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@tamekiamerrill4853

Жыл бұрын

Please don't

I have FINALLY met him, but he says I scare him. That we are BOTH powerful...he just didn't know if we are moving too fast...so he said let's slow down. I prayed for this beautiful man. He is fiiiiinnnneeee and kind. I am GRATEFUL

@ihavealotofnames

Жыл бұрын

God bless y’all, girl!! I hope it’s everything wonderful for you two!! ❤❤❤

@missbrownsugga6782

Жыл бұрын

@@ihavealotofnames Ase

@WhatIsHasValue

Жыл бұрын

If it’s forever you have time to take your time❤️🙏

@missbrownsugga6782

Жыл бұрын

@@WhatIsHasValue Ase

@jayc5756

Жыл бұрын

I'm kinda concerned about him saying Slow Down. Thats a yellow flag right there, but can be nothing. Maybe he's right. But hopefully it isn't. I wish yall the best. Actually, that and "Let's take it slow" is what's concerning me....why I said its a yellow flag. But it is what it is. Hopefully it isn't anything too crazy. Wish you the best sis! 💜

I have that bad. I always said “if a man wants me he’ll reach out”. Men like to feel wanted too

@BooDotBoo

Жыл бұрын

I don't mind reaching out or texting first, sometimes. I feel things should feel reciprocal. I'll reach out if I feel like the other person wants me to reach out and things have been flowing, which means, if I text or call them, I'm not left wondering if or when they'll respond, they never make me feel like I said something weird or off-putting. When they do respond, the reply is well thought out, and not just a sentence that literally misses half of what I even said or, worse, just an emoji. I feel welcomed into their space, into their life, so to speak. If I don't feel that way, then yes, I revert back to "if he wants to talk, he will" and I wait on him to text me. Eventually, though, I get tired of that game, because it is a game, and then I move on. No one wants to play tag through texts and calls. And if we also aren't seeing each other regularly, then there's really no reason to keep focusing my energy there. I'll make a man feel wanted if he's also reciprocating that to me. Showing mutual interest is where I'm at, these days.

@jayc5756

Жыл бұрын

@@BooDotBoo We recommend to let the guy reach out 1st because that shows if they are even interested enough in you or not. But if you're not worried about that...just feel that you want that guy no matter what...then do you boo. But thats why we recommend that. Cause if a guy doesn't hit you At All...its Super Clear he's not interested like that. Facts! But if you hit him and he's not very interested, he may still entertain you. Entertain you and use you or whatever. Maybe he has a partner already why he didn't hit you. But since you hit him 1st, he Knows you're very interested, so he can use you as the side chick, etc. So this is what happens. But if you don't care about that, np sis. All good. Later

This is true. Consistent communication on BOTH SIDES shows a level of commitment. And, yes, a lot of things may seem like common sense, but we all know, sometimes, we get caught up in liking someone so much, we forget our common sense. It's good to have reminders of what we want and the standards we should have with someone. That way, even if we are having a good time with them, if we know what we want is commitment in the future, we need to know if they're truly giving us what we need, and if not, we should be moving on to someone who can give us that. Temporary good times are fun, but they don't result in something long lasting in most cases. Otherwise, the other person wouldn't be talking about "let's just see where things go" or being vague all the time or you having to guess and wonder when or if you'll hear from them again; they'd also be focused on getting to know you and if you're someone to commit to, and be transparent with you as you should be with them. But I think the biggest thing will always be that, they won't let you be confused about the place/priority you hold in their life or where they want you to be, eventually. Consistent communication usually helps with that.

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Don’t nobody got time for games, especially if I know that I’m a good person and mature.

@jayc5756

Жыл бұрын

FR

@melmiller9355

2 ай бұрын

Facts

Love how honest you are with both genders and the way they both are taught and see the world.

He can do all of these things you mentioned and still not be ready to commit. #beenthere

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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@princessolamz2288

Жыл бұрын

I agree, been there too

@pdizzle9008

Жыл бұрын

me too the guy was contacting me consistently but never got too deep or personal on any messages, unless it was about sex. He would just briefly say how his day went and ask about mine and that would pretty much be the extent of the txt even phone calls were short unless it was sexually in nature. Phones calls lasted all of 5-10mins before he had to “go” for some reason. This lasted about a month (2 small dates and a home dinner in tht time, every occasion he tried to make some type of sexual advance) and I broke things off because I said it didn’t feel like he was that interested in me outside sex (never had sex with him) I think Stephan speaks some about if a guy isn’t trying to get too personal with you as being something to look out for, I was flattered that this man sent good morning text and made contact with pretty much everyday!! But when the conversations never got any deeper I didn’t want to kid myself. I think he was just being “minimally consistent” for sex, which kinda sucks, sometimes when I think about it, it’s angering because he was playing on my emotions and intelligence by trying to create this “illusion of caring and being consistent” smh but I’m glad I’ve been educating myself and paid more attention to the content of his conversations

@sOofiiexD

3 ай бұрын

Literally same, I really thought we were going somewhere… fast forward ghosted me, met someone else and a month later is dating and posting this other woman lmao

I initiate contact but far less than the man. Actually Works for me. ❤

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Straight up communication and zero games is so powerful ! You like someone and you tell them. You want them to be your boyfriend? You tell them. Edit! This guy turned out to be abusive emotionally and physically. I applied this tactic while I met the guy and he is currently sweeping me off my feet, being the sweetest most caring and kind gentleman, showering me with presents and holidays and it's all real. For once I meet someone who is real and not a love bomber. This one is a love atomic bomb. My soul mate ❤️ and he is soooo fine 😍

@LauraAmanda8888

Жыл бұрын

Turns out the guy was abusive emotionally and physically 😪 it's a cycle I can't seem to break with guys. Keep meeting abusive guys. At least this one loves me and stays away from me cause all he knows is how to bring me pain

He wants to commit to you because he has something of value of his own. Also, he is a high value man. FULL STOP.

Love that Stephan is super clear on every point! He breaks it down for us to understand! Thanks Stephan! 👏👏👏 Can we give this man a reward, please! He's so good at what he does! 🥇🏅🏆

@mlovespring7892

Жыл бұрын

Nobody speaks the way he does. I respect and admire this man so much! ❤🙏🙏🙏

You mentioned in the video about a client you had that her man left and so on. You said that she can't blame him for being in a position of negativity etc. Honestly, I think alot of women including myself don't BRING the negativity. I think the men create that by not knowing how to communicate and have a conversation. I saw the podcast you were just on where you said men are more logic and they need to stop dismissing women's feelings. That's the whole point. Men don't know how to have a conversation and get OUT of their "logic" so they create the arguments. I'm sorry but I see it alot. If it was easy talking to men. There would be no arguments but it's these men who don't know how to communicate and care abt a women's feelings, that cause that tension. When that can change and BOTH can equally care in a conversation, than alot of issues can be resolved. Will that ever happen? Prob not. Men don't make it easy for women to talk to them but then they are the ones walking out. Lol. That's hilarious to me and very sad. Women should be the ones walking out and half the time, we don't, but we should.

@LifeAboutToya

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!

@Happyfeelinpeace

Жыл бұрын

Jenny just took the words out of my mouth. So many men have stopped short of learning the most amazing things about communication with women.

@shainadfarrington

Жыл бұрын

Facts. This is the biggest struggle with mine...communication and understanding my feelings when he's been trained to have NONE, lol...from his childhood to being a Marine to being in law enforcement. But we're trying to find a happy medium...I remain open to his needs and vice versa. But if he ever stops trying, I'm OUT.

But I met someone who was very busy, very communicative consistently but he was a player

@sherriekimberly6122

Жыл бұрын

💯 agree

@shelindaquinland

Жыл бұрын

There is always red flags with that such as the level of depth in his communication and not casual talk or simply check up to keep you entertained.

You're right, I agree with everything you said in this video 💯%. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️.

He told me in the beginning he wanted something not serious but all he does for me so far, it was more than friends and ever better than my exes ! I tried to move on from him but I’m stuck ;(

@joyricherson4570

Жыл бұрын

Ask God to break your soul tie

@whodoneitbr549

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry but he told you from the beginning. You have to fix what is broken in you that had you still hang in there. Getting unstuck is as simple as making the decision to cut this man off. Heal fix yourself grow and move forward.

@joyricherson4570

Жыл бұрын

Healing is not easy. But step by step and be consistent.

Okay in MARKETING terms! I went back to try to hear that #1 message, (3 times) before REALIZING it wasn't put there on purpose.😂 I like your style! You teach more than just relationship advice!🙃🙏 Yet, on the OTHER note, you said EVERYTHING that needed to be said within the 1ST Minute of broadcasting. Its just REINSTATING your POINT with FACTS & TRUTH... If you have not HEALED within the PAST relationships, the REST will continue to be the SAME!🤞💪🙏

Communication Is the best Policy In A Relationship and Actions not just words Thanks Stephan love you......🥰👋🏾😁💜

I reached out. He made plans to fly to see me and then left me hanging. I told him he woukd have to stay at a hotel. I reached out to see if he was still coming . No answer. So I sent him a final text thanking him for the offer to come see me but I've changed my plans for the holidays. And I told him have a happy holidays. No need for me to get mad. I thanked him for continuing to show me he's an ass. I met him 10 years ago. He was an egotistical ass then and now he is 43 and he still is. Player gonna keep playing with his big D energy.

This video was right on time. Thank you Stephan.

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Interested topic could you do topic on why would your long term relationship try to intimidated or make you feel worried in the relationship Thanks appreciated

God i found him but the bad thing i have no feelings for him 😔😔😔

Very good topic🙏🏾✨

Work on building a healthy relationship and falling in love with the person that you see everyday, who has been through so much pain and heartache, but still manages to gets through it all.❤️ 💙KZreadr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship

Lau very happy for you ,hope everyone deserving fine that kind of love .Best wishes for your future ❤️🙏🌷

This is so true even through some minor rough patches he made sure we had great communication & overcome any disagreements. I also make sure to do my best to communicate and jeep a open honest gateway. Knowing how to nit play games we agreed nothing is off thr table when it comes to letting each other k own how we feel good or bad. Not going to bed angry, not playing games giving space for personal alone time. Sometimes distance apart gives people time to reflect and put things in perspective nobody needs to be "right" rather we need to agree to disagree & make sure we're on the same level on the very important matters. :) Thank you for the information

I don't know if this applies for most men who are autistic. Sometimes it's like pulling teeth to get them out of their house. Also, making plans can be an issue because they perceive time differently and they forget. I have to ask him if he wants to go I the movies or do things and make sure he puts them in his calendar and set alarms so he picks me up on time.

I think if a guy is known to be a player, the onus of pursuit needs to be on him because he could really just be playing the woman in a lineup.

I have 3 Months daring someone and havent made the step....to name it

after 3 yrs LDR relationship suddenly he told me that he have no plan to have a family and even to have kids and want to be just alone . but we still in a relationship and telling me he love's me👀😔

@thephoenixlady

Жыл бұрын

What do you want? I think you should have asked these questions early on in the relationship, if you love him it's going to be hard to leave but I still think you should ask yourself what do you want, do you want to continue with him or not?. That is my 2 cents advice

@molissab1211

Жыл бұрын

🚩🚩🚩

@brendaotega3748

Жыл бұрын

He wants to keep drinking the 'milk' without buying the 'cow'...

@jayc5756

Жыл бұрын

@@thephoenixlady Exactly. Those stuff you talk about from the jump

@jayc5756

Жыл бұрын

@@molissab1211 Facts!

Yes tactics he plays those

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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& let me say, "The law of attraction" in "ITSELF, (IS A GAME) for the SIMPLE minded. (Real recognizes REAL) Its not a game of CHESS...(Unless you "View" it that way"...🤷

video imported in my head.

Yes two way street! However - people play games. If you don't want to marry someone you won't lol.

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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thank you for sharing ☺️

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Thank you, Stephan! You have compassion! GOD BLESS YOU, ABUNDANTLY FOREVER IN JESUS’ HOLY! THANK YOU, LORD JESUS IN ADVANCE!🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️🌟👑💪🏽

Wise and true

He only says good morning, how’s your day going, or good night. He doesn’t seem to wanna talk about nothing else unless it’s sex.

INITIALLY, he should APPROACH the woman SO HE SHOWS his true interest & ONCE they are communicating regularly THE WOMAN should be able to REACH OUT to him & vice versa

If he wants to communicate with me, he has to Initiate. I try to make small talk, but he won’t initiate small talk with me, I let that go. If I am not interested in him in any way, I do my best not to chit chat. Men/Women let you know when they are not interested. There is no reason to jump up and down waving a flag to get their attention. Let it go.

YESSS. 😊😊TRUE FACTS 🙏🙏

I love listening to you

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Stephan, what is your definition of consistent? A few times per week, daily etc.

@joyricherson4570

Жыл бұрын

That's not up to him, that's up to you. There should be no room for doubt or questions

Thanks for shedding light on the sad reality that toxic dating coaches for both men and women are spewing the same crap: ignore him/her to get him/her to miss you. That’s the best way to keep people single, and also the best way to continue giving work to dating coaches. I’m glad you’re not on of them!

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Thanks very much 🙏 i have Learnt a lot

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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@Lizzygracias256

Жыл бұрын

@@stephanSpeakss ok dear

Hallelujah, Amen Amen !!

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Hi Stephan. Please what about if reverse is the case. When a lady is serious about a guy?

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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If you do text him first, then you initiate the first contact and he still doesn’t respond to you even though he’s proposed to you can you excepted and he’ll leave you a text and then you don’t hear from him all day even if you respond to it sometimes you don’t hear from them a couple days what do you do then?

@foxyfilly428

Жыл бұрын

Ask him. Get a conversation started.

I don't care so move on

🙏🏾🙌🏽❤

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He introduced me to his family and when I asked him that I want to introduce you too to my family, he said, “NO” I asked him the reason and he said, “you’re not the secret of my life & I don’t need to hide you but since I don’t want to commit so I won’t meet your family”

🌊🦆🙏

@stephanSpeakss

Жыл бұрын

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Make sure you don't have bed bugs there's a person that has bed bugs are dirty or don't have any money or live with their mom and dad what do you do about that if they got issues and they go with other people it's good thank God I don't have to deal with that s*** anymore I don't got to deal with the bed bugs or anything or the issue the other woman does

Bed bugs