I'm Marrying A Spender And It's Giving Me Anxiety!

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  • @fotismichael1877
    @fotismichael18772 жыл бұрын

    He's a spender without a job marrying a woman with a million dollar nest egg. Gees. Can't make this up.

  • @beckypetersen2680

    @beckypetersen2680

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, sounds like a tv drama - only we know the rest of the story.

  • @Thegaoat

    @Thegaoat

    2 ай бұрын

    And she's just continuously trying to justify being with this loser.😂

  • @peterteixeira2893
    @peterteixeira28932 жыл бұрын

    This lady's alarm bells are going off and she should listen to them.

  • @Aubatron

    @Aubatron

    2 жыл бұрын

    Maybe I misheard 6:55 did she say "he just recently switched jobs, and it takes a while to build a business" "I'm also giving him extra cash I have". I pray to god she is not funding his business startup, that is a good way to destroy their marriage quickly...

  • @richsamuel2922

    @richsamuel2922

    2 жыл бұрын

    No kidding. Especially that giving him cash part. You got me messed up.

  • @davisholman8149

    @davisholman8149

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Aubatron Tell me about it....

  • @Hugatree1

    @Hugatree1

    2 жыл бұрын

    But you know she won’t!

  • @33ladyRAM

    @33ladyRAM

    Жыл бұрын

    Facts facts facts

  • @candyneville7654
    @candyneville7654 Жыл бұрын

    I think Ramsey and cohost missed the signs. This guy is unemployed. He didn’t switch jobs he quit a job. He has found A sugar mama. She was subconsciously begging them to tell her to cut and run. To give her permission to call it off. Hey lady, call it off. This is the man you and your future dependable and fun husband will laugh out someday.

  • @gtf5392

    @gtf5392

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah I feel like the cohost speaks before he thinks and kind of gets into a preachy mode before asking the right questions.

  • @chrisgrace81

    @chrisgrace81

    2 ай бұрын

    Yes, Jade is more reasoned and measured

  • @LouisJanYoung

    @LouisJanYoung

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@gtf5392exactly

  • @java_debugger

    @java_debugger

    Ай бұрын

    At 8:00 they warn her about marrying him

  • @JudePi-jx7yo

    @JudePi-jx7yo

    Ай бұрын

    She';s 36 this is her last chance. Some things more important than money.

  • @mxerb5912
    @mxerb59122 жыл бұрын

    Let me guess at age 36 she’s freaking out about not finding anyone and found this loser and is wanting to get married before it’s too late

  • @TheMechanicj

    @TheMechanicj

    2 жыл бұрын

    His name is chad he is unemployed and really knows how to treat a woman if you get my drift

  • @melvinbarnes6652

    @melvinbarnes6652

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@TheMechanicj RIP Kevin Samuels!

  • @SteveC484

    @SteveC484

    2 жыл бұрын

    100%. This marriage is going to blow up sooner or later

  • @miketheyunggod2534

    @miketheyunggod2534

    2 жыл бұрын

    Better guess is another one brainwashed by Dave.

  • @FoodSmash

    @FoodSmash

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yep

  • @wanefelicia8779
    @wanefelicia87792 жыл бұрын

    He treats her good cuz she is the sugarmomma

  • @loft27ss

    @loft27ss

    2 ай бұрын

    And it will change very quickly once she would be married to him. It is stage 1- sugar coating show, stage 2- devolution , stage3- disposal and pocketing het money. That is the main goal- her money

  • @bethanyboothe4817
    @bethanyboothe48172 жыл бұрын

    The more she talked the less it seemed like a good idea for her to marry this guy. It’s one thing to not have savings, but to be 42 and not have an income….scary!

  • @kuryanthomas1438

    @kuryanthomas1438

    2 жыл бұрын

    yeah if he has no income and is just expecting to spend all her money, that is something she really needs to think about before marrying this dude.

  • @truckingmoney485

    @truckingmoney485

    2 жыл бұрын

    She didn’t say anything about him not having a income

  • @kuryanthomas1438

    @kuryanthomas1438

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@truckingmoney485 she mentioned he had left a previous job and hadn't built a book of business in his new venture yet, hence shes been paying for his rent and other living expenses recently.

  • @Brooke-bl3yq

    @Brooke-bl3yq

    2 жыл бұрын

    they look for women to support them....many times a domineering manipulative mother in the wings.

  • @MichaelAnderson-wk1no

    @MichaelAnderson-wk1no

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@truckingmoney485 7:16

  • @loulou9978
    @loulou99782 жыл бұрын

    Don’t marry him. My spender husband bankrupted me. They never change. After our divorce he bought a new truck with a $940 monthly payment. Also, if he’s had several toxic relationships it could mean he’s the toxic one. This guy sounds like an opportunist. Mine didn’t keep a job either but he could still spend. Run woman run!!!!

  • @fornos123

    @fornos123

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow. That is so sad. I’m glad you got out of that relationship. Learning from the mistakes of others is the best way to learn.

  • @nessapalmer5316

    @nessapalmer5316

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh how I can relate

  • @tamaralaird3389

    @tamaralaird3389

    Жыл бұрын

    my thoughts exactly

  • @SpoonyLuvification

    @SpoonyLuvification

    Жыл бұрын

    City Boys up!

  • @Aminah6623

    @Aminah6623

    Жыл бұрын

    Baby girl, run for the hills.

  • @DontBowToEvil
    @DontBowToEvil2 жыл бұрын

    This gives me anxiety and I'm not even in that relationship.

  • @karensimon1263

    @karensimon1263

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too!

  • @karenvera3229

    @karenvera3229

    Жыл бұрын

    Me, too!

  • @Zizzyyzz

    @Zizzyyzz

    Жыл бұрын

    Me three! Or four?

  • @telebruel

    @telebruel

    Жыл бұрын

    😂😂

  • @go5582

    @go5582

    Жыл бұрын

    Likewise.

  • @MrMustangrick
    @MrMustangrick2 жыл бұрын

    42 with only a car? Run Jane run.

  • @9liveslisa
    @9liveslisa2 жыл бұрын

    I wouldn't marry someone who doesn't have a strong work ethic and doesn't have a job. Don't get taken.

  • @lkj0822g
    @lkj0822g2 жыл бұрын

    He is 42 years old and she is having to give him money?!?! That is a HUGE red flag. It's not going to get better. He will use her as a milk cow until she is dry. At 42, this guy should be well established, both career wise and financially. "Just changed jobs and I'm having to give him money" does not bode well. Run lady, before this leach cleans you out, both emotionally and financially. He is a man-child and will never grow up.

  • @hoangle2483

    @hoangle2483

    2 жыл бұрын

    My guess is that, dude is quite handsome and she wants a baby with good genetics.

  • @chuckiedavidson719

    @chuckiedavidson719

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are exactly right. Even if you aren’t totally responsible with money at 42 you HAVE to be able to at a minimum support yourself.

  • @michellerichardson3090

    @michellerichardson3090

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hoangle2483 or she thought he would get smarter as he got older lol

  • @mysticaltyger2009

    @mysticaltyger2009

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hoangle2483 I bet you are right.

  • @SD-ip2wb

    @SD-ip2wb

    2 жыл бұрын

    At 42, I still wasn’t fully established career wise - but I was able to fend for myself. Everyone gets their first permanent job at 18. And yes I’ve worked part time since I was 12.

  • @Sable1837
    @Sable18372 жыл бұрын

    Okay, I can accept a broke person seeing the error of their ways and starting from nothing, but the fact he is content to let her support him while he is supposedly getting into a new business is the biggest red flag of them all. This marriage will not end well.

  • @susiem.2068

    @susiem.2068

    Жыл бұрын

    @Whit Wood It might be limited to my experience, but most stay at home moms were in fact the brains of the family. They dealt with everything from budgeting and getting getting the whole family ready and taken care of to repairing stuff, and being everybody's driver. They worked, it just wasn't financially compensated. They gave more than they took. Meanwhile, he just spends. It's just reckless.

  • @luciaanghel8251

    @luciaanghel8251

    Жыл бұрын

    @@susiem.2068 exactly. It depends on what he is giving to her, what he puts in the relationship. It needs more than money for a relationship to work.

  • @marisastoneobrien7834

    @marisastoneobrien7834

    Жыл бұрын

    People that want to start a business that have zero $$$ and are in their 40's, likely don't have the work ethic to get any kind of business off the ground. Agreed, this will not end well.

  • @IRLSuperb

    @IRLSuperb

    Жыл бұрын

    @@susiem.2068 it is indeed YOUR experience. Not every stay at home mom does all those things. But regardless, a couple should always be on the same page with everything. Gender wars make no sense in the grand scheme of things

  • @ashen8046

    @ashen8046

    Жыл бұрын

    @@susiem.2068 A lot of commenters on this channel seem to have a real problem with devaluing the work of a stay at home mother and homemaker... but then will jump through hoops to make excuses for a man financially exploiting their spouse. The work of a homemaker is valuable and in no way a free ride, some just cant imagine the concept. Dave, being a Christian man, often recognizes this and validates it. Its unfortunate. I can understand if these commenters are mostly concerned with student debt, but the stigma seems to go way beyond.

  • @Shay-yg7nm
    @Shay-yg7nm2 жыл бұрын

    NEVER marry someone when your not on the same financial page... NEVER EVER! She's basically supporting him. Huge red flags.

  • @DoctorSmartyPants

    @DoctorSmartyPants

    2 жыл бұрын

    Exactly! And her supporting him may not otherwise be a big deal except that it is causing her ANXIETY.

  • @William14094

    @William14094

    2 жыл бұрын

    But if he was supporting her, no one would say anything. Figures.

  • @leadnsteel1428

    @leadnsteel1428

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right now my sister makes more money than her husband.... usually it's supposed to be the other way qround

  • @jimroscovius

    @jimroscovius

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@leadnsteel1428 My wife makes more than I do and has for 12 years. No problem here.

  • @jorrba3934

    @jorrba3934

    Жыл бұрын

    @@leadnsteel1428 I been mary for 30 years. The first 20 years of marriage, i was making most of the money. Right now, my wife is making twice what I'm making. It's not about who makes more in a marriage. What's in the bank is our money. It's about trust. What we have now, we build together.

  • @AEvans36977
    @AEvans369772 жыл бұрын

    At 36, she's afraid that she won't be able to find another person compatible enough for her to marry. I'm wondering if her fiancee has an insurance policy on her. My advice to her is: run in the other direction FAST! If she already has anxiety, that's a red flag right there. RUN GIRL!

  • @GUITARTIME2024

    @GUITARTIME2024

    2 жыл бұрын

    Look up marriage stats for women over 35.

  • @mysticaltyger2009

    @mysticaltyger2009

    2 жыл бұрын

    I wish these women would realize it's better to stay single than just to be with someone for the sake of being in a relationship.

  • @SD-ip2wb

    @SD-ip2wb

    2 жыл бұрын

    Singleness is a higher calling than marriage according to the Bible and I’m Christian so I guess that this is my belief

  • @metrorealty7631

    @metrorealty7631

    Жыл бұрын

    There are wonderful men out there (my son) who are looking for this independent woman who wants to have a happy life. Why settle?

  • @33ladyRAM

    @33ladyRAM

    Жыл бұрын

    @@GUITARTIME2024 - what are they for men as it should compatible?

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack57792 жыл бұрын

    She is willing to PAY him to marry her but she just doesn't want to admit that is happening. RUN!! Do not give him another dime and watch Mr. Lovey Dovey fly out the window!!

  • @William14094

    @William14094

    2 жыл бұрын

    Woman are so hypocritical

  • @sweetcaroline7107

    @sweetcaroline7107

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sad

  • @redflag4255

    @redflag4255

    Жыл бұрын

    watch him become abusive AF

  • @kumari6004

    @kumari6004

    Жыл бұрын

    Once she stops giving the money all niceness will go....

  • @flygirl2447
    @flygirl24473 ай бұрын

    Jane.. As a single woman who’s also never been married, I completely get the fact that your nest egg gives you security. You’ve depended on yourself with no help or safety net in the form of another’s income for years, worked hard for it and deserve that. It’s 100% ok and right for you to protect it. Your anxiety is your intuition screaming at you to get out of this relationship. Listen to it!!! He has you paying his bills right now and not only does he not care that he’s freeloading off you, but he doesn’t care that his way of living gives you anxiety. You may think he treats you well enough. But it is basic respect that you are missing. You need to raise your standards.

  • @magda3113
    @magda31132 жыл бұрын

    Red flags all over this call 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @judymandel6131
    @judymandel61312 жыл бұрын

    Listen to your anxiety. I didn’t listen to mine. I came with money and a prenup and ended up having to bail us out of my husband’s entitlement spending so many times. I lost so much money being married to him. Lost my business and my home because of something he did behind my back. Run, Forrest, run!! A few months of being sad and uncomfortable is better than a lifetime of resentment and anxiety, anger and rage. It affects the kids. My husband’s financial indiscretions will ripple through generations. It is like a bomb has gone off in my life. I knew before the wedding because my anxiety was trying to tell me. Listen!

  • @JazChapmanTV
    @JazChapmanTV2 жыл бұрын

    Honey, he's using you! RUN!

  • @afhyoutube
    @afhyoutube2 жыл бұрын

    This marriage is going to fail. Without question.

  • @karenjones8713

    @karenjones8713

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yep. I would bet on it.

  • @VoiceOfReason919

    @VoiceOfReason919

    Жыл бұрын

    I would sell leveraged shorts on this marriage so quick if I could

  • @sara7mk
    @sara7mk11 ай бұрын

    No way, he's in his 40s and can't support himself but wants to marry?! Can't believe she agreed to marry before he becomes financially independent.

  • @pongmolina2157

    @pongmolina2157

    2 ай бұрын

    2 words “sugar mamma”

  • @JudePi-jx7yo

    @JudePi-jx7yo

    Ай бұрын

    She doesnt need a provider.

  • @crd9551
    @crd95512 жыл бұрын

    "He's had a few toxic relationships." The best advice my dad ever gave me was to be weary of people that call all their ex's toxic or crazy. He's the common denominator. Get a prenup or don't get married. You don't need a certificate to say you love each other. Have a commitment ceremony if you want to celebrate.

  • @political-social

    @political-social

    Жыл бұрын

    doesn't matter. common law marriage still applies.

  • @SakuraMo1844

    @SakuraMo1844

    Жыл бұрын

    💯

  • @LDM805

    @LDM805

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@political-social Only in very few instances.

  • @DevHazy

    @DevHazy

    3 ай бұрын

    Lol”toxic”…. This lady should runnnnnnnn

  • @mominthe209

    @mominthe209

    29 күн бұрын

    @@political-socialcommon law marriages are rare

  • @Michael-ye9xm
    @Michael-ye9xm2 жыл бұрын

    This lady needs to run, very, very, VERY far away.

  • @christophercarrigg3775

    @christophercarrigg3775

    2 жыл бұрын

    Why

  • @lot2196

    @lot2196

    2 жыл бұрын

    As fast as she can.

  • @christophercarrigg3775

    @christophercarrigg3775

    2 жыл бұрын

    Nvm i didnt hear the end of the video. She definitely needs to run

  • @stevenporter863

    @stevenporter863

    2 жыл бұрын

    As fast as she can.

  • @johndummy3370

    @johndummy3370

    10 ай бұрын

    Never question why men run away from commitment and marriage then.

  • @VintageAfro91
    @VintageAfro912 жыл бұрын

    This is her intuition speaking and she should listen

  • @Smurph789
    @Smurph7892 жыл бұрын

    Lol at 42 years old and she’s giving him money. Divorce looms! He found a sucker of course he treats you well. You’re free money with low self esteem.

  • @maryfeigen7715

    @maryfeigen7715

    2 жыл бұрын

    and you pay his bills. Girl, run, run, run as fast as you can!

  • @Smurph789

    @Smurph789

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@maryfeigen7715 wonder if she pays his old alimony or child support!!!

  • @dagobert1234321

    @dagobert1234321

    2 жыл бұрын

    This guy is living his best life 😂

  • @emzywillrich7243

    @emzywillrich7243

    Жыл бұрын

    I thought she said he was 32. He's more of a loser than I thought. I personally wouldn't want to marry anyone when I can't take care of myself.

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack57792 жыл бұрын

    You are being CATFISHED!! You are his CASH COW!!! RUN lady RUN!!!

  • @CJ2023Incognito
    @CJ2023Incognito Жыл бұрын

    Dave is always more gentle with callers when John is on with him. Lol

  • @yogawithsamantharose
    @yogawithsamantharose2 жыл бұрын

    At 6:48 the whole game changed. He is using you for money, whether he realises it or not. His actions speak louder than words!

  • @juditharsenault2131

    @juditharsenault2131

    2 жыл бұрын

    I almost made this mistake!

  • @WorldOfMellie
    @WorldOfMellie2 жыл бұрын

    I have a million dollar nest egg and he’s got his car 😂

  • @matthewgardner2144

    @matthewgardner2144

    2 жыл бұрын

    With only 67 EZ monthly payments left!

  • @rodrigodias4483

    @rodrigodias4483

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @rodrigodias4483

    @rodrigodias4483

    2 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @boredoreos

    @boredoreos

    2 жыл бұрын

    What if his car is a Bugatti? Then he got million dollar nest egg too.

  • @genxx2724

    @genxx2724

    2 жыл бұрын

    He has his own car. That was impressive at age sixteen.

  • @robloxvids2233
    @robloxvids22332 жыл бұрын

    I am in no way a feminist but if you're a 36 year old woman with a million dollars what do you need to get married for? Is she wanting kids? Marrying a 42 year old broke guy with a toxic past sounds awful.

  • @william2058

    @william2058

    2 жыл бұрын

    You make it sound like the only purpose for marriage is money or financial security

  • @Blissedx

    @Blissedx

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@william2058 why else would a woman want to marry?

  • @jeromehenry4484

    @jeromehenry4484

    2 жыл бұрын

    I thought it was strange that she never mentioned a desire/plan for children, and she was quite talkative! Only relationship she mentions in HER past is her financial assets, never mentions having even dating before this guy. Interesting she is already paying for their couples therapy but still felt the need to call Dr. Deloney & Mr. Ramsey to get more advice, putting her dirty laundry into public domain. Both of them need to break up and move along because this is a terrible mismatch that will result in a rocky marriage and acrimonious divorce. Caller is not in love, she is infatuated, she doesn't know the difference.

  • @robloxvids2233

    @robloxvids2233

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@william2058 You make it sound like I didn't mention her wanting kids.

  • @Lon1001

    @Lon1001

    2 жыл бұрын

    The only reason to formally wed another is because of your religious views or to raise children (by that I mean kids, not immature adults).

  • @SeanBaker
    @SeanBaker2 жыл бұрын

    Forget him. Keep your money all to yourself!

  • @lynnebucher6537
    @lynnebucher65372 жыл бұрын

    If he's comfortable having you support him now, this will likely be your future after marriage. Remember, he's broke because he's not mature enough to have an emergency fund. Inexcusable at age 42!!!

  • @westbccoast
    @westbccoast2 жыл бұрын

    She would have known his behavior before getting engaged and saying yes, she should of said no until he changed his ways or aligned. She should run, this is a 40+ guy without a job

  • @cherylbroadenax1006

    @cherylbroadenax1006

    Жыл бұрын

    40 yrs is spending habit. Nah. He will contribute spend and drive her insane. I wonder why when we see red flags , we don’t run?

  • @Lola-km3bs
    @Lola-km3bs2 жыл бұрын

    She probably brought her own engagement ring 🙄. He sounds like a user she should've never told him about her money...ppl really need to learn to keep things to themselves, talk too much🙄

  • @cirer8790
    @cirer87902 жыл бұрын

    Words of advice, do not marry a broke person! I had a few female friends that this backfired on and it becomes a big mess if the relationship does not work out. She will basically have to buy herself out of the marriage that has a less then 50% chance of being successful.

  • @cabayern9416

    @cabayern9416

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you have a prenup. Guy is not stepping up to the plate. He is marrying up and he knows it.

  • @elchapojr6219

    @elchapojr6219

    2 жыл бұрын

    Just married someone with a freaking job for Christ

  • @superblump87

    @superblump87

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@cabayern9416 what gave you the idea the person you replied to has a prenup? Or is married?

  • @Wraithguard92

    @Wraithguard92

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@superblump87 I suspect that this person meant to leave a general comment instead of a reply.

  • @barbieblue3336

    @barbieblue3336

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes

  • @happycamper9289
    @happycamper92892 жыл бұрын

    This woman needs to run.

  • @patty109109
    @patty1091092 жыл бұрын

    42 he has no net worth and you’re 36 and have $1M. This isn’t going to work. His voracious spending and lack of delayed gratification will come back to bite you. You WILL be paying for him down the road. Heck, you already are now! Red flags galore. You feel you’re running out of time with your age but this isn’t the answer.

  • @fluffyspunsugar
    @fluffyspunsugar2 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like cutting off the fun tickets now would be a good way to vet out his true intentions. If he pouts, storms off, and gives her grief, he's using her. If he humbly accepts her cutting off financial support and works harder to better himself to show her what he can bring to the table, he's a keeper.

  • @ebriggs3498

    @ebriggs3498

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, he could be a master manipulator!

  • @VoiceOfReason919

    @VoiceOfReason919

    Жыл бұрын

    Ik someone who does this to stay at his gfs dead grandmas house

  • @kdmil2002
    @kdmil2002 Жыл бұрын

    I hope she does not marry him. He is already exhibiting a lack of financial stability. He is already taking money from her and allowing her to support him. The anxiety she is feeling is real and she should listen to her gut. Otherwise, she is in for a very traumatic marriage and this man will bankrupt her.

  • @georgelyden
    @georgelyden Жыл бұрын

    A grown man with no money? Big red flag! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

  • @RJRussoVids
    @RJRussoVids2 жыл бұрын

    Even with a prenup your spouse can clear you out with spending during the marriage. In addition prenups can be challenged in court and do not prevent major legal expenses (or emotional distress) associated with a divorce. For this caller I would've had one additional question. So how handsome is this guy? 😂

  • @Sizukun1

    @Sizukun1

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bingo. Prenups are barely worth the paper they're printed on.

  • @mysticaccy

    @mysticaccy

    2 жыл бұрын

    exactly! and if he is expected to pay back.. with what money... with what job lol

  • @scrappychildhood6633

    @scrappychildhood6633

    2 жыл бұрын

    That's a fact marriage and a first world country is not advisable anymore many millionaires and billionaires are moving over to third and second world countries.

  • @racpatrice

    @racpatrice

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mysticaccy He won't pay her back...he's gonna say it's our money anyway because we are getting married..

  • @jimroscovius

    @jimroscovius

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@racpatrice And he'd be right.

  • @lizh4933
    @lizh49334 ай бұрын

    You are attending counselling BEFORE you have even married. She is supporting him BEFORE they are married. This dude's chief occupation after they marry will be "couch potato/leech/money sucker/nightmare" (pick one or all).

  • @Bob-yh7ir
    @Bob-yh7ir2 жыл бұрын

    She needed to find this out or have this conversation long ago before getting engaged. This will FAIL. 100% guarantee. She will eventually come to despise and hate him for not being a partner in her life.

  • @tgundy2296
    @tgundy22962 жыл бұрын

    This guy will not lead her to a better life. Assuming he's in good health, anybody "man" enough to bum money off their fiancee while being 42 and not working is not much of a man at all

  • @tylersanders2388
    @tylersanders23882 жыл бұрын

    This was totally fine up front, but as soon as it turned into she was paying his bills, there’s the problem. A spender and a saver can go perfectly fine together, but never someone who pays a boyfriend or girlfriend’s bills for them

  • @conorturton

    @conorturton

    2 жыл бұрын

    My wife doesn't work, I pay her bills, she looks after the house. That's how families worked for hundreds of years.

  • @tylersanders2388

    @tylersanders2388

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@conorturton that’s totally fine and good, the problem is when you are footing the bill for an entirely separate household when you aren’t married

  • @SalisburySnake

    @SalisburySnake

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tylersanders2388 They're obviously living together. But I'm sure she knows not to tell Dave that.

  • @Ella-Bella2024

    @Ella-Bella2024

    3 ай бұрын

    @@conorturtonthat is work.

  • @craigslistrro709
    @craigslistrro7092 жыл бұрын

    She needs to rethink her marriage plans.. Money is just a byproduct of being financially responsible. Her man is financially irresponsible.. They are not a match..

  • @vanessacaltabiano9775
    @vanessacaltabiano9775 Жыл бұрын

    I wish I listened to my gut on my wedding day….. but every one was telling me it’s just wedding jitters, cold feet etc etc. Turned out he had secret gambling problem $150k🙄🙄 Trust your instincts ❤️❤️

  • @braddavid902

    @braddavid902

    5 ай бұрын

    Oh my god I’m so sorry you went through that. Gambling is terrible addiction

  • @Chele-nm4qx
    @Chele-nm4qx2 жыл бұрын

    My husband is a spender, I am the saver- I just don’t let him buy anything that we both don’t agree to buy. Has worked for 29 years.

  • @matthewgardner2144

    @matthewgardner2144

    2 жыл бұрын

    Does he at least have a job?

  • @Chele-nm4qx

    @Chele-nm4qx

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@matthewgardner2144 Yes. 😂

  • @bellmattwebb
    @bellmattwebb2 жыл бұрын

    Hmmm, a 42 year old man with no assets and no job. I don't know his back story but unless he's been in a coma or just recovered from a debilitating health issue, I'm pretty sure that you can do better than that.

  • @huynhanhtrungtin
    @huynhanhtrungtin2 жыл бұрын

    Yknow… if I don’t work and just stay at home while spending your money, I would also treat you like a queen 🤣😂. Run girl, run as fast as you can. Don’t even look back. 42 with no saving and like to spend. Good bai.

  • @sarrahconley3143
    @sarrahconley31432 жыл бұрын

    Her fiance already makes me nervous.

  • @highbrass3749
    @highbrass37492 жыл бұрын

    If he’s in his 40’s and broke that’s all the information I need. This woman should run. Find a guy with a little more sense even if he’s a little older.

  • @berniceacquah1495
    @berniceacquah14952 жыл бұрын

    Run lady. Run. Do not walk, Run!!!

  • @cathy7824
    @cathy78242 жыл бұрын

    He's spent all his money and he will spend all her money as well

  • @yahussain1272
    @yahussain12723 ай бұрын

    He sounds like a red flag

  • @tomtensecretlanguage9273
    @tomtensecretlanguage92732 жыл бұрын

    Gurl, peehlease! DO NOT MARRY THAT GUY!!

  • @melanieb2132
    @melanieb21322 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like it's not just a money (save vs spend), but he sounds lazy.. which is even worse.

  • @melanieb2132

    @melanieb2132

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@saulgoodman2018 well, his girlfriend is paying his rent.. if he was working 60 hrs a week, I doubt that would be happening.

  • @jasonmoquin
    @jasonmoquin2 жыл бұрын

    NOPE! Red alert, man! To be 42 and broke is a HUGE red flag! How does she know he's not just using her for her money?

  • @pongmolina2157

    @pongmolina2157

    2 ай бұрын

    She is a sugar mamma, im guessing he is very handsome and she is just using him for his looks.

  • @robloxvids2233
    @robloxvids22332 жыл бұрын

    "My spouse/partner is a spender" is basically like admitting "I am dating/married to a small child."

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter2 жыл бұрын

    The caller: how do I deal with...? My advice: You don't! If you have doubts about marrying someone, you should listen to your intuition. Made this mistake in the past. You can't change anyone. Either accept them as is or leave the relationship. You get into trouble when your banking on their “potential”.

  • @dimediamond

    @dimediamond

    2 жыл бұрын

    Your right

  • @t3morga
    @t3morga2 жыл бұрын

    Run lady 🏃‍♀️

  • @bigisrick
    @bigisrick2 жыл бұрын

    42 years old and having your 36 yo fiance pay your way is just sad. This dudes a master manipulator. She knows it but too scared to do anything about it because she waited so long to try and get married/have kids.

  • @carolinavargas61

    @carolinavargas61

    11 ай бұрын

    These kind of guys target these low self steam women.

  • @erica8165
    @erica81652 жыл бұрын

    If you have anxiety abt marrying, it's only gonna get worse if not dealt with before. I think it's more so that she's realized that she's in a situation where she's quickly running out of options and this the closest she's gonna get. There's no problem prioritizing career over marriage but this is the flip side.

  • @stevenporter863

    @stevenporter863

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed..

  • @justbeyoulikeme2860
    @justbeyoulikeme2860 Жыл бұрын

    Girrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllllllllllllllllllll. Lol. Do. Not. Marry. Him. He should not be comfortable even taking money from a woman, especially one who is not his wife. Major red flag. "Molly, you in danger, girl."

  • @ricm96
    @ricm962 жыл бұрын

    You should never marry a spender, silly. It only gets worse after marriage.

  • @mikejohn3265

    @mikejohn3265

    2 жыл бұрын

    This has nothing to do with saver and spender. Spenders aren't necessarily bad. There are spenders who have great self control and make tons of money. This guy is a bum and she won't admit it.

  • @ricm96

    @ricm96

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mikejohn3265 A spender with self control is not a "spender".

  • @whatsilviadid3993

    @whatsilviadid3993

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ricm96 i dont agree. I am a spender and i am a high earner so i support others in my family and i have a yearly budget and here i am listening to Dave for years.

  • @ricm96

    @ricm96

    Жыл бұрын

    @@whatsilviadid3993 Read the comments above yours.

  • @katemiller7874

    @katemiller7874

    11 ай бұрын

    That’s ridiculous 1/2 the people in the world are spenders. You can agree to have a plan together. If they respect you and love you they will adhere to the plan

  • @q.d.r.l.5480
    @q.d.r.l.54802 жыл бұрын

    “Trauma” and “he’s going to teach you how to go dancing.” This is considered advice to a woman in 2022? The man is 42 and has no money. He’s in the midst of “switching jobs and building up his book of business.” Please… the guys a certified loser. Here’s the advice: move on and find a real man. You shouldn’t have waited this long to get married in the first place lady, but don’t settle for a man-child just because you’re behind.

  • @montymython754

    @montymython754

    2 жыл бұрын

    AMEN to everything you said.

  • @genxx2724

    @genxx2724

    2 жыл бұрын

    He’s a master manipulator with that “switching careers”, “hasn’t built up a book of business”, and “he can catch up” in this new job B.S.

  • @q.d.r.l.5480

    @q.d.r.l.5480

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Whit Wood yeah true, I mean I don’t know the full context for sure. It’s kind of weird that she would call in about this honestly

  • @etme1000

    @etme1000

    Жыл бұрын

    Because money is what makes a man "real"? Besides needing money for living, you realize money is not a value in itself? That NOWHERE in the Bible does it say, "Blessed are the moneymakers?" What is the greatest value, in your opinion? DO you realize money is not among any list of true values?

  • @q.d.r.l.5480

    @q.d.r.l.5480

    Жыл бұрын

    @@etme1000 I was just saying this guy is a loser is all. Overall, sounds like a lazy excuse-making child. But that’s just from her side. Maybe the reality is different

  • @JoseReyes-sw6xd
    @JoseReyes-sw6xd2 жыл бұрын

    Dam we need an update on this call as time goes by.

  • @REP46520
    @REP465202 жыл бұрын

    you need to leave honey!

  • @elizabethallen4353
    @elizabethallen43532 жыл бұрын

    Oh no. Run away, don't walk!

  • @karolinascott8421
    @karolinascott84212 жыл бұрын

    Past behavior predicts future behavior. Amen .

  • @SandraStachowiczLtd
    @SandraStachowiczLtd3 ай бұрын

    She sees her money as her security blanket Her fiance sees her money as HIS security blanket 😂😂😂 Major red flags here

  • @patti9339
    @patti93392 жыл бұрын

    She needs to move on from this man. 42 and no money and she’s supporting him. Don’t marry him. He’s a moocher.

  • @clarifyingquestions
    @clarifyingquestions2 жыл бұрын

    42 years old and his net worth is a car?

  • @TheDjcarter1966
    @TheDjcarter19662 жыл бұрын

    He has had toxic relationships in the past....maybe he was the toxic one? All we can do is wish you luck, honestly doesn't sound promising but at 36 she probably doesn't have a lot of options. How are you 42 and your girlfriend is paying your rent? I'm sorely tempted to just say run away.

  • @hebrews11vs5

    @hebrews11vs5

    2 жыл бұрын

    And I'm tempted to say your advice to simply run away just might be the right advice here. I would not put a whole lot of money on this one working out if I were a gambling man. Past predicts future and that guy is just as lost at 42 as he was at 25.

  • @roblemmon7531

    @roblemmon7531

    2 жыл бұрын

    Run Run Run. This will not work out. Both have a lot of baggage that neither have addressed yet.

  • @Lon1001

    @Lon1001

    2 жыл бұрын

    he was the toxic one, that she openly stated, and suggested he'd matured some to the point she wants to spend her life with him. She just wants to know how to set it up to work while KNOWING that he's never going to be financially responsible. Blowing up the relationship is the extreme way and would obliterate the good along with the bad of their relationship.

  • @jamievsjamie8377

    @jamievsjamie8377

    2 жыл бұрын

    That's what I thought too. He's had nothing but toxic relationships, then 98% chance he's the toxic one.

  • @SD-ip2wb

    @SD-ip2wb

    2 жыл бұрын

    At 36 she doesn’t have a lot of options? Wow. She could marry anyone 20-70. You’re stuck with who you’re married to.

  • @judymarburger
    @judymarburger3 ай бұрын

    Run girl! You don’t want to be his mommy!!

  • @beckypetersen2680
    @beckypetersen26802 жыл бұрын

    I know we don't know who he is, but it sounds like he's a bum. Sorry to say it, but I can't imagine why she think she needs someone like this in her life. She needs a leader - not a leach.

  • @johndummy3370

    @johndummy3370

    10 ай бұрын

    She needs a leader? A leader implies superiority over another. Women are asking for equality in relationships, the work force, pay etc. You cannot have a leader and an equal at the same time.

  • @jill9606
    @jill96062 жыл бұрын

    She is 36 and wants him to be financially independent so she doesn’t have to support him- that’s totally reasonable. If that’s a value of hers, then a dude who can’t make ends meet is wildly unattractive. I dated someone at 26 years old who couldn’t afford groceries because he had a car repair due. I was financially independent and had been for years, but that set off my insecurity alarms imagining myself in the future having to support someone who couldn’t support himself and potentially bring an income to the family.

  • @sweetcaroline7107

    @sweetcaroline7107

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’m in this situation right now at 23 and I don’t know what to do help

  • @jill9606

    @jill9606

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@sweetcaroline7107 you mean you’re dating someone who can’t support themselves or you are struggling to support yourself? (No judgment in my question)

  • @sweetcaroline7107

    @sweetcaroline7107

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jill9606 dating someone

  • @jill9606

    @jill9606

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@sweetcaroline7107 😕I’m sorry

  • @emzywillrich7243
    @emzywillrich7243 Жыл бұрын

    I agree. Don't marry him. He should be in a better position before he marry anyone. It sounds like she is paying just to have a man in her life. It will be interesting to see how he reacts when the funds stop. She just might see why his previous relationships never worked out.

  • @codys5727
    @codys57272 жыл бұрын

    This lady needs to find someone who is independent and doesn't think anything about her money but also is disciplined financially

  • @gatesmom1188
    @gatesmom11882 жыл бұрын

    This woman just won’t stop talking enough to listen I pray to God she listens to this over and over. I’ve been exactly there….please don’t marry him.

  • @yesiownfrodo
    @yesiownfrodo2 жыл бұрын

    These people need a YEAR of prenuptial counseling. Me, as a single woman, this woman is in a big mess. She's marrying someone who is NOT able to be a leader in the home. Period. And yes, a prenup is a big yes.

  • @jovitarich7078
    @jovitarich70782 жыл бұрын

    I have a single son exactly like you and in the same financial state my dear, you both can live happily ever after:))

  • @etme1000

    @etme1000

    Жыл бұрын

    Because lotsa money is the key to happiness?

  • @Kiara_Wrestler

    @Kiara_Wrestler

    3 ай бұрын

    Ahaha match maker! ❤

  • @Kaktus965

    @Kaktus965

    5 күн бұрын

    Your son is gay

  • @brendamoon2660
    @brendamoon26603 ай бұрын

    Its not because opposites attract it because users are always on the hunt for someone they can take from.

  • @mitch-lifestyle1692
    @mitch-lifestyle16922 жыл бұрын

    I’m shocked at Dave’s tepid advice on this one. I’m thinking RUN !!! ..or, boot the guy out and force him to get a job and set up his own household and maintain for at least five years… then start thinking about marriage…

  • @katemiller7874

    @katemiller7874

    11 ай бұрын

    Because Dave is from the generation that falls in love and cares less about a woman’s money. This is a different generation that only cares about money.

  • @yourgooglemeister6745
    @yourgooglemeister67452 жыл бұрын

    Man calling would be 100% different answer

  • @choicemeatrandy6572
    @choicemeatrandy6572 Жыл бұрын

    If Jane was my sister, I'd tell her not to marry this guy. He's a walking red flag. And statistically, men who already have been divorced once are at a higher risk of divorce the second time. That and the fact that she's already supporting him financially BEFORE the I dos says she's going to have it rough for decades having to carry this guy, he should be carrying her, not the other way around.

  • @ifynwamma
    @ifynwamma2 ай бұрын

    People always Ignore gigantic red flags and complain later.

  • @RaleighLink
    @RaleighLink Жыл бұрын

    She shouldn’t marry him. Listen to the warning signs!

  • @vsonic86
    @vsonic862 жыл бұрын

    “He’s become a better version of himself” and yet he also become a good spending as well😂😂😂😂yeah what’s perfect match for 36 years old woman😂😂😂

  • @robloxvids2233

    @robloxvids2233

    2 жыл бұрын

    She displayed so much cognitive dissonance during her lecture.

  • @jjawesome210
    @jjawesome2102 жыл бұрын

    Love these people who have a net worth over a million and still don’t feel secure or can’t spend money. Good problem 😂

  • @sheila3936

    @sheila3936

    2 жыл бұрын

    A million isn’t what it used to be. Just buys an average house in my area sadly.

  • @sweetcaroline7107

    @sweetcaroline7107

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@sheila3936 Yup that’s why I don’t see doctors as rich anymore and I am a nurse

  • @castlebrookbooks1037
    @castlebrookbooks10373 ай бұрын

    Just say NO! Hit the road, jack.

  • @dannymartial7997
    @dannymartial79972 ай бұрын

    She’s one of them women that tells a story and it never ends. Just tangent after tangent 😂

  • @chuinator9918
    @chuinator99182 жыл бұрын

    Seeing a counselor before getting married. They’re doomed to fall!

  • @annasimons389
    @annasimons3892 жыл бұрын

    she said "he CAN make money" which means he isn't making it now... what's stopping him?

  • @nickm4662

    @nickm4662

    2 жыл бұрын

    She said he needs to build his book of business. I’m not sure what field he’s in, but there’s fields like sales or real estate where it takes a while for the money to start coming in. She even said he has the potential to make as much as her. That’s my guess.

  • @cabayern9416

    @cabayern9416

    2 жыл бұрын

    Laziness.

  • @genxx2724

    @genxx2724

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nickm4662 “Yeah, right,” was my reaction to hearing her say that.

  • @karen3876
    @karen38763 ай бұрын

    RUN! He will never be on your level...

  • @DeepScubaDiver
    @DeepScubaDiver2 жыл бұрын

    Don't run in this case, just walk away slowly with your million.

  • @mikejohn3265
    @mikejohn32652 жыл бұрын

    Red flags went up for her. It's almost like she wants to say "he lacks motivation to work."

  • @matthewgardner2144
    @matthewgardner21442 жыл бұрын

    Desperation is not a good look. If this guy is hot, she should just live with him. And she shouldn't listen to his b.s. stories about being in "toxic relationships in the past". He was likely the reason they were toxic.

  • @MrDedvalson
    @MrDedvalsonАй бұрын

    He treats me so well! So I am going to support him financially the rest of my life. Run 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️!

  • @clint25n
    @clint25n2 жыл бұрын

    Men typically don't mind sharing their resources. Women however.. lol

  • @melanieb2132

    @melanieb2132

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's biology.

  • @Alvin-xs7db

    @Alvin-xs7db

    2 жыл бұрын

    Women are all about survival remember that

  • @johnSmith-uz8nl

    @johnSmith-uz8nl

    2 жыл бұрын

    Another male chauvinistic statement!!! Much more men ask for a prenup then women... and when you hear of a women doing this you state a womanizing's comment.

  • @clint25n

    @clint25n

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@johnSmith-uz8nl lol, simp much?

  • @johnSmith-uz8nl

    @johnSmith-uz8nl

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@clint25n That's right, right up the womanizers' hand book, put the blame on the women. Again, your comments are uncalled for and are degrading to women in general and you should be ashamed.