Gambling, drugs, affair … take your pick. Wake up lady.

@flashgordon6510

21 күн бұрын

^^^This!^^^ I would be curious if she's actually seen the lawnmower with her own eyes. Could be he bought it and sold it.

A liar and a thief is exactly that. She needs to legally remove herself and that is only through divorce. She will soon discover he has credit cards in her name and when she leaves she will discover she is liable for the debt. My heart goes out to this woman because it will take her years to recover from this and that’s only if she gets out today.

This lady sounds so sweet and rotten people take advantage of sweet people. Hopefully they turn things around for her sake.

@fauxbro1983

Жыл бұрын

Time to get a backbone

@mr.clawhands2536

Жыл бұрын

@@fauxbro1983 easier said then done unfortunately

Dear ladies, when you marry a doofus who is incapable of effectively leading a household that you need to make excuses for….expect this result.

@rnt45t1

Жыл бұрын

She picked him.

@mikenelson8377

Жыл бұрын

The sex must be that good for her to stay and marry him 🤷🏼‍♂️

@djpuplex

Жыл бұрын

So when the women spends and lies it's okay though.

@anthonybrown06

Жыл бұрын

Facts man!!

@Ja50nkAt

Жыл бұрын

Hard to believe a man this irresponsible is allowed to have intercourse. 😅

Time to sell the husband and start over.

Not sure why people are upset with the hosts being straightforward. This woman needed the wakeup call or another 5 years of financial infidelity are imminent... then another 5... then another 5...

Not sure why she called to discuss what her husband is doing financially if she was going to defend him the entire time.

@janiewerner

Жыл бұрын

Because we feel like fools to have believed their bs….so we try to make ourselves seem less foolish by trying to defend the spouses bad behavior. We truly think in out heads….”but I couldn’t have been this dumb to fall for this”.

Lol, love how people call into get help but then don’t want it! 😂

She sounds like she's got the maturity of a 13 year old. Part of the problem is her. She needs to grow up and not just hand the keys of her life over to some man, and hope it works out.

I think these two work very well together as hosts

So difficult to have to admit that you’ve partnered with a liar who doesn’t love or respect you. But I can’t imagine suggesting to this meek, accommodating woman that she accuse her husband of financial infidelity and expect that to go well. She doesn’t seem ready for that.

@rnt45t1

Жыл бұрын

She picked him.

@terriesmith2616

Жыл бұрын

At the end of the day, she chose him. She has to take responsibility for that part. In life, we get what we're willing to tolerate. If she's willing to tolerate him and his behaviors, then that's what she'll get.

@katemiller7874

2 ай бұрын

@terrie- you have zero clue sometimes in marriage they surprise you with issues you had no idea they had. Not very worldly are you.

My story exactly. We need to start a support group. And also start a business vetting men ( or women), do background checks, search court records, etc. We could call it Commitment Peace University.

Grandma has a push mower and he upgrades to a $6,000 mower? You can get a used riding mower for 10% of that price...might not be zero turn commercial level but it will do the job. In a marriage, you don't take turns managing the money or parenting the kids...you do both TOGETHER.

She needs to toughen up and protect herself and their kids. Even if it means legal separation. She needs to limit his access to all of the money if need be but I’d get an attorney to protect myself and my kids if I were her. She also needs to immediately lock up her credit so he can’t take out anything with her name in it.

@probablynot1368

Жыл бұрын

She’d better make sure he hasn’t used the childrens’ social security numbers to open up credit card accounts.

@wenchyfoodwench4098

Жыл бұрын

@@probablynot1368 good point , for sure!

@dlogs9778

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. Sadly.

@janiewerner

Жыл бұрын

Soooo much easier said than done.

@wenchyfoodwench4098

Жыл бұрын

@@janiewerner obviously but it needs to be done. The right thing to do Is usually the hardest thing to Do. We can’t just do the things that aren’t hard.

Not gonna get into marriage advice based on a brief, one-sided phone call. I'm just glad the adorable "bumbling goofball" in my life who isn't good with money is not my husband. I can still enjoy his company without having to worry about his effect on my financial security.

I dated a guy like this once. He was a liar, lazy, and every other word you want to use. His rationale was "I don't want to be poor". My response was, but you ARE poor because you keep spending money you don't have.

Pull your credit report and make him pull his

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

That’s literally what the hosts said.

@janiewerner

Жыл бұрын

Please tell me how you make a narcissist do ANYTHING??

so my sister has been married to my brother in law over 47 yrs. When they met, he was 10 yrs older, had been divorced already and had a child with his ex. 1st warning sign. My sister was 19 just out of high-school. She thought she got the hard working farmer who's family owned dozens of acres of farmland in rural IA. Therefore, she would have a stable financial footing to raise her kids. No struggles. What really happened was his dad saw he couldn't manage money & made stipulations that he had NO ACCESS to the farmland till his stepmother passed. She's still alive at 90ish. Both of them jumped from job to job not caring about pensions because they thought they had farmland in IA to sell. Now neither of them have a pension he's working driving a truck in his 70s and they have basically been reduced to living in a 5th wheel. My advice is do NOT stay with someone hoping they change! Unless you don't mind being broke & penniless in your elderly years. Get out earn your OWN $ 1st , then find a real partner.

@blingman78

Жыл бұрын

1st warning sign is divorced with a child with his ex? lol, there's gonna be a lot of women out there with warning signs.

@Kim-bv3xn

Ай бұрын

Agreed

He is having an affair. She needs to listen to herself

@runningdebate2670

Жыл бұрын

Why does lying about money always mean cheating in your people's minds? I used to have a gambling addiction and hid it from my wife for a long time before coming clean and I never cheated.

@baconblaster6422

Жыл бұрын

@@runningdebate2670 yeah it could be gambling or escorts/porn/affair or compulsive spending or drugs . The main example was an insane overspend on a lawn care tool

@gratefulheart5454

Жыл бұрын

​@@runningdebate2670 because the professional on the show said it's what typically happens in these types of situations where there is intrinsic lying

@runningdebate2670

Жыл бұрын

@gratefulheart Yeah because someone said so that means I must listen. The "experts" said get the vaccine it will protect you and covid is bad too. You listen to everything you hear you sheep?

@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz

Жыл бұрын

@@runningdebate2670 in life it’s always useful to assume you are the rule not the exception. It helps you make sensible decisions. You are the exception, the rule is that person is cheating

Would love to have him call in to the show and give his side of the story. She seems like a gentle, timid soul and he took advantage.

I don't think this girl is emotionally independent and I think she is afraid of confronting him maybe because she is afraid that if she leaves him she won't be able to sustain herself.

We have a big yard and my husband uses a $600 push mower. Even that was expensive to buy with cash. $6,000 for a mower?!?! I get that some people want a riding mower, but you can get those for $2,000. $6,000 for a mower is like a top of the line, Rolls Royce mower. That lawn better be immaculate. 😮

@lindsayclark4009

Жыл бұрын

Your comment made me laugh too hard😂

Why didn't they tell her they need marriage counseling!?!

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

That would be the next step after the hosts suggested coming clean at the dinner table.

@1timothydillon

Жыл бұрын

@@jasonbornne7767 But they didn't tell her, and she was practically screaming for help. She literally said, I don't know what to do.

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

@@1timothydillon They told her to sit down at the dinner table for him to come clean. Marriage counseling/divorce is implied if he doesn’t comply.

@1timothydillon

Жыл бұрын

@@jasonbornne7767 You are seeing what you want to see, and not hearing what was said. The average person only has an average intelligence, you can't imply anything, when someone is asking for help. When someone needs help, you have to be direct. When someone is in an accident, you have to tell 911 exactly where you are, not imply what neighborhood you're in. They called her out on constantly defending her husband, she is not going to pick up on any subtle hints. They needed to tell her outright to seek counseling.

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

@@1timothydillon Okay, agreed. She is not the most intelligent. I will concede this 😂😂😂

Spending can be an addiction too. I looked and the most expensive mower they have is $4600, so even that’s a lie.

Sounds like she is asleep at the wheel not checking and see that money has been spent. Wake up lady.

@penttimuhli9442

Жыл бұрын

She has woken up, no need for that

@rebekahboronski6202

Жыл бұрын

She probably had no knowledge because these kind of people go to great lengths to hide and prevent you from knowing. And often cause other troubles to prevent you from knowing.

@78town

Жыл бұрын

She is asleep at the wheel? Why isn’t HE at the wheel with her? He sounds like a bum with no motivation and let’s his wife drive the ship.

@TheSoulCrisis

Жыл бұрын

Ship is heading for an iceberg and both better work together to steer clear of it! Or let this dude crash into it by himself.

@katemiller7874

2 ай бұрын

My ass she’s trying to trust her husband. Obviously not trust worthy

And she never look at her Lowes card? Seems like there's more to the story then she is saying.

@jeffwvu4602

Жыл бұрын

More to the story how, Detective? She said they got the card years ago when they got married so they could get a washer and dryer and sounds like they didn't use it for years. Why would she eagerly look at the statement every month? Thats not real life, most people don't do that

@blingman78

Жыл бұрын

@@jeffwvu4602 People don't look at their statements? no wonder America is so terrible with money

@jimmymcgill6778

Жыл бұрын

@@jeffwvu4602 So you don't look at your bills when it comes in the mail? Even if it's paperless. You should still look at it to make sure there's no fraud.

@jimmymcgill6778

Жыл бұрын

@@blingman78 I look at my accounts once a week, to make sure everything is OK.

@jeffwvu4602

Жыл бұрын

@@jimmymcgill6778 I don't have credit cards, but I can see where it would be easy for someone to hide them from their spouse.

They were very patient with her... she is so enabling him and everyone sees it except her.. sad

Yes, this lead to divorce for Me

My wife and I have our separate bank accounts. I don’t really care what she spends her money on and she doesn’t really care what I spend my money on as long as our bills are being paid on time and we’re saving for retirement.

I was the sole worker for some time in our relationship. My wife still had just as much say. They are absolutely correct. At this point I hope you do not have children. They will suffer.

@TheSoulCrisis

Жыл бұрын

Yeah your life partner should always have a vote……I mean this is the person you will potentially raise a family with and decide on what values to teach. The person who will run the household while you are away, cook, clean, etc. if they are a housewife. It is a full on partnership as they are handling a majority of the work inside the home and even if she works some, it shouldn’t change. Agree so much!

Oh my Lord. This poor woman is in such denial. My mother stayed home with my brother and I too and my father never made any big ticket purchases without a mutual agreement with her. Based on what this caller is describing, her husband does not value her opinion or think she is smart and that is so sad.

"You cant breathe right now, and George and I can hear it" This blatant simpin needs to stop immediately for the good of the Show Thanks

From personal experience….dont believe a word that comes out of his mouth. You start doing your own investigating into your situation.

Man bought a damn $6000 61" 0-Turn. Dude better be out there mowing extra grass!

Let me guess - she doesn't work. Ladies, stop being dependent on these men!

I have a question, why does he give the wives a “she’s scared, she’s cornered that’s why she spent like that” when they spend like an addiction but for the husbands it’s “they are liars, deceitful and three legged turtles” 😐

Dr John is FIRED UP he aint playin

For every rat you see, there are 100 more that you don't.

Nothing says “he’s cheating on you” quite like a $6,000 mower.

@nikolaig1

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂. A mower=cheating 😂😂

Financial health is high on the list and he is ruining it

Why you gonna call the show to complain about your husband, then defend him every step of the way when the hosts call him out repeatedly?

Note of warning: money is power. Having none of your own puts you in a bad position.

@aliciaz4682

Жыл бұрын

Or have a truly joint financial union in your marriage. Transparency, working together, no surprises being on the same team. The callers husband has never been on her team it sounds like.

I love how people say how they would handle it. So not true. Armchair quarterbacking is the WORST kind of advice.

Typical. Have to call the husband names.

@terriesmith2616

Жыл бұрын

When it's a husband calling in about his wife's bad behaviors, Baloney never calls the wife names. But when it's a wife calling in to complain about her husband, Baloney immediately starts calling the husband names. Expect the double standard when Baloney is handling the call. He's the biggest SIMPS on the Ramsey show.

@jimmymcgill6778

Жыл бұрын

@@terriesmith2616 And he's a "therapist"?

@terriesmith2616

Жыл бұрын

@@jimmymcgill6778 Ikr. 💯💯 I'd be okay with Baloney calling the husband names if he also calls the wife names. At least this way it's fair. But it's always one sided with Baloney. He only calls the husband names but never the wife.

@thorneto2742

Жыл бұрын

The ramsey show hosts have a particular set of religious beliefs where they hold the men to a higher standard as they believe they are the head of the household and are supposed to be the responsible one in the relationship. You can disagree with that but that’s where they are coming from.

@jimmymcgill6778

Жыл бұрын

@@thorneto2742 Men are not head of the household. You are both equal.

Y’all are both so right. My dad was the same way and was a secret bad bad guy. Get out!!

From personal experience, this sounds like someone with underlying mental problems, such as bipolar, who had a triggering event (father figure passing away). I hope things get better, but theres a tough road ahead for them.

Last time i was at HD, a questionable push 21" lawn mower was $499. Try mowing an acre with that thing. Dr Baloney probably has a $10k tractor 🚜

This lady doesn't know much. "I think. I'm not sure." How can he buy a mower and she not know? My wife would know immediately!! She needs to get to him tonight and find out exactly what is going on.

recent generations disdain arranged marriages of past generations. But's lets face it, young women have little ability and/or willingness to assess financial viability of their SO

If you think not being committed to someone 100% is fidelity i think your insane. 😂😂

Why does none of these three individuals understand how you take a lien out on a vehicle? How are they making money?

The more I listen to this call, the more I see she's a huge pushover. John is right. Everything needs to be put on the table, or she needs to leave.

Annual Credit report? Really? You can log into your banking app and get a free credit report updated weekly. Oh...wait. Dave is against big banks.... almost forgot

People....just don't get married.

Title loan. Like pay day loan, only on the car

It sounds like it could be some form of addiction. To me, it possibly could be gambling.

This lady is clueless about finances. She needs to be involved and not so passive. There's no way I could spend thousands of dollars without my wife knowing, or vice versa, because we do finances TOGETHER.

What kind of help is there when you go through this? My ex took $100's of thousands. Is there any recourse or help going forward? Prevented me from seeing the mail for many many years.

@perotal

Жыл бұрын

Get a lawyer

@shanep2760

Жыл бұрын

If he isn't letting you see the mail, you could open a PO box and have your mail forwarded there, and don't give him the key

@tamid2225

Жыл бұрын

You have to take your power back from these people. Or they will spend you into the poorhouse or more.

@janiewerner

Жыл бұрын

Or you have a spouse who changes the mailing address to everything important without your knowledge. You only find out when you don’t get your summons for jury duty.

@rebekahboronski6202

Жыл бұрын

I had/have many attorneys to help where help could be helped to get away. In the end he has attempted to file bankruptcy in two states. Getting a P.O. box after the fact does not help. If only I knew sooner what he was doing. He did this for almost 20 years. I missed court dates that I never new existed. And paid over $5,000 on an accumulated lien on my house for a bill I did not know existed when I sold the house. . The bill was only a few hundred originally. He let me see mail but it was always after he got it. I found out he never mailed bills when I asked him too. He would just get rid of them. I would not know because he would then hid the bill when it came again.

Seems like there's a lot of guesswork... really need more info.

@nikolaig1

Жыл бұрын

We literally dont know anything. I doubt it was 6k for a lawn mower😂😂

Chicks always make excuses for their spouse. He’s a grown man.

@nikolaig1

Жыл бұрын

Honestly this isnt bad. He seems like she is just upset bc she doesnt approve of his purchases. Nothing says they are in deep debt. The sky is falling. 6 grand isnt alot for a mower. John deers are expensive. The family mighht need one. We barely know anything about this relationship

@barbararepko4824

Жыл бұрын

Time for a divorce lawyer.

@nikolaig1

Жыл бұрын

@@barbararepko4824 this chick is crazy

That’s awful. This poor woman. Wow.

@fauxbro1983

Жыл бұрын

Time for her to grow a spine

Dr Simp John at it again

@mensb1936

Жыл бұрын

Your girl left u

Trust is very difficult to repair no matter what you do. For me, if my husband lied to me about anything, I would never trust him again and get a divorce and start over. If it was me, I would get rid of the bum so you can have a happy life with someone who you can trust.

He put a lien on his car to, maybe, get it fixed.

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

It’s possible. We need his side of the story and also the truth. If he’s lying, divorce him.

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

I’d bet money against that being the truth.

@jimmymcgill6778

Жыл бұрын

I know. Why scrape a car, for just a few hundreds in repairs?

My sweet Lady stop making excuses😣!! Something is up

hE hAs a CrEdIt CaRd wItH 300 doLlaRs oN iT. Bro get rid of this chick lol

@nikolaig1

Жыл бұрын

$300 i spend more on that in 2 weeks😂😂. I have no debt

I thought credit doesn’t matter!

$6,000 for a mower? Come on!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't buy it.

@sheila_rabant

Жыл бұрын

Mine bought a $5000 one at Home Depot, plus tax and warranty. Cub Cadet, lasted 1 month past the warranty. Sitting in the garage collecting dust lol not~

@pauljensen4773

Жыл бұрын

@@sheila_rabant not good. Was it a drivable?

@sheila_rabant

Жыл бұрын

@@pauljensen4773 won't even start

😂😂 Ironically this is on "Gemini Day" should be a national day. Iies, lies lies ♊♊♊

This lady makes more excuses for her husband than anyone. She needs an extra job so he can spend more. 😂

My husband bought a lawn mower. Delaney….He has an addiction. Lol! Come on

@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries

Жыл бұрын

Dude, it was $6000 lol

Dave would have cut her off much sooner.

Not a husband a snake

Daloney, you think making all those YOU accusations will help fix things?

Husband should not be allowed to handle the money.

Trusts gone I would of walked no question

Why is John’s chair so freaking high?

@amireallythatgrumpy6508

Жыл бұрын

I don't think it is - it's just perspective with him sitting closer to the camera, and possibly being taller

@yourgooglemeister6745

Жыл бұрын

Trying to flex because everyone calls these two beta simps. It's not working

We've heard the exact inverse of this call, and they basically told the guy "what kind of world are you creating for your wife where she feels like she needs to spend all this money to feel some sort of happiness?" So when the man overspends, it's the man's fault, and when the woman overspends, it's also the man's fault. Interesting.

@TheFlyingZulu

Жыл бұрын

That's a great point and you're pretty much right. I've seen them say that a lot. There's a few things I'm no on board with the Ramsey team and that is "Credit cards are always bad, but debit cards are fine when they're basically the same thing" or "it's always the mans fault" and "It's never okay to live with your parents".

I doubt he bought a 6k lawnmower. I bet he bought some stuff for it and total was 6k. Even if he did. Whats wrong with that?

AVP not the issue / sweet / salary / and check stubs/

I love her accent

@jasonbornne7767

Жыл бұрын

She sounds extremely vulnerable to me. It’s cute, though. She doesn’t seem mad enough.

@front331

Жыл бұрын

My dream woman ❤.

Jesus Christ... He's mowing his grandparents farm with a nice $6k mower. Not mowing every lady in towns bushes. I'd run right down to Lowes tonight and buy the toro 21" for $499 and tell her mow day is Saturday. She could probably get 2 acres done in a 4 hour afternoon, at about 3mph...

Dr. John loves to try to break up marriages.

Yes John, you can be honest. Stop asking

A friends husband pulled these sorts of stunts and it turned out he had a gambling addiction

@davidbrayshaw3529

Жыл бұрын

My friend's husband did the same thing. She put up with it until the day that she was evicted from her house by the bank. The mortgage hadn't been paid for the best part of a year. Yes, gambling problem.

@carynmason3421

Жыл бұрын

@@davidbrayshaw3529 I had a relative pass away who I thought was loaded but he had 90K worth of debt and it turned out gambling addiction. With all the online and sports betting and tv commercials, I fear this will become the new drug in our country.

It sounds like she's bringing up stuff from the past, stuff before they agreed to the Ramsey plan. Stupid stuff happens before discovering common sense, I mean, the Ramsey plan. Also, the first seven years of marriage is a learning process. Baloney's advice is to start a conversation with accusations. Pfft

@blingman78

Жыл бұрын

He bought a $6000 lawn mower recently, that's not a learning process. That's lying about not spending money. Pfff

Keeps making excuses.....you are being run over and around by him...wake up!!!

Divorce.

this lady is out for lunch to say the least

That's why you never put YOUR money into a man's account, you basically give him the permission to take it.

@djpuplex

Жыл бұрын

What's his is yours and what's yours is yours huh.

@baconblaster6422

Жыл бұрын

The old have you cake and eat it to play huh 😂? How Many cats do you have ?

@cassietheboss9211

Жыл бұрын

It's her husband. If she can't do that she Married a bad person.

@MT-yx5cu

Жыл бұрын

​@@baconblaster6422 how many fleas do you have?

@flyandshy00

Жыл бұрын

@@cassietheboss9211 A man shoul provide for the family - not a woman give money to a man. She's like a sugar momma at this point.

I love to hear his side of the story. Jon is guessing at best. 😂😂hes a joke

@TheFlyingZulu

Жыл бұрын

Yup true... when a mas calls in with a wife that spends a lot of money, they blame him for her spending habits by not "providing a safe space or emotional support" or whatever stupid reason they make up.

I see a divorce in their future

She sounds like a doormat...I doubt she'll take any of their advice 🤷‍♀️

Jon is such a simp in this video. Im a counselor and this isnt even the case 99% time. We dont know much. Stoppppp

@flashthecorgi2053

Жыл бұрын

There’s no way you are counselor and haven’t seen this! Most of the time John is right and any counselor would know this.

@nikolaig1

Жыл бұрын

@@flashthecorgi2053 ok. He has a phd which means 0. He is clueless and projects alot.

@flashthecorgi2053

Жыл бұрын

@@nikolaig1 You just said you’re a counselor and I don’t believe that! Especially because your grammar isn’t great. Also, if you are a counselor you would know this happens all the time. John is right almost 100% of the time. Just watch one of his shows that involve financial infidelity and it comes out. Also, he has 2 PhDs and tons of EXPERIENCE with real clients so you’re not making much sense! He’s also not even close to being clueless. Taking his FPU class rn and he’s so intelligent it’s amazing watching him. Love John so much!!

ARE YOU SAFE????

John is way over the top sometimes . Seems like a standard Ramsey advice where Dave would explain they don’t both think they are doing the baby steps . Let’s hold hands and get on the same page and if it doesn’t stop then he’s a liar . John is like “he’s probbaly got an addiction “

@cassietheboss9211

Жыл бұрын

There's statistics that says this. This show isn't the only platform I've heard this from.

@veeshoo2880

Жыл бұрын

He's addicted to something for sure, even if it's not drugs, gambling, women, it's definitely spending at the very least

@positivevibe7684

5 ай бұрын

​@@veeshoo2880I agree 💯 There's a strong possibility that he has an addiction.

$6,000 for a lawn mower? Something is up with that. Lowe's doesn't sell a mower that costs that much.

A divorce is on the way

He is spending it on a man or a woman.

Typical name calling for men BETA