Youngja is such a strong woman physically & emotionally. It sure would have been tough growing up not knowing if you were loved or not.

@kira14374

6 жыл бұрын

Chalani Choay yup. She always talk about this and it shows how much she was hurt because of it 😔

@ch.j7056

3 жыл бұрын

영자 언니 힘내요!!!

@afiqueamirule5772

3 жыл бұрын

Physically? You just low-key roasted her fr

@chalcho733

3 жыл бұрын

@@afiqueamirule5772 you might have misunderstood what I said.

@VR0th3R

3 жыл бұрын

@@afiqueamirule5772 dude, she's really strong, that's a compliment. Someone who has strong mental usually also strong physic 👍🏻

What youngja said really touched my heart ... just because you gave birth to the child doesn’t mean that he automatically will know his parent’s love.. they have to hear it from their parents.. I have a mom who is so bad at expressing her feelings.. but I also have a dad who is very good at expresses my mom’s feelings to us all the time. Thanks to him I lived while knowing how my mom feels although she never said it.

@souhajrijni5603

6 жыл бұрын

♥♥ Respect

@TheLittlelan

6 жыл бұрын

I agree with you I am also in the same situation but I'm an introvert and have a hard time talking to everyone family included ... it is so important to comunicate these feelings and my partner is there encouraging and teaching me to do so and now it's much better for me

@liliqstn1268

6 жыл бұрын

my family also don't express feelings towards each other. all of us including myself moreover im kinda an introvert. sometimes when I'm having a hard time , i would cry alone in my room.

@Xena9002

6 жыл бұрын

rzan Alghamdi ughhh this is one of my fears. I’m not very good at expressing my love towards my loved ones. I just assume they know I love them but if I have kids in the future what if they think I don’t love them unconditionally :( this would honestly break my heart. I seriously need how to express my feelings towards people 🤧

@madhuselvam6758

6 жыл бұрын

rzan Alghamdi its opposite for me

YOUNGJA IS 50 YEARS OLD????? LIKE SERIOUSLY?? SHE LOOK SO YOUNG I THOUGHT SHE IN HER 40

@prxince924

5 жыл бұрын

NO EXO NO LIFE i thought she was in her late thirties tbh, she still looks great though

@ihavenoidea8179

5 жыл бұрын

yeah ASIANS

@10toesworthof

5 жыл бұрын

lol same

@AlyiaEviee

5 жыл бұрын

NO EXO NO LIFE Ikr! She has really good skin

@isaymamamoo9469

5 жыл бұрын

She doesn't look young 😂 you're exaggerating

The girl is sooo pretty

@LyaIza

6 жыл бұрын

Ikr! Idk if it's just me, but she looks like gugudan's Soyee

@JuliSolGarcia

6 жыл бұрын

lya iza yeah! and she looks like joy from red velvet also!

@fatimah8058

6 жыл бұрын

Juli Sol Garcia yess she reminds me of joy mixed with momo from twice akdjdjdk ..she just really resembles someone but I can't put my finger on exactly whom

@bookscriptstuffs9663

6 жыл бұрын

I think she looks a little like Loona's Jinsoul.. maybe it's just me..

@user-ey6lq9qe3n

6 жыл бұрын

she looks like shin ryujin

Comedians are the most emotionally vulnerable people in the world. They disguise their pain through humor. Yongja is my favorite and I can tell she was having difficulties even when they made fun of her age and weight.

@afiqueamirule5772

3 жыл бұрын

You mean disguise their pain through humour

@IsmaAragto

3 жыл бұрын

@@afiqueamirule5772 They. NICE catch.

I'm always amazed by Youngja's words also Taejoon when he was still at HC. They really speak what has to be spoken and they choose their words well.

@kayetabinas721

6 жыл бұрын

Something Park may I ask where is Taejoon now? Did he leave HC?

@somethingpark

6 жыл бұрын

Kaye Tabinas He left HC due to filming conflicts because he was in the drama Missing 9 that time (I think)

@sshdontdisturb

6 жыл бұрын

If taejoon was there he’d probably get mad again. I miss him 😭

@gamergaeljennawillownameun3630

6 жыл бұрын

Something Park I never seen her like emotional I first time I saw her like this

@nguyenvantai470

6 жыл бұрын

Something Park i

Every time we tell our daughters that we yell at her out love. We teach her to confuse kindness with anger. And she'll grow up to trust men who hurt her because they'll look so much like you. I read this somewhere and this really fits the situation here.

@aciestrose91

5 жыл бұрын

It’s from a poem, in Milk and Honey, the book is very good and I love that poem

@isaymamamoo9469

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, this is really well said 👏

@mwrihi

5 жыл бұрын

very true. it's psychologically called "trauma bonding". we're used to emotional abuse and neglect so we learn that that's the true safety and love

@user-nf3hh8kn5r

5 жыл бұрын

I WISH I COULD SAVE A COMMENT

@ShilohIsMyName

5 жыл бұрын

@@user-nf3hh8kn5r you can screenshot it on your phone or laptop 😊

The mother. She's really uncomfortable and scared, that's why she's talking with such a tense smile. My gosh.😭😭😭

Respect for Youngja.

Slightly off topic but why are women often given respect for having the patience to tolerate abusive (mentally, emotionally, and physically) relationships? Patience and tolerance didn't keep her wit the man, fear and societal pressures did. It is not a woman's job to tolerate her husband disrespecting her and her family. Her job is to give and RECIEVE love and support as a PARTNER. When you fail to do so she is well within her rights to leave or ask you to leave. I hate watching all of these otherwise bright and beautiful women stay in these kinds of relationships. Look how hesitant she is when she even mentions the basic ass shit he does. I am sure more happens behind closed doors especially since the daughter was so quick to say he doesn't hit me. Men need to woman up and take responsibilities for the happiness of their partners and families and stop being selfish abusive pricks. It's not hard to act like a normal human being and not scum.

@sarahscorpios

6 жыл бұрын

MsJackson1330 THANK YOU FOR THIS OH MY GOODNESS

@kioumim

6 жыл бұрын

Preach it!

@miso4030

6 жыл бұрын

👏

@saladtoppings6890

6 жыл бұрын

Say it louder for the people at the back 🔊

@Penguinchubb0

6 жыл бұрын

Cultural norms. It's so normal there. So many of the episodes have been about this. It's frustrating for sure.

when he tried to cover up his actions (breaking stuff, throwing stuff in front of her) with excuses like "she is violent too", "she doesn't get scared easily", it just made him look even more pathetic. she's been going the same thing ever since she was in kindergarten, saying that she doesnt get scared easily is even more proof that he's done it way too many times, until the point that she's basically become numb to it

Anyone else feel uncomfortable about the dad? He seems manipulative and his answers seem like he's shifting the topic to she's just a bad student and teenager. He's the adult and he should know better and act better.

@meganod279

5 жыл бұрын

I didn't see manipulation that much compared to aggression. He has anger issues and its too visible. But I think in total the family is a bit off. I understand a bit more the daughter but it also seems like she also provokes him a bit and turns him into this angry persona. That doesn't take away his faults, but I think the whole family needs to have more time on discussing with a therapist.

@seenyerdoeseverythingelse8264

4 жыл бұрын

Children of abuse, or children in abusive situations, can end up acting in such a way that seems like they're "provoking" their abuser, when really they're trying to stay safe somehow. On this show alone, I've seen kids who lie thinking they'll avoid trouble, kids who pretend to like the abusive parent better so that they'll be safe, kids who act out thinking they'll be hurt no matter what, and even kids who turn that behaviour on their siblings or other parent. I admittedly haven't watched the episode yet, but that victim-blaming crap is my least favourite thing IN THE WORLD, and I felt I had to speak up. Who cares if her behaviour seemed provocative? He's a fully grown adult man who should know how to control his emotions MUCH better than a child.

@seenyerdoeseverythingelse8264

4 жыл бұрын

Ok, I'm almost at the end of this episode and struggling hard to see what you think she did too deserve that behaviour. Because that's pretty much what you're saying when you say she provokes it. Not picking up the phone? Why would she, when he's going to be just as angry no matter what? Not telling him when she goes out? WHY WOULD SHE when he harasses her constantly with phone calls and demands that she go home? What exactly do you think she is doing that could POSSIBLY deserve that reaction? How is she supposed to avoid making him angry when he makes excuses to be angry himself? "Turns him into his angry persona"? Are you kidding me?! How is she supposed to compete with a man who's FRIENDS told his wife not to marry him because of his temper? Ugh, I'm just, ugh. No child deserves to be terrified in their own home.

@MuseHathor

2 жыл бұрын

It’s definitely generational trauma. He was raised that way and thus thought he should raise his daughter like that. He didn’t get to learn how to process his emotions properly and expresses anger and perhaps guilt (how he wronged his daughter) through aggression. This isn’t an excuse for him to act this way btw, just a possible explanation. He just needs therapy.

She's not getting good grades because it's not like she can go to her father for help. Frack living alone in that environment alone is probably effecting her grades. He may not hit her but what he does is still emotional abuse. If he cannot control his temper then the mom should divorce and get her daughter out. I have a temper too, but I know you can't throw things like a child. If you can't control it go into another room let it out then return.

@callmewaves1160

4 жыл бұрын

I know right? This is a kind of domestic violence she is going through, it's only natural that her grades would be affected by that bs

@Kimun888

4 жыл бұрын

I have temper too thats why i dont want to get married cause i know i lack self control. I pity my future child

people should get psychologically evaluated before having kids. he blames her daughter bc she also has a temper? well who taught her that in the first place.

@teresc3181

5 жыл бұрын

I agree. A friend once told me that she thinks that if couples are required to have a marriage license, then a "parent license" should be enforced as well. I never thought about it before but I think she's right. We require so many licenses and certifications for different jobs and professions but being a parent requires even greater skills and knowledge. Not to mention that they are the ones responsible for raising actual human beings that form our society... Hmmm... I think we should actually consider that-- parent license 😮

@wesleychoi3300

4 жыл бұрын

@@teresc3181 By what standards would this "parent-license" be given out? Seems a bit absurd to institutionalize who is or isn't allowed to be a parent. Who has this power to grant permission? The Perfect Parent Committee, run by Perfect Parents who aced the certification to be a parent? I can see the intention behind this suggestion, but I see far more issues down the line if society were to put this into practice.

@ShiaGirl18

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. Just like we have pre-marital counselling there should be pre-parenting classes

@teresc3181

4 жыл бұрын

@@wesleychoi3300 I understand your concern :) The idea though is more on "to educate" parents-wannabes as oppose to insitutionalizing them :) As a basis, In my country for ex., in order to get married, a couple needs to get a marriage license first-- its requirements are basic: 1) Must be of proper age; otherwise, parents/ guardians' permission/ advice (whichever is applicable) is needed. 2) Attend a pre-marriage counseling/ seminar. I think such basic requirements for having children would also be helpful in order to give families, which is a basic element of society, a better chance of success :D Specially in a third-world country like mine where education has unfortunately become a privelege, not a right :D

Calling her every 20 minutes? Does he had nothing to do? Man. That was so suffocating for the daughter. I feel bad 😳

@MyBloodyLips

5 жыл бұрын

Black And White feels like his work place let him be when his throwing a tantrum, like he’s calling his daughter and she doesn’t pick up and gets angry everyone’s probably like “here we go”

@cocolovesgod5723

5 жыл бұрын

Black And White My father used to come in my room every 10 mins (i was just playing video games, listening to music or reading or writing in my diary bc i wasn't allowed to go out ) and also being called out/talked to while i was showering to know when i would get out and i never took more than 20-30 mins so i feel really bad for that girl bc you feel like you're on a watch aaaah :/

@RhymeMidnight

5 жыл бұрын

But rlly my dad calls me when im still at school and often ask 'why r u not home yet?' Or what am i doing where am i when school's not even finished.

Youngja got me crying i love her

It’s fine to be strict with your kids but if you do it the way this father does I think she will want to rebel later on

@yna5952

6 жыл бұрын

미선박 you're right

@hotgoomba

6 жыл бұрын

미선박 that’s true, but more than rebellion even, living in a situation like that can lead to so many psychological issues down the line. It’s a really toxic environment to be in and I hope her father really works at being better for both their sakes.

@Chrestomanci94

6 жыл бұрын

he's not strict he's emotionally and physically abusive.

@Marzyart

6 жыл бұрын

She is already 19, If I was her I would have started a war and runaway from home

@MyBloodyLips

5 жыл бұрын

Can u imagine her living on her own like the calls double and whatvif she’s out clubbing(since it’s normal for them to go clubbing at 20??) and she doesn’t pick up, he could probably pop out at her house/apartment like “you didn’t answer ur phone” This is really frustrating): can u imagine living like that ):

Youngja opening up about her past like that is very touching and brave. I'll give her all my respect and support. The father must realise his way of disciplining her is very unhealthy for her and their relationship. If he had been that aggressive before she was 5/6, she would have serious truama and probably some sort of mental health issue due to the truama. And legit, it must be emphasised that kids that go through this type of discipline will often (almost always) start disrespecting the parent and will go bad paths (like Jimin said). At the start, I did understand the father - you would obviously want to protect your child, and naturally your daughter, in this type of world that we live in today. And I understood he was overboard at thw start too, but after a few minute, has was way overboard was very wrong to do the things he did. Hope that he really does change for the better and hope it helps other parents too.

They tell her to go home early when she's with her friends only to do nothing at home and be alone wtf. My mom pushes me out of the house just to get out and socialize, they should be thankful.

I just had to timestamp 18:56 because Youngja's words really struck me

Okay. I know this is a little off topic but I thought it would be worth mentioning. The part where the father says “I’m not a mental patient or anything”... (5:26) I have a serious problem with this kind of statement. NOT ALL PEOPLE WITH MENTAL ISSUES OR DISABILITY have an issue with everyday life or a bad personality. This idea that people with mental health issues = crazy is totally absurd. This is a common issue in korea, Koreans (not all of course but majority) and the culture itself. Being korean myself, I have witnessed people being very uncomfortable with mental health related topics and almost 99% of the time people relate it to something negative. So if I can say something to that father it would be DONT BE SO FULL OF YOURSELF AND LEARN TO RESPECT ✊ PEOPLE. don’t use other people’s REAL problems as ur petty excuse to bother or in fact harass your child.

@nainadhaliwal9625

6 жыл бұрын

notes129 I don’t think that’s just a korean problem, mental health is shamed everywhere but I think in certain places in America/Canada it’s normalized more. For example the children with mental disabilities study at the same school and are treated equally therefore I and the other students view them the same and understand them more, I don’t know if schools in Korea do this but it really helps to understand better

@rikka4625

6 жыл бұрын

you totally right, I thought exactly the same

@freepalestine7687

6 жыл бұрын

My family is from the middleeast and topics like this are almost taboo😕

@purrgundy

6 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Plus there's a fine line between "having a temper" and anger management issues. Do group talking therapies/associations exist in Korea? Maybe his family would be relieved if he would learn how to control his "temper" better.

@miso4030

6 жыл бұрын

In my country mental health problems that are not severe(schizophrenia etc) are not taken seriously, they think the person is just being to over dramatic. When people committed suicide that's the only moment they'll acknowledge that he/she had depression or mental problems.

Am I the only one who thinks she’s so beautiful

@Dani_1012

5 жыл бұрын

Oof, very beautiful

Im touched when yeongja telling her story and started crying too

I really respect what Yeongja says her words are chosen so well and honestly so well thought of. Honestly taejoon was like this aswell! His words were so smart and well chosen I miss soooo much!!!!! But choosing Eric to be apart of this is so cute!!! I love Eric!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"I'm type AB" "She has a temper too" Uh. First of all, don't blame your blood type for certain behaviors. That's just embarassing for an adult. I know S.Korea is big on that thing but it's wrong. Second, the reason why she has a temper is because that's the only thing you showed her and she's picked it up from you. This is why we should be careful what we show and how we treat kids. He sounds like he's pointing his finger at her. "I'm not the only one who has a temper, she does too". Grow up please. My father does the same thing when he's angry or just a little annoyed. The worst part is, me and my brothers got beaten up by him when we were kids in addition to getting household stuff get thrown. I've noticed that I picked up some of his bad habits and I hate myself for it.

@juliusceaser1861

5 жыл бұрын

Dont hate yourself with time and patience your habits can fade and your father didnt deserve an amazimg child like you so stay positive❤❤

@NataliaPessoaXOXOMAKE

5 жыл бұрын

I got some of my dads bad habits too that I detest. It’s hard not to hate yourself when you realize you’re doing it too.

@kitto9056

5 жыл бұрын

Same. It's true when people say your child will follow your actions or attitude. I follow my mother's ignorant attitude and I follow my dad's sarcastic and no patience attitude.

@mirelasemanjaku

5 жыл бұрын

@@kitto9056 Yes, but if a kid is smart and get to realize what behavior is correct and what is not, then you can change. because first you need to have eyes to see that is wrong. next, you can start to see around the people with good behavior and try to mimic them. So little by little all bad attitude will get lost and new better attitude will become you. Don't be sad or discouraged. We learn for as long as we live.

@Mskpopjrockobsessed

5 жыл бұрын

Me too my dad is like this and now I have just as bad habits and temper and I hate it. I struggle to stop myself and I hate that I’m just like him

What Youngja said make me cry so hard... I can really relate! I never felt loved by my parents, they never said "I love you" to me... when I fight with my parents the only one who is there to wipe my tears for me is my dear sister❤ I can really relate to what Youngja said! I'm so touched... I can't stop crying! She's 50 and I'm 19... I feel like I will be saying what she said at my 50 years old😢 It's like watching myself in the future..

@chanichi012

4 жыл бұрын

IGOTA.R.M.YGASE7 I relate to her and you too except I wiped my own tears .I got so touched at youngja’s words and started tearing up.

Youngja is an amazing woman

Youngja's words directly hit me . My tears just wont stop .

Youngja👍 Respect!!

I lost so much tears ㅜㅜ I hope her father is nice to her after this show

She is so damn pretty

I quite agree with what youngja said because it doesn't matter if your parents gave birth to you. what matters is if they love you or not. People who adopt kids and actually raise them as their own with love and care are better then the parents who gave birth to them but passed them away. Even though my mom rarely said I love you directly, I can see it in her actions. but parents who you only see for 3 hours a day, speak a few words with, and barely have an one-on-one discussion with might need to check their status of an actual parent.

Hearing this story of this teenager and Youngja’s story I am deeply touched by it. I have been physically and mentally abused and I know for facts words are weapons which can wound but never heal completely. I am still haunted by what my family said to me. I am still haunted by the fear I have been feeling in the past but I try to overcome by working in customer service because where I lack because of my past I can do my best to gain it my way as I didn’t grow up like a normal kid. Socializing is my weakness. All I can say to make up for my family’s mistakes is to thank them for teaching what to not use words in a hurting way.....now I am gonna cry.....

@himeyukimatsumoto994

6 жыл бұрын

erina I hope you got better. I am healing with music also and I do my own songs

i accidentally pause at 5:59 , dang that girl are so pretty

@crystalstar927

6 жыл бұрын

zalila omar yes she is and she has amazingly beautiful eyes 😍

@shineesshawol-l8152

6 жыл бұрын

zalila omar I agree, very pretty face

@MyBloodyLips

5 жыл бұрын

zalila omar she got it from her mom she’s so pretty too

@Dani_1012

5 жыл бұрын

Ikr, she's so gorgeous

youngja words of wisdom dammmmm. and that girl is so pretty

Youngja is one of my favourite MC’s and I know she is super strong mentally and physically so to see her cry like that actually made me almost cry as well she is such an inspirational person

woah youngja....that was really deep....im really glad she spoke about it. i hope she stays strong and her career goes well and so does her family life

Youngja one of my favorites people love you so much.

I don't think that the concern was that he was too obsessive, rather it was the fact about the throwing stuff and what not. At first I thought I could understand how he is worried about his daughter, he just does it in a more passionate way. But how could he expect his daughter to come home at a reasonable time when he doesn't? Also the throwing stuff and cursing and everything like that is just not okay..😦 It's totally contradictory to him being worried about his daughter. At first I didn't think this was really a concern, but I changed my mind after that... this dude is crazy. "There has to be some action" qoute the father. That's just wrong! This family really seems like it's in a drama.. I don't like how the dad said that she takes after him and has a bad temper too. (Because of course kids take after there parents, when they see them do something they are going to follow.) I feel bad for this family all because of the father's temper they are falling apart, and the daughter doesn't even feel loved because of this. We see this all too often nowadays. I am really proud of the brave mom who didn't leave even though it's hard though! She is really trying to keep them together. (Also, wise words from Yeongja!) I am glad they went on here, I hope things will get better now.

@callmewaves1160

4 жыл бұрын

No. The way he controls her is typical abuser behavior. They control every aspect of the target's life. They isolate their target so they can't get away or get help. They use fear tactics to ensure the target obeys them. He makes jokes about his behavior being because of his blood type. He tries to justify his behavior by the way she behaves (no different than saying "I do this because you ask for it") All big BIG markers of an abuser.

She’s so pretty wtf

부모로써 자격이 없네 밖에선 자기 윗사람한텐 안하고 자기보다 밑에사람 약한사람에게 저랬겠지 그러니 딸에게도 자연스럽게 그랬고 그냥 딸의 양육이나 교감따위는 전혀하고 싶은 생각이 없이 소유물관리하듯이 한거지 그걸 옆에서 보면서 방관한 엄마도 똑같다

대부분의 부모들은 간섭을 통해 아이들이 바른길로 인도할 수 있는 거라고 하는데 인도가 아니라 '간섭'은 그냥 간섭일 뿐임.. 회사에서 누가 자기 조금만 간섭해도 불같이 화낼 사람이 아이는 그냥 딸이라는 이유로 온갖 핑계를 대면서 간섭하는게 진짜 보기 싫어요. 저희 부모님 저한테 간섭 일절 안하셨는데 저는 부모님이랑 사이 좋고 일탈도 안했어요. 저의 경우이고 일반화할 수 없지만 간섭이라는 건 양육에서 불필요한 부분입니다. 부모는 때로는 아이를 믿어주는 모습을 보여줘야 하고, 때로 잘못했을 때 혼을 낼 수 있어야 하고, 때로 내가 너를 지켜줄 수 있다는 안정감을 줄 때 아이들과 원만한 관계를 맺을 수 있어요. 그점에서 저는 저희 부모님을 매우 신뢰하고 관계도 진짜 좋아요. 여기서 아버지는 사랑이라는 이름으로 시시콜콜 아이를 믿지 못하는 모습을 보여주고, 잘못했을 때와 잘못하지 않았을 때를 분간하지 못하고 있으며 때로 너를 죽여버릴 수도 있다는 공포로 아이를 지배하고 있는 모습이 보여요. 이게 양육인가요? 저는 이거 아동전문센터 가면 100%확률로 학대에 가깝다는 말을 들을 수 있다고 생각합니다. 자신의 마음이 편하기 위해서 아이를 이용하는 건 양육이 아닙니다. 이런 식으로 10년? 아니 5년만 지나도 따님은 아버지와 연을 끊으려고 마음의 준비를 하게 될겁니다. 영상이 나간게 3년전인데, 방송에서 말만 반성하시고 여전히 이런식이시지 않길 바랍니다. 딸에게도 인격이 있어요. 가정의 경제권을 쥐고 있고 책임진다는 말로 아이를 공포에 몰아넣는 거 그걸 사랑이라고 말하는 거 너무 꼴뵈기 싫네요.. 자기는 하나도 이해 안하고 상대방에게만 이해를 바라고.. 그것도 어린 딸에게.. 그거 사랑 아닌데 때리는 것만 폭력 아니에요. 사랑하면 아끼고 사랑해주세요.

@goodqwer-md9uf

2 жыл бұрын

부모복이 최고인데 정말 부럽습니다 ㅜ

Yeeeees. This is the most relatable concern I've ever watched in Hello Counselor. :(

Sorry, someone was cutting potatoes which is why I was crying. since I'm a potato and I hate to see my mind being hurt TT

아빠가 딸을 좋아한다면 딸이 원하는걸 해주세요 소리지르고 던지는건 용납못해요

이영자와 신동엽 정말 진심을 다해 공감해주고 꼭 필요한 중요한 이야기 너무나 잘해준다. 👍

@user-ub1du8gz7o

8 ай бұрын

이영자 멋있어요

i cried when she said that they were never home... i felt the same way. for me as a child growing up, it was my mom and my older brother that i wanted to be home and never were. my dad was the only one who stayed at home, since he did not really have a job while my mom was working and my brother was in college. my dad is just like that girl's but with more. explosive temper when things don't go his way, always wanting to know everything, racist, strongly political, has a "gentleman facade" until you see the true him, possessive, rude, a slob and had a very sharp tongue. my mom wanted to divorce him but since i was born... he just wasn't the man she thought he was before they had married. they have been married for about 30 years now. it's upsetting.

The girl is so beautiful she must had refused to be a trainee in many entertaiments

@reno8494

5 жыл бұрын

Being beautiful doesn't equal having talent , im not trying to sound rude or anything but i think people should stop believing that every beautiful person will be a celebrity, all human beings are beautiful so👀

@Ines.21.

4 жыл бұрын

@@reno8494 ikr

@Kimun888

4 жыл бұрын

Shes beautiful especially if thats her born face, but not that crazy beautiful to be success on TV based on her looks alone, but then almost all artist in south korea had surgery anyway..

I related so much to the "I don't need money I need my parents' love" part. It's not like I'm not loved, but my parents have been trying to divorce for the past 3-4 years(I'm in 9th grade now and the situation became apparent when I was in 6th grade). Tbh, I don't like it how they make it so obvious. I hate it how we can't all go somewhere and have fun as a family anymore. My mom loves me and my dad loves me too probably, but I feel so...alone. They both work. I rarely see my dad and I only see my mom in the morning and at night, 2-3 hrs before I have to go to bed. It's so painful to come home with the lights off and silence. I know they both have to work and I know they mean no harm, but I don't care. Let's go live in an apartment, have cheaper clothes and items. I just need their love and attention(with respected privacy). My mom is very overprotective and I hate it when she invades my privacy, but I need to know that she'll always be there for me. I need to know that she knows I need to be taken care of. No matter how many things I buy and obtain, there's still on empty feeling in me. I feel jealous seeing other people being happy with their family. I can't relate to that anymore. I want us to enjoy our lives together while we can, while we are still young and before I have to go to college and have my own life. Sorry... I had to let it out somewhere...

@Neha-hh6ni

3 жыл бұрын

That's good, if you need someone to talk to, I am here ❤️

@totally_a_spy

2 жыл бұрын

I know this was 3 years ago but I hope your home life has gotten more peaceful and loving since then

That father uses so many excuses, when all he should say is, "I am this way because no one stopped me. Because it was normal for a man to be this way, 10 years ago." IDK, but he has control issues😕😕

this made me cry so hard omg. youngja words really touched the strings of my heart.

I can relate with the girl! She was me when I was 19 years old. My father was a lot worse than him,so I had to become good at lying to avoid fights with him. Thankfully I didn't have a cellphone so whenever I was out,I was free but he was very controlling and threatened me a lot( he is a police officer). After high school, I started answering to his angry yelling and I had to read a lo of psychological books to understand him. It helped me a lot. The key word is that I never backed off the quarells although they were exhausting, but I gradually became opinionated and found clever ways to avoid him. One year later I could go whenever and wherever I wanted, without saying anything and without him searching me. I go on trips for 10 days and I never call them and they never call me. I m not saying that it's nice to not even call them once, but I'm proud of myself for studying up my ground and earned my freedom from an obsessive, controlling, crazy, violent father! I used to be scared of him since I was born and I used to be shy and introverted but I changed at 19 years old 180°. And became a completely different, dynamic, energetic person!😎💪🏆🎯

The girl is really going through a hard time, it makes me sad that she is not being understood. Honestly I feel like this issue at first might not seem like a big thing, but after more than 10 years, leaving wich such person must be a nightmare. What kind of kid will get happy at her mother wanting to get a divorce? Obviously that's not a good signal.

so amazing how he doesn't acknowledge that his actions are his fault. I can't believe the dad even blamed his temper on his own blood type omg

Waaaaa, I got way more emotional than I thought I would.

“You have many more years with her” I CANT STOP CRYING. My dad died before I could ever feel loved by him. I truly hope that this situation changes. She deserves so much

When youngja said that, it hit me hard. My Mom is the most caring person I’ve ever known in my life but my dad is the opposite and doesn’t know how to express his emotions. My parents went through a lot and got separated in the end but during those fights, even now, when he had a problem with her he’d always put me and my brothers in the middle, so when he cuts her off, he cuts us off too, when he hates her, he hates us too. Now I’m 14, i live with my mom and brothers alone and we have no contact with our father. My mom always says he loves us but he doesn’t know how to express his feelings, cuz that’s the Typ of person he is. But honestly back then I never felt his Love, even today I don’t, and growing up seeing how he hurt my mother made me believe he really doesn’t care about us. Today whenever I see spoiled girls rebelling against their good fathers, I get so mad and disgusted, like at least u have a dad who cares about u, even if he’s strict. U won’t know the value of something until u lose it. And this girl right here is in a similar situation. They’re not there for her and they don’t let her have her freedom. Too strict parents aren’t good as well

이 프로는 이영자의 이영자에 의한 이영자를 위한 프로다 멋있다 저런 감성으로 진심을 다할수 있는 사람이 있다는건 우리가 더 열심히 살아야 이유가된다

이영자 말 감동!

man, do i understand this girl. i am 26 and my mom also controls me. every time i go out with my friends i have to tell her about my every move, if i stay at one place for a long time i have to text her from time to time to tell her that i'm still there, i have to tell her who i am with, give their numbers just in case. if i don't reply to her texts for some time, she starts calling and if i don't pick up she starts calling my friends. at around 10 pm she starts texting that it's late and i should be going home. so because of all of this it's easier for me to just stay at home. and because i'm always home she worries that i'm not gonna find a boyfriend and get married... this is so frustrating and suffocating.

@Marzyart

6 жыл бұрын

보름달 you are too old for this. Try leaving home and move out. Or next te you meet your friends tell her not to call you. Dont be easy, dont let her control you forever. Tell her to stop it

@qhfmaekf

6 жыл бұрын

as much as I want to move out, I don't want to leave her alone. I guess I'll try reasoning with her again, hoping that it'll work this time :)

우리 아빠도 욱하는 성격이었어요. 때리기도 하고 ... 근데 아무리 나이를 먹어도 아빠를 이해하지 못해요... 아버지를 떠나는 게 8년쯤 되는데 세상 참 행복하게 살아요.

@gwajadanji

2 жыл бұрын

저희 아빠도 욱하는 다혈질 성격인데 그 성격을 절대 가족 앞에서 부린적이 없어요.

@user-nr7ez5gv5x

4 күн бұрын

떠나야 행복한것도 잇다. 아빠든 가족이든 친구이든 지인 이든 ....

i read somewhere online that everytime you scold your child they don't change, they just learn to hide it and i've always thought about that a lot.

I can relate so much. What a strong willed and courageous girl. Remember you are never alone in this world.

i respect youngja so much more after this episode. she always says the right thing, expresses it so well with her words. seeing her tear up like that just broke my heart, i couldn't hold back my tears. i hope the father changed and is a better dad to his daughter.

This is the first time I've ever seen Yeongja cry in this show and it breaks my heart. The happiest people on the outside are the most sad on the inside.

I always tear up while watching these episodes I love this show so much because you learn a lot about life which is amazing !!!! Btw I’m very addicted to Hello Counselor I watch it almost every day

Woah.. came here cause the girl was really beautiful. Stayed because of the interesting story. And cried near the end.

I'm the only daugther in my family but my mother and father never do this to me 😂 even when im in the trip for 10 day they never call me and ask me where i'am 😂 im the one who do that...my mom and my dad is way too cool 🤣

@mxindy

6 жыл бұрын

PANDAFUNDA you're living this girl's dream

@user-qv6ek6jm1d

6 жыл бұрын

+Levi M. LMFAOO TRUEE

@pandaxfunda

6 жыл бұрын

Ri'AikaCröw i think thats right 😂

@kittyfairy662

6 жыл бұрын

Same, I'm the only daughter and they treat me no differently than they treat my brothers

@Aigoohan

6 жыл бұрын

Me too omg hahahhaha im the only daughter. I always went for trips with my friends. they knw i will be annoy so they will only chat me asking did i arrived safely and i let them know. Then they wont contact me anymore until the day i want to come back so they could fetch me.

I'm still upset with the very beginning where she asked why youngja was changing her voice. Idk I just found it mean. It's obviously a younger girl

*This is why I love this show, not only because they make me cry but you do learn a lot of things*

Youngja your soul is so beautiful and your powerful words have touched my heart. I can't stop crying rn.

This story tearing me up.I remember my step father..he is like that when he is angry with me spoiled things or throw things.what make me angry most is when he put his temper to my mother if he angry with me.I hate him so much. That's why I left at age 13 and conquer the scary world .But thanks God,through my faith and strenght mentally,physically,emotionally and spiritually, I am at the right path..we have 2 paths to choose where to go but i depends on the people we met too .I have a lonely and scary childhood but I met some good people too.

Youngja is awesome. This is why i love her. She is wise and gives the best advices. Her words rly touched my heart. I wish i could hug and and tell her many ppl love her.

in my entire year watching HC this is the first time I saw tough Young Ja cried...

i love youngja shes such a gold hearted woman who talks about stuff like this with positive and negative makes me cry so much 😪💔

Wow she is so pretty I’m in love 😍

I wish I could hug Youngja to let her know she's not alone and that there's other people that went through this too. We can find strength by supporting and encouraging each other. My heart goes out to her and her sister.

This girl is incredible. I always think people that grew up like her, I will never know how they feel because I didn't have to go through such a harsh situation. She is a person just like the rest of us, but the type of pain people like her have to experience shouldn't go unnoticed. She has endured a lot and I wish her well. I hope from now on her life gets better because the pain she experienced will never leave her. That sucks so bad. For Youngja too.. her pain never leaves. That is so unfair.

I cried on youngja words

Yeongja's words tugged the strings in my heart. Respect

I'm really upset actually.. I have a dad like him and actually I can truly say that I hate him and just want to move out/: a home should be somewhere you get love and always miss but in my case and hers we want to move and never come back/: I got depression because of this lifestyle and she will also if something don't change../: (sorry for my bad English)

@Chiibees

5 жыл бұрын

Mitsuki c: same love,same

Youngja was very true when she said, we all need to know we are loved so that we have the power to survive in this world. Because how would I know that my parents love me if they don't say or show it to me? I may be strong and cold outside but I really crave my parent's love and affection.

Yeongja's words give me so much strength. And i love her so much that it breaks my heart to see her cry talking about her past...

This is why communication is the greatest bond we can have in the world. Families should have that deep heart talks even just for an hour so that they can share their concerns, dreams and the things they would love to share with each other.

I wanna give all my respect to youngja she's such an amazing person who keep lots of pain... I love her she's my favorite I'm happy if she's happy

가정폭력을 정당화하네,,,

Watching many episodes of Hello Counselor, even tho it's from years ago. Truly proofs so many people didn't deserve to get married or even be a parent. So many mentally sick people ruining other people's life (family members especially) they truly need treatment...

I don't think I can live past 50 years with that condition. I admire the woman with the pink shirt and respect her. I also want to hug her sm

Hello Counselor can bring me to tears of laughter or sorrow...I love it

I love the way Yeongja explains things to people and I hope she found herself and feels love now

I lost when Youngja cried.. I bet everyone just the same.. We always see Youngja as a strong figure, and now that she cried and share her stories break us all 😢

저 아버지 소개서부터 본인이 정상이 아니란건 알고 있네요. 본인 입으로 ‘정신병자’라는 단어를 언급하잖아요. 스스로도 알면서 딸을 보호한다는 명목으로 본인 성질을 풀고 화풀이 하는거잖아요.

Youngja's words really resonated with me. I actually cried with her because I know exactly how she feels. Unnie fighting

Yeongja is the best. I’ve always been the super nice girl who laughs a lot and jokes around, but when she said “I’ve been feeling lost for 50 years...” I started to cry. My dad was an abuser who went to jail eventually (not sexual abuse), and my mom took that helplessness/anger out on me, but I’m still grateful to them for the positive things they did in my life since they were just flawed humans who had their own hardships. But I look at my life and the decisions I make, and sometimes I’m very proud of myself, and other times I feel so lost like I don’t know what I’m doing. When you experience certain things as a child, you grow up with missing parts, and those parts don’t seem to grow in as an adult. I feel really bad for people who had way worse lives, like physical handicaps or deformeties, who were tortured or sexually abused, and I realize how lucky I am. But even if you’re lucky, there’s still a sensitive spot or a certain combination of words that can bring you to tears, and Yeonja must have had a really tough life to have reacted in this way on the show. I hope she finds peace and love, wherever she goes.

I’m crying my eyes out because youngja shared her story and that’s how i feel all these years and probably will feel until i’m 50 years old and more! It never gets better and every time you hear someone has the same issue it’s like being stabbed in the chest. I wish i can change my life to be the best of me and help the people who suffer, like what youngja did and keeps on doing. She deserves all the love in the world ❤️

I’m a crying mess, probably because it is so relatable, although I had no siblings to go through this. I know That I want to be a better parent if I have children. I love this program ❤️

These 4 Mc are amazing, love them a lot.

youngja literally is the best if i met her i would hug her so tight she nearly made me cry

I'm so worried about her mental health and how numb she's become to it all. The trauma she went through as a child can translate into horrible thoughts while growing up, the worst being dad's rage = I deserve this. I'm glad she's still trying to fight it and break out of that atmosphere. But did anyone see how easily she said 'I got my hopes up when I thought we would leave him'? There's something very wrong here, she detests him with everything in her for her to want to happily leave her father without any resent. She packed her bags immediately, she was waiting for that moment, and I don't think it's because she wants to party and have freedom. He's the worst kind of father, really. He's manipulative and abusive and just. The way he puts it on her 'she's dressed immodest', 'she's getting bad grades', 'she's violent too'. And this: 'she forgets about it 20 minutes later'. Um, maybe because it's the norm now? That's not healthy, her brain needs to process she's in a bad situation when he yells and breaks things around her, smashes his fist on the table when she asks for help, she needs to release the load by crying or screaming herself, but she's so numb to it. Very dangerous. These kinds of abusers are the worst.

I cried so much :( I feel you, I know your pains too 😭 I know how it feels , fighting 😭😁✊🏻👍🏻🤚🏼