🔴 Here's another video you'll like: Unhealthy INFJ: 7 Signs You're an Unhealthy INFJ kzread.info/dash/bejne/c6t1ttZuj9G-frA.html ⭐

@rachelsterner1399

5 жыл бұрын

Frank, as a fellow INFJ, you are very good at this. Your videos are very clear and concise in explaining INFJ. You are intelligent, entertaining and attractive. :) Thanks for speaking up.

@cptheranger7131

5 жыл бұрын

Frank James I wish I could go 1 on 1 with you

@megan.e.amato.

5 жыл бұрын

@@rachelsterner1399 I totally agree!! I always think about how I can never verbalize my thoughts as coherently as he can.

@TinyJustice

5 жыл бұрын

More infj videos please! So insightful, some of these things I didn't even realise I did until I read this...

@autumnsmith6672

5 жыл бұрын

Yo!! So my myers-briggs changes by the day... what I mean is I frequently get either INFJ or INTJ. Idk if I'm just weird or what but my thinking/feeling are usually so close that I could go either way. Is this a common thing?? Also, do you have any thoughts on this? P.s. you are a Gorgeous man Haha:) great videos and info!!

Anyone here having deep thoughts about how badly you want to be in a relationship but also don't want to?

@aSerendipityCalledBTS

4 жыл бұрын

Meee hahah Hi ARMY 💜

@bernzZz

4 жыл бұрын

@@aSerendipityCalledBTS hi there INFJ ARMY! 😂💜

@Jonathan-mm5zx

4 жыл бұрын

😂Thats me

@bernzZz

4 жыл бұрын

@@aSerendipityCalledBTS yess I do have a Twitter acc @mochiesanpjm you can follow me there?

@aSerendipityCalledBTS

4 жыл бұрын

@@bernzZz I just did it 😊

Who else here lies in bed at night and can’t sleep because they are having deep philosophical conversations with hypothetical run ins with people you’ll probably never meet in your head?

@mirthedejonge

5 жыл бұрын

Yup

@hmayat.3389

4 жыл бұрын

I'm already seeing myself being surrounded by nieces, nephews and my cats in the future -_-

@shiphyunlee1298

4 жыл бұрын

Here i am

@ariel8535

4 жыл бұрын

Omg me too except real People but I create like different versions of a conversation about a particular situation.

@kingkroool

4 жыл бұрын

wtf haha

1) You're too attached to your dream person 2) Dating is a pain in the butt 3) You think too much and overplan in order to feel safe 4) Too aware of other people's needs 5) You're looking for someone to give you an identity 6) Become a shell of themselves when in a relationship (go cold) 7) Look too far in the future and get in too deep, too fast 8) We can read people very well and that can scare us 9) You are weird and that's okay 💕

@NindeOronar

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this

@mochigirl2470

Жыл бұрын

Facts I feel like I’ll stay single 😅🥹

@sittinginbushes

Жыл бұрын

7) yeah, there was this time when I met person for 5 minutes and then planned everything to the day of our wedding I am intj tho

@shankar3651

Жыл бұрын

Oh, that's what was wrong with me all this time. Not like I wasn't constantly aware of feeling like a social outcast for all my life. Perhaps some good advice would be to tell me how the FUCK I can cope with it?

@selcan135

Жыл бұрын

both blessing and curse... but again I am thankful for the way I am born.

I'm an INFJ and I am single. Reason being, relating to people takes too much work. Plus, I always feel resentful over the fact that while I always try to make people happy (even at a cost to myself), it always feels like, "NOBODY KNOWS ME" - even the people who are supposed to.

@Keesha_Hardy

Жыл бұрын

I can definitely relate to the feeling of “nobody knows me”, but ALWAYS remember that it’s not your job to make others. Your happiness, your responsibility. Those other people are responsible for their own happiness.

@SaiKumar-qs9ly

Жыл бұрын

​@@Keesha_Hardy damn.... I recently found out about these personality types. And when the result shows me im an INFJ im confused... What is infj. Then I've searched KZread and here i am with tears in my eyes while he explaining how infj personality working and i have everything he said. Im always ask myself "is there any problem for me?" "Why im hard to love"... Now i got the answer. Hey keesha if u wanna be friends just ask me... Its good to have some infj's around 😊

@hindiaahmed144

Жыл бұрын

A❤❤❤ fr

@JoyceChow

Жыл бұрын

This 🥲

@troyw.5101

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said, and understood….☹️

The main problem with relationships is that there’s another person in it

@mskitty4029

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@gokdumanzeynep

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahahahha thats true

@tigerex777

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah getting that intimate relationship satisfaction without the actual pain and work that goes into it would be a little too good.

@wakandaforever4994

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 im cackling

@sourireoptimiste1219

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly😂😂😵😵😵

Me, INFJ, on Tinder: "no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, maybe but still no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no..."

@pcarebear1

3 жыл бұрын

I actually read the bios on Tinder and CoffeeMeetsBagel, most are "no" and a couple of "tentative on personality"

@oringsol3129

3 жыл бұрын

That's sadly me, I actually said nope I dont like anyone 😭😅

@ThePriestess1949

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!😳

@jakeranney7262

3 жыл бұрын

True then when I finally get a match I spend 3 days trying to compose a message 😂

@EllieVieira95

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha that's me. Mostly are "no", and when I have some match and the person don't send messages, I get sad, but when they come talk to me I'm like "ohhh no..." I thought I had some kind of problem hahaha

My thing with dating is I just cannot stand small talk. The meaningful relationships I've had were ones that began with almost instant deep conversations.

@jamielawrence4749

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. As I'm getting older I see the pitfalls of stumbling in, as I have gotten my heart, and sanity, whooped from doing that. And yet I miss that effortless, instant-dive into a relationship because at least then you go for it and don't have to deal with the "nice chit chat" boring stuff that takes forever and is so confusing, all the games and "etiquette" of dating... Or maybe I'm just impatient hah. ;)

@jaymierae9890

Жыл бұрын

Small talk is so tedious. 😩

@jud2152

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, small talk is boring af haha

@just-sayin67

Жыл бұрын

Same!

@user-wm2fv3sp3x

5 ай бұрын

If they are interested in small talks, then we are not compatible. You know this is the right person when you two just glide into deep conversations without even deliberately steering the conversation that way. You two just glide into it, apparently effortlessly. Because you two are both interested in the same thing.

I think being an INFJ improves as you get older. This is where the boundaries and letting go get better. Less controlling, more spontaneity, etc.

@sapokee2830

Жыл бұрын

I think all personality types get better. Hell, I'm an ENFP and the older I get, the more confident I get regarding my own wackiness. We all have some life lessons to learn before we're ready to tackle real problems.

@dl5329

Жыл бұрын

Meditation also helps 😁

@SamanthaJackson

Жыл бұрын

For me it's the opposite. I liked my INFJness before and it brought me a great life and support system in friends. Now as I'm getting older my INFJ traits are intensifying and I'm heading in a darker place, I feel like I'm losing friends (staple of my life up til now) and yeah of course I won't find a relationship anymore 😶‍🌫️

@whycliffawacnedi3873

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Letting go becomes easier, you want to focus only on the things you can control

@PreppyPrincess777

Жыл бұрын

My boundaries are strengthened lol

Me an INFJ: Im so lonely. I have very few friends and I'm still single Also me an INFJ: AAHHH!!! SOLITUDE IS BLISS!!!!!!!!!

@rn2511

4 жыл бұрын

Klaus Klaus Klaus lol the struggle. When I tell people I don’t have friends they look at me like im either crazy or lying.

@rayquaza396

4 жыл бұрын

@@rn2511 Hey i feel the same!!!!! Also the saddest thing is when your true friends can't afford to hang out and talk with you anymore coz they're busy with their relationship. Also people call me I'm weird and mysterious and not just that, they can't afford to listen to me once i try to talk about life, religion, conspiracies, aliens and other "weird" topics. People think that it's boring in their perspective. Uugghhhh...... I'm just glad that im an INFJ 😀

@mayeemanalo2203

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my god, these are the thoughts that run through my mind at night 😂

@ughitstravis9243

4 жыл бұрын

I know. Wtf is life really

@MaskOfMemi

4 жыл бұрын

Klaus Klaus Klaus yaaaaaas

It’s so interesting seeing other INFJs. I feel like we’re our own species.

@petrovafireice

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, so true.

@TehAntares

3 жыл бұрын

More like unicorns unfit for life outside their magical glade.

@jessylee4685

3 жыл бұрын

so true😑I had a weird dream about all the infjs getting together and move to another universe to form a nation, where only peace and knowledge exist lol

@AboodAbu12345

3 жыл бұрын

It's like finding family!!

@alejandrocadena4434

3 жыл бұрын

Damn, well played bro. I found out agile ago I am a INFJ-A I was stoked because it was a picture of a wizard lol. But for real this hit home for real. Even you sir I feel a kin too, like we speak the same. You are doing great bro and you don’t repeat yourself.

I’m an old lady INFJ. I’ve spent my life not understanding why people don’t think like I do. As a young person, I thought everyone thought like I did, only to be repeatedly misunderstood. I’ve had two marriages that didn’t work out, the last one I was in for 25 years. The comment about being a shell hit home. I always feel like I need to “shake off” like a wet dog, after spending too much time with people. Dating is excruciating and I doubt I ever do it again. If I met someone organically, maybe I’d consider seeing that person, but to just get on a site, no. The vibes from the people I’ve met are awful. But I’m happy with where I am in life, it’s definitely my own now.

Hello INFJs!! I'm an ESTP and I absolutely love your species haha! Such emotionally complex people. I wish I can just open your head and explore it. I have a friend who's INFJ and he is too fun to hang out with and drag around. Keep being you, you INFJs. edit: im actually an ESFP, but point still stands

@isabelamibei4341

2 жыл бұрын

Haha I wish I could talk to you because it seems you understand us

@mkara9250

2 жыл бұрын

BLESSINGS TO U!

@Wolven6

2 жыл бұрын

Appreciated bud. ^_^

@shankar3651

2 жыл бұрын

I always had a feeling that me and ESTP would get along nicely together. Ive met some people who would fit that category and I would describe them as basically INFJ but full of explosive energy. You have the courage to blast through the walls, and I simply follow the destruction and put the pieces back together so they make sense again. Its a thing of beauty watching you work, keep doing you

@heskisinin

Жыл бұрын

Are you sure you're ESTP?

"You look too far into the future and decide it's not gonna work out." - Wow, that's scarily accurate.

@angelface14angel

5 жыл бұрын

Rose Gervacio me af lols

@Snowbird-oz6nj

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah...that’s me

@jerrica4315

5 жыл бұрын

Are u a Capricorn?

@rosegervacio

5 жыл бұрын

@@jerrica4315 No, I'm a Scorpio. :)

@genovevadelarosa3487

5 жыл бұрын

Lol... Yeah.. I always tell my sister who loves and cries easily over her lovelife, never to jump into a relationship with both feet... Coz relationships to me are not full proof... Because it can not be planned ahead... Hahahaha...

INFJ is like a curse but a blessing at the same time

@spatsbina5327

3 жыл бұрын

It's a curse mostly for me :'(

@heynananads

3 жыл бұрын

@@spatsbina5327 actually I do feel like that too

@allthingsalley6339

3 жыл бұрын

This is a perfect description of this personality, I’ve always said I use my powers for good..lol

@lukayaroslav9914

3 жыл бұрын

For me, it's mostly blessing

@kgyaneshwar1

3 жыл бұрын

Blessings are meaningless though.

As an INFJ I was convinced that I would know when I met my soul mate and was not interested in dating just anyone. I did not care that that wasn't 'normal'. When I met my future husband it was like "BOOM - this is someone I can trust absolutely". Thankfully he felt the same way (he's an ISTJ). First relationship for both of us and we are still very happily together 23 years later. So trust your instincts about people. Intuition is our super power. And don't settle - it's worth the wait.

@yehshuhua2405

3 ай бұрын

holy shit you just untie some knot for me girl, I always feel like I wont be able to date someone just because I dont even want to, you know, try it out, to know someone a lil bit better. But after reading this, things just make sense, I never realized that it is not my fault because I dont want to get to know someone, but just because I ALREADY KNOW that they are not the one, so now imma just chilling, waiting til I meet my soulmate. Waiting for the boom boom clicky click clack hahaaa

@catharinamariatheresia1626

2 ай бұрын

Yaaaay! I am an ENFJ and I feel the same way! I do not do dating either ❤ Your story gives me hope!

And this is why you INFJs need to find yourself an ENFP like me. We will talk for hours about the complexities of the universe and what makes us and you tick on a fundamental level, our goals and plans and wishes. Get yourself an ENFP 🤗

@sofivivian7909

Ай бұрын

As an xnfp with an infj boyfriend... Yeah, i agree. He is really happy with me ✨ (his words, not mine 😊)

(10 reasons why you're still single as an INFJ) 1. You're too attached to your dream person. 2. Dating is Painful. 3. You think too much. 4. You're too aware of other people's needs. 5. You're looking for someone to give you an identity. 6. You're too shell with yourself. 7. You get in too deep, too fast. (You get too attached to someone too soon) 8. You can read people and see their flaws quickly. *9. I didn't get this one* 10. You are weird.

@pb0907.

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks.. Was scrolling for this only🤣🤛🏻

@Artnotforthesakeofart

3 жыл бұрын

I relate to 1, 2, 3, 4, 7 & 8. Rest I didn't really relate to. Maybe a bit of 6 as well.

@sarenecha

3 жыл бұрын

In my opinion, 9 is “seeing that they are good enough, but can’t except it, and try so hard to find a reasons to not be okay with that person.” Correct me if I misunderstood

@kassandraharz9345

3 жыл бұрын

10 hahaha

@TheEmilarOMG

3 жыл бұрын

Define weird and why you're weird?

I’ve never felt so simultaneously attacked and understood

@sohinidutta97

4 жыл бұрын

Emily Caballero OMG I was gonna comment this before I came across yours 😂😂

@user-tr6sy5lm8l

4 жыл бұрын

its like being whip by the hand of the wind....it doesn't hurt but it wakes u up.....lol

@mariek.474

4 жыл бұрын

That's my whole experience with this channel ! 😭

@alleenashiwdas1320

4 жыл бұрын

Emily Caballero lol right!

@TA-lx1fi

4 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how his videos make me feel!

I have this weird habit of texting people in a schedule. Like, oh I haven’t texted my best friends for a week now guess it’s time to text them again bcs I should text best friends every two weeks so they don’t think I forget them, or oh! It’s a new day now it’s time to text my parents so they don’t think I ignore them and I can show that I’m still care for them or things like that. The fact that I didn’t text them bcs I’d like to spontaneously but instead, more like a task that I have to follow is making me questioning myself a lot.

@user-xy3mb3be7x

Жыл бұрын

see to me that makes sense but I am an INFJ-T so maybe that's why😂

@jamielawrence4749

Жыл бұрын

OMG yes! I HATE the advent of texting and cell phones because it's given me so much more connection anxiety. Like... oh god another area where I can fail at making someone feel cared for, or question the proper way to do it so that I don't mess anything up? Great.

@nikiszarvas4702

Жыл бұрын

lol. i do the same

@user-wm2fv3sp3x

5 ай бұрын

It makes sense to me. If I haven't texted someone for a while, I feel I need to text them just to say we are still on, I haven't forgotten you. Other times, I'm kind of like so involved in my own everyday life with practical things as well as my thoughts that I don't even think about them at all. But as an INFJ, I will certainly be there in times of crises or troubles of the people I care about. I will drop everything for them no matter what I am busy doing. INFJ care deeply about the people they love and are very loyal. It's not easy to earn our trust, but once the person earned it, it will be like forever unless we've got or felt betrayed. I mean, you all understand me right because I am talking with like-minded people.

Before I knew I'm an INFJ, I thought I'm just weird or a psychopath. Sometimes, I don't know what I want. I really want to express my feelings and ideas, but am too tired to explain it, because I know they won't get even if I tried.

@bonnie_gail

4 күн бұрын

get a blood test to get your Vitamin D level checked - I thought I was depressed and my excellent crone doctor said, hey let's check your Vitamin D level and it was at 15 and needed to be up in 700 range - took Vitamin D supplement for 3 months and brought it up to the 600 range and I felt so much better and not depressed

I think I need to go to a meeting for INFJs. Any other INFJs feel like they need a support group? Lol

@Bakerygo

4 жыл бұрын

No, better be alone.

@sarawardian4232

4 жыл бұрын

@@Bakerygo I tend to feel the same way although I wonder if that's healthy. All things in moderation right? Hopefully there is a good balance to be found with socializing. It's not good to hibernate like a bear all the time, although I do think its necessary to retreat sometimes.

@chaves2628

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly my thoughts now! Even tho we prefer our time alone, we still have this need for real human connection, we can't escape that. Tho I value my alone time the most, I've actually found the beauty and importance of sharing time with people you connect with and appreciate, it is healing

@geraltnroach

4 жыл бұрын

Only online gathering as anonymous 😁

@sarawardian4232

4 жыл бұрын

@@chaves2628 you sound like me :)

INFJ's hate to be told who they are by people who make a lot of assumptions.

@kanizfatema7331

4 жыл бұрын

damn true

@tessanesdoly6267

4 жыл бұрын

yes !!!

@blackpillfitness9136

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah one time this guy I work with told me “everything that’s wrong with me” and I at first thought he was right, like he knows something about me that I don’t. Turns out he just makes huge assumptions and is also kind of a douchebag.

@aramis5301

4 жыл бұрын

Ooooh hell yeah we do. This is probably THE one thing I hate the most.

@Baazigar_007

4 жыл бұрын

@@blackpillfitness9136 The biggest problem of being INFJ is too handle pressure in Public people suspect you are gay becoz of your anxious and weird behaviour

As an INFJ, it's kinda complicating being in a relationship cuz we don't wanna show our vulnerable side, and we avoid feeling emotions most of the times cuz they can bring us memories we just sweep to the back of our heads and try never remember them again. Quite weird though how we seek a perfect match with someone else, we wanna find someone that goes accordingly with the script that we made to this person. We daydream a lot and we plan everything in our own lives, that's why relationships can be a huge impact on us, we cannot control what they're thinking or how they're gonna act around us. We expect to much from someone, cuz we expect too from ourselves and we frame this expectations in someone else.

You're 100% right on the whole chameleon thing. Sometimes, I'm the leader and most social person in a group, cracking jokes and leading the conversation. Other times, I'm the most quiet and throw my 2 cents in here and there. I often struggle with knowing which one I truly am, I definitely flip flop.

1. You're too attached to your dream person 2. Dating is a pain in the butt (too much new sensory information) 3. You think too much and try to over plan dates (projecting into the future) 4. You're too aware of other people's needs (so you keep getting into one sided relationships) 5. You're looking for someone to give you an identity 6. Becoming a shell of yourself in a relationship 7. You get in too deep too fast 8. We can read people very well and that scares you (so no one is good enough.. give people a chance, maybe there's more about them) 9. Digging for red flags 10. You are weird and it's okay

@rootsOfMadness15

3 жыл бұрын

I...i can't read

@tammyrea695

3 жыл бұрын

I don't really want to share my weird inner world with anyone else. I wish to be accepted. I make really bad decisions in relationships. No one can live up to my image of what a partner should be. I cannot live up to my own standards. Yap this pretty much is the story of my life. I cannot vision myself with anyone. I love everyone and no one at the same time. My heart might go all in and my head-gut says the total opposite. Creating this constant inner battle. This is not how I want to be.

@wakandaforever4994

3 жыл бұрын

Ruthier Rivera 😂😂😂

@tenshi-chan3131

3 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate to almost everything. But tbh, I am glad he left me. I'm happy to be single

@ngaihtebecky4991

3 жыл бұрын

I see myself here, please don't call me out again 😂😂😂

I’ve accepted the possibility that I’ll be single my whole life.

@EunPeach

4 жыл бұрын

Dill-One me too

@jessicajames1406

4 жыл бұрын

Me three

@storma2567

4 жыл бұрын

Me 4

@asphynx366

4 жыл бұрын

Let’s get married !

@iwillnotbesilent

4 жыл бұрын

Dill-One me too...it's a lonely road

I was recently identified as an INFJ personality. Dating is a struggle. Without making any effort I can already sense a person's true intentions and I know when they're lying. This 6th sense natural gift we have works as a radar with no off button. Even when I ignore my gut about someone I end up getting hurt. We have a gift that is also our curse. It's exausting in every sense, but despite the fact I've never dated I learned to love myself more each day. Plus I don't need share my freaking space with anyone. 😂

@FridoGrahnify

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha yes!

@sai_lahari9999

2 жыл бұрын

I get it, when I'm talking to other party I can mostly guess what they r intending to do when we are in a conversation. I feel bored and scared sometimes and then i just don't wanna be there and wanna go home and have a my "me time". But what really hurts is when you are with your family and u get that same intuitive feeling that they are gonna disregard you and speak some hurtful things, still you sit there smiling because you can't avoid them at those gatherings. For me family hurts more than any outsiders coz we can't just cut our family off like we do it with others.

@Haise-san

Жыл бұрын

Just chill, there is a lot of good people with good intentions out there, we just have to put in the effort to find it

I think the main reason I'm single as an INFJ is because I value peace over anything else in my life. Too often I see people in relationships that are mostly good but you can see they're dealing with bullshit from their partner on a regular basis (not catastrophic or relationship ending bullshit, but you know what I mean). I'd rather be alone and not deal with any bullshit at all. My peace and my tranquility are number one. A secondary reason is that I need someone who intellectually stimulates me and that is difficult to find, it's like finding a diamond in the rough truly.

How people see an INFJ: wow you're one of the most outgoing personable people ive met How it feels to be an INFJ: im a literal psychopath

@rukiddinmep7794

3 жыл бұрын

lol sometimes i really do feel like one

@kaiacrisp

3 жыл бұрын

I def question it...

@danielp255

3 жыл бұрын

thanks mate, made me laugh, cause it's true.

@AlyssaRena

3 жыл бұрын

finally some words to describe it lmfao

@VaniaAjah

3 жыл бұрын

I know sometimes i really look like a Psychopath - even my bf who also an INFJ said that 😂 But you know what, he looks like that too.. Even our jokes sometimes are about killing people 🤣😅

Reason N1: "You're too attached to your dream person." ... I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE PERSONALLY ATTACKED AND UNDERSTOOD AT THE SAME TIME IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.

@aetherdemigod

4 жыл бұрын

SAME😭😭

@NightsMay

4 жыл бұрын

It's probably why I'm 28 and still single, I just love tons of freckles so much, but rarely will I ever find a girl with the massive amount of freckles that I have endless affections for. (just editing this comment down, sometimes I say more then whats needed, lmao)

@andreasermakov1181

4 жыл бұрын

I'll give you a hint. This person does not exists. haha

@michaellamont2605

4 жыл бұрын

I only get my nightmare person

@NightsMay

4 жыл бұрын

I did find my ideal dream girl in person, so much freckles, my affections were simply too intense. I gave her a few poems by my favorite poet which was also her favorite poet, I also wrote her a few deep letters. She wrote back, turns out she's an INFJ too, but she's already in a relationship. I'm puzzled at life now, I mean what are the chances of finding someone like that.

Frank, I think you made an amazing job trying to describe us INFJ's, but deep down, we do all these things because we are always at the edge of: "I want to be liked, I want to meet new people, but at the same time I am perfectly fine alone.. should I really go through all this?". And we always have that option, our comfort zone. We know people is flawed, just as we are, and we will always have our comfort zone to go back to. Do you agree? :)

@Mark---W

Жыл бұрын

I think you kinda nailed it.

"Never again. Never forget." Hah! I can relate to this. To me it's like building more invisible walls around myself to prevent the same thing from happening ever again... "You don't want abundance. You just want one." - I felt that... Haha!

INFJs aspire to find their true soulmates...so it is no wonder that they get disappointed. I, personally, prefer solitude rather than being with someone just to avoid being alone.

@nswij62

4 жыл бұрын

Really true..

@tigerex777

4 жыл бұрын

I love the company of a woman in an intimate relationship too much for me to just stay alone; even though everything Frank described on this video. I love touching them too.

@mariai.3251

4 жыл бұрын

yessssss

@michaellamont2605

4 жыл бұрын

What if you don't have a soul??

@annaandrea8320

4 жыл бұрын

That is such a ridiculous thing to say, מיכאל Lamont! All beings have one, even the evil ones! I think you might confuse the lack of empathy with the notion of the soul...

No.1 reason is : it scares me about losing my private space, solitude and independence, and also it’s the potential exhaustion of having to talk/participate too much, and being surrounded by another person all the time😕

@luen9417

5 жыл бұрын

same

@shavanetyjones4388

5 жыл бұрын

Literally don’t understand how I will marry or have children. I admire my space :/ and I used to think I was just selfish

@Halo-li8hg

5 жыл бұрын

But you still dont want to be alone...? Me too

@ella17734

5 жыл бұрын

Yep

@Sleepingincursive

5 жыл бұрын

THIS!!!!

I understand what he is saying but I had to giggle when he said to stop reading people and give them a chance. I have given people multiple chances and they always turn out to be the exact way I read them at first.

You just explained my whole life to me in a few minutes. I was a Trauma ICU nurse for 15 years. It was the absolute perfect career due to the caring, anticipating needs, and ‘ten steps ahead’ thinking. I’ve been single most of my life or in the exact relationships you just mentioned. I was beginning to believe I am an alien lol. You’re amazing! I love you! Keep up the incredible work. And keep being weird! 🙃

When after realizing you're overthinking you overthink overthinking.... Edit: Thanks for the likes I didn't even think people would find this

@margaritakholopova4826

3 жыл бұрын

ahhahahhahh LOL true

@NvSiN813

3 жыл бұрын

Wait... this is a red flag?

@user-ms3pk5do9z

3 жыл бұрын

😂 damnn

@Fantastikitty

3 жыл бұрын

Why think when you can overthink? -INFJ Me

@raregoddess444

3 жыл бұрын

Then you think overthinking is fine lol and then be alright until its brought back up

Any other INFJs feel like a villain in every relationship because you accidentally made someone think they love you and they aren't "the one" so you shake them off? :/

@rln32195_

4 жыл бұрын

Sara Wardian I can relate to this :/

@rulonblack

4 жыл бұрын

Every time

@iwillnotbesilent

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, Sara, I have faced abuse and been ghosted by partners

@sarawardian4232

4 жыл бұрын

@@iwillnotbesilent I'm so sorry that you had to go through that :'(

@heyimhlin9493

4 жыл бұрын

Always the time

It would be incredible if a dating site geared towards INFJs specifically could be created ....imagine the comfort level we could feel, plus renewed hope that all is not lost, if we did not have to sift through so much crap or anxiety trying to bridge our dream love to the real love! If anyone knows of such a place for INFJs, please let me know! 👩❤

@jamielawrence4749

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful idea! I wish I knew. But hey, there's a good idea for an app if you or anyone wants to start a business :)

@Marjenk77

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like it would turn into a Narcissist hunting ground.

@lylearnold9122

Ай бұрын

Absolutely! Totally with you on that 👏🏻👏🏻🥳🥳😁

I'm sitting here for 15 mins listening to Frank describe who I am even better than what I know about myself. And reading through the comments make me realize that," hey, I'm not alone in this" and that we INFJs really are our own species. The things Frank said all makes so much sense to me now that I hear someone talking about it. Its all been there, I've known it to be there but I just didn't see it as it was not pointed out by someone. A couple of years ago I realized that I was searching for someone who would complete me(give me identity). And I just completely stopped trying to be in a relationship because I thought that it was just messed up to think that way. There are issues with overthinking, reading too much into it and trying to make things better before things even happened(?), going in too deep , trying to overcompensate others needs and wants and forgetting who I am, and then the complete opposite of trying to make things work- being a shell of me because its not working out. ugh its just a shit show. And now I'm like I want to be in a relationship but I don't want to be in a relationship at the same time? It feels like I'm running away from it because my past relationships were just me making a fool of myself but at the same time it also feels like I'm trying to understand myself better and give myself more time? Its hard to explain. Frank does a better job explaining the emotions that we go through better than me. And overly attached to the perfect person in our head just makes dating sooo difficult. No one is just good enough even though they are amazing and so warm. Its just me nitpicking things and turning it down before even giving it a go. It feels good to write about it, its been on my mind for so long and I just found a perfect video that describes what I feel. So i just expressed myself. Thank you so much for the video. It was really helpful and just seeing the community gives me motivation to do better and be better.

Who else here met peoples in their dream and decide to daydream it more because they are attracted to their characters more than the actual person you met in real life

@Aoybonit

4 жыл бұрын

LOL....I dont mean 2 laugh...but this is sooooo me

@VeeBORG7

4 жыл бұрын

Jesus! That's me!

@kelly-annewynd5498

3 жыл бұрын

The people in your dreams are people you’ve seen. Your brain can’t make up faces, so it uses ones it’s seen.

@kiarapapa3764

3 жыл бұрын

I have fallen deeper in love with literary characters than actual real people. 😐

@odalis1893

3 жыл бұрын

3-4 days ago I had a dream with this random dude. For the past nights, I have been trying to reconnect with him lol.

“You’re to attached to your dream person” come on man, I feel violated

@riquipuig601

4 жыл бұрын

Knock knock

@limitless_legacy9690

4 жыл бұрын

We’re all effed up in the head. We’re a living controversy

@KingLifeTale

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@ahasai7163

3 жыл бұрын

😄

@romie2246

3 жыл бұрын

youtube knows me too well

Dating is too much work, is painful and exhausting. We are so different and other people don't understand us.

"You can read people very well and that scares you." damn straight

@truthtruth3717

3 жыл бұрын

Very scary. Takes me about 2 min or less and I'm like this person is a great soul or not a great soul. I feel. I was dating a girl and one day I saw something couldn't explain and I left her asap. Like the next day. But what I saw in her eyes?

@reillesan

3 жыл бұрын

i thought i was just being judgemental...

@nateskii

3 жыл бұрын

@@reillesan right? I did too.

@lisamarie904

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder if I could read another INFJ just as easily as I can read others... Or does it stay interesting for way longer...

@nateskii

3 жыл бұрын

@@lisamarie904 I have the same thoughts, too. But I have a brother and I'm pretty sure he's an INFJ, too. It's quite exhausting reading another INFJ sometimes because of how you see so much of yourself (esp the way you tend to keep things to yourself) in their actions.

I am afraid of being alone forever yet i am also afraid to commit like bruh...i think being single is beautiful yet being with someone is beautiful too..again it's a MESS

@cupoftea2060

3 жыл бұрын

Too

@nello5383

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao, same here

@zachary5845

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you

@BenjiPOTF

3 жыл бұрын

Its weird I been like this too, when it comes down to declare, i straight up confess the feelings in their entirety and scared lots of potential relationships. I think deep down we all want the relationships, for me I been more afraid of the loss and grief after giving all I have only to fail. Not only that but the Identity issue.

@geraldineg8781

3 жыл бұрын

Same thoughts 😪

I'm an INFP, and the four people I love the most are INFJs. I feel so at home with them in a world where I feel like an outsider

@emf2482

Жыл бұрын

love u too, you are so sensitive, caring and deep

@squidproquo1130

11 ай бұрын

INFJ and my bff is an INFP and the only person in my entire life that I ever felt understood me. So nice having someone who was on the same wavelength.

I felt the part about thinking someone is too good and missing something so you dig to find stuff and just end things. It's insane. Finding what I want to find just to feel comfort with a red flag.

I'm gonna be 25 this year and I've never dated anyone or done anything sexual/romantic apart from kissing. I'm not asexual, just can't seem to meet anyone who I can trust.

@michellenguyen1261

5 жыл бұрын

literally same. not even kissing. starting to think i have a fear of intimacy.

@SadeMetsavirta

5 жыл бұрын

@@michellenguyen1261 I mean I just kissed people when I was drunk and they kissed me and I just went along with it :p was always gross

@FrankJames

5 жыл бұрын

trust can be difficult, i agree

@youtubing9762

5 жыл бұрын

Often when we have a hard time trusting others it's because we don't trust ourselves, so we are unable to trust others by proxy.

@scorpzcorpz4017

5 жыл бұрын

Keep doing that! Don't give yourself up for anyone else . Make an keep friends through groups with other singles who are on the same wavelength..

"You're too attached to your dream person." I FEEL CALLED OUT FRANK GEE THANKS :"))))

@FrankJames

5 жыл бұрын

any time 😈

@Abigrooster69

5 жыл бұрын

@@_________________._._._._ lmaoooooo

@NatRiveraP

5 жыл бұрын

Idealism and perfectionism ruin the magic of meeting real people! That's a fact!

@miatinyarmy8201

5 жыл бұрын

@Frank. Gonzalez2034 me too. I find it hard to move on after separating ways with that very special person. He's the guy who understands a lot of me.

@prachirahate1631

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

each and everything here rings so true. as INFJ's we are so sensitive, being emotionally and mentally drained in the dating phase as well as in a relationship. we put our all into it and feel and think so deeply. we lose ourselves and fill the other person's cup when we're empty through wringing out whatever little we do have. and when things go wrong and end, our whole world falls apart and we're devastated.

It’s weird because I’ve been told that I’m an INFJ a few times, but I feel like I *barely* meet the criteria, like for example: I’m single because I’m both scared and don’t want to inconvenience anybody else, especially in the dating field. This leaves me unsure of what I truly am and am supposed to be. So, on top of people not being able to understand us, even *I* can’t fully understand myself and it drives me crazy

As an infj, I get attached to people very early and at the same time I always want distance to be alone. I also often get sick easily and I am very demanding. Being attached to the person of my dreams is a problem too, but the biggest problem with being an infj is wanting to have a relationship, and at the same time not wanting to. Oh hell, this is a curse

@rakshitarudrawar2586

2 жыл бұрын

Thts exactly how I feel

@noneya9035

2 жыл бұрын

God yes 😩

@Introvertedalpha

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciated hearing your insights!

@rovli816

2 жыл бұрын

i can relate

@Mateo-ko9kx

2 жыл бұрын

Very yes!

INFJ + trauma because of the narcissist person encounter = forever single by choice

@bethm7518

3 жыл бұрын

TRUTH right there. Badly burnt.

@kylesalazar4846

3 жыл бұрын

God this hits home

@tsuobachi

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, have to admit I got hit by that one as well. I've never experienced a relationship better than being alone. If only it was an a la carte menu.

@bhargavikaveti1328

3 жыл бұрын

So damn true!!!!

@jojojojo7.31

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

Oh yes, the identity problem. I used to say "I hate who I am when I'm dating someone because don't feel myself". Worst thing is when it's all over and you look back and you're like: Did I do those things, did I say those things? OMG. I hate it!

Get in too deep too fast and a few years in, realize we can't be ourselves in the relationship, go cold, and move on... So much of this analysis makes sense.

Am I the only one who thinks that dating and having a relationship is a burden? I mean whenever I think of dating it felt like adding an extra baggage to my load.

@rumaduma5546

4 жыл бұрын

@Price Check On VagiClean yep that's what I got in mind lol. But if I find the right person then go ahead. But if I don't I will not try to force myself in a relationship or "find" a relationship just to say I am not alone.

@Valzeu

4 жыл бұрын

Just wanna say hello to fellow INFJ with love for Jimin 💜

@rumaduma5546

4 жыл бұрын

@@Valzeu uwu hello to you too💜

@linnear9872

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I remember thinking in my last relationship that it was kind of a burden to long for somone (we lived in different cities so saw eachother once a week), my train of thought circulated too much around that person which made it hard to focus on other tasks.

@carpelinguae9097

4 жыл бұрын

It is, especially when there are sooooo many other interesting, rewarding, enriching, productive and/or enjoyable things to do rather than be bogged down by someone's needy drama. I hate the person I become in relationships andy life is much better when I am single and not dating, not even casually. I love my dogs, family and friends.

"Unintentionally manipulate relationships so they like you faster" to "you've played the game, now are you actually compatible?" hits deep

@nicolemmens

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true and I can't avoid doing it, it's just automatic

@thecutestcyborg2834

4 жыл бұрын

This hit me so hard. I feel like I’m always trying to learn about that person first, so I can impress them with how similar we are. Then when we end up having nothing in common, because I wasn’t my real self upfront. 😭

@whobian123

4 жыл бұрын

It's like staring at a mirror

@bellaisinhere

4 жыл бұрын

I felt cut to the core at that moment. This channel is going to make me not sleep for days.

@tessanesdoly6267

4 жыл бұрын

Becca MacKay YES YES YES YES YES

INTJ here, but I found this video so illuminating and relatable. Your first 3 reasons INFJ is single apply to INTJ as well because both types have very strong intuition and inferior sensing. Concretely that means people like me really like to plan ahead, make everything perfect in advance, read other people, don’t live in the moment, etc. It gets really frustrating sometimes because that’s not how most people play the game.

Been single about 4 years. I feel much better this way. Mostly, I'll admit, because most people are like 'sheep' and not 'genuine.' I happen to love 'genuine', even if it's flawed, just give me 'genuine.' I'm very happy being alone, as opposed to having 'fake' in my life.,

I honestly think I want a relationship, but then I look around, and get exhausted by the fact theres someone I need to care for, so yeah too much work emotionally and mentally, back to visualizing in my head*sighs*

@user-ms3pk5do9z

3 жыл бұрын

Well, I'm in a relationship. And it sure hell exhausting. And sometimes you'll just want to wish that you never did enter it. I'll get emotionally wild and stuff. Sure is painful, and sometimes regret it. But in the end. There is always the joy, to have someone who can understand you, or trying their best to understand you as a person. There will be a lot of struggles, changes but in the end. You'll need that someone in your life! Maybe not now, but someday they will come

@zakosist

3 жыл бұрын

I'm actually INTP but can relate to this. I occasionally feel like I want it but the more I think into it the more I realize I probably wouldn't want it if I got it. One of the reasons is I think there would be way too much pressure to perform (or they either leave you or become resentful you aren't doing it right) and it seems there are so many ways to do it wrong. At the same time, I would need a reason to stay as well and I cant picture it would make me happy if I constantly had to worry about pleasing the other person. I also cant picture getting with someone I actually like in the first place.

@jessicab5448

3 жыл бұрын

@@zakosist very true, I also think my childhood is to blame too... not good examples for relantionships around me oh well, hopefully it gets better. Honestly praying the right person comes along one day..

@jessicab5448

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-ms3pk5do9z Thanks, hopefully!

I, an INFJ, am afraid of repeating the test and getting a different answer, and apparently that is a VERY INFJ behavior. Edit: 3 months later I retook the test (I know you should wait 6 months but it was killing me) and still got INFJ, I was so nervous.

@ilonggongkiwi7109

3 жыл бұрын

I tried mine again, I was scared and also excited but I got the same result. 😂 Still INFJ

@mymayjunejuly9487

3 жыл бұрын

@@ilonggongkiwi7109 that also happened to me. i was scared to took a test again but then it comes out the same

@annasuzette7901

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking of redoing it myself to see if I actually was infj, of course I thought the same thing.. :) I've done it three times already but you can never be too sure.....

@a5anointed705

3 жыл бұрын

Me too! 😂

@a5anointed705

3 жыл бұрын

I did Myers Briggs twice, the Cloverleaf assessment, and Truity and got all INFJ. Truity gives three options but INFJ was first.. I was sweating bullets while taking them lol. Let me ask you guys something, when you go to the store, do you have to scan an area several times to make for sure something is or isn’t there? I’ve been aware of my lack of attention to detail since childhood because of my ISFJ mother. She would send me to an aisle to find something and I could never find it. Then she would look and spot it immediately and get so frustrated with me. To this day I have to triple check an aisle before deciding something isn’t there.

as an INFJ with an INFP girlfriend, i can definitely say that even though we liked each other it was very hard to start a relationship between us. i couldn't stop asking myself "what if it wont work out?". i decided to try and talk more to her and open up about my feelings "something we're not good at". weve been dating for 3 months and i do not regret my decisions whatsoever. sorry if its not clear, im spanish

@jamielawrence4749

Жыл бұрын

Aw that's very nice and encouraging, thank you. I hope it's still going well. Opening up and sharing my feelings with someone I care for or start to date is scary for me. The last relationship I was in, I pushed myself to be vulnerable and kept getting hurtful feedback (or none at all). I didn't take it as a sign to stop because I was idealizing him and wanted things to be the way I felt they were or were meant to be... and lots of other stuff. Once I was honest and said I felt a little insecure when he sent a photo of himself with a random girl in it (that I intuitively immediately knew there was something going on with her, or that he sent it to make me react or something) and I asked if he was involved with her, and he wrote back "you're weird". It still haunts me to this day I just feel like I can't be honest with anyone because they will totally dismiss me. But reading this helps me see that it's maybe worth the effort. Everyone is different after all.

@4tr_m

Жыл бұрын

@@jamielawrence4749 it didn't work, thank you anyway

@mentirusco

Жыл бұрын

​@@4tr_m porque no funciono? Yo estoy haciendo lo mismo

@4tr_m

Жыл бұрын

​@@mentirusco ya no me acordaba de este comentario, con el tiempo hubieron diferencias. simplemente no acabábamos de compartir intereses y ella aún le daba vueltas a su ex. empezó a dejar de quererme y decidimos dejarlo los dos. de eso ha pasado un año y ahora ha estado con más chicos que yo que sé ahora me estoy centrando en descubrir más a fondo mis gustos y pasiones, pienso que no se puede forzar ninguna relación porque deja de ser especial bueno eso es todo

We just have to realize some people just aren’t meant for each other and THATS OKAY! May sound corny but you miss 100% of the chances you don’t take, so just go for it! Call that girl or guy cute, tell them you like their outfit, something small. We don’t need to go reaching for a relationship just to be in one either. If you vibe you vibe, but how will you know you’re on the same wavelength if you keep trying to be someone other than yourself. I just recently found somebody who is just as goofy as me and slightly more outgoing its been a lot of fun, but I’m just scared of myself. Every relationship I’ve been in has crashed n burned in 9 months and I’m really trying to figure myself out, I do not want to become a shell of myself once again and I don’t want to hurt anyone again. I am just trying to enjoy the time we spend together n not think too much about it

Reading these comments are like I'm reading the inside of my head and I feel less alone.

@konkyolife

4 жыл бұрын

Is it not scary that we all have cats in our lap right now?

@anujpratapsinghparihar7126

4 жыл бұрын

Me too...

@christinemccoy4471

4 жыл бұрын

@@konkyolife Yeah I got a cat, in my lap!!

@Chandela-

4 жыл бұрын

Me too ☺️☺️☺️😍

@delphinefayolle7420

3 жыл бұрын

Same

Did I stumbled upon some INFJ community !!?? Like THIS IS MY CLAN 😹😹😹

@gummybears1320

4 жыл бұрын

sxphire Heart i’d like to give a shoutout to the youtube algorithm for allowing me to find my people

@ThatEflatGuy

4 жыл бұрын

Whaddup fam?...Do people still say that in 2019? By the way, I’m weird.

@SunsiasLove

4 жыл бұрын

Welcome fam 🦊❤️☺️

@channelyoutube4698

4 жыл бұрын

I feel at home OMG 😅😅😅

@sterlingking2338

4 жыл бұрын

How did u tube know to show me this, it seems to have read my mind again , it is a fucked up life

Its true that we often think we are not meant to be in a relationship as our expectations can be quite high, but with maturity, you learn to take your time and observe before engaging fully. Also I don't know you guys but for me, being with an IFNP is the perfect heaven match! Wish you all to find the love of your life. Give it time and take chances, you never know what you will find. ;)

As a INFJ i can say that the pain of a relationship break up is horrendous I have worked out already before meeting the person if it will potentially work out but that overthinking is completely exhausting I recognize the qualities of the person i want to be with and now i am avoiding dating and waiting for that person to enter my life Looking or searching is far too difficult Thanks for sharing this

1. Too attached to ideals. 2. Overstimulated by dating. 3. Think/plan too much. 4. Too aware of others needs and not yourself. 5. Looking for your identity in others. 6. Becoming a shell of yourself. 7. Too deep too fast. 8. Read people too much. 9. Afraid of missing info. 10. Accept your weirdness.

'You can read people very well, and that scares you.' It also scares them. A lot of ghosting that happens when I inch warmer to some truth. Sigh.

@brooklynitec6888

5 жыл бұрын

Yes. I feel the same exact way.

@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar2239

5 жыл бұрын

That's sad... I feel (as an ENFP) that I relate to this in a way. I think I just overwhelm them with too much attention and stuff too soon.

@theuniverseisabundantwigs

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, so true!!

@thuy__

5 жыл бұрын

I was dumped because of this, he was a friend before I started to date him... I could see through the bs and drug abuse... it was hard to be ghosted after caring for so long....

@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar2239

5 жыл бұрын

@@thuy__ I'm sorry 😞

I know this is an old post but I’m obsessed with this channel and just realized I’m an infj… I’m constantly torn between wanting a relationship (and needing to lower my ideals, stop reading into every change in demeanor) and just being cool with being single and i can just devote my life to my dreams without losing myself in someone who drains me emotionally.

@istoleyourorangejuice

Жыл бұрын

I don't really care about relationships.

As an INFJ, hearing these ten truths really puts an ache in my heart, well its because its true. Im having struggle having to find that identity that i want, and i start searching it through my friends, my family, and even dating apps. and it just turns out to be more frustrating, confusing, and disappointing. I'm glad that there are people like you who could understand our peculiar and unique personalities and guide us through these videos. I hope you still continue making these type of videos. I... i mean we, are genuinely thankful to have people like you to help and inspire others through your work. Kudos to you bruthah!!!

@imaan6907

2 жыл бұрын

same

@HajirIbrahim-wf6rx

8 ай бұрын

Same 😢

My standards are high. Yet when they are met, I sabotage the relationship.

@mdlucas1981

3 жыл бұрын

Truth

@FallenMonk55

3 жыл бұрын

Omg! I always thought there was wrong with me. I realize that this is who I am

@hazelnut7255

3 жыл бұрын

Damn

@aimanharith5817

3 жыл бұрын

😢

@AsmaaSabiri

3 жыл бұрын

True story 😂

me: i should start dating my brain: well, if you start dating, youre gonna have to keep up with them and get attached and would have to deal with feelings you havent been into before are you sure you wanna do that youre gonna get hurt and lose control and are you actually gonna find something that's gonna be worth it ????? me: ok, why date? imma die anyways

@madeleinearcher999

4 жыл бұрын

Michaella Caballes ME

@katiebaumann8330

4 жыл бұрын

This is so me!!!

@juliavalencaschoen2234

4 жыл бұрын

Omg stop reading mee lol

@saidah1809

4 жыл бұрын

bruh relatable

@baralike6258

3 жыл бұрын

SO ME

This man is truly legend He could defined what i thought and my feelings this whole time when i myself cant explain what it is Big respect - INFJ

I'm an INFP and I could relate to many things you mentionned. I think our personality type shares a lot of the same issues INFJs have.

*Me seeing the headline* “This is probably full of crap.” First reason: “You’re stuck on looking for the perfect person” ouch.

@christineherrmann205

4 жыл бұрын

Glad I'm not the only one who clicked thinking "This is probably crap." LOL

@linnear9872

4 жыл бұрын

Also when he said "you're looking for somone to give you an identity"....my last relationship without releasing it at the time

All E types: "Hey, we just met and I like you. I want to come see you tonight." My INFJ self: *a mix of sheer panic and snide disdain because I don't even know if you are worth me leaving my house yet*

@couleurful

5 жыл бұрын

LRCLaw 😂

@liqu4214

5 жыл бұрын

yeah...leaving my house for personal reasons is a big deal. can't waste that on just anyone!

@carolynfay6787

5 жыл бұрын

FUCK OUCH

@tgibbs8288

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 so true

@thedarkhairedone7672

5 жыл бұрын

Sooooooooo true!!!

You're hitting the nail(s) on the head here. And as I get older (I'm 60+), I've learned to embrace my weirdness. It makes life a lot easier.

6:22 and 8:43 Frank I'm so thankful there's someone out there like you that can describe us so well in the right words; we don't really get the chance to.

11. Always in your room so you don't meet people 12. You over think/plan to ask someone out but get overwhelmed and never do it

@nilak.s617

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, esp the overwhelming part. Some people said to me that meeting people is exciting. I fail to see which part is exciting...

@dannyrk8008

5 жыл бұрын

Kyle Davis why do I feel exposed and attacked

@thelegacyofgaming2928

5 жыл бұрын

One day I decided to ask a random girl out on a whim and it actually worked. But because I didn't plan like I usually do, I had no idea what to do for the date, and because I got no previous information on the girl before the date, I was focusing on figuring as much out as possible while on the date, which led to me seeming a bit distant and her telling me she had fun but didn't want to go on another date. Lol

@kyledavis3726

5 жыл бұрын

@@dannyrk8008 truth hurts lol

@kyledavis3726

5 жыл бұрын

@@thelegacyofgaming2928 dang too bad. Don't be discouraged though, more experience will help. Good luck 👍

I choose to believe that it's because I'm just "too cool and attractive and everyone is intimidated" 😉

@meganneedham5272

5 жыл бұрын

Jessica2810 same girl💁🏻 we’re just too much to handle. Hahaha

@missjayne7401

5 жыл бұрын

You two don't seem to be introverts. I'm an ENFJ

@dannyrk8008

5 жыл бұрын

Jessica2810 L

@robertstanley9633

5 жыл бұрын

THIS!

@manager-nim2623

5 жыл бұрын

I don't mean to brag but *runs hand through hair* it's true for me *blows a kiss and winks*

For point 6 (becoming a shell in a relationship), it’s probably because we sometimes look for our identities in our partners. That identity is pretty exciting and flattering to yourself when you’re in the infatuation stage. If there isn’t a structure to grow on in a relationship, or one that encourages you to grow ( maybe like basic things in common, trust or communication skills), you can get spit out, feeling the effects of having given it your all, without getting much in return. That person might be too different from you to keep up the charade you don’t realize you’re putting up. And it’s hard to be understood as an INFJ, or to even understand yourself and your needs. Your intuition tells you this, eventually, and you become a shell of yourself, lost and probably a little confused.

As an ENTJ this is also very relatable. Always reading people fast and deciding that it won't work out, seeing others flaws, having a perfect imagine of a partner in our head, etc.

So, can someone start an INFJ dating website?

@amandas.6500

5 жыл бұрын

@@Morganfields INFJs do keep their guard up. Maybe a Myers Briggs dating website would work just as well, if you already know which other type your seeking.

@clapwithonehand9304

5 жыл бұрын

you should start it

@jamesgraham1809

5 жыл бұрын

Great idea 💖

@tanyacarruthers453

5 жыл бұрын

Should INFJs date other INFJs?

@jamesgraham1809

5 жыл бұрын

I think it would be interesting 💖

Sometimes I feel like I'm cheating on the person I'm dating with the person in my head.

@kanikasingh4049

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss

@MayanCompatibilityRelationship

4 жыл бұрын

Omg yes! But for me it's the opposite, Even though I was married, I felt like I was cheating on the person in my dreams.

@mirsmith4531

4 жыл бұрын

Ms JustG well stop getting married or stop believing ur part of the 2percent...never settling is innate behavior regarding relationship...hope u made an unrepeatable mistake n won’t repeat!

@MayanCompatibilityRelationship

4 жыл бұрын

@@mirsmith4531 marriage is never a mistake though society tries to make it so. Marrying the wrong person is a mistake and that is a thing I will never do again.

@mirsmith4531

4 жыл бұрын

Ms JustG ummmm ok well somehow things seem lil strange here so I will say congratulation!and enjoy ur success!

I love the deep dive conversations. I'm good at asking questions that ppl just have never pondered and it totally stumps them. Makes them have to do some serious thinking. I always like to get inside of things.

Your videos about Infj type are so useful! I just have a feeling now that I finally getting a better understanding of myself and rather than hating certain things about me or my Infj personality, I can find a harmony within my self. Thank you so much💛

I can't stop thinking...it's an Infj's curse maybe

@FrankJames

5 жыл бұрын

i know, right

@wingwaves940

5 жыл бұрын

@@FrankJames Yeppers!

@noemel.8312

5 жыл бұрын

I thought the same way too. I dont like it and they dont get it. Hahahaha

@sir.dylpickle2225

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I think so

@sir.dylpickle2225

5 жыл бұрын

Especially when I try to go to sleep

“That’s all dating is, is sorting through a bunch of new information, getting out there in the real world...” Me: *deep sigh* (immediately feels tired)

@bellaisinhere

4 жыл бұрын

I did the same exact thing 😂

@GraceVersoniDaOneAndOnly

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 same

@rand0mn0sity14

4 жыл бұрын

Dude I did the same thing. Kinda did the internet laugh thing where you just blow more air through your nose than normal.

@blackstrat8091

4 жыл бұрын

This happened to me, i dating girl in my college like one year ago, we went dinner and watched movie together and then 1 month later i got flu, i did not send her any message for a day, since then i never talk to her or message her again, but i don't feel anything neither having something lost in my relationship

@ThoughtProvokingVlogs

4 жыл бұрын

I'm demisexual and in some online demisexual social groups. In the group one person describes dates as "sex interviews". I cannot unsee the truth in that anymore

The get into my head part is probably the best about you guys actually. If someone can do so AND isn't scared off I consider it a jackpot. It makes a lot of communication so much easier.

Point 7 was so relatable that it freaked me out! I would have never imagined someone else telling that to me about myself. Amazed!

In other words: we’re too Intelligent and read people to well/read into things to much. We need to lower ourselves to be able to live among the mortals. 😂

@professorplates5689

5 жыл бұрын

*too much

@noahstabler3561

5 жыл бұрын

Professor Plates fml forgive me I know the correct way to use them I just wrote too fast. Willeth you forgiveth me?

@heroeus8173

5 жыл бұрын

Personally i don't think its just our intelligence We are just more intuitive You see our intuition is too advance Its not always about intelligence

@MicheleFBA

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to have found "my people". I've always known I was very intuitive, even as a child. It's as if I could read people and situations as if they were puzzles. It's so gratifying to be able to put a name and description to my personality type. I feel so late, but releived that I am not alone. 😔

@heyyou3609

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheChurchOfScientology Don't mistake being intuitive with thinking others are "beneath" you.. Really? "Lower"? :/

Painful thing about being an infj is that you know if someone is being genuine with you or not. And you just have to sit through whatever they are saying because you don't know if you will end up hurting the person by calling them out

@jennam4448

3 жыл бұрын

yup. i lie a lot because of it cause i don’t wanna hurt them

@Hannah-dr1rl

3 жыл бұрын

Yepp

@christmes57

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. My boss

@vainastudio7756

3 жыл бұрын

That’s until you master the sweet punch technique. It’s like you tell them you already know what they are about in a beautiful and compassionate way. After that, guide them through the best outcome possible that you already analysed after running 1000 simulations for second in your mind and they will have no choice than to follow through.

@alf2087

3 жыл бұрын

much more painful if the person doing that is just to get along with you.

what a call out I love that he called the knowing people so well too deep too fast. I was wandering why that was happening to me. Thank you for posting this I had no idea that is what I was doing. Now I am aware and can realize it and not become a shell.

FJ Explained all my problems perfectly and found solutions to them. Thank You FJ for the advice.

Once you're a healthy INFJ and you're still single... It's because everyone FRIENDZONE you 😂 or you give a friendship vibe to everyone. Like you're a perfect friend they wanna keep forever.

@yodamoda8400

3 жыл бұрын

yeah I got friendzoned by my friend but better then cutting contact though🙂

@nanyummyify

3 жыл бұрын

I'm ded lol

@angelasmith3037

3 жыл бұрын

Or you just get ghosted all the time lol. I’d love to just be friends most of the time, but no one values that 🤷🏼‍♀️

@laub3856

3 жыл бұрын

It's the other way around for me, I just don't want a relationship and I tell that to my friends guys but they want more than friendship and doesn't matter how much I say it they still there trying and I feel so bad for them

@shinyday1699

3 жыл бұрын

@@laub3856 Bruh same

I'm an INFJ-A and my boyfriend is an INFJ-A. WE DID WONDER WHY WE WERE SINGLE BEFORE. BUT HERE WE ARE NOW. I'M GETTING MARRIED SOON~~~~

@drowe2753

4 жыл бұрын

Yaaaay! So happy for you😉

@trappedinsideafigure8

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@meliyuniarti2078

4 жыл бұрын

So lucky. Happy for you ^^

@stupid_flannel_gal9046

4 жыл бұрын

다나 Aweeee!! Congrats!!

@phoenixmoon8172

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!!

'You're too aware of other people's needs.' 🤯 Great points, thanks for sharing!

I always feel extreme relief when my relationships end, doesn't matter who broke it up, doesn't matter how much I cared for them, it's just so liberating. A lot of times I don't even know if I miss them, it's usually indifference and it takes time for me to get into a new relationship because I value my freedom so much and I'm never sure I am ready to take on the responsibility of caring for a whole other adult like a child and it can be exhausting. I don't hate relationships, I like them when they are happening but I don't miss them when they end. I hardly go out of my way to seek one too, they just have to happen organically.