Hi guys, what are your experiences with the INFJ / INFJ Relationship?

@keepinitkawaii

5 жыл бұрын

I know a few people who have tested as INFJ as well. We have SOME things in common but I just feel like they dont understand me or my needs much. One of them is extremely emotionally needy and quite judgemental and often makes me feel too uncomfortable to express my feelings. She also always assumes that she knows what's going on with me, without actually giving me a chance to talk about my feelings. Then my niece also tested as INFJ but she always strikes me more as an extrovert who doesn't seem to understand my need to have space. She's very social and LOVES being the center of attention and kind of talks down on ones who are more quiet and who keep to themselves. I also feel like she uses more Fi then Fe. Shes the kind of person who will feel almost uncomfortable when someone around her is upset or going through a hard time where as I'm always right there to lend a hand. Could it be that maybe my niece was mistyped or do I not have a broad enough understanding of INFJs.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Marie C those tests are very inaccurate! You have to actually sit down and read your description and then narrow it down. Chances are a lot of typed infj are infp or enfj...but your niece sounds more of an unhealthy (undeveloped) infj to me...these are of course speculations 😊...the more you focus on you getting your needs met and demanding that the easier your relationships will be! Either they become better or just become more distant 👍

@careglow7669

5 жыл бұрын

would be fun to learn more about your layback side:)

@marquealcunningham203

4 жыл бұрын

Wenzes thanks. You shared you and that’s a big step for a infj! Keep sharing!!

@terraaw7680

4 жыл бұрын

Wenzes i am infj and my girlfriend is infj yet it feels like we're very different, yet similar at the same time. It's weird. Like she's more passive and i feel like im a little more out there than her. Idk I'm not good with words. We've been dating for 11 months and I feel like we have a strong connection yet I know infj's like their alone time. I know I look forward to my alone time but it seems like my gf always wants to be around me. Our relationship is fine but it's not your average relationship compared to everyone else for sure. It is really cool to have an infj infj relationship, ive heard it's like spotting a unicorn and yet I'm living it. :)

There is a unique almost instant understanding and connection. It's also unique and different and almost feels like telepathy lol

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

yes, it is 😉

@elisaw8367

4 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes spot on. I've met one beautiful INFJ man in my life and we connected and vibed instantly. It was nonverbal understanding from the beginning. It was magical (also electrical ;))

@Neptuneman07

4 жыл бұрын

That's exactly how it is. I just met my better half. As a male INFJ, its incredibly rare to meet another INFJ. I'm in love with a female who is also an INFJ in which is constant telepathic communication.

I am a male INFJ-T. I never even knew about personality types until I took an online quiz, I even took a different one to test the accuracy of these things and I was blown away by how accurate it really is. I remember reading all about my personality type and was felt so understood, which is a relief because socially I find that people have such a strange perception of me, they're either afraid or intimidated by my physical appearance and mannerisms. I know I'm considered a unique and even strange individual, but I wish people would try to overlook my differences to see the substance of my character. I have very high morals, where If I do something that betrays my strong convictions that I could spend days reflecting on it, maybe even years. I always try to do the right thing even if it's at the expense of my own happiness. I also find that I'm very honest and straightforward which can be considered by most people to be blunt, but I simply cherish honesty overall. I find myself interested in women that have a certain uniqueness to them, but I do struggle socially because I feel isolated by how uncomfortable people feel around me. I don't think I'm considered an attractive man, but I personally love myself and appreciate my own strangeness. I just wish I could find someone who can appreciate that about me. I tend to look for deeper connections, I despise small talk and could even consider it to be disingenuous however I'd rather want to have great lengthy conversations to really try and connect with a person of interest. I'm a very complicated man but I cherish real "soul binding" connections therefore I have had less than a handful of relationships, I also seem to be content with the same routine over and over again---I could even listen to favorite songs on repeat for hours, which I know a lot of people can find annoying, lol---because once I feel a certain way about something I tend to cherish it for all my life. Even though I am an introvert, I love being around the people that I love and could be around the person for days on end. I find beauty in lots of things and am very observant, consistently looking for patterns or algorithms, I've been told that I am very good pointing out details that can be missed by many. I value family, creativity, respect, passion, intelligence, humility, strength, positivity and compassion but detest arrogance, vanity, materialism, disrespect, lust, and negativity. I think as INFJ's we can make amazing lifelong partners, but we can be very complex. 🤷‍♂

@Naomi-bw5qs

10 ай бұрын

Just out of curiosity are you happy with where you are in your career? Why/why not?

@Tarantula_Fangs

10 ай бұрын

@@Naomi-bw5qs Truthfully I am not, however I recently just started my schooling. It took me a while to truly understand what direction I wanted to go in my educational career, however I am truly happy that I focused myself to academics. I have made friends who have the same passion for the field of study I am in and my professors really seem to appreciate my attendance. I am MUCH happier now than I was when I originally posted. I am even speaking to a few different girls, although I am very selective with who I associate myself with. Who knows, I must just find a girlfriend later in the semester,🤷🏻‍♂️ But life is soo much better for me. I truly feel happy and I made some really awesome memories and even friends. At the time I was really unhappy because I was working in something that I didn’t value and it didn’t appreciate my set of skills and challenge me in the right ways, it seemed uninspiring. I always knew I had much more potential in me and that killed me, I just couldn’t progress. Lot of inner work and here I am. Hope this helped!

I am dating another INFJ and she was raised in a similar culture and we share the same faith and politics on top of it. We are both deep people who have no use for superficiality and shallowness and we are both communicative! . I don't know about me, but she is intelligent and interesting(I think she is just being nice when she talks about me). I understand the potential for disaster(huge disaster) with two INFJ's who don't share the same world views/core values and two INFJ’s in a relationship will either be a match made in heaven, or something you may never recover from because they knew you the deepest, they understood you, and it still didn’t work(because of different core values/not enough similarities and not enough work on strengthening typical INFJ weaknesses)- but our relationship is unbelievable. We ARE confirmed INJF's but we are both analytical, logical, objective, practical, reasonable and easygoing(except when easygoing isn't appropriate, neither one of us are afraid to confront others). Think of a lively, warm, emotional(in a positive sense), passionate Mr. Spock(from Star Trek). We have both worked on strengthening the inherent weaknesses of INJF's in ourselves before we ever met. We relate on a level that is almost supernatural. We get along almost seamlessly . We understand and comprehend each other as well or better than ourselves and the similarities we share in personality traits, beliefs and opinions are eerie. We always communicate and never shrink from resolving issues, never avoid discussing differences of opinion when they do occur, but in a year and a half we have never had a fight. This stems from our similarities but also from being real, genuine and sincere people and not seeking our own well being first; our strong inclination to meet each other’s needs creates a healthy balance of give and take. Thanks to our auxiliary function of Extroverted Feeling (Fe), my INFJ partner and I have a knack for taking into account the emotional needs of others and we utilize it and apply it to our relationship. That said, my observations of people putting themselves first in any type of friendship/relationship have only deepened my appreciation for my INFJ significant other, who, without thinking twice, seeks to fulfill my needs just as often as I do hers.

@s.h.3622

4 жыл бұрын

Wow this is message was so beneficial! I am now dating an INFJ Male and it feels exactly as you have described it. So on point! Thanks so much for sharing this!

@barrypatrickius

4 жыл бұрын

@@s.h.3622 Good luck, Sweetheart. Just remember, some INFJ weaknesses CAN be they are dreamers, sometimes impractical, sometimes impulsive, sometimes too nice, and may not only just dislike confrontation so to speak but even addressing issues and problems, even in a non confrontational manner, thus giving the wrong impression that they are in denial. If they are insecure(my girlfriend and I are not) that can also be a nightmare, as the person may close up and shut down from the most well meaning, non harsh, helpful, and even slight criticism, helpful advice or correction. I honestly never had these issues but an INFJ who is not self aware or aware of him/herself can be a nightmare if they can't see how (over)sensitive they are being. We are both INFJ-A and not INFJ-T so that helps. I would do some good research into INFJ traits to understand him. God Bless

@s.h.3622

4 жыл бұрын

@@barrypatrickius Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to me this way and give me such useful advice! I have truly done a lot of research into the INFJ personality these past two years. I later found out that my first boyfriend was also an INFJ but a very insecure, underdeveloped and narcissistic one. It was a really toxic relationship and I am so happy that I did the necessary inner work on my self, understood my worth and finally walked away. This new person also turned out to be an INFJ. But he is the total opposite. He is so open to communication. It is important to me that he is able to receive critciscm in a healthy manner (something i have learned to do over the years because I value personal growth), and I see all the signs that he is a healthy, whole, secure and loving person. Maybe we can both sometimes seem a bit like dreamers, but I have also honed my skill of coming back to planet earth and having the right balance in all things. Being realistic and logical in my approach of things. Most importantly, he is kind, he respects and loves me, he's open-minded and willing to take responsibility for his actions. Hopefully, God will show us the right way in all things and assist all of us in being the best we can be. Thanks once again! And stay blessed too! God be with you!😊

@quirogatnonerrat3214

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, that is wonderful! I wish you both all the best! 💐💐🤗🤗 Thank you for sharing that part of your life with us, it certainly is very useful. I am also in a relationship with an INFJ after 10 years (5 of staying together) with a narcissistic ESTP - whom I tried to help but got worse and worse. We even got married but divorced soon after because things escalated even more. After some time recovering from that, I am now happy and amazed of meeting a wonderful INFJ. I mean, what are the chances? But I di admit, we first met online. Maybe I wouldn't even appreciate him as much as I do now, after such a horrible experience with that ESTP. It is such a huge difference, for the better, that I have the feeling I am dreaming or something, I thank God almost everyday for blessing me like this and I seem to be still in a state of shock... I can't believe it.... I analyse and observe everything and I always end up to the same conclusion: it is amazing. But something inside of me feels like I always should be prepared for this to become a nightmare, cuz who knows what the future holds

@vidyuthravi1538

3 жыл бұрын

I can tell you you're an infj without doubt due to the length at which you go on explaining things. Almost felt like reading the way I would respond 😂

I'm an INFJ and I want to date another INFJ so bad. I wanna know what it feels like to be understood. I bet the intimacy would be amazing!

@stevedavenport1202

4 жыл бұрын

Have dated several fellow INFJs. Be prepared to have your shadow thrown back at you. In other words, fellow INFJs have many of the same annoying weaknesses as you do. When you have notacknowledged your own shadow and seemit in your fellow INFaj, it can be difficult.

@occajones5685

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

@quirogatnonerrat3214

3 жыл бұрын

Then look for them online. That is how I found my significant other.

@ameraagao3232

3 жыл бұрын

@@stevedavenport1202 you really are correct if you don't hate your weaknesses you can love infj woman..just be vulnerable and infj woman will completely understand..my boyfriend is also infj we have a instant deep connection that we crave for..when we became officially girlfriend and boyfriend it almost feel like we are already husband and wife..lol 😁🤣

@jordanlee6885

Жыл бұрын

Go for an enfp! We talk like you think

Never had the opportunity to meet another INFJ person. I think it would be interesting.

I am a INFJ-T and my husband is INFJ-A 🥰🦊🌲🤩💜 we are so happy together it is crazy 🤗 and we are very similar

I think my infj boyfriend has more develop Se than me, I had this feeling that I wanted to be as expressive as him in feelings and thoughts and he also encourage me to do so..When I speak he listens very well and can also read me.. it's nice to feel at home and be myself around him also be my best version..😍

Yes INFJ's out there, don't hold back your Se! When expressing yourself and also when showing up. Just allow those burst of energy to come out. INFJ's are Se seeking and other INFJ's will not be disturbed if you express it. I used to mute my Se with introvert feelers but discovered even my dominant Se is usually fine for INFJ's while I need to turn it down with INFP's. Nice outfit Wenzes, you are a good role model! :)

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Taco 😀👍👍👍 happy new year 🥳

@baaf777

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Wenzes, you too. Let's keep the momentum and make 2019 an awesome growth year! :)

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Yesssss 💪💪💪

@careglow7669

5 жыл бұрын

good to know from an Estp angle! but most of the time I am so entertained by Estp, I forget my own Se and just sort of drift along. sometimes I wonder if I am Infp, but I am always inspired by the Estp energie in the moment and honesty! with your Infp observation it would be unlikely for me to be Infp 😊👍🏻

@baaf777

5 жыл бұрын

Hi@@careglow7669 If you are entertained and inspired by ESTP it's unlikely you are INFP because they usually don't get me. Most stay at a distance as if my strong Se and low Fi vibe seems to repel them. While I do understand INFP's a lot better these days, interacting with INFP's is still like walking on egg-shells to me as they can scold me for what I say while my intentions are good. It makes me wonder now how most ESTJ's react to INFJ's...

If someone asks for help then I give it - if not, I hold my own council. Some seek validation by directing other people’s lives, the challenge for INFJ is to not live a life vicariously through the needs of others around them.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

exactly! Well said!

My dad was an INFJ and we had all these qualities together we had such an awesome time , Everytime I felt bit low he knew it and it was like perfect harmony . I miss him a lot now . I wish I get married to someone who is just like him I hope so.

I've met many many INFJs over the last year. Some are great friends, some are irritating aquaintances, some of confusing crushes exhibiting mixed signals... I had a short term casual relationship with an INFJ a long time ago, which I don't think would have been possible with another type who didn't communicate so well with emotional intelligence as she and I did. I discovered I really want that kind of deep communication, even though in that particular case was fully understood to be just a fling. The deep communication made anything possible. Whereas with other types, I can't get anything going.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

👍😊

Recently my husband and I did the personality test and both of us are INFJ.

@terrijamison9154

Жыл бұрын

I am infj married to an estp, our exact mbti opposite. You are very very fortunate!

I'm an INFJ, and I wish I had known it, and known more before I married an ESFJ/NPD

I have to say, I found this format without the edits cutting out every pause for breath a lot more understandable and easy to follow.

This was a fun video to listen to. I’ve never had a personal relationship with another INFJ (friends, family, dating). You painted a great portrait of this dynamic. I haven’t really spent much time thinking about this topic because its never been a part of my life... very cool to hear!

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it ! And thanks for your feedback 😊

Loved this Wenzes. Keep pushing!

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Nicholas!!! I will, 2019 here we come 💪💪💪

I seem to subconsciously attract other INFJs.... we usually click very well and in the beginning I don’t understand why... I usually send them the Myers-Briggs test to take and boom I find out they are INFJs... my last situationship was with a guy who was BARELY an INFJ (all of his letters were half/half, while mine leaned more toward the letters 80% and up) who was actually a convert narcissist and we clashed horribly in the end after I discovered his facade. Current dating A guy who is also an INFJ (similar to my percentage) and we both have said we have been the only people who truly understands one another. Deeply emotionally, intuitively, intellectually connected

I love your face and all the information and insight you have thanks!

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the feedback 😊

Wow! This stung a little bit. Being preachy and judgy. Fellow INFJs how have you gotten better at not being this way with others? Thanks Wenzes for another insightful video.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your feedback Brittany! Looking ar how we can be and do better is never a bad thing as long as we don‘t judge ourselves in the process 😊

@DearYoungerSelf111

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Is the Judgy preachy mode we have is a result of us not expressing ourselves?

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

I would say the more you share your world by expressing yourself the less one feels personally affected if someone else just lives their lifes differently and let‘s them be.

@DearYoungerSelf111

5 жыл бұрын

💯💕

Amazing video,such a great advice😇❤️

I've really needed the validation you put out there about us INFJ's not because I need the confidence but because I kept questioning if I have been doing things wrong when deep down I knew I wasn't.

@theroaminggnomad

2 жыл бұрын

@@Human_01 yes I have. Psychology Major.

When I was younger, I don't think I had another infj friend in my life but of course, at that time, I wasn't aware of all of this. Obviously, things have changed. I've enjoyed listening to your description of the infj - especially when you talk about us being animated, vital and expressive but still reserved. It is true that two INFJs can disagree on things amicably and grow in the process. But there are always people who can't see any point of view but their own. (This may be true of people in all personality types.) And yes, we don't need to put up with them when they're always trying to make us over. One more thing - your advice on developing SE is appreciated. I always need to remind myself of that.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

😊😃❤

I had an INFJ friend. and he was not the right person for me to be with.because he has different values and beliefs.Few years ago I used to think an INFJ friend can make my life easy, I can feel at home bla bla. But now I know INFJs are also different.bcoz every person has different life experiences, different surroundings, different perspective over things.this also goes for the INFJs also.I decided not to continue my friendship with him as I got negative and restless kind of vives from him which eventually made me messed up.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Glad you care about wellbeing enough to let go of people who are not good for you 😊

I suspect that I've finally met an INFJ at my new job (she's new as well)!! She's very outspoken about her opinions lol and likes to talk about herself. But when she listens, she really listens. I think we have very similar values, big blessing there, and you're right - it's been very insightful. I thought to myself, "is this how in my head I appear?" What's odd is she knew I looked familiar the moment we met. After some questions, we realized we both were at the same elementary school for 6 months. How weird is that?! I never anticipated meeting any one like me soon, nor in my new courageous job endeavor. We both happen to work the same days, too... I like her 😊 I wonder if I'm developing my Se well. Something to test. 🙂

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

I'll a video on developing SE soon ;)

@jessenceq3250

5 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes Great, I'll watch 🙂

Can you do ISFP next? Loved this video as well!

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it Marie 😊! I already have recorded ENFJ, after that is ESFJ and then I can do ISFP. They‘ll be coming out this week 😊👍

Ave gotten to the level you're on through reading alot a books overall I think we more than any other ppl have to stay away from negative information and environment

In terms of se, can you do a video on how to strengthen it? I know how to strengthen fe and ti but get stuck on se. I agree with everything you said on infj relationships. I have a family member who is an infj and there is that sense of quiet knowing without having to say much where it feels like home.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

Great idea about SE! I‘ll do a video on it 😊

The most important friends in my life tell me precisely the things I don't want to hear. Straightforward criticism is hugely important no very unpleasant. The more people tell me what I'm doing is wrong. The more I listen closely, if I find I really don't like what's being said emotional reaction or I tried to push it away delete it, ignore it, then I know they're probably right on some level. If what's being said doesn't bother me at all likely a nonsense criticism or projection not based in reality. All of the hurtful and critical people in my life have slowly backed off as I've proven with my actions that they're incorrect & taken appropriate action when they are correct improve. How do I know know? I charge headfirst into my shadow that which I fear and find most unpleasant, assume is not me. So if I got someone telling me the way I living my life is wrong, and I feel the urge to ignore or avoid that person I know that's the person I need to listen to the most.

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

very smart approach! 👍 if it does affect us it highlights something we don't like about ourselves....otherwise we just wouldn't care

@jessenceq3250

5 жыл бұрын

Lol I'm trying to figure this very thing out. It's tricky.

@jessenceq3250

5 жыл бұрын

Out of curiosity, how do you test as in MBTI?

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

you mean what type I am?

@jessenceq3250

5 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes You're the first INFJ I came across on KZread 2 years ago haha! Sorry for lack of clarity; the question was to Sedative

I'm an INFJ that is constantly brow-beaten by a Narcissistic Mother who has lived under the dictatorship of the Sociopathic husband she married and had kids with. When you said if this person doesn't bring value into my life and wants nothing more to do than trigger you, so to speak, this is why I will never relate to this woman and she wonders why. No, its actually NOT ME. I get it. I can't function in a relationship with this kind of person, calling out all my flaws and mistakes on a regular basis while blatantly ignoring hers living in this fantasy life she thinks she has. She just can't take that I am emotionally free from being in a relationship with people like that. We totally clash, all my life, but she never sees it that way, its kinda funny and sad at the same time. She doesn't give constructive criticism but is toxic to my life. I don't look for advice but she acts like she has plenty to give but wonders why I wouldn't take advice from someone that is a captive while I am not nor would I allow another person to govern my life that way EVER. I tried to explain she has nothing to offer me in this area. What could a Gorilla know about what a Giraffe needs to survive life?

Huh ... I guess then that's why my mum was acting like a narcissist for a looong time !(so much emotional manipulation that at one point I've started running from the mirror so that I won't see that ugly person she keep describing to me as me) .. It was so hard for me as a child but then when I realised that I'm not going anywhere if I didn't talk and say what I'm feeling I've snapped ! ... Of course it was so hard at first but we kinda work through it and solve the problem by me imposing more distance between us and being vocal when she crosses the line ... All of that was before I've discovered that she's infj too and that all of it was because of here trying to make the kid she wanted ( with a very developed S ! ) vs me : another stubborn elephant in the same room 😂😂😂😂😂...I love her and I'm sure that she didn't mean to hurt me and "rebuilding" our relationship was so important to me ... Our relationship now makes me so proud of myself .. And it kinda make me feel so mature for my age as well (I'm 21 😌) ...

I recently left a enfj and it was a bondage situation to this man that my own insecurity allowed me to accept. I am in the exact mindset now that you are expressing in this video. This video is my confirmation that I'm on the right path now because now I know better what I want and what I don't want to hold me back because me being held back serves no one. I know better now. Thank you for your confirmation. This me😁💕 🙏TY

Any comments from long term INFJ/INFJ romances/marriages?

never met an other Infj.... that I know of, or could tell somebody is an Infj... even Infj you tubers a lot of the time they make me doubt if I am an Infj. I do relate what you said about being 'upbeat' for a certain time, I can do that. but my Se is not that strong that I can do that al day. But for a short time I can do Se pretty well, that people think I am like that all the time which is exhausting to me, do other Infjs have the same?

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

I definitely feel the same way! When I do my videos and my business of course there is SE involved, but in general I am laid back most of the time

Personality type does not exclude major differences in values and religious beliefs and sometime goals in life.

The way to have happiness and contentment is to be positive what you project into the world you'll have a happiness and peace if you project negative vibes you'll will be Miserable you'll attract negative people and a life without peace and happiness .

Just dated another infj. Fireworks, passion, emotion, conversation, amazing. When it blew up, devastating and terrifying. I don't think it was worth it.

Yeah definitely we shouldn't have people in our life who tell us that we e are living our life wrong. I mean I had people like that in my life and I removed them from my life

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

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i know someone who pretend to be an infj , he talks too much about something i am not interested , focus on details too too much , i told him to be specific and tell abstract , i found him boring 1st i listened to him but later i told him what i really see about him

I’m gonna pitch in with my experience with another INFJ. First off this INFJ is in their early to mid thirties. They are spiritual. And they have worked on themselves and their growth. But he is not forward, in fact he always approaches me in a roundabout way and walks on egg shells and is not direct but gets mad at me that I’m not getting what he’s trying to say. It is annoying because they are not forward. They are also very clingy. They are judgmental of other people and walk around with this hostility because they hate how people don’t get them. He also uses his cat to start conversations which is stupid because you could just say hi and a big opportunity will open up but instead he uses his cat and is indirect and he’s like I’ve been trying to make conversations with you but you aren’t in the mood. And their way of trying is sending silly messages and hide behind sarcasm and their cats but they call me fake but they don’t see how fake they are being. They hold everyone to high standards yet they don’t hold themselves accountable to these standards at all. It’s so pathetic. When we first met, there was an instant connection between us, but also we met at a big online chat room and they easily judged me that I was fake and that they disliked that. So of course I started to be cautious of the way I behaved to they don’t hate that. Then there were a lot of things happening in which there were a lot of misunderstandings but those were always eye opening to me and the way I am and it was happening at a time of my life when I started to mature and grow and so I started to work on myself, my confidence, and my flaws. But I had a lot of free time back then so we talked a lot. Then as soon as I started to get busy with work and life, things started to go bad and eventually we fought because they got so clingy and needy and I felt suffocated and it was always me who was the bad guy. Then we made up, COVID happened and suddenly I had so much free time, things went really good at that time. And it went on as we gradually started to go back to work. But it wasn’t full time so I still had a lot of free time. But then as soon as I got occupied again, things went horrible again. They are very judgmental and they see other people as lowly people just because they don’t have depth like he does. And they would compare me with people and all of a sudden they let out their judgment on me which was really false, and we had a huge fight, and I noticed how things escalated so I started to blame myself to ease them up and I apologized and all that but I was still hurt by them so it was hard to get back like nothing happened. They over analyze the things I say and quote them back to me and forget the most important events and then come and attack me for a little thing I said that they’ve taken out of context. They don’t listen to what I say instead they let out their Ni realizations and enforce them on me and dismiss my situations. They are so obsessed with my inspiration and passion with books but they don’t work on reading on their own they prefer to hear it from me. They say things and then when I tell them we’ll you said that when I told you about the thing and they reply with oh I only said that because I didn’t know what to say. So as I was taking my time to ease back into it I continued to get all of these long judgmental messages about me drifting away, and their was a lot of guilt trips and they blamed me. It went on and on, and it get worse every time. Until they said I’m the one who destroyed it and all that. And after all that we tried to get over it and resolve it and we got into mutual understanding, but still this hostility remains. And so it’s really hard because when we fight we realize there goes the best person I’ve met in my life the one who truly cares about me, but when we get back together it’s all the judgment and guilt trips and clingy attitude and it’s so bad. So right now I don’t know what we are, but I truly think I dislike them. But I think the best thing to do for both of us is to just separate because they are suffocating and I don’t like them anymore. I think when we think about INFJ-INFJ relationship we idealize it, but when we go through it, it turns out to be a nightmare. And by the way that is a friend they aren’t even in a relationship with me and we don’t date yet they did all of that and every time they got clingy I’d say we’re not dating! But they dismiss it with this “a friendship is a relationship” but I think what’s more important is acceptance, and they were never able to accept me. Not really.

Would you date another INFJ?

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

I would! For me it's only important that the person is self sufficient and driven.

@jeydinho17

5 жыл бұрын

Wenzes right. Emotionally and intellectually?

Yeah wasn't that harsh :)

@Wenzes

5 жыл бұрын

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How many INFJs do you know in your life ?

Your videos are not time fluid CONFUSING!!!..im going to send you a PICTURE!|