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@QwikAdDotCom

3 жыл бұрын

Common sense is powerful. Common sense always wins. (Or at least it should).

@mariannebrandon8891

3 жыл бұрын

Dave I have a question I’m saving for a house I’m hoping to buy next year but I’m also going to get my drivers license this summer should I pay cash for a car and just put 10% down on a house and will it affect me getting a mortgage if I pay cash for a car and I don’t have a car payment it won’t affect my debt debt to income ratio correct?

@oneaboveallferrarifan2725

3 жыл бұрын

I mean she doesn’t have long on this world it seems, best advice is to leave the money with one of her sons and hope for the best

@WaitingxInxSilence

3 жыл бұрын

Sis needs to get out. I think Jean dodged the age question because she’s scared her husband will find out. I’m not sure a pastor would be the best person to help since knowing the husband could compromise his objectivity.

@nathalieisneon

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t know.. this is sad but in her case I wouldn’t recommend telling him. It sounds to me like he is VERY abusive and manipulative and she’s been in it too long. This is the first time I disagree w them in this one just because her situation here puts her at risk and this small amount of money to care for her mother and her kids. I worry telling him would put the inheritance at risk, or even worse, her life. This is too deep and has been too deep for too long.

this is why i’m never impressed when people say how long they’ve been married. number of years doesn’t equate to love.

@alladreamwedreamed

3 жыл бұрын

My grandparents were married over 40 years and hated each other. Separate bedrooms for decades. This generation was told divorce was a sin or would ruin your life.

@blueowl8928

3 жыл бұрын

@@alladreamwedreamed same with my grandparents. Married for 56 years but hated each other’s guts. The only reason they stayed together was to keep all the family assets together, and because like you said, divorce was very frowned upon. My parents have been married for 36 years, but most of their marriage has also been pure misery. Thankfully they’re doing better now, but our childhood was definitely affected by all the fighting, tension, and constant threats of divorce. My parents were also not shy about repeatedly declaring that my sister and I were the only reason they were still together...which, for the record, does NOT comfort a child whatsoever. It instead makes them feel like all the misery is their fault. Needless to say, I have no interest in getting married.

@johnallen3497

3 жыл бұрын

My wife and I have been married for decades. Marriage is what you make of it. If our marriage got as bad as the caller’s is we would divorce.

@ws775

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, it really is the quality of the relationship and not just the duration. You can just put up with each other or really embrace their companionship.

@jesusbarajas9444

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnallen3497 Read - The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

At this point, the lady is waiting for her husband to drop dead.

@GooniesGirl

3 жыл бұрын

🎯

@riverdaletales8457

3 жыл бұрын

Yikes.

@drwpsych

3 жыл бұрын

This is the sad truth about many decades long marriages.

@nataliazakula3400

3 жыл бұрын

Better to have a plan B....because he’s not dropping dead any time soon.

@Godislove_700

3 жыл бұрын

Sad to said...

She's over 70 and her mom is still alive, wow what a blessing

@nickysunshine8494

3 жыл бұрын

Was thinking the exact same thing

@jumpmanyang3117

3 жыл бұрын

her mom is probably 95+ years old.

@ginap5003

3 жыл бұрын

Not if you had my mother...UGH!!! The single most narcissistic person I’ve ever known.

@swhite8381

3 жыл бұрын

@@ginap5003 we must be siblings

@swhite8381

3 жыл бұрын

@@ldav2006 that’s amazing ! ♥️

I'm the child of a marriage like this and let me tell you, the spouses aren't the only ones who are left damaged.

@belarte7063

3 жыл бұрын

Truth

@meeraglides3485

3 жыл бұрын

Hear hear

@Picca65

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, truth

@jjjackson5183

3 жыл бұрын

That is why the wives work so.hard to.keep the family togethwr. I am sorry! 💔

@Naturefan354

3 жыл бұрын

@@jjjackson5183 Well sometimes it's the wives. Sometimes it's the husband trying to work hard to save the relationship.

My parents are married for 40 years. When my mom retired my dad spent that money so quickly. ALL OF IT. He has never been able to keep a job in his entire life and looked forward to state pension as though it was a lottery. So I get where this woman is coming from.

@sharond.940

3 ай бұрын

This is sad. He spent the monthly allotment in full?

@angelbabeasmr

2 ай бұрын

I have a friend who when her mom died, her dad spent all of the money her and her siblings were meant to have. He left nothing for them. It was a lot of money and he ran through it quickly 😓

@John-209

2 ай бұрын

State pension? are you is America

@lr9010

2 ай бұрын

@@John-209yes. There are federal and state jobs.

@barbthegreat586

Ай бұрын

That's why you should never stay together with a mooching partner.

Telling an abuser info like this - I have money & you can’t have it - is a nightmare in the making. He will make her life hell every day in the scariest of ways until she hands over the money. She needs to put it in a trust like Dave said & tell no one. A trust *he cannot touch* ever.

@Kindcaringsoulgentle

Ай бұрын

But then they use that as leverage to manipulate. it's incredibly tricky and constantly balancing that persons and your own emotional wellbeing.

@ebriggs3498

26 күн бұрын

Ditto! Happened to me!

@Ella-Bella2024

11 күн бұрын

I agree. She's in an abusive relationship and should not tell her husband. If she was in a healthy marriage, she would be fine with telling her husband..

@Noname-wi8xp

5 күн бұрын

Yes. That was my immediate thought You do not under any circumstances tell a controlling person who treats you like a kid that you got a massive sum of money, especially from someone he doesn’t like

@Noname-wi8xp

5 күн бұрын

Also, it could absolutely hurt to tell a controlling person they should go to marriage counseling with you. Many people don’t take that statement as anything other than “you are the problem and need to fix this” even if it’s true. Quick way to put someone on alert that their relationship is at risk & make them suspicious. I hope things got better

Consult an attorney and do not tell your husband if you do not wish to. You know what life would be like if your husband knew about this money. Life with an abusive person or a narcissist goes outside the Ramsey system IMO.

If she does not trust him it is because she knows him. Should not tell him because he will keep hounding her for the money.

@smile4cla

3 жыл бұрын

I am thinking that he is either physically or emotionally abusive or both and that is why she doesn't want to tell him because he will force her to give him the money.

@RG-hf4et

3 жыл бұрын

@@smile4cla Or he is a gambler, will go out and buy a new car, spend money on his girlfriend if he has one or two, etc.

@kylaj3602

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. He could be a narcissist

@DCamp1271

3 жыл бұрын

This is the most reasonable response I've seen.

@turdferguson5847

3 жыл бұрын

Through the years I have learned that there are three sides to every story - her side, his side and the truth.

Dave dosent realize a lot of people stay married out of convenience not because of love.

@Jay_88_

3 жыл бұрын

This ain't his first rodeo I'm sure he realizes it

@LeatherSatcheI

3 жыл бұрын

Yup that’s how my step dad and mom are right now, common law.

@everydaybodybuilding2282

3 жыл бұрын

Commitment not convenience. Marriage isn’t about your personal happiness. It’s not inconvenient to get a divorce. Divorce is not a good thing and too many people do it. I will never understand people who criticize others for staying committed to their supposedly lifelong commitment.

@rrrrrfffff

3 жыл бұрын

@@everydaybodybuilding2282 I don't know what call you listened to, but she doesn't sound committed. She sounds stuck. Maybe watch this again. I am not pro-divorce, for the record, but if your *ONLY* reason for staying married to someone is because you are against divorce, then neither you or your spouse are truly honoring what it means to be married.

@factsoverfeelings421

3 жыл бұрын

@@everydaybodybuilding2282 That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. If you’re not happy in a marriage, you shouldn’t stay in it.

They got married in the 60’s and she probably didn’t understand how to stand up to him until she was married for 20-25 years, at that point it was too ingrained in their marriage. She didn’t want to blow up her family so she just lived with it all these years. Now she’s just in survival mode

@genxx2724

3 жыл бұрын

Might as well divorce. I see no downside. Statistically he wouldn’t help her as she weakens with age anyway; rather she’d be burdened with caregiver duties for a hateful man. Her mom needs help. Maybe she and her mother can live together.

@I_like_turtles_67

3 жыл бұрын

You mean cash & prizes mode.

@genxx2724

3 жыл бұрын

@@I_like_turtles_67 Investment payoff mode.

@Kmanjr0

3 жыл бұрын

@@genxx2724 grow up grandma we both know she’s but living off him and when the head of household weakens the jackals come out in everyone.

@cortezbaylor1054

3 жыл бұрын

She may be a stay at home mom and never made any money.

Dave and Christy are not in an abusive marriage so I don’t think they have any understanding of what it’s like to live with someone that abuses you mentally and or physically so they can’t relate to what this woman is saying. That might be OK advice for someone in a normal marriage situation but I get the feeling that poor lady is not.

@offgridjack5779

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct!! The Ramsey's don't have a clue.

@troycarpenter3675

3 жыл бұрын

All conclusions based on Speculation. May be may be not. It's scary to hear this.

@letsgovegan4491

8 ай бұрын

Agreed 👍

@charisginn6932

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, I get what he’s saying about not supporting lying, but if you know that telling the truth will put you in danger, it’s 1000% better to lie.

@hebron12

4 ай бұрын

Precarious and disrespectful aren’t abusive.

I'd prefer a divorce as opposed to living so many years in this type of relationship. Just imagine what else they're hiding from each other

@highlyfavored2434

3 жыл бұрын

@@matthewkoch6937 I'll take messy over getting killed out of longterm resentment and contempt

@Randomname254

2 ай бұрын

He would get 50 per cent of her inheritance in a divorce, at least if there is some gender equality.

@lhv569

2 ай бұрын

I doubt he'd let her off with a divorce.

@Kindcaringsoulgentle

Ай бұрын

@@lhv569 sounds like he's abusive. that's not right. she should flee in that case. sounds like she'd have no other option.

I have empathy for this woman because my marriage was similar to hers. My ex wife was a very manipulative and tried to control my life. I was miserable and felt worthless. I’ve been divorced for ten years and I’m finally at peace.

@jmc8076

3 жыл бұрын

I agree and glad you found peace. It’s more common then others think.

@chrisconsorte7893

3 жыл бұрын

@@jmc8076 thanks

@ayanomar1408

3 жыл бұрын

it is good to read that you are in a better place🙌🏾

@chrisconsorte7893

3 жыл бұрын

@@ayanomar1408 thanks.

@realfriendsunlimitedpodcas3140

3 жыл бұрын

So awful !!

My Dad and Mother had the same situation. My Mother inherited $250K and my Dad took it and spent it on things he wanted (cars, Condo's, etc.) My Dad is very controlling and self-centered and used verbal abuse to get his way. My Mother said she would have divorced him years ago, but she was worried what would happen to us kids. She kept this abuse hidden from us kids until about a year ago. My sister inherited the same personality defect from my Dad. My Mother lived a horrible life with this man. She deserved better.

@johnevans6053

3 жыл бұрын

@@Austenfan177 No she never did leave him. I guess she got numb to the abuse. She got sick, and I took early retirement to take care of her. This is when she finally told me about him. She passed away a year ago. My Dad is living with me now and is broke. I noticed small clues as I was growing up that something just wasn't right. Because of this I was very responsible with money all my life and have plenty.

@violetafernandez496

3 жыл бұрын

My dad did the same thing with my mom.

@fearless6947

3 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I was thinking. The dad will get the money and spend it. I feel like he will not leave anything for the kids but she wants to leave it for them. Seem like she can't spend it herself because the money is kept a secret

@lilsamantha1

3 жыл бұрын

you are literally my mother and your sister my aunt.

@patriciajoyner9871

3 жыл бұрын

Bingo

After 50 yrs of marriage she knows this man, what poor lady. This is what people really have to deal with. Hopefully she can found support to help her.

She said "he wont let me." He sounds abusive she doesn't have to tell him anything but where the door is. If anything she needs to get away from him.

@danielholden5847

4 ай бұрын

Exactly. It has some kind of abuse written all over it

@user-dq4ri6fi7b

3 ай бұрын

exactly and Dave saying tell him is like sending her into the lions den

@benruss4130

3 ай бұрын

It's better than her lying about it and then him finding out ... That's one of the most common ways a dysfunctional marriage escalates to a violent marriage

@kisong1960

2 ай бұрын

Or you gotta hear from both sides before making any conclusions like that. Anyone can say anything to get their support, especially women

@Sheryl777

2 ай бұрын

@@kisong1960 Good thing you don't seem to think that men ever have problems telling the truth right? lol

Different generation. People stuck it out even when they were miserable

@Simonofcalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

When you fear the imaginary guy in the sky.

@spiritualisrael007

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Marital vows are not taken seriously anymore.

@spiritualisrael007

3 жыл бұрын

@@Simonofcalifornia God is not mocked... and plenty of people who do not fear God stay in miserable marriages because they feel stuck.

@Simonofcalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

@@spiritualisrael007 lol, god fearing society.

@biellaspointofview2054

3 жыл бұрын

@@Simonofcalifornia more like survival

She sounds so defeated.

@544shadow

3 жыл бұрын

Not to mention nasty

@gayled3059

3 жыл бұрын

I didn't hear 'defeated', I hear that she wants to look after 'things' for others, and keep him out of it. That sounds kind of determined actually. Good for her!

@gayled3059

3 жыл бұрын

@@544shadow How is SHE nasty??

@544shadow

3 жыл бұрын

@@gayled3059 what would you say IF HE WAS WITH holding money from her? Honesty please.

@abelincoln2022

3 жыл бұрын

Yea, at first when Dave jumped back with the don't hide things in your relationship, I thought... that's the sound a heartbreak makes... felt it through the phone. Caller, if you're there, know you are worthy of love even if your husband is too bad to know it.

I wouldn’t tell him about the money, the way she describes him he will “hound” her, until he has it , he will make her life miserable, to not mention abusive

I had a coworker that won a small amount of money on a scratch off. She decided to hide the money from her controlling husband so she could send her daughter to college. When he found out....he went ballistic. She ended up having to move out into a hotel and eventually filed for divorce

@janicenunn8525

3 жыл бұрын

shows how much he cares about his daughter vs. how much he need to control people and money; backwards priorities!!

@roses8493

3 жыл бұрын

@@janicenunn8525 maybe he was offended that she lied, like what else does she lie about?

@janicenunn8525

3 жыл бұрын

@@roses8493 and what else was he controlling? Marriage should be a partnership, not a dictatorship, but he was signaling he preferred the latter.

@misspriss2482

3 жыл бұрын

@@roses8493 Huh? Nah sis. Him being offended that she lied doesn't justify abusive behavior.

@seabreeze4559

3 жыл бұрын

@@roses8493 it wasn't his

You can hear how bad she is doing when she said " over 50 years".

@GooniesGirl

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@eileeneclark9011

3 жыл бұрын

2/2/21....ANYBODY TODAY CAN GET A DIVORCE. I DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR THIS OLD WOMAN!

@colonless7512

3 жыл бұрын

She's one half of the equation. It's easy to be like she's been stuck because of this guy off a 5 minute call but she had 50. Years. To rectify any issues, get divorced.. assert herself. I definitely am not putting all the blame on the guy or her.

@RG-hf4et

3 жыл бұрын

@@colonless7512 You obviously do not understand older generations and how they were brought up to stay in loveless or bad marriages no matter what till death do us part.

@Picca65

3 жыл бұрын

@@eileeneclark9011 not everyone can do that financially at that age.

Go talk to an attorney about this. Dave - this sounds like an abusive marriage. Abusive people will “force” that access. Ma’am, don’t tell that man. You’re borrowing additional trouble.

@Libra8410

3 жыл бұрын

100% agree. She sounds kind of scared...

@raqmelah8224

3 жыл бұрын

Yes abuse is a total different reason to hide her assets from him. She sounds scared so she should absolutely keep this from him. It's easier said than done. DON'T TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR MONEY.

@Sheryl777

3 жыл бұрын

@@saulgoodman2018 She didn't give the whole story either. It may not be abusive, it may be that she is the controller. However, there is no way to tell with such a small part of the story we were given.

@dianaprince7713

3 ай бұрын

ABSOLUTELY!!!

@robinhollenbeck367

3 ай бұрын

​@Sheryl777 By law, an inheritance is solely the property of the person mentioned in the will. It is not community property. That is why she needs to update her own will.

Never discount the power of a spouse who uses strong emotional pressure to control the other. So true that it's a boundary issue.

My heart hurts for this woman. This has to be one of the saddest calls I’ve listened to.

@lexithompson7426

3 жыл бұрын

Nice comment .... Where are you from ?

@belarte7063

3 жыл бұрын

True!!!!..😐

@cctypcc

3 жыл бұрын

Pray for God's sufficient grace for her.

@twincherry4958

3 жыл бұрын

The void is scary

I learned a lot about the “address the problem now” principle back when I managed a Pizza Hut, people don’t ever magically get better if their faults or problems are never addressed. Mind blowing really.

@rawlstonm97

3 жыл бұрын

Fact

@chrisconsorte7893

3 жыл бұрын

That’s more true than ever!

I understand this woman. When it comes to money it’s hard to trust someone especially if you die. She wants to make sure the money goes to the children.

@tomrogers8417

3 жыл бұрын

What a double standards

@cortezbaylor1054

3 жыл бұрын

Shes probably never made any money, now that she gets her hands on some its all hers.

@AccentBwoy

3 жыл бұрын

@@tomrogers8417 facts. Make it was the other way around

@bonnevillebagger9147

3 жыл бұрын

Rules for thee, not for me.

@cortezbaylor1054

3 жыл бұрын

I think it's good to know how these women truly feel

I disagree with Dave on this one. If he never had any respect for her family then he should never reap the benefits of her family.

@Shontise_Shonie

3 жыл бұрын

I definitely agree with you I would hide it!!!!

@user-cv3gd2wr5q

3 жыл бұрын

And if your spouse were to hide a very large sum of money from you...?

@Nessal83

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-cv3gd2wr5q no problem. I wouldn't want money from a family that I never respected.

@Naturefan354

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nessal83 Well than she should divorce him then! I agree with Dave, if you are married to someone then you shouldn't lie and hide things otherwise leave them or divorce them. Don't use them only when it's convenient for you.

@stevencloninger

3 жыл бұрын

Dave told her to keep it for her family, just to tell her husband about the money.

Someone who hasn't had this kind of relationship, can't really understand what it could really be like.

@geanieollman2320

13 күн бұрын

Agreed. I left a controlling abusive relationship of 28 years. Found he had been hiding over $60K of debt all the while. Now I know why we never had any money. This guy managed big buck non-profit donations for 30 years and we were constantly on the brink of bankruptcy! I am thankfully out and rebuilding my life. This call broke my heart but I am glad there are things she can do to protect her inheritance.

@geanieollman2320

13 күн бұрын

He told me I had no business opening his credit card bills. Then they stopped coming to the house.

The lady gave them one sentence and they ran with it for 15 minutes lol.

@shawmeck9323

3 жыл бұрын

You do realize that this is 100% staged. They know exactly what the full situation is and they are trying to protect her identity.

@Superboy8545

3 жыл бұрын

@@shawmeck9323 What do you mean staged? These calls are organic

@garretteckhardt8036

3 жыл бұрын

@Dog Mutt general topics is not equal to being staged. I'm sorry you feel manipulated, maybe Dr. John Delony would be able to talk you through that!

@lovewisdom498

3 жыл бұрын

Lol!

@josh_final

3 жыл бұрын

@Dog Mutt lame

I definitely would NOT tell your Pastor you have this money...

@michaelvan6675

3 жыл бұрын

Why?

@SantistaFighter

3 жыл бұрын

John K agree 1000%

@shaldana

3 жыл бұрын

@@michaelvan6675 Because the pastor will give biased advice. He's gonna say that 10% needs to go to the church, that she needs to share the money with a husband she's clearly terrified of, and a slew of other insane advice. Some things can't be fixed. She's 100% right in wanting to hide this money from her hubby. I wouldn't tell him either if he was my spouse and treated me to the point of fear. Sounds like she should have left eons ago. It is NEVER NEVER NEVER okay to stay in an abusive relationship, but unfortunately, pastors are a tad 'gotta make the marriage work!' types.

@Fiery154

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I wouldn’t have even called Dave. I’d have just seen an estate planner, possibly also a lawyer.

@swallowedinthesea11

3 жыл бұрын

Church and money are a terrible combo! Reminds me of Maria Holmes, the $188 million Lottery winner that became infamous for getting sued by her pastor who says Maria promised his church $1.5 million.

One of my friends married 42 years she received ALOT of $ from her parents passing. She would not keep any from him and he spent it all ! She is unhappy, bought him a new home because he wanted to move but they are not in accord at all. No respect

Sounds like an abusive relationship. "He won't let me?" What.......?

Oh, I am so sorry for her! 50 years with a person, and you don’t trust them? My marriage is the greatest blessing in my life! He gave me my babies and is my best friend. Nearly 35 years!

Checking this video to ensure this isn't my wife calling........

@baw-mq4bt

3 жыл бұрын

Lol good one

@rrrrrfffff

3 жыл бұрын

@Steven Stocki your dog in your pfp is gorgeous! ♥️

@thesunflowchannel1995

3 жыл бұрын

Everything hidden shall eventually get revealed

@damiandmb2092

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@yadii416

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

My first question would have been "do you feel safe at home" and THEN "do you need HELP?"

That poor woman. I’m so sad for her. I was married to someone like him. It’s very difficult. My heart goes out to her.

@jomontanee

3 жыл бұрын

Oh no. Why did you settle for less, sweetheart?

@az21bob666

2 жыл бұрын

she wants to keep this a secret so she prove she not a good women, why should the kids get the money maybe her husband that been working all his life, what if she has not work in 40 year and he pays all the bills,

@fallcitylouisville2700

3 ай бұрын

You have got to be kidding, right? She's been working all her life as well...in the home, raising children. This is the most outrageous, chauvinistic statement and I have to wonder about your age. Sounds like you're stuck in the 50's.

@sensimania

3 ай бұрын

​@@az21bob666 Too many "what ifs". You don't know their situation. So it doesn't make sense to use speculation to conclude that she's not a good woman

@az21bob666

3 ай бұрын

a women that hide money form husband is nto a good women.

Every body is judging and has something to say, her circumstance is a lot more common than people think

@thale8452

3 жыл бұрын

💯% Facts, Sad but so true. Especially for women in her generation.

@frag_g

4 ай бұрын

Absolutely. 100%

Dave doesn’t realize this, but he's making everyone’s quarantine better.

@GardenerEarthGuy

3 жыл бұрын

Lol... People are still in quarentine? Where are you living at- everything is open here.

@stephenshelton4267

3 жыл бұрын

Good Lord if I was still under quarantine at this point I would be rioting!

@uchihaitachi5905

3 жыл бұрын

@@GardenerEarthGuy Here in the UK we're in lockdown. Everything's closed!

@romiliomillermartin6851

3 жыл бұрын

Y’all still in quarantine ?

@ottawaan7326

3 жыл бұрын

@@GardenerEarthGuy major parts on Canada are still under “stay at home” orders, everything is closed still.

If you come from a family where absolutely nobody has ever divorced, the pressure to stay married to someone who refuses to change, go to counseling etc is overwhelming. It took me nearly 20 years to leave a marriage like this, my mother’s first words were what did I do wrong.

She’s from the generation where “how it looks” is what matters. It’s not her fault that she is used to putting on a brave face and not letting anyone know what goes on behind closed doors.

@writingonthewall3326

3 жыл бұрын

Intelligent comment.

@Picca65

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. And "love is overrated" and "marriage is hard work". That stuff. It sucks.

@hustlehardermommy9675

2 жыл бұрын

Not how it looks as much as honoring your commitment over your feelings.

If she tells him about the money and that she made it impossible for him to access it, he might beat her to death. That's way worse than simply hiding it when you're in a situation like hers. Hiding it might be her only option to stay physically safe. It's sad and disgusting, but unfortunately very real.

@crissieasmr7765

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, they are underestimating how much chaos will ensue as a result of him knowing about the money.

@everydaybodybuilding2282

3 жыл бұрын

Give me a freakin break. Slow your roll. You heard one side of souring marriage story and you’ve gone from zero to “beating her to death” based on some vague comments. For all you know she’s just using this as a way to justify her greed or maybe resentment towards him for some kind of marital issues. People are so quick to get out the pitchforks.

@dobycorder3206

3 жыл бұрын

Everyday Bodybuilding , I hear that you don’t like the extremes, and we only hear one side so she may be batty and accusing hubby of something he never does. However, if you look at how marriages were formed, negotiated, in 1960!, it’s is different than today and women had their roles which usually did not include finance management or much decision making at all. I know you wouldn’t want her abused in any way just because she has funds of her own. She wants her inheritance which is legally different than household wages or retirement. An estate attorney would be able to help her.

@TG-sy8hf

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly right

@bamafencer12

3 жыл бұрын

Money doesn’t the person, it changes people around them. That caller should hide that money and act like nothing happened.

She's been living in an oppressive relationship her whole life. Probably hasnt had much agency in her own decisions for most of the marriage.

@trentbelew4801

3 жыл бұрын

Says who

@LG123ABC

3 жыл бұрын

You can only be oppressed as much as you allow yourself to be oppressed -- at least in this country.

@Patsrthebest

3 жыл бұрын

Women having "agency" is a very bad thing. Wives are to obey their husbands. Husbands know what's best for their wives and the family.

@cristinariveratorres6077

3 жыл бұрын

@@Patsrthebest all people, men included are imperfect. Husbands will not always make the best decisions for their family. It is best for women to be smart enough in their own right to care for themselves and their kids too.

@Patsrthebest

3 жыл бұрын

@@cristinariveratorres6077parents are also sometimes imperfect. Not an excuse for kids to only listen to their parents when they want to. Adam was not deceived but the woman was deceived. Thats why husbands are to rule over their wives.

This was a cry for help from her to survive this, and you just projected your own life and values onto her life. You think it’s so simple, and can’t you hear her voice, that she has lived five decades with this dangerous man. Dave you were very wrong in judging her.

@SB-qv3yo

3 жыл бұрын

It wasn't a judgement. It was wisdom. What does it profit to gain but lose the soul? I praise God for His wisdom in keeping me intact spiritually, emotionally, psychologically while in a pressure cooker of abuse and control. He did this through honesty and being genuine and seeking constructive, empowering actions. If I had listened to others who wanted me to cash out and run or deceive during the lengthy drawn out horrible process I would have eroded my soul and thus my quality of life and walk with Christ. Instead I am strengthened and ever closer to my Lord and have amazing experiences of goodness, power and glory and new friendships through the incredible pain, fear and hardship. He gave her sound, specific advice that she could absorbed at this time that could get her to reach out and start the ball rolling! Truth be told...

@misspriss2482

3 жыл бұрын

@@SB-qv3yo That's wonderful for you, but you do realize that women die everyday in situations like this, right? If the man doesn't kill them, he physically abuses and tortures them on a regular basis. I'm sorry, but God did not create anybody to be abused. I also don't think that God intends for anybody to put up with physical and mental abuse for years on end. Also, just because a person leaves the relationship doesn't mean that they're seeking divorce. They could separate from the person until he or she gets help with their issues and stop taking things out on them. SMH.

@jessicaamy6711

3 ай бұрын

I could not agree more! It all felt so tone deaf, like they weren’t hearing her and just thinking about what they would do in their own realities

@courtneyw2612

2 ай бұрын

He wasn’t judging. She asked for advice and he gave it. Period.

My Step sister married a guy that was such a loser that when we gave their kids $15 cash for their birthday's (one week a part) she told them to hide it or the dad would take it. People don't understand what a bully is sometimes and she's gone along to get a long and she now she can't leave for whatever reason.

@jomontanee

3 жыл бұрын

God, so sad.

@ginabrogan6899

3 жыл бұрын

My cousin married a loser that stole the memorial box at their sons funeral. Their son died in a car accident at 16. He ex took the money while everybody else was at the cemetery. Then he took his new family to Disney. He is the biggest loser I ever knew........and 95 percent of the donations were from her side of the family.

@janeprescott7381

2 жыл бұрын

I had a coat tail rider they are easy to spot. First your helping them with a problem they have then they have a problem with you, then you are the reason and cause of all thier problems. Better to walk away

@karolynann4106

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

That generation of women came from a very different time in regards to relationships, especially if they didn't work and relied solely on the man. They are still out there. Women did not have the power then like they do today. So many reasons why.

@clair233

3 жыл бұрын

Well said

@ceecee8757

3 жыл бұрын

@@clair233 agreed. My mom and dad have been married for 48 years and if my mom didn't save her own stash, we would have starved!!!

@abark

3 жыл бұрын

The free love no fault divorce hedonistic generation?

@shrmnpatterson

3 жыл бұрын

Wrong

@genxx2724

3 жыл бұрын

@@abark Both extremes are damaging.

Two sides to every story. I think I'll give my wife of 40 years an extra long hug and kiss this afternoon. Even in our worst of times, we have never been where this couple is.

@letsgetjackdup9952

2 жыл бұрын

That's amazing.

@DaleC1980

4 ай бұрын

Yeah. I often wonder what the other side is in these calls. The person calling always sounds right. But there was another caller where the wife emailed later and it turned the whole scenario around.

I like how Dave said he won’t help her and then gave a hypothetical to help her hide the money.

Stand up for yourself sister. Cash the check and put all the money in a safe deposit box he doesn’t know about. Don’t tell him. You know your husband. This guy doesn’t.

@thomburleson7661

3 жыл бұрын

Why not a mattress?

@cloudedcolour5329

3 жыл бұрын

@@happycook6737 and if the SD box is in her name, he can get access, thats why dave suggested a trust with the daughters names on it

@elizabethrockett7549

4 ай бұрын

Safe deposit box is 0% interest and if she dies- the spouse will get the money - do a Trust as they suggested with your kids as beneficiaries.

@haroldbrown1674

3 ай бұрын

Open an E*Trade account in her name with her children as beneficiaries. Invest in S&P 500 index fund or growth stock mutual funds. He has NO say on this $. If he gets violent, then that is another issue.

God forbid I ever have such a relationship

@MissAtson

3 жыл бұрын

Scares the ish out of me. I'm mid-30s and single and hearing these types of things really concerns me.

@morenitaverde4636

3 жыл бұрын

Yes pray because There is no formula. Only God can send you a spouse where He can give you peace and joy throughout. There is no amount of time to know them before marriage that will help. How do you know how the spouse will act with children or when you start aging.

An excellent reminder that marital quality is not measured by the quantity of anniversaries.

@alexc5369

3 жыл бұрын

A marriage ages like a bottle of fine milk

@helena20000

17 күн бұрын

100% Truth/Fact

What she said about "by degrees'" really resonates with me. I was once in a relationship where I wasn't "allowed" to do many things because he wouldn't "let me". Thank God that seems like a lifetime ago.

@charisginn6932

4 ай бұрын

Yup. And how it one day gets to where you say something that seems normal to you (like “he won’t let me”), and then wonder why everyone around you is horrified. It’s really sad that we allow ourselves to get into these situations, often out of a misguided loyalty or sense of commitment.

I'd tell her to be brave. Leave him, get a little place of her own. Do what is in her heart. Look after her Mom and her kids. Enjoy the rest of her life in peace.

@lordlandbeast

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes divorces are expensive and nasty, I wish it were as easy as you made it sound

@RMClark-dl1ce

2 жыл бұрын

@@lordlandbeast I could not agree more. But a door has opened for her. She has money of her own and now is her chance.

@tiffanyfett1159

2 жыл бұрын

At 70? Not realistic

@anniethomas451

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely! I do not understand how people choose to spend most of their lives in misery. She is now blessed with a way out and should not spend one more minute being controlled and manipulated.

If he is a narcissist, she HAS to hide that money.

@Naturefan354

3 жыл бұрын

No she needs to end the relationship if she HAS to do anything like that.

@factsondeck1552

3 жыл бұрын

She sounds like the narcissist.

@keny9981

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, don't let your left hand know what the right hand has, learned that years ago

@kloatlanta

2 жыл бұрын

@@factsondeck1552 says the narcissist

Here this poor woman has been living in misery for probably 50 years. And what does she think about doing with the money? Using it to serve her parents and her children. She really should use it to help herself get established in her life apart from him.

@PhantomMagician1846

4 ай бұрын

wow thats assuming allot... there are two sides to every story and we haven't herd the man's POV.

This caller sounds a lot like my mom. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was a physically violent relationship at one point.

You cannot take care of the garden if your husband ties your hands behind your back.

Honestly, I know people like this. Easy to say to talk to him and stand up to him. With this mans age and time he’s not gonna change. Don’t tell him

@ayanomar1408

3 жыл бұрын

agree, she needs pro help

@Guitarlvr01

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. You can hear in her voice this relationship is what it is.

Christy is very intelligent. She always brings a good perspective and can articulate ideas well.

@rockylapham2599

3 жыл бұрын

Someone is in looooovveeee

@Elizabeth-yg2mg

Жыл бұрын

I like her a lot.

My parents stayed together for financial reasons. They were miserable ever since I could remember though. This is why I'm not in a hurry to get married, if ever. It's wonderful when it's healthy, supportive, and based on love, but I've personally rarely seen it happen like that.

@jones2277

3 жыл бұрын

are you going to have kids or no kids also?

@cloudedcolour5329

3 жыл бұрын

@@jones2277 you don't need to be married to have kids

I know someone in the same situation. Her husband was a big gambler, trips to Vegas, and bookies. He had his own business, which eventually failed when they were 62 years old. He told her, "we are broke." She told him no we are not. She saved over $450K in muni bond funds that he never knew about. Had he known, he would have spent it. They retired, moved to Florida, and retired on social security and income from the muni bonds.

@SchroederSport

3 жыл бұрын

Having a spouse siphoning income probably contributed to that business failing.

@kurts6741

3 жыл бұрын

@@SchroederSport No, she saved money from her own separate job. The business failed because all his manufacturing business went to Asia and the fact that he was a terrible money manager.

@misspriss2482

3 жыл бұрын

@@kurts6741 Gee, I sure hope that he doesn't continue to gamble or they're going to be broke again.

@kurts6741

3 жыл бұрын

He died in 2019.

@marcrose23

3 жыл бұрын

Wow - that’s crazy

Her: Doesnt want husband to know. Also her: calls on the radio with name and city

@Cotronixco

3 жыл бұрын

You are incorrect. Definitely pseudonym.

@blessedwifeandmama

3 жыл бұрын

@@Cotronixco oh yes possibly

@avantiiresha6687

3 жыл бұрын

May be fake names

@tenningale

3 жыл бұрын

@@blessedwifeandmama In some ways, this is like the Dear Abby column. They always changed the names.

@Rotimi4

3 жыл бұрын

If she’s over 70, chances are he is too, maybe even over 80. So he probably won’t be on KZread watching Dave Ramsey.

Deposit the funds in a brokerage account (Schwab, TD Ameritrade, etc) in your name only. List you kids as a beneficiary. You don’t need to spend $3000-$5000 to set this up.

@elizabethrockett7549

4 ай бұрын

Good point!

@RMMomma4Eva

10 күн бұрын

She probably doesn't have access to that much money anyway.

I can so relate to this lady. I think these types of relationships are more than most people know. This lady has probably worked very hard just to keep a roof over their heads and raise her family. To be honest, especially as a Christian who was raised completely against divorce, people do what they must to be grateful for what they have and survive. Trust me, marriage counseling doesn’t help because typically the other person just wants someone to take care of them while they remain being a child, and they are never the problem. I appreciate that you are trying to help encourage her, but understand that not all people are married to good emotionally balanced people.

I feel for this woman. You can hear the fear and frustration as well as the lack of respect in her voice for her husband. What an awful marriage.

This lady has been in a prison for a long time.

Dave- “I’m not going to help participate, but here contact an attorney and create a will and a trust and only put it only in your name”.

@machintelligence

3 жыл бұрын

That isn't hiding per se. It is protecting your property. She is free to tell him what she did -- or not.

@bonnevillebagger9147

3 жыл бұрын

@@machintelligence perhaps the man should put all of his assets into a trust??

@liviaclaire

3 жыл бұрын

@@bonnevillebagger9147 the inheritance from his parents or money made before he got married? Sure. The money made by working/capital gains during a marriage? No, that is household money and it is to be shared equally between spouses.

@bonnevillebagger9147

3 жыл бұрын

@@liviaclaire I see no difference. If a partner of mine hides money from the household, then I will do the same. It’s a moral issue.

@liviaclaire

3 жыл бұрын

@@bonnevillebagger9147 the law is the difference. In most states one does not have to share the money made before marriage and from an inheritance with their spouse. Also, putting money in a trust is not the same thing as hiding them, stop twisting the words.

I wonder how she is now. Hope everything is okay.

There are cases where not telling a spouse is actually in both peoples best interests. I think she knows her husband well enough to know she shouldn't tell him. Relationships and problems can be very complex including mental health issues. Some people are committed to their spouse no matter what but they may not ever be able to have the relationship they want to have.

@ErinWilke

2 жыл бұрын

Nothing is beyond repair, but you both have to be willing to do the work to get there. Clearly they haven't been doing the work. They don't have a relationship at all if they don't have trust.

@reneedwards1082

Жыл бұрын

Oh, so just to be clear, you believe in deception?

@elizabethrockett7549

4 ай бұрын

@@reneedwards1082If someone is abused- you don’t share everything.

@Sheryl777

2 ай бұрын

@@reneedwards1082 If it's HER money, she can do whatever she wants to do with it, with no fear of anyone else (including her abusive husband) getting their hands on it.

She's been married since before women were legally allowed to open bank accounts by themselves. I can't blame or judge her for hiding money. For all we know the husband is a gambling addict or has creditors after him.

@carylhalfwassen8555

3 жыл бұрын

In 1972 in eastern Ontario, Canada I tried to write a check for groceries. The store would not take it without my husband’s signature. I was the breadwinner at the time.

@lindamayberry6904

3 жыл бұрын

My Aunt opened a checking account when she became eligible for social security. Her husband went up to the bank and had them close her account and move her social security checks into his account. He was the kind of guy that handled all the finances and when she needed money he would tell her to gather some of their chicken eggs and go sale them to the country store in town.

@lym6008

2 жыл бұрын

@@lindamayberry6904 wow :( do you know when he did that? I can’t fully grasp how much some things have changed

@Sheryl777

2 ай бұрын

@@lindamayberry6904 I'm not exactly sure HOW the husband was able to close someone else's checking account and do all that you said he did, but I would think that would be illegal for him to have done, and also illegal for the bank to have done if that did happen

@barbthegreat586

Ай бұрын

​@@Sheryl777You'd be surprised what kind of things you can do in small, local banks, even today (even though they're illegal).

Sad situation. So important that you marry the right person.

@gregb6469

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes people change, and not for the better.

I just want to give this lady a hug.

She sounds scared just asking Dave about it. First I thought he might be a gambler but as she said more ("he won't let me") I just felt afraid for her.

@karolynann4106

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

Toxic abusive people don’t listen to reason. It’s sad what she’s going through but she has learned not to share too much with him for a reason. She probably had a very good reason for not wanting him to even know about this. It’s not ideal by a long shot, but expecting decency and logic from a toxic person can be dangerous

@everydaybodybuilding2282

3 жыл бұрын

Or she didn’t have a good reason. You make a lot of assumptions and give her the benefit of the doubt. You only heard one side of the story. She’s being weirdly vague too. Could totally be spinning this up to paint her husband as a tyrant in order to justify her greed and a failing marriage.

@sami-g6087

3 жыл бұрын

So True its very dangerous especially when it comes to your money.

@lamontyoung3709

3 жыл бұрын

@@everydaybodybuilding2282 I think I was just going on what was said. Sure she could be not telling the truth. But aren’t you doing the same thing you said I did just in reverse?

@everydaybodybuilding2282

3 жыл бұрын

@@lamontyoung3709 No I said "could" I'm not passing judgement on these people like you. You are speaking in absolutely as if you know the situation. I am simply pointing out that there are other possibilities and that we don't really know where the truth lies in this situation. There are two sides to every story.

@everydaybodybuilding2282

3 жыл бұрын

@@lamontyoung3709 her husband very well might be a terrible person. He might very well be a perfectly nice guy. We have no idea.

In my state, inheritance is legally separate property anyway. If you inherit something, it is yours to do with as you see fit.

I'm heart broken over all the underlying oppression in this call🥺

I've been so guilty of sleeping things under the rug because I thought I was being the better person but you are right... it built up so much resentment and blew up in my face. I am still learning. Thank you for your talk!

@kagnewcobra5228

2 жыл бұрын

Why are you " sleeping" under the rug ? LOL

My mom alway told me to make sure I had money hidden away. She’d say “baby just in case always just in case”

@mattschmitt9924

3 жыл бұрын

Your mom was telling you to lie to your husband and children? How is her marriage going?

@blackworldtraveler3711

3 жыл бұрын

One of the many reasons why I don’t want to get married. Don’t see the point.

@frankm2385

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like your mom experienced a horrible relationship. Whether it be with your father or former boyfriend.

@lf6400

3 жыл бұрын

Mom lived at a time when women didn’t have equality in their marriage. They were under their husbands and society reinforced that message. If you had a good husband life was good, but if you had a bad husband life could be very hard. Todays women have been encouraged to demand better treatment in their relationships. There are still bad relationships but the mainstream message is not to stay in a dangerous situation. I believe it was her was of saying if it gets bad, LEAVE!

@squishiette

3 жыл бұрын

Yes great advice. I think this way and will teach all my kids this way, boy or girl. It is important for a person to have financial security. You can trust your partner 100% but there will always be things that can come up that is out of your control. Growing up in a poor family, only my dad worked and my mother did not have any money of her own. She chose to stay at home and if there were times of struggles, all she would do is stress over it and project all those negative feelings onto us. She saved her own little 'stash' where she could and used it to buy things to treat herself etc but she is clearly unhappy financially and it will never be enough despite it being her choice. Seeing that, i value the importance or working and having savings kept aside for emergencies never to be touched. When i do get married, that money i've saved will be set aside for no one to use but me. My husband doesn't need to know about it but i have no problems telling him and letting him know i do have a emergency fund. If we are financially struggling i am more than happy to use it to get us by, but it is not open on the table to people to decide to maybe use it on a holiday or new car etc. That is the importance i see in 'hidden money'.

Geez 50 years and you can't trust your spouse... I can't imagine being in such a marriage. I love and am very open with my husband and he is the same with me. We both agree that in our case I'm best at managing our finances, but he is still first beneficiary if I die and I trust he would do his best if I die to take care of our child.

@leonilamontgomery9464

3 жыл бұрын

I will run!

@vankyer758

3 жыл бұрын

time changes everything

@gamerji-li4755

3 жыл бұрын

@@vankyer758 10 years with my husband and our feelings have only grown, not died down like apparently this couple. We're very honest with each other though.

@gamerji-li4755

3 жыл бұрын

@@leonilamontgomery9464 I'm wondering if 50 years ago the marriage they had was already toxic and full of secrets and distrust. They should have split a long time ago if that was the case.

@rebeccashields9626

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. That would be so sad. Imagine spending 50 years in a relationship where you are afraid and controlled like that. My husband is my best friend, and makes my life and our kids lives so much better.

If I had this kind of inheritance or any kind of inheritance while my married my ex husband would have been all over it would have been much the same way. He wouldn't have let me spend it or save it as I saw fit. He was controlling in a very subtle way so well that I couldn't even tell he was doing that. It has made me very wary and hard to trust others.

The hosts wanted desperately to help her but they know the remedy is gone. You can't turn back time. This isn't a 20 or 30 year old whom you can tell to divorce, move on, etc. It's an elderly woman who threw away 50 years. Her entire life. Good luck to her. This story hits hard. Very tragic.

@MarksTournaments

10 ай бұрын

You don’t know the whole 50 years, could be alright but she still wants to not give him any of the money

@Bir_Singh

3 ай бұрын

Yup​@@MarksTournaments

HE probably has money hidden from HER. In fact, he has probably hidden LOTS of things from her!!!

@kojack635

3 жыл бұрын

You probably don't know what you probably don't know

I think deep down Dave understood the necessity of her having to hide this money from her husband given her age but didn’t feel he could be honest publicly.

@RMMomma4Eva

10 күн бұрын

It would be a slippery slope for him to advise her a certain way because of everyone else listening. He actually did figure out the truth later in the discussion though and did tell her what she wanted to know. Do a trust and a will.

I love Christy so much..she always uses the best analogies to get her point across

This is what happen when an entire generation of women, (the June Cleaver wives) were taught that the man is king of the castle and that morally you should stay with someone no matter what because you made a vow. A vow based on how a person is when you got married, not the beast they could turn into after. Seventy years old and she is worried/afraid a man want let her handle her own money.

Some times some spouses put a lot of pressure on the other to get what they want. I would never have a joint account with my spouse. He would have taken all my money. I would not tell him if I would come into a lot of money. The kind of pressure that would bring in. He wouldn’t stop until he got the last dime. He felt entitled to it. I understand this lady

I'm 70, so like this lady, I grew up in the 50s and 60s. I often heard it said 'no wife of mine goes out to work' and that was an accepted point of view! A school friend of mine left her 50 year marriage with the clothes she stood in. We can't judge the decisions made then by modern norms. Nobody thought then that wives had much to hope for other than having a husband. Very sad, I hope she finds the strength to break away with her money and have a life.

I’m so sorry for this lady. I’ve been there and continue to endure it daily. God bless you!

She's married in name only. She doesn't have a relationship with her husband. She knows he's a bum.

@topshelfbullys7889

3 жыл бұрын

And you know all that from one sentence that she stated and because they ran with it for 15 minutes? Remember there’s two sides to every story

@topshelfbullys7889

3 жыл бұрын

I bet she didn’t work a day in 50 years and he’s the provider and they’re barely making it and now that they’ve got some money she wants to keep it all

@Sheryl777

2 ай бұрын

@@topshelfbullys7889 If she is getting an inheritance it is HER'S to decide what to do with it. Not his decision.

“I want to hide a lot of money from my husband. What’s your advice?” A divorce. A divorce is my advice

@johanna6050

2 жыл бұрын

She probably can't afford to live on her own, and $175k really isn't that much money, especially if she needs it to help care for her mother.

@lilacsky9126

2 жыл бұрын

Some people are religious and divorce is a sin. Life isn't always perfect.

@LogeySmalls

2 жыл бұрын

@@lilacsky9126 if he’s disrespectful to the point that she feels the need to hide money from him, there’s probably some spouse abuse going on behind the scenes. And frankly if her religion mandates that abuse victims have to remain married to their abusers, then she needs to find a new religion anyway in my opinion.

@lilacsky9126

2 жыл бұрын

@@LogeySmalls you can separate if there is abuse, but divorce would be a sin according to the Bible.

Someone out there is reading this saying “you horrible woman! How dare you! That’s not what marriage is about!”

@Simonofcalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Well buy bull says .......

A woman is at greatest risk of harm or death when she is trying to leave the relationship....Not sure if this is an abuse case or not, but just something to keep in mind. May explain why she stayed so long.

Props to Christy for realizing this was probably an abusive (at least emotional or worse) situation and trying to let the caller know to get support. I do think Dave has good intentions but doesn't realize how common abusive relationships are... sometimes from the beginning.

@monicahanson9654

3 ай бұрын

You don’t know until you yourself experience it or someone very very close to you. There were so many things I didn’t understand until I helped my sister out of one. I was completely oblivious to what was going on for YEARS. It wasn’t until he lost control over her & started “losing it” period that I realized how intense and severe the situation was. She minimized it; I didn’t see it. I will never judge a person for fearing their partner because I know for fact I do not know their partner like they do.

Thats not wrong to hide money if she is in an abusive relationship. Get real!

He LEGALLY does not have access to that money unless she gives him access!! that inheritance is NOT community property!!!

@genxx2724

3 жыл бұрын

Kentucky is not a community property state. The concept of community property, in which husband and wife are treated as equals in acquiring property during marriage, came to the southwest states via Mexico. It’s Spanish law. In a community property state, an inheritance received by one spouse is not community property; it is a gift to that spouse and is their separate property. The majority of the United States, however, is governed by marital property laws based on the English common law.

@elizabethrockett7549

4 ай бұрын

@@genxx2724Inheritance is not community property (does not have to be shared unless it is put in a joint account- so don’t share it if you don’t wish to).

@genxx2724

4 ай бұрын

@@elizabethrockett7549 Read my first sentence again.

@JudyKAllen

2 ай бұрын

But she’s from a different time and doesn’t understand today’s thinking. I would tell her honey NEVER tell him. He would hound her to death and break her down until she had to give it or get out of and she wouldn’t get out bc doesn’t believe in divorce. I pray she’s reading these comments.

@JudyKAllen

2 ай бұрын

@@genxx2724yes but I wouldn’t tell him that I got that money. Her life will be HELl.

They clearly don't understand that some relationships are like this and cannot change. Sometimes, it is what it is and this is how you have to deal with it.

"Over 50 years" - You could hear the contempt in her voice when she said that

All I want is a new snowthrower. Oh this isn’t my wife. False alarm.

@acebrockton1828

3 жыл бұрын

You're always throwing snow lol

@pigbenis2812

3 жыл бұрын

What’s wrong with the old one? Winter is half over.

@meMiner

3 жыл бұрын

Sell the car, so all you need is a shovel to make a path on the driveway.

I’ve read stories of women standing up for themselves against their partner. Sometimes those women die. Hide the money

Thank you for helping abused women. Many people turn their backs and their eyes to this.

@reinamacaren-a4132

2 жыл бұрын

Many people close their eyes and backs because the victim goes back and put people in harm's way who try to help the victim. I was that helper. Nooooo more. If it isn't a matter of life and death, I mind my own d🅰️Ⓜ️ N business. Those life and death situations are scary as well😨