.

@danish9906

Жыл бұрын

@@ebuqble33 don't question others deen... And yes if the first wife don't agree don't marry the second just because it is halal . period... Because quran said "if you can't treat them equally and do justice to them stick to only one" But the second you marry the second wife you broke the law by hurting the first wife and broke her feelings and injustice happens at the very same moment... Second you can't say she is not following deen just because she is stopping him from something halal and sunnah... She has feelings and if she don't want to be in a marriage where she is no happy it's her right/choice and I think it's good for her if she can't find peace.....

@AdrianMuslim

Жыл бұрын

*"protect yourself from these deceiving men."* > So anyone who marries a second wife without asking the first wife's permission is a *"deceiving"* man? So was prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) a deceiving man? _(Astaghfirullah)_ Because he did not ask permission from his previous wives.

@busrakilic9075

Жыл бұрын

I don't think that most men could be fair towards their wives. They're not the prophet nor the Sahara. My husband couldn't. He would treat her better if she's his type and lookwise. If he marries a sec wife I'm out. I don't even care if we have kids together.

@AdrianMuslim

Жыл бұрын

@@busrakilic9075 Women in the past did not have this mentality that if he gets second wife, I'm out. Clearly shows how women have been affected by modernity and liberalism. Polygamy is not valid for Prophets only. It's valid for any Muslim man who fits the criterias. .

Beautifully answered mashaAllah

Yes you need consent from your wife she needs to know that to protect herself from diseases and other issues...how a women can live with a part time husband

@umar9174

3 жыл бұрын

Not consent but inform

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

Chastity is defined as "controlling oneself from forbidden desires due to the love of Allah The Almighty in response to His command, as well as for seeking His reward in return." Islam has always been keen to establish chastity in the Muslim community and has thus legislated many laws that reduce the strong impact of these desires and control them; it has also encouraged remaining on the straight path and warned against transgressing the defined boundaries by following these base desires. Islam has preserved people’s honor and protected lineages from being mixed. Therefore, fornication and adultery are forbidden and classified as major and destructive sins. Islam has even forbidden everything that could lead to these sins, such as immoral exchange of looks between the two sexes, depraved words, seductive moves, a man and a woman being in seclusion in a room, and anything else which could lead to this awful sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a great sin, and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him)."} [Quran, 17: 32] Islam does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it. Allah The Almighty commanded His Messenger to take a pledge from women who entered Islam to refrain from fornication and adultery. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bai`ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children… then accept their pledge."} [Quran, 60: 12] Allah The Almighty made the punishment for these sins vary from lashing to stoning to death, along with the humiliation which results from informing the community of the perpetrators of this sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. [This is for unmarried persons, but if married, the punishment is to stone them to death]."} [Quran, 24: 2] The Prophet set the penalty for adultery and fornication as follows: "If the parties (committing fornication) are unmarried, they should receive a hundred lashes and be put into exile for a year. If they commit adultery after they are married, they should receive a hundred lashes and then be stoned to death." [Muslim] Since Islam has comprehensively forbidden fornication and adultery, it has also blocked all ways that lead to it. It does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it. The evil consequences of fornication and adultery Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Fornication and adultery combine all evils; weakness in commitment to the religion, lack of piety, corruption of manhood and the decrease of praiseworthy jealousy. You will never find an adulterer or fornicator who is pious, fulfils his promises, is truthful in his speech, maintains friendship or has jealousy over his wife; he will be characterised by lies, deception, betrayal, accepting prohibitions and not being mindful of Allah." All these characteristics are consequences of fornication and adultery. There are also other consequences such as: • Incurring the wrath of Allah The Almighty. • Corruption of one's wife and children. • Poverty and gloominess of the face, which will be apparent to people. • Darkness of the heart. • Becoming insignificant in the eyes of people and in the sight of Allah The Almighty. • Loss of the characteristics of chastity and righteousness and becoming known as a sinful, betraying adulterer or fornicator. • Not being classified as a believer in general. • Being decried as an evil person.

@dontinsultme4821

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire hey clown you can marry 2nd wife

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

@@dontinsultme4821 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆

@narcissistlovepolygamy6221

3 жыл бұрын

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A sister: *"protect yourself from these deceiving men."* Me: So anyone who marries a second wife without asking the first wife's permission is a "deceiving" man? Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did not ask permission from his previous wives. So was he a deceiving man? (Astaghfirullah)

@emma647

Жыл бұрын

no because his wives knew about his marriages, they were publicised not done in secret without knowledge

@stoneworshipper2599

Жыл бұрын

Slaves exempted but all wives knew each other. Only

@AdrianMuslim

Жыл бұрын

@@emma647 We're talking about asking permission from previous wife to marry another. Not about marrying publicly or secretly. That sister was talking about marrying without asking permission.

@AdrianMuslim

Жыл бұрын

@@stoneworshipper2599 Prophet did not ask permission from his previous wife to marry another. That's the point.

Thank you brother when you mentioned our beloved Prophet SAW he was married to his lovely wife till her death and there was no need Beautifully explained but today’s men do marriage for lust and beauty or just don’t love their wives anymore or simply hate them and forget their sacrifices

@Dont-worry1618

2 жыл бұрын

Some do it for lust not all. He can marry if he wants to again tjat does not mean it os for lust. U are not Allah, to look in his heart. But of he is in a marriage for a long time he should not do it. But the guy should tell the wife before marrying her

@danish9906

Жыл бұрын

@@Dont-worry1618 not only tell .he should marry second wife only and only if the first one agrees ... This is the basic human right, don't be inhumane and cruel Stop treating women like sex-toys they have feelings if they don't want to share their husband that's it period.

A very good explanation. Yet we must mention that adding another wife when in a straightened financial circumstance increases your rizq. This hadeeth where our prophet advised multiple marriage in order to encourage maintainance of women. This action must be taken only by one with strong belief and who follows the sunnah in order to succeed.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

@aya-yk8iq

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire THANK YOU

@Anonymous-hc9ow

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire Friend, you are so out of context when you copy and paste a single answer to all the comments.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

@@aya-yk8iq everything I said is from Quran and sunnah

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

"I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, 'Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.'" (Bukhari, No. 4887)

This Irish muslim is based. Multiple wives is the way to go

Assalamu alaikum sir If a man has wife and 2 or 3 kids and he falls in love with another woman. Then wife found out his relationship.. wife asked husband, husband said he has right to have another wife. Is it sinful?

But now a days, all Muslim women do not agree and do not want their husbands to marry a 2nd wife. Therefore, Muslim women do not follow the rules. I know it's not mandatory for Muslim men to marry more than 1 wife. But when there's family issues, the first wife will always ask for divorce inorder for her husband to marry a 2nd wife. In western countries, most Muslim women get negative advantage of the western countries, & laws by stripping the husbands financially. That's unfortunate for poor men inorder to marry a divorced or widow women and support each others.

@ismahaanabdulaziz2642

2 жыл бұрын

absolutely true, so what happens if he already taken second wife without first wife knowing and then she finds out after 1 year later and he says yes is true I have taken second wife or made Second Nikah and now wife is asking u must divorce her immediately or u will never see ur kids or insults and threatens him subhannallah and now the husband is saying to second I must divorce u now what please sheikh make strong video of this husband breaking the promise of the second wife also her heart and leaving her with so much frustration and disappointments anger so many things subhannallah.

You don't need permission from 1st wife BUT it is good manners to get consent and talk about it with the 1st wife.

@no__jams5574

2 жыл бұрын

That hurts me a little the fact that my husband can be married to someone without me knowing and I dont even have a say? This really shook my faith and I feel invalidated I hope Allah makes me feel better

@brothermuslim6506

2 жыл бұрын

@@no__jams5574 Well, I beleive your husband cannot marry in secret (so, without you finding out) it is just that he does not need your consent. Also, it's the husbands right to have up to four wives. You cannot take away his right but, you can divorce him. May Allah (ﷻ) grant you strong Imaan ukhti.

@no__jams5574

2 жыл бұрын

@@brothermuslim6506 that just sounds like Islam oppresses women

@no__jams5574

2 жыл бұрын

@@brothermuslim6506 that sounds morally wrong and Islam allows it ? He doesn't even have to ask me ? This is just messed up idk why Allah is making me go through this

@ahmadalhashmi8940

2 жыл бұрын

@@no__jams5574 No offence but you seem like a person that's insincere who isn't a Muslim in the slightest. You're saying "going through this" when your "husband" didn't even mention or suggest marrying a second wife. If you have say that you have a problem with the Quran or the Sunnah then you aren't a muslim. If you are indeed as you claim then know that you're not more knowledgeable than Allah. You say being a Muslim is hard but just because following your whims and desires is easier does not make it what's best for you, and other religious people from other faiths will attest to that. Islam already has enough proof to substantiate itself above all other faiths and just because one or two beliefs from Islam may be bothering you does not mean you have the right to disapprove of these beliefs. This life is a test after all. Women are naturally prone to jealousy and there is nothing wrong with that, but this means that if it was up to them polygamy would not be possible, and if you disagree with polygamy then that's on you.

He forgot to mention nabi saw visited all his wives EVERYDAY not every second day....just like men have needs we have needs to love and affection everyday too not every second day...to leave us alone every second day for equality is oppression,it must be equal and just

It's also illegal in the land we live in. Is shariah the laws of the land we live in too

@isahinyub7625

4 жыл бұрын

A marriage can never be against the law, it might not be legally recognized or certified but it cant be prevented or stopped.

@btai3330

4 жыл бұрын

@@isahinyub7625 um, its literally against the law, its called 'bigamy' you can literally go to jail for up to 7 years in the uk,

@isahinyub7625

3 жыл бұрын

@@btai3330 Its against ordinances in Utah but its not an uncommon practice. Only one marriage is registered with the state.

@btai3330

3 жыл бұрын

@@isahinyub7625 Plural marriage in islam only becomes permissible where justice and fairness can be achieved, Plural marriages where only one marriage is registered and legally recognised, foundation is injustice, if you are American I am sure you understand the legal ramifications that a woman would encounter living as a wife, whilst not lawfully being recognised as such, and how this practise leaves women with absolutely no recourse to justice if something were to wrong, or in the event 'of; ..........

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

Just stipulate in your marriage contract that your husband can’t take another wife! That’s it !

@latinalife2458

7 ай бұрын

Not the way either The Quran is clear he can marry with out the permission. My husband was dumping me in another country to bring her to America, he was talking to her for over 6 months . He can’t pay for medical needs of my kids but looking for gold and engagement rings online . This days only the wicked are looking for second wife just for sex and abusing the first so she can go ask for hula.

It is socially necessary to take the permission of the first wife

Marrying a girl you raised even if she’s not your girl to me is weird My opinion Like I treat her like your daughter

@Kulfikulfikulfikulfikulfi

2 жыл бұрын

thats why they like it, society is sick they like the idea of sexing their own daughter and her calling him daddy

@elegancepublicschool8191

2 жыл бұрын

True it's hella weird

@SM-rf4vr

Жыл бұрын

But not biologically your daughter.

@purplestripes4076

Жыл бұрын

@@SM-rf4vr Still super weird, you've raised her from childhood as a parent figure, how can you have desire for her

If a man choses to have a second wife does she have to be a widow or divorcee?

@intalmdr4627

2 жыл бұрын

No

@ebuqble33

Жыл бұрын

No

Masha Allah sheikh very good explanation. May Allah SAW reward you and all the Muslim men who take another wife for a good reason and make it easy for the wives. ameen

@OurLittleMMs

3 жыл бұрын

If men want to do so and it is halal, then so it is halal for the woman to divorce the man and be with another who respects her opinion of not having a second marriage.

@mohammedsaifb4771

3 жыл бұрын

@@OurLittleMMs yes, if a women is not happy with the husband, she can give fasq.

@Anonymous-hc9ow

3 жыл бұрын

I feel it should have been explained more explicitly in the hadith about Moral Responsibility of taking multiple wives(ex- not marrying multiple wives just for fullfilling your sexual desires,etc).

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of Muslim brothers will enter hellfire because of polygamy marriages!

@elvisshahu6603

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire So the Prophets too ?

Can men take a second wife and hide it from his first wife?? Why is no sheikh one answering this...

@OurLittleMMs

3 жыл бұрын

Allah knows best, but I don’t think a man can do this. The first wife has the right to know whether or not he wants to Include a second partner in the marriage so she can be aware that there might be new bacteria/infections that she might be at risk of. Therefore, she should take precautions and have extra and more frequent visits to her doctor to check up on her health. Also, I don’t understand how a man would be fair and just when he tells his second wife about his first, but hides the second from the first. And in my opinion, I don’t think that it is “morally and ethically and religiously” right to hide something from your first wife when she is an open book with you. You would be ruining the trust you have between each other. Especially if the man knows that his first wife will not approve of this, then he is seeking evil at this point by breaking his wife’s heart. That’s what I personally think. I don’t know what the religious view on this is, but I definitely believe that more sheikhs should be discussing this topic and explaining the moral and immoral things to do in regards to this

@elvisshahu6603

3 жыл бұрын

Its forbiden too for wife to make man forbidden this what Allah make Halal for men. So if the wife its good in their Iman she will.make not trouble in this case. For that the question need to start from this topic, why do man this ? And if man see that the wife its to much crazy and jealous, he have the right todo that.

@jazzrodriguez7245

3 жыл бұрын

@@elvisshahu6603 lol. It’s not forbidden.

@jazzrodriguez7245

3 жыл бұрын

@@elvisshahu6603 Allah will not force a woman to stay in a marriage she doesn’t want. If she is unhappy with her husband she can divorce him 🙂

@jazzrodriguez7245

3 жыл бұрын

@@elvisshahu6603 lol a woman is not allowed to be jealous of another woman sharing her man but a man goes crazy when another man sees his wife’s ankle 😂 men are the most jealous! I have dealt with men wanting to go to bars and mix with women but did not want me to share pictures of my face on social media 😂 men are sooo jealous!

WHAT ????????? WHATTT?? 😀😀😀

We women, out of insecurity criticize polygamy in our communities, especially in the West, we hope to never have to share our husbands, subhanallah I am one of them. But remember this is a blessing because we all know of MANY men and women whose husbands are cheating on them, or grow tired of them, they are always fighting, maybe the woman gets sick etc. Alhamdulillah we have a way that a man can fulfill his obligations towards his children and his wife, while also seeking a halal way for himself. It does seem unfair to us, to have to share, to have to tolerate our husband with another woman BUT the alternative is more devastating to our families, children, women and society, as is witnessed in the West.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

Polygamy cant stop cheating, affairs! Polygamy wasnt designed for lust and sexual desires!

@tasyt1994

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire marriage is the halal route to fulfilling sexual desires. It is one of the reasons people get married, whether it is with one wife or up to four. What isn't good however is copying and pasting ayats from the Quran without fully understanding them in the hopes of building a case against what Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has made permissible. I humbly recommend you read the tafsir of these ayats, for context, by those who have spent their lives dedicated to understanding the Word of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. Many comments on this whole video thread seem to be stemming from personal matters and opinions - that is a separate matter to polygyny itself. If a spouse has mistreated their wife by not fulfilling their rights then that is a matter between the parties involved. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is All Hearing and All Seeing. There is nothing wrong with polygyny - so do not make haram what our Creator has made halal.

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

@@tasyt1994 your opinion isn't important to me!

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

Chastity is defined as "controlling oneself from forbidden desires due to the love of Allah The Almighty in response to His command, as well as for seeking His reward in return." Islam has always been keen to establish chastity in the Muslim community and has thus legislated many laws that reduce the strong impact of these desires and control them; it has also encouraged remaining on the straight path and warned against transgressing the defined boundaries by following these base desires. Islam has preserved people’s honor and protected lineages from being mixed. Therefore, fornication and adultery are forbidden and classified as major and destructive sins. Islam has even forbidden everything that could lead to these sins, such as immoral exchange of looks between the two sexes, depraved words, seductive moves, a man and a woman being in seclusion in a room, and anything else which could lead to this awful sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a great sin, and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him)."} [Quran, 17: 32] Islam does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it. Allah The Almighty commanded His Messenger to take a pledge from women who entered Islam to refrain from fornication and adultery. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bai`ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children… then accept their pledge."} [Quran, 60: 12] Allah The Almighty made the punishment for these sins vary from lashing to stoning to death, along with the humiliation which results from informing the community of the perpetrators of this sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. [This is for unmarried persons, but if married, the punishment is to stone them to death]."} [Quran, 24: 2] The Prophet set the penalty for adultery and fornication as follows: "If the parties (committing fornication) are unmarried, they should receive a hundred lashes and be put into exile for a year. If they commit adultery after they are married, they should receive a hundred lashes and then be stoned to death." [Muslim] Since Islam has comprehensively forbidden fornication and adultery, it has also blocked all ways that lead to it. It does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it. The evil consequences of fornication and adultery Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Fornication and adultery combine all evils; weakness in commitment to the religion, lack of piety, corruption of manhood and the decrease of praiseworthy jealousy. You will never find an adulterer or fornicator who is pious, fulfils his promises, is truthful in his speech, maintains friendship or has jealousy over his wife; he will be characterised by lies, deception, betrayal, accepting prohibitions and not being mindful of Allah." All these characteristics are consequences of fornication and adultery. There are also other consequences such as: • Incurring the wrath of Allah The Almighty. • Corruption of one's wife and children. • Poverty and gloominess of the face, which will be apparent to people. • Darkness of the heart. • Becoming insignificant in the eyes of people and in the sight of Allah The Almighty. • Loss of the characteristics of chastity and righteousness and becoming known as a sinful, betraying adulterer or fornicator. • Not being classified as a believer in general. • Being decried as an evil person.

@tasyt1994

3 жыл бұрын

@@JahannamHellfire What does fornication and adultery have to do with polygyny, something that Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has made permissible? Accusing people of adultery or fornication could constitute slander. It is a heavy accusation. There are people who seek another wife through halal means just like there are people who seek one spouse through haram means. We cannot just accuse people of adultery because they consider another wife.

Yikes

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what a weird opinion!

@kim_akari_03

Жыл бұрын

This is all a total nonsense

To be honest I think this is a lie because there is no proof that you don't need consent from the first wife you haven't given me quotes or proof so I don't believe that I believe that there has to be a consent from the first wife I don't think allah wpuld make such a rulling

@kim_akari_03

Жыл бұрын

Yes I agree with u. This is a total nonsense. The holy Quran it's self is the biggest proof that men need to treat their wife fairly with kindness and it's says if u fair u wouldn't treat them with justice marry one. Speaking of justice, he is not being fair by marrying another woman without her concent because she needs to decide whether she can stay with the second wife and a part time husband and take all those risks or not. Marrying without first wife's concent will cause so many unimaginable problems in the future and Islam is a peaceful religion not problematic religion.

@SM-rf4vr

Жыл бұрын

Read more about your religion rather than thinking based on your feelings or emotions.

@kim_akari_03

Жыл бұрын

@@SM-rf4vr you go read about ur religion from thr Quran and the real hadith books rather than listening to scolars on the internet and talking crap in here. Mind ur own business

@SM-rf4vr

Жыл бұрын

@@kim_akari_03 since you know better than the scholars, why not show me facts rather than using emotive words.

@kim_akari_03

Жыл бұрын

@@SM-rf4vr It's all in the Quran go and find out the truth. I'm myself almost an Islamic scolar.

why cant the wife marry a second husband...a younger one... as women are equal to a man...

@mohammedyusufal-hindi

Жыл бұрын

Because when she gets pregnant, she won't know whose baby it is

@covidcol3505

Жыл бұрын

@@mohammedyusufal-hindi allah would know and thats all that matters....

@ebuqble33

Жыл бұрын

@@mohammedyusufal-hindi brother he's a fool trying to trick us.

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

You are calling for Adultery which is punishable by stoning. "as women are equal to a man" - Where? They are not equal, this isn't feminist Islam. women must obey their husbands. it isn't the other way around. women must wear the hijab. men must provide for their families. it isn't the other way around. men if commanded to must fight in war. etc.

@hiok-vj4gt

Жыл бұрын

@@shadowstorm5261 Women must wear hijab, and that is why you don't marry based on lust. I saw your reply to another comment trying to justify marrying based on lust, that is FALSE whether it be first or second or third or fourth wife!! Fear Allah and learn Islam