"You don't trust that someone never going to betray you, you just trust that you'll be able to handle it if they do.. "🥺💯

“Be kind in your tone but ruthless in your actions”😂❤ 1:09:44

@OnsKleinGezinnetje

6 ай бұрын

Love it. So true.

"If someone tells you they aren't ready for a relationship, they are telling you to your face they are going to hurt you!!!"

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

yes ❤

@twonrichpo1126

6 ай бұрын

Or you're hurting yourself. Think about it. Why pursue someone who has made it clear they are not ready or that they don't want a relationship with YOU. We gotta take a look at ourselves n our lack of self love n self value to even wanna continue to push the issue. That's first n foremost

@catherineking2751

5 ай бұрын

@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool They are telling you they are not ready for a relationship, move on, or enjoy the hookup. To get hurt, you have fooled yourself into believing it could be more.

This video really made me look at everything different. This video saved my life. It’s been a 3 year journey I’ve been on & just recently I finally had the strength to really let him go & fully move on. THANK YOU for this video ❤

@chiobabe2180

6 ай бұрын

Same. 3yrs & I left 💕🥂

@Lulubeelove

6 ай бұрын

@@chiobabe2180 how has your journey been since you left? Has he tried to come back since? What were some things you learned from this experience? Sorry for all the questions I’m still trying to heal & gain knowledge & grow through other prospectives.

@chiobabe2180

6 ай бұрын

@@Lulubeelove well he tried to breadcrumb me after 2 weeks no contact, I left him on read. This past Thursday he randomly sent a picture of himself with the caption “thoughts ?”.. left him on read again. I’m not EvEr reaching out again. If he wants me back he’s going to have to literally buy his way back & come with a full commitment or arrangement where I benefit drastically at all times. I’m not giving him another second of my time.

@jenifernadeau

6 ай бұрын

Releasing an attachment to outcome and trusting that was meant for us will never pass Us by is the magic key that I learned a few years ago. Instead, getting excited about whatever is going to show up is a great way to live day-to-day. Because we are all energy frequency and vibration, if we are pushing or chasing then naturally the other person will continue to go the other way. We attract things, as energy beings..❤ pull back your energy and put it find yourself, with pure intent to learn more about yourself..... we would never want someone to be with us out of fear of losing us, but if they demonstrate consistent long-term genuine and authentic behaviors that are not reminiscent of a covert narcissist.... then that may be something to consider. And if we fear losing someone then we weren't complete enough in the first place,😊

@chocolat917

6 ай бұрын

This video is power! Truthfully

Never waste your life with someone who mistreates you' takes you for granted'does not show they love you 'devalues your feelings'discourages you to persue your passions'face reality and leave❤

I love how brutally honest he’s being. Very forward and straight to to point.

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

❤

@Maria-kh2bd

6 ай бұрын

Exactly

I’ve dated the straight out of the gate poetry readers. While I love poetry and have written it myself, that for me is a huge red flag. I want the hard questions. I want the investment questions. If they’re not asking those questions, they either have an inflated or deflated concept of who they believe I may be, and they probably won’t move behind that in any relationship we try to establish. So I have a three date rule. If after the third date, I don’t see enough value in moving forward, I don’t move forward. Also, I don’t sleep with them straight out of the gate. I don’t know them enough to put that kind of intimacy ahead of a relationship. I was not always this way, these decisions have come out of much heartbreak, but I finally came to this place in my life and I refuse to involve myself in anything that isn’t going to benefit both of us. This isn’t easy, but it’s vital.

When they touched on forgiveness, something I heard recently came to mind. It’s ok to forgive the actor but that doesn’t mean we forgive the act. That resonated with me (at least) because for a long time I thought forgiving someone meant that what they did is ok or that I somehow deserved it. And now, seeing it as forgiving the person, because we’re all human and make mistakes, but not forgive the act or their behavior. It made it easier to disconnect with love and say “I forgive this person, but I do not want to be around their behavior or actions” and that’s ok. We can forgive and not let someone back in. Forgiving does not necessarily mean giving that person another chance but rather letting them go with no resentment or ill will, so we can move on in peace and love.

oh my God, yes I threw away 15 years on thinking I could love someone into changing 🙌🏼

@Starmajor391

6 ай бұрын

Yup. The good old saying is let them grow up on their time, and not your time. Best thing I ever learned. Still difficult though to value yourself

@zumzizumza8963

6 ай бұрын

10 years here :( so difficult to end the relationship, I was told to my self, one more year and enough, one more year. I was so blind :(

@Anisahk

6 ай бұрын

@@Starmajor391 that’s a good saying thank you ❤️

@Anisahk

6 ай бұрын

@@zumzizumza8963 I’m sorry 😢🤗 hugs

@northofyou33

6 ай бұрын

Me, too. 17 years. Raised 2 children with him, and finally left feeling I had no ability to have a healthy relationship and never would. Matthew Hussey wasn't around when I left him, and I threw away more years believing I was destined to be single.

This is the reassurance I needed. I did the right thing stepping back and giving him space. Haven’t heard from him in a month. It’s hard and it hurts but I know I would have been absolutely heartbroken if I tried to pursue someone that wasn’t even sure if they wanted to be with me.

Matthew, I want to thank you for saving me. So many times. I've gotten much quicker at getting out of icky situations because I always listen to you. Recently it took me just a day to get out of the life of someone whom I had so much connection and chemistry with - BUT! He wasn't "ready for a relationship". And I heard that and thought "What would Matthews advice be on this?" I told him very sweetly that I was grateful for his honesty. That I enjoyed getting to know him. And that I would like it if he contacted me again in half a year if he gets to feeling ready for a relationship. And then I ended the conversation with him. And I am so, so, so grateful for having dodged all that heartache... Thank you for your work, Matthew!

This is so true, I married someone that I thought I could change and I ended up having the most miserable life. I finally ended up divorced, I will never do that again.

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

wishing you the best of luck on the next chapter of your life ❤

What about this scenario: he tells you straight away he wants a relationship. Turns out, when he is supposed to show commitment and difficult conversations, he runs away. Did he have no idea to begin with, what a relationship means OR was he just tricking me, or was just completely not ready and emotionally immature?

@30:50 I've come to realize that sometimes, letting someone go isn't a reflection of love lost but a necessity for self-preservation. External factors can make it incredibly challenging to sustain a relationship, and it's crucial to prioritize our own well-being. Your advice on navigating these complexities is truly valuable. Thanks for shedding light on the nuances of love and self-love

Maybe it isn't that "people don't have the courage" to find something else, but they don't know how or where to find something else. Finding the right person is the hardest part - so when you find someone that is close, the temptation to overlook an "issue" is strong. I like solutions yet solutions are rarely given by relationship professionals. It just causes more anxiety for people.

@immortalhygiene

6 ай бұрын

courage to *_leave_* what doesn’t serve or satisfy us. courage isn’t about lining up a replacement (finding someone else). it’s courage to stand by for your values, needs and desires enough to walk forward, and continue the journey to your ultimate destination with integrity and discipline

@trinjuwan4422

6 ай бұрын

The solution is stop looking for anything outside of individual purpose. We are NOT all meant to be married/ in romantic partnerships. This is a Divine assignment. Society has bamboozled ppl into thinking having a romantic partner/marriage is the end all, be all to a fulfilled, happy life.

@jenifernadeau

6 ай бұрын

The anxiety stems from not wanting to be our true selves and attempting to control the future, versus be fully in the present moment and find the joy in that. When we repeat patterns in relationships with those that seem unattainable, it stems from being unable to be seen or heard or accepted or validated or unconditionally loved from a parent or both. So if something is not going the way we would like it to in our lives, that means to focus on ourselves and continue the inner child healing and Shadow work, versus attempt to influence the external world. When we do that, it's a subconscious distraction from not wanting to see ourselves as we truly are, that's why we can't see others as they truly are. Not wanting to hear someone when they tell us or show us who they are, stems from being a child and not wanting to truly see that our parents may not have had our best interests at heart, that they were covertly narcissistic or emotionally neglectful etcetera. But as we age we are called on to reparent ourselves in the healthier ways and learn the self-love and self-value and self-worth that most parents do not typically teach us. Unshakable faith and trust and confidence in our intuition and our expression of our true self, not the one we created subconsciously as a child to present to the world in order to fit in or be liked, is what we're supposed to listen to❤ but we have been subliminally programmed without our knowledge, to not listen to our good instincts and use our minds to talk ourselves in and out of things. Once we gain self Mastery of our thoughts and begin to just observe them, and meditation is best for that.. an entire world of truth will open up😊

@RWB20

6 ай бұрын

@jenifernadeau that is the best description I've ever heard. Thank you.

@jenifernadeau

6 ай бұрын

When we understand energy and the universe and the part we are playing and how everything is already within us, we innately know that what is meant for us will not pass Us by❤ we don't have to actively go searching in certain places or for certain people, as energy, we attract. We are in charge of our own vibrational frequency so once we determine what we desire, when we become that first, we attract the same. We don't have to write off people because they're not a good match, they may end up being close to us in other ways. If you beLIEve something is hard to do, then it is. If you look at it as fun and easy, then that is how the universe responds.

I ❤ hearing the evolution of Matthew hussey and how he’s become more overtly passionate (clearly always passionate), but more like big brother sounding va Rico suave lol Also both Tom and Lisa both allowed guests to speak lots more , it’s really cool to see the guests have a platform

@Tee-Star

6 ай бұрын

I agree he has become more passionate, mature and sounds wiser.❤

This is the best show EVER!!! Good on you Lisa. I have been trying to leave this guy for the past 3 months... he told me 6 months ago that he was only interested in a casual relationship. And at the time, I thought I would be okay with it, but then withOUT sex I grew to have feelings and told him I wanted more but he avoided me more and more. It took me 3 more months to realize he was serious about only being casual... I needed to hear this today bc he's not a bad man, he's just not ready to commit and I am... he might someday but I'm ready now and while everything else seems to compatible with our values, there has been a shift for me and not with him... I left him for the last time 3 days ago... please pray for me to have enough love for myself to stay away and move on with my own life... Love Life, Matthew! So true...

Thank you for sharing this interview as Mathew says “ hopefully someone will hear this when they need to hear”. I heard his messages 8 years ago and it saved my life ❤

Love it! If you have to “convince” anyone to be with you, it’s not the right person for you.

I love his passion! He’s so correct. I had to learn these lessons the hard way by making the same mistake over and over again. I lost so much time.

@888alp

6 ай бұрын

It’s ok, we all have lost wasted time in relationships. You learnt what you don’t want in a relationship. but when you have feelings for someone it’s hard to let go. saying goodbye will come, your only human.

@kayp9318

6 ай бұрын

@@888alp it’s easy for me to say goodbye. Once my peace is thrown off, he has to go!

@jenifernadeau

6 ай бұрын

Instead of the low vibrational emotion of lack, look at it as blessings and opportunities for any lessons you needed to learn in the way you needed to learn them. You could not have learned the lesson from anyone else other than the person that taught them to you, and they don't even know how they helped you, because we initially look at it as pain and suffering There is no race here on Earth and we just keep coming back until we get it right anyway, we're all energy frequency and vibration and energy cannot be created or destroyed. We come here in each lifetime already predetermining the soul contracts we are going to have with particular people , partners, family members etc.❤ when you can forgive yourself for not being ready to learn the lessons, then you can forgive others who are also coming from a place of their own childhood trauma. Everything is a mirror for us. When we don't have deep innate self-value, self-love, self-worth, daily self-care and self-respect.... a healthy level of self-confidence and Trust in our gut intuition, (which most parents do not teach us at all because they are coming from a place of their own childhood unhealthiness) then we can only attract those who also are emotionally unavailable, or have a lower level of self-value. Like attracts like, that's how energy works. If we're seeing something in our life that we don't like, we're meant to ask ourselves how did we subconsciously attract that when it's not something we consciously want to? We have to take the subconscious belief programs from childhood that are still with us as adults and make them conscience and then create what we desire❤ that's empowering, isn't it? We are not victims, unless we beLIEve we are...😊

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

lots of time left! some never have the realization....your next one will be amazing! ❤

Conflict or disagreement is a chance for connection and growth. If you are afraid of conflict, or someone who feels criticized with every concern that's brought up, please work on yourself and learn how to handle conflict efficiently. As someone who was dealing with a dismissive avoidant partner I can't stress enough, how important it is to have open communication, listen, compromise, learn and show up for each other.

@CeciledeLuire

2 ай бұрын

so true 💛

I've spent my entire life with the wrong people and now I'm just miserable, depressed, chronically ill, and just waiting for my death day, because all the narcissistic abuse I continued to endure completely broke me! I seem to attract all the narcissists!

@janebraun4482

6 ай бұрын

Wow, we are so much alike! I took a long break from dating to care for my deal mother, who passed away, then had another ten years to care for my disabled sister who also passed away. Before that the guy and prior were narcs. I attracted a high profile narc, who from long distance had me on a roller coaster, walking on eggshells, that I don't do right, and he will discard me. This year I have never had so many illnesses drs. cannot explain other than low immunity, I know it is him, I attract these people too. Now I feel so deeply depressed for esp. as having gotten older, like that make it harder. Have a therapist but what can she do?

@AphroditeMoon77

6 ай бұрын

@@janebraun4482 I so hear you! It definitely sucks and most of the time therapists are just a bandaid. I still go to my therapist though, because I feel a tad bit better after I vent to her! As for the chronic mental and physical illnesses I know much of the trauma and abuse I endured through the years led to most of them, however, it is hard being middle aged to come back from the illnesses since the body does not recoup well as we age! Gentle hugs to you and I only hope that somehow life gets better for us while we are stuck here on this big rock in the universe and we get a break and moment to breathe and something to finally go good for us before our end comes!

@janebraun4482

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I think I have PTSD from so many of these people taking advantage including professionals, where they took my money too!@@AphroditeMoon77

@kiki19822

6 ай бұрын

As long as we're breathing it's not too late to heal. Better alone than in bad company.

@AphroditeMoon77

6 ай бұрын

@@kiki19822 except for the fact that I am so horribly, chronically ill that I am bedridden and unable to work, so the treatments I need are unattainable due to no income!

Lisa, you get more and more beautiful. :) I think it’s your soul showing, and the love you have in your life. It’s been beautiful to witness you and Tom grow together, even closer over the years. I’m grateful you’re an example of real love in this world of sad, cheap hookups. Thank you for helping to lead women. 💛🙏

I love the comparison to a car salesman. Perfect!

I think men like some things about someone but know pretty early on that there aren't enough things to make them willing to commit for the long haul. Just to be a place holder and bide time with, and for most, if possible, get laid during the waiting period until "the one" shows up they are willing to commit to. Which is very selfish behavior and totally lacking in integrity. So women need to interpret and ACCEPT when I guy says they aren't "ready" (which usually means they aren't ready to commit to US), and do not waste a minute longer of our precious life. I came to realize that if I'm not what a man wants enough to commit to, then he isn't for me either, because that's the biggest piece of what should be "required" for us too! Simple, but takes a long time to learn, at least it did for me.

@kaoshi_kutie

6 ай бұрын

Agreed!! ❤

@PGHEngineer

6 ай бұрын

Us guys can fall in love with you girls just because you made too long eye contact over coffee machine at work. But then, after a relationship has started, we find out all the practical stuff - what do you do, what are your hopes and dreams. Do you want children, do you want marriage, what are your friends like, what are your parents like etc etc etc. At the end of that process, which can take months, we discover it isn't going to work for us. So we dump you. Often we don't tell you why, because there's nothing really wrong with you, we're just not compatible, and we don't really want to risk you saying "But I can change!". We don't want you to change for us. It's too big a responsibility too soon and makes us too obligated.

@IntuitiveCoachTheresa

6 ай бұрын

Great points. I agree. I don't agree with the dumping part. That's just cowardice-for men or women. It takes integrity to say "I'm really sorry but we aren't compatible" and stand by that, even when the person get's upset, wants to tell everyone how bad we are or tries to talk us out of it. We don't ditch people because we care about their feelings, we do it because we don't want to deal with their expression of their feelings. Messy. Inconvenient. Not fun. Better to have integrity and deal with their anger/upset, sooner than later.

@PGHEngineer

6 ай бұрын

@@IntuitiveCoachTheresa Let me give you an example. When I was 25 I was dating a girl of 18. Now everything was fine at first. I never had sex with her, because I never have sex with women until I'm satisfied that I am happy with the implied obligation that women always put on gifting sex. So everything is straightforward. Now around about 2 months in she's telling me about all her hopes and dreams for the future. Problem is her dreams for her future career are going to take her a long way from my dreams for my future career. Then I also meet her friends. Now her friends are 18. Her female friends are ok, but her male friends are immature. They drive my crazy. After 4 months together the guys in her friends group are really becoming unbearable. So the practical reasons for the split are that due to our difference in ages her future path are divergent from mine and I don't like her friends. Now I could've just told her that I don't like her friends and I don't see me playing a part in her future. But I know from experience things are not that simple. There will be a reaction to every reaction. I have to think about that. She might say "well to hell with you. My friends are fine, and so are my future plans" or she break down in tears, beg me to stay and say "It's OK, I'll change my plans and ditch my friends!". Well the first one is fine and delivers what I want, a clean break, but the second one is problematic. I don't want her to change her plans or her friends - not after a relationship that's only 4 months in and might not go anywhere. So I just tell her it's not working for me and leave it at that. And yeah, it certainly didn't avoid the anger anyway, judging by the tirade of shouting and swearing I got in return, but it successfully headed off the possibility that she ditched all her life plans and friends in the hope that she could keep the relationship going. So the point was that sometimes, when we dump a girl, we don't go into the reasons why because we don't want to complicate matters unnecessarily. I'm pretty sure when women say things like "It's not you, it's me" when they are dumping a guy it's for the same reason - it's a phrase that says "there are reasons that I have for dumping you but you can't really do anything about them and it's not because you're a bad person and could change, but I don't want to have a long debate about why because it won't get us anywhere and neither you nor I will gain from it". I've always figured that when a relationship fails it's a good thing. It's another bullet dodged. Another woman that has found out in time that I'm not right for her, or maybe I found out in time that she was not right for me. It's when a relationship fails when you've built your life around somebody else that it matters, but if it is nowhere near that far along you just pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and keep an eye out for the next relationship. People allow themselves to get too hurt by relationships where no real commitment was shown.

@IntuitiveCoachTheresa

6 ай бұрын

Amen!

Don’t plant roots in bad soil

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

❤

This guy is wonderful you see so few men talking so honestly. I really enjoy this I’m 61 turning 62 and walked out of an eight year relationship fortunately it is long-distance and I successfully have my own beautiful home, overlooking the ocean and a good life and good looks thankfully but finally realized it is going nowhere and will go nowhere. What a great conversation he’s having.

A lot of focus on a guy saying things that indicate he is not available etc. Most of the time they won't say these things at all! At least not in any direct way. Thus after the roller coaster we start to connect dots and realize they said this or that, and realize for whatever reason they are just not available, for real. They might even pretend things will happen that don't happen. I value communication first and foremost, not any form of ghosting, and there are many. If we are let down, we should be able to say so, if something is wrong, to ask, never ghost.

@CeciledeLuire

2 ай бұрын

they'll say they are not ready after sex ha. So don't sleep with men for a minimum of 3-4 months. My 2 Cents

Always listen to your intuition ✨

@joyricherson4570

6 ай бұрын

Take your intuition to the Lord and line it up with his. Ours can be tainted by bad experiences.

Id prefer for someone to be up front and honesty about not being ready or even wanting a committed relationship. The problem is that many people play games and will lie or misrepresent to get attention, love, loyalty and respect from someone they know they cant/wont reciprocate those same things with. They use them then discard when it benefits them ( when something they think is better comes along).

@IndigoHazelnut

6 ай бұрын

The issue is alot of people THINK they know what they want but have no idea who they truly are at a soul level, let alone what their soul needs. That is why, most advice is not about changing the other person but about understanding ourselves better.. That way we can hold ourselves accountable to surrounding ourselves with the right people for us

@pkp6791

6 ай бұрын

@@IndigoHazelnut Most people arent investing in doing the hard work it takes to ‘know thyself’. It is a catch-22 for those who do, as the selections become fewer and fewer while solitude because more alluring and attractive because of the guaranteed peace it brings. That peace emanates and radiates outward because it seems that the more one finds it, the more all types of energy is attracted to it and wants a piece of the peace😂😂😂

Matthew could not be more right. I am not young and I think I have a pretty good handle on how things work. I casually dated a young widower for almost a year and he really grew on me, so I asked him if he would like to see what would happen if we tried dating exclusively. He told me that he was not sure he was ready to be someone's boyfriend, but when I said we could continue to date, but I would not sleep with him outside of an exclusive relationship, he quickly came around and wanted to try that, so we did. He broke up with me after two weeks. He is the only man I have been in an exclusive relationship with that had ever broken up with me and I was in my mid-50's. Heed these words, ladies.

My sister used to always text “k” in response to texts I put thought into. Until I responded that way to her…🤣 she had an ahah moment

@CeciledeLuire

2 ай бұрын

😀 now you get "ok" ? 😁

@redinkrose8840

2 ай бұрын

@@CeciledeLuire 😄that’s funny!! Now I get a response and ❤️😊

@CeciledeLuire

2 ай бұрын

@@redinkrose8840 😄 so cool, happy for you!! 😊💛

He slightly love bombed me and wanted to be my bf in a matter of 2 weeks. I thought it was too fast so I made him wait almost 2 months. By then he wasn't so enthusiastic but we made it to the 2 year mark, shared dreams of a future together and had trips together. Found out he had cheated physically and emotionally to someone he knew before us, I was the rebound of 2 years. So even when they say they want a relationship, don't take it for granted LMAO

As someone who married someone who wasn't sure he wanted a relationship and didn't even really like me, I wish I had had this information 15 years ago. I have wanted marriage my whole life, and now I'm almost 38 and if I had known how damn difficult dating would be these days, I don't know that I would have gotten divorced (and my marriage was not good at all). I was made for a different time 😭😭

@AzuraTarot

6 ай бұрын

I can relate, I'm often told I live and behave like someone from a previous era. While I dislike many things about the modern age- and manners seemed much better centuries ago-, people weren't necessarily happier back then when the only accepted way to live was proper courtship and a single lifelong marriage. People just stayed in their wretched marriages and/or had affairs on the side. The only way to be truly happy is to be content as you are, regardless whether you have a romantic partner or not.

@Tee-Star

6 ай бұрын

This is just tragic; choosing to stay married vs the dating field. Wish u all the best, and don't second guess yourself. I pray u find love again.❤🙏

@northofyou33

6 ай бұрын

You are still young, @meganwildhood3893. And you have access to all this great advice. Go out there believing in yourself. You have time.

They need to protect this man at all cost .

Shouldn’t have to chase. Reciprocality is key. Honesty and openness.

I think the key to understand whether a man is worth your time or not is whether he is investing his time in you or not and whether you have same values/beliefs. Look at the power couple of Alex and Leyla Hormozi. Their trust, love and relationships are not built on chemistry. I don't think they were ever "crazy about each other" initially. I think given similar values, work ethics, views on life they respect, admire and are committed to each other and with time it deepens. That's much more profound and long lasting than chemistry.

@valshiro515

6 ай бұрын

It'd be a bit challenging to have mad chemistry with a wufe who sounds like a trans male and looks 10 years older than her real age. Also, you do know that those 2 are still very young so to use them as an example is a bit premature. Let's see where they are at in 10 years first. There will come a time when Leyla will experience feminine exhaustion from her business first value. The moment motherly instincts start to really kick in is when you will start noticing a shift in their dynamic as a couple.

@Fairy71128

6 ай бұрын

@@valshiro515 Even though young, they were together for 8-9 years. But you could be very well be right, time will tell. Although they have plans to reach billionaire status and that may take 5 years or more and Leyla shows no signs of slowing down. But if she decides to have kids, she'll be able to afford all the help and still work part time. That's the beauty of financial freedom. I still believe their couple is much stronger than most built on initial affection that goes away in 6-9 months.

I'd never even bother trying to change someone. I found men were notorious for trying to do this. I'd just bin them because I had nothing in common with them. I loved the lifestyle I already had and men seemed to think they could change me. One even said, "I'll soon have you in my drinking culture" NO YOU WON'T...WEIRDO!

@CeciledeLuire

2 ай бұрын

the "WEIRDO" got me haha 😀

Lisa,I adore the way you engage and listen. 💛

@chocolat917

6 ай бұрын

Seriously the best interviewer ever

@samanthaferrari5948

5 ай бұрын

I loathe the aggressive listening, so off putting.

When I was dating, a guy I liked told me he didn’t want a girlfriend, so I left and never looked back. He called me two months later drunk to see what happened to me. I told him he told me he wasn’t interested in having a girlfriend, so I left. He said he changed his mind. I didn’t believe him, because he was drunk and saying things, because he was lonely and suggested he called me the next day if he was serious. The next day I didn’t leave the decision up to him and I made up my mind that I didn’t want a man who let me go for two months and barely started to notice I was missing. I knew I needed more love and time than he was willing to offer. When someone tells you or shows you who they are believe them. This guy is a good guy, but he was in a time in his life where he wanted to mess around with a lot of different women.

Matthew is so passionate, like please ladies DO NOT settle!

Loved that his passion & the truth of his words were aligned here. Too many people are jumping on platforms and leading women all over the place with nothing but lies and using “passion” to earn that following. This was a very impactful conversation, & so glad to see a male speaker stand in service of women & healthier relationships like this❤🙏🏽

Be honest with yourself

Wow what a very powerful message! This is the best I have heard on your show. I hope he changes many many many many many many people's lives with this message. I know he's changing mine❤

It makes me sad that so many of us have been in this position😒

This is mind blowing for me. I’m not even done watching it all. Clarity for me, just wow.

I Frickin LOVE this guy! He is SO passionate. He's just the best. ♡

Absolutely fab!!! So thankful for this today ...thank u ❤

This makes so much sense. I don’t think my ex and I was even compatible 😮 that’s why we ended. He wanted to be a boy and I’m a grown woman

You saved my life.... tears are flowing down my face.... you are so so right.... I thank you on my knees ... may God and Mother Mary bless you both

Thank you! Deep down I knew this, but I needed to hear this. It just reconfirm to me that I am making the right decision as I'm preparing to leave and move on. I am putting myself first again! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!

Thank you for this message! I really needed to hear this 👏🏽👏🏽

I am loving how he speaks from a genuine emotional place that's y what he talks about is so relateable❤

Dear people, if you have no time at all right now, *do listen to the first 5 minutes and never forget what he says here...!* It can save your life. I mean it. 💛

I've been dealing with my ex for eight years. I want my time back because I might not be able to have kids now. Covid also ruined me trying to get away from him. Toxic even before we dated.

very powerful, mirrors what I tell people in such situations. Trying to "date" in this day and age must be awful.

I adore his passion, every single time. Love love your passion for helping us.

Wow., a few minutes in & he is hitting the nail on the head🎯💯

As a friend I keep saying to my friend there is no shame between us, because we all have the capability of stuffing up like everyone else. And we can only talk from experience and give advise on situations that we have integrated through experience.

Matthew's insight is phenomenal! Thanks for sharing! 💗

More people need to think this way.

The timing of this video… thank you for the friendly reminder ❤

SERIOUSLY HE JUST INSPIRED ME, YES THANK YOU

Mainly men who do this because they are keeping their options open.

@888alp

6 ай бұрын

So true these men are selfish.

@deethralane3481

5 ай бұрын

Sooo right

Thank you for your incredible words of wisdom Matthew!!

My god, you dont know how much i needed to hear this right now. Thank you sooooo much for this AMAZING video Matthew and Lisa. ❤

Love this conversation very sobering and oh so true! Thank you guys!

So true! Life is so short. Thank you for such guidance. Question marks ❤️

Love this! Thank you both…

For relationships advice Mathew Hussey and Sadia psychology are the best ones and most relatable...I listen to them only❤

Good morning! Love this guy!

I feel like he is speaking directly to me ❤️💥

@Maria-kh2bd

6 ай бұрын

Me too!!!!!!!!!

Or worse, when they say they don’t know what the future holds for them. My ex literally said “I do not know what God has in store for me.”

@maartjegoede9330

6 ай бұрын

Ohh that really sucks... Because he takes away you choosing to walk away because they dont know... How do you not know what you want? He probably wants the goodies but doesnt want to pay for it so he'll give you a confusing answer

@Missnoemit

6 ай бұрын

A man should have a vision, plan. Thats the kind of man a woman should be with because he is a leader!

@Ang36914

6 ай бұрын

A valid sentiment but I think God also expects us to plan and take action in our lives too lol.

@slemusrocks

6 ай бұрын

@@Ang36914 yup, I would tell him that throughout our 4 years together. Unfortunately, I ended the relationship

@valshiro515

6 ай бұрын

If that one sentence set off a red flag in you, then the issue is YOU. No one rrally knows what God has in store for them. One too many examples of people planning their life one way but the reality taking them in a completely different direction. Why did such a general statement even trigger you? If a person told you they don't know how exactly thry would die, would that trigger you? No? Then why is a person stating that they don't know the final destination upset you?

This dude doesn’t f around. He lays out the truth about reality vs met needs in relationship. His bottom line check in with SELF. Don’t settle. You know when you know.

I always find these important life lessons right after I ended it with that person showing these tendencies 😂 Guess it just confirms that my instincts are looking out for me in the end.

Lisa and Matthew you are both awesome and genuine person.😇 Matthew really knows the true meaning of LOVE. Love is a feeling and a value and even Love isn't enough in a relationship like to be nice is not enough. I saw 95% of couple I met, they think they can change each other... and to me this is not love. True love means you accept the person and love the person excatly 100% the way they are today. To be fully honest I've been 7 years single by my own choice. Because the men I met are not understanding in Love and love is part of my value and I need the Love to be real not weaponize, not fake... Thanks for both of you 😀 Take care 😇

This is EXACTLY what i needed to hear!❤

Absolutely phenomenal conversation here!!!! 🔥🔥

seriously. thank you so so much.

Yeah, the man I am with has told me to my face he's going to break my heart. He is very excited by our relationship, which is what hooks me, but it's headed for a deadend anyway.

When you LIE to yourself daily ... no one can make you think differently. You need to be ready to recieve ....

brilliant life changing, thank you Mathew

Thank you so much Mathew. I learned allot about this topic. Had a relationship who are pathological liars and a cheater. I am glad his out.

Thank u❤brilliant interview ❤

Polite in your tone; Ruthless in your actions. 💣 💥

I had to SHARE this instantly!!!!

Oh my goodness, this is GOLD

I looooooooooove Matthew Husseys work! What an excellent episode!

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

he's great ❤

Love this message thank you. 😊

Matt is so hilarious wise. And he's getting better and better with age.

amazing thanks for being clear. realty 😢

I needed to hear this message.

Excellent video!!

I didn’t know how, now I do. Thank you.

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

6 ай бұрын

❤

Your first job isn't to be a lie detector, your job is to pay attention to the conquences they claim.

This is a stellar conversation… so many wonderful insights Thank you

I need to love myself enough to walk away 😢

Thank you for saving my life

Yes I said that literally to a guy on new year's eve after watching your videos for just 2 days...I said "Fuck this" now I am so happy

This is so needed