Basically a man who exercise self control in all areas of life with emotional maturity is a viable candidate for marriage.

When I hear “Hey hey Tony Gaskins here” I know he bout to drop that heat 🔥 😅

@adrianaleon5753

3 ай бұрын

Same 😂🎯

@PrettyDreadie

3 ай бұрын

@@adrianaleon5753 okaaaayyy !!! 😂

@christinedozier2154

3 ай бұрын

True 😆

@EsiriE

3 ай бұрын

Sooo every video then? 😂😂 because he says this every video haha

@PrettyDreadie

3 ай бұрын

@@EsiriE pretty much haha 😂

Facts on facts on facts. My dad has been smoking over 50 yrs and was diagnosed with lung cancer 2 yrs ago. He can get around with a walker but now my mom has to take care of him and do everything he cant do. He still smokes, his mind is bad, and he always upset about small things. I vowed to myself at a young age to never marry a man that smokes.

@PCF09

3 ай бұрын

@@Darling_Youcancallme but smoking and putting anything harmful in your body voluntarily speeds up the process and makes it worse. We have a history of cancer my grandfather - his father and one of his brothers died of cancer and aother brother caught his early. So knowing the history why add fuel to the fire.

@la6136

3 ай бұрын

@@Darling_Youcancallme A large percent of people who get lung cancer never smoked. The air is polluted with toxins we can not avoid unless you get very good air filters and stay indoors

@PCF09

3 ай бұрын

@@Darling_Youcancallme Thanks...health issues that you can't help or is beyond your control is understandable but doing things that are harmful when you dont have to is not. One of my cousins died of lung cancer as well but she wasnt a smoker her husband was sadly.

@truh_von_tay

3 ай бұрын

Good for you mamas. My mom smoked cigs so I share your sentiments. She stopped then picked back up after an incident with my stepdad but I believe she has stopped again.

@tamitatangoto5134

3 ай бұрын

You got that right they have serious issues with OCD.. My ex-husband was a smoker and everything came around WHEN he would be smoking. He basically planned when he would smoke and what he would do while smoking 😮 He talked about quitting but then he knew he would have to give up coffee because coffee was associated with his first cigarette of the day.😢 I don't even know where my ex is now🤷🏼‍♀️ I haven't talked to him in like 2 and 1/2 years. He was having problems with his throat and I was concerned. The last time I talked to him he also spoke with my daughter, his stepdaughter. And we haven't heard from him since. I don't even know if he's still alive😢 Cigarettes are evil and my daughter nearly wasn't able to quit smoking, but she was determined to be pleasing to God. And she knew that she needed to quit that addiction in order to successfully please God. Some people may not understand why it would be displeasing to God. But there are some scriptures if someone needs me to bring them out.😊 Sincerely TAMI 🙋🏼💞😇~⚔️ PROVERBS 27:17⚔️

Point Blank Peri-yod.

@deenafleming4385

3 ай бұрын

😂

@IndiaLIndiaLIndia

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Realness111

3 ай бұрын

😂

@deaudrey85

3 ай бұрын

😂 😂😂😂😂😂

@BossAnjeil

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

Dishonest money dwindles away, but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow. Proverbs 13:11

He is a husband when he loves God more than he loves you or himself. He will always follow and lead according to God word in righteousness.

Definitely want a man of GOD🙏🏾🙏🏾Lord please…❤I’m a Christian as well…living it not just talking!

@sanaimcclain

3 ай бұрын

Amen!

@dear_mscaines

2 ай бұрын

I had a man of God but his heart wasn’t in it like it should’ve been with God. Be sure to pray for someone healed! 🙏🏽

@Ms.Sipp40

2 ай бұрын

@@dear_mscaines all of them ain’t real! Agree!❤️

Self Control (no addictive personality) Work (working, consitently working) Emotional intelegence, good temper (not having pride that would not allow to serve a wife) And MOST important: Fear and respect God (being humble, admitting that he is not a God and that he is not in control of everything)

@onlyHEknowsme

3 ай бұрын

And fears and respects God

@neinnine4592

3 ай бұрын

@@onlyHEknowsme the most important one!! how did I miss this!? adding to the list

@ry2yb

2 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@merlinsvdd

Ай бұрын

I dealt with a person who did the opposite of those things. Fuh. Thank goodness, i am out of his life.

MOST of today’s “modern” men are NOT husband material.😑

@red_edj

3 ай бұрын

💯

@Sunshann

3 ай бұрын

They’ve never seen a husband

@cjbarber1138

3 ай бұрын

Are Most of today’s modern women wife material 🤔 No shade, just asking…

@BetterLoveMovement

3 ай бұрын

@@cjbarber1138 Honestly, NO. Women need female mentors who can teach them how to BE wives and present themselves as such to receive their husband. That is what MY platform is all about. Women's standards need to RISE, for THEMSELVES and for the men they entertain.

@kristalliiite6408

3 ай бұрын

Don't have a scarcity mindset because all you need is one.

Amen! I’ve been sober for almost 6 years. It completely got out of control and I had to check in to rehab and got GOD involved. Once I stand on my faith it’s a blessing every moment not to pick up a bottle. To all my brothers and sisters who are struggling please allow GOD in your life and you shall overcome!

@beverleyreid563

3 ай бұрын

Good for you.

@cuteblue2212

3 ай бұрын

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.~ proverbs16:9 Good on you brother!

"Addictive" behaviors demonstrates "a lack of self control".

My ex husband had most of the traits Tony described. He eventually quit smoking cigarettes and marijuana. However, he continued to drink alcohol. The damage was done and he passed away at a young age after a 1 year battle with lung cancer. Tony is speaking the truth.

@ckezzy5011

2 ай бұрын

How old was he? Sorry for your loss 🙏🏾

@user-ph2oo7zm4u

2 ай бұрын

@@ckezzy5011 He was 61 years old.

"No, you have an under development failure to launch man" 😂 so true. Unfortunately, some of us learn this lesson the hard way.

@yamimngomezulu8402

2 ай бұрын

😹😹😹😹😹dude! As for ‘failure to launch!’

@merlinsvdd

Ай бұрын

Yes. Thank you, Tony.

I am currently going through a divorce now; this man has no self control and he curses like a sailor. I have already found me a place and I am moving on and never looking back.

@user-ph2oo7zm4u

3 ай бұрын

I don’t know your situation. I bet you’re making the right decision to move on.

TG you are absolutely SPOT ON! I dated a 48yo man a couple of years ago. No kids, had never been married (that was kind of suspect to me), made good money, and a great career. He was super generous with his funds. And even with all that, he drank like an ocean and smoked weed like a chimney. I gave it 6 months...NO THANK YOU!

Yes I love that he said "God sanctifies marriage🙌🏽🙌🏽"

Unfortunately I have never seen a Husband and I’m 35 years old…this type of man seems to be Rare🤷🏾‍♀️

@Healerslightnlove

2 ай бұрын

I’m 51 and haven’t seen this as of yet. Just hold on, our husband coming❤😊

@sphinxkitty4951

2 ай бұрын

Hang in there sister. I’m 29 and finally met my husband. He’s coming

Hey this make me realize I need to work on myself first…bcuz I like to drink…gotta be the change I want to see

Any man outside of the will of GOD, not bearing the fruit of righteousness is NOT an option. I will NEVER again settle.

My dearly departed husband had cirrhosis of the liver. I married him not knowing he was a drunk. He’d put liquor in big gulp cups and his drink was vodka and I couldn’t smell it. I wasn’t used to it and totally missed it. I truly thought he was a casual drinker on special occasions. I miss him. But self control is a must.

“Then you know, okay, I got me a degenerate..” lord-T have mercy I’m choking TG! 😅

@womenofGod52

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@cuteblue2212

4 күн бұрын

😂😀

Self control took out 50% - 70% 😅

@nikkiwilds6598

3 ай бұрын

Dang!!

@keelane2575

2 ай бұрын

‼️🤣🙏🏾

The most accurate thing I’ve heard in a moment. Emotional Intelligence

Tony told no lies. My ex was a wild drunk. I had to run for the hills!

@stephaniescott5757

3 ай бұрын

I’m glad you did! God will send you someone that’s right for me

This is solid! Thanks for this information! 🙏🏽 Tony, you should consider creating "The Tony Gaskins Academy For Men" to teach men how to be men and leaders. Men severely lack positive influences and mentors. Then these men get married and can't lead their family nor be a functioning husband. Single men need you even more. You can have your academy open to local men to enroll, plus men can enroll internationally for the online aspect of the academy. Just an idea. Men also need to be taught how to interact with women in a proper, respectful, non-aggressive manner. NO MEANS NO! Men shouldn't be forcing themselves on women nor forcing them to do things they don't want to do. A woman or young lady rejecting a man's romantic advances doesn't give him the right to end her life. A 19 year old girl in New York was recently stabbed to death by a man she rejected at a bodega. Of course there's the horrendous Miya Marcano story out of Florida that happened in 2021. There's too many stories like this.

@m.amberspivey3472

3 ай бұрын

YES PLEASE!!!!

Right out the gate, no self-control ✅ I married a people pleaser, shopaholic male with a porn addiction. He’s a very “nice” guy, but no self control and no boundaries. Marriage was miserable

Temperament/patience, emotional intelligence, fear and reverence for God, good decision making, self control

No excuses! Under developed! No real maturity! Lord help us….cause wheew…

@thebarbieinvestor5428

3 ай бұрын

Underdeveloped is so deep I can’t even 😭

Your son will remember you taking him to chick-fil-a until he’s old. My dad used to do things like that for me too, I never forgot.

“You got an underdeveloped, failure to launch man…” I’m done TG !!!

What about pornography, so many men think it's alright to watch it... But I believe it's cheating, because they are imagining themselves having sex with a stranger... It hurts me so much....

@Didi-fr5ic

3 ай бұрын

Simple...leave..duh

@la6136

3 ай бұрын

You are right. This is the biggest flaw with the majority of men. They do not want to give it up and make 1000 excuses to keep watching.

@1Tim2_5

3 ай бұрын

.....that is included in lack of self control.....fear of the LORD.....

@driaannbull

3 ай бұрын

He's talked about pornography in recent videos and reels. And yea, it fall under some of the umbrellas mentioned.

@caramignon3626

3 ай бұрын

Really 😂😂😂

Ideally he would have seen good examples from dad/uncle/grandpa/other father figure, but if not he should have sought out older and wiser married male mentors in his church community/fellowship. Regardless he should be learning what a man and husband is from the Word of our Lord. Look for loving actions (1 Corinthians 13). Look for the fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5: 22-23). He knows that he will never be perfect in God or his wife's eyes, that we will always fall short, but that he will always be honest and humble in facing those issues that come up. A man ready to be a husband, always seeks to understand his wife (by listening and observing), giving grace, as he is given. He is a good communicator and has good conflict resolution. A husband vs Your husband is another distinction to look into.

I thank God for you Tony. You’re the realist out here frfr I appreciate you saying that about that dinner time. My food is always cold after serving my kids first, some folks need to grow up. If anything, we all sit down to eat as a family and we eat together. Point, blank, periodt! ❤

Some will run errands without rebuttal and still lie, cheat, smoke, drink, etc. He must be Born- Again.

I’m saving videos like these for my daughter. Thanks

Facts! How they treat themselves will be the tone of how they treat you!

I needed this checklist. Thanks, Tony🙏🏾❤❤.

Thank you for this video. I’ve noticed that many of the negative podcasts/channels are cover for being: a male chauvinist. Period. Please note: I do not consume this content. Rather, I hear about it by way of Tony’s videos. Certainly, not husband material.

Definitely dropping jewels Tony!! You have a lot of wisdom God bless you and your family.

I had to come back a watch again. Love this message and still learning. Thank you Tony keep up the good work.

I thank you much, for making this video. And even more for capturing vital things in the timeframe that you did. Be blessed.

Simple but powerful. Thank you Jesus for this lesson today. Continue to Bless this Man and his family.

Now you know “ok, yeah. Got me a degenerate” 😭😭😂

Great message. Thank you for always sharing with us. Grateful to say these are things that I look for. Even more grateful to say that the man I am engaged to aligns perfectly to this guidance 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 ❤

Oh I been listening real bad! Not putting up w no 🥷🏽💩 point blank period!

@lakajhapruitt4806

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 I know that’s right. The emoji’s here crack me up.

Yes, we do have to get these relationships together and keep them going!!! Thanks for all you do Tony!! 👍🏽✅💯

🎉I wish my husband would be so emotionally intelligent as Tony 🤩🍀 Truly Husband Qualities 😍👏👏👏 Lots of Blessings to you and your damily, Sir🙏🍀💗🍀💜🍀💚🤗

@melaniegriffin78

3 ай бұрын

Dont compare your husband with another man. Pray for him. As the old saying goes " comparison is the thief of joy".

You spoke nothin but truth. Thank you

A underdeveloped, failure to launch man! 🙄🤦. That's an excellent way to sum it up Tony

I really liked a co-worker who always said "crazy ain't it?" after I shared concerns with him. He said he believed in God but did not trust churches or Pastors. No faith at all. I realized being unequally yoked with a man would be a disaster no matter how nice he is.

@MsButterscotch13

2 ай бұрын

You are right however, it may have benefitted you to invest a little more time with dude. Walk in truth not faith. Churches teach lies & mix it with truth. Read your bible chapter after chapter & verse after verse. Then go to church. Pastor will use verses from OT & NT different books to validate his/her sermon. Skipping around using verses out of context. Do some studying. I left church 20+ years ago b/c of this. We are to love god not fear. For "Ye are gods."

Truths all the way. Listen up ladies! 🙏🏾

Keep teaching TG ❤ Facts

I needed this this morning. Thank you.

“Done got me a degenerate” 😂😂😂 Tony is funny and don’t even be trying to be funny this was the realest 15 minute video 🔥😆💯

Ooowee that “under developed failure to launch man” my goodness. That part.

Ayyyeee Bet on Me. I needed tha Thank you Virtous woman of God 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

Excellent teaching sir! This is sound Biblical truth!

This is awesome and so timely. I'm at a place where I needed to develop my self control cause I see how my life would be better. I def see how looking for that trait is essential

Thanks Tony! Great information. I wish I had known this 30 years ago! 🙄

Big thank you for your advice on the relationship ❤. Frfr❤

You had me at self control ❤ that’s the one.

Ty Tony ❤️🥰💯 I need to learn everything I need to know … God’s way is best… I’m cleaning myself up… healing getting educated & working on me first… Kwana is tired of the same & changes start with me….

Thanks Tony we love these videos.

Thank you Tony this is a golden nugget ! ❤

Amen these very good points concerning being watching out for husband material my number on my list that's he a man fear God if he do that everything will fall in line Thanks Tony Gaston for this very encouraging message God bless you and your family

Thank you Sir, you have a pastor in you god bless

Good advice!!

I’m learning to prioritize emotional intelligence now that I’m older. It’s vital in a relationship. Thanks Tony for dropping these gems 💎

Thanks for sharing Tony. Appreciate the advice.

Living Godly every day yes Lord a leader self control

You speaking truth 🗣️

Thanks Tony 🙏

That ending lol. “You got you a degenerate”…😅

Question: Do you think its possible for us to attract a man without a vice and if not what vice is more acceptable?

You are teaching!!!

Thank you Tony

Tony ,can you speak on retired man or woman dating a female or male who is working.

Hey Tony, that’s a good book title failure to launch! 😊

Teach brother!

Thanks for this.

Thanks for sharing

Thank you!

🙏🏼yes! Excellent video thanks so true and so supportive for me staying away from the degenerates I’ve been in love with.

You’re the father I never had ❤💯🗣️

I took notes on this whole video. ⭐️

I Love his accent.❤ Thx

Well ladies were never gonna have a husband lol

@nomessnostress

2 ай бұрын

😂

@user-em7mj7fj1s

12 күн бұрын

😂

TRUTH!!!!

Watching your videos as a refresher....ivec been single... just met a man and a little rusty 😅

BEAUTIFUL!!!

@2hotcoko

2 ай бұрын

Without those things… You’ve got an under-developed, failure to launch man… point blank peri-yod.😂

And how you know he's NOT YOUR HUSBAND!

@DaintyAbby

3 ай бұрын

..based on redflags my dear lol

@davidharris7769

3 ай бұрын

He will be the opposite of everything that was said😁

@VS-yi8eo

3 ай бұрын

She didn’t say “A” husband, she said YOUR husband

@ysmithriley

3 ай бұрын

@@VS-yi8eo LHMJ, how are such simple comments misunderstood? Thanks! 🥰🥰🥰

@ysmithriley

3 ай бұрын

@@davidharris7769 Yep, that's EXACTLY what I said. 😊

This man is a good man an period

That's real talk. God guard our hearts and minds. Blessings to everyone. In Jesus name. Amen 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🛐😇✝️🥰💕

Everything you said is 100%!

Tony, what do you think about a man who has been chasing a woman for 9 years but he is 35, does not have his own place, only had one appointment with his BM for four months? The woman has placed him in the friend zone but he keeps trying although she has blocked him twice before. He has bad credit and owes back child support.

@MsButterscotch13

2 ай бұрын

Nothing is there since you blocked him; you ain't interested. If you are going to give him a chance tell him to get his shyt together & what he has to do to appeal to you.

Amen

LoveIt!🎉🎯💝

This is Gold

I want my husband so bad this man I'm with right now always got me questioning my relationship.

You couldn’t be more right Tony. WOW! If you could just teach THIS class to these “wanna-be-men.” Jesus did & gave it ALL for HIS bride Even as we were heathens HE STILL submitted to the Father❤ Peri YOD☺️Self control is a fruit of the Spirit. Tysm for providing this wisdom to the masses!