Matthew Hussey Shares Text from Wife that Shook Him | The Drew Barrymore Show
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Relationship expert and life coach Matthew Hussey sits down with Drew Barrymore to talk about the 4 levels of importance in a relationship. Plus, he reveals the text he received from his now-wife that shook him and taught him an important lesson.
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Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@elladonaldson-lh6nc
Күн бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@juanderuano8969
Күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@elladonaldson-lh6nc
Күн бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@juanderuano8969
Күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@Laughingatguildedbutterflies
12 сағат бұрын
Try a few things (I’m in the same exact boat) no contact, pictures, social media stalking - nothing for 21 or more days. Consider a virtual therapy app, and begin to work on a list of cons from the relationship. But more importantly know that she is not interested any more, and start to work on asking yourself why you want someone that doesn’t want you. Because if you don’t love yourself you can’t love anyone else.
"No one can be important to me that does not choose me."
Even Matthew Hussey ghosts 😂
@brooklyn3299
27 күн бұрын
He’s a man so yes that’s what they do.
@jeniferkenney2984
26 күн бұрын
Omgosh right?! What were you thinking Matt?! Lol
@queenj.8i895
26 күн бұрын
lol! Funny. But…he didn’t tho 🙃
@jeniferkenney2984
26 күн бұрын
@@queenj.8i895 he kinda did for a little bit.
@KatieBetts
25 күн бұрын
Hahahaha
“ You can grieve out of disappointment that they weren’t the one but you can’t grieve as if they were the one.” Wow, that statement resonated with me at a deep level. Next level advice Matthew!
Loved this conversation Drew!! Thank you everyone for watching! ❤
@CrystalDatingCoach
25 күн бұрын
Your the NUMBER 1 Dating Coach for a Reason? 😂❤
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
I second that... Matthew is in a league of his own... and because of this, I understand the level I am on... admiration... everything is exciting ... but two more to go... I love Matthew ❤
@acemilondoner8489
21 күн бұрын
Audrey needs her own podcast, preach us girl 😂
@RMFeminine4TheWin
19 күн бұрын
*she sounds like a legit 'Spiritual Gangsta'. well done & best wishes to you both!!!* 🫂💍💙
@AriesAndScorp
12 күн бұрын
Great KZread video!
She was watching his videos😂
@xinhuagabriel1694
4 сағат бұрын
Yes, she did, because that msg was what Matthew taught in one of his videos 😂
Most guys wouldn’t be able to handle that message. Good for him
@ilsevdg1194
18 күн бұрын
Haha, it allows for an early triage 😊
@GeminianExplorer
13 күн бұрын
So many I dated , got numbed out on such a message... Feminized Men 😅
I just love that Matthew ended up with the exact kind of woman he always said was attractive. It shows that first of all, they’re meant to be, and second, he has always meant what he said. He didn’t just end up with some famous model (although she looks like one) or someone with a flashy, exciting life, he found someone who is authentic and mature and kind like himself.
@888alp
28 күн бұрын
Yes but he was looking for a woman who is has money and career driven. There is nothing wrong with that but I feel he wouldn’t date someone who just didn’t earn big bucks.
@Nah-ah
24 күн бұрын
@@888alptheir busy lifestyle wouldn’t match! They need to keep up with each other. My ex (childhood sweetheart) was a pro-footballer. That didn’t work out bc our lifestyles were completely different after his career took off! I met my now husband and had a baby which was what I wanted a few yrs later! My ex went on to play overseas for the next 10 yrs, then met and married his now wife who’s a huge traveler and they both have a couple of kids.
@foxy_k9
23 күн бұрын
@@888alp may I ask how do you know if Audrey has money and career driven? I didn't find anything about her online. I actually thought she was jobless because she is in his videos all the time 🤔
The fact that they still ended up together even though Matthew didn't know immediately after that she was going to be his wife gives me hope. I like to see examples that having standards instead of playing games is what works. Be true to you. Btw, Drew is such a style icon!
@_good_for.
Ай бұрын
You voted Biden right?
@NicoleBeepath
Ай бұрын
@@_good_for. I'm Canadian living in Canada.
@_good_for.
Ай бұрын
@@NicoleBeepath ok mam
@susannefitzpatrick9955
29 күн бұрын
Yes - I too wonder why Audrey chased (albeit in a subtle way) multi-millionaire Matthew!
@bm5_5_5
29 күн бұрын
Exactly you’ll never miss out on what’s right for you if you stay true to yourself ❤
No one can be important to me that doesn’t choose me 👍🏻💯
Ladies. Live and LEARN. Keep your STANDARDS!
I wish I had the courage to be this straightforward. It would have saved me a lot of heartache.
Just goes to show even as an expert, you can still mess up. Good for her in how she handled it though.
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
The mess-up is human ... also I love that his wife is the woman he is teaching us to be... Have standards... know your value... she got this amazing man...
"No-one can become important to me that doesn't choose me." ❤
Tactic = manipulation. Her message came across as honest and he honored her honesty
@TheWilDOn31
24 күн бұрын
He didn't. She honoured herself by sticking to her standard after that text.
@ebbyc1817
23 күн бұрын
it was a very interesting message. she neither ignored him, nor pandered to him. I would have ignored him. Basically I would have read the text and thought "wtf does this mean" and not replied. lol
@user-gv4bg3go2e
17 күн бұрын
@@ebbyc1817that’s understandable. Most of the time you set yourself up for heartbreak. They’re coming back just to see if they have access to you. It’s an ego thing
@ebbyc1817
16 күн бұрын
@@user-gv4bg3go2e Ha so that's why they do it. I'm somewhat naive, but what I don't like is decoding messages. If I have to ask, what does this mean, I'm not replying, unless it's part of an ongoing conversation.
Audrey had been definitely watching his videos and following his advise😂 I clearly remember this topic from one his videos
@Mushroom321-
7 күн бұрын
😮😅😂
@Adelina24244
7 күн бұрын
Yess Absolutely!! She has definitely watched his videos because I remember a lot of his videos where he wrote this
@iterealice
Күн бұрын
which video is it?
Well, she wasnt ruthless, just sincere. He ghosted her in a way, and she called out the situation. Just normal conversation basically. But im glad everything worked out for them. Wish them well
I am so glad Drew found Matthew Hussey! I have been following his approach with standards and honesty for the past several years! Amazing. Just incredible.
@CrystalDatingCoach
25 күн бұрын
YES! She's so Beautiful and Intelligent but doesn't VALUE herself! Stop falling in love who INVESTED nothing!!!
"No one can be important to me when they do not choose me" when it comes to love life - love it, so important!
I think it's crazy that he ghosted her, when he has so many videos about the topic....
@orsolyabende8101
24 күн бұрын
Probably it was his way of testing her whether intentionally or not. When you should not be testing people at least not the one you feel that way for.
@cup_o_TMarie
17 күн бұрын
I hear you & yet I don’t think two weeks is fully ghosting since they weren’t in a relationship, only very casually dating. But it was a pattern disruption & she addressed it as such. If we immediately feel someone is fully ghosting us, we may take more drastic measures ourselves rather than feeling it out. I define ghosting as someone who fully ignores your attempts at communication. After twice (because the 1st time there’s always a chance they didn’t get your msg), I’m out. Then it’s fully ghosting. At least that’s my definition.
@Adelina24244
7 күн бұрын
Right?!?! My thought exactly. This is why I don’t always follow these relationships gurus advices because even they don’t follow what they preach smdh 😒
So he was running fuckboi game on her and she outsmarted him, using the tips he usually gives his audience🙄. Interesting... to say the least.
@CRISSGRULLON
26 күн бұрын
This is the real 🫖. Good on her really!
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
She is the woman he teaches us to be... have standards, know your worth... and she did way back then...
@alexialira3839
24 күн бұрын
She chose to marry a dude that ghosted her in the beginning of a relationship when you're supposed to be the most ecstatic/happy about a person (he essentially rejected her) and then he came back running when no other female he wanted was giving him the attention he craved. That's settling, not "being smart." I'd never do this and would never advise a loved one of mine to marry someone like this.
@EllenNguyen
24 күн бұрын
@@alexialira3839 She wasn't ruthless enough. Being ruthless is just deleting his text and moving on
@shastagrant7525
24 күн бұрын
Agree. I liked his content until today.
THIS IS MY ENTIRE LIFE GO ON😂😂😂😂 YES it's everyone's 🤣
Drew’s clipping at the end, lmao!😂
@santa3018
9 күн бұрын
What is clipping? 😂 sorry I am old
This is what is referred to as speaking your truth and effectively communicating.. Audrey spoke her truth diplomatically and respectfully this is how all couples must speak to one another it would reduce the amount of arguments couples have.. Another example is telling your partner to get off their phone when in actual fact generally our truth is we feel their phone is more important than spending time with us.. Speak your truth respectfully and Instead share with you them that either you miss them, or you want to spend some quality time with them. Also let them know how them being on their phone makes you feel. If you cannot be truthful with the one you love that's not a connected relationship.. Awesome relationship topic.
I have been watching Mathew Hussey for years!!! His work helped me through a difficult breakup. Thank you Drew for having him on your show!
Wouldn’t his text that said, “ I miss you,” be considered a manipulation or tactic?
@dumfriesspearhead7398
3 күн бұрын
Yes and his then gf called him out on that.
What a surprise , she did exactly what he's teaching in his videos and books. Cool girls listen to you too Matthew 😁
This was such an insightful conversation! It's a great reminder of the power of honest and authentic communication in a relationship. I've always loved framing my experiences as stories, especially Love Stories, it brings me closer to understanding and appreciating the depth of those moments.
Funny cause I had this happen to me except it didn’t work out. Which is fine - I’m glad it happened & I know the truth. Was texting with a guy for 4 months straight. Every single day. Then randomly got to the point where he skipped a day. Then back if became skipping another day. Then it was a few days. Then like a week. I just am not gonna play those games
Omgosh i cabt believe hes married now! I knew he was engaged a while back but didn't realize he got married just this last year. Congratulations Matthew! So happy for you and your wife! Ive started watching you on KZread since the beginning especially when i was going through a rough divorce then dating again. You definitely helped me out a lot. Im so glad you found your person. She is definitely one lucky gal. ❤
6:03 THIS!!! As a recovering people pleaser I so back this thought!
Did matthew really send "i miss you" after 2 weeks of non contact? 😅
Love Matty and love Drew!! This is so cool to watch
Very important and powerful last statement!
So hold up... Matthew acting like the guy he tells us to have better standards than 😂😂😂😂😂😢😂😢😂😢😂😢😂
@brigeetalight4394
24 күн бұрын
Yep.
@joyabia682
22 күн бұрын
That's why I don't listen to him. These people will have u running in your own head. Ugh
@blueskies773
19 күн бұрын
You gotta watch RC Blakes, Jr.
@niomibandara4030
17 күн бұрын
Yes! And she took his advice 😂😂😂
@MonaLisaFace
13 күн бұрын
Right … seems hypocritical to me.
Thanks for teaching me the obvious!
I feel you Drew, I feel you! Such a great interview!!
So logical, makes so much sence. Helping me on my journey, moving on. Thank you
This was deep as puddle. People think these days they fart two and that is the Sound of Music.
Wonderful points ❤
One of my fave books ever! I’m going to re-read this soon ❤
Beautiful!
So good.
that msg was what Matthew taught in one of his videos 😂
"Last week I fell in love, got rejected, we broke up, and it was all in my head". hahah, well, if thaaaat isn't relatable!! 😅😅😂💀
So much to learn !!!!😮😮
Sooooo EXCELLENT 😮
Great advice! Like the four levels of importance. Have made the mistake at level number 2.
I LOVE THE DIFFERERENT LEVELS !!! 😊
Love this. However, wouldn't checking for compatibility come before thinking of commitment?
@Paula-fd6lj
27 күн бұрын
Commitment is about deciding you want to commit. Exclusivity. Compatibility is about merging lives, making sure you both want the same things.
@janeryan2709
25 күн бұрын
You can't really confirm compatibility until the commitment is already there...
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
Commitment to the relationship not to marriage... so, compatibility comes before commitment
@skoolie_life3261
24 күн бұрын
I agree that compatibility comes before commitment. I made the mistake of getting the two backwards and it didn’t end well. Lots of heartbreak.
@Paula-fd6lj
24 күн бұрын
@@skoolie_life3261 you can be extremely compatible and yet the guy/girl not be ready to settle down and ull still waste time. At least if he/she is committed to the relationship u won't get cheated on/gaslighted. You'll just part ways cuz u want different things (not compatible?
Spot on!!!! Stage number 2 is very dangerous and misleading to the heart. That's when the common sense has to kick in. But it's very hard. You tend to think that the connection is the most important thing. But you forget that there's also the degree of importance and priority that one gives to that connection, that can differ. And that life's circumstances can get in the way. And then there's also the character and the set of values of the person.... It's a ruthless game.😢 But it's better to lose early. Than to see it all go down later.
She basically used the answer that you told women to send when a man ghost/ disrespect them and then decide to come back because he needs attention. I am sorry but your behavior was very poor.
@thehealingfairee
28 күн бұрын
He talks in the book about how he used to be terrible to date, so he owns up to it
@tasleemlaila1478
28 күн бұрын
I think you missed the point. She doesn't give the answer he advices others to use. He got it from her great example in the text she sent him. He learned from her. And he is taking pride in his wife's ability to stand up for her boundaries, and sharing this with all of us to help empower us to do the same. That makes him a more stand up and credible coach, and human in my opinion. He could have hidden his "mistake". Instead, he is admitting it to help us. That's amazing.
@fracaiulo6046
23 күн бұрын
Come on. He acted poorly! Period
@blauespony1013
20 күн бұрын
Yes, it was. But he realised it and learned from it (and hopefully changed for the better). And that is more than a lot of people do.
@tasleemlaila1478
20 күн бұрын
@@fracaiulo6046 But he's admitting it, and has changed it, and recognized it and apologizes for it and uses the lessons from it to help him and others.
Attention is not Intention!
His wife is 🔥🔥🔥
Would love to know more about compatibility
smart man :)
1. What happened after that message? Pity that Drew interrupted him… pity! 2. Credits to Matt that even tho he is the “Relationship expert” and did what he did, he comes out and tell his story to “his followers and all”. It craves guts to do that, he is showing that he is a normal person, not a God (people want to see him like a God). 3. Matthew @thematthewhussey how to do when you have a relationship abroad? (Very very far away). Thank you for your openness!
Oh my word. I love Drew! Where can I watch this show 😱😍
@amieamie6268
23 күн бұрын
I live in Europe btw. Not American, so it's not on tv for me 😂
Ahh now I wanna know how the story continued 😄😄
Audrey, preach us girl!
Amen
Pause. You weren't in a relationship, you were dating. Have things changed so much that dating is no longer a relationship???
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
I have always known that dating is getting to know people... not a relationship... 😂😂😂 this world
@Lisa_M_V
21 күн бұрын
Dating is people just spending time together .. a relationship has commitment. Don’t commit before you get to know someone .. could be a mass murderer 😂
@btsanbliss
10 күн бұрын
Good one!
@btsanbliss
10 күн бұрын
Simple
I don't get why he was trying to slow fade her to begin with?
Pause. Her expression. She changed topic😂.
Matthey is a genius!❤❤❤❤ I love Drew!❤❤❤😅😅😅
nice..
What's the end of the story?!? Is there a clip on what happened after that text from Audrey? @thematthewhussey, we need to know what happened next!
@xxShesARebelxx
26 күн бұрын
They have a whole joint video on what happened. Search is KZread
@janeryan2709
25 күн бұрын
@@xxShesARebelxx They have a lot of joint videos. Can you give the title of the video where they talk about it?
@Lisa_M_V
21 күн бұрын
They went to vegas and got married on next date 😂
@marionenzer1947
20 күн бұрын
@@xxShesARebelxx Do you have the name of link to the video please ?
@julia-eg2xh
12 күн бұрын
@janeryan2709 did you find the joint video please?
I would ve answered "Aww you re cute"
👍🏼👍🏻❤
Did Matthew finally get the girl?? Congrats!!
In his past videos he has constantly provided guidance on how women can address this kind of behaviour from someone. Turned out while he did that he was engaging in exactly that kind of low value behaviour. He has nice advice, but using himself as an example here is just annoying.
@SmileKT68
23 күн бұрын
This example is intended to spotlight HIS WIFE (not himself) and her exceptional standards, which validated exactly what he coaches women to do. He just happened to be the guinea pig in this case so to speak. He never claimed to be the exemplary guy or the perfect catch. He's always had his own demons and trauma to work on, he is now vulnerable enough to share with the public. Good for him!
This one guy, an age mature guy, was after me. After about 6 months, I said ok, we exchanged numbers and talked all the time, including video calls, so we decided to meet. He was from another city and flew twice to come see me. Our dates went well, and in the last one, he said, "I've met my match, went back home two weeks late he was had a stopover in my city, and did not even planned to see me for an hour. That was it for me. I live 15 minutes from the airport we could have met for a drink lunch etc. The fact that he was so near me and didn't think of seeing me was a huge red flag, bye fool.
Im a level 2 serial griever
Her text was exactly what Matthew recommends in these situations :-)))))
Sounds like his wife should be a coach
Oh goodness what a complicated way to conduct yourself. Define your values. Behave in alignment with them. Connect with people who do the same.
And how did they get together again and married?
Is there a reason why the host sits so close to all her guest?
@valshiro515
26 күн бұрын
She has very poor boundaries. Some guests look super uncomfortable when she's almost on their lap. As an abuse survivor, I would not be ok with her being so close.
@EveKatharsis
26 күн бұрын
What yall 😢 that's a leap!
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
This time I thought that's too close... I would be uncomfortable because personal space is a thing
@Dancediva240
15 күн бұрын
she is a creepy annoying host, really cringey
I need to learn from his wife 😅
Wife??!? When did this happen???! And how the heck has he ended up on the Drew Barrymore show
Take risk and enjoying the ride also vulnerability..
Drew looks thiner and younger
Relationship Expert - but still fumbled in real life 🤨🤨🤨
@JeanBrink1971
27 күн бұрын
Yeah 😄, but he's still just a human.
@Marina-wi3rs
26 күн бұрын
Doctors aren’t 100% healthy either
@EveKatharsis
26 күн бұрын
Or therapists haha how do you think we got here 😂
@dg5175
26 күн бұрын
That's what I thought lol
@ninastar5285
25 күн бұрын
Experiences were their teachers...
Love you drew, but not taking it in 😮
Drew looks very confused 😅😅😅😅🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
Am I the only one who thinks that it is weird that he was already a dating coach back then even though he still did those kind of more immature things in relationships? I mean I get that you don’t need to be perfect in relationships though that’s kind of a very immature thing to do to not say anything to someone and just not giving this person attention. Especially if you want to date more. I don’t know it feels weird to me.
Really grossed out by his text from a professional dating coach - he’s lucky she married him
Unpopular opinion but their getting together story isn’t goals.
This is just too much
He was giving advices 😅 which he didnt follow.
He's going to cheat on her.
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
Wow... that's what you got out of this or just projecting your experience?
@thestorybehindthat5236
23 күн бұрын
@@KG-bliss haven't been cheated on. Not that I know of. So it's not that. Something's off about him. Can't put my finger exactly on it. It almost feels like a mother child dynamic between them or something. It's the way he talks about her like she's the wise "mother" who's consoling and "fixing" him and he's the childish one in the dynamic. From what he shared at least, that seems to be his main draw to her aside from her being beautiful of course. I just see him cheating and acting out childishly behind her back at some point. He doesn't seem to have a sense of "mature manliness" to look out for her in a certain way a developed man has for his wife. It's all about him. Just my opinion.
@Lisa_M_V
21 күн бұрын
No he’s not. He’s not a douche
@thestorybehindthat5236
21 күн бұрын
@@Lisa_M_V time will tell.
No clue who this guy is and I’m ok with that! Getting old has its at vantages! Pay less attention to celebrities who make no difference in your life! (Assuming he a celebrity)
This sounds crazy.. txt world in love is stupid . Get real in person and off the txt.. pathetic... Too much analyzing... Crazy
That’s ridiculous so people preach about how ghosting is ridiculous etc etc and they do it? Really???😟
He’s lost credibility. Matthew is a dating coach who ghosts himself. Audrey’s text implies they were “close” before he ghosted for two weeks. He could have sent Audrey a short message saying he’s taking some time to himself. He’s preaching “do as I say and not as I do”. He’s human too. But as a dating coach he needs to rise above the dating behavior he denounces. Disappointing.
It's not revolutionary.... Seems like a bit of that English type nicety and under-lying " SMACK IN THE FACE"! 😅😅😅 That would be a very different conversation with two Latinos or Italians. It would be fireworks and volcanoes. 😂 Lol❤
Biggest scammer
Trying to sell books....
Drew i am curious and confused why you didnt have your hands all over him like you do all your other guests? do the guests fill out some sort of limits contract before the show?
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
Does she do that with married males too? Or am I missing something?
@MessagesFromAurora
24 күн бұрын
@@KG-bliss so the boundaries of a person only matter if they're married or have a partner who wouldn't like it?
This is the most bizarre topic.
@hirsch4155
29 күн бұрын
No it’s because you have a different approach to dating , and that’s ok, he has stuff that makes a lot of sense for some of us.
@emmaeIIe
28 күн бұрын
What's bizarre about it?
@KG-bliss
25 күн бұрын
@@emmaeIIeI would also like to know...