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@oquendogeorge860

4 жыл бұрын

Frank James I like this video. Thank you

@alexdeleon7829

4 жыл бұрын

Frank James If you would like another book to read, I have three options: Wicked: The Life And Times Of The Wicked Witch Of The West, Onion Girl, and/or The Underdog Advantage! All are great reads! 💚

@hollyp.8849

4 жыл бұрын

Frank out here changing my life fo eva

@dianaortiz1078

4 жыл бұрын

I told my sisters about your channel, they took the personality test and now they are obsessed with your videos. Definitely life changing, we have a stronger bond now I hope

@JLOVES

4 жыл бұрын

🥳🥳🥳🙏🙏🙏🥳🥳🥳🥰💫

Any single INFJ women out there, we’re a rare breed.

@sannedeheer2120

4 жыл бұрын

just gotta keep dodging those hungry boys

@1xTheDarkKnightx1

4 жыл бұрын

That will be exhausting from personal experiance 2 INFJ dont mix well

@gunjanjain5746

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

@UzumakiX5series

4 жыл бұрын

@@gunjanjain5746 Hiya!

@pouniverse9912

4 жыл бұрын

damn yeah, we are 😂😂

I’m an INFJ girl and I think I’m gonna be single for my entire life hahah

@GalidorDragon

4 жыл бұрын

Same here

@LifeDIY

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate.

@rachananaicker5008

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@andreaglez4593

4 жыл бұрын

Same :c

@griffoboffin619

4 жыл бұрын

I feel this

1. Spontaneous 2. Sure of their identity 3. Able to understand your NF talking style 4. Able to be direct 5. Won't test your boundaries too much

@marcytk

2 жыл бұрын

thank you so much, dear♥️

@allmightymusicbot6289

2 жыл бұрын

Shit. Looks like I fucked it up with 5. Me ENTP guy probably now understood why he fucked up with the girl he loves

@lenoredavi6137

2 жыл бұрын

No 5 is a deal breaker for me.

@highhorse902

2 жыл бұрын

Much appreciated !

@GrafinVonHopper

2 жыл бұрын

A grande questão é: Qual dos MBTI's preenchem todos estes requisitos? Não adianta falar que é o ENFP porque considero a personalidade deles muito volátil e não parecem preencher bem o segundo requisito.

Me, an INTP who is romantically interested in an INFJ person (and totally isn't studying how they work): Interesting.

@starseekers3765

3 жыл бұрын

ME, ive been looking into them for 2 weeks and i still cant understand how they work

@lyrical_profit9518

3 жыл бұрын

I still don't understand how I even work lolz being an eye of Jay doesn't suck but it's definitely different most times I love it because I feel so different. And when I'm really on fire I often predict what people are about to say next very easily but it's a lonely road no one can relate to me except another infj and I have yet to meet another. I hope to become the first worldwide famous infj wish me luck

@reviewchannel6638

3 жыл бұрын

@@lyrical_profit9518 It's a lonely road only if you want to make it feel like a lonely road. I've found that not only INFJs can relate to me, but also other NF(Idealists) types. It's not hard to find some of those. Also,I do wish you achieve your dreams - which seem to be fame-related - but I'll have to let you know that INFJs are very well established in the "famous spectrum" already (M.L. King, Nelson Mandela, Ghandi, even Hitler, as well as some more recent writers, psychologists, celebrities etc). So yeah,you won't really be the first famous INFJ but I surely do hope you achieve your dream of becoming famous and using this fame for an objectively good cause.

@dream_ing223

3 жыл бұрын

same gurlll

@jerryb7185

3 жыл бұрын

Rare bird! Can you teach that to other women?

I’m an INFJ and require a partner who is emotionally independent and can’t live without me. Does that make sense? Ok.

@lauriel.4667

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂....sadly, it makes perfect sense to me. Lol🤦🏾‍♀️😂😂😂

@taylorle1730

3 жыл бұрын

@@lauriel.4667 yes it makes sense right?! I needed that validation fellow INFJ

@jacobodom8401

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you want that person to have a solid frame of who they are and are extremely attracted to you. That is the ideal for the average person

@radiantly_fatime

3 жыл бұрын

Perfect sense!

@TheSockSister

3 жыл бұрын

Completely!

- someone who can make us more spontaneous, make us take breaks from being a crazy planner - someone who has a fixed identity - someone who can decide what they want and not just be okay with "whatever" - someone whos not afraid to slap us back into reality - someone who respects our boundaries - someone whos willing to accept advice, open-minded - someone who appreciates our way of thinking and how we see the world - someone who appreciates a good listener and like to be unravelled

@TaxEvasi0n

4 жыл бұрын

What type does this typically fall under? This video really soothes my relationship soul, however I don’t believe I will find her.

@timothyds7453

4 жыл бұрын

@@TaxEvasi0n Well I'm an INTJ and this description fits me pretty well ;) ... when I start to open up to someone

@stormeart

4 жыл бұрын

IRYL My 20+ yr ESTP partner has the 1st half of the list without a doubt, but there have been some definite struggles on the latter items over the years. 😂

@foottoast4235

4 жыл бұрын

I'd say ENTPs are the best fit as long as they are using their Fe; sharing Ti and Fe with them means they can truly understand how you feel while having a sligthly different way of looking at the world, after that I'd say ENFP and ENFJs. INFJ x INFJ is also realy good though, if both aren't too similar and one is active like an ENTP generally is.

@sos2530

4 жыл бұрын

What do you mean by unraveled?

me, an INFJ : *knows what i need in a relationship* sees this video in recommendations: lets find out if im right

@rubierianellesoundamawora9068

2 жыл бұрын

same

@gideonmele1556

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto

@anival9576

2 жыл бұрын

Well...? What's the verdict?

INFJ: cant spontaneously come up with an example of something spontaneous. 😆

@jerryb7185

3 жыл бұрын

Ha! That's awesome. Verbally i am like a gun slinger. I always have a great retort. As for acting spontaneous, I'll get back to you when I have a plan for that.

@claystahl7002

2 жыл бұрын

Lastrelationshipwas25yrsagolivedondrinkingandonenightstandsimstillkindahotsoicangetlaidjustnotsober

@sleepyhead_648

2 жыл бұрын

Yess 😫, im always anxious when people starting to ask my decision spontaneously, like hold up i need to think--

@Rin-ig3ci

2 жыл бұрын

YAAAAASSSSSS!!!!!

@IceNomada

2 жыл бұрын

@@jerryb7185 It's like even when I think I'm doing something spontaneus, I already have plans for what could happen what could go wrong and what to do xd

I'm an INFJ and I really need someone for deep talk, ugh everyone is robbing my energy with nonsense bs.

@asanaa444

4 жыл бұрын

Just.lisa_marie this this this !!!!!

@wwekickme79

4 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same i feel so different so weird like I'm an alien here and my deep talk weirds people out and it's just so hard to find someone like me

@babettelenz7995

4 жыл бұрын

Same!

@foottoast4235

4 жыл бұрын

INFPs actually tend to end up doing this to me quite a lot, because I tend to have similar interests to them, and while I invest all my energy in the relationship, they just end up using me like a counselor and not treating meike I'm a friend, more like I'm their occasional advisor.

@oliviamiller1178

4 жыл бұрын

perioddd AHSH

“I can’t even think of something spontaneous because it’s so outside of my day to day life” 😂 lmaooo me

@BethsarimIAM

4 жыл бұрын

I was snickering, I would be planning the example beforehand if I knew it was gonna fly out of my mouth.

@ImNotTellingYou-ht8uq

4 жыл бұрын

I know right! Some people who don’t know me well don’t realise that my ‘spontaneity’ is in fact not spontaneity as it is planned inside my head first then made to be seen as me being spontaneous! 😂

@kleinfritzchen3226

4 жыл бұрын

@@BethsarimIAM He planned it this way to be funny.

@Bjorick

4 жыл бұрын

i bought games on christmas sale.......on a whim, even though i saved and planned for the sale to come up......but that counts, right?

@BethsarimIAM

4 жыл бұрын

@@Bjorick no excuses for shopping addictions, or collecting OCD, or must buy now on sale plan to use later...

I, an INFJ, would really appreciate a partner who inspires me and helps me to improve myself and get me to do things I actually always wanted to do in a direct but not forcing way. Idk of this makes sense

@dayalaver64

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect sense. Also direct but not critical or making fun of me.

@highhorse902

2 жыл бұрын

i am your 100th like. Congratulations!

@kikow3792

2 жыл бұрын

Get yourself an ENFJ.

@AnnieIsaLau

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's called motivating someone and not boss them 😉 makes total sense.

@shuangliv4633

2 жыл бұрын

IT IS MAKING HUGE SENSE 😁

Frank: INFJs question their identity a bit too much sometimes Me, an INFJ, who wanted to post something about certain traits, but was afraid it would not resonate with other INFJs and who would therefore question my identity, causing me to question my own identity: *sweats*

@mr.beancouldbreakmyspleen643

2 жыл бұрын

HAHAHHA my exact thoughts

@MK-mx7up

Жыл бұрын

i swear i’ve tested myself at least 8 times hahaha

@just.callmemack

Жыл бұрын

Yesss currently sweating right now!

@DarkCelestialConsciousness

Жыл бұрын

Lmfao love u guys !!! XD 💖🌟 ENFJ here

I'm INFJ and I need someone who's helpful and makes me feel appreciated. I don't want to feel like someone's mommy doing everything. I'm pretty easy to make happy. I don't like feeling used or unappreciated

@sandrah7559

4 жыл бұрын

Heidi Bemis Agreed. Someone who takes advantage of my kindness or tries to use me is just asking for the ‘Door Slam’ 🚪 💨

@richasaxena6636

4 жыл бұрын

Same here... I am also an INFJ. I like genuine people who don't try to take me for granted. Emotional manipulation or self centered behaviour is a big turn off.

@Braddibwai

4 жыл бұрын

This is perfect

@AnnRomey

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with this!

@defiantaichi

4 жыл бұрын

Same

Everyone should just have a sims marker with their personality type above their heads 😂

@ellieb.1231

4 жыл бұрын

But I'm an INTP. I don't make myself visible enough for this to be useful. 😂 I'll set up an omnidirectional infrared signal from my phone or something.

@sarahunser8904

4 жыл бұрын

Ellie B. Haha 😂 yes that way people can still find you if needed, but you can keep your space!

@wingwaves940

4 жыл бұрын

Lol 😀

@skyteus

4 жыл бұрын

If they so desired.. xD

@yonathanrakau1783

4 жыл бұрын

@@ellieb.1231 if that even exist i can prank more stupid people hey this is a great idea

My boyfriend is an INFJ and I am an INFP. We literally have this discussion a lot "I want what you want" "No, you tell me what you want." "No you decide..." At the end we often have to guess what the other one wants. I am trying my best to make him feel safe to set boundaries. I am uncomfortable with deciding for him too much. Also as I am an INFP he is one of few people where I feel seen, heard and understood. We can deep talk for hours. However, he loves giving advice and helping others and I don't him to give too much, as I don't want him to exhaust himself. I want him to know that he is worthy of being cared for and listened to too. So I guess that's why I am watching videos about INFJs at 2am.

@violettenigma

9 ай бұрын

Haha cool, I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an INFP 😄

@lucy9698

9 ай бұрын

If he's anything like me - trust me, he prefers you to decide for him. If he makes a decision of his own you'll be the first to know 😂

@EJtoU

6 ай бұрын

It sounds like you need to build trust that he can and will share his wants and needs. Perhaps a conversation about what his boundaries, wants, and needs are might help to create that foundation? Or practicing as a hypothetical, just to build trust and comfortability around those kinds of conversations ahead of time? Perhaps he’ll have a suggestion how he can earn your trust in this area.

@donsolos

2 ай бұрын

I will take one of you please, kindly point me in the direction where I can locate a clone

It's ok having boundaries was stupid anyway is the most INFJ thing I've ever heard 😆💀😭

@ericalbond

3 жыл бұрын

That is totally what I came here to say! He was SO spot on with that!

@kurniautami7725

2 жыл бұрын

I'm in a studying my infj crush bcz I really don't get it when infjs saying this, but would u mind if u give more explanation to it? Do the infjs getting hurt and plan a revenge when they yield like that?

@isegard2957

2 жыл бұрын

oh I was asking my infj bf about his boundaries so I don't accidentally cross it and make him sad but he is like eh ... boundaries is something we will set once we reach that problem. I 'm not sure if he was polite or he is just unsure whare his boundaries are at this point either way I will try to be mindful about what I say and do to him. INTP here ( gosh I'm so bad at acting like a normal person but trust me guys I'm trying so hard )

@EMichaelBall

2 жыл бұрын

@Isegard Historically, normal people have made the world a worse place.

@daughterofashandembers3945

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! 😂

When someone asks a question, it's not rare for me to ask, "what do you mean?" Not because I don't understand the question necessarily, but because I could interpret the intent of the question in several different ways.

@randomperson1714

3 жыл бұрын

Vincisomething yesss.I feel you.

@cronelilith2830

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. My most used word is why?? I just wanna know what someone is thinking and really what is the point!!! Give me the bottom line!!!

@gaia1577

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an INFP and I also see many angles

@neonsphere8041

3 жыл бұрын

yeah me too. i hope the people i am talking doesn't think i don't understand what they are talking about.

@astoldbynickgerr

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed... 😌

“Can we come back to earth? This is where we live.” As an INFJ girl, I can confirm that I really need someone to help me with this. I can spend HOURS in my own world.

@prakhargoyanka3891

3 жыл бұрын

INFJ male Can totally relate.... it's a blessing in disguise, sometimes I get so lost in myself it frustrates the shit out of me..... best thing I can do is write it all out in a diary or something, hope it helps and take care of yourself.

@shayla_lesk1542

3 жыл бұрын

@@prakhargoyanka3891 Yo, good luck to you too! Writing down stuff is probably the best thing to do, other than talking to someone. I for one, don’t like to open up to people and seem to keep everything in my own little bubble. So good luck, but be careful! Don’t let your thoughts turn negative, or everything will go downhill! I know from experience, so just be careful. What helped me a lot is making and doing goals, it enables me to do something everyday, stay away from negative thoughts/feelings, and helps me become a better person. So have a good day! 😊

@latademonorholditdwn2515

3 жыл бұрын

@@shayla_lesk1542 We are (INFJ's) entrapped within an infinite feeling of longing, left over from "the event" in our lives where we felt comfort during chaos provided by another person or habitual activity at a stage in our lives when our imaginations were still at full throttle. The world to us was on a path too isolation from the moment of awareness but our beauty lies within the anomoly of constant awareness and our ability to describe our thoughts and desires in the poetic justice we lend the world. U are adored for being unique and human.

@cassidytaylor548

3 жыл бұрын

@@prakhargoyanka3891 yeah writing in a diary helps but then I procrastinate and get lost and then don’t do it 🤣

@Niyuki.

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine INFJ + INFJ, will they create a world for them or live in their own? I'm really curious about INFJ/INFJ dates.

I'm an INTJ currently dating an INFJ and I literally never felt what I feel now. She is the only one who can warm my heart and the beautiful thing is how mutual everything is about us. There are some difference in our personalities but they seem to compensate each others. I tend to be more conscious about my feeling but also more judging about them, while she is less of that but still super understanding. I love everything about her, don't wanna loose her.

@ChaosActual1

Жыл бұрын

Right there with you, never had a relationship go as well as it has with my INFJ, we’ve been engaged a few months now, but honestly I knew she was the one I wanted to marry within months of our first date. To be fair we’re childhood friends so that wasn’t a completely uninformed decision, basically all I needed to know was how things would change after the relationship changed, if that makes sense.

@sarrabouhamed

11 ай бұрын

Marry her ❤

@blessedsoul949

8 ай бұрын

Awwww❤❤

@zola5653

8 ай бұрын

I am an INFJ (F) happily in a safe and secure relationship with INTJ (M)

@PsychicInsignia

5 ай бұрын

Awww same thing infj with infp, we have been together for a long time.

I'm INFJ and I had a dream a few nights back where my perfect partner did something unexpected that I never knew I always wanted: I wanted to go to him but I was afraid of rejection so instead I laid on the floor near his room and just went to sleep. He came out - saw me - laid down next to me - pulled me into his arms - and also went to sleep. It - was - perfect!

@JN-dj5xh

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a perfect dream

@proffoctopus66yearsago22

Жыл бұрын

girl your dreams sound like my day dreams..... 💀💀

@DarkCelestialConsciousness

Жыл бұрын

Strange loll :D

I think every INFJ needs a partner who is into personal growth. Also, it would be really cool to see a video all about "NF" talk.

@desireez5740

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I stated the same; personal growth

@downsjmmyjones101

4 жыл бұрын

What kind of personal growth?

@sjpercy1334

4 жыл бұрын

I hadn't thought of this but wow... This is going to save me a lot of time on the dating scene.... ME: are you into personal growth DATE: Umm not really ME: Next 😂 🙏🏼🙂

@foxinfj3472

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Growth is huge and nonnegotiable. And FJ does NF talk all the time. I need to make my ESFJ husband watch all his videos so he understands it’s not just me...😂

@daringgreatly8473

4 жыл бұрын

SJ Percy ask about books they like etc. people agree about anything but what do their actions show? If they are into personal growth you will see it throughout their life and how they talk. 😊🌸

"That sounded a little sinister, but I didn't mean it in a bad way " What a very INFJ thing to say😂

@anne-lisepollet5071

3 жыл бұрын

In the end wasn't it quite charming?! The idea of unwraping a gift or observing a flower slowly blooming...

@CB.ENGLISH.STUDIO

3 жыл бұрын

@@anne-lisepollet5071 indeed, I kinda loved the way he said it and then I giggled when he said "not in a bad way" cuz for me, it was not necessary to clarify...😅

@twin-winds3808

3 жыл бұрын

I thought when he said that, that we are trying to unravel a person's inner most thoughts ,like unraveling a dark chocolate Hershey kiss, to get past that rough foil and into the rich inner workings of a piece of chocolate.

@twin-winds3808

3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts I ment

@kurniautami7725

2 жыл бұрын

Yea, I noticed it that way and saying literally same words when he said it

One day I woke up and realized most my friends were INFJs. I believe I offer my INFJ friends and family these things that they crave: 1) Structure and direction 2) My INFJ friends like to be around loudly quirky people because it makes them feel less weird and more comfortable opening up 3) Loyalty, reliability and honesty are paramount to an INFJ, who are often taken advantage of by other types 4) INFJs like my directness because they feel comfortable when they know what their role is and how they fit in 5) INFJs hate manipulation, and they would rather be asked for a favor or even commanded. INFJs usually enjoy working under me because there are no games or hidden expectations to navigate. Everything is clear and the rules are known and fair. 6) INFJs tend to come out of the woodwork to be the wingman for my masterplans. They like big plans that enact change. They want to make an impact. 7) I like to break down and discuss theory and ideas, and INFJs love joining in and discussing things they thought no one else cared about

@just.callmemack

Жыл бұрын

Hold up… what do you do and do you need more help because you sound like an awesome thought partner to work with…

@PlayshotKalo

Жыл бұрын

You looking for any new employees? Lol

@theprinceofcrows8691

Жыл бұрын

So what is your personality type? INTJ? Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. We are team players by nature and though we can lead we don't feel obsessed with being the leader or controlling the show. We are great wingmen or partners in crime.😉 It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp of things to me. 🤙

@user-vb5fq1co8y

11 ай бұрын

Same here. They tend to be okay friends, less okay romantic interests for me.

@lucy9698

9 ай бұрын

Where do I sign up lol

“I can’t even think of something spontaneous…” 😂. Meanwhile my ENFP brain already has 3 examples. INFJs are so cute and absolutely wonderful human beings. Can’t wait to squish my INFJ later today. 😊

Me as an INFJ: Gives great advice to others regarding life, the universe and everything; Can't advise myself about practical matters pertaining to general living on Earth🤔😭

@whattheduenas

4 жыл бұрын

SAME lmaooo

@grandpawnapkins7429

4 жыл бұрын

I do the same thing holy shit XD One second Im helping a friend and the next I forget the tea kettle has been screaming for the past 5 minutes LMAO

@melmel8907

4 жыл бұрын

TRUE

@heythemelhoseny7453

4 жыл бұрын

yes, the same problem what we have to do guys? I don't wanna be useless

@heyg0ld

4 жыл бұрын

ATTACKED!! 😂

People thought I was spontaneous for booking a trip to Ireland 3 days before the flight - but the truth is as an INFJ I have thought about this trip for months if not years and planned to the hour my itinerary before booking the flight. With our over analysing brain, we are often full of ideas and plans, some fully formed and thought out, but are simply only executed on a whim making it seem spontaneous.

@ProdavackaDivu

4 жыл бұрын

drzmak exactly. I make big sudden changes (according to others’ perspective) but i plan meticulously because the fallout from traveling suddenly without planning well is never pretty nor something my sensitive self wants to deal with. I wanna know I’ll be in a safe comfy bed and eating well etc.

@hugmc

4 жыл бұрын

drzmak I hope you enjoyed your trip 🇮🇪

@dw9524

4 жыл бұрын

Same. People always tell me "oh going to london for uni is expensive" like I haven't been planning it since I was 15. Like trust me it was a big decision but I'm fucking ready!

@oualidnira

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you 😂😂😂

@jessicaa3641

4 жыл бұрын

People think i am so spontaneous for getting tattoos "on a whim" but honestly I think about them for YEARS

You basically just described my therapist....oh boy.

I'm INFJ and all I really want in a partner is someone who supports me when needed but also lets me be independent. I need someone who can tie me down to earth but also set me free.

Frank: How I talk sounds weird... Me an INFJ: What do you mean you talk weird? I understand exactly what you're saying. Frank: ...except to my fellow INFJ's who are right there with me. Me: Oooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh, makes sense.

@user-lu4fn9pe4y

3 жыл бұрын

This means u haven’t understood what he meant until he explained tho.

@Pelsik

3 жыл бұрын

INFJs are sometims a walking paradox arent they

@valeriapebble

3 жыл бұрын

As an enfp I think the infj way of speaking is charming :D because it's so much more concise than my rambles, but still has emotional elements. Idk that's how my boyfriend speaks he's an infj

@jasminemedellin5824

3 жыл бұрын

@@valeriapebble I don't understand lol I'm an INFJ

@valeriapebble

3 жыл бұрын

@@jasminemedellin5824 it's ok I don't understand either 🤣 like I get on side stories about the side stories

Don't forget honesty. I don't know about the other INFJ's, but if you lie to me, I never fully trust you ever again. Especially if you lie to me while seemingly opening up to me. It makes me feel weirdly offended and ruins what little trust I have in the beginning

@ahuman3755

3 жыл бұрын

I’m also an INFJ and that’s the same with me

@laurelmalinowski1676

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely amen to this.

@giobreakingfree3497

3 жыл бұрын

THIS

@florentineflorentine5059

3 жыл бұрын

Except in relationship. For the worthed one, we can try to give second chance since they lied as a nature to survive or protect theirself. We can let them know its better to be honest even hurt, rather lie but we already know behind the scene.

@twin-winds3808

3 жыл бұрын

@@florentineflorentine5059 true

As an ENTP who’s been married to an INFJ female for over 26 years, it’s definitely been an adventure. Communication is key

I thought the FJ logo at the bottom right corner stood for the "FJ" in INFJ at first. But realized it stood for Frank James 😅

@nadinegomez8858

3 жыл бұрын

it;s both

@arthurnunesdossantos9243

3 жыл бұрын

Me too... Until now

So, my dating profile: *Need someone who doesn't push my boundaries, but allows me to gently unravel them...*

@heythemelhoseny7453

4 жыл бұрын

hhh, I'm still looking for my girl. the weird thing is I found myself opening up in my profile and don't care who's gonna watch it !!

@susysnakegirl

4 жыл бұрын

I love that about my husband, an INTJ. He knows when I'm not ready to hear something and chooses his timing wisely, but is also a deep and mysterious person. After 16 years of marriage, I still learn things.

@danasima8659

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, yes my Princess 🙃 xoxo💗

@acharich

4 жыл бұрын

🔥🔥🔥

@AnqiXu1988

4 жыл бұрын

Except I have been advised not to use too many negatives in the dating profile (e.g. what you are NOT looking for in a partner) because you could end up sounding resentful or cynical. I don't agree or disagree with this, but I have been following this rule

"let's come back to earth .. this is where we live, WELCOME" 😂 as an INFJ, I need to tell that to myself all the time !

@ayaaly2866

4 жыл бұрын

😂Same almost every day

@Zoovilifts

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😂

@toxsiin

4 жыл бұрын

i was lost in thought when he said that and had to rewind to see what i missed

@sewaller1384

4 жыл бұрын

My partner tells me that almost daily.

@mylenainacio273

4 жыл бұрын

It reminds me of a conversation I had with an INFJ friend the other day. I said something like that. I felt bad afterwards, though. ENFP here hahah.

I'm a female INFJ... I was married when I was a 17 year old teenager, I divorced 2 years later when I was 19... I'm 67 now.. and I don't think that I'll ever get married again. I love living alone. I had a Great Aunt who married young and her husband died soon after, she lived to be 105 years old and was happy alone.

I'm falling for INFJ. I am ENFP myself. He's like no one I ever met before and I'm eager to see how far we will grow

@autumnpendergast9151

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@AlessandroCasciaro

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@tommynobaka

Жыл бұрын

As a male INFJ, He'll provide you with a mystery worth exploring. Just remember to communicate clear boundaries and allow the space to grow with each other

@EternalSushiMusic

Жыл бұрын

I'm dating an ENFP gal as an INFJ! Communication and boundaries! Don't press him too hard and he should indicate what's comfortable c：

@camillebreuskin

Жыл бұрын

How did it turn out?

"U need someone..who maybe even understands, wat ur trynna say" - Frank 2020

@BlackSnow2389

3 жыл бұрын

*Sigh*. If only...

Because the deep gets tiring, even for ourselves, they need to have patience, a lot of patience....

@foxinfj3472

4 жыл бұрын

Linda Z Yep. You nailed it.

@zp6097

4 жыл бұрын

Which is hard to tell them when I am always so iMPATIENT! I’m a hypocrite, 100%.

@tectonicD

4 жыл бұрын

danielbtarver@yahoo.com

@Kindness808

4 жыл бұрын

My ENTJ is always telling me I need to work on being concise...it's been over a decade so I don't know why he expects this. Like, Dude....if I could say this and NOT take an hour for the sake of efficiency...I WOULD! I WOULD DO THAT!

@caitlynryder8639

4 жыл бұрын

If the universe is so big, then why won't it fight me?

I am an infp and my partner is an infj and here is somethings i noticed about him 1. he can be very sensitive to things 2. he constantly is overthinking 3. i started to always notice things he doesnt say and he appreciates that alot 4. but when i do something small just as an appreciation of him, he is really really grateful for that he always overthinking things and it can be both good and bad. But thats where i come in to help him with that and he needs someone to tell him where its too much so like the video said calling him out. Don’t be afraid to call them out at times because thats what they or as i know my partner who is an infj thats what he needs as he’s constantly in his head. But i see no problem with that as i do love him dearly PS this is just to share information about an infj not to criticize them in anyway!! i hope whoever reads this has a better understanding of infjs

@luisantos1996

2 жыл бұрын

Yep do not critize them, you gotta be kind with them, you gotta understand how we feel, we already are very harsh on ourselfs, we need someone to make us feel at ease, we are very emotional and sensitive. Dating life for us is an struggle.

@AnnieIsaLau

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I'm with INFJ also, and I have never met a guy like that before. I keep telling him 😂 we had to adjust at first because of our insecruties and stuff, but we talked about it alot and now it's great. 😊 I honestly never met a guy like that before and still in shock and impressed about him 😂 we can chat for hours and never get tired.

@ErikAdalbertvanNagel

Жыл бұрын

Dang I'm also an INFP and an INFJ she's just toyed me, borderline evil and crazy stuffed with pain. Like wtf is wrong with INFJ people?

@AnnieIsaLau

Жыл бұрын

@@ErikAdalbertvanNagel hahaha I just read my comment. I'm not with my INFJ anymore because he lied to my face so I dumped him. I can't tolerate lies.

@shikhasuman871

Жыл бұрын

@@ErikAdalbertvanNagel everything? Lol. I'm even scared of myself. 🥲😂

I'm an ENTP, and my wife is an INFJ. We just celebrated our 15th anniversary; I attribute that to us both realizing each other's strengths and weaknesses and, henceforth, building on them to create balance. I constantly find it pretty amazing how different our brains function in so many regards, yet we are also so much alike, not in spite of said differences, but because of them. It's seemingly paradoxical but true, nonetheless. As with any relationship, it is give and take, finding compromise, and putting one's ego aside long enough to consider the other's perspectives and the subjective nuances which create said perspectives.

“You guys have watched my videos right? You know that half of what I say is like ‘what?!’” No. Native INFJs. Fluent in INFJ.

@melissaphillis7247

4 жыл бұрын

Same! I get everything he says, or doesn't finish saying.

@amber726

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. 😂 When he said that, I was like - I don't understand, I fully understand you.

@jamieb2732

4 жыл бұрын

Yep! I follow everything he says and usually can pick up on the thoughts he doesnt finish too 🤣 It is funny seeing that play out in real life though! My friend is an ENFJ/P and while she can keep up with me most times, there are moments where she looks at me like I'm an alien freak and has me re-explain everything.

@jaeloniala4672

4 жыл бұрын

yep...!

@revolutionfrommahbed4246

4 жыл бұрын

Or you get with the NT who can listen and be all “So what you just spent 30min saying is xyz.” (In one short sentence) And NFs are all - “Yes! Exactly!” -- Hillary J ENTP/NF Interpreter 😉

I’m an ENFP and my husband is a ISTJ. when I talk all nonsensical it amuses him. One time we were at the beach, sitting on the sand, enjoying a romantic night. I was staring at the water deep in thought and he turned to me and said “what are you thinking about” and I said “how many dead bodies do you think are in the ocean?”. His reaction was priceless and he knew right away what kind of person I am 🤣

@astraeusgodofthestars676

4 жыл бұрын

As an ENFP, I approve this comment 🤣🤣🤣🌈🐻👍 I really want to meet an ISTJ, a complete polar opposite of my personality hahaha

@SoulVlogs744

3 жыл бұрын

🤣😂🤣😂👍

@sylviaoesterwinter8858

3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit!!!! I thought I was the only one. I live in San Diego and have completely freaked myself out at the beach over the past many years here. Tee-hee! How many dead people? Are you old enough to remember the Tsunami? I was not in the water for over a year.

@iumcon8647

3 жыл бұрын

Dead human bodies in the ocean? Interesting thought. How many permafrost, megafauna carcasses are now thawing out, and drip drip dripping their ancient funk into the streams>rivers>oceans of the planet? Skin, hair, bone, and flesh that hasn’t been kissed by oxygen or the sun’s light for over 12,000 years...now slowly marinating in a soup of polar meltwater and cradled by oceanic currents. I’m sure we’ll adapt.

@kassandrasabean6020

3 жыл бұрын

@@iumcon8647 Okay, that's disgusting.

As an INFJ I kind of want a partner who can love and accept me for who I am and whose presence calms me down and nurtures me. As someone who has never dated, I don't even know where to start. PS: I'm overthinking the shit out of myself while writing this

I'm an INFJ woman and married an ENTJ guy. I highly recommend this combo 👌🏽

@jayarikishii

2 жыл бұрын

Why?

Who else feels like "The ONE" for you maybe an alien sometimes and can't be found on earth?

@mandysimmons2769

3 жыл бұрын

LOL I feel like I'm from Planet nice and everyone else is living on planet ahole. LOL ex scuze my language. I married an ASpie. I shoulda got at least an NT.

@LisePlansandJournals

3 жыл бұрын

🙋🏾‍♀️I found my alien and managed to mess things up with my insecurities😔Definitely don’t think another one will be on earth lol

@segunmola1

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 Yeah

@stef4oben88

3 жыл бұрын

me!

@stef4oben88

3 жыл бұрын

It's frustrating seeing all the INFJs crying that they are single and can't find anyone while describing qualities and behaviours that nearly perfectly match XDDD. This entire video was just one additional piece of my confirmation bias lol

As an infj woman, I respond best to an alpha male that is a gentleman. I simply melt at his command.

@nessauk2786

4 жыл бұрын

Yes so do I....

@soyo4647

4 жыл бұрын

Definitely...

@rialavinia4472

4 жыл бұрын

Wow this is exactly it ....

@daisyday5037

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe your INFP not an INFJ. I’m an INFP and I totally realize Id love a gentleman who can sooth me and also true masculinity

@soyo4647

4 жыл бұрын

Well, I see an alpha male as knowing who he is and what he wants. A gentleman would respect my boundaries. These points were made in the video. Also if he is secure enough in himself, he may not mind being gently unraveled.

INFP (F) + INFJ (M) highschool sweethearts here. Married 23 years, basically grew up together as a couple. This video was spot on from my (infp) perspective. Sometimes I'm still not sure if I married a guru or a serial killer, but I'm still having fun

*INTJ who is studying a bit on INFJ because the girl I'm interested is one* Knowledge is power, which hopefully won't make me say to wrong word and get a slap to the face

@masteroogway6339

2 жыл бұрын

Me too but with a guy. How’s it going for u?

I just realised you’re one of the few channels that has the decency and consideration to announce when a youtube ad will show up. That’s pretty INFJ, I feel I would do the same thing 😂

@isabelle1976

4 жыл бұрын

Do you have a premium account, bu any chance ? 🙄😉

@saxongreen78

4 жыл бұрын

If you look at old British TV recordings, you'll notice the program is in two parts and there's a little bumper between the show and the ads...like a star or a camera lens fade...much nicer than getting a big jet of vomit in one's ear without warning.

@harrycrime8836

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, as that came up, you comment was the one I was going to read and I thought exactly that.

@elevatedlife3884

4 жыл бұрын

The first time in KZread history a youtuber announces an ad. He is truly one of the few people that is capable of impressing me.

@voyance4elle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes very cool 😁

I used to work as a drug counsellor and one of my colleagues once said that when she watched me work with clients it was like seeing someone perform open heart surgery without the person even noticing! I took that as a massive compliment!

@martinholm1566

3 жыл бұрын

That is for sure a very nice compliment. Take it to your heart.

As an INFJ man, my INTP girlfriend is the best partner I could ever ask for. We always balance each other out and we never argue

@tommynobaka

Жыл бұрын

my intp ex was way too spontaneous for me resulting in our breakup (you can guess just what kind of spontaneity im talking about) granted, besides that, I was extremely comfortable with her and could both read eachothers minds. Which is why I'm still friends with her to this day

Im an INFP dating my INFJ boyfriend and i love our relationship dynamic. We have such similar personalities, and hobbies. We are able to understand each other very well. Were both empathetic and we never feel misunderstood with each other. I definitely am more spontaneous where he is more of the planner and it works out. If he plans to much, then i plan things for us, and i remind him to live and enjoy the present and not to worry too much, as we are both HEAVILY over-thinkers. Our self awareness and kindness is amazing and I’ve never had a better more compatible partner. I love studying INFJS and ways i can understand him more and be a better partner 😊 We can talk for hours and while we both can be stubborn, we both love to improve ourselves and take into account advice that the other is giving, and actually make those changes ❤️

I just really love it that I feel "normal" when I watch your videos and read the comments, finally. It's quite a relief. Thank you for sharing this and putting an effort into this.

@jodypopovich6228

4 жыл бұрын

Ditto. I often feel bad about not having friends. But, listening to you feels like friendship to me. I'll make sure I listen more often especially when I feel I need a friend. Because listening to you is validation.

@soojungbyul

4 жыл бұрын

Same. I felt most of my problems with my personality were uniquely my own, in spite of the various other INFJs I'd encountered. Now with this channel, I've never felt so seen before.

@FoldingFlowers

4 жыл бұрын

Are those traits of being very intospective, and overly deep, and relenting, and having lots of boundaries and abstract and subjective typical INFJ traits? Im INFJ and man this guy sounded so familiar to me. I didnt know anyone else thought like this. I mean, i went to a psych for depression and now im stuck being tested for autism because i couldnt give yes/no or 1-10 answers. It would be awesome is this was just a personality thing.

@snoozyq9576

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. The loneliness of it all gets so hard to bear sometimes. This stuff really helps me feel less like ill be alone forever.

@rumaduma5546

4 жыл бұрын

I know. I totally feel you. Everytime I watch his videos I sort of felt at home or someone understands and I feel all happy.

INFJ’s need relationship experience only to realize they don’t actually need a partner....friends are a necessity though

@raziax9603

4 жыл бұрын

THIS!!

@genesiskeglar6372

4 жыл бұрын

Raziax They usually just add extra stress to my life with minimal benefits. I really can’t speak for everybody, but a lot of people know what it’s like.

@marthamurray4732

4 жыл бұрын

Wait, what does this mean? As an INFJ you eventually realize that you don't need a partner? As in, you find out you don't need or want a husband/wife? Just as long as you have friends - which are necessary as you say... ?

@genesiskeglar6372

4 жыл бұрын

Martha Murray Yes. But that’s not for everybody that seems to have this personality type though. That’s just me.

@DP-oi9nd

4 жыл бұрын

Whats a friend

I'm dating an INFJ girl and this is exactly what I am. I am so excited about practicing being more sensitive and caring to them.

Frank: talks Me: yes, I agree, yes, that's correct, absolutely

When you’re an NF and you’re trying to go on giving your opinion on a complex topic and end it with a “I don’t know if this made sense but yeah..” 😅😂😂

@civilizedmonster

3 жыл бұрын

Omg that's me. Lol

@dancingprincess

3 жыл бұрын

I say that all the time too!

@lonelybirdsings5875

3 жыл бұрын

Literally word for word🤯😅

@Laura-Yu

3 жыл бұрын

As an ISTP, I can’t understand NF’s... I’m totally fine with NTs and SFs but I don’t comprehend how feelings can be “so complicated”😂

@biancar6055

3 жыл бұрын

@@Laura-Yu We are basically just winging it at this point lol if it flows, it goes 😂

Overthinking is part of me. It's the only thing I'm good at. But you're right sometimes we need to chill out.

@jessicah3450

4 жыл бұрын

"Don't overthink too much" that was my advice to myself

@havenmanlunas4409

4 жыл бұрын

overthinking is my everyday habit

@snoozyq9576

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate. But I've been practicing taking a leap of faith and just saying "go!" when I'm over thinking about something I'm about to do, and it's definitely been helpful for me.

@almagirimai8931

4 жыл бұрын

what exactly is "over" thinking. Like Mozart, I do exactly the right amount of thinking, not one thought more or less. What other persons do is not my issue.

@5Momijichan5

4 жыл бұрын

Oh dont forget, don’t get too attached !

I’m an ENFP male who is engaged with an INFJ, and this video has more than anything served to reinforce the idea that ENFP’s are (dare I say) the best match for INFJ’s. Every one of these qualities are embodied by an ENFP’s Extraverted Intuition (spontaneity, open mindedness, capable of understanding INFJ thought processes, okay with being unraveled and hearing new perspectives) and Introverted Feeling (Strong Fully-Formed identity, Empathy, can appreciate uniqueness of INFJ). I’ve been in many relationships before meeting my fiancé, and can say from the other end that no other type (in my opinion) can appreciate the qualities of an ENFP to the degree that INFJ’s can.

@MantisTCO

7 ай бұрын

…don’t forget Te! 'Looking for people who call them out!', bringing INFJs back to earth 😂

I'm an INFJ dating an ESTJ and this video confirmed a lot of my thinking as well as presenting me with more insight. He is more spontaneous, very direct, very set in who he is, calls me out but is also respectful.. It was funny when I asked him to take the MB test, he did it without questioning me on it, even though he had no personal interest in it. When he gave me his result, I found two videos describing the type and they described him perfectly (and he agreed they were accurate.) It turned out so accurate because, as per his typing, he didn't care enough about this abstract thing to lie about it, but also doesn't lie to begin with because he strongly values authenticity. Our dynamic is fun because he's very open to new ideas and concepts and loves to learn, he enjoys having long conversations and hearing opinions and criticism. He values self-improvement so those things all help him achieve that so he values my opinions, advice, and explanations about random things, even if he doesn't necessarily agree. There was a suggestion in another video stating ESTJs shouldn't date more sensitive types like INFJs.. and I can't say that hasn't been an issue as it kind of creates a communication barrier at times. While I value emotions, feelings, what they signify, and how to analyze and resolve them, he looks at the more practical and logical side and at times considers emotions and feelings more of a nuisance. It hasn't caused fights, per se, but it has caused misunderstandings a few times and I think that's our biggest barrier as a couple. However, thus far, we've been successful at navigating and resolving these issues. Thank you for providing the insight that you do Frank, and stay awesome!

@ro.l4133

2 жыл бұрын

I was wondering if your able to have deep meaningful conversations with your estj? I know that your NI and his SI can cause a little communication gap but wanted to know if that can or was overcome?

ENFP passing through here! Just a little appreciation post for you INFJs. Some of my closest friends are INFJs, and I can only speak for what I know from my friendships with them, but I truly cherish the special bond I have with each of them. We're comfortable enough to have deep conversations with each other, and appreciate each other's related, yet not identical, views on the world. Like looking at two different sides of the same coin. The other's perspective often stops us in our tracks. Sometimes INFJs have such a unique take on the world, and it's incredible. I also feel like we see aspects of each other that other people seem to miss. Being people who easily understand others but often find themselves feeling pretty misunderstood, I think it’s something we both really appreciate. INFJs are so sharp and intuitive, it's like they see a part of me I wish the rest of the world could see. I think we can also sense each other's boundaries and needs for space, and it ends up feeling really safe with them. I also love how INFJs are planners. I can be kind of an easily-distracted, go-with-what-I-feel-right-now mess myself, so I like that about them. But most of all I love how INFJs are usually great listeners, because I have so much I want to share, like I'm just bursting to share all my ideas and am longing for someone to actually want to listen and share them with me. I feel like INFJs are great people to share a lot of this with. In fact, I think you'd be appealing to different kinds of people because of your many good qualities. oh my goodness I've digressed and written an essay. Is anyone actually going to read this? Anyway, I think you INFJs are so interesting, complex, insightful, and you can also be very sweet. I hope you know you’re great and I know that not everyone really "gets" you, but I hope you find the meaningful relationships in life that you’re looking for :)

@sakshipathak7298

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I am an INFJ female and I really needed this. I have had my share of people who say that I am very boring or rude and all that non real stuffs about me. I somewhat am happy to know that people like us and that they want to have us in their lives. 😄😄

@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202

3 жыл бұрын

@@sakshipathak7298 you're very welcome! people who think you're boring or rude just don't understand your very special complexity, in my opinion! :)

@janellegarden4689

3 жыл бұрын

Awww this INFJ loves what you wrote! I enjoy hearing other types’ perspectives of us, and what you said about infjs seeing a different part of others that many might not see really resonated with me. I believe I have a gift for being able to see people for who they really are and understand them better than most. I’m glad that you noticed that!

@sakshipathak7298

3 жыл бұрын

@@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 thank you so much!

@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202

3 жыл бұрын

​@@janellegarden4689 aww yay, I'm glad you liked what I wrote then. :) I'm sure you do have that gift, and it is indeed a gift!

I am an INFJ and I tend to be attracted to extroverted people. I need someone who can take me out of my comfort zone and yes, slap me out of my INFJ "haze" that I occasionally dwell on..lol

@Ang.143

4 жыл бұрын

A I most definitely

@phoebephoebe7063

4 жыл бұрын

Hi where is your profile pic from? Its cool

@ai4052

4 жыл бұрын

phoebe phoebe - it's from a classic anime called Galaxy Express 999... The character is named Maetel.

@phoebephoebe7063

4 жыл бұрын

@@ai4052 thanks ! Is it any good? My favotite anime os cowboy bebop :D

@danidino1645

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. Not romantically tho. I like having extroverted friends to carry me around and take me out of my comfort zone. I'm a good listener so they can talk as much as they want xD

INFJ are natural therapist. When you talk about strawberries, they sense the garden in your mind where the strawberries grew and they can tell you miss your childhood house and that's what you actually want to talk about subconsciously. And they have no idea how they came to that conclusion, but most of the time, they guess right.

As an INFJ male I find this all too agreeable.

“Welcome to Earth. This is where we live.” Yeah, fine, I guess.

@rc9266

3 жыл бұрын

nope, we are passing through! For me there is a forever home in Christ.

@kbflorida888

3 жыл бұрын

I thought that was funny too

Well, for a not spontaneous person, you're very spontaneous with your hair, Frank.

@gracenovell801

4 жыл бұрын

Aida Denisa it’s the most spontaneous thing we may ever do.

@mariethemagnificent2000

4 жыл бұрын

I change my hair all the time. I say it is the artistic soul in me.

@33Jenesis

4 жыл бұрын

It is the inferior Se at work. I love changing hair, makeup, outfit style, and accessories. I am surrounded by people who hardly ever change their preferred appearance. I am the only one constantly switching appearance.

@aidadenisa8553

4 жыл бұрын

@Frank James I should really stop checking my notifications in public. I should wait till i get home to freak out over the fact that you hearted my comment. It's so hard to keep cool while internally being like *Jbdhbskabfnbsjakdbakaj* 🤦‍♀️ Don't stop doing it tho 😂

@SummeRain783

4 жыл бұрын

That’s why INFJ’s are so rare and complex. It’s so hard to figure us out completely. We look like extroverts on the outside by doing spontaneous things time to time but are deeply inherent introverted geeks lol

As an ENFJ with an INFJ wife, I can confirm that is a beautiful pairing :D I love being able to understand her in a way that most others don't, I love being able to show her the new exciting things in the world, I Love the balance of spontaneous and structure, I love the deep connection we both value over small talk and surface level relationship. And I love the deep ideals we share that keep us rooted. Im the extroverted super empath and she's the introverted empath. Together we love to bring life to the ones we love around us. Biggest struggles would probs be INFJ being more cynical than ENFJ's who have a difficult time seeing anything but the best in others. All good in balance though. Also, don't neglect the need for alone time to re center, a burnt out ENFJ or INFJ is not a pleasant thing

@TrayOfKimbap

6 ай бұрын

You just described me (infj wife) and my enfj husband! 😅 We help each other out so much. In gatherings I love how he steals the spotlight which lets me eat and observe people in peace. In private I am his non-judgemental confidante / cheerleader who helps him see alternative points of views and solutions. Though the difference is that enfj husband is the cynical one due to him being so direct and frank in conversations that he immediately despises and takes a while to forgive people who are dishonest/ avoiding him rather than talking it out. While I infj wife am more about seeing the best in others to balance their unlikable traits, am quick to forgive even if they didn't apologize just for the sake of harmony.

INFJ female married and mated to my ENTP male for 47 years. We can’t imagine being with anyone else. We balance each other.

I have an INTP friend who is incredibly good at taking one of my hour long bumbling ramblings and translate it into about 3 solid sentences. It's amazing.

@pekitka19

4 жыл бұрын

My INTJ friend do that too! It's so good, that someone can "translate" your "bla,bla,bla" in 3 sentences, that other people understand.

@desireez5740

4 жыл бұрын

😆 Love it.

@IamPriyankaSoni

4 жыл бұрын

INTP's can do that so well!! Thank god for having them.

@revolutionfrommahbed4246

4 жыл бұрын

Hah! I just commented on that up the thread! As an ENTP I do that for NF friends ALLLL the time 😂

@JohnAttebury

4 жыл бұрын

I do this for my INFJ wife. I love it.

I am an 80 year old INFJ woman and I finally found a ENFP man and I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT!!! EXCELLENT combination !!!!!❤

Good points but one thing I'd add is that because of our eagerness to offer advice/share our wisdom to help others, we're at greater risk of codependency. So I think its important to address this aspect and encourage INFJs to build a solid identity of their own so they know what they want and can stand their ground when a relationship isn't meeting their needs and they don't lose themselves in a relationship.

Watching this as a very happily married INFJ and you’re basically describing my relationship with my husband. It makes me even more thankful than I already am to have found such a compatible partner. Don’t give up, INFJs, there’s someone out there and you’ll totally know it when you find them. ♥️

@Mycuriousnature

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. The first thing I noticed about my husband was his kind but bright eyes, and the connected way in which he talked to everyone he came into contact with. So I knew right away that he was not only a kind heart, but had spark and drive too. He's extremely practically helpful, and enjoys personal growth like I do. One thing that's different about us is that he is perfectly happy to speak his opinions about other people (he is from New York- I'm from humble New Zealand), and I actually find that really refreshing. I'm not outspoken and don't like saying negative things about people (even if they are kind of horrible people), but he'll say it, and I'll be like- "Ouch, that's harsh!" but secretly be celebrating because that's what I would want to say- if I were bolder! I don't know what personality type he is- he doesn't like being put in a box, so he won't take it. I wouldn't be surprised if we were both the same, but with variations on the scale (like maybe he is a bit less introverted than me, and more assertive- like a strong INFJ?) But we both accept each other for who we are, which is wonderful.

@EH_888

3 жыл бұрын

You know his type?

@MC-fo9xr

2 жыл бұрын

I hope I can say this one day. I'm 26 and never been in a relationship. :( I'm losing hope lol

@sourceactivation2176

2 жыл бұрын

Same girl!

@DirectFireDave

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mycuriousnature he’s probably an ENFJ or ENFP

well INFJ's talk with Emotional Logic, an a lot can't take it or get weirded out by it. from my experience.

@EmeraldEdge72

4 жыл бұрын

You are 100% correct on that, because Logic although abstract is an emotion as well. I would give you more in greater detail, but it is ridiculously complex which I'd rather not have to go through.

@elizabethaustin9280

3 жыл бұрын

....that is SO true 👍👊

@isaacsolatorio9089

3 жыл бұрын

Trueee

@isaacsolatorio9089

3 жыл бұрын

One of my closest friend is an INFJ, i'm so lucky. Everytime I talk about a something he understands. Unlike others who got weirded out because we base on Emotional Logic.

@TheSamasi

3 жыл бұрын

aftonology101 what are you on about. Abuse doesn’t form an INFJ personality.

I absolutely have a weird way of talking. My husband tells me I don’t make sense. I say I don’t understand what you don’t understand. And I can explain it to you but I can’t understand it for you 🤣 Also my brain is happy when I have things in a certain order since I like working smarter not harder.

Loyalty and reliability is big in my books. That's the first hurdle. If they can't pass that, it doesn't go any further. Intellectual stimulation is always a plus. Thinkers are awesome. INFJs are eternal students, love learning about new ideas, concepts and even practicalities (which we sorely need).

I'm just going to stick with my imaginary partner for the rest of my life.

@madeleinearcher999

4 жыл бұрын

iluvcandy56 omg me me me

@dudeidk7758

4 жыл бұрын

this is the most relatable comment ever. it's so hard to have such high standards, cause no one fits in them, so I better just stick with my imagination :)))

@lyssaw5831

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@phoenixbg2096

4 жыл бұрын

and I thought i am the only one with this idea😅

@AbubakarMuwonge

4 жыл бұрын

Most of INFJ been there! But hey; you gotta feel that body on body sensation... Most magnificent feeling 😂

ENFP here, and INFJ's are my favorite type of people 😅

@vesperharrington8708

4 жыл бұрын

Also an enfp; same .

@epicthundercat

4 жыл бұрын

ENFP here. I also agree. They are adorable and kind of mysterious xD I find them fascinating and fun and cute.

@kaylad6768

4 жыл бұрын

Wow I used to test as ENFP in high school, now in college I test as INFJ 🤷‍♀️

@qwertylife

4 жыл бұрын

ENFPs pair well with INFJs :)

@voyance4elle

4 жыл бұрын

Yay 😊 I am an ENFP and my wonderful boyfriend is an INFJ

I laughed so hard when he tried to think of something spontaneous and drew a blank.

ENTP just here looking for my soulmate 🥰

As an INFJ, I appreciate you giving us a heads up whenever an ad is gonna play👌🏻

@dcya4765

3 жыл бұрын

Literally 😂

@himanifafale6315

3 жыл бұрын

Same here -INTJ

@markof.4361

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, me too. REALLY confortable u.u

@stef4oben88

3 жыл бұрын

Yess it's funny and I like the thrill of not knowing if the ad will actually play XD - INFP

@Annointedxx

3 жыл бұрын

100% I found this so cool not gonna lie

I am INFJ. My husband is ISTP. While I am planning he is doing. He will quietly take charge of things without being bossy, which I love. When we're planning to go out, I will take a while to get myself together, while he is ready to go. He frequently says to me "I'll be in the car waiting." Lol. I love our differences, but our similar introversion and values tie us together. He's the best.

@zerlindaadimannuela1773

3 жыл бұрын

omg i want this😭

@mudman619

3 жыл бұрын

you're so fortunate. I'm ISTP who was married to an INFJ and it was a disaster. She was like some sort of alien whom I could get a handle on sometimes, and oftentimes, just couldn't relate to. well, plus she had OCD and some other issues, lol. I would often be like, "Who are you? What planet are you from?" lol. Never, ever will I date an INFJ again, lol. I want someone who is simply not crazy. lol

@shadowstarspammy

3 жыл бұрын

I’m infj and my long term boyfriend is an istp! It was a very bumpy relationship at first, but we’ve come to understand eachother better with time and each have matured and come to learn what we need to be fulfilled (thankfully) I love that for you, goals!

@otterinaballgown3703

3 жыл бұрын

Ha, same here. We have these hilarious conversations where I can't describe some tool needed to fix something, or he can't figure out what word to use in a text. Small example of complimentary strengths In truth, though, that's really what it's about. Find someone who compliments your strengths and that you can be a complete weirdo with at 3am. There's crazy in every type, and limiting yourself may blind you to a great match. Just my take. ~A (hopefully not crazy) INFJ

@Womenswell022

2 жыл бұрын

So happy for you.

I agree with this entirely and I love that you incorporated our partners needs and what we can offer in relationships. It’s so important for people in relationships to be able to utilize their gifts and to be receptive of each other’s gifts in general. They also need to to be able to be decently aware and open to understanding the other persons needs.

I always find myself attracted to characters and people who look like they just need a hug but don't show it, if someone shows it too much it comes off as fake but if they don't show it then I find myself drawn to them romantically and just want to make them feel loved and make them smile. I also really like girls who really listen to me, like I talk and talk and while everyone else is either disinterested, annoyed, or overwhelmed, but they are just listening, and showing genuine interest in what I have to say. That's a big one for me.

How is it possible to have so many hairstyles

@desireez5740

4 жыл бұрын

Suaveness

@mariethemagnificent2000

4 жыл бұрын

He IS blue steel!

@FrankJames

4 жыл бұрын

it's a blessing... and a curse

@borcsaster

4 жыл бұрын

Are you kidding? For the behavior chameleon of the MBTI world, it's a natural thing! ;)

@ArcaneGinger

4 жыл бұрын

Jeremy!! You missed the Live Stream!! Shame! Lol anyway hope you are well!

“what world are you living in”.. me: starts thinking “earth this is where we live, welcome” me: huh.. oh yeah *rewinds video*

@shariworden3212

4 жыл бұрын

Oh god I literally did the same thing. XDDD

@shariworden3212

4 жыл бұрын

@@laniagultom Pausing requires a foresight and level of self-awareness that I aspire to reach someday. My hat is off to you. 🤣

@ing5088

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@daftne11

4 жыл бұрын

This happens to me a lot and I'm INFP lol

@esterrr.x

4 жыл бұрын

I didn't realize I do the same thing quite a lot until I read this comment... ya got me.

I can't explain how much I relate to you man. I am just so happy to finally understand what kind of personality I carry with me. I knew I was introverted...but I am also funny in a unique way. Thanks for being yourself and sharing.

Yes. My ESTP husband of thirty years is very outgoing and has a lot of things I need to keep up with . He is very busy, very practical and we have raised a family together and are good at traveling together and he lets me be me

@The13Nighthawk

Жыл бұрын

This is so encouraging! My husband is ESTP too and this comment gives me fresh excitement about our marriage!

look i'm spontaneous okay? sometimes i get a muffin with my cup of tea when i go out to write at the cafe does an unspontaneous person do that? i think not

@Bjorick

4 жыл бұрын

depends, what type of muffin? if you say one kind, then no...... :D

@PrismCasillica

4 жыл бұрын

Woah now calm down! Next you're going to get a cupcake just to mess with us 😨

@colleenrawson8477

4 жыл бұрын

That is my exact definition of spontaneous. Although I'd probably use the mobile app to order so I don't get flustered at the counter.

@borcsaster

4 жыл бұрын

@@anniksart907 Is it spontaneity to cancel a meeting (in the last moment) with your friend 'cause you'd rather stay home? Or that, that I late many times 'cause things didn't turn out as I expected? -I wasn't planning to be late...

@susysnakegirl

4 жыл бұрын

Admit it, you find the perfect muffin flavor and then get it every time you decide to be spontaneous. 😀

"that NF way of talking" PREACH sis omg, ENFP gal here and i swear people think i can't speak english sometimes because i can't figure out how to make sense 😂

@downsjmmyjones101

4 жыл бұрын

I absolutely want an NF talk explanation video. It makes no sense.

@ArcaneGinger

4 жыл бұрын

I agree!! -a fellow enfp

@---.-----

4 жыл бұрын

People like you make me feel like I am actually an ENTP... You just seem more ENFPish than I do, mainly because I can't jingle jango the boogle doot that well outside the internet, and even online, I sometimes just dive into debates and spend hours arguing about the sex of the angels, or the hell is happening on my feed...

THESE ARE EXACTLY WHAT I NEED! Thank you so much FJ for putting all this into concrete words!

My boyfriend has many of these trades AND he did test my boundaries! I set them clearly since I couldnt take it anymore and our relationship improved a lot! Crazy!

First response that came to mind: Separate bedrooms

@Marixpress2

4 жыл бұрын

🙏🏻🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

@Thepotatomind

4 жыл бұрын

drivethrupoet oh yes

@nalanidavis3223

4 жыл бұрын

Yup, I had one! 😂

@drivethrupoet

4 жыл бұрын

@@soni8995 lol If you are just starting to date, I wouldn't make too much of my comment. And it has nothing to do with being chaste, it's just needing to be alone to truly relax sometimes. Plus I've always had strange sleeping patterns.

@melaniee4014

4 жыл бұрын

YESSSSSS!!!! Someone who understands that and doesn't take it personally...wah wah wah!!

infj are not just a personality they are a family a big family that is spread around the world

@IGNITEDSOULOFFICAL

3 жыл бұрын

😊😊😊🖤🖤

@nuruls7606

3 жыл бұрын

🤗 since i studied these videos about INFJs and read the comments from fellow INFJs, i felt so relieved because finally i found someone who is the same as me, i don't feel all weird and all alone anymore because i know scattered around the world i still have my INFJ brothers and sisters that i am bound to meet later in my life 🥺🥲

@heronofheaven

3 жыл бұрын

Umbrella Academy?

@ameliagray1618

3 жыл бұрын

I'm the only infj in my immediate family

@markof.4361

3 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your words 🥺. I think youre RIGHT!!!! 🖤🖤We are conected by our minds O.O

My boyfriend and I are both INFJs. Being spontaneous isn't really an issue since we also live on opposite sides of the world but it's not hard to go out and have fun even when we're together, especially when everything we do together is new to one of us. The only thing I've noticed so far is that I can't get him to talk about himself much, which is a new feeling for me. In the past, I'm the one who could never get a word in.

This explains a lot about me since I have a hard time making connections with people but when I do it feels insanely strong

I like that you would cue the youtube ad because it feeds my INFJ need for predicability.

@randomperson1714

3 жыл бұрын

yellayeah yessss.

@randomperson1714

3 жыл бұрын

and the second an add didn’t show up I would be mad.

@That_misfit

3 жыл бұрын

How does he knows a ad will going to happen?????

@yellayeah

3 жыл бұрын

Poonam Thakur you get to choose where to insert the ads.

@miriamrobarts

3 жыл бұрын

And the ads don't interupt a sentence.

80% of my life is lived inside my head. And the over planning an event or situation is just sometimes confusing I really wish I could understand myself.

@lunastariaspiritdiva8662

4 жыл бұрын

I over pack for everything! ~

@Two.Houses

4 жыл бұрын

I understand you so much...

@arizona5234

4 жыл бұрын

I feel so understood by this comment

@aimanharith5817

3 жыл бұрын

same 😂🤣

@randomperson1714

3 жыл бұрын

Lunastaria SpiritDiva YES YES.i remember being on this one school trip(it was for 2 days)and I had packed a TON of cloths.

Love what you're doing Frank. You've become like family here. Especially for my INFJ wife. I have followed your journey and I love that you've opened the "Frank-vault" to show the planet how "Cool and attractive" vulnerability is, and how to laugh. Speaking of Cool and Attractive...I bought my wife the royal blue T-shirt and when she saw it she smiled. Smiles are hard to buy sometimes, so it was well worth the investment.

I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an ISTJ. He is definitely observant and thinks a lot before he makes big decisions. He's more reserved than I am, which pushes me to be the more social and spontaneous of the two of us. It's a really good balance having the intuition/feeling with the sensing/thinking

@laverdadbuscador

Жыл бұрын

my wife is an ISTJ-T and I'm an INFJ-A. We've been married 15yrs.

@jenniferscott1913

11 ай бұрын

I have the same pairing and this describes us well. Working towards our 10th wedding anniversary and 15 was a couple