Yongja told him the truth. He can’t provide for his family because he is buried in debt, no fault of her own, and he is sensitive about her bringing up the money issues? He doesn’t take care of his child, his wife’s need and his financial obligations, he asks for divorce and he doesn’t respect her. He is 99.9% at fault. He lied to trap her and he is mad she feels some type of a way about it now.

This is the reason why I'm scared getting married and probably changed when we're leaving together. Girls, careful to choose a man who never change just like before, think wisely.

@soulisrael6823

5 жыл бұрын

the husband was wrong for not telling her about his debt. he probably didn't tell her because in I she seems like she grew up with money. I have a feeling inside she thinks she is better than him." her family has a successful business, she is pretty everyone wants her. she "settled " for love over money." I can understand his resentment. we can't ignore in korean culture ( stop with the western society culture because our divorce rates r crazy high). the man is the head of the household and his pride is very important.

@csoniah4432

5 жыл бұрын

fuck his pride.

@tndawso

5 жыл бұрын

We also can't ignore the fact that some men use their position as "head of the household" as an excuse to bully and belittle their wives. I was shocked when the wife said he told her since he hates her he hates his son too. No excuse to say something like that. I do believe they are both headstrong and full of pride tho. She had a successful career before she married him so I believe her pride in that makes her talk to him harshly about how he can make his business better. His pride won't let him take her advice. The wife's concern does seem like it could be an easy fix if they got marriage counseling and learned how to communicate with each other more respectfully. I understand a man's pride is important but sometimes pride needs to be set aside if it means fixing a relationship.

@jchman2588

5 жыл бұрын

I think its better to say that anyone, regardless of their gender, should be careful of choosing their partner.

@48mavemiss2

5 жыл бұрын

Everyone changes as we grow older, the thing is you have to keep finding new ways of loving those changes and accepting them, working with them and communicate when you hurt each other. There is no perfect relationship. It takes a lot to love but it’s worth it when you both can see the bigger picture in the end, not just because of fear of losing the other person, but out of genuine concern for them and who you now are because you’ll change too. I hope that makes sense. ^^;

It makes me so sad whenever I hear of a woman sacrificing a sucsessful career to marry. Especially if her work was something she loved. From the sounds of it, the husband wanted a wife who would be submissive and would always be nice to him and never talk back. And the wife seems to be far more assertive and head strong. And over all seems frustrated at the position she is in. And she is 3 years older to him. Of course she isn't going to be all aegyo to him. Especially in a professional environment.

@inbloom3874

5 жыл бұрын

she tried to get back with him because she loves him. i understand where you're coming from that she did hurt him but two wrongs never make a right. he deceived her about being debt free so he could marry her and decided to only let it be known when he came to a talk show. he never told her he was hurt and every relationship should be based on communication. she came to hello counselor because she still loves him and wants to make their marriage work. she apologized for hurting him in front of those people, putting her pride down just to make it work. but you could tell he was making up excuses as to why the relationship wasn't going to work. he even talked about their breakup in the past. everyone has their own opinion but to me he is still childish and only when he grows up will he know the true meaning of marriage and how to put any and everything on the line to save it.

@72sunrise

5 жыл бұрын

He is so childish, stubborn, and stupidly prideful. His wife is more knowledgable about business and was trying to get them to become more successful. He seemed very chauvinistic and too prideful to want to take input and advice from his wife. I think because he was stubborn and not listening that his wife was more frustrated and spoke to him more harsher. He was childish and held the grunge as an excuse to treat her badly. He's been lying all this time about his finances and he knew she would not marry him if she knew of his debt. So he wants to put all the blame on her when he basically tricked her and got her to give up a good career and married him. He really needs to grow up and learn to become a good husband and father.

@JohnSmith-oi5hh

5 жыл бұрын

victoria anifowose How d'you know he never told her he was hurt? And how can you not realise you've hurt someone based on 1) what you've said 2) Their nonverbal reaction. If she loved him so much, maybe she wouldn't keep treating him that way? As you said two wrongs don't make one right. Both of them clearly have to be more understanding and kinder to one another. Also, you're calling him childish even though you don't know what he's been through. People are so quick to judge a person. Sorry but it seems you're assuming a lot to take her side on this.

The foreigner guest is on point with everything he said .

@sereneprabha9608

5 жыл бұрын

Anastaciacl18 was a bit rude, & blunt tho.

@evietapp5009

5 жыл бұрын

Some times you have to be rude and blunt to people acting like assholes 😇

@bleach2618

5 жыл бұрын

akurah evol exactly

@frootyfabulous101

4 жыл бұрын

Anastaciacl18 I agree.

@elledumble

2 жыл бұрын

Except women don't have to teach men how to do house chores!

The keys in a relationship: RESPECT, LOVE AND COMMUNICATION...(same in friendship)

@Nothing-iz6hw

5 жыл бұрын

Asi Ko and support

@KoKo-ik4ui

5 жыл бұрын

Betty arts For me it's included in it 😉

@1412Bunny

5 жыл бұрын

i agree, in a healthy relationship your partner should be a best friend

@amajohn3592

5 жыл бұрын

Trust

When she said they got married bc she got pregnant... explains everything.

@Amira-nk8zc

5 жыл бұрын

Sv Vr but he should have been ready for that

@oliverxhmll

5 жыл бұрын

its not about him being ready but two people being married who cant stand each other bc it wasnt actual love

@Amira-nk8zc

5 жыл бұрын

Sv Vr No it's him who can't stand her she is trying to be affecting and for him and his son

@oliverxhmll

5 жыл бұрын

Nightcore Anime no she's rude to him too.

@Amira-nk8zc

5 жыл бұрын

Sv Vr In what way(s)

He doesnt seem love her anymore, it’s way more hate than love looking the way he talk to her. When he said he doesnt want to bother while sleeping and asked her to take their son... that was disgusted me a lot. She really need to have a deep convesation with him otherwise DIVORCE is really the only best choice to end the circle of hatred. How unlucky she is....

@joeleanesollano4428

5 жыл бұрын

Koma Koma i’m just going to state my opinion here. I don’t really understand why people go into marriage and thinks it doesn’t work then they would always think that the only answer is divorce. It’s like they treat marriage as trial and error. I think before you get married, you should really look deeper to your partner because once you’ve been one you just have to keep and swallow it up. But of course, it’s another story when it comes to abuse. Just saying.

@lavinder11

5 жыл бұрын

He never loved her.

@josietoparea4652

5 жыл бұрын

I agree. The way I see the husband he's already given up.

@norma8794

5 жыл бұрын

@@joeleanesollano4428 so if you fail to understand someone fully and marry them you should just carry on? It does not make sense to me. If you made a mistake at some point in life why should you insist on living with it when you can move on? This not about holding onto your decision, it's about two or more people's happiness in life. It is a path that should be taken if necessary.

@tingle2323

3 жыл бұрын

@@norma8794 well there would be no other solutions fhan divorce.. But the way i have seen many ppl here.. They seriously date less time and also many are shotgun married.. Being pregnant and getting married.. First of all they should really stop getting and making pregnant

he said he doesn't get jealous but he's jealous of his son...

it's wrong for him to lie to her about his debt before marriage. from the start, this marriage lacked trust and foundation.

@kiki-ff1zh

4 жыл бұрын

kaylee24 THAT RIGHT THERE IS FACTSSSSSS

That's why i would never choose a man over my career.

@senpaitama8778

5 жыл бұрын

Anastaciacl18 yes the man can choke while my career snatches wig

@MelodySorrow

5 жыл бұрын

same. everybody should prepare for the worst case

@yogurLAPIZ

5 жыл бұрын

Me too. I think that in the future im going to have the need or thought of marrying because im going to be the last single in my friends group, and with the age we all go throw this. She maybe thinked that this was the only time she would have the possiblity to marry and she needed to choose over job or him. But i think the perfect relationship that will last, is the one that nobody makes sacrifices, and respect each one dreams or goals. But i have noticed that in most asia country dont have this mind. The only thing i think is when you have a good job that apreciates and you made throw the hardship to go up, is hard to have a diferent life, you can keep it during some time but in the end you will get ancious and stressed. Since you need that bittersweet feeling of working, the realisement of i did this, and i made here that job gived you. Is hard to let go from your independence once you get it. 7(0-0)

@csoniah4432

5 жыл бұрын

Yogur Lapiz I really consider adopting 3 kids and being a single mom in the future , I would like to get married ofc but it scares me since relationships are complicated, I didn't have a good example in my house, my father was not a father and not a good husband . I have a lot of male friends and they are nice guys, I know that there are nice guys outhere who are respectful to women and etc but we know that relationships nowadays are hard to last, some people just stay with their partners just "because" but there's no love in there anymore, that scares me a lot , I was talking with an old men one day and he was telling me that even though he loved his wife it wasn't the same anymore after 50 years married is hard to still love each other and I get bored from people quite easily.... sorry for being so confused and negative in this comment but after your comment I just started to think about this .

@elvisishakmboni4333

5 жыл бұрын

never understood that phrase,its simple u chose one form of happiness over another ,so work on it ,he changed work for her smh

The thing that he says at 22:40 “if you hadn’t said that to me, it wouldn’t have gotten so bad between us.” Kind of sounds to me like he’s putting all their fault of the relationship on her. Sure he was working hard for their family and she hurt him trough saying it, but that was definitely not the only problem on why they are so distant to each other now.

I have learnt a lot from this concern and yeongja is my favourite

@mMU4aCpVq-j

5 жыл бұрын

Same Here. I admire Young-ja

Lmao this happens so often on this show that I'm not even angry. Divorce him and get your old job back. He belittles you and lied about debt. No more room to improve. Either that or stay miserable.

@mustachegurl1714

5 жыл бұрын

MsJackson1330 the problem is they have son even before marriage. The son will be affected if that happens. I too vote for them to divorce if they still dont have a child but now they have a child.

@MsJackson1330

5 жыл бұрын

carolxdabble te son is already affected by having two miserable parents. having divorced parents doesnt mean he will be unhappier. kids feed off of their parents energy and mental state. They learn from what they see. Constant fighting and unhappiness isnt setting god example. Some people are better off apart, he can still be apart of his sons life

He told that he doesn't love his child and she still want to be with him because of both parents thing. What kind of mentality it is ?? I don't get it.

@JungSaehyun

5 жыл бұрын

BiBiSiful because if she leave her husband, she can't support her child needs even tho the husband has to give our child support which is only for a while until the child grows up and has a job. And this is mostly on women's mind when they are in this kind of relationship so they endure the pain ust for their child's need.

@ieevux

5 жыл бұрын

You honestly think being a single mom is easy? It definitely isn't. My mom is a single mom and even though I'm 17 years old now, I grew up with a single mother. She devoted all her life to me. It's not as easy as you might think.

@alexisoctavia6956

5 жыл бұрын

Sadly Korean society looks down on single moms and on children that are from a family with a single mom. If the father died its viewed like "oh poor woman she is doing her best" but if they got divorced since korea is still a patriarchal society the old people look at it as a bad sigh that the woman did not fulfill her obligations. The new generations are starting to change hopefully we will see a better future.

@alexisoctavia6956

5 жыл бұрын

I am sorry that your mom went through so many hardships but times are changing and trust me korean women are strong also i believe that women have become stronger and single moms are better viewed people don't see weak women when they see single moms but they see a badass mom who can do anything. I am glad your mom didn't give up on you and one day you will return what she gave you, my mom choose to leave me so my dad was both mother and father.

@jul2447

5 жыл бұрын

The community is different towards single mother and her child thus she probably didnt want her child to grow up without father's love

The man is a child. He needs to grow up, and they need an actual marriage counselor that can mediate a healthy conversation.

The mentality that women are property that you can attain with good behaviour is mental abuse. Pretending to be someone you’re not is wrong plain and simple. It seems marriage has become a superficial binding rather that a deep commit of love and trust. A society that condemns unmarried men and women is creating relationships like this and it sad that pressures have these beautiful young women marrying men like him. Honestly it starts from the parenting, mother instilling housework duties to their daughter while their sons do whatever. What I also have observed is how the old Korean mothers would say how hard it was to bring up their children because of their husbands drinking and their bad behaviour yet they continue the cycle with their own children. It’s a never ending cycle. I just feel terrible because they don’t really have the option to divorce and they become financially reliant on the husband. It seems like a trap the way some Koreans go on about marriage. I understand it’s not just Koreans but for a first world country, that’s innovative and fast moving, they sure are stuck in the past.

@chantelle129

5 жыл бұрын

He ain’t jealous at all and won’t even touch her? I swear the patriarchal men on this show have to be the most honest about their intentions. Watching more of the show I don’t believe for a minute that the women hadn’t seen through him before she married him. How is he gonna say that he would give another women his number and then not his heart so is he gonna give her his body? The traditional family values needs to be updated, these men are have kids they clearly don’t want and the women keep having children with them Just be friends honestly lol

@Amira-nk8zc

5 жыл бұрын

Chan Elle Sorry but I ain't gonna read all that

@safiahassan7856

5 жыл бұрын

Chan Elle I agree with everything

@pkmelody3

5 жыл бұрын

Chan Elle dayumm u just read them lol I agree 100% tho

@US25213

5 жыл бұрын

Perfect!

I personally experienced the same thing...i chose to be with the first man i dated,got a child and give up my career to became a plain housewife..but in returned he does so many hurtful things that crashed my confidence. I love him so much yet i need to love myself even more. So i let go of him, i'd rather be a single mother than live the rest of my life suffering from stress and anxiety due to continues emotional attacked he often do. We are all human being by that alone we deserved to gain even alittle respect. I can relate to this story alot,but if given a chance to decide again i would choose the same. My happiness comes first because how can i show to my children how to be happy when i myself doesn't know how. 😭

@xTenshiAi

5 жыл бұрын

you are a brave and amazing woman for leaving him!!

@shillilove

5 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you had the strength to leave. I wish you all the best!!! 👏🏾👏🏾❤️

@annikabasnet7104

3 жыл бұрын

You're so brave. I wish you all the best and forever strength to tackle everyproblem and be happy

@elledumble

2 жыл бұрын

It takes courage to do what you did! 👏🏾👏🏾 I hope you are doing well 💗

When it's 5 in the morning and your trying no to pass out

@evelynl.4885

5 жыл бұрын

Britany's Dreams me right now

Thanks KBS, Hello Counsellor, MCs and all the concerned people, thank you for changing my mind about ever getting married....

Respect is so freaking important in any relationship

Their marriage would be so much better if they just communicated with each other. I hope from now on they will be able to talk to each other more about their feelings and concerns.

Those girls who fetishise korean guys should watch more of Hello Counselor and see the reality lol

@happymealsareyumm

5 жыл бұрын

xTenshiAi thank you!! This is pretty typical of korean men. This ain't even that bad compared to what I've dealt with. She's lucky he isn't a drunk and hitting her.

@athenasuperheldin1017

4 жыл бұрын

@@happymealsareyumm what have you dealt with? Omg do you have personal bad experiences?

@dualego

4 жыл бұрын

happymealsareyumm that’s so sad :(

@moniesworld8468

4 жыл бұрын

@@happymealsareyumm I hope everything is alright

@scarletred522

4 жыл бұрын

@@happymealsareyumm glad that you got out of that horrible marriage

He doesn't love her and is making excuses. Your angry because she said you don't make enough money? That's life. You have a son! Cut the crap and divorce because he will just drag his wife down with his attitude.

@kamikazindabirenge5996

5 жыл бұрын

O! RU, L82? They both a shitty attitude. They are constantly trying to one-up each other through hurting one another. Furthermore, neither one of them talk about they feel. Their egos are way too big

They both have huge egos. Neither of them are willing to let go of their pride to have a proper conversation. I’ve dated a man like this and they’re very prideful and put up a front but they get hurt very deeply by the smallest things. They’re super sensitive even if they say they’re not. That’s why they become petty because instead of telling you that you hurt them, they try to one up you in the hurt which is not the right way to handle these situations. In a way, I am also like this but I make efforts to improve as a person. This woman is exactly like how I described the man above, she may not think that she isn’t like that but she is. They’re too similar in that sense, that’s why they clash the way they do. Either way, this marriage is doomed unless they seriously start communicating and understanding each other. Being petty isn’t going to get them anywhere.

@inbloom3874

5 жыл бұрын

i agree with you in a sense but although she might have a huge ego like you said, she still came on a reality show that most of the people in korea and people from different parts of the world watch and sincerely apologized. that in itself is putting her pride/ego down for the man that she loves and for the security of her marriage. but i do think they need to talk more to each other. communication is key in all relationships after all.

@chai_lattes

5 жыл бұрын

#truth

@aisyusagi189

5 жыл бұрын

Agreee....

@Dreimair

5 жыл бұрын

Didn't she apologize on national TV for one single offhanded comment? Yeah if all our household money goes to a shady debt, of course I would be annoyed my husband isnt making enough for the kids and I. The guy told his wife he doesnt like her or his own child. Lied about debt. Pretended to be someone hes not, and apologized for nothing. Then at the end, he's like.... let me sleep. You watched all of this and was like....yup....even.... lol tf is wrong with u

@lavinder11

5 жыл бұрын

No, they don't. People with "huge: egos don't take abuse (and apologize for it) like th is woman did.

He is so childish, stubborn, overly sensitive and stupidly prideful. His wife is more knowledgable about business and was trying to get them to become more successful. He seemed very chauvinistic and too prideful to want to take input and advice from his wife. I think because he was stubborn and not listening that his wife was more frustrated and spoke to him more harsher. He was childish and held the grunge as an excuse to treat her badly. He's been lying all this time about his finances and he knew she would not marry him if she knew of his debt. So he wants to put all the blame on her when he basically tricked her and got her to give up a good career and marry him. He really needs to grow up and learn to become a good husband and father.

Most part of the time the problem is the lack of comunication , in this case too, in the beginning i was just like " girl get a divorce" because he didn't look like he wanted to change but at the end i realized that deep down they still liked each other

@LAtttiful

5 жыл бұрын

Anastaciacl18 Im still like "girl get a divorce" after all that he still never apologized for the part he played in the hurt.

@desiradejustin4508

5 жыл бұрын

Anastaciacl18 I was with you when you said "girl go get a divorce" but then you lost me.

@csoniah4432

5 жыл бұрын

Desira Dejustin if they came to the show is because they wanna change their relationship , if things are going to work out or not i don't know but before saying " get a divorce " we should say "try to make things work if you see there's no way to restore this relationship then break up" that's why most relationships don't last, people don't act like rational beings and try to solve things, they just let go of things if they are complicated to deal with . ( ofc we shouldn't try too hard if the other person is not willing to help, we gotta do what's best for us depending on the situation and I'm not gonna wish for a family to get destroyed, rather then "get a divorce" I wish they can be happy and respect each other and change, that's the purpose of this show and I realized this after I finished this ep.

She came to talk about intimacy and he flipped it around and made it seem like it was her fault that he was being mean and hurtful towards her. What kind of shxt is this? He completely manipulated all of them to think that’s the reason he hates her and his baby and doesn’t want her is because she said he didn’t earn enough money. Wow I’m truly disappointed with this episode. She was the one to apologize when he should have been the one to apologize for being mean, and saying he wants a divorce. It’s clear he’s childish, what grown man runs away from home because his wife gives more attention to their 7 month old son? 🙄

This is why you need to be careful of who you marry. A child does not equal a successful or good marriage. He withheld the fact that he’s in debt, doesn’t help with house or baby, and said he treated her too good in the beginning, he essentially trapped her.

i don't want to think that all korean men are like that, but it seems like they change a lot from how they were when they are dating and when they get married...

@mynameisbob7059

5 жыл бұрын

Wa Chin Yu rule #1 : when the man you're dating says that they love you, don't believe them

@weeohwee100

5 жыл бұрын

gonna have to be truthful, as a korean myself, many are like this and hold some kind of sexist view. People think its bad in in the west, but its actually more common in my country. Because men are raised by those kind of values.

They both just need to have a proper conversation and express themselves more

C o m m u n i c a t I o n is the key in any relationshipppppp

Wow this lady so brave to tell her stories infront of people on show. I hope all well for her and husband please give more love to wife

He is married and would give his phone number to a strange woman to increase his sales ... ???!!! Oh God ... in what world are you living? If you were my husband, I would show you what ... 👿👿👿😡😡😡

@uetzel

5 жыл бұрын

i do that all the time, fuck off lady, oh and 911 was an inside job, good day

@shegotit143

3 жыл бұрын

uetzel 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

@Black_Heart71

3 жыл бұрын

@@uetzel I´m pretty sure you mean *inside joke* and how do you know that I´m a *LADY* ?! 🤔🤔🤔

@tingle2323

3 жыл бұрын

@@uetzel well it isnt something proud of then.. 🥱

Communication. That's it. That's the answer to this problem. But it's difficult because she hurted his ego, and he hurted her with his words.

Jeez, I realized that the whole "relationship is teamwork" is almost non-existent in South Korea lmaoo

this episode made me cry the most at the end bc people dont realize that words do hurt but holding grudges wont do nothing that things need to be talked out

she should get out of that marriage. doesn't look like he loves her anymore. and since she's intelligent and capable, i think the husband feels inferior compared to her but that doesn't justify how he treats his family.

Take home lesson learned: always use contraceptives even when you think you might marry that guy in the future or you think you love him so there won't be a shotgun marriage. I don't think he loves her though and saw her as a challenge to conquer then tamed when they were dating. The only thing she got going for now is she hasn't invested her youth to this guy, so she has to decide whether to separate form this unhappy marriage. Who wants to spend years with a husband who ignores you and makes you feel bad? Time to move on and take the kid with you.

Just like one of the celebrity guests said, they need to stop trying to mold each other into people they are not. It just doesn't end well. U have to fully realize who the other person is and who you are and accept them as such. This is not to say people don't change, but people change when they want to change. He needs to also realize that he will need to make sacrifices, like his beauty rest, to take care of his child. He is responsible for that child just as much as she is. It pisses me off when i watch these shows and hear the husbands telling their wives to "raise the child well". Some African men do the same shit. They are BOTH responsible for raising that child. Whatever they decide to do, they need to do it well because no one else will be caught in the middle more than the innocent child.

The nerve of this guy! He wants to be the first priority and does not take care of his own son. How can you wipe your own ass but not your son's? He has so much pride, I'm surprised he would not find pride in having a child. His wife works alongside him and he would give out his number to female customers if they asked him for it just so he could "maintain business", but the funny thing is his wife has male customers who stay all day at their restaurant and she tells them that she's married. I can't imagine how hard it is for her because she has the option to leave and find a man who is more doting towards her and takes responsibility for the son that they've both brought into this world (it takes two to make a baby).

I pray things will work out for them, and it will need a lot of talk and they need to let go their ego and start think that they are a team now. We all learn a lot from this concern, and i think it is a good decision for the wife to come out in the show.

I think there's pride issues and lack of communication like everyone has mentioned, but mainly, I don't think they love each other... Truthfully, they need marriage counseling. If hello counselor wasn't there to guide them through that conversation. The husband would have never expressed himself and the conversation would have turned into an argument. He don't want no booty though? After a year? Run...

To say "they just need to have honest conversation" is like worsening the current situation. As seen, the husband is very rude, uncuring and indifferent to the situation they are in and the wife is the one who is trying to work this whole thing out on her own. This basically is trying to clap using one hand which we all know is impossible. I strongly believe they need a professional outsider's help.

They are both resentful for valid reasons and take it out on each other. She gave up a successful career to be a housewife and feels bitter, she looked down on him a lot because he was not as successful and he feels bitter. Dunno how they'll fix it, both have lots of pride...

This is why communication is important in relationship. Don't keep it for too long or else ur relationship end up like this 👆. Look like that dude don't love her anymore.

im inlove with this showwwwwww

Leave him now lady before it becomes physical abuse instead of just verbal abuse. No excuse for this type of abusive emotional behaviour. These are ALL very RED flags. Get out while you still can...and this only after a year. Imagine in 5 years or be prepared to deal with possible infidelity on his part and even worse. Please think of your son. No child should see or hear his mother be spoken to and treated that way. It equals damage. I wonder how much he owes in debt?

chosen love over money. gosh, you could’ve just reached love while reaching money too

he always hold grudges... and remember the negatives.. this type of person is difficult to deal with

I think both of them have they ego..... They need deep conversation

This made me so sad, honestly I can go through so many emotions with this show.

The guy has so much EGO in him but he can put that down when he was trying to woo the lady. He hid the fact that he was in debt and had the cheek to admit he is afraid of losing her. But then what he had done from then till now, seemed like he is NOT afraid of losing her. At the end of the session, the guy requested for his wife to focus on the baby rather than raising their child together? Put down that ego and make your family members as your priority instead of yourself. I agreed with Yeonja. You have to pay for knowledge. Be thankful there is someone who know how to get things done. His first time doing business and he is uncertain about things but he cannot accept advice from his wife because of her tone. So in the future if someone wants to work with him where he can earn big bucks. But the person has an attitude which he can't tolerate, so he will forgo the chance? So.. Lastly... why not for a change... the guy take care of the house and his son and his wife take over to run the business... (But I guessed he won't accept this kind of arrangement)

The way he said that he wants her to raise their son well sounds like a farewell and screams for consideration of divorce coming from him

This is the most serious concern ever in Hello counselor

@thisisthenewme100

5 жыл бұрын

Nur Raz I feel like I've seen more serious concerns on this show but I get what you mean. This is one of the first concerns I watched where I feel like they can't work it out. Divorce seems to be the only option. It just felt like he was completely done with the marriage. His last words were kind of like the nail in the coffin. It was so evident that Young ja had to jump in at the end.

@nurhr5630

5 жыл бұрын

Really? On which ep? Yup.. Seems like the husband had lose heart towards her. someone once said to me "when a guy says he didnt want, the girl wont get him no matter how. But if a girl doesnt want him, the guy will win her heart" something like that.. Meaning to say when a guy already close his heart there wont be another chance. And i believe its true coz theres several people i know, where their bf left them and then asking for another chance, they accept their bf back..

@thisisthenewme100

5 жыл бұрын

Nur Raz Yup exactly. He mentioned that when they were dating, she broke up with him a couple times but then always wanted him back. And lol no specific episode but there were so many episodes with drunken husbands, wayward kids and some even alluded to physical abuse. This couples problem felt fixable on the surface but after they went into the heart of things, it just felt like there were no other options but to separate. The wife was wrong too but she apologized on National tv and admitted her mistakes. He refused to apologize to her and just continued to bring up ways he felt she wronged him instead of apologizing for his awful treatment of her and her son.

@nurhr5630

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah looks like that to me too. Because if only one side is willing it wont work. I hope they will find a solution. Its sad that they didnt win. I wont be able to get their update 😭

@mMU4aCpVq-j

5 жыл бұрын

I agree. However, sadly, there are so many similar concerns as well. I can think of at least 4 episodes. All the same patterns..... so pathetic.

내가 백퍼 천퍼 확신하는데 가족끼리 그런거 왜하냐는사람 다 밖에서 풀고 다닌다 진짜 이거 팩트다

The wife is sorry but the husband is so stubborn, the wife has her pride too but the husband doesn't wants to apologize. He should have told her about the debts otherwise how will the family be sustained further, he doesn't gives her enough money to spend and talks about how she always nags him. She even left her job to be with him and he's so...selfish.

she is practically raising two babies right now.. her son and her husband. you better run girl..

my parents are together in their 50's and still have this same problem, too prideful to talk things out and apologize >.>

"I wouldn't give my heart to her" (Just my body)

Wish there were more follow up programs to see how things really worked out...

He don't give her money to spend, don't give her time to rest, don't even help her with housecores and he become so mad when she's complaining.. whan an egoistic Man

“She promised I’d always come first before the baby” that sentence tells you everything you need to know folks. What an immature man that he wants to be priority over his own child and wants her to do everything for him like he’s a child. These sorts of “man babies” will slowly suck the life out of you

When a relationship starts to get more serious, it's best to set aside egos/pride and talk about the issues at hand. Communication is key. Be more understanding of your partner and put yourself in their shoes for a minute. Don't play the blame game or let old grudges cloud your judgement. Your significant other and yourself are a team together, so teamwork is needed when it's time to do some heavy lifting. Also, most importantly, as much ass possible, your child shouldn't suffer from any sort of discord that may appear between you two.

@chai_lattes

5 жыл бұрын

Sophie Cho agree👏👏👏

The sentence I love you is very beautiful. Fighting.

I get stressful when I watch this show...haha

I think the biggest fault of this show is that they keep questioning each partner on what the other half did wrong. At the end of it all each person can only see what their significant other did wrong and not their own faults. If you want to grow as a couple you have to admit to your own mistakes first and do your best to work on them. When both sides try and fix what is wrong about themselves first and change what they can control (themselves) then naturally the relationship will fix itself. When the hosts keep posing questions about what wrong their other half did it just keeps becoming a snowballing blame game. Nothing will ever get resolved when all we see is what we dont like about another person which we dont have (much) control over - family or not. But when we try and seek and fix what is wrong with ourselves and reflect on our own actions then can you become better people for each other.

I could describe the guy in just one word = Immature

No husband that actually loves you would say “let’s get divorce papers” because they wouldn’t want to lose you

You know you watch too many korean Dramas when you just realize after almost 2 minutes that you forgot to put the subtitles on.

I know it's not just the husband that in the wrong position, the wife too. Actually since the beginning, *before they married seems like problem never end in a good ending.* How the girl often asked to break up but then back again because the girls still love him. How the man didn't tell the truth of him has debt before married, and the reason he lied because he want the girl to married him. The boy deceive the girl but the girl took to much pride maybe when the man still work as truck driver. Now, the husband often said about divorce and the wife talk about money but the truth her husband never give any to her. It's good that the wife now know what hurt her husband, *admit it and say sorry.* BUT the husband tho???? I don't know, I feel like from the way he talk, his expression, I assume he still blame what he did to his wife because of his wife, not his fault. Egotistic, too pridefull and stubborn.

I think it'll work out. If they were more open and honest about their feelings from the beginning then the situation wouldn't have escalated up to this point. I feel for both of them tbh

How on earth did a dude like that get a beautiful girl like this. He needs to man up and stop being butthurt over her comment about him not earning enough. His wife is a blessing and he doesnt seem to realize that

I understand that he has been hurt, but still he needs to learn a lot about life, marriage, having a child etc etc A marriage is about loving, understanding, respecting, sharing feelings and moments with the person that you truly love, now you are sharing your life with probably the most important person in your life and that person is your family now, you choose that person. Marriage is not easy, and that‘s why is a everyday thing, bc you gotta learn everyday how you feel, how the other person feel and how are you both going to have a better life together

it somehow remains me to go back couple drama

Never leave your job because of the person you are dating...

Communication is key in relationships.

just when I thought there'd be a happy ending he goes and says change isn't possible...I'll be rooting for them tho

Ego is the best poison to kill a relationship 😁

how ppl love i still don't know 🤔 i never loved i don't think i even gona love someone my mood swings alot which made me angry easily i think no girl would like that i want to change but i don't have reason

" Who needs pride when you are learning something NO one will teach you kindly in this world" TRUE WORDS AT THE END 😏

He came into the relationship with a *-SUBSTANTIAL HIDDEN DEBT-* and expects to be treated like a king??? *HAH! I think NOT!!!*

I have a feeling the husband is giving up, I hope they both work this out. Have a deep conversation.

In every fight and in every hurt feelings, it would be best to talk about it than ignoring it and having cold war that will cause grudges💪🙏😇

He basically cheated on her, faked his identity and personality to get her trapped in this marriage. This is one of the worst nightmare for any maiden.

뻔뻔하고 양심낮은 남편이다. 남편 안변하면 이혼이 정답이다

ive read a lot of comments scared to get married true. i am like that too.but the thing is even how careful you are you fall to the guy without even knowing.actually im married for 12 years.the 1st day its awkward but i tried to make clear things how gonna work our marriage.we have to listen each others opinion.thats one of the rules before on my first night at his house as married couple.instant communication weither its a good compliment or negative everything how you feel towards each other.you have to talk your differences it doesnt mean you married the person you gonna change him instead get to know him better understanding.even 4-5 years of marriage you will still surprise with each others personality.my husband will not go to bed without talking what i was upset about. husband and wife should not forget to ask how was your day. the 3 words my advise not everyday otherwise will be meaningless one day cause hearing it often doesnt sounds sincere anymore even you wanna say it everyday refrain your self lol.keep the intense fired up lol.make time for a date.make a surprise when gets home like food ,dessert from his favorite restaurant.when he go to the office make a short message secretly put it in bag or somewhere that he can see when he gets to the office i use post it note pad all the time lol. for business trip i buy a card again in secret especially during anniversary i know that we wont be together so i hid where he wont be able to see it easily till our anniv comes.then suddenly got a call that he was touched and made him cry lol.Since i met my husband knowing him 13 years he still exactly the same sometimes more sweater lol.we love outdoor games week end we dont stay our house and he said its my day off of cooking lol.till now he call often message me if he can we still use emoticons on our messages funny tgif.heared often people usually say their like brothers and sisters after for long marriage i was scared and laugh.so imade my own path and my husband goal is the same we dont want that to happen.so we work as a team.for me i did think that were still dating.if you let your guard down and think your a fish in a tank dont be.dont let the sparks die down both need to continue to work on it.my husband do the same he knows what women likes.were very proud of our 12 years sparkling hot lava marriage.

Its really hard to see a man cry

알베르토너무 멋있당 ㅜㅜ

It seem there is too much hurt and pride in the relationship. I hope they able to accepted each other as they are and help to build each other rather than put each other down

It's hard to say to a man who work hard every day that he doesn't earn enough ,if he makes his best I think it's enough

The problem is that when they started getting hurt to each other, they couldn't stop and now everything is annoying (●__●). They didn't talked so when that happens you assumed things and it doesn't end well

That smug look and his pride were so irritating. IT’S A BABY, OF COURSE HE WILL GET FIRST PRIORITY 🤦🏾‍♂️

If I was her, i would divorce right away. There's no point to be suffering this much.

Hearing a grown man say “ I ran away from home”

just because she is now yours, doesn't mean you should stop treating her like how you did in the past...*sigh* some men these days smh

its all come because they hold their pride , i think between relationship we should open to each other so we know that what we have done had hurt their feeling or other. like what you see the girl told him that he don't earn much money because they have a son and the fact that to raised a child its need more money beside that the girl also helping their economic by work at her family place. i mean she is not fully right but she isn't wrong yet, she need to use attitude to talking about something like that , like what we know money is something that really sensitive things. For the husband i think he just do as best as he can but beside that he's just don't know how hard to manage household needs when its come to wife and other that he have to became mature & don't hold grudge for something but it will be better if he said his opinions especially between relationship.

This happens to so many women in Korea the guy normally change after they get married who does that? He wasn’t being sincere from the get go she’s better off without him raise your child get child support and find yourself and other fling on the side your beautiful anyone would die for you

가정은 사랑으로 운영하는거고 자존심과 이성과 도리는 다뒷전이에요. 그냥 이것만 알고 있으면 다 풀리지 안을까요.

I was 5 minutes into video and somehow just now I realized I didn't have subtitles on im so dumb

Well at least they’ve been married for just a year, it’ll be easier for her to file a divorce or something. Lol he’s making her feel so unloved when in fact there’s too many guys out there who adores her. Ugh. Relationship and its complications. Jeez.