🔴 Here's another video you'll like: Unhealthy INFJ: 7 Signs You're an Unhealthy INFJ kzread.info/dash/bejne/c6t1ttZuj9G-frA.html ⭐

@ShadySaanz

5 жыл бұрын

Shoutout to raising awareness

@justinfalzon6854

5 жыл бұрын

Around 7:10, you're talking about how you're really just trying to give yourself advice (lol), you say, "to all the other INFJ's -(and while having your head down and motioning to the camera)- IN there, try some new stuff." Instead of what would more commonly be said out, 'out there'. Implicitly recognizing we're all the same person manifesting at different locations. LoL. Love it. I thought I was an ENFJ for the longest. I just realized recently I'm an 'I'. ayyye. No pun intended.

@Estelle-Maureen

5 жыл бұрын

OMG so me in the future and all that goes with it.

@Estelle-Maureen

5 жыл бұрын

Termage lol

@Estelle-Maureen

5 жыл бұрын

Me first time meeting someone... Leaves knowing everything about them...Me the next time I see them... Won't even make eye contact

INFJs can understand themselves to such a degree that they don’t need such videos but only for confirmation purposes.

@ne2604

4 жыл бұрын

this.

@alexandriariley4382

4 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@5ive748

4 жыл бұрын

no lol i dont even understand myself but somehow i relate to this personality too much

@salomesonwane3778

4 жыл бұрын

@@5ive748 lol ikr

@youniqca1489

4 жыл бұрын

But I still love it to have ppl sharing same way of thinking. Need that

Even when I’m being manipulated, I know when I’m being manipulated 🙂

@vminisfuckingreal998

4 жыл бұрын

why is this a mood. like you know whats going on, but then you're too scared to confront them about it. and then you think if you should or shouldn't. and then its too late.

@dominiqueshaneawitin7307

4 жыл бұрын

This is what happened to me with my friend hahahha like I'm not stupid I'm enjoying tho

@eastonridge5475

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, IT HURTS SO GOOD... ha

@juanaaguilera2130

4 жыл бұрын

I started feeling this way at work. Other staff made it seem like I was being used to do this one staff's job but I saw it as part of my job description to perform each task I'm given. I thought about putting a complaint as other staff did but I didn't. Maybe I wasn't being used. Maybe she really needed the help.

@bekalacock

4 жыл бұрын

Haha true

*Me writing a comment:* yeah this is a good comment, someone will find it funny *Also me:* No, I'm oversharing *deletes it the second she writes it*

@quest4coexistence326

3 жыл бұрын

DUDE. Literally just spent the last hour writing/editing what I'm about to comment. I can't promise to find it funny but I'll at least read whatever you were gonna say! 🤣🖤

@wenshyuanho4611

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true, I had a hard time writing post and sharing post on FB... before I share something I will check the author, and then I will think if I share it will the author think I’m weird then will my friends think I’m weird... after sharing, ended up deleting it to prevent anyone think I’m weird 😭

@Cpowers620

3 жыл бұрын

So many times

@rawspeakslife5407

3 жыл бұрын

Omg yes🙈

@samaa.w

3 жыл бұрын

I thought i was the only one😭

The way Frank sometimes say “Yes and no” for a point, just proves how much of an INfJ he really is!!😂 Same Dude. Same.

@lomien1150

3 жыл бұрын

In my first language we have yesno as a term. It's almost always said with a small sigh or exhale - whiether it's implied positively or negatively doesn't matter. It's always understood as a subject being complex, and I love it.

@Clementine3107

3 жыл бұрын

@@lomien1150 what is your first language?

@lomien1150

3 жыл бұрын

@@Clementine3107 Afrikaans. It's a Dutch derivative spoken in South Africa.

@Clementine3107

3 жыл бұрын

@@lomien1150 thanks for answering

@lomien1150

3 жыл бұрын

@@Clementine3107 you're welcome

INFJ in a nutshell: well yes but actually no

@luluparadise8630

5 жыл бұрын

tru dat hunny

@lillowh6126

5 жыл бұрын

Bella good guess but actualy no

@simpatiko86

5 жыл бұрын

No wonder ENTP and INFJ is a thing. ENTPs also likes contradicting ideas and try to make sense of it.

@aljoschacyphers4117

5 жыл бұрын

I like your videos and I was just wondering what your back round is. I'm an INFJ, I think, and every time I try to Google you, I just get rederected to your KZread feed. I just want to know why you put so much thought and effort into the Myers-Briggs personality test.

@RATDATSUN

5 жыл бұрын

Kiwi Infj: Yeah nah yeah

I vote you President of the INFJ club.

@eph2vv89only1way

4 жыл бұрын

Iseult _writer I second the nomination

@doggie1042

4 жыл бұрын

Third

@amronchristensen696

4 жыл бұрын

Iseult _writer 4th

@fantasyhaven3900

4 жыл бұрын

I would vote for him

@kaede_jing

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Mr president~!

1. On a different wavelength. 2. Highly perspective of others. 3. absorb other people emotions. 4. Amazing long range forecasting abilities. 5. Both emotional and rational. 6. Creators of deep emotional intimacy. 7.True introvert. 8. Sensitive to conflict. 9. End up in one-sided relationship. 10. Looking for their soulmate.

@SarahNash84

2 жыл бұрын

This is me totally

@Batfemme639

Жыл бұрын

"Amazing long range forecasting abilities." Like omg, Lenovo (if that really is your name). I am like freaking Nostradamus or Cassandra and I don't want to be. I cannot even tell you the stuff I have predicted with great specificity because you would not believe me. I don't believe me, but other people know and they are totally freaked out. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh! Yeah, nobody believes me ahead of time but afterwards they're amazed. What a curse.

@kimberlypagett8031

Жыл бұрын

Imagine adding me as a Gemini too lol man it's challenging

@semplar2007

Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU

@clairem3707

Жыл бұрын

I thought long range forecasting was more ne

Ah fuck, when I was 12, I would always think about my life 20 years in the future. Then people would ask how I'm so mature for my age.

Did any INFJ here ever happened to completely lose interest in a person after they made a comment you didn't like to the point you were disappointed because you didn't see that coming, like you didn't thought they were that kind of person that you don't like. (ex.: somebody that makes a racist comment) ?

@user-xt3bf8uz9n

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, it has happened to me. It's really sad but there are things that can finish a friendship in seconds and we can't do anything about it, it just happens.

@FantasticMsFish

4 жыл бұрын

That happens to me too often

@caspianh.1926

4 жыл бұрын

Many times. And it's amazing how instantly my feelings can change.

@nikharagrawal5808

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! It's like if I couldn't expect that from (and perhaps, that I disapprove of it), immediately I feel like I must have messed up my WHOLE knowledge of that person, like oh my god, how did this happen!? And they suddenly feel like strangers, too!

@stephmleal

4 жыл бұрын

Oh how this ruined so many possibilities of relationships

"Try not to think about 10 years from now." Haha joke's on you. I have a 30 year plan.

@muizzdicky6823

4 жыл бұрын

Me too broooo

@Lottiya

4 жыл бұрын

I laughed so hard hah But... that’s very true

@delacruize2023

4 жыл бұрын

I have a reincarnation plan A & B a afterlife plan just incase! And a plan if ALL of the above scenarios fail 🤞 here's hoping 💯 "Its very difficult to do sudden! wardrobe change!! stressful when it's blindsided 🤦‍♂️😬🤪 I find comfort In having a Plan A,B,C,D,E,F,G etc 🙏🤸‍♂️🥇

@badasstoad9419

4 жыл бұрын

CzarJuliusIII And noooooothing’s gonna go wrong! * Ni-dom anxiety builds up *

@taeslovelytummy4878

4 жыл бұрын

Make it 60

"I need to be selfish from time to time". That's so true. It's difficult to just give all the time and feeling not getting enough from others.

@isidoragonzalez23

2 жыл бұрын

But its too hard to be selfish

@etcwhatever

9 ай бұрын

​@@isidoragonzalez23i learned the hard way being selfish is essential. No more giving up myself

You INFJ's are awesome. It is a pleasure to go through the comment section. So much self awareness and mental clarity. A lot of love and respect from an ENTP 🙏

@matthewyang7893

3 жыл бұрын

Unrelateable but relateable but sometimes I wish I wasn't relating to this INFJ club sometimes :p

@kenzer011

2 жыл бұрын

Actually it's not that easy. If an infj doesn't know he's infj he's gonna feel reeeeeally wrong about a LOT of stuff, so you reach mental clarity after a lot of self studying (just explaining a little). But whenever he gets there, it's the way you said, and it's a cool/weird experience to live

@rslhruaizela1955

2 жыл бұрын

Can we have our privacy lol

@brightlord3963

2 жыл бұрын

@@rslhruaizela1955 No

@kevinjackson9100

2 жыл бұрын

@@rslhruaizela1955 honestly lol this is where infjs meet up, we’re constantly learning and it’s the one time we close to focus on learning about ourselves

One thing I always found odd before I found out I was an INFJ, was the part about getting others to open up to us so easily. I always thought it was strange how people always tell me mid way through their life story "I dont know why I'm telling you this" and proceeds to continue lolol

@skilyndeitrick7848

4 жыл бұрын

Leinad97 this is the most relatable comment, we had a new girl at work and within 5 minutes she was telling me about her addiction and life story and it’s like i don’t mind at all but i’ve always wondered why people tend to seek me out to open up to

@thirtythreeflavors

4 жыл бұрын

This.

@elenaflores1774

4 жыл бұрын

I had a woman at work tell me about how her grandpa's leg was slowly getting removed with surgeries from this one time he ran over his foot with a lawn mower, but he was too stubborn to remove the whole thing and just get a prosthetic. She also used the line, "I don't know why I'm telling you this." Oh, that was paired with her story of her growing up, and of her life as a mother. This was on the first late night we had together.

@nemplayer1776

4 жыл бұрын

Same, I have some trust issues so I don't really like opening up to people intentionally (it still happens unintentionally in an intimate setting), but even considering that people can open up to me really easily.

@hotwingsfromdc1113

4 жыл бұрын

Ha! It’s seriously a burden sometimes. I went on vacation to Chicago once, and I walked into a gift shop for 10 minutes. By the time I left I had heard about the cashier having menstrual cramps that were as bad as her mother used to get, and the shy kid folding shirts in the back told me he didn’t feel like his coworkers respected him.

😂 The funniest thing about an INFJ is that we don’t just question everything and ourselves, but we also question why we question everything and ourselves.. it’s a continuous evil cycle of questioning which never ends and thus, keeps us more in our heads questioning... why do we do this, and why does matter why we do this.. and so on..

@yankybraver9403

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@afiy9959

3 жыл бұрын

totally accurate

@ddabrowski88

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Sometimes I wish there was an off switch.

@mysticalcreature2718

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@neperson7647

3 жыл бұрын

when you can't tell yourself to shut up because another perspective persona pops up and tells you to shut up.........

I met my husband (also INFJ) through Facebook. We found each other on a group, sent friend requests, chatted on Messenger for hours the first time. And that first chat we both knew we are meant for each other. Few weeks later, totally in love before we met face to face. First time we met face to face first thing we almost ran into each other's arms and just embrace and knew we will be married. We planned our wedding and future before he actually proposed. So it is possible to find your soul mate. Still very happily married.

@essalotus

2 жыл бұрын

❤️✨

@snekasekar8841

Жыл бұрын

Which type u r?

@rocketta.chique5761

Жыл бұрын

Stop, this gives me hope, it’s dangerous to hope at this point 😭

@dominicclassable

Жыл бұрын

@@rocketta.chique5761 exactly

@alivc2458

Жыл бұрын

I had a similar situation where my boyfriend and I immediately knew right away, searched for my soulmate my entire life, randomly ran into each other on a video game and have been inseparable since. Planned our wedding in the first month of our relationship/meeting and would have done the most irrational thing ever if money wasn't an issue. Still happily together a year later and still planning to marry. He's an ENTP who also happens to literally be our typology soulmate type. It's legitimate. Find yourself an ENTP friends!

Do infj's loss interest easily, because I do and it's driving me crazy.

@designdiyu

3 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh YES

@Pandaintheshelter

3 жыл бұрын

This is my whole life

@ihaveseverefrootsnackism

2 жыл бұрын

YES. Holy crap. I have an example... I've been doing langauge learning as a hobby for... almost 2 years now (since Nov. 2019), which is hilarious in itself because I already know I'm going to hesitate to actually use it with people in conversation. Not only that, but I've tried about 20 langauges AND CONSTANTLY switch which one is the "main" focus because I kept losing interest. And not only that, but feeling the need for some reason to remember the history of what I was interested in for some reason. Literally, in under 2 years, my interest died THIS many times-- my main focus went from Russian to Spanish to Romanian to Swedish to Spanish again (stayed here for a few months) and Japanese to Korean to Spanish again to Vietnamese and back to Spanish then Russian again then German then Spanish AGAIN to Korean to... you guessed it, Spanish, Russian, and Spanish again (for a few months), to Japanese again (stayed here for a few months), then suddenly it was Spanish, German, Korean, and Mandarin all at once (this is now May 2021, and Japanese died for some reason), then German and Mandarin died out, then suddenly I got interested in Japanese again, which suddenly took over everything else, making my interest in Korean die, and Spanish barely hanging on, then after a couple of months, Spanish made a comeback for no longer than a week before I got frustrated and got into the current situation for the past couple of weeks where I practically juggle Spanish, Japanese... and Swedish made a comeback again. That wasn't even all of the languages. There's a bunch that weren't listed because they lasted not even half a week before I lost interest. My interest in certain types of music/KZread videos is somehow even more complicated than that. Am I the most indecisive person born into Earth?!?! the more i type the more i realize why im single, my interest in people is this bad too, and SEVERE overthinking

@Khergman

2 жыл бұрын

I think like most other stuff it’s a yes and no. If you plan everything on that person the stubbornness comes out but if you struggle to find a plan for that person, you can very easily drop them (maybe even harmfully)

@agnes3305

Жыл бұрын

Yeah

I think INFJs can be in everybody's wavelength because they're good at adjusting it as their ego is low, BUT many people cannot be in the same wavelength with INFJs.

@cinderling5472

5 жыл бұрын

lyana _ Good point. I agree with this

@soulfuljana

5 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree!!!!

@Smjourney1223

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly!!

@juzt4fun347

5 жыл бұрын

Agree

@turduckenwrath6110

5 жыл бұрын

lyana _ this exactly

I love how all the infjs in the comments are just so nice and peaceful and understanding 😭😭 it’s so rare to see in comment sections

@deepdiver6885

4 жыл бұрын

😁

@thewizkidd89

4 жыл бұрын

Well we are rare lol

@Mark-et6lq

4 жыл бұрын

^-^

@obliviouschannel1994

4 жыл бұрын

Some people lack understand for others, we don't to a curtain extent but if we do we try to make a understanding but this is something that drains us and is hard to share with others that have different views and just see things for what they are without question how they are. Maybe we are always on a quest for knowledge? Fuck knows xD anyway have a good day people

@rumaduma5546

4 жыл бұрын

Well yeah, we try to understand and be neutral about things so we avoid being mean and rude.

since this guy's INFJ, I know that he cares about authenticity in his discussions. DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?

@Shooketh__

3 жыл бұрын

I get you. Watching his videos feels like having a deep convo with someone who finally understands you. It's amazing.

@caitlin9199

3 жыл бұрын

that's a very INFJ thing for you to say hahahahahah

@weareallinthis3668

2 жыл бұрын

WE HEAR YOU 🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😂😂😂

As an INFJ progresses both academically, esoterically, and psychologically makes us pretty much independent and capable of anything given the right time and effort. So we end up cleaning up our own mess.

It's Your Girl FJ 😂

@pollymat991

5 жыл бұрын

i know right??? xD

@aveuch

5 жыл бұрын

Best make up tutorials on the tube 💅🏻💄👛

@IAmNumber49

5 жыл бұрын

Good to know I'm not the only one who notice that 😂😂😂

@easytoslip

5 жыл бұрын

I so loved that, it bothers me endlessly that the default is always male!!

@janetmcbee

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

Its funny because infj's can understand themselves so much that we dont need this video for help but stress relief XD

@jamielaw4749

4 жыл бұрын

Lol I play these at 1.75 speed because "I know" but it's stress relief because I can hear someone else narrate my thoughts instead of doing it myself. And I learn smtg too 😂

@Lavender0810

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr. We are normal 😂

@boboiboy9189

4 жыл бұрын

Lol we cant understand ourselves tbh

@thousandyardgavri2785

4 жыл бұрын

Its people who don't understand us. Im here to feel comfort.

@eastonridge5475

4 жыл бұрын

Confirmations of what I already know...feels good. It's a guilty pleasure!

In my opinions, most of INFJ ws a genius, and Intelligent. They don't care small little things, they think further.

I'll straight out say this to you INFJs: I think you are awesome! You heal up people left and right, and whatever your past relationships were (plz forgive my grammar), you and the people's life you'd touch are an invaluable life experiences bad or good. Be grateful for it that it refines all us to be the best version you could strive. Every heartfelt connection you feel is a soulmate (fated), until you find 'The One' unexpectedly creep up on you. Don't give up on life and living! Thank you for living ❤️

It tickles me how many of these comments end with: "I hope that makes sense"

@CreatureFeatureRlz

4 жыл бұрын

Literally how I end most of my explanations in real life 😂

@essencemack5809

4 жыл бұрын

That's so us lol

@itsBAY35

4 жыл бұрын

I totally do that LOL

@simovtransportmedia1137

4 жыл бұрын

Just an INFJ style. :D

@elenasilvestri6289

4 жыл бұрын

After we finish talking there is almost always (I think. ...I mean, in my case maybe(?)) this moment when you stare in complete silence the other person, pondering if the percentage of what you just said that they understood is about 15% or 20% this time. And you can literally see either a blank face like you broke them or the gearwheels of their brain moving.

"All humans are difficult to deal with, in general." The gist of all INFJ observation.

@jhuellianacalixto3913

4 жыл бұрын

WAHAHA

@denatyeatsnuggets7274

3 жыл бұрын

Yes... I have told myself this too many times

@zenkyra7964

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@mantecada5660

3 жыл бұрын

Meh, it's interesting to try to figure out what's on their mind

@tenedores3904

3 жыл бұрын

For me its kind of "I hate people but I love them too" does that make sense?

This why every INFJ needs an ENFP in there life💜✨

@Carolina-bw2dp

Жыл бұрын

Yes yes we do. ENFPs are the MVP to our INFJ. We love you and need you.

It sometimes sucks being the "Rarest personality type" because sometimes you have no one to relate to

Anyone else becomes EXTREMELY irritated when people change their minds last minute? Like even if it's something stupid

@pheart2381

3 жыл бұрын

Or people who consistently arrive late! Grrrrr!

@hannahblair6672

3 жыл бұрын

YES. I was just talking about this with my mom the other day. I always say "probably" when asked if I can do something because I don't ever break plans willingly. I sometimes say yes when I'm positive I won't back out. So, when others say that they can do something but eventually say that they can't or that something is true that they didn't actually look into, it bothers my brain!

@godofwarmcruwu4048

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, it’s definitely an INFJ thing. We like controlling everything and creating a plan in mind so when we have to change our plans last minute it is really irritating.

@ivonnecaradenacho3726

3 жыл бұрын

YES ! It fucken makes me so angry. My bf is that kind of "I change my mind in the last minute" not punctual guy. Takes me so much nerve and patience to deal with it lol, but I love him too much. He knows I get angry and is also patient with my so 50 50 lol I still hate that shit though lol

@nancyyarbrough1445

3 жыл бұрын

@@ivonnecaradenacho3726 That's how true love works. Good for you, compromise and communication.

These INFJ videos have comment sections where I want to thumbs up most comments 😂 Yaayy INFJ club reunite 💯

@AmeatSauce

5 жыл бұрын

Linda Leijten ikr!! 😭😭😭 nicest most understanding comment section I’ve ever seen on KZread

@thirtythreeflavors

4 жыл бұрын

I love that you said reunite and not just unite. That is that infj intuition speaking.

@user-xy8cq5oi9f

4 жыл бұрын

So true, was thinking the same thing.

@markoselendic3690

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!! ^_^

@hailey3924

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr I finally feel understood

Honestly, I find INFJs really interesting and lovely. At least all the INFJs I've met are great, and I'm amazed by the way they view the world. I can relate to them to a certain point, but I always thought that they have very unique personality traits. I know that being an INFJ without knowing that you are an INFJ can be frustrating, and they might even feel misunderstood; I wish that more INFJs knew their value. My english is bad, sorry :]

@lilbitsleepy2574

Жыл бұрын

Your written English is better than many native English speakers; no need to apologise 👋🏻

I cried through this entire video because I never knew myself until now and I feel happier to be able to have more of a grasp on my life I’m a young INFJ having a hard time in life right now... it’s lonely.

Living in the future is definitely a really bad habit, but everything is so much nicer there...

@drennanspitzer6387

5 жыл бұрын

K L except for when it isn’t and we panic!

@kl3069

5 жыл бұрын

@@drennanspitzer6387 Yes, that's the actual, probable future. I prefer the fantasy one, where I'm a bestselling, millionaire author with a yacht and a mansion :D

@beccapeterson8434

5 жыл бұрын

So so guilty of this. Can't stop, won't stop.

@heyheysarah7782

5 жыл бұрын

K L omg! I do this too and love it lol 😄

@ishsheruni

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly

People constantly tell me their deepest secrets or share things they've never shared before AS SOON AS they meet me. I'm waiting for the day I hear, "And now I have to kill you because I told you."

@iamwho3373

4 жыл бұрын

Deep.

@norayuninordin7084

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Avikashyu

4 жыл бұрын

This is exactly I'm waiting for God damn

@vminisfuckingreal998

4 жыл бұрын

its kinda weird, like they tell you upfront right after they meet you with the lines of "I've never told anybody this lol" and you wonder if you're special or they're trying to make you feel special but no, they've told 15 other people this just like how they met you.

@Nicole-is-global

4 жыл бұрын

@@vminisfuckingreal998 sometimes that's the case but often times I get to know these people long term and nobody knows their secret. Some examples are: a previous marriage, having a blackbelt, closet homosexuality, a child at home (everyone at work thinks she has no kids), being extremely wealthy, etc. Maybe they sense that I feel it's silly to judge one's character on these things and that I'd gain nothing from sharing their information.

About the online dating... I actually really enjoy looking at different profiles...for no other reason than learning more about different people. I dont really care much for using the app for what it's for, but I find it really interesting to, in a sense, discover more about other human beings😂 Can anyone else relate? Literally, I'm completely useless on a dating app, but I get a kick out of the stories people share 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

@Friendlyadhd10

Жыл бұрын

That's.... what I do...... .......... ..........yeah................

@joellemartin4466

11 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh SAME!! Lol I have done the absolute same thing. And thought to myself “ what a weirdo “ 😂😂

@joellemartin4466

11 ай бұрын

Same 😂 I thought I was the only one.

About number 10. I feel like the fact that we’re very intuitive we know when a relationship is not going to last or we feel like they don’t really love us or feel like is going to end badly so we just avoid that posible relationship.

"Try not to think about 10 years from now" - wow, thats already giving me anxiety

It would be interesting for me to meet another INFJ face to face and have a conversation just to see what that feels like.

@purplesass_5219

3 жыл бұрын

Omg yes!

@beatricealoi7042

3 жыл бұрын

Well someone that can actually understand you , can understand why you seem to know a person simple by look at that person and ecc.. Trust me I happened to meet one of my two best friend that is a INFJ like me and it's like sharing a telepath friendship XD , bye ^-^

@iuliab2964

3 жыл бұрын

True! I would like to meet one as a friend but just like you are saying being two INFJs in a relationship might be a bit overwhelming. I can barely handle myself when I’m in “philosophical” mode 🤪

@nightreed1065

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I'm looking for one, i'm the only INFJ-INFP among my peers.

@minhngoc4542

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, i am searching for one. Anyone?

I'm convinced that all us INFj's have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder or have experienced our fair share. We're constantly worrying about what people think of us, our future, being too ambitious yet indecisive it's exhausting

I'm 56. I struggle with boundries and meeting my own emotional needs. I'M SO happy that so many young people have these words of wisdom, they are spot on. Please learn to take care if your own emotional needs. I love that I'm a giving person . Doing kind things, and making people happy makes me happy, but I've never learned to treat myself with the same love and kindness that is so easy to give to others.

@susanzoefelix6631

Жыл бұрын

So very true and I am experiencing the same still at 63

I love the INFJ comment sections 😂

@ishowedyouthat2575

3 жыл бұрын

Yes pretty good.

@matthewyang7893

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Finally a relateable experience...

@howyduinyall7653

2 ай бұрын

R u 1?

Anyone of you ever feel like you can see your decisions and emotions from an objective, 3rd person perspective? And then judge yourself based on it. In other words, I'm talking about an insane level of self-awareness. Anyone? :p

@dionmcgee5610

4 жыл бұрын

One of the side effects is an inability to take part in most normal human activities without feeling ridiculous or guilty or immobilized by self awareness. Watching myself watching myself etc... What would an alien from a different planet or dimension think of the activity? Why are we doing this? When did the activity first get started? So many questions to think about. I can't just do something! I have to understand everything about it and decide if it's actually something worth doing or is it hurting someone or something? Is it beautiful or destructive. Another side effect is referring to other people and myself as human beings and disassociating my consciousness from my physical reality. How about you?

@bread5414

4 жыл бұрын

I try to do that as a way of counselling myself, but sometimes I do it to judge myself :\

@alexandriariley4382

4 жыл бұрын

Big time

@uzziahplays1159

4 жыл бұрын

Yep

@alis8095

4 жыл бұрын

Yeees!

Frank: what is intuition? *Me literally having premonitory dreams*

The thing with the especially sensitive is when others feelings can make you physically ill.

I feel like I'm always fighting against my long-term forecasting. Also, "I think INFJs generally don't like dating. They don't like this search." We really don't.

@FrankJames

5 жыл бұрын

sad but true

@wingwaves940

5 жыл бұрын

Do you ever find it useful though? I think I can learn much on a date. Such as whether I want a 2nd or not. I'm not trying to sound like a snob or anything like it. That's why I totally believe in the Importance of the "Kind" of date we spend our time with.,Does that make sense?

@wingwaves940

5 жыл бұрын

@@FrankJames Sometimes yes, sometimes Nope! What's your idea of a cool kind of date? Yes, I agree the Search can sometimes suck but oooooooh the planting and growing can sure be delicious!!!!

@robertbrewer4164

5 жыл бұрын

@@wingwaves940 Dating can be useful, for sure. Kind of like getting out and talking to people can be useful (and good for me). But both wear me out big time, even when I'm having a good time. And for me, I've never really been one who sees dating as an end in itself, but a means to getting to what I really want: a long-term, deep, and committed relationship. Thankfully, that's where I'm at now, but I remember dating (and don't miss it at all).

@erinkutscher1511

5 жыл бұрын

YES. I've delayed pursuing a Master's in Mental Health Counseling due to the economic / time commitment anxiety. I KNOW this is the career I should pursue, but the worry literally keeps me up every night. I try to be rational, "people do this program all of the time," but I seem to perpetually scare myself away from it.

“They absorb other people’s emotions.” So this is why I start crying when my friends or family are crying...

@mysteryguy793

4 жыл бұрын

I am INFP and I used to cry when my sister cried when I was a toddler

@stellabella2827

4 жыл бұрын

CaroSam Chwa, I just subscribed to you. 😊 Hope that's ok. I Love your profile photo, it's Precious!

@stellabella2827

4 жыл бұрын

CaroSam Chwa, I can also relate to your empath tendency. That's me too. A friend a few years ago told me what an Empath is. We're all at different levels of sensitivity, but More sensitive than Most people. ( I'm pretty sure we're blessed with a nice intuition about others too--we can read a lot about them just by their body language, tone of voice, behavior, etc.) I feel lucky to be more intuitive, but not always being an empath. Oh well, we feel more, we notice more, and are more compassionate. I'd rather be all of these than not. Hope you are doing great btw. I just found this channel--and I Love it. Sooo informative. He is so intelligent. Refreshing to find.

@vminisfuckingreal998

4 жыл бұрын

i hate it because it makes me look vulnerable. but again, i want to understand other people because there are times where they see everybody not understanding what they feel

@razone4317

4 жыл бұрын

To be fair, this applies to a lot of people (especially women).

What you talked about regarding the “social games that we know how to play - but we still experience things such as anxiety “ that resonated with me very much. It’s hard to describe or put across to people because it’s almost like being manipulative or pulling some strings without them knowing but it’s in their best interest and to make then feel better! You described it well 👍🏼

OMG THE ONE SIDED RELATIONSHIP HURT. That was so accurate to the point where I was waaaaay to called out 😂 The soulmate one killed me in the other way. I love his example 😂

FJ: "I feel whatever you're feeling right now. What are you feeling right now?" Me, an INFJ: "uhh...?"

@Enzo-pr1mj

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly hahahaha

@babylondrifter5612

3 жыл бұрын

right that could cause a feedback loop of nothingness we are gona need a third person here

@miisoma

2 жыл бұрын

Same

The thing I hate most about being an INFJ is being so self-aware. Being so hyper aware of how you could be perceived or how you sound is so draining. It feels like everytime I interact with people I have to orchestrate how I present myself or even as I’m talking I’m aware of how (insert negative association) I’m being and feel so uncomfortable about it afterwards

@claystahl7002

2 жыл бұрын

Usuallytooawareofhowlooktoothersiplanwhatillsaytowomenhopingtobefriendlyandfunbutdoesnteveryonedothatijustneverusepickuplinesjustturnonmyfunnysidemakesmerelaxedandlooselovejokingaroundmaybethatsmysecretpower

@mondaytuesdayhotpink7347

2 жыл бұрын

I wish I had found out I was an INFJ when I was young, and had all these great videos , It would have been nice to know I wasn't alone.

@AA123TD

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so self-aware that I can diagnose my illnesses. I can feel when things aren't right in my body. Can you too?

@Weimerica8841

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! This is the worst, I think about if I am walking normally or if my posture looks okay. In groups of people I never know what to do with my hands. Nobody has ever criticized me on any of this, but people have said I walk very upright lol

@The-Wonderful-Fafnir

Жыл бұрын

Wow! Same though.

It’s such a different feeling hearing someone explain your life on such a deeply and profoundly accurate way.

I feel like a lot of people don’t understand how sensitive we can be, like it’s something that I physically take on.. You really nailed it with the explanations

Does anyone get where you feel like you KNOW whether you'll click with someone or feel comfortable/safe with them within minutes of meeting them? I've done this my whole life. If I don't feel comfortable, I automatically hide many aspects of myself behind a wall as I feel they won't get me.

@cinderling5472

5 жыл бұрын

Mary Davis All the time! :)

@mistymoonrose

5 жыл бұрын

​@@cinderling5472 Cool! :D

@gins8781

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. I usually know instinctively whether someone is “safe”. For many years I ignored my instincts; thinking I was so damaged that I wasn’t being rational about others. That has resulted in some traumatic relationships. Being reserved is not a bad thing. I could take a page out of your book. I tend to over-share when I’m uncomfortable. That can be annoying to others and it definitely results in more anxiety for me. Finding balance can be difficult!

@carterawesomeguy2581

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@FallOutGirlxxxxx

4 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes, all of the time. When I interview clients for the first time, I just "know" whether it's going to work out or not.

What’s a total INFJ thing to say? “You know what I’m saying”?

@Keepmeinstitches

4 жыл бұрын

Connie Collims & it’s not a conversation filler lol we actually really are checking if the person(s) understands what the heck we are talking about hahaha

@sunset9729

4 жыл бұрын

Ya. Or " Are you hip to my lingo" 😂

@mr.j3051

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true

@oneequalstozero1341

4 жыл бұрын

Oh come on why is this so true

@MissCaptainStrange

4 жыл бұрын

"you know what I mean" - totally me, all the time

Frank James: "Would KZread like to show a commercial now?" KZread: "Yes, indeed."

The absorb thing really hit home. One time I was talking to a person with a bad stutter for an extended period of time and I began to stutter periodically. I was so horrified! 😞

I’m an infj and I agree with a lot of these things, I feel weird having this intuition when I know certain situations are bad and certain people are bad. I only have 2 friends and I’ve known this people for years. I also don’t like loud environments and loud people give me anxiety. I am very aware of my ego and when I catch myself judging people for no reason and sit my self down and ask who am I to judge them. I love listening to people and giving them advice. I also feel like one of the reasons why I’m in this world is to help and change people’s lives. I don’t feel like I fit in anywhere and I don’t like to show who I am to people I don’t know. I also would like to stop holding myself back from doing fun things and being myself completely because I label myself as an “introvert” and introverts are supposed to be shy and quiet and pretend they’re invisible, but I would love to be careless sometimes and live life to the fullest. I could go on and on but I also don’t want to waste anyone’s time...

@voices4dayz469

4 жыл бұрын

Then go on! I was reading and you stopped! Give me additional *deets* yyyyeeesssssss

@iamwho3373

4 жыл бұрын

Same time well spent too.

@nemoforvermore8085

4 жыл бұрын

So relatable! And you're not wasting someones time. We are free individuals who can decide whether we want to read more or not and there sure are many who would be willing to read what else you have to say.

@jackya3596

4 жыл бұрын

@@voices4dayz469 thank you! ♥️ People like you really inspire me to keep writing and give me hope to become a book writer one day.

@jackya3596

4 жыл бұрын

@@nemoforvermore8085 thank you! This means the world to me as I would love to become a book writer, I just don't have the confidence to do so but people like you give me hope that someone would actually like to read what I have to say and this little bit of reassurance is what keeps my dream alive♥️

"Hey girl, not cool, but would you like to be my soulmate?" Drag me out on the dance floor, won't ya

@aamu3

5 жыл бұрын

I'm totally in hahaha

We are adept at making other people feel seen, heard, and valued. We're going to read the person we're engaging with, likely going to share something poignant about ourselves that tells the other person that we relate to them (because we can empathize with everyone's perspective), and that is why it feels like we can share intimacy quickly, but we're actually only disclosing enough to make the other person feel valued. Unfortunately, we don't always share enough to feel understood by others and we struggle to understand why others lack intuition which can frustrate us because we want what we are giving without having to ask for it.

As a 25yo INFJ who still has a lot to learn about setting boundaries, I end up in the one sided relationship thing way too often. Usually what happens is that before I even realize it, the other person starts thinking we're good friends and we have such a great connection, when really it's only me who has connected with them, not the other way around. So I know who they are and they're a nice aquintance, but I'm not interested in being friends with them and they really don't know anything but the surface level of who I am, and yet think I'm their best friend. And it's so painful to be in that situation, because I know they value this "friendship" and would be heartbroken to hear I don't even consider them to be my friend and yet, for my own sanity, I really should tell them they are not as important to me as I am to them. So I hate myself for leading them on, but my extroverted feeling just can't help but be nice and connect to them. And they take and take and take and don't even realize that I am getting nothing in return, and it's so exhausting and I hate that I always end up in situations like that.

He said “it’s your girl” and I almost spit

@Tterror510

4 жыл бұрын

Lmao I died

@minhngoc8387

3 жыл бұрын

Damn I spit a few times during his other video on INFJ

@gloriaw1379

3 жыл бұрын

Yep I was like did I just hear that?.

@sidratehreem6574

3 жыл бұрын

I was looking for this comment 😂

@akanshakapoor3248

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tterror510 I read that "and I almost die" 😂😂

Not sure if its just me as an INFJ or other INFJ's but I tend to exaggerate the truth to make people happy and comfortable.

@idar3703

5 жыл бұрын

That's the Fe overriding the Ti. ENFJs have a bigger problem with this.

@savagestudio9666

5 жыл бұрын

@@idar3703 Holy yes

@evegreenification

5 жыл бұрын

Yep. I spoil them, according to my son.

@russelalmanzor4056

5 жыл бұрын

What do you mean by this? I'm also INFJ and curious. I do like to tell the truth but I'm not sure if I'm exaggerating it in the first place haha

@katrinamareen

5 жыл бұрын

@@russelalmanzor4056 for example... when someone is telling me how they feel about something, I will lie about my own experiences with a similar situation, so they feel like I understand them...

Little INFJ story about my first feedback talk in my new job. Normally the most motivated of people prepare by recapping their year and finding things they did well. Not good enough right? So I calculated the percentage of my progress in relation to the expected learning process after 12 months, displayed it graphically, thought about all possible arguments from all sides made a PowerPoint presentation about it and got a 30% rise. Because I proved that I was at least 30% overproductive in my learning curve. Everybody thought I was crazy for this, but I'm the only person that got a rise like that sooooo..... :D 10/10 recommend. The best moment about it was when my boss asked me the question I prepared weeks for: so do you want to also talk about your salary?" And I could finally say "very good question, I prepared a little thing"

Thank you for speaking the words this INFJ needed to hear about soulmates! "INFJ's Hate Dating!" Haha

When I found out I was an INFJ I asked the most INFJ thing ever. Why God, WHY?????

@drennanspitzer6387

5 жыл бұрын

I kinda like being an INFJ! it’s like a fun, quirky club.

@cerseilannister7985

5 жыл бұрын

I ask the same question, too. I feel like it's a curse. 😔

@mtb1hero

5 жыл бұрын

When I found out I was an INFJ my response was ... of Course, it all makes sense now ...

@DavidStMichael

5 жыл бұрын

lol I was like well yeah I kind of knew that, but WHY didn't I do something with it that could possibly benefit ME?

@jane1891

5 жыл бұрын

Finding out I’m an INFJ at least gave me a point from which I could then begin to orient myself correctly (for me) inside this crazy upside down world which I do NOT easily fit in. Might not be easy, but it IS so worth it. It’s nice to know I’m not just a collection of disorders or something else horrible, which WAS what I thought I was before I learned the MBTI thing. I see it as relief and a blessing💚 That said, when I learned about my INFJ title, I sat on the floor and bawled my eyes out in a flurry of so many good, bad and all the emotions in-between. Then I began RESEARCH🤗

INFJ end up with narcissist around them and that sucks

@sabinam7634

4 жыл бұрын

Karen Etienne ugh my first relationship was with one unfortunately. Still recovering and really need to put myself first. No one else will.

@melisamerc3545

4 жыл бұрын

Last year (before I knew I was a INFJ) I had a crush on this guy that was slightly narcissistic, luckily I noticed before anything happened but dude was that weird. And now seeing everyone comment things like this just makes me wonder wtf was going on in my mind. (Hopefully it makes sense)

@infectedcontactlensyes.5172

4 жыл бұрын

I was raised by one... Yay

@adrialee8149

4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately I also fell victem to a narcissist that messed my head up pretty bad. But I had to let all of that go and move on. Now im stronger and even quicker to spot the red flags they drop.

@YSFmemories

4 жыл бұрын

Can you guys explain this in more detail? I'm pretty certain I am super INFJ now, but this is one point I can't relate at all. Why are you attracted to narcissists? What is it about them that you find attractive? I'm not just taking notes so I can become a narcissist to attract INFJ girls I promise ^_^

All my relationships are one-sided. Since I realized this, I started giving random and shallow information to my close people like "I think I'm having a breakdown" and seeing their reaction. It hurts to realize that no one really cares. It's not like I expect them to understand what I'm feeling, but sometimes I wish they would at least try.

@jessiefuqua

2 жыл бұрын

Lol this is so funny I just did this and it was awful like I knew how it would be handled but the part of me inside wanted it to be him .

@Alinda1308

Жыл бұрын

That's terrible... I hope you can find people that truly care. If you need to talk I'm here (INFP, btw)

This is quite accurate. #10 Thirty six years since my husband left me, no boyfriends in all that time, maybe 3 dates (2 different people) in all that time. I don't feel that I missed out on anything. I learned to be just friends to men, no romantic involvement, and I like them better that way. Do I want a soul mate? Yes, but I am reeeeeeelly cautious about that. Being married is no big deal to me, unless it is to the right person. I've been a lot happier single, with nobody nagging me, no man breaking my heart.

Extroverted feeling is so exhausting.

@hailey3924

3 жыл бұрын

IKR

@mantecada5660

3 жыл бұрын

I cannot talk to people without wondering what's in their head and I hate it

@doitdiaries3797

3 жыл бұрын

Exhausting because we're introvert 😔 the stress.

@tunaie-shah7293

3 жыл бұрын

I agree

@daan_vr5527

3 жыл бұрын

THAT is soooo true

I just learned how to be "selfish" and it helps me A LOT

@mariatahir4097

4 жыл бұрын

It's actually best thing to be Happy in this net world...i.e.being selfish

@jiadollano4780

4 жыл бұрын

How? :(

@ginnybaudelaire8177

4 жыл бұрын

But how?doesn't it make you have less relationships?I mean I thought about it and realized if I want a relationship with both give and takes at the same amount...I mean is that even possible?can there be someone who cares about you just as much as you care about them?or do they care more AFTER you become more selfish? Sorry for my bad english and sorry for talking alot...I just suddenly felt like I should write these...

@ninaemonic

4 жыл бұрын

@@ginnybaudelaire8177 yes, in relationship we need to give and take. There is no way a one side relationship. But sometimes as an introverted person with "too much" care for others makes me feel bad and I feel like everyone trying to hurt me. I try to be more selfish and think about what will affect me before I try to help or be kind to other people. If the person is truly care for u I bet he/she will try their best not to hurt you 😊

@saraspence3829

3 жыл бұрын

I had a friend teach me a few years ago that “”No” is a complete sentence.” I really liked that and it has helped me a lot in setting boundaries

The last one hit me the most. I have searched for that soulmate connection my entire life. Thankfully I was able to realize that this is a problem I create and it only makes me miserable. So I had to dig deep and do the self inner work. Dating is hard in 2022, especially for men. It does feel hopeless and impossible to find genuine connection. Most of it does feel like a waste of time but I never stop trying.

@annamanansala2773

Жыл бұрын

Same :' )

@etcwhatever

9 ай бұрын

Its hard to date for decent people who actually want commitment and a true connection. It isnt a male thing. I gave up after a failed engagement. F everyone. I honestly dont care anymore. I do my thing by myself. Been struggling with a chronic disease but when im better i take myself to the restaurant, movies, etc. I dont need a dead weight on my arm to do it.

When the interviewer asks "where do you see yourself in 10 years?"

I don't know if this is necessarily an INFJ thing or 'secret', but I recently noticed that if there is someone I am interested in, I will start to behave differently depending on what I think will draw that person's attention to me. This way, I try to get this person to come up to me instead. I wouldn't say my behaviour is necessarily 'fake' though; I am just channeling a part of me that may sometimes not be in the foreground. For example, if a person is very logical-minded, I will draw on my more logical side as well to get them to focus on me in a group. Once I've got them one on one, I will show them more of my other sides too, which will then hopefully come as a pleasant surprise and leaves them intrigued. I don't know if you would consider this manipulation, but it's the only strategy that often works in which I don't have to boldly go up to someone that I am interested in. Anyone else here who does this?

@nashiPAGE

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think that's manipulation because like you said you are drawing on one facet of you and not only that, ultimately. Sounds like a natural way of going about things.

@pollymat991

5 жыл бұрын

@@nashiPAGE sounds more "tactful" to me. Manipulation seems like using or trying to alter people as you would objects. Tactful is more like "what's the best way?"

@AudaciousErin82Baby

5 жыл бұрын

Yup! I do it too-unconsciously actually. I'm imagining it's a part of our "chameleon-like" superpowers🤗

@pollymat991

5 жыл бұрын

@@AudaciousErin82Baby I also noticed this! It's a cool part of our personality :D

@pollymat991

5 жыл бұрын

Great observation :D

I just realized; no wonder he's an infj-- he's an INtroverted Frank James K 🤦 I'll see myself out

@sunset9729

4 жыл бұрын

Ha You said it I was just thinking it 😆

@mxwitcher

4 жыл бұрын

Or INtuitive Frank James lmao

@mandi.303

4 жыл бұрын

😂💗

@04.adhila16

4 жыл бұрын

Oh Fuck that was clever 🔥

@FiddleKat

4 жыл бұрын

Holding my sarcastic comment in.

I’m so glad to hear you say how odd it is to have a complete stranger suddenly tell you something extremely personal. In my family we jokingly referred to it as ‘the face’. About half of us had it, the other half didn’t. But found what people would freely disclose was often funny, sometimes heartbreaking, and frankly quite confusing. Having ‘the face’ caused several problems for me growing up. In particular- my own teachers would confide in me far too often.

The only friends I talk to are the ones inside my head.

you gotta be your own soul mate! the other person is just a bonus. :-)

@wingwaves940

5 жыл бұрын

@retrogradepink YES! Truth is we are All Souls and here we are on a tiny blue dot hurtling through space. All Here, All Mates. I like to think if I don't have what I want, want what I have! Then everything else is chocolate icing on chocolate cake :-) Nummmmmlol!

@retrogradepink

5 жыл бұрын

@@wingwaves940 :-)

@Beecus

5 жыл бұрын

I love that!!

@plume1639

5 жыл бұрын

Love that!

@cmiku5304

5 жыл бұрын

Sorry, but as an INFJ, that doesn't work for me. I'm old enough now that I completely love myself and have learned to ask my mate when I need some love and cuddles and support. But I cannot be, and would not want to be, happy living alone. We all need support, and trust me, the happiest moments in life are happiest when they are shared. That said, there's no such thing as one soulmate or a perfect soulmate. There are thousands of great matches out there for you. Love yourself first, find what you need to feel confident and stable, then realize you WILL find someone who's worth it.

"INFJ's can absorb other people's emotion" Me an INFJ: *rolls eyes*

@awurama2380

4 жыл бұрын

😂 😂 😂

@toria9799

4 жыл бұрын

I do, but I can turn it off.

@TimVerry

4 жыл бұрын

luckily we are also good at building walls/bubbles/distance around our true selves lol It's fine to observe and take in other people's emotions but don't forget that they aren't your emotions and do not have to weigh on you.

@user-bi5op4tb4q

4 жыл бұрын

@@toria9799 samee heheh

@God_3712

3 жыл бұрын

I did the same thing! Haha

I’m an INFP who’s dating an INFJ I think they are the most understanding people I’ve ever met and we can talk about anything without feeling judged

Life of an INFJ: misunderstood and a lonewolf

I am so empathic that I am confused what my real personality since I change depends on whom I'm with

@katieb2098

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah it sucks

@nancyyarbrough1445

3 жыл бұрын

I believe we are all chameleons when it's necessary. But it is also exhausting, so re charge, learn from your mistakes and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You are the smartest person in the room, whether you went to college, got a Phd. or not, Your intuition will always be your compass and a good one it is.

@susancorbett4260

3 жыл бұрын

Snap ..so pissed off with it at the moment..its like being everyone

@anninuraeni6153

3 жыл бұрын

We are a chameleons...

@jacklynjustiniano4251

3 жыл бұрын

We are diverse

“try some new stuff” really hit me because i’m such a routine person the comfort zone is real with an INFJ but new stuff = constant stress and “what if this doesn’t work/end well”

@angelmoldez3512

4 жыл бұрын

yess i think this is the reason why i order the same food in the menu

Every word hits me to the point where I also want to help him explain because in the middle of him explaining I already get the point.

Brilliant clip. I know exactly what you mean about the younger INFJ trying to help too many friends and family at once. I used to do this and ended up spreading myself too thin being left with no energy for me and my life. I've had to learn to put up boundaries. The dating part made me laugh, but sad as I know it all too well. I definitely have the same unrealistic dream wishing it would be like a film and all happen so naturally, but in reality it's just a few happy moments followed by disappointment when I learn they were not who I thought they were. I think its like we want a soul mate so much, that when someone comes along eventually we only see what we want at first and romanticize. Then as soon as they do something or say something we don't like we snap out of it and boom its over. I do think its my fault in the past for looking for the good in them too much, rather than seeing them and taking them for what they really are. We can basically read everyone great except our date! Also I can talk to anyone, but if i like them I'm terrible as I over think everything I say to them to the max!!!

This is why I'm so good at calling plot twist in movies 🙃

@nemoforvermore8085

4 жыл бұрын

Omg, yes. Sometimes it is kind of annoying to know what is going to happen, but other times it's quite funny. I'll often sit there and say something and then it turns out to be the next line :D

@luckygirl1111

4 жыл бұрын

Yeahhhh it feels like I've already seen it, and my family are annoyed because I always tell them what will happen next before it happens.

@ne2604

4 жыл бұрын

IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. JUST A WHILE AGO WHEN I WAS WATCHING CRIMINAL MINDS

@HeliNoir

4 жыл бұрын

So true. My friends complain to me I spoil the movie cuz it turns out I’m correct almost all the time though we’ve never seen the movie

I'm a INFJ and on the part of being intuitive,...I remember being 5 years old and scared that the other kids could read my thoughts and see what I was thinking telepathically,...I felt like an alien from another world. I was picked on badly in school for being so shy and didn't talk much. I was friends with all the misfits who i could relate to and i would stand up for them if they were ever bullied. Your videos have really helped me to better understand myself and I feel less alone in the world.

@AncestralGratitude85

4 жыл бұрын

When I was younger I wanted to have a computer system that could yield answers to my questions I had about other people. I also posed the Q to my mom asking her if she would want to have a download of information to get a skill rather than the work it requires...she asked me what I've been smoking.

@sinqobilem

4 жыл бұрын

Holy shit I had the exact same experience. I thought the same thing

@stellabella2827

4 жыл бұрын

Rebecca, that is truly awesome.

@susanc.2207

4 жыл бұрын

INFJ here and no joke, Im pretty telepathic.

@michelled8962

4 жыл бұрын

Ditto It's like you're telling my story!!

I pick up people’s pain. Not everyone but some. I changed careers because of it. It wasn’t a bad change as it got me to quiet art. I mentioned it to family who just thought I was weird or something. In spending time on KZread the last two years I watched videos on empaths and finally found my way here. I’m grateful for your insight.

INFJs, you are amazing. Your capacity to see the world deeply, with compassion and sensitivity, it's what makes you strong. You are resilient, brave and kind. You all are indispensable on this desorganized and cahotic world, you can offer a lot (sometimes you offer too much, don't forget about take care of yourselves and if you need space and you have to disappear from time to time, don't feel guilty). You're stars, you're love, you're like magic fairies that, although sometimes (unfortunately) they may go unnoticed, they are always there for others, always. Don't foreget to be selfish. You don't have to satisfy anyone's needs, only yours. You deserve to be loved without proof. Because you are love.

the part about dating: FINALLY SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS WHAT I GO THROUGH. my psychologist tells me why i don't date or put myself out there. you got it perfectly. and also, it's sooo scary. sometimes i wonder if I'll die alone and i get sad. then i go back to focus on my career and telling myself thats all i need. so sad lol

@SummeRain783

4 жыл бұрын

pettyanon I do this all the time and then start wondering if something is wrong with me loool 😫😩

@w13rdguy

4 жыл бұрын

I Hope that's going well for you. I don't want to sound too weird, so I'll just quote FJ: Trust yourself. 🐎

@AngelicaDXB

4 жыл бұрын

I was thinking about getting a baby from a sperm donor, but then again... What if those genes turn out to be bad??? What am I gonna do with a kid from a person I never knew or truly connected to? It's easier to just go back to being a lawyer. I don't want to die alone though.

@enjohneering9673

4 жыл бұрын

This comment came and beat down the door where I live. I really like being close to people (like family and a couple friends) but I always put off anything new because I hate the gamble and prefer a career or personal exploration focus where I get very good results. I really need to stop predicting and just try some things out.

INFJ parents totally understand "we are not raising kids but adults". 😂

@Wanderlust3

3 жыл бұрын

I’m totally guilty of this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Love your videos and your humor! As an INFJ I really appreciate this content. I especially liked it when you mentioned the one sided relationship and how younger people are most likely to fall into this , and people in their 30’s + learn learn how to protect themselves - which is so true! It would be interesting to see a video on the lifetime of an INFJ, how the struggles , habits, tendencies evolve as we mature ( from childhood to adulthood, and the different age stages). Thank you and please keep doing your amazing work 💖🙏🏻

I don't want to go through the trouble of meeting my "soulmate's" family either, if I don't have to. Not because they are good, bad, or otherwise. But because it's SO much like work.

i think that we can also be possessive and jealous when it comes to our loved ones: we don't get attached easily, but when we do, the attachment is steel strong. we keep our loved ones close to us and guard them jealously.

@jencgold

4 жыл бұрын

ace fairy aimei yes!! We don’t get close. So when we select someone. They are special. We get clingy. We guard them. Get overbearing. We need to back off 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂🥰🥰🥰🤓🐥🐙

@KatHood

4 жыл бұрын

ace fairy aimei this has totally been my experience. Jealousy is a really hard one to pick apart and is about the only emotion I’ve struggled with my whole life. Getting there though. Understanding on a deep level who my loved ones are and what keeps them healthy and thriving is how I’ve been able to curb my own jealousy towards my chosen ones being with the non chosen ones. Thank you for pointing this out.

@HotSeat17

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@HotSeat17

4 жыл бұрын

@@KatHood I love how you said, our "chosen ones"

@chillingdudex

4 жыл бұрын

I couldn't have said it better. Absolutely agree on this.

When I found out I was an INFJ everything made so much sense with how I never felt I could relate to other people and always felt like an outcast. I still always feel like I don’t quite belong here. Why does everyone else have a place when I don’t? It’s something I’ve never quite figured out. One of the biggest things my therapist honed in on for me was to stop thinking about the future. I still can’t bring myself to do a lot of stuff cause I don’t see it going anywhere so I don’t try. I want to be and feel special, but I don’t, and I always wonder what that’s like. It really does feel like I’m on another plane of existence.

@nemoforvermore8085

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to the feeling of belonging to a place less than other people around me so so much! I guess, you are not alone on this other plane of existence. And you definitely are special even if you don't feel that way

@brittbee3584

4 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. Everytime I am anywhere I am day dreaming about being somewhere else. I am never content right where I am.

@zummyzoomloom

4 жыл бұрын

I feel the samee. I just found out ab personality types today, i start researching what INFJ is, and all. And i found so many people that like myself, i'm not feeling like an weirdo with self diagnose. First i thought im a depressed teenager with multiple personalities :"))) Im so happy to meet you guys

@mememeome

3 жыл бұрын

That’s true and relatable. I always thought reaching all my future goals would make me happy, but then another always pops up, and the goal I reached doesn’t bring the satisfaction I initially thought it would. Then I realized that I’m going to waste my life away never feeling satisfied with the place I’m at and always dreaming of the goal in sight. Happiness isn’t in goals or accomplishments or the future. At least for me, it’s about those experiences and true connections with people I actually care about. And doing things that bring me joy, just for myself.

@kati5559

3 жыл бұрын

I've felt like this all my life and moved to lots of different countries but never stayed longer than 2 years. Also I've often been told that I'm not normal and should try to change to fit in more. Needless to say that was useless. The feeling of belonging happens when you start finding people similar to yourself.

When you said, "when you're thinking in the future all the time..." you sort of were glaring into the camera as if to say, "hey, I'm talking to YOU." LOL!

About #4: I heard about COVID in Dec 19 because I research on a crazy level. I worked at a hospital and still asked to where a mask at work 3 weeks before everyone actually took it seriously. Everyone thought I was sick at first. My manager started looking at me like a witch when things went bad. Plus the week before shutdowns I scolded my family for not stocking up on food. They were like the world is not gonna shut down calm down. 👀 Any other INFJs saw it coming?

@mEE1434eva

Жыл бұрын

I was at a hospital reading an article in Jan/Feb 19. Thought this is gonna be bad. Hit us March. It was surreal.

Absorbing other's emotions makes me drained so much energy, I always tired.

@soobinsaqtxt3021

3 жыл бұрын

Same that’s why I hate socialising and tend to ghost people

My best advice to a younger INFJ would be to learn to become your own soulmate. Learn to hold your own needs (and wants!) with as much care as you do others'. Jesus teaches us to love one another as we love ourselves. "AS", not "MORE!"

@aamu3

5 жыл бұрын

Truth spoken

@gabriellagadis

5 жыл бұрын

amjPeace thankie

@taynew7582

5 жыл бұрын

Totally agree!

@stephanietremblay443

5 жыл бұрын

Love it thank you

@vanezzavonbargen473

5 жыл бұрын

Ha! ha! ha! thats so funny,I enjoy laughing thanks! ha! ha! ha! ..

I'm 15 and have figured out one sided relationships it took me a long time to realize that how they were treating me wasn't right I finally found people who didn't do this and took me even longer to get over what they did