How to Stop Longing for Someone or Something

Licensed Therapist, Kim Egel describes and gives tips on how to cope with the feeling of longing for someone or something. Longing is an intense emotion that can create a lot of suffering in our lives if we don't find a healthy way to cope with it. Kim offers some perspective on this mental health topic.
Kim has been a licensed Marriage Family Therapist for 15 years and working within mental health for 20 years. Her private practice is based around the principles of authentic truth and overall wellness. Kim received her BA degree in Human Development from UC San Diego and holds a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology. As a former semi professional track and field athlete, Kim recognizes and brings the concepts of the mind, body and spirit connection into her client sessions.
Find out more about Kim by visiting her website:
www.kimegel.com/​
Check out her blog:
www.kimegel.com/blog​
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  • @HuatulcoGuy
    @HuatulcoGuy5 ай бұрын

    This may be true for most people. However, I honestly believe that there is no boat coming for some of us, and we need to accept that reality.

  • @bak3456

    @bak3456

    5 ай бұрын

    True , some losses represent a lifetime of grief

  • @schonstudio

    @schonstudio

    3 ай бұрын

    true. but it might not be a boat. it could be Eurocopter EC130.

  • @LittleBird888

    @LittleBird888

    3 күн бұрын

    You make a boat happen then

  • @TheBirdKhan
    @TheBirdKhan2 жыл бұрын

    ''Just because something haven't happened yet, it does not mean it will never happen.'' Might be true, but in my whole life certain things just never happened and I have probably not much time left in this world. So there are some people who are excluded from certain things. I don't want to destroy any believes. I just want to show there are some special cases out there in the world

  • @Anson7777
    @Anson77775 ай бұрын

    I've been waiting 60 years for me hearts desire ...I think it's time to face that it's NOT going to happen

  • @bak3456

    @bak3456

    5 ай бұрын

    they never address this point in these type of videos

  • @Elephant_King_Gj

    @Elephant_King_Gj

    3 ай бұрын

    Sometimes people even at 70 or 80 have great success far beyond what anyone could have imagined possible or find the love of their lives. But that may not happen for you or me, still I think we can find a very true peace and love being with what is and whatever may or may not come.

  • @patriciatollison8655

    @patriciatollison8655

    7 күн бұрын

    I'm 61 and I can relate.

  • @She.33
    @She.335 ай бұрын

    My 2 year long distance relationship ended two months ago because our issues came up, we had a fight, and he abandoned me. At this two months mark, for the past few weeks I have been crying in such despair. Today is the first day I haven't cried, choosing instead to work on myself. (It helps to say out loud to myself "I don't want him anymore" even though I do) Thank you for your video. It's the first one I've seen of yours and I appreciate how short it is. Every day or so I get youtube burnout and though I want to watch more videos, I reach a point where I can't sit through another 20 minute video. You are concise and to the point, which I love.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your response. Let yourself feel all the emotions; ultimately, that's how you will heal vs. putting a bandaid on things. Here's a blog post on how to feel your difficult emotions that I wrote that you might find help: www.kimegel.com/blog/2022/3/22/how-to-feel-your-emotions-if-you-dont-know-how

  • @EricScofield22
    @EricScofield225 ай бұрын

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

  • @Ken_Johnson

    @Ken_Johnson

    5 ай бұрын

    I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

  • @kanereall

    @kanereall

    5 ай бұрын

    Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

  • @Ken_Johnson

    @Ken_Johnson

    5 ай бұрын

    Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

  • @kanereall

    @kanereall

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

  • @EricScofield22

    @EricScofield22

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks Ken, i really appreciate.

  • @seanking6184
    @seanking61842 жыл бұрын

    This short video has really helped, going to keep coming back to this when I’m having a bad spell 🙂

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Sean! I appreciate you letting me know and I'm so glad to hear that. Cheers!

  • @jacobw2570

    @jacobw2570

    2 жыл бұрын

    I do the same thing!!!

  • @tatelang6155
    @tatelang61556 ай бұрын

    This was randomly shown to me by the algorithm, but it is the best thing I've heard in the last few months. Every word was what i needed to hear. I was expecting to feel worse when i clicked on it, tbh so thank you!

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    6 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing that. I really appreciate your feedback and MOST importantly, I’m so glad you found it helpful.

  • @FordMaverickFanatic
    @FordMaverickFanatic2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this! I definitely needed to hear that. As someone recovering from a heartbreak and longing for love, this helps a lot. I'm certainly going to be rewatching this when I catch myself worrying or feeling anxious about things!

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are very welcome. Thanks for sharing your comment and I'm so glad you found it helpful. That's great to hear.

  • @sandykay4214

    @sandykay4214

    2 жыл бұрын

    十2347016200110🪴🪴❄❄🔮適港, 港决很高興****❤️🎯✅

  • @sandykay4214

    @sandykay4214

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi friend I got my broken relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my partner Back in 48hours after many years of separation.💯❤🎯💤✅💯

  • @NermalDiva
    @NermalDiva3 ай бұрын

    This is precisely what I needed to see and hear today. Thank you. 💛

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    3 ай бұрын

    you are so welcome.

  • @AgateUnheard-vp6rl
    @AgateUnheard-vp6rl5 ай бұрын

    I am lucky and grateful this video randomly popped in my feed! It offered a new perspective on my situation which reduced my anxiety and hopelessness of longing for someone who loves me in words but not in deeds. 👍🏻

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for letting me know that. I'm so happy it was helpful. Thanks for listening.

  • @June-qw4mc
    @June-qw4mc7 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much. Exactly what i needed to hear

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    7 ай бұрын

    Much love June. Thanks for letting me know. I'm so glad my words were helpful for you.

  • @DamonMatini
    @DamonMatini2 жыл бұрын

    This video popped up and told the exact thing i needed to hear right now omg

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    What's Up Damon! I love hearing that. Thanks for sharing. Synchronicity at it's best. Cheers!

  • @saveriotorquato666
    @saveriotorquato6666 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this!

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    6 ай бұрын

    you are so welcome.

  • @scarletdarkwood
    @scarletdarkwood5 ай бұрын

    Great video and fits perfectly with mystical principles. You have stop sending yourself subconscious messages through what you are feeding your conscious awareness. You also have to live like you already have what you want and take the mundane steps to work on getting it as well. Really think of what you want and fill in every detail about what it is like in all aspects. That visual picture will also feed your subconscious to help manifest your desire(s).

  • @user-ry8nt3td4c
    @user-ry8nt3td4c2 жыл бұрын

    Such beautiful rings. And of course the content💞 thanks

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    thank you!

  • @edberaga6357
    @edberaga6357 Жыл бұрын

    Love the present and feel the joy of the present instead yearning for something not possible for now,, it will create the opportunity later... thanks so much for creating this video!

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    You are very welcome! Thanks for sharing with me.

  • @LightningShiva1
    @LightningShiva1 Жыл бұрын

    I just want to say Thank you! This really helped 😢

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for letting me know. I'm so glad it did!!!

  • @LightningShiva1

    @LightningShiva1

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kimegel Its been 2 months and now Im fully recovered. Time heals everything :)

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    @@LightningShiva1 I'm so glad that you are feeling more at peace.

  • @TBrazyy
    @TBrazyy2 жыл бұрын

    Love this 💕

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for commenting Tierra! I really appreciate the positive feedback.

  • @ABlackGirlandHerCoffee
    @ABlackGirlandHerCoffee Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for listening. I’m so glad you found it helpful. ❤️

  • @sherigibson6087
    @sherigibson60873 ай бұрын

    Great advice

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    3 ай бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @peterhewitson2669
    @peterhewitson26696 ай бұрын

    Thank you Kim❤

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    6 ай бұрын

    My pleasure Peter!

  • @mikeydraken7296
    @mikeydraken7296 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much ❤️✨

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    Of course. I'm so happy this was helpful for you. Thanks for letting me know.

  • @jacobw2570
    @jacobw25702 жыл бұрын

    You just made me feel so much better!! Thank you!

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Jacob! I'm so stoked to hear that. Thanks for letting me know!

  • @jameshobsonusa
    @jameshobsonusa11 ай бұрын

    Thank You, Dr. Kim; what you are telling me is comforting. However, being that I am 55 and the rose of steadfast love still hasn’t delivered to my heart, could you please tell me how I can once and for all get over it, overcome and move beyond the pain and accept it so that I may begin enjoying my days off in solitude? Thank You, Ma’am… 💖 What you mentioned about missing a boat but not the ship would have been platinum to this shy guy had I been a few decades younger.

  • @FF-vc6ms

    @FF-vc6ms

    5 ай бұрын

    same here

  • @rhuearian1358
    @rhuearian13582 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! ♥️♥️❤️

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for listening Rhue!

  • @makaer1
    @makaer1 Жыл бұрын

    But she died. That hurts me more

  • @PadmaPriya-dd3ik

    @PadmaPriya-dd3ik

    7 ай бұрын

    I'm sorry :(

  • @k.saigaurav964

    @k.saigaurav964

    7 ай бұрын

    I'm sorry for your loss :( Take care of yourself. You are strong.

  • @User00731

    @User00731

    7 ай бұрын

    who died?

  • @terrycraig6386

    @terrycraig6386

    6 ай бұрын

    Then you'll never get the reciprocation you crave.You need to heal.😮😢

  • @ironicjason257

    @ironicjason257

    6 ай бұрын

    my man you are strong it's been a long time but even if you are not completely over the sad truth, you are giving your best so be proud of it.

  • @user-fd1hi7rr6e
    @user-fd1hi7rr6e6 ай бұрын

    This is exactly what I'm doing. I still want a woman which means I'm clinging to false hope.

  • @BlissBlissBliss720
    @BlissBlissBliss7202 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are very welcome.

  • @antisycophant6496
    @antisycophant64962 жыл бұрын

    Powerful profound practical perspective 😊

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!! I'm glad you found it helpful!

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Chidera Kingsley Thanks for the comment!

  • @rvvideos5947
    @rvvideos59472 жыл бұрын

    This video has really given me hope to get back with my person. But it's really scary to hold on to the belief that things will get better. After all the bad experiences I had with this person I decided to move on and heal myself from the inside but some what I still feel stuck inside.. a feeling of should I hold on or move forward in life?

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your comment. Everyone has such a unique situation, so good luck with making the right decision for you. I'm glad my words helped you. Thanks for sharing.

  • @kahoku451
    @kahoku451 Жыл бұрын

    thanks 🥺

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome.

  • @SS-in1ts
    @SS-in1ts4 ай бұрын

    Why is it that when I open my heart I get love bombed and left after I let my guard down? I’m always open but continually get burned.

  • @kirkwhite1736
    @kirkwhite17367 ай бұрын

    I'm 50. I missed THEE Boat.

  • @terrycraig6386

    @terrycraig6386

    6 ай бұрын

    If you never had a relationship by 50,then yes you did.😢

  • @Sargam14992

    @Sargam14992

    6 ай бұрын

    No, you didn't. It would work out for you.

  • @kenshinhirota9568
    @kenshinhirota9568 Жыл бұрын

    tysm

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    Жыл бұрын

    You are SOOOO welcome! Thanks for listening.

  • @dukemarionrobertmorrison
    @dukemarionrobertmorrisonАй бұрын

    bruh im lookin for how to stop wantin not acceptin that itl take time i’ve devoted most of my life to delayed gratification i know how to suffer and wait i want to stop desire i want to stop carin i dont want to wait for better tides i want to be happy with reality i want to establish my status quoe and be happy with it

  • @JRspeaking
    @JRspeaking6 ай бұрын

    Your rings are gorgeous.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    6 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for the compliment. I designed the Ameythst one. (I'm also a jewelry designer @kimegeljewelry.)

  • @justinevo6625
    @justinevo66255 ай бұрын

    Hi Kim, I am trying to forget my ex after two month but she told me when we broke up that there might be a future later for us it feels like I need open my heart for the present but it's still hard for me I can't seem to let it go. Any more tips?😢

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    5 ай бұрын

    I'm just going to repeat to you what you wrote above "it feels like i need to open my heart for the present." Here's my question: How can doing something so authentically true for you lead you wrong? Also here's an article that might be helpful: www.kimegel.com/blog

  • @onerider808
    @onerider8084 ай бұрын

    Looking outside ourselves for fulfillment, happiness, or meaning is the definition of insanity.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    4 ай бұрын

    truth!

  • @PremKumar-hd2xt
    @PremKumar-hd2xt5 ай бұрын

    love you

  • @suestephens2400
    @suestephens24003 ай бұрын

    How do I get over a block after a divorce 13 years ago?

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    3 ай бұрын

    Hi Sue. Thanks for your comment. What a BIG question. I'm going to sit with that and see if I can make some content around it. I'll be in touch.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    3 ай бұрын

    some thoughts: with acceptance by allowing the grief and pain of the divorce to fully come up & be felt by looking at what you learned from the relationship by focusing on your present and learning to live in the now vs. in focusing on the past.

  • @ThiruNash
    @ThiruNash6 ай бұрын

    My wife left without a trace all I have now is our three toddlers and the sweet memories that we had It's so painful.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    6 ай бұрын

    I'm so sorry to hear that you're in pain. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @ThiruNash

    @ThiruNash

    6 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much.

  • @Saintm-lk5iu

    @Saintm-lk5iu

    6 ай бұрын

    @ThiruNash I'm so sorry to hear that, hopefully You can meet someone new to help you with the toddlers. Do you have any family, like parents or relatives that can help? May God help you and bless you and your children.

  • @belogical3961
    @belogical39615 ай бұрын

    I feel that way about getting a horse. I'm waiting on the Lord, and I must admit, I feel even more longing in a purer form. However, I have been limerant about it. Not seeing how getting a horse, also comes with problems I am not prepared for yet. I blinded myself to those problems and got upset with my partner for not wanting to get one. Sometimes we just look at the sunshine when we are standing in a pile of horse shat.

  • @iamme5863
    @iamme58632 жыл бұрын

    💕💕💕😍

  • @zrarnrahim4616
    @zrarnrahim46168 ай бұрын

    English is a confusing language(long)ing🤔 aha 😟

  • @terrycraig6386
    @terrycraig63866 ай бұрын

    Whats that " clanging"sound in the background? Its distracting as heck.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    6 ай бұрын

    Agreed! It was a wind chime that my neighbors had up… apologies because I know it’s super distracting.

  • @slimslimy100
    @slimslimy1002 жыл бұрын

    🤝🤝🤝

  • @kkjl5737
    @kkjl57373 ай бұрын

    Well… he has a girlfriend. And in fact, he’s had two girlfriends after me. So, I don’t think he’s ever coming back.

  • @Mandrake591
    @Mandrake5915 ай бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @kimegel

    @kimegel

    5 ай бұрын

    you are very welcome.